1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,625 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:11,333 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:11,791 --> 01:00:13,166 You did it, you made it. 5 01:00:13,166 --> 01:00:13,916 Good on you. 6 01:00:14,166 --> 01:00:15,666 And as a reward, the 7 01:00:15,666 --> 01:00:17,166 universe has dubbed today 8 01:00:17,500 --> 01:00:19,166 National Comfy Day. 9 01:00:19,500 --> 01:00:21,041 So throw on that comfy 10 01:00:21,041 --> 01:00:23,041 t-shirt or your comfy sweats. 11 01:00:23,458 --> 01:00:24,750 You've definitely earned it. 12 01:00:24,750 --> 01:00:27,083 And it's also good participation points. 13 01:00:27,833 --> 01:00:30,333 Well, yesterday's trivia answer is Q. 14 01:00:30,666 --> 01:00:31,875 The first letter on a 15 01:00:31,875 --> 01:00:34,041 standard keyboard is the letter Q. 16 01:00:34,916 --> 01:00:36,500 Now it's time for the essential vitamins 17 01:00:36,500 --> 01:00:37,375 in your morning cereal. 18 01:00:37,625 --> 01:00:38,958 Today's quote is from 19 01:00:38,958 --> 01:00:40,875 birthday girl turning just 23, 20 01:00:41,708 --> 01:00:43,625 Olivia Rodrigo, who said, quote, 21 01:00:44,041 --> 01:00:45,375 I'm trying to learn to 22 01:00:45,375 --> 01:00:47,166 trust my gut, end quote. 23 01:00:47,958 --> 01:00:48,875 Honestly, same. 24 01:00:49,458 --> 01:00:50,791 But I've said it before, 25 01:00:50,791 --> 01:00:52,000 if your gut has steered 26 01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:53,166 you wrong in the past, 27 01:00:53,750 --> 01:00:55,333 please get a second opinion 28 01:00:55,875 --> 01:00:57,541 or maybe get an opinion from 29 01:00:57,541 --> 01:00:59,125 the experts like Mel Robbins. 30 01:00:59,625 --> 01:01:01,291 It's time to pour in some 31 01:01:01,291 --> 01:01:03,458 let them theory by Mel Robbins. 32 01:01:03,708 --> 01:01:04,583 And today's section, 33 01:01:05,083 --> 01:01:06,875 the deal breaker decision. 34 01:01:07,291 --> 01:01:09,458 It tackles something most of us avoid 35 01:01:09,500 --> 01:01:12,166 until we absolutely can't. 36 01:01:12,375 --> 01:01:15,000 Naming what we will no longer tolerate. 37 01:01:15,416 --> 01:01:16,375 And Mel opens with 38 01:01:16,375 --> 01:01:17,458 this powerful distinction, 39 01:01:17,666 --> 01:01:19,916 quote, a deal breaker isn't dramatic, 40 01:01:20,291 --> 01:01:21,708 it's defining, end quote. 41 01:01:22,041 --> 01:01:23,708 And that reframes everything. 42 01:01:24,166 --> 01:01:25,541 A deal breaker isn't you 43 01:01:25,541 --> 01:01:27,166 being picky or unreasonable, 44 01:01:27,875 --> 01:01:30,125 it's you identifying a core value 45 01:01:30,125 --> 01:01:31,500 that cannot be compromised 46 01:01:31,875 --> 01:01:33,916 without eroding your self-respect. 47 01:01:34,750 --> 01:01:36,625 And she explains that we often delay 48 01:01:36,666 --> 01:01:38,125 making deal breaker decisions 49 01:01:38,250 --> 01:01:41,250 because clarity feels so final, right? 50 01:01:41,625 --> 01:01:44,000 And final, it feels scary to us. 51 01:01:44,291 --> 01:01:46,291 We negotiate with ourselves, we start 52 01:01:46,291 --> 01:01:47,583 downplaying behavior. 53 01:01:47,833 --> 01:01:49,041 We say, quote, it's not 54 01:01:49,041 --> 01:01:50,625 that bad, but deep down, 55 01:01:50,625 --> 01:01:51,708 your nervous system knows 56 01:01:51,708 --> 01:01:52,666 when something violates 57 01:01:52,666 --> 01:01:53,666 your standards, right? 58 01:01:54,041 --> 01:01:55,583 Here, Mel says this, quote, 59 01:01:56,166 --> 01:01:57,541 confusion keeps you stuck, 60 01:01:57,875 --> 01:02:00,041 clarity moves you forward, end quote. 61 01:02:00,666 --> 01:02:02,000 That's the pivot point. 62 01:02:02,250 --> 01:02:04,000 Confusion allows you to linger, right? 63 01:02:04,333 --> 01:02:06,166 Clarity forces you to make a choice. 64 01:02:06,708 --> 01:02:08,791 She challenges readers here to ask, 65 01:02:08,791 --> 01:02:09,833 is this a preference 66 01:02:09,833 --> 01:02:11,416 or is this a principle? 67 01:02:12,291 --> 01:02:13,375 Preferences are flexible, 68 01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:15,458 principles are foundational. 69 01:02:16,083 --> 01:02:19,208 And if honest effort, loyalty or ambition 70 01:02:19,375 --> 01:02:20,666 matter deeply to you, 71 01:02:21,000 --> 01:02:22,875 then repeated violations, 72 01:02:23,250 --> 01:02:25,750 those aren't quirks, they're information. 73 01:02:26,375 --> 01:02:28,083 And this is where the let them becomes 74 01:02:28,083 --> 01:02:29,666 an act of power for you. 75 01:02:30,083 --> 01:02:31,041 If someone cannot meet 76 01:02:31,041 --> 01:02:32,458 your non-negotiables, 77 01:02:33,125 --> 01:02:34,625 let them be who they are. 78 01:02:35,041 --> 01:02:35,708 You don't need to 79 01:02:35,708 --> 01:02:37,000 argue them into alignment. 80 01:02:37,333 --> 01:02:38,000 You don't need to 81 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:39,666 issue ultimatums to them. 82 01:02:40,041 --> 01:02:42,458 You simply decide what works for you. 83 01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:43,750 Mel says this, quote, 84 01:02:44,208 --> 01:02:45,750 standards are not ultimatums, 85 01:02:45,750 --> 01:02:47,458 they are boundaries that 86 01:02:47,458 --> 01:02:49,541 protect your future, end quote. 87 01:02:50,125 --> 01:02:52,208 And that line should land hard with you. 88 01:02:52,250 --> 01:02:53,541 The deal breaker decision 89 01:02:53,541 --> 01:02:56,500 isn't about punishing someone. 90 01:02:56,500 --> 01:02:58,458 It's about protecting yourself. 91 01:02:59,000 --> 01:02:59,916 It's choosing long-term 92 01:02:59,916 --> 01:03:01,666 peace over short-term comfort. 93 01:03:02,291 --> 01:03:03,583 And yes, clarity can 94 01:03:03,583 --> 01:03:04,916 feel lonely at first, 95 01:03:05,125 --> 01:03:05,958 but living 96 01:03:05,958 --> 01:03:08,416 misaligned, it's even lonelier. 97 01:03:08,791 --> 01:03:11,125 All right, here is your Friday takeaway. 98 01:03:11,791 --> 01:03:14,833 When a core value is repeatedly violated, 99 01:03:15,291 --> 01:03:16,916 honor your standards immediately 100 01:03:17,250 --> 01:03:18,791 and move forward with clarity. 101 01:03:19,583 --> 01:03:22,458 So be comfy today, but be clear. 102 01:03:22,791 --> 01:03:24,000 Now the prize from the 103 01:03:24,000 --> 01:03:25,000 bottom of the cereal box, 104 01:03:25,375 --> 01:03:26,500 the morning cereal 105 01:03:26,500 --> 01:03:28,000 trivia question of the day. 106 01:03:28,750 --> 01:03:29,916 How many darling 107 01:03:29,916 --> 01:03:32,083 children are in Peter Pan? 108 01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:34,458 All right, hey, thanks for listening to 109 01:03:34,458 --> 01:03:35,500 morning cereal today. 110 01:03:35,500 --> 01:03:37,375 We will see you back here on Monday 111 01:03:37,916 --> 01:03:39,416 for the answer to the trivia question 112 01:03:39,500 --> 01:03:42,166 and more sugar for the soul. 113 01:03:42,625 --> 01:03:44,500 Have a fantastic weekend, 114 01:03:45,041 --> 01:03:47,916 and until then, have a fantastic day. 115 01:03:49,250 --> 01:03:50,791 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 116 01:03:50,791 --> 01:03:52,333 to the morning cereal podcast 117 01:03:52,500 --> 01:03:54,250 on the One Life Live It channel. 118 01:03:54,791 --> 01:03:56,500 You can find more episodes and videos 119 01:03:56,500 --> 01:03:57,958 by visiting our YouTube channel 120 01:03:58,125 --> 01:04:01,833 and the website at seanenglish.com, 121 01:04:02,250 --> 01:04:02,916 where you can also 122 01:04:02,916 --> 01:04:04,375 follow our other podcasts, 123 01:04:04,666 --> 01:04:05,875 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 124 01:04:06,416 --> 01:04:07,583 and the Life Happens podcast. 125 01:04:08,375 --> 01:04:10,541 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 126 01:04:10,541 --> 01:04:11,458 into everyday issues, 127 01:04:11,750 --> 01:04:12,958 self-improvement and well-being, 128 01:04:13,208 --> 01:04:15,000 business and finance, and we 129 01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:16,250 welcome special guests too. 130 01:04:16,708 --> 01:04:17,708 So join us, it will be 131 01:04:17,708 --> 01:04:18,875 a good time, I promise. 132 01:04:19,541 --> 01:04:20,041 Thanks again for 133 01:04:20,041 --> 01:04:21,708 listening, have a fantastic day, 134 01:04:22,041 --> 01:04:22,708 and we'll see you tomorrow.