All The Feelings • Adulting

The smell of fear, addressing meat on bones, the underground town down under, and the brand new What’s That Smell? Patent-pending IN-FLAMMO-XIETY this week on the show!

Show Notes

We don’t love making this a gendered conversation but sometimes we just can’t help it. It turns out that women might just be able to smell fear. We don’t love it, that we might keep doing stupid stuff because we can’t smell the danger in it, and so we’ve decided that we all need to hang around more women in our lives. Sorry ladies. We promise we’ll be quiet. We just need your nasal insights. Gross. Sorry.

Dem Bones

This whole show is really about bones. We didn’t plan it that way… just happened. We start with Pete’s hips. Oh, did you hear that? That little voice in your head? Listen carefully… it just said, “This podcast was inspired by Pete’s hips…”

You’ll never hear THAT again.

In any case, Pete dug into research that connects stress and anxiety to joint pain. It turns out, when your body is under constant emotional stress, it’s also under chemical stress. And THAT’s bad for your bones. Learn more from in Association of Stress-Related Disorders With Subsequent Autoimmune Disease. You can learn more from the kind specialists at University of Maryland Spine Center as they blog eloquently in: Why Does Stress and Anxiety Cause Joint Pain?

We pivot from joint stress on the bones to what happens when Tommy tries to eat them. The bones, that is. He’s a real meat-hound, but as it turns out, sucking the meat off of bones gives him real trouble, and he’s not alone. The word is cartilogenophobia and rest assured, he’s going to really bite into this one.

Coober Pedy

Coober Pedy is a small town that sits in the middle of South Australia, about an hour north of Adelaide. It's hot there — it can hit the 120s in the summer — and with climate change, it's only getting hotter. And still, 1,800 people consisting of over 50 nationalities call this slice of the Outback home. And of all the homes in Coober Pedy, more than 60% of them are underground.

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What is All The Feelings • Adulting?

All the Feelings, Season 10: Adulting—A Life-Long Course in Feeling Unprepared

You know that moment when you look around and realize, Oh no… I’m the adult in this room? Maybe it’s when you pretend to understand tax brackets. Or when your back starts to hurt because you "slept." Or when you stand in the grocery store, staring at asparagus, wondering if you should be investing in heavy greens futures.

Welcome to All the Feelings Season 10, where your able hosts, Tommy Metz III and Pete Wright, are going to tackle the unspoken truth of adulthood: nobody actually knows what they’re doing most of the time. This season, we’re diving into the emotional chaos of adulting—all the things that, by now, we should have mastered but somehow still make us feel like confused 12-year-olds wearing oversized suits.

We’ll explore the existential panic of estate planning (Wills: Now Featuring Your Inevitable Mortality!), the sheer absurdity of socializing as a grown-up (Why Is Making Friends Harder Than Filing Taxes?), and the shame spiral of arguing (Yes, You Can Still Lose a Fight in Your 40s!). We’ll unpack civic duty, grief, apologizing, and the delicate balance of managing time without feeling like you’re constantly failing an invisible test.

And of course, we’ll get real about the things that make adulthood straight-up weird: why is sleep suddenly a competitive sport? Why does gift-giving induce a full-blown identity crisis? And why does every conversation about homeownership involve so much sighing?

This season, Pete and Tommy are back to do what they do best: explore the emotional absurdity of being human. Because if adulthood is just a long series of pop quizzes, we might as well laugh about it together.