When mistakes are judged, shamed and connected to child’s worth + belonging (conditional teaching):
✔️Kids learn to feel shame when they naturally struggle
✔️Kids learn that conflict is binary: good/bad, right/wrong
✔️Kids hold in their feelings + needs out of fear of shame
✔️Kids are more likely to lie, blame, + defend to feel safe
When mistakes neutrally explored and NOT connected to child’s worth + belonging (unconditional teaching):
✨Kids learn to feel safe when they struggle and grow
✨Kids learn that conflict can be a safe place to learn
✨Kids learn their + others’ needs + feelings matter
✨Kids are more likely to communicate, empathize + innovate
Gah! We’re all trying to give ourselves grace, patience and love for all the “messing up” we’re doing as adults + parents. ✨Can we try to extend those same things to our kids as they learn and grow, too?
Rather than instinctually repeating the inherited phrasing that was passed down to us from generations before, we give you permission to lean into your kids’ learning moments with the very skills you hope to teach them: curiosity, empathy, humor + innovation — a concerted effort to focus on the NEEDS vs the BEHAVIORS.
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What is Upbringing?
We’re Hannah & Kelty of Upbringing- twins, certified parent coaches + speakers who help caregivers across the globe transcend daily conflict with their kids for sanity + social change.
Most of us had no idea what magical mindset + sensitive skill set would be required to successfully navigate daily drama with our beloved, infuriating kids... No shame in that! From meltdowns to aggression to sibling rivalry to putting down the screen or getting out the door fully dressed + on time, managing kids’ big feelings + challenging behaviors was never meant to be done solo, let alone perfectly.
We’re here to teach you creative, research-based ways to overcome daily obstacles with your sensitive + strong-willed kids, nurturing critical skills like consent, compassion, curiosity + creativity along the way. Our podcast episodes are Live, unscripted Q&As– reach out if you have a question or challenge you’d like us to discuss!
Learning to parent our kids with more connection and less control can feel radical and even impossible at first- we get it. We invite you to explore our shame-free, research-based offerings, each designed to help you heal yourself, nurture your kids + transform our collective future for the better.
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