1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,000 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:11,791 --> 01:00:14,291 Okay good morning and welcome to Tuesday. 4 01:00:14,666 --> 01:00:17,333 Now I'm not going to lie to you, today it 5 01:00:17,333 --> 01:00:18,500 might be harder for 6 01:00:18,500 --> 01:00:19,666 some of you than others. 7 01:00:19,666 --> 01:00:19,875 Why? 8 01:00:20,250 --> 01:00:21,541 Because it's National 9 01:00:21,541 --> 01:00:23,500 Use Your Common Sense Day. 10 01:00:23,833 --> 01:00:26,000 And unfortunately common sense isn't 11 01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:28,083 quite as common as it used to be. 12 01:00:28,875 --> 01:00:30,000 And apparently this 13 01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:31,833 sentiment goes way back. 14 01:00:32,541 --> 01:00:34,541 Will Rogers, who was born on this day in 15 01:00:34,541 --> 01:00:36,833 1879, well he famously 16 01:00:36,833 --> 01:00:39,916 said, "Common sense ain't 17 01:00:39,916 --> 01:00:40,750 all that common." 18 01:00:41,708 --> 01:00:43,333 And here's another way to say it for 19 01:00:43,333 --> 01:00:44,625 those of you that are struggling here. 20 01:00:45,208 --> 01:00:46,958 Common sense is a flower that just 21 01:00:46,958 --> 01:00:48,583 doesn't grow in everyone's garden. 22 01:00:49,375 --> 01:00:51,750 Well our quote this morning is for 23 01:00:51,750 --> 01:00:53,916 everyone and it's from Matthew 24 01:00:53,916 --> 01:00:54,958 McConaughey who once 25 01:00:54,958 --> 01:00:57,666 said quote, "The best advice comes from 26 01:00:57,666 --> 01:00:59,833 people who don't give advice." 27 01:01:00,125 --> 01:01:00,541 End quote. 28 01:01:01,083 --> 01:01:02,416 Now you never know what you're going to 29 01:01:02,416 --> 01:01:03,833 get out of a McConaughey quote. 30 01:01:04,041 --> 01:01:06,041 And this is a good reminder that 31 01:01:06,041 --> 01:01:08,125 sometimes wisdom isn't 32 01:01:08,125 --> 01:01:09,666 about preaching, it's about just 33 01:01:09,791 --> 01:01:10,375 listening. 34 01:01:10,375 --> 01:01:11,875 And even more so, just 35 01:01:11,875 --> 01:01:13,875 about living your example. 36 01:01:14,333 --> 01:01:15,958 Well today's news facts and 37 01:01:15,958 --> 01:01:18,208 birthdays are for November 4th. 38 01:01:18,208 --> 01:01:20,333 Starting back in 1922 that's when Howard 39 01:01:20,333 --> 01:01:21,291 Carter, he discovered 40 01:01:21,291 --> 01:01:23,458 the intact tomb of King Tut 41 01:01:23,791 --> 01:01:24,416 in Egypt. 42 01:01:24,833 --> 01:01:26,958 Alright then moving up to 1987, that's 43 01:01:26,958 --> 01:01:27,708 when the NBA 44 01:01:27,708 --> 01:01:30,208 announced four new franchises. 45 01:01:30,916 --> 01:01:34,000 Charlotte, Miami, both in 1988, and then 46 01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:36,750 Minneapolis and Orlando in 1989. 47 01:01:37,708 --> 01:01:40,458 And then finally on this day in 2001, 48 01:01:41,125 --> 01:01:42,125 Harry Potter and the 49 01:01:42,125 --> 01:01:43,875 Philosopher's Stone, well 50 01:01:43,875 --> 01:01:45,166 it was the first film 51 01:01:45,166 --> 01:01:47,250 adaptation of the book series by J.K. 52 01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:48,750 Rawling and it starred as 53 01:01:48,750 --> 01:01:49,916 you know Daniel Radcliffe. 54 01:01:50,333 --> 01:01:51,916 Well it premiered on this day in London. 55 01:01:52,166 --> 01:01:54,375 Now some of you may not know that title 56 01:01:54,375 --> 01:01:55,208 because here in the 57 01:01:55,208 --> 01:01:57,125 States it was Harry Potter and 58 01:01:57,125 --> 01:01:58,250 the Sorcerer's Stone. 59 01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:00,083 Well happy birthday to you 60 01:02:00,083 --> 01:02:01,333 if today is your birthday. 61 01:02:01,541 --> 01:02:02,333 You share a birthday 62 01:02:02,333 --> 01:02:04,125 with, "He's alright, alright." 63 01:02:04,166 --> 01:02:06,583 Matthew McConaughey, "He's 56 today." 64 01:02:07,333 --> 01:02:10,000 And music mogul, Sean Diddy Combs, he's 65 01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:12,875 spending his 56th birthday in prison. 66 01:02:13,333 --> 01:02:16,333 And forever our Karate Kid and forever 67 01:02:16,333 --> 01:02:17,666 looking about 40 years 68 01:02:17,666 --> 01:02:19,958 old, Ralph Macchio, "He's 64 69 01:02:20,458 --> 01:02:20,750 today." 70 01:02:21,416 --> 01:02:23,708 And the late Walter Cronkite, born on 71 01:02:23,708 --> 01:02:25,500 this date in 1960, as 72 01:02:25,500 --> 01:02:27,416 was the late actress Doris 73 01:02:27,416 --> 01:02:29,666 Roberts, born on this date in 1925. 74 01:02:30,375 --> 01:02:32,166 Now the number one song on this date back 75 01:02:32,166 --> 01:02:34,333 in 1981, Arthur's 76 01:02:34,333 --> 01:02:35,500 Theme, "The Best That You 77 01:02:35,500 --> 01:02:37,125 Can Do" by Christopher Cross. 78 01:02:37,500 --> 01:02:39,666 Now this is a smooth song that will 79 01:02:39,666 --> 01:02:41,125 instantly take you back 80 01:02:41,125 --> 01:02:43,166 to the early 80s and you'll 81 01:02:43,333 --> 01:02:44,375 definitely find this 82 01:02:44,375 --> 01:02:45,958 song on Yacht Rock Radio. 83 01:02:46,416 --> 01:02:48,000 Now this song was written for the movie 84 01:02:48,000 --> 01:02:48,708 Arthur and it was 85 01:02:48,708 --> 01:02:50,750 starring Dudley Moore and you'd 86 01:02:50,750 --> 01:02:52,458 know it from its famous line, quote, 87 01:02:52,458 --> 01:02:53,500 "When you get caught 88 01:02:53,500 --> 01:02:54,958 between the moon and New York 89 01:02:54,958 --> 01:02:55,458 City?" 90 01:02:55,458 --> 01:02:58,208 Well the song captures the dreamy chaos 91 01:02:58,208 --> 01:02:59,416 of love and life in 92 01:02:59,416 --> 01:03:00,875 the Big Apple, or so the 93 01:03:00,875 --> 01:03:01,375 song says. 94 01:03:01,833 --> 01:03:03,375 And it won an Academy Award 95 01:03:03,375 --> 01:03:04,916 for that best original song. 96 01:03:05,416 --> 01:03:07,166 Well I hope you are listening to Morning 97 01:03:07,166 --> 01:03:09,166 Serial while hanging out on your yacht. 98 01:03:09,416 --> 01:03:12,208 So sit back, relax, it's time for our 99 01:03:12,208 --> 01:03:13,500 Brook Review of Mel 100 01:03:13,500 --> 01:03:15,000 Robbins' The Let Them Theory. 101 01:03:15,583 --> 01:03:18,333 And today the sub-chapter, "When Grown 102 01:03:18,333 --> 01:03:19,916 Ups Throw Tantrums." 103 01:03:20,291 --> 01:03:23,333 Now in this chapter, Robbins takes a 104 01:03:23,333 --> 01:03:24,541 hilarious yet a little bit 105 01:03:24,541 --> 01:03:26,000 humbling look at what happens 106 01:03:26,000 --> 01:03:27,791 when adults act like 107 01:03:27,791 --> 01:03:30,666 kids, especially under stress. 108 01:03:31,041 --> 01:03:33,375 Now she opens with the truth, what we 109 01:03:33,375 --> 01:03:34,666 like to say here, bomb. 110 01:03:34,916 --> 01:03:36,958 Quote, "When you're upset, you may not 111 01:03:36,958 --> 01:03:37,875 throw yourself on the 112 01:03:37,875 --> 01:03:39,416 floor, but you're doing the 113 01:03:39,416 --> 01:03:40,291 same thing emotionally." 114 01:03:40,875 --> 01:03:44,125 Now we may not stomp our feet, but the 115 01:03:44,125 --> 01:03:45,583 silent treatment that we 116 01:03:45,583 --> 01:03:47,250 give people, those sarcastic 117 01:03:47,583 --> 01:03:50,000 emails that we send out, those passive 118 01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:52,250 aggressive comments, those 119 01:03:52,250 --> 01:03:53,625 texts that we shouldn't send, 120 01:03:53,958 --> 01:03:56,500 those are all grown up tantrums. 121 01:03:56,875 --> 01:03:59,208 Now Robbins says these emotional melt-ons 122 01:03:59,208 --> 01:04:00,583 happen because our 123 01:04:00,583 --> 01:04:01,916 brains are reverting to 124 01:04:01,916 --> 01:04:03,666 childhood wiring when we 125 01:04:03,666 --> 01:04:05,833 feel threatened or unseen. 126 01:04:06,666 --> 01:04:09,000 And that's why a minor comment from a 127 01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:10,833 co-worker or a partner, it 128 01:04:10,833 --> 01:04:12,375 can suddenly make us feel 129 01:04:12,375 --> 01:04:14,375 like a kid being scolded again, right? 130 01:04:14,791 --> 01:04:16,791 Now here is her advice, catch the 131 01:04:16,791 --> 01:04:18,625 reaction before it takes over. 132 01:04:18,625 --> 01:04:20,291 Quote, "The moment you notice you're 133 01:04:20,291 --> 01:04:21,958 overreacting, you've 134 01:04:21,958 --> 01:04:24,125 already started growing past it." 135 01:04:24,250 --> 01:04:24,916 Okay, end quote. 136 01:04:25,375 --> 01:04:26,625 She doesn't just call us 137 01:04:26,625 --> 01:04:27,708 out, she gives us tools. 138 01:04:28,208 --> 01:04:30,000 One, pause and identify 139 01:04:30,000 --> 01:04:31,250 what's really bothering you. 140 01:04:31,500 --> 01:04:34,333 Is it the situation or the story you're 141 01:04:34,333 --> 01:04:35,541 telling yourself about it? 142 01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:38,625 And secondly, name that feeling out loud. 143 01:04:39,250 --> 01:04:41,625 Science shows that labeling emotions 144 01:04:41,625 --> 01:04:43,208 literally calms the 145 01:04:43,208 --> 01:04:44,666 brain's fear response. 146 01:04:45,250 --> 01:04:46,916 And here is her best reminder, quote, 147 01:04:46,916 --> 01:04:48,250 "You can't control 148 01:04:48,250 --> 01:04:49,458 other people's behaviors, 149 01:04:49,666 --> 01:04:52,291 but you can control how long you stay 150 01:04:52,291 --> 01:04:54,333 stuck reacting to it." 151 01:04:54,333 --> 01:04:54,708 End quote. 152 01:04:55,375 --> 01:04:57,708 Grown ups, after all, were just kids with 153 01:04:57,708 --> 01:04:58,625 bank accounts, right? 154 01:04:59,000 --> 01:05:00,750 Okay, here's your Tuesday takeaway. 155 01:05:01,291 --> 01:05:02,791 The next time you feel yourself 156 01:05:02,791 --> 01:05:04,208 spiraling, take a breath. 157 01:05:04,958 --> 01:05:07,083 It's not the tantrum that defines you, 158 01:05:07,083 --> 01:05:09,500 it's how fast you recover from it. 159 01:05:09,958 --> 01:05:11,500 All right, so this 160 01:05:11,500 --> 01:05:13,333 Tuesday's theme is pretty simple. 161 01:05:13,625 --> 01:05:16,583 Don't act like a big baby and try your 162 01:05:16,583 --> 01:05:18,000 very best to use just 163 01:05:18,000 --> 01:05:19,458 some good old common sense 164 01:05:19,583 --> 01:05:19,833 today. 165 01:05:20,333 --> 01:05:21,500 And if you're listening to a little 166 01:05:21,500 --> 01:05:23,541 Christopher Cross on your yacht or 167 01:05:23,541 --> 01:05:24,916 "yotes" as they call 168 01:05:24,916 --> 01:05:25,833 them over there in Italy, 169 01:05:26,208 --> 01:05:28,000 you just keep on keeping on. 170 01:05:28,250 --> 01:05:28,875 Hey, thanks for 171 01:05:28,875 --> 01:05:29,916 joining Morning Serial today. 172 01:05:30,291 --> 01:05:31,791 We will see you back here tomorrow. 173 01:05:32,083 --> 01:05:34,916 And as always, have a fantastic day. 174 01:05:35,916 --> 01:05:37,750 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 175 01:05:37,750 --> 01:05:38,375 the Morning Serial 176 01:05:38,375 --> 01:05:40,000 podcast on the One Life 177 01:05:40,166 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