1 00:00:00,460 --> 00:00:01,770 Hello, and welcome to Pickleball Therapy, 2 00:00:01,870 --> 00:00:05,170 the podcast dedicated to your Pickleball improvement. 3 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:07,090 It's the podcast with you in mind. 4 00:00:07,190 --> 00:00:07,650 I'm your host, 5 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:08,490 Tony Roy. 6 00:00:08,490 --> 00:00:09,610 Hope you having a great week. 7 00:00:10,350 --> 00:00:10,810 As you know, 8 00:00:10,810 --> 00:00:11,810 week to week in this podcast, 9 00:00:12,030 --> 00:00:14,970 we try and bring you content to make you think a 10 00:00:14,970 --> 00:00:17,010 little differently about your relationship with Pickleball, 11 00:00:17,020 --> 00:00:18,410 about how you think about it, 12 00:00:19,310 --> 00:00:22,850 and hopefully give you a more productive way of interacting with 13 00:00:22,850 --> 00:00:25,330 this sport and and for yourself personally, 14 00:00:25,330 --> 00:00:25,890 right? I mean, 15 00:00:26,470 --> 00:00:29,590 one of the beautiful things about anything we do in life, 16 00:00:29,970 --> 00:00:30,710 but you know, 17 00:00:30,710 --> 00:00:32,270 obviously we're focused on Pickleball here, 18 00:00:32,270 --> 00:00:34,790 but one of the beautiful things about Pickleball is that we 19 00:00:34,790 --> 00:00:36,350 get to use it as a, 20 00:00:38,340 --> 00:00:41,390 it's kinda like a test lab writer as a kitchen where 21 00:00:41,410 --> 00:00:44,590 we can grow as humans, 22 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:47,910 right? So we get to develop ideas, 23 00:00:48,060 --> 00:00:52,150 develop thoughts about how we approach Pickleball, 24 00:00:52,150 --> 00:00:53,150 how we interact with Pickleball, 25 00:00:53,150 --> 00:00:55,910 and then we use those when we, 26 00:00:56,410 --> 00:00:56,710 you know, 27 00:00:56,750 --> 00:00:57,830 when we outside of Pickleball. 28 00:00:57,930 --> 00:00:58,550 So, you know, 29 00:00:59,110 --> 00:00:59,390 I always, 30 00:00:59,390 --> 00:01:01,390 like I always mention road rage rides because that's a common 31 00:01:01,390 --> 00:01:01,950 thing for, 32 00:01:01,970 --> 00:01:02,470 for something. 33 00:01:02,730 --> 00:01:03,750 But it's basically like, 34 00:01:03,750 --> 00:01:03,990 you know, 35 00:01:03,990 --> 00:01:07,030 or upset because the person in front of you and the 36 00:01:07,030 --> 00:01:08,870 checker line has a checkbook or something. 37 00:01:08,870 --> 00:01:09,190 You're like, 38 00:01:09,190 --> 00:01:09,990 I gotta get outta here. 39 00:01:10,940 --> 00:01:14,950 Some of these concepts that you're learning through the sport of 40 00:01:14,950 --> 00:01:17,910 Pickleball are concepts that you can then use in those situations 41 00:01:17,930 --> 00:01:18,350 as well, 42 00:01:18,980 --> 00:01:22,070 just to help you navigate life in a more constructive and 43 00:01:22,070 --> 00:01:23,630 hopefully positive way. 44 00:01:24,730 --> 00:01:26,150 So, we're gonna hit send you that this week. 45 00:01:26,170 --> 00:01:29,310 And this week we're gonna be talking about language. 46 00:01:30,250 --> 00:01:32,310 And here's the thing about language is a quote that I 47 00:01:32,310 --> 00:01:33,550 wanted to share with you, 48 00:01:35,410 --> 00:01:39,630 and it's about the impact of language in I know. 49 00:01:39,630 --> 00:01:42,950 So this is an old Japanese Samurai proverb. 50 00:01:43,610 --> 00:01:45,830 My wife Jill and I are watching the Shogun series. 51 00:01:46,510 --> 00:01:48,030 I don't know if you watched it when it was in 52 00:01:48,030 --> 00:01:48,310 the eighties, 53 00:01:48,350 --> 00:01:48,750 I think it was. 54 00:01:49,310 --> 00:01:50,910 I remember watching it as a child. 55 00:01:51,070 --> 00:01:51,990 I watched it probably, 56 00:01:52,230 --> 00:01:52,630 I don't know, 57 00:01:52,850 --> 00:01:53,670 six times or something. 58 00:01:53,670 --> 00:01:54,350 We added on the, 59 00:01:54,350 --> 00:01:55,750 the old cassette tapes. 60 00:01:56,130 --> 00:01:57,830 And it made a lot of impression on me. 61 00:01:57,870 --> 00:02:00,110 I read the book and now watching the new version of 62 00:02:00,110 --> 00:02:01,510 it. So there's some, 63 00:02:01,510 --> 00:02:02,110 there's some good, 64 00:02:02,180 --> 00:02:07,790 good, good good kind of philosophical concepts that you learn in 65 00:02:07,790 --> 00:02:08,070 those things, 66 00:02:08,070 --> 00:02:09,790 like the dream within the dream, 67 00:02:09,790 --> 00:02:10,710 but that's for another day. 68 00:02:11,100 --> 00:02:13,390 Then what I wanna focus on today is an old Japanese 69 00:02:13,390 --> 00:02:14,670 samurai proverb that says, 70 00:02:16,170 --> 00:02:19,430 do not speak bad of yourself for the warrior within, 71 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,150 hears your words and is lessened by them. 72 00:02:22,890 --> 00:02:23,630 So, you know, 73 00:02:23,630 --> 00:02:25,870 the idea is that language affects us, 74 00:02:25,870 --> 00:02:28,350 right? And that shouldn't come as a surprise that, 75 00:02:28,370 --> 00:02:28,670 you know, 76 00:02:28,950 --> 00:02:29,870 language is important. 77 00:02:30,260 --> 00:02:32,710 It's how we interact with our mind. 78 00:02:33,450 --> 00:02:34,510 And, and we did a, 79 00:02:34,710 --> 00:02:35,590 a prior episode, 80 00:02:36,540 --> 00:02:38,230 I'll look up the episode number in a second here, 81 00:02:38,230 --> 00:02:40,150 but we did an episode a week or two a few 82 00:02:40,150 --> 00:02:40,590 weeks ago, 83 00:02:40,900 --> 00:02:43,590 dealing with mental plaque, 84 00:02:43,850 --> 00:02:47,070 and there we dealt with specifics about, 85 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:50,310 about, you know, 86 00:02:50,310 --> 00:02:53,630 like how we talk to ourselves after a game. 87 00:02:53,630 --> 00:02:54,150 Like, you know, 88 00:02:54,150 --> 00:02:55,830 like that game sucked and things like that. 89 00:02:55,890 --> 00:02:57,110 The negative talk there, 90 00:02:57,570 --> 00:02:59,170 and it's just not a good way of doing it. 91 00:02:59,170 --> 00:03:01,490 It's episode 180 2. 92 00:03:01,490 --> 00:03:01,890 You know, 93 00:03:01,890 --> 00:03:04,370 it is just negative talk like that for ourselves is not 94 00:03:04,370 --> 00:03:05,130 a good thing. 95 00:03:05,130 --> 00:03:09,090 But what I want talk about this week is how we 96 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:10,170 reference loss, 97 00:03:10,170 --> 00:03:11,650 right? Losing sporting events. 98 00:03:11,790 --> 00:03:13,570 And what has me thinking about it is, 99 00:03:14,410 --> 00:03:14,650 you know, 100 00:03:14,650 --> 00:03:17,250 March Madness is going on and you know, 101 00:03:17,450 --> 00:03:20,130 you, so you're hearing about upsets, 102 00:03:20,130 --> 00:03:22,090 right? So you're hearing like Kentucky Lost, 103 00:03:22,310 --> 00:03:22,610 you know, 104 00:03:22,640 --> 00:03:24,170 blue chip team lost to, 105 00:03:24,510 --> 00:03:24,810 you know, 106 00:03:24,930 --> 00:03:26,170 a lesser team in quotes. 107 00:03:26,630 --> 00:03:28,050 And, you know, 108 00:03:28,050 --> 00:03:29,090 it's considered an upset. 109 00:03:29,090 --> 00:03:30,050 It's considered a big thing, 110 00:03:30,050 --> 00:03:32,250 right? But the, 111 00:03:32,270 --> 00:03:35,530 the, the way we use the words that we use whenever 112 00:03:35,530 --> 00:03:36,890 there's a loss involved, 113 00:03:36,890 --> 00:03:37,610 those two things. 114 00:03:37,910 --> 00:03:39,850 One, it over, 115 00:03:41,110 --> 00:03:42,290 it overplays the, 116 00:03:42,290 --> 00:03:43,450 it, it's hyperbolic, 117 00:03:43,450 --> 00:03:46,730 right? It's like hysteric really what you consider the big picture. 118 00:03:46,790 --> 00:03:47,650 And I'll talk about that. 119 00:03:48,150 --> 00:03:51,130 And the other thing is that really diminishes our real losses 120 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:52,530 because as human beings, 121 00:03:52,530 --> 00:03:54,930 we will experience real loss in our lives, 122 00:03:54,930 --> 00:03:56,250 right? You know, 123 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:57,810 friends, loved ones. 124 00:03:57,850 --> 00:03:58,050 I mean, 125 00:03:58,050 --> 00:04:01,210 there's real loss that happens and we start using the same 126 00:04:01,210 --> 00:04:03,930 terminology to describe a game, 127 00:04:04,020 --> 00:04:06,450 right? A lot the loss in quotes of a game. 128 00:04:06,510 --> 00:04:07,290 And, you know, 129 00:04:07,330 --> 00:04:09,570 I think it's problematic and it confuses our mind, 130 00:04:09,710 --> 00:04:10,090 and it, 131 00:04:10,090 --> 00:04:10,530 it, it, 132 00:04:10,950 --> 00:04:16,730 it needlessly could lead to excess negativity and to, 133 00:04:16,940 --> 00:04:18,210 again, mental confusion, 134 00:04:18,210 --> 00:04:19,130 which is never a good thing. 135 00:04:19,190 --> 00:04:20,490 So some of the words that, 136 00:04:20,490 --> 00:04:21,650 that I was thinking about were, 137 00:04:21,750 --> 00:04:22,050 you know, 138 00:04:22,050 --> 00:04:22,890 like the one I mentioned, 139 00:04:22,940 --> 00:04:23,450 upset, right? 140 00:04:23,470 --> 00:04:25,130 We talk about when the, 141 00:04:25,630 --> 00:04:28,290 the team that is not supposed to win or has a 142 00:04:28,290 --> 00:04:29,010 less chance of winning, 143 00:04:29,010 --> 00:04:31,690 right? I shouldn't say not supposed to win. 144 00:04:31,810 --> 00:04:32,410 'cause that's incorrect, 145 00:04:32,410 --> 00:04:36,210 right? It's the team with the less chance of winning wins. 146 00:04:36,550 --> 00:04:37,930 We refer to that as an upset. 147 00:04:38,630 --> 00:04:40,050 So think about any, 148 00:04:40,470 --> 00:04:42,370 any, any competitive situation, 149 00:04:42,370 --> 00:04:44,850 right? The two teams that are out there, 150 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:46,890 barring some really bizarre circumstances, 151 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:50,810 it's not 100% team a's gonna win, 152 00:04:50,810 --> 00:04:52,610 and 0% Team B's gonna win. 153 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:56,130 There's some range of percentages that team a's gonna win, 154 00:04:56,130 --> 00:04:57,010 and Team B's gonna win. 155 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:57,810 Even in the, 156 00:04:58,040 --> 00:04:59,730 even in lopsided situations, 157 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:01,610 it's, it's gonna be, 158 00:05:01,750 --> 00:05:02,050 you know, 159 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:03,770 some percentage that Team B can win. 160 00:05:04,450 --> 00:05:05,930 I would suggest that in March madness, 161 00:05:07,030 --> 00:05:07,330 you know, 162 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:08,570 it's, it's never, 163 00:05:09,270 --> 00:05:09,570 you know, 164 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:11,090 5% for Team B, 165 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:11,810 it's, it's, 166 00:05:11,810 --> 00:05:12,050 you know, 167 00:05:12,050 --> 00:05:12,810 it's a reasonable number. 168 00:05:12,970 --> 00:05:13,570 A basketball game, 169 00:05:13,570 --> 00:05:14,210 basketball games, 170 00:05:14,270 --> 00:05:14,570 you know, 171 00:05:14,570 --> 00:05:16,690 what happened in that game was a player from the other 172 00:05:16,690 --> 00:05:17,410 team got hot, 173 00:05:17,950 --> 00:05:19,730 scored a bunch of points, 174 00:05:19,790 --> 00:05:20,290 and that was, 175 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:21,730 that was how Kentucky went down. 176 00:05:22,310 --> 00:05:23,850 But to say that it's an up upset, 177 00:05:23,850 --> 00:05:24,890 right? Suggests that, 178 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:28,210 that there was something else that was supposed to happen and 179 00:05:28,390 --> 00:05:28,930 it didn't, 180 00:05:29,630 --> 00:05:30,050 not really, 181 00:05:30,670 --> 00:05:32,010 not really a good way of thinking about it. 182 00:05:32,110 --> 00:05:32,410 You know, 183 00:05:32,410 --> 00:05:32,930 it's sort of like, 184 00:05:32,930 --> 00:05:33,570 think about like, 185 00:05:33,830 --> 00:05:37,610 if there's a 30% chance of rain and it rains, 186 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:38,770 what happened? 187 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:41,810 Just the 30% happened, 188 00:05:41,810 --> 00:05:42,970 right? The 30% came true. 189 00:05:43,510 --> 00:05:46,570 If the Team B has a 30% chance of winning the 190 00:05:46,570 --> 00:05:48,850 game and TB wins the game, 191 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:50,410 what happened? 192 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:54,210 Nothing. Just the 30% came true, 193 00:05:54,210 --> 00:05:55,650 right? And so, 194 00:05:56,350 --> 00:05:56,650 you know, 195 00:05:56,650 --> 00:05:59,450 when we think use words like upset when we use words 196 00:05:59,450 --> 00:06:00,730 like we suffered a loss, 197 00:06:00,730 --> 00:06:01,690 imagine that language, 198 00:06:01,690 --> 00:06:06,410 right? We suffered a loss in a sporting event, 199 00:06:06,550 --> 00:06:07,010 you suffered. 200 00:06:07,310 --> 00:06:08,530 That's, that's unfortunate. 201 00:06:09,190 --> 00:06:09,490 You know, 202 00:06:09,490 --> 00:06:13,450 we use terms like it's a heart that was a heartbreaker, 203 00:06:13,890 --> 00:06:14,370 a heartbreaker, 204 00:06:14,550 --> 00:06:15,090 or, you know, 205 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:16,770 it's a sporting event, 206 00:06:16,770 --> 00:06:17,530 folks. I mean, 207 00:06:17,790 --> 00:06:18,090 you know, 208 00:06:18,090 --> 00:06:20,690 sometimes the team with a lower percentage wins. 209 00:06:20,690 --> 00:06:22,650 That's how statistics probabilities work. 210 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:23,170 It's not, 211 00:06:23,590 --> 00:06:23,890 you know, 212 00:06:24,140 --> 00:06:26,210 again, anytime you ascribe a percentage to something, 213 00:06:26,210 --> 00:06:27,010 right? 20%, 214 00:06:27,010 --> 00:06:30,450 30%, 40% to something that means that it's gonna happen. 215 00:06:30,450 --> 00:06:31,890 Sometimes it's not zero. 216 00:06:32,690 --> 00:06:32,930 You know, 217 00:06:32,930 --> 00:06:34,410 we talk about recovering from, 218 00:06:34,770 --> 00:06:35,410 bouncing back from, 219 00:06:35,410 --> 00:06:36,890 right? And I think the, 220 00:06:37,150 --> 00:06:40,920 the, the problem with using that terminology is that it, 221 00:06:41,740 --> 00:06:45,990 it, it sends our brain a message that whenever we do 222 00:06:46,060 --> 00:06:50,870 lose, and we will in fact lose that it is worse 223 00:06:50,870 --> 00:06:51,390 than it is. 224 00:06:52,220 --> 00:06:54,590 Okay? And these two concepts kind of relate to each other, 225 00:06:54,590 --> 00:06:57,350 right? Because the reason it over it, 226 00:06:57,370 --> 00:06:58,030 it, it, 227 00:06:58,970 --> 00:07:00,270 it over amplifies, 228 00:07:00,270 --> 00:07:03,950 right? Or it over stresses The quote unquote loss in a 229 00:07:03,950 --> 00:07:08,260 sporting event is because we use the same terminology when we 230 00:07:08,260 --> 00:07:10,220 suffer a real loss. 231 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:11,860 And a real loss, 232 00:07:11,860 --> 00:07:13,700 again, would be like the most extreme would be, 233 00:07:13,700 --> 00:07:13,900 you know, 234 00:07:13,900 --> 00:07:14,540 losing a, 235 00:07:14,620 --> 00:07:15,180 a loved one, 236 00:07:15,180 --> 00:07:16,180 losing a close friend, 237 00:07:16,180 --> 00:07:18,060 right? Losing a dear pet. 238 00:07:18,380 --> 00:07:18,620 I mean, 239 00:07:18,620 --> 00:07:21,420 there's, there's serious losses that we have in our lives, 240 00:07:21,420 --> 00:07:23,380 right? And that's part of being alive. 241 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:25,540 And when we start conflating, 242 00:07:25,540 --> 00:07:25,820 right? Or, 243 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:27,220 or, or mixing up these, 244 00:07:28,010 --> 00:07:28,900 this terminology, 245 00:07:28,910 --> 00:07:30,140 right? Of, 246 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:30,900 you know, 247 00:07:31,060 --> 00:07:33,180 a loss of a Pickleball game or a loss at a 248 00:07:33,180 --> 00:07:34,180 tournament or a loss, 249 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:34,780 you know, 250 00:07:34,780 --> 00:07:37,100 in that context with a real loss, 251 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:39,940 our brain can't differentiate, 252 00:07:40,030 --> 00:07:42,260 right? Our brain hears the same words. 253 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:43,100 And so, 254 00:07:44,060 --> 00:07:44,260 I mean, 255 00:07:44,260 --> 00:07:45,100 it's realistic, 256 00:07:45,100 --> 00:07:45,740 it's reasonable, 257 00:07:45,740 --> 00:07:46,980 right? For your brain to say, 258 00:07:47,810 --> 00:07:49,620 okay, well this must be the same as that, 259 00:07:49,620 --> 00:07:51,260 right? Because it's the same word was used. 260 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:56,420 And, and it's the same kind of terminology going around the, 261 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:58,060 the, the event, 262 00:07:58,060 --> 00:07:58,980 right? So again, 263 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:00,180 if you, 264 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:01,980 if, if you lost a loved one, 265 00:08:01,980 --> 00:08:03,860 right? You suffered a loss, 266 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:05,500 and that could be a heartbreaker. 267 00:08:05,780 --> 00:08:07,780 I done no doubt about that. 268 00:08:07,780 --> 00:08:09,260 Right? You know, 269 00:08:09,260 --> 00:08:10,580 we've all lost loved ones and, 270 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:11,060 and, well, 271 00:08:11,060 --> 00:08:11,740 maybe not all of us, 272 00:08:11,740 --> 00:08:13,940 but most of us probably have lost a loved one or 273 00:08:14,100 --> 00:08:14,460 somebody close, 274 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:15,900 and that's one, 275 00:08:15,900 --> 00:08:16,580 that's a loss. 276 00:08:16,580 --> 00:08:17,220 That's big, 277 00:08:17,310 --> 00:08:18,900 right? You know, 278 00:08:18,900 --> 00:08:20,420 we go to play Pickleball against, 279 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:20,940 you know, 280 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:22,660 to Tom, 281 00:08:22,660 --> 00:08:23,100 Dick and Harry, 282 00:08:23,100 --> 00:08:24,740 right? On a Tuesday, 283 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:26,300 and we lose, 284 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:29,780 we didn't suffer a loss, 285 00:08:30,130 --> 00:08:31,460 okay? Not the same thing, 286 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:32,580 not even in the same ballpark, 287 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:33,380 you know? 288 00:08:33,380 --> 00:08:34,340 And even if it's like, 289 00:08:34,340 --> 00:08:34,540 you know, 290 00:08:34,540 --> 00:08:37,900 the, the best basketball team in the country losing against the 291 00:08:38,490 --> 00:08:39,900 weakest basketball team in the country, 292 00:08:41,090 --> 00:08:41,980 it's not the same thing. 293 00:08:42,090 --> 00:08:43,500 It's not the same magnitude. 294 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:45,260 And I think it's important, 295 00:08:45,350 --> 00:08:47,060 going back to like the mental plaque, 296 00:08:47,450 --> 00:08:48,900 episode 180 2, 297 00:08:48,930 --> 00:08:49,820 and this, 298 00:08:49,820 --> 00:08:51,420 this kind of concept, 299 00:08:51,420 --> 00:08:54,680 I think we need to be guardians of the language that 300 00:08:54,680 --> 00:08:54,880 we use. 301 00:08:55,150 --> 00:08:59,090 We need to be careful and we need to be thoughtful 302 00:08:59,090 --> 00:09:00,290 about the language that we use. 303 00:09:00,810 --> 00:09:02,490 I gave you the quote before from the, 304 00:09:03,790 --> 00:09:04,210 the Sam, 305 00:09:04,210 --> 00:09:05,290 the old samurai proverb. 306 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:06,770 There's another book that I've read, 307 00:09:07,330 --> 00:09:08,010 I believe it's called, 308 00:09:08,490 --> 00:09:09,290 I don't have it in front of right now, 309 00:09:09,290 --> 00:09:10,410 but it's called The Four Agreements, 310 00:09:10,410 --> 00:09:10,650 I Believe, 311 00:09:11,390 --> 00:09:15,370 and one of the most important agreements in that book. 312 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:16,050 It's what, 313 00:09:16,050 --> 00:09:17,770 basically the idea of the book is that there's like these 314 00:09:17,770 --> 00:09:19,930 four agreements that you enter into with yourself. 315 00:09:20,510 --> 00:09:22,170 And if you enter into those four agreements, 316 00:09:22,230 --> 00:09:23,890 you'll live a better life, 317 00:09:23,890 --> 00:09:26,290 right? You'll be happier and everything will be better, 318 00:09:26,290 --> 00:09:27,050 right? Because you're, 319 00:09:27,050 --> 00:09:28,010 and there's some censor, 320 00:09:28,010 --> 00:09:29,690 right? If you can stick to the four agreements, 321 00:09:31,110 --> 00:09:32,290 and as I recall, 322 00:09:32,770 --> 00:09:33,850 I know it's at least one, 323 00:09:33,910 --> 00:09:34,810 at least as important, 324 00:09:34,810 --> 00:09:37,770 if not the most important agreement is your word. 325 00:09:38,470 --> 00:09:39,250 And by word, 326 00:09:39,250 --> 00:09:40,290 it doesn't mean like your promise, 327 00:09:41,070 --> 00:09:42,930 it means the words that come out of your mouth. 328 00:09:43,550 --> 00:09:49,330 So you need to be careful with the words that you 329 00:09:49,430 --> 00:09:50,330 use and choose, 330 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:54,850 because words have consequence to them, 331 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:56,130 okay? And, 332 00:09:56,710 --> 00:09:58,370 and, you know, 333 00:09:58,640 --> 00:09:59,290 it's, it's, 334 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:01,490 it's takes a minute to really reflect on this. 335 00:10:02,230 --> 00:10:02,530 You know, 336 00:10:02,690 --> 00:10:03,050 I, I, 337 00:10:03,050 --> 00:10:03,810 lemme put it this way, 338 00:10:03,850 --> 00:10:04,690 I guess it would be easy to, 339 00:10:04,690 --> 00:10:06,530 to write this kind of podcast off, 340 00:10:06,530 --> 00:10:07,410 right? And just say, 341 00:10:08,270 --> 00:10:10,610 eh, Tony just kind of lost his mind a little bit. 342 00:10:10,610 --> 00:10:10,890 You're right. 343 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:11,330 He's like, 344 00:10:11,390 --> 00:10:12,250 what's he talking about? 345 00:10:12,250 --> 00:10:12,530 You know, 346 00:10:12,530 --> 00:10:12,850 it's just, 347 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:13,490 just words. 348 00:10:13,490 --> 00:10:14,050 It's a big deal. 349 00:10:15,050 --> 00:10:18,250 I, I would suggest that it merits some reflection. 350 00:10:18,510 --> 00:10:19,410 And, you know, 351 00:10:19,410 --> 00:10:19,850 that book, 352 00:10:19,850 --> 00:10:21,730 the Four Agreements might be something to look at. 353 00:10:22,410 --> 00:10:23,810 Actually, I'll pull it up while we're talking here so I 354 00:10:23,810 --> 00:10:24,250 can give it to you. 355 00:10:24,250 --> 00:10:25,250 But, you know, 356 00:10:25,250 --> 00:10:25,610 because I, 357 00:10:25,830 --> 00:10:28,570 he articulates the author Articulates a, 358 00:10:29,780 --> 00:10:30,330 there it is, 359 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:31,330 it's the Four Agreements. 360 00:10:31,330 --> 00:10:33,090 Yep. A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, 361 00:10:33,590 --> 00:10:35,410 and it's based on the toltech, 362 00:10:36,550 --> 00:10:38,010 the Toltech traditions and, 363 00:10:38,010 --> 00:10:39,050 and stuff from the, 364 00:10:40,110 --> 00:10:41,730 I'm probably misstating this either Aztec or my, 365 00:10:41,770 --> 00:10:42,850 I can't remember which one it is, 366 00:10:42,850 --> 00:10:45,050 but it's Don Miguel Ruiz is the book, 367 00:10:45,470 --> 00:10:47,090 the author Dawn Miguel, 368 00:10:47,450 --> 00:10:48,690 M-I-G-U-E-L Ruiz, 369 00:10:48,810 --> 00:10:50,370 RUIZ, if you wanna check out the book. 370 00:10:51,870 --> 00:10:53,130 But this concept isn't new, 371 00:10:53,470 --> 00:10:53,770 you know, 372 00:10:53,830 --> 00:10:55,370 I'm not pulling this outta the air. 373 00:10:55,370 --> 00:10:56,450 That language is important. 374 00:10:57,070 --> 00:10:57,610 Excuse me. 375 00:10:57,750 --> 00:11:03,010 I'm just highlighting it in terms of our journeys as Pickleball 376 00:11:03,010 --> 00:11:03,810 players and as humans. 377 00:11:05,350 --> 00:11:06,090 So, you know, 378 00:11:07,190 --> 00:11:07,490 you know, 379 00:11:07,490 --> 00:11:07,730 I don't, 380 00:11:07,730 --> 00:11:08,050 I don't, 381 00:11:08,090 --> 00:11:08,650 I don't have a, 382 00:11:08,810 --> 00:11:09,890 I don't have a proposal yet. 383 00:11:09,890 --> 00:11:11,490 I might percolate in my brain, 384 00:11:11,490 --> 00:11:12,290 not come up with something, 385 00:11:12,290 --> 00:11:13,090 but, you know, 386 00:11:13,090 --> 00:11:16,290 whether we call ourselves non winners or opportunity brackets and things 387 00:11:16,290 --> 00:11:16,530 like that, 388 00:11:16,530 --> 00:11:17,290 those are all fine. 389 00:11:18,110 --> 00:11:18,650 But the, 390 00:11:19,150 --> 00:11:21,730 the main thing I wanted to point out was just be 391 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:24,450 cognizant of when you hear terminology like that, 392 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:27,490 like suffering a loss or being upset, 393 00:11:28,680 --> 00:11:30,850 that when you're out there in a competitive setting, 394 00:11:31,750 --> 00:11:37,410 the fact that the favored a team did not win that 395 00:11:37,410 --> 00:11:40,690 contest is not an upset and does not mean that anybody 396 00:11:41,210 --> 00:11:42,370 suffered a loss. 397 00:11:43,430 --> 00:11:47,530 It just means that the contest ended and one team had 398 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:49,050 more points, 399 00:11:49,150 --> 00:11:50,010 or more runs, 400 00:11:50,110 --> 00:11:50,610 or more, 401 00:11:51,050 --> 00:11:54,530 whatever the defining Characteristic or measurement of that sport is, 402 00:11:54,530 --> 00:11:55,250 then the other team. 403 00:11:55,350 --> 00:11:56,970 And that's all that happened. 404 00:11:56,970 --> 00:11:57,370 Nothing else. 405 00:11:58,190 --> 00:12:01,410 Anyway. So hopefully that'll help you as you go through your 406 00:12:01,410 --> 00:12:04,530 process, just guarding your, 407 00:12:04,770 --> 00:12:05,610 guarding yourself, 408 00:12:05,610 --> 00:12:13,730 guarding your mind against those apparently are on face facially insignificant 409 00:12:13,730 --> 00:12:17,370 things that are still going to affect you, 410 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:19,690 even if they don't seem to be a big deal, 411 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:22,410 because they build that kind of plaque or that kind of 412 00:12:23,210 --> 00:12:26,330 resistance inside your mind to events that at the end of 413 00:12:26,330 --> 00:12:26,490 the day, 414 00:12:26,490 --> 00:12:32,290 are nothing more than normal expect events in the activity that 415 00:12:32,290 --> 00:12:34,370 we choose to engage in and that we love, 416 00:12:34,370 --> 00:12:35,490 that we call Pickleball. 417 00:12:36,070 --> 00:12:36,330 All right, 418 00:12:36,330 --> 00:12:37,050 that's this week's podcast. 419 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:38,530 Hope you enjoyed it. 420 00:12:39,030 --> 00:12:39,450 As always, 421 00:12:39,450 --> 00:12:40,970 please consider rating and reviewing it. 422 00:12:41,300 --> 00:12:42,170 Share with your friends. 423 00:12:42,950 --> 00:12:43,450 As always, 424 00:12:43,450 --> 00:12:43,810 if you, 425 00:12:44,090 --> 00:12:44,810 I think I said as always, 426 00:12:44,810 --> 00:12:45,970 twice, that's a lot of, 427 00:12:45,970 --> 00:12:47,970 always. If you enjoyed the podcast day, 428 00:12:48,210 --> 00:12:48,530 probably will too. 429 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:51,250 Have a great week and I'll see you next time.