1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,083 Good morning. 2 01:00:04,000 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:12,416 --> 01:00:13,416 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:13,416 --> 01:00:14,916 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:15,208 --> 01:00:16,583 Well, if you feel like you're 6 01:00:16,583 --> 01:00:18,541 holding on to something today 7 01:00:18,916 --> 01:00:20,458 that you just need to let go of, 8 01:00:20,458 --> 01:00:22,875 well, today may be a good day to do it 9 01:00:22,875 --> 01:00:24,916 because today is National Forgiveness Day 10 01:00:25,083 --> 01:00:26,458 and Happiness Day. 11 01:00:26,875 --> 01:00:28,666 Now, I don't think it's a coincidence 12 01:00:29,083 --> 01:00:30,875 that the two of those go together, right? 13 01:00:31,583 --> 01:00:32,541 Well, it turns out 14 01:00:32,541 --> 01:00:33,666 that letting go of grudges 15 01:00:33,666 --> 01:00:34,750 makes room for a little 16 01:00:34,750 --> 01:00:36,083 bit more joy in your life 17 01:00:36,208 --> 01:00:37,583 and maybe it even 18 01:00:37,583 --> 01:00:38,583 lowers your blood pressure 19 01:00:38,583 --> 01:00:39,541 a little bit too. 20 01:00:39,958 --> 01:00:41,625 Well, our quote today is from someone 21 01:00:41,625 --> 01:00:42,875 who generally has a 22 01:00:42,875 --> 01:00:44,583 pretty large grin on his face, 23 01:00:45,541 --> 01:00:46,583 Simon Cowell, who said, quote, 24 01:00:46,791 --> 01:00:48,041 "If you've got a big 25 01:00:48,041 --> 01:00:49,875 ego, you're going to lose. 26 01:00:50,208 --> 01:00:52,583 I try to keep mine in check," end quote. 27 01:00:53,250 --> 01:00:55,583 Now, even the king of sharp critiques, 28 01:00:55,583 --> 01:00:57,166 and I would argue probably 29 01:00:57,166 --> 01:00:59,041 a fairly large ego himself, 30 01:00:59,500 --> 01:01:02,625 but even he knows that humility, not ego, 31 01:01:02,625 --> 01:01:04,083 it builds staying power. 32 01:01:04,791 --> 01:01:06,333 All right, well, today's news, facts, 33 01:01:06,333 --> 01:01:08,750 and birthdays are for October 7th. 34 01:01:08,833 --> 01:01:10,083 Starting back in 1982, 35 01:01:10,500 --> 01:01:12,416 that's when Andrew Lloyd Webber's Cats, 36 01:01:12,791 --> 01:01:14,083 it opened on Broadway and 37 01:01:14,083 --> 01:01:15,166 it became one of the longest 38 01:01:15,166 --> 01:01:16,333 running shows in history 39 01:01:16,916 --> 01:01:18,375 and provided some pretty 40 01:01:18,375 --> 01:01:19,791 funny late night comedy too. 41 01:01:20,458 --> 01:01:21,583 Then moving up to 1996, 42 01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:23,500 that's when the Fox News Entertainment 43 01:01:23,500 --> 01:01:24,583 Channel was launched 44 01:01:24,583 --> 01:01:27,250 and it reshaped cable television news. 45 01:01:27,708 --> 01:01:30,291 And lastly, in 2003, Arnold 46 01:01:30,291 --> 01:01:31,666 Schwarzenegger was elected 47 01:01:32,041 --> 01:01:33,000 the governor of 48 01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,083 California, simpler times. 49 01:01:35,791 --> 01:01:36,791 Well, happy birthday to you. 50 01:01:36,791 --> 01:01:37,541 Today is your birthday. 51 01:01:37,791 --> 01:01:38,708 You share a birthday 52 01:01:38,708 --> 01:01:40,291 with singer Tony Braxton. 53 01:01:40,291 --> 01:01:41,541 She's 58 today. 54 01:01:42,083 --> 01:01:44,125 That TV judge we all love to hate, 55 01:01:44,125 --> 01:01:45,250 music executive Simon 56 01:01:45,250 --> 01:01:47,166 Cowell, he's 66 today. 57 01:01:47,625 --> 01:01:49,333 And the leader of Russia, 58 01:01:49,833 --> 01:01:52,791 still sucking in air, Vladimir Putin, 73. 59 01:01:53,666 --> 01:01:54,833 And now the number one 60 01:01:54,833 --> 01:01:56,916 song on this date back in 2002 61 01:01:57,291 --> 01:01:58,291 was "A Moment Like 62 01:01:58,291 --> 01:01:59,666 This" by Kelly Clarkson. 63 01:02:00,375 --> 01:02:02,333 Now, fresh off of her American Idol win, 64 01:02:02,583 --> 01:02:03,750 Kelly's debut single, 65 01:02:03,750 --> 01:02:05,833 it rocketed to the number one position 66 01:02:05,833 --> 01:02:07,125 on the Billboard Hot 100. 67 01:02:07,625 --> 01:02:09,166 And the track became an 68 01:02:09,166 --> 01:02:10,833 anthem for new beginnings 69 01:02:11,083 --> 01:02:12,708 and it is still remembered 70 01:02:12,708 --> 01:02:14,333 as one of the defining TV 71 01:02:14,708 --> 01:02:16,083 to pop crossover hits. 72 01:02:16,833 --> 01:02:18,541 All right, well, in this moment, 73 01:02:18,541 --> 01:02:20,250 let's turn to Mel Robbins' 74 01:02:20,250 --> 01:02:21,583 book, "The Let Them Theory." 75 01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:23,458 And in this sub-chapter, 76 01:02:23,583 --> 01:02:24,708 which is entitled "A 77 01:02:24,708 --> 01:02:26,333 Tool to Implement Wisdom," 78 01:02:26,791 --> 01:02:27,916 Robbins emphasizes 79 01:02:27,916 --> 01:02:29,750 that the Let Them Theory 80 01:02:29,916 --> 01:02:30,750 isn't just about 81 01:02:30,750 --> 01:02:32,666 peace, it's about wisdom. 82 01:02:32,666 --> 01:02:34,416 She calls it a tool, okay? 83 01:02:34,791 --> 01:02:36,083 Something you can carry 84 01:02:36,083 --> 01:02:37,583 with you and use it daily. 85 01:02:38,041 --> 01:02:39,916 So the wisdom lies in knowing 86 01:02:39,916 --> 01:02:41,708 that you cannot control others, 87 01:02:41,875 --> 01:02:43,375 but you can control 88 01:02:43,375 --> 01:02:44,708 your response to them. 89 01:02:45,083 --> 01:02:46,083 She explains that wisdom 90 01:02:46,083 --> 01:02:48,000 is about discernment, okay? 91 01:02:48,208 --> 01:02:49,541 By recognizing where 92 01:02:49,541 --> 01:02:50,875 to invest your energy. 93 01:02:51,250 --> 01:02:53,166 Now, by saying let them, 94 01:02:53,166 --> 01:02:54,708 you instantly filter out 95 01:02:54,791 --> 01:02:56,416 what's not yours to carry. 96 01:02:56,791 --> 01:02:58,416 And Robbins' notes quote, 97 01:02:58,625 --> 01:03:00,333 "The wisest people know 98 01:03:00,333 --> 01:03:01,875 that control is an illusion. 99 01:03:02,541 --> 01:03:04,125 What you release will 100 01:03:04,125 --> 01:03:05,333 release you," end quote. 101 01:03:05,875 --> 01:03:07,208 And she compares it to 102 01:03:07,208 --> 01:03:08,916 learning to drive, okay? 103 01:03:08,916 --> 01:03:11,458 At first, you grip the wheel so tightly 104 01:03:11,458 --> 01:03:12,625 that you're exhausted. 105 01:03:13,125 --> 01:03:14,458 And then over time, 106 01:03:14,458 --> 01:03:15,708 you realize that you can 107 01:03:15,708 --> 01:03:16,916 relax a little bit, right? 108 01:03:17,166 --> 01:03:18,833 The road isn't smooth or 109 01:03:18,833 --> 01:03:20,250 the road hasn't changed, 110 01:03:20,250 --> 01:03:22,416 but you're actually a little bit calmer 111 01:03:22,500 --> 01:03:23,750 because you trust yourself. 112 01:03:24,291 --> 01:03:26,458 And the Let Them tool is like that. 113 01:03:26,833 --> 01:03:28,583 Not changing life, but 114 01:03:28,583 --> 01:03:30,708 changing how you hold it, okay? 115 01:03:31,250 --> 01:03:33,250 Robbins also stresses that 116 01:03:33,250 --> 01:03:35,416 wisdom means setting boundaries. 117 01:03:35,958 --> 01:03:37,041 Letting people be themselves 118 01:03:37,166 --> 01:03:38,083 doesn't mean you allow 119 01:03:38,083 --> 01:03:40,000 harmful behavior to yourself. 120 01:03:40,500 --> 01:03:42,833 It means that you calmly just step back. 121 01:03:43,250 --> 01:03:44,333 You keep your standards, 122 01:03:44,833 --> 01:03:45,625 but you stop 123 01:03:45,625 --> 01:03:48,416 internalizing someone else's chaos. 124 01:03:49,125 --> 01:03:50,083 And the brilliance of the 125 01:03:50,083 --> 01:03:52,625 tool is its portability, right? 126 01:03:52,625 --> 01:03:54,583 You don't need a meditation cushion 127 01:03:54,875 --> 01:03:56,625 or a workshop to implement it. 128 01:03:56,875 --> 01:03:59,208 You just need those two words, Let Them. 129 01:03:59,875 --> 01:04:01,625 So Robbins reminds us that 130 01:04:01,625 --> 01:04:02,875 Let Them is not giving up. 131 01:04:03,291 --> 01:04:04,083 It's growing up. 132 01:04:04,416 --> 01:04:06,458 Okay, here is your takeaway. 133 01:04:07,083 --> 01:04:09,333 The Let Them tool is wisdom in action. 134 01:04:09,750 --> 01:04:10,750 Use it daily and 135 01:04:10,750 --> 01:04:12,000 you'll protect your peace 136 01:04:12,416 --> 01:04:13,708 and you'll sharpen your perspective. 137 01:04:14,541 --> 01:04:15,500 All right, so today, 138 01:04:15,916 --> 01:04:18,000 forgive freely, choose happiness, 139 01:04:18,291 --> 01:04:19,833 and well, keep your ego in 140 01:04:19,833 --> 01:04:20,750 just a little bit of check. 141 01:04:21,083 --> 01:04:21,750 Hey, thanks for 142 01:04:21,750 --> 01:04:22,750 starting your Tuesday morning 143 01:04:22,750 --> 01:04:24,166 with morning cereal, and 144 01:04:24,166 --> 01:04:25,791 we'll see you back here tomorrow. 145 01:04:26,083 --> 01:04:29,000 And until then, have a fantastic day. 146 01:04:30,625 --> 01:04:32,208 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 147 01:04:32,208 --> 01:04:33,750 to the morning cereal podcast 148 01:04:33,750 --> 01:04:35,708 on the One Life Live It channel. 149 01:04:36,250 --> 01:04:37,916 You can find more episodes and videos 150 01:04:37,916 --> 01:04:39,375 by visiting our YouTube channel 151 01:04:39,541 --> 01:04:42,000 and the website at seanenglish.com, 152 01:04:42,000 --> 01:04:43,375 and at seanenglish.com, 153 01:04:43,625 --> 01:04:44,333 where you can also 154 01:04:44,333 --> 01:04:45,750 follow our other podcast, 155 01:04:46,083 --> 01:04:47,291 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 156 01:04:47,833 --> 01:04:49,000 and the Life Happens podcast. 157 01:04:49,791 --> 01:04:51,958 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 158 01:04:51,958 --> 01:04:53,916 into everyday issues, self-improvement, 159 01:04:53,916 --> 01:04:55,500 and well-being, business and finance, 160 01:04:55,958 --> 01:04:57,666 and we welcome special guests too. 161 01:04:58,125 --> 01:04:59,250 So join us, it'll be a 162 01:04:59,250 --> 01:05:00,291 good time, I promise. 163 01:05:00,958 --> 01:05:01,500 Thanks again for 164 01:05:01,500 --> 01:05:03,125 listening, have a fantastic day, 165 01:05:03,500 --> 01:05:04,125 and we'll see you tomorrow.