1 00:00:01,242 --> 00:00:04,742 Hello everyone and welcome back to Bikinis After Babies. 2 00:00:04,742 --> 00:00:06,742 Thank you so much for joining us today. 3 00:00:06,742 --> 00:00:12,102 I am one of your hosts, Mandy Rochon here with your other amazing, beautiful, 4 00:00:12,102 --> 00:00:15,236 blonde, two weeks out host. 5 00:00:15,852 --> 00:00:23,492 The podcast host formerly known as Gillian Dietface, Gillian Hughes. 6 00:00:23,812 --> 00:00:27,552 Well, I was telling Mandy that I feel like it's a really good thing that we're 7 00:00:27,552 --> 00:00:32,012 recording today and like capturing the feels because like earlier this week I was 8 00:00:32,012 --> 00:00:36,852 like, well, like it really like full good mood, high spirits, like feeling really 9 00:00:36,852 --> 00:00:36,992 good. 10 00:00:36,992 --> 00:00:39,472 And I was like, this is weird, like to be feeling this way. 11 00:00:39,472 --> 00:00:44,812 But I think it was just sort of like the come down of all my travel is kind of done 12 00:00:44,812 --> 00:00:45,740 and the next. 13 00:00:45,740 --> 00:00:47,600 trip that I'm going on is my show. 14 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:50,980 So I guess feeling like the release of that we had a team show over the weekend. 15 00:00:50,980 --> 00:00:57,160 And then this morning, I mean, I just I'd slept terrible. 16 00:00:57,160 --> 00:00:59,960 I have like a phantom period going on right now. 17 00:00:59,960 --> 00:01:05,950 So all the symptoms and just like bloated and even check in today. 18 00:01:05,950 --> 00:01:06,920 Wednesday is my check in day. 19 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:10,760 I was like, I'm doing it tomorrow just because I felt I knew it was going to mess 20 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:12,302 with me way too much. 21 00:01:12,302 --> 00:01:12,964 -hmm. 22 00:01:12,964 --> 00:01:18,724 I usually check in Wednesday or sometimes Thursday, but typically Wednesday and all 23 00:01:18,724 --> 00:01:20,384 week I'd been so excited to check in. 24 00:01:20,384 --> 00:01:23,844 And then I woke up this morning and I was just like, not today. 25 00:01:23,844 --> 00:01:27,627 And yeah, so anyways, it's just a day. 26 00:01:28,498 --> 00:01:29,728 Monday and it does. 27 00:01:29,728 --> 00:01:33,138 It feels like sometimes I get so excited, like I can't wait to check in, I can't 28 00:01:33,138 --> 00:01:34,178 wait to check in. 29 00:01:34,178 --> 00:01:38,678 And the last few check -ins have been a little rough and they've just been 30 00:01:38,678 --> 00:01:38,988 different. 31 00:01:38,988 --> 00:01:41,338 They've been kind of all over the place, but it's like you said, it's because 32 00:01:41,338 --> 00:01:47,038 there's been so much going on, so much travel, so much different sleep, packing 33 00:01:47,038 --> 00:01:51,066 food, you know, just so much, a whole bunch of different things going on. 34 00:01:51,066 --> 00:01:55,125 and whether it be like exciting or nerve wracking or it's a type of stress and our 35 00:01:55,125 --> 00:01:56,966 body is gonna like react to it. 36 00:01:56,966 --> 00:02:03,566 So I was like, I was kinda like you like Monday after the show, the show in here in 37 00:02:03,566 --> 00:02:06,106 Kansas City was absolutely fantastic. 38 00:02:06,106 --> 00:02:09,026 And it was amazing. 39 00:02:09,026 --> 00:02:10,936 It was so loud. 40 00:02:10,936 --> 00:02:16,776 It was way, way bigger and more exciting than than I expected it because it was the 41 00:02:16,776 --> 00:02:17,686 first year they had it. 42 00:02:17,686 --> 00:02:21,476 We had four athletes competing and you were expediting and. 43 00:02:21,644 --> 00:02:25,644 you know, there was, I ran into a lot of people I hadn't seen in a long time and, 44 00:02:25,844 --> 00:02:29,684 it was a great venue and, you know, and the crowd was just, you know, awesome. 45 00:02:29,684 --> 00:02:34,284 And like the format was nice too, like, because they expected like smaller 46 00:02:34,284 --> 00:02:36,564 numbers, which they didn't get, they got more people than they thought. 47 00:02:36,564 --> 00:02:37,864 They started a little bit later. 48 00:02:37,864 --> 00:02:42,244 So we had like a super chill morning getting everybody ready and we didn't 49 00:02:42,244 --> 00:02:43,184 start to like 11 AM. 50 00:02:43,184 --> 00:02:47,604 So like normally we're like starting to hear a makeup at three and, that didn't 51 00:02:47,604 --> 00:02:47,904 happen. 52 00:02:47,904 --> 00:02:51,070 So it was, it was just really fun and just coming home and everybody was. 53 00:02:51,070 --> 00:02:52,530 you know, just happy. 54 00:02:52,530 --> 00:02:56,710 And so, yeah, I mean, it was a sort of like the exhaustion, but also like, you 55 00:02:56,710 --> 00:02:58,600 know, good vibes to which can kind of wear you out. 56 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:01,410 It's a lot of energy, you know, at this stage of the game. 57 00:03:01,570 --> 00:03:01,824 Yeah. 58 00:03:01,824 --> 00:03:03,174 it was so much energy. 59 00:03:03,174 --> 00:03:05,604 Like the, it was standing room for prejudging. 60 00:03:05,604 --> 00:03:07,994 It was so loud and so crazy. 61 00:03:07,994 --> 00:03:09,874 And it was so much fun. 62 00:03:09,874 --> 00:03:14,214 Like just to be in the environment, the turnout was absolutely fantastic. 63 00:03:14,214 --> 00:03:18,094 I mean, of course we have an idea on like numbers going in, but then you have, you 64 00:03:18,094 --> 00:03:19,844 know, you never know what the crowd is going to be like. 65 00:03:19,844 --> 00:03:21,254 You never know the reaction. 66 00:03:21,254 --> 00:03:26,474 And it was, it was like wall to wall standing room and finals was just insane. 67 00:03:26,474 --> 00:03:28,214 It was so much positive energy. 68 00:03:28,214 --> 00:03:29,946 And like you said, coming, 69 00:03:29,946 --> 00:03:33,826 Yeah, coming off that Monday, I felt really good because going into that show, 70 00:03:33,826 --> 00:03:37,806 I actually carb loaded because I was recovering from some digestion issues last 71 00:03:37,806 --> 00:03:38,155 week. 72 00:03:38,155 --> 00:03:41,966 And so I was eating carbs going through there and I knew, you know, we're, you 73 00:03:41,966 --> 00:03:45,666 know, we're two weeks out or, you know, three weeks out, two and a half. 74 00:03:45,666 --> 00:03:49,006 And I knew I was like, okay, I'm going to start dipping down here soon. 75 00:03:49,006 --> 00:03:51,066 So I, Monday I felt great. 76 00:03:51,066 --> 00:03:52,806 Tuesday I was getting a little sleepy. 77 00:03:52,806 --> 00:03:55,466 Today, today is Wednesday. 78 00:03:55,466 --> 00:03:56,946 I'm a little tired. 79 00:03:56,946 --> 00:03:59,114 A little, a little worn out. 80 00:03:59,674 --> 00:04:04,274 So, but it's getting that time and it's it's just like you said the traveling is 81 00:04:04,274 --> 00:04:07,494 getting close to an end I have one more show i'm gonna go to south, dakota this 82 00:04:07,494 --> 00:04:12,254 friday Yeah, friday i'm gonna go to sioux falls and expedite that show and then the 83 00:04:12,254 --> 00:04:16,314 weekend after that I have to go to st louis because my son got invited to play 84 00:04:16,314 --> 00:04:25,294 in state cup i'm Ecstatic for him to watch that Right and then right into peak week 85 00:04:25,294 --> 00:04:29,874 and then to omaha, so I still got a 86 00:04:30,043 --> 00:04:32,963 Like, you know, you've already done a show this season. 87 00:04:32,983 --> 00:04:37,483 And so how are you feeling about this next one? 88 00:04:37,498 --> 00:04:39,438 I feel so different. 89 00:04:39,438 --> 00:04:41,758 I feel completely different. 90 00:04:41,918 --> 00:04:45,728 I feel that saying, you know, what is it? 91 00:04:45,728 --> 00:04:50,678 You shake the dust off your heels, you get that first show jitters out. 92 00:04:51,258 --> 00:04:53,988 Exactly, yeah, you know what I'm talking about. 93 00:04:53,988 --> 00:04:55,498 I did that already. 94 00:04:55,498 --> 00:05:00,318 So going into this show is just, it's still exciting. 95 00:05:00,318 --> 00:05:03,546 I have so many different things like. 96 00:05:03,546 --> 00:05:05,996 I wanna try to do a few things different. 97 00:05:05,996 --> 00:05:07,535 I wanna wear my hair different. 98 00:05:07,535 --> 00:05:11,386 I'm gonna change some posing, change some transitioning up. 99 00:05:11,386 --> 00:05:14,546 And I want to, it's more experimental. 100 00:05:14,546 --> 00:05:19,946 Also, because the show is two and a half hours, almost three hours away, I know a 101 00:05:19,946 --> 00:05:20,886 lot of competitors. 102 00:05:20,886 --> 00:05:23,526 I know figure competitors, I know some of the vendors. 103 00:05:23,526 --> 00:05:28,826 So this will be the first show I've ever been to where I know a lot of people 104 00:05:28,826 --> 00:05:29,626 there. 105 00:05:29,626 --> 00:05:31,666 So it's exciting. 106 00:05:31,666 --> 00:05:32,922 So I... 107 00:05:32,922 --> 00:05:35,522 It's different, but what about you? 108 00:05:35,522 --> 00:05:36,302 How are you feeling? 109 00:05:36,302 --> 00:05:39,659 You're about to have to hop on a plane to go to DC. 110 00:05:39,659 --> 00:05:42,239 Yeah, I leave like two weeks tomorrow. 111 00:05:42,619 --> 00:05:49,839 So I feel more prepared than ever for a show. 112 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:55,159 I think sort of today, just sort of waking up with those like period symptoms, which 113 00:05:55,159 --> 00:05:58,666 I should have explained what a phantom period is. 114 00:05:58,666 --> 00:06:03,306 You can have all the symptoms of a cycle on a period, but not actually have your 115 00:06:03,306 --> 00:06:03,746 bleed. 116 00:06:03,746 --> 00:06:09,666 And so, which is a positive thing because you want to have your cycle when you're in 117 00:06:09,666 --> 00:06:09,946 prep. 118 00:06:09,946 --> 00:06:13,666 It's a sign that your hormones are doing their job, but, and it's great timing 119 00:06:13,666 --> 00:06:15,116 because it's not going to happen on show week. 120 00:06:15,116 --> 00:06:19,486 Like we just talked about on last week's episode, but I just feel it messes with 121 00:06:19,486 --> 00:06:23,526 your head because you just feel a little bloated and I'm a little bit watery. 122 00:06:23,526 --> 00:06:27,046 And then the scale jumped up a little bit and I just got a little bit in my head, 123 00:06:27,046 --> 00:06:29,119 but prior to this, I had been feeling really 124 00:06:29,432 --> 00:06:35,832 I've never spent this much time on posing because just you know in working with my 125 00:06:35,832 --> 00:06:42,252 coach who's very detailed looking at my photos from my last show and just you know 126 00:06:42,252 --> 00:06:46,692 I don't know that there's any way I could have beat the girl who won the pro card 127 00:06:46,692 --> 00:06:56,332 she was damn good but you know my gosh I forgot I had it was 128 00:06:56,362 --> 00:06:59,202 And I have a lot of those too, like, because I'm getting that little thing in 129 00:06:59,202 --> 00:07:00,042 my throat where I'm going to cry. 130 00:07:00,042 --> 00:07:02,892 Like I keep getting that feeling, the emotions of it all. 131 00:07:02,892 --> 00:07:05,712 And I think that's just because it's been a long, it's been a long journey. 132 00:07:05,712 --> 00:07:08,862 It's been, you know, that was two summers ago. 133 00:07:08,862 --> 00:07:13,482 There was a show that happened in between then and now that I hardly speak about 134 00:07:13,482 --> 00:07:16,702 that was a bad experience and it was a learning experience. 135 00:07:16,702 --> 00:07:22,182 But, you know, I pushed through and did a show last March and it was just not, you 136 00:07:22,182 --> 00:07:22,858 know, I'm not. 137 00:07:22,858 --> 00:07:26,258 not proud of the photos and not proud of my physique. 138 00:07:26,358 --> 00:07:30,090 You know, I'm sure if you listen and you've seen the photos, I mean, it. 139 00:07:30,090 --> 00:07:33,910 I didn't look embarrassed myself, but you know, I had some gut issues that I was 140 00:07:33,910 --> 00:07:37,130 trying to just ignore and my waistline wasn't tight. 141 00:07:37,130 --> 00:07:37,920 It was very watery. 142 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:41,070 I lost some muscle because of, you know, health issues or whatever. 143 00:07:41,070 --> 00:07:45,690 So anyway, so it feels like it's been two years since I've competed and, but yeah, 144 00:07:45,690 --> 00:07:49,450 just kind of like looking like almost like, reverse engineering the process and 145 00:07:49,450 --> 00:07:53,530 like analyzing everything and just, I should have had my leg turned like this. 146 00:07:53,530 --> 00:07:55,600 And why did I do that with my hand? 147 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:59,610 You know, because I've learned so much, like posing is like, you can never be 148 00:07:59,610 --> 00:08:00,356 like, okay, I'm done. 149 00:08:00,356 --> 00:08:01,796 I know everything about posing. 150 00:08:01,796 --> 00:08:05,996 You'll just always be learning and I'm working with a posing coach that we did a 151 00:08:05,996 --> 00:08:08,816 lot of sessions together and then now I'm in her academy. 152 00:08:08,816 --> 00:08:14,836 So I send over two videos every week walking front pose back pose walk to the 153 00:08:14,836 --> 00:08:20,816 back walk to the front side transitions everything and then she gives feedback and 154 00:08:20,816 --> 00:08:24,776 and she's like so awesome because she'll give me really great feedback about my 155 00:08:24,776 --> 00:08:27,356 shape and how things are coming along because she's been working with me since I 156 00:08:27,356 --> 00:08:29,496 was like 20 pounds heavier. 157 00:08:29,852 --> 00:08:34,292 And just, you know, watching my posing getting better so that I feel good about. 158 00:08:34,292 --> 00:08:38,252 But yeah, I can't lie when I woke up this morning and just felt that way on check in 159 00:08:38,252 --> 00:08:38,502 day. 160 00:08:38,502 --> 00:08:41,502 I was like, and then I'm having a bit of a suit debacle. 161 00:08:41,502 --> 00:08:48,652 I have to send my bottoms back because they are the wrong cut for my new shape. 162 00:08:48,652 --> 00:08:52,552 And so that I'm trying to not let myself get stressed out about that. 163 00:08:52,552 --> 00:08:53,332 I'm sure it's going to be fine. 164 00:08:53,332 --> 00:08:57,572 We have a holiday in the middle of this two weeks that delays the mail. 165 00:08:57,572 --> 00:08:58,785 And I'm like. 166 00:08:58,886 --> 00:09:00,496 like, what if they don't get here in time? 167 00:09:00,496 --> 00:09:03,626 So that's just there's always there's always something. 168 00:09:03,626 --> 00:09:07,866 But yeah, and I just genuinely feel like a bag of shit. 169 00:09:07,866 --> 00:09:09,776 But that's prep. 170 00:09:09,776 --> 00:09:12,374 You know, it is. 171 00:09:12,374 --> 00:09:16,524 I actually, I did a photo shoot Sunday morning and coming from that photo shoot, 172 00:09:16,524 --> 00:09:21,554 so I had digestion issues last week and it was like a, it was something I had never 173 00:09:21,554 --> 00:09:22,914 dealt with before. 174 00:09:22,914 --> 00:09:28,534 Everything just decided to run right through me and it took, it was really bad. 175 00:09:28,534 --> 00:09:33,074 I was so, I got so dehydrated on Wednesday. 176 00:09:33,074 --> 00:09:35,594 Yeah, Wednesday and I freaked out. 177 00:09:35,594 --> 00:09:36,894 I didn't know what to do. 178 00:09:36,894 --> 00:09:38,884 I felt like, I felt horrible. 179 00:09:38,884 --> 00:09:39,714 I felt crappy. 180 00:09:39,714 --> 00:09:40,506 I felt like, 181 00:09:40,506 --> 00:09:42,536 I felt like my uterus was a bowling ball. 182 00:09:42,536 --> 00:09:44,006 Like I just didn't feel good. 183 00:09:44,006 --> 00:09:48,846 Yeah, I just didn't feel great and I couldn't figure out why. 184 00:09:49,506 --> 00:09:56,286 And I think we did, I tried to add a new supplement and it had magnesium in it. 185 00:09:56,286 --> 00:09:59,066 I was already taking a magnesium supplement. 186 00:09:59,066 --> 00:10:02,566 So I was taking too much magnesium is what was happening. 187 00:10:02,566 --> 00:10:06,426 And so we switched that, we took, we'd stop that. 188 00:10:06,426 --> 00:10:08,456 And then I reached out to my coach immediately. 189 00:10:08,456 --> 00:10:09,926 So I do wanna make that clear. 190 00:10:09,926 --> 00:10:15,106 Like I, when something's not going right with my body, I actually don't go to a 191 00:10:15,106 --> 00:10:15,496 doctor. 192 00:10:15,496 --> 00:10:18,066 Like I won't. 193 00:10:18,306 --> 00:10:22,886 It has to be something like a flu or a cold where I need like something of that 194 00:10:22,886 --> 00:10:23,246 nature. 195 00:10:23,246 --> 00:10:26,946 But like if something's going on with my body, like I will go to my coach, I will 196 00:10:26,946 --> 00:10:30,226 go to my chiropractor, I will go to my massage therapist. 197 00:10:30,226 --> 00:10:35,106 But anyway, so I went to my coach and she was like, completely agree, let's remove 198 00:10:35,106 --> 00:10:36,338 that supplement. 199 00:10:36,794 --> 00:10:40,274 She changed some, she wanted me to start eating some bananas, carbs, different 200 00:10:40,274 --> 00:10:41,014 things. 201 00:10:41,014 --> 00:10:44,364 So, but anyways, leading up to the weekend, I got better. 202 00:10:44,364 --> 00:10:46,334 I got better every day and it was nice. 203 00:10:46,334 --> 00:10:47,374 It was great. 204 00:10:47,374 --> 00:10:49,654 But Sunday I still was sore. 205 00:10:49,654 --> 00:10:55,694 My, my abdominal area was very tender, but I had a photo shoot and it was funny 206 00:10:55,694 --> 00:11:03,414 because I had to tell myself, I'm like, Mandy, even though you feel like you look 207 00:11:03,414 --> 00:11:06,266 like shit, you know, this is prep. 208 00:11:06,266 --> 00:11:08,316 you know you don't look like shit. 209 00:11:08,316 --> 00:11:11,886 Like you have to realize like it's all in my head and it's fine. 210 00:11:11,886 --> 00:11:14,566 And the photographer I shot with, like he's a good friend of mine. 211 00:11:14,566 --> 00:11:17,926 So like we had a lot of fun and it was fun. 212 00:11:17,926 --> 00:11:20,946 But so this brings us to the topic today actually. 213 00:11:20,946 --> 00:11:27,006 So after that photo shoot, my 14 year old son has been going to the gym and it has 214 00:11:27,006 --> 00:11:29,366 finally come time for him to get a gym membership. 215 00:11:29,366 --> 00:11:34,426 So I had to go to the gym that he's been going to and sign him up with a membership 216 00:11:34,426 --> 00:11:35,802 and it's a corporate gym. 217 00:11:35,802 --> 00:11:37,622 Again, I just got done with the photo shoot. 218 00:11:37,622 --> 00:11:43,582 I was very shiny and in a tank top and you could tell like, you know, I'm muscular. 219 00:11:43,582 --> 00:11:47,592 So like the girls, the sales girls at the desk were like, you work out. 220 00:11:47,592 --> 00:11:49,022 I'm like, yeah, I'm signing my kid up. 221 00:11:49,022 --> 00:11:50,462 Like I just need to get him a membership. 222 00:11:50,462 --> 00:11:52,692 And they're like, we just started prep. 223 00:11:52,692 --> 00:11:53,802 And I was like, that's awesome. 224 00:11:53,802 --> 00:11:55,282 Like great for you. 225 00:11:55,282 --> 00:11:59,902 And, and they started telling me about like their prep and they had just started 226 00:11:59,902 --> 00:12:00,642 working with a coach. 227 00:12:00,642 --> 00:12:02,462 And I was like, well, when are you going to go? 228 00:12:02,462 --> 00:12:03,432 Like, when's your show? 229 00:12:03,432 --> 00:12:05,082 Like what show do you have in mind? 230 00:12:05,082 --> 00:12:08,672 And they're like, no, we're not gonna step on stage anytime soon. 231 00:12:08,672 --> 00:12:10,262 We just started. 232 00:12:10,262 --> 00:12:17,342 And I've noticed this year, this trend where girls think that they need this 233 00:12:17,342 --> 00:12:18,622 crazy amount of time. 234 00:12:18,622 --> 00:12:25,262 And I'm talking like a year or two years to step on stage for the first time. 235 00:12:25,262 --> 00:12:28,912 And of course I just listened to them, but I've heard this a few times. 236 00:12:28,912 --> 00:12:33,210 And so I thought today would be a great topic to talk about when you know. 237 00:12:33,210 --> 00:12:37,513 how to get ready for a stage or when when is a good time to step on stage. 238 00:12:37,513 --> 00:12:39,803 And how do you know if you're really ready? 239 00:12:39,803 --> 00:12:42,313 And what if you're not ready? 240 00:12:42,313 --> 00:12:46,413 Cause that was sort of how I wanted to take it too of like, you know, what if, 241 00:12:46,413 --> 00:12:47,353 what if you're not? 242 00:12:47,353 --> 00:12:50,843 So yeah, I love this topic because, I get it a lot too. 243 00:12:50,843 --> 00:12:55,093 You know, I do all of our sales calls for mom, shell method fitness, and I'll have 244 00:12:55,093 --> 00:12:59,913 somebody who's maybe seen one of our competitors and been like, you know, we 245 00:12:59,913 --> 00:13:01,923 kind of gradually talk about prep and everything. 246 00:13:01,923 --> 00:13:06,473 And we get to where I'm like, do you have a show in mind or do you, you know, have a 247 00:13:06,473 --> 00:13:10,293 timeframe of, you know, and this might be somebody who, you know, has never competed 248 00:13:10,293 --> 00:13:12,599 before, but you know, obviously they're in. 249 00:13:12,599 --> 00:13:15,059 in the gym, they didn't just wake up and decide, I'm going to do a bodybuilding 250 00:13:15,059 --> 00:13:17,379 competition having never worked out, right? 251 00:13:17,439 --> 00:13:23,899 So, and they usually will be like, I'm sure I won't be ready for a year or more. 252 00:13:24,739 --> 00:13:25,322 So. 253 00:13:25,322 --> 00:13:30,262 I mean, I do hear it a lot as well, which I feel like in a lot of ways, I think that 254 00:13:30,262 --> 00:13:36,282 shows the athleticism and the impressiveness of the physiques in our 255 00:13:36,282 --> 00:13:40,342 division, because I will tell you, there was a time there where people talked about 256 00:13:40,342 --> 00:13:45,222 bikini competitions like they were like Hawaiian Tropic and you could just like, 257 00:13:45,222 --> 00:13:49,242 you know, train for four weeks and then just jump on stage like, you know, she 258 00:13:49,242 --> 00:13:49,702 looks pretty good. 259 00:13:49,702 --> 00:13:52,662 She could probably compete in four weeks, like talking about like some girl who just 260 00:13:52,662 --> 00:13:55,487 started working out, which I found to be really freaky. 261 00:13:55,487 --> 00:13:58,817 insulting because of how hard we work. 262 00:13:58,817 --> 00:14:00,807 I mean, we are training like bodybuilders. 263 00:14:00,807 --> 00:14:08,007 We just don't have the amount of muscle as somebody in women's physique, in figure, 264 00:14:08,007 --> 00:14:09,737 in men's divisions. 265 00:14:09,737 --> 00:14:12,937 It doesn't mean that we work less hard than they do. 266 00:14:12,937 --> 00:14:13,193 Like. 267 00:14:13,193 --> 00:14:16,353 but there's just everyone's structure is going to be different. 268 00:14:16,353 --> 00:14:21,413 So I think in some ways it shows that people understand that our sport is 269 00:14:21,413 --> 00:14:21,893 competitive. 270 00:14:21,893 --> 00:14:23,593 It takes a lot of work to get there. 271 00:14:23,593 --> 00:14:29,903 But also I don't take a client and like, you know, say, yeah, sure. 272 00:14:29,903 --> 00:14:31,913 But you know, we're not going to compete for two years. 273 00:14:31,913 --> 00:14:35,613 Like I think it's really hard to keep somebody focused when they're like set 274 00:14:35,613 --> 00:14:37,693 show date is that far away. 275 00:14:37,813 --> 00:14:38,513 So. 276 00:14:38,665 --> 00:14:42,585 So yeah, what is your advice then if somebody is, you know, in the gym and 277 00:14:42,585 --> 00:14:46,295 they've got some body fat, you know, like, let's say they're sort of like, you know, 278 00:14:46,295 --> 00:14:51,845 sitting around maybe like 25, 30 percent body fat, which is like pretty normal for 279 00:14:51,845 --> 00:14:56,785 like, you know, a lot of women that you would describe as active and healthy and 280 00:14:56,785 --> 00:14:58,405 fit, not overweight in any way. 281 00:14:58,405 --> 00:15:01,105 But what would your advice be? 282 00:15:01,882 --> 00:15:06,122 So if you're already active in the gym and you have the idea of wanting to do a 283 00:15:06,122 --> 00:15:09,722 competition, the first thing you do is reach out to a competition coach, which 284 00:15:09,722 --> 00:15:13,102 we've gone over that before and we can go over that on a different podcast. 285 00:15:13,102 --> 00:15:16,102 But once you find a coach that you like working with and you feel comfortable 286 00:15:16,102 --> 00:15:20,242 with, you need to communicate with them and say, I wanna do a competition. 287 00:15:20,242 --> 00:15:22,122 This is my physique. 288 00:15:22,122 --> 00:15:25,122 You go over all of the numbers and information. 289 00:15:25,222 --> 00:15:30,682 But honestly, I feel like if you have... 290 00:15:30,682 --> 00:15:32,642 let's say 20 pounds to lose. 291 00:15:32,642 --> 00:15:36,662 Like in your guesstimating, of course, you never really know until you get like 292 00:15:36,662 --> 00:15:37,632 leaner and leaner and leaner. 293 00:15:37,632 --> 00:15:41,282 And that's also the tricky thing is you don't really know until you put yourself 294 00:15:41,282 --> 00:15:42,302 through the process. 295 00:15:42,302 --> 00:15:46,802 Because let's say you have 20, 25 pounds that you wanna knock off with, you know, 296 00:15:46,802 --> 00:15:50,162 looking at your height and looking at like the class you wanna do, you know, bikini. 297 00:15:50,162 --> 00:15:54,362 And so I would say, you know, give yourself time, you know, pick a show 298 00:15:54,362 --> 00:15:59,578 that's like 30 weeks out and then start prepping for the show. 299 00:15:59,578 --> 00:16:01,578 Give yourself a lot of time. 300 00:16:01,578 --> 00:16:06,538 Don't pick something that's gonna be crammed into like, 12 weeks and you've 301 00:16:06,538 --> 00:16:09,478 never done a show and you just wanna jump in. 302 00:16:09,558 --> 00:16:14,598 So give yourself time, work with your coach, and then as you go through like 303 00:16:14,598 --> 00:16:18,308 those 30 weeks and you get closer and closer, you allow your body to transform, 304 00:16:18,308 --> 00:16:19,398 to change. 305 00:16:19,458 --> 00:16:22,698 Because yeah, you've been going to the gym for a while now and yeah, you've been 306 00:16:22,698 --> 00:16:26,598 eating healthier and that's great, but it takes a little bit more discipline when 307 00:16:26,598 --> 00:16:27,866 you decide to do a prep. 308 00:16:27,866 --> 00:16:29,726 You know, you need to get used to prepping your food. 309 00:16:29,726 --> 00:16:33,946 You need to get used to like having a very structured gym regimen and get used to 310 00:16:33,946 --> 00:16:34,906 checking in every week. 311 00:16:34,906 --> 00:16:36,636 Most coaches will have you check in every week. 312 00:16:36,636 --> 00:16:40,246 Maybe some will do every two weeks, but when you do your check -ins, you want to 313 00:16:40,246 --> 00:16:43,686 allow yourself time to have your body change and transform. 314 00:16:43,686 --> 00:16:49,806 So I, I'd like to shoot for like 30, 25 weeks now. 315 00:16:49,806 --> 00:16:51,886 That's if you're a new competitor too. 316 00:16:51,886 --> 00:16:55,578 If you're a season, if you're, we're going to speak just on a new competitor. 317 00:16:55,578 --> 00:16:57,978 basis because if you're a season competitor, that might be a little 318 00:16:57,978 --> 00:16:58,218 different. 319 00:16:58,218 --> 00:16:59,568 You might have more lean muscle tissue. 320 00:16:59,568 --> 00:17:00,988 You might've already done an off season. 321 00:17:00,988 --> 00:17:04,498 There's a whole bunch of other things, but if you're a brand new competitor, you 322 00:17:04,498 --> 00:17:08,758 know, you need to trust the process of your coach, communicate with the process 323 00:17:08,758 --> 00:17:11,268 with your coach and your coach needs to communicate with you as well. 324 00:17:11,268 --> 00:17:14,358 So that's kind of where I would see. 325 00:17:14,558 --> 00:17:21,918 I, even with lifestyle clients, to lose weight does not need to take this 326 00:17:21,918 --> 00:17:23,738 astronomical amount of time. 327 00:17:23,738 --> 00:17:24,762 It, 328 00:17:24,762 --> 00:17:26,482 It just takes commitment. 329 00:17:26,482 --> 00:17:31,482 And that's really where I see across the board is if you wanna do a show and you 330 00:17:31,482 --> 00:17:36,222 need to lean out, which means you need to lose body fat, when you're on that journey 331 00:17:36,222 --> 00:17:40,562 week after week after week, prepping your food in the gym, training, your body's 332 00:17:40,562 --> 00:17:45,222 gonna transform, that's consistency, that's discipline, that's weight loss. 333 00:17:45,222 --> 00:17:49,172 And that also crosses over to a lifestyle client. 334 00:17:49,172 --> 00:17:53,658 If you want to lose weight and get ready for the summer and feel great in a bikini, 335 00:17:53,658 --> 00:17:54,738 You can do that. 336 00:17:54,738 --> 00:17:55,778 It's consistency. 337 00:17:55,778 --> 00:17:56,778 It's discipline. 338 00:17:56,778 --> 00:18:02,238 It's, it's what you do every week for X amount of weeks to get you to your goal. 339 00:18:02,798 --> 00:18:03,872 So, mm hmm. 340 00:18:03,872 --> 00:18:08,292 I think that's so like about like six, six months then sort of for somebody. 341 00:18:08,292 --> 00:18:11,432 I think it yeah, I think it starts with like where they're starting. 342 00:18:11,432 --> 00:18:17,752 Like if somebody, you know, you take I start with photos, you know, like and I 343 00:18:17,752 --> 00:18:21,072 might be on the phone with somebody and just like, hey, text me like a recent 344 00:18:21,072 --> 00:18:25,063 photo of yourself, a progress photo of yourself, because I think that's. 345 00:18:25,063 --> 00:18:26,823 Well, that's what you're being judged on. 346 00:18:26,823 --> 00:18:31,143 The judges are not asking you to submit your body fat percentage or what your 347 00:18:31,143 --> 00:18:32,813 weight is or anything like that. 348 00:18:32,813 --> 00:18:35,202 So I take a look at their physique. 349 00:18:35,202 --> 00:18:38,543 And that's a helpful way to decide how long. 350 00:18:38,543 --> 00:18:43,263 But I would never really have somebody shoot for a show that's outside of like 351 00:18:43,363 --> 00:18:47,683 eight months to a year, because I just think it's hard for people to stay 352 00:18:47,683 --> 00:18:48,973 motivated, stay excited. 353 00:18:48,973 --> 00:18:52,743 I think it's different if you've done a couple shows and then you go, OK, here's 354 00:18:52,743 --> 00:18:53,423 my feedback. 355 00:18:53,423 --> 00:18:54,889 I really need to build. 356 00:18:54,889 --> 00:18:57,759 and I'm going to do a year to two year improvement season. 357 00:18:57,759 --> 00:18:58,889 I think that's different. 358 00:18:58,889 --> 00:19:02,129 But for like your first competition, it's almost like you kind of got to get out 359 00:19:02,129 --> 00:19:03,369 there and see where you're at. 360 00:19:03,369 --> 00:19:07,699 And then sometimes we need to lose body fat to be able to see what's underneath. 361 00:19:07,699 --> 00:19:11,229 But I can typically look at someone's structure and go, OK, like it looks like 362 00:19:11,229 --> 00:19:14,229 they're need to build their upper body a little bit. 363 00:19:14,229 --> 00:19:18,089 And, you know, these are the areas that they hold on to body fat. 364 00:19:18,089 --> 00:19:21,865 And then I can sort of like almost like devise like. 365 00:19:21,865 --> 00:19:24,925 Like not like an off season build, but almost like a re -comp. 366 00:19:24,925 --> 00:19:30,165 So maybe they would be working on building some muscle while simultaneously losing 367 00:19:30,165 --> 00:19:34,405 body fat at a slow rate because you can't lose body fat at a rapid rate and like 368 00:19:34,405 --> 00:19:35,225 retain muscle. 369 00:19:35,225 --> 00:19:40,005 So, and then just we're working on habits, you know, we might get some heels and do 370 00:19:40,005 --> 00:19:41,925 some like intro posing. 371 00:19:42,115 --> 00:19:46,845 but like, that's not like the cutting phase really, but like initially they did 372 00:19:46,845 --> 00:19:47,965 come to me for weight loss. 373 00:19:47,965 --> 00:19:51,162 So I'm, I'm working on leaning them out. 374 00:19:51,162 --> 00:19:51,656 Mm -hmm. 375 00:19:51,656 --> 00:19:56,316 But I think that is for a first time competitor to have sort of like a goal in 376 00:19:56,316 --> 00:20:01,376 sight, like, you know, okay, if it's, you know, it's April, I'm going to shoot for 377 00:20:01,376 --> 00:20:03,716 November, you know, then they kind of can see. 378 00:20:03,716 --> 00:20:05,796 But if you're kind of like, well, we'll just know when we're ready. 379 00:20:05,796 --> 00:20:07,606 It's like, tacos. 380 00:20:07,606 --> 00:20:08,136 Okay, sure. 381 00:20:08,136 --> 00:20:09,306 Because I don't know when my show is. 382 00:20:09,306 --> 00:20:10,476 So, you know, whatever. 383 00:20:10,476 --> 00:20:12,476 And then you don't get anywhere really. 384 00:20:12,476 --> 00:20:16,448 So, you know, I think it's just different for everybody. 385 00:20:16,570 --> 00:20:19,660 And also that's another thing to start further away from a show. 386 00:20:19,660 --> 00:20:22,630 Like you said, if you take, let's say you started prep right now in April and you 387 00:20:22,630 --> 00:20:27,290 are aiming for November, well, let's, and this is a brand new client, let's see if 388 00:20:27,290 --> 00:20:30,270 we can give you a high amount of calories. 389 00:20:30,270 --> 00:20:34,630 Let's see if we can start you really high and really healthy and clean food with low 390 00:20:34,630 --> 00:20:35,080 cardio. 391 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:36,990 And let's see what the next two weeks happens. 392 00:20:36,990 --> 00:20:40,250 Cause what if, what if you have a client and you do that, you have really low 393 00:20:40,250 --> 00:20:40,640 cardio. 394 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:44,990 Let's say you're eating over 2000 calories and then you check in with your, you check 395 00:20:44,990 --> 00:20:46,010 in and then. 396 00:20:46,010 --> 00:20:47,370 you're dropping weight. 397 00:20:47,370 --> 00:20:48,380 well, you dropped weight again. 398 00:20:48,380 --> 00:20:49,330 You dropped weight again. 399 00:20:49,330 --> 00:20:53,130 Well, then that means we can coast, you know, the next so many weeks with very 400 00:20:53,130 --> 00:20:54,310 high calories. 401 00:20:54,310 --> 00:20:57,370 You just don't. 402 00:20:58,649 --> 00:21:03,730 And to be able to have the ability to start that high with calories and low with 403 00:21:03,730 --> 00:21:10,330 cardio and have, you know, 30 weeks, you could see you could do so much with that 404 00:21:10,330 --> 00:21:12,150 because you can feel so good. 405 00:21:12,150 --> 00:21:13,410 You can have so much energy. 406 00:21:13,410 --> 00:21:15,354 You can lift so much heavier. 407 00:21:15,354 --> 00:21:19,454 push yourself more, get better sleep, and then just keep going. 408 00:21:19,454 --> 00:21:25,654 And then as you slowly reduce the calories, it won't be as hard as a new 409 00:21:25,654 --> 00:21:28,054 athlete, because you will have the hunger cravings. 410 00:21:28,054 --> 00:21:29,294 You will have those moments. 411 00:21:29,294 --> 00:21:33,164 It won't be as hard on them necessarily. 412 00:21:33,164 --> 00:21:37,674 Everybody's different going into getting closer to the show. 413 00:21:37,674 --> 00:21:41,961 So that's also a really good point of why to start further out. 414 00:21:41,961 --> 00:21:45,681 And then if you're ready early, you know, that's a that's a good thing because 415 00:21:45,681 --> 00:21:46,631 things happen. 416 00:21:46,631 --> 00:21:50,141 We can't predict, you know, what's going to happen in your life. 417 00:21:50,141 --> 00:21:55,341 And, you know, things you could get sick and then we lose a week or, you know, a 418 00:21:55,341 --> 00:22:00,401 little, you know, injured like minor injury, little aches and pains or, you 419 00:22:00,401 --> 00:22:03,061 know, unexpected travel or, you know, whatever it might be. 420 00:22:03,061 --> 00:22:06,021 So those things we know we lose time. 421 00:22:06,248 --> 00:22:09,468 But I do find like in that first like three months, we're doing a lot of work on 422 00:22:09,468 --> 00:22:10,098 habits and stuff. 423 00:22:10,098 --> 00:22:11,288 So it's nice to have that time. 424 00:22:11,288 --> 00:22:14,808 But then if you've never been on stage before, it is nice to have the time for 425 00:22:14,808 --> 00:22:20,908 posing because that's such a huge piece of it and needing the right amount of time to 426 00:22:20,908 --> 00:22:26,708 like get ready to, you know, showcase your physique and know how to walk gracefully 427 00:22:26,708 --> 00:22:28,808 and all of that takes time. 428 00:22:28,808 --> 00:22:33,628 So I think a first time competitor like at minimum six months to get ready, but more 429 00:22:33,628 --> 00:22:35,273 time would be better because. 430 00:22:35,273 --> 00:22:39,853 Then also like, you know, a lot of girls get started and they might know like two 431 00:22:39,853 --> 00:22:41,373 or three people that compete. 432 00:22:41,373 --> 00:22:44,533 They get into this and they start following people and they're like, this 433 00:22:44,533 --> 00:22:48,373 person, look at her abs and all of her glutes and they're sizing everybody up and 434 00:22:48,373 --> 00:22:51,993 analyzing everybody and kind of like, then it starts to get like a little bit 435 00:22:51,993 --> 00:22:52,533 intimidating. 436 00:22:52,533 --> 00:22:58,633 And so, you know, they can sort of, you know, have fear about not having enough 437 00:22:58,633 --> 00:23:00,233 muscle and all these things. 438 00:23:00,233 --> 00:23:03,815 But, you know, I also like, I think show selection is important to like. 439 00:23:03,815 --> 00:23:08,695 I'm not going to put a first time competitor, you know, in a competition 440 00:23:08,695 --> 00:23:13,255 where I know that there's going to be it's going to be stacked like right before 441 00:23:13,255 --> 00:23:17,295 nationals, you know, at in a in a place where, you know, I know there's going to 442 00:23:17,295 --> 00:23:21,335 be a national level judge because a lot of people, that's their strategy is they go 443 00:23:21,335 --> 00:23:24,675 to these shows where they know they're going to find national level judges to get 444 00:23:24,675 --> 00:23:25,395 in front of. 445 00:23:25,395 --> 00:23:28,871 So, you know, I might choose a show that, you know, I know is like less. 446 00:23:28,871 --> 00:23:31,911 not say less competitive because you still have really competitive athletes 447 00:23:31,911 --> 00:23:36,831 everywhere, but just there's not going to be so many people that's not as scary and 448 00:23:36,831 --> 00:23:40,031 put them in the true novice class and like any other novice classes just to kind of 449 00:23:40,031 --> 00:23:40,951 get out there. 450 00:23:40,951 --> 00:23:43,791 And then, you know, and then see where they are. 451 00:23:43,791 --> 00:23:49,151 And I've had people that did their first show and, you know, ended up winning the 452 00:23:49,151 --> 00:23:49,691 whole thing. 453 00:23:49,691 --> 00:23:50,011 Right. 454 00:23:50,011 --> 00:23:51,881 And it's it's it happens. 455 00:23:51,881 --> 00:23:52,951 Right. 456 00:23:53,291 --> 00:23:54,201 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 457 00:23:54,201 --> 00:23:55,438 It happens all the time. 458 00:23:55,438 --> 00:24:00,818 Well, and that's also what's great about the NPC is that we have true novice and so 459 00:24:00,818 --> 00:24:05,438 the reassurance of knowing like You're so nervous about getting on stage for the 460 00:24:05,438 --> 00:24:05,928 first time. 461 00:24:05,928 --> 00:24:06,558 You're anxious. 462 00:24:06,558 --> 00:24:10,538 You're scared you you start getting in your head You know, like you said social 463 00:24:10,538 --> 00:24:14,658 media all this stuff You start really getting in your head at least like you 464 00:24:14,658 --> 00:24:18,458 know that when you go on stage for the very first time 465 00:24:18,458 --> 00:24:22,417 It is in a true novice category, as long as you're in the true novice category. 466 00:24:22,417 --> 00:24:27,898 And everybody that's on stage with you at that moment has never been on stage before 467 00:24:27,898 --> 00:24:28,578 either. 468 00:24:28,578 --> 00:24:30,718 And so you are not alone. 469 00:24:30,718 --> 00:24:36,178 And I love that we have that reassurance now because they can relate and they can 470 00:24:36,178 --> 00:24:38,038 be backstage and get to chatting. 471 00:24:38,038 --> 00:24:40,938 Like all the girlies are always so nice to each other backstage. 472 00:24:40,938 --> 00:24:44,218 Like they'll be in line and they'll just be like fixing each other's suits. 473 00:24:44,218 --> 00:24:47,998 talking about their kids, they'll just be like supporting one another and cheering 474 00:24:47,998 --> 00:24:48,788 each other on. 475 00:24:48,788 --> 00:24:50,228 So you're never alone. 476 00:24:50,228 --> 00:24:55,878 And that's what like, I love about this sport is like, it's so insane to think 477 00:24:55,878 --> 00:24:59,258 about how it's so much about our bodies and how we have to take care of ourselves 478 00:24:59,258 --> 00:25:00,398 and make ourselves look. 479 00:25:00,398 --> 00:25:04,718 But yeah, it's like so selfless too, because like the community, you just wanna 480 00:25:04,718 --> 00:25:09,178 give back and help others, especially when you're backstage, everybody sharing rice 481 00:25:09,178 --> 00:25:09,920 cakes. 482 00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:14,580 realizes that like once you're there, like the judges decide, you know, who the 483 00:25:14,580 --> 00:25:17,720 winner is and it doesn't help to be like, I mean, you're going to, we've talked 484 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,820 about this before, but like, you're going to have people that are not very friendly. 485 00:25:20,820 --> 00:25:23,520 but like typically, you know, you get to know the people in your class cause you're 486 00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:24,900 standing back there like with them. 487 00:25:24,900 --> 00:25:28,560 It's like, so, you know, you're going to start to buy. 488 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:31,690 I mean, I've made so many great friends backstage cause you're just sort of like, 489 00:25:31,690 --> 00:25:32,840 those are your people for the day. 490 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:37,060 Even if you're there with teammates and stuff, like you're with, you know, other 491 00:25:37,060 --> 00:25:38,473 people in your high class and. 492 00:25:38,473 --> 00:25:41,033 Sometimes you see them a couple of times because you're in different classes 493 00:25:41,033 --> 00:25:41,453 together. 494 00:25:41,453 --> 00:25:45,243 And so it is so cool that like most of us have had that experience. 495 00:25:45,243 --> 00:25:49,233 A lot of our athletes that we coach like make friends and I can see that they, you 496 00:25:49,233 --> 00:25:51,903 know, stay connected with other athletes that they've met at shows. 497 00:25:51,903 --> 00:25:55,753 And I think that's like a beautiful thing you don't expect really from from your 498 00:25:55,753 --> 00:25:56,953 show day. 499 00:25:57,413 --> 00:25:58,890 Yeah. 500 00:25:58,890 --> 00:26:03,870 you know, going back to show selection because, you know, again, we spoke about 501 00:26:03,870 --> 00:26:08,030 this, but you never have to feel pressure to register for a show. 502 00:26:08,030 --> 00:26:13,790 You know, pick a few shows or one show that you're thinking about doing. 503 00:26:13,790 --> 00:26:15,790 I recommend doing it in your area. 504 00:26:15,790 --> 00:26:19,710 Like try to get something close to home, you know, especially for your first time. 505 00:26:19,710 --> 00:26:25,490 If you are getting ready for that show, pay attention to whenever that late fee 506 00:26:25,490 --> 00:26:26,266 starts. 507 00:26:26,266 --> 00:26:30,225 you know, that cutoff because like you said, what if you do get sick? 508 00:26:30,225 --> 00:26:32,206 Okay, you get a cold and it knocks you back a week. 509 00:26:32,206 --> 00:26:37,586 Well, what if you get like a cold and then the flu and then something happens and 510 00:26:37,586 --> 00:26:41,486 something happens and you're knocked back four weeks and you're not able to keep 511 00:26:41,486 --> 00:26:45,466 food down or the opposite, like you just don't know. 512 00:26:45,466 --> 00:26:50,246 And so let's say something happens, you're not obligated to those shows by any means 513 00:26:50,246 --> 00:26:53,086 unless you've already registered and paid for them. 514 00:26:53,106 --> 00:26:53,626 So. 515 00:26:53,626 --> 00:26:57,426 If you have those shows in mind, but something happens, well, then you can 516 00:26:57,426 --> 00:27:00,666 speak with your coach and you guys can work together and you can pick a show 517 00:27:00,666 --> 00:27:02,586 that's further out. 518 00:27:02,586 --> 00:27:04,906 There's nothing wrong with that. 519 00:27:04,906 --> 00:27:10,926 Cause I've seen where, especially on social media, people will come out the 520 00:27:10,926 --> 00:27:13,586 gate and say like, this is the show I'm doing in 20 weeks. 521 00:27:13,586 --> 00:27:14,596 That's great. 522 00:27:14,596 --> 00:27:19,286 And that's awesome that you want to share your prep journey on social media, but 523 00:27:19,286 --> 00:27:22,170 something happens and you have to push it out. 524 00:27:22,170 --> 00:27:23,270 It's okay. 525 00:27:23,270 --> 00:27:28,620 Like it is totally okay to be like, if you wanna announce it on social media, great, 526 00:27:28,620 --> 00:27:30,090 that's your platform. 527 00:27:30,090 --> 00:27:33,870 But if you need to push that out for yourself, like you need to have that, you 528 00:27:33,870 --> 00:27:38,670 need to swallow that hard pill and like push it out for yourself and you know, 529 00:27:38,670 --> 00:27:39,350 just own it. 530 00:27:39,350 --> 00:27:40,190 And that's okay. 531 00:27:40,190 --> 00:27:41,480 Just like the opposite. 532 00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:46,170 What if you are ready early and you're just like coasting through prep and under 533 00:27:46,170 --> 00:27:50,330 all of, you know, that fat was like awesome delts and you have like your. 534 00:27:50,330 --> 00:27:53,360 glutes popping, well let's hop in a show and see what we do. 535 00:27:53,360 --> 00:27:55,730 Well then you hop in a show early. 536 00:27:55,730 --> 00:28:00,110 Just pay mind to the registrations because you don't wanna get hit with that late 537 00:28:00,110 --> 00:28:00,974 fee, but. 538 00:28:00,974 --> 00:28:03,864 I mean, I wouldn't leave it to like the very last minute, but like sometimes 539 00:28:03,864 --> 00:28:08,694 people will like register like, you know, 16 weeks out because then they feel like, 540 00:28:08,694 --> 00:28:11,594 well, I'll definitely do it if I register at 16 weeks out. 541 00:28:11,594 --> 00:28:16,184 Like, what if you're, you know, your body might not cooperate like you could have 542 00:28:16,184 --> 00:28:20,024 something come up like if you need that to stay accountable and maybe you need to 543 00:28:20,024 --> 00:28:20,864 pick a different sport. 544 00:28:20,864 --> 00:28:25,964 But, you know, you don't get that money back if you don't show up. 545 00:28:25,964 --> 00:28:29,227 So so, yeah, I think like, you know, 546 00:28:29,227 --> 00:28:34,427 about a month out is like for some, I mean, the show that I'm doing in DC, I 547 00:28:34,427 --> 00:28:38,547 think that you can register up until like 72 hours prior online. 548 00:28:38,547 --> 00:28:39,979 And then. 549 00:28:39,979 --> 00:28:43,399 But a lot of promoters, it's usually like, you know, two to four weeks out is like 550 00:28:43,399 --> 00:28:44,279 their deadline. 551 00:28:44,279 --> 00:28:48,739 So, you know, just make sure like once you kind of got an idea and things are 552 00:28:48,739 --> 00:28:52,439 coasting along, talk to your coach and go, OK, like, are we are we in a place now 553 00:28:52,439 --> 00:28:54,599 where we can, you know, set a show date? 554 00:28:54,599 --> 00:28:58,139 And usually they can because if they've gotten to know your metabolism and they've 555 00:28:58,139 --> 00:29:02,099 seen your work ethic and how you're progressing and it's sort of looking like, 556 00:29:02,099 --> 00:29:05,739 you know, OK, like we could be, you know, we could be about three months out right 557 00:29:05,739 --> 00:29:06,439 now. 558 00:29:06,439 --> 00:29:09,886 Like a really good coach should be able to tell based on kind of how you're doing. 559 00:29:09,886 --> 00:29:15,026 and how you're looking, and then sort of toss around some ideas as far as shows. 560 00:29:15,946 --> 00:29:22,446 But sort of like shifting gears on this topic a little bit, what do you do if 561 00:29:22,446 --> 00:29:23,726 you're not ready? 562 00:29:23,726 --> 00:29:30,206 And you have committed to a show, you've been in prep, you're two to four weeks 563 00:29:30,206 --> 00:29:33,460 out, and you're not gonna be ready. 564 00:29:34,330 --> 00:29:35,930 a few things. 565 00:29:37,230 --> 00:29:40,150 I was like, I'm going first. 566 00:29:40,970 --> 00:29:42,680 Okay, well, a few things. 567 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:46,350 So one, from a financial standpoint, if you aren't gonna be ready for that show 568 00:29:46,350 --> 00:29:49,750 and you've already registered for it, contact the promoter immediately and see 569 00:29:49,750 --> 00:29:51,550 if you can move your registration. 570 00:29:52,698 --> 00:29:55,078 Some promoters won't let you, some will have rules regulation. 571 00:29:55,078 --> 00:29:57,698 You might be out that money and you just have to swallow that. 572 00:29:57,698 --> 00:30:00,098 Some promoters may allow you to move to a different show. 573 00:30:00,098 --> 00:30:02,798 So do that financially first. 574 00:30:02,798 --> 00:30:06,678 Communicate with your coach and if you and your coach agree that you are not ready, 575 00:30:06,678 --> 00:30:09,858 then you need to figure out why aren't you ready? 576 00:30:09,858 --> 00:30:14,378 Like what's, are you not ready because your body is plateauing? 577 00:30:14,478 --> 00:30:15,802 Is it? 578 00:30:15,802 --> 00:30:20,702 stagnant to where you're not progressing, you're not losing weight, you're not 579 00:30:20,702 --> 00:30:23,102 leaning out enough, like what's going on? 580 00:30:23,102 --> 00:30:28,262 Are you not ready because you, you know, didn't do your diet? 581 00:30:28,262 --> 00:30:30,682 Well, that's kind of on you. 582 00:30:30,682 --> 00:30:34,762 So there's a few different ways to go about that, but I would say if you're not 583 00:30:34,762 --> 00:30:39,702 ready, contact the promoter, pick a further out show, see if you need, instead 584 00:30:39,702 --> 00:30:42,962 of like two, three weeks, maybe you need eight, 10 weeks. 585 00:30:42,962 --> 00:30:45,626 Okay, if it's like a leaning out problem. 586 00:30:45,626 --> 00:30:49,446 But that's something that you and your coach would have to go over. 587 00:30:49,446 --> 00:30:52,606 So that's kind of where I would start. 588 00:30:52,606 --> 00:30:53,416 What about you? 589 00:30:53,416 --> 00:30:54,626 Your turn. 590 00:30:54,826 --> 00:30:57,966 So there's two ways to answer this question. 591 00:30:58,266 --> 00:31:06,046 Are you not ready because your physique is not going to be lean enough or the right 592 00:31:06,046 --> 00:31:10,926 condition for stage things have slowed down, things have plateaued, we're not 593 00:31:10,926 --> 00:31:12,026 seeing progress? 594 00:31:12,026 --> 00:31:17,086 Or do you think you're not ready because you don't have accurate and realistic 595 00:31:17,086 --> 00:31:19,546 expectations of how you should look? 596 00:31:19,596 --> 00:31:25,496 because I think the latter happens more often where somebody is comparing 597 00:31:25,496 --> 00:31:32,036 themselves to the New York pro or the Olympia or nationals and they are a first 598 00:31:32,036 --> 00:31:37,476 time competitor and they're like, well, this is what I'm seeing is winning. 599 00:31:37,476 --> 00:31:39,296 I don't look like that. 600 00:31:39,296 --> 00:31:41,556 So I shouldn't be getting on stage. 601 00:31:41,556 --> 00:31:46,347 There's so many parts to that that I could dive into like a. 602 00:31:46,347 --> 00:31:50,597 You'd look way different on stage than you do at home in your house. 603 00:31:50,597 --> 00:31:52,807 And at four weeks out, you look way different. 604 00:31:52,807 --> 00:31:56,047 All the magic sort of like comes together on that day. 605 00:31:56,047 --> 00:31:59,227 And you get up there with the tan, the suit and the lights and the peak week and 606 00:31:59,227 --> 00:31:59,507 everything. 607 00:31:59,507 --> 00:32:02,287 And you look completely you won't even recognize yourself. 608 00:32:02,287 --> 00:32:03,467 So there's that. 609 00:32:03,467 --> 00:32:07,587 But also, like, you don't need to look like that. 610 00:32:07,587 --> 00:32:10,047 Like you need to look like the best version of you. 611 00:32:10,047 --> 00:32:14,027 You're not going to be getting up on stage at your very first competition and 612 00:32:14,027 --> 00:32:16,754 competing with the likes of Lorelei Chapados and 613 00:32:16,754 --> 00:32:23,874 Delgado, you know, Nicole Johnson, you know, all these established IFBB pros like 614 00:32:23,874 --> 00:32:25,824 that's for later and you'll get there. 615 00:32:25,824 --> 00:32:27,374 You know, if you keep going, you'll get there. 616 00:32:27,374 --> 00:32:29,874 But for right now, that doesn't matter. 617 00:32:29,874 --> 00:32:34,174 Also, it's really hard to assess your physique by yourself in your house. 618 00:32:34,174 --> 00:32:36,014 We're not standing next to anybody. 619 00:32:36,014 --> 00:32:37,744 You're in your dark basement. 620 00:32:37,744 --> 00:32:38,754 You got no tan. 621 00:32:38,754 --> 00:32:42,404 You probably got your hair and a pineapple on top of your head and like, you know, 622 00:32:42,404 --> 00:32:43,954 your eyelashes looking like this. 623 00:32:43,954 --> 00:32:46,158 Like you're not you're not supposed to look show ready. 624 00:32:46,158 --> 00:32:47,118 today. 625 00:32:47,118 --> 00:32:53,438 So if you trust your coach and you say, Hey, I just I'm looking, I'm going, I 626 00:32:53,438 --> 00:32:54,318 don't know. 627 00:32:54,318 --> 00:32:56,598 That coach should say, we're going to be great. 628 00:32:56,598 --> 00:32:58,818 Like here's the here's the what I see. 629 00:32:58,818 --> 00:33:00,248 Here's what we still need to do. 630 00:33:00,248 --> 00:33:02,458 We've got time, you're going to be ready. 631 00:33:02,458 --> 00:33:05,918 And you go, okay, you know, you just got to put it in their hands and trust them. 632 00:33:05,918 --> 00:33:11,212 But I've seen people wig out, freak out, back out of shows. 633 00:33:11,212 --> 00:33:15,132 because they're like, well, I don't look like this and they just they're so in 634 00:33:15,132 --> 00:33:15,952 their head about it. 635 00:33:15,952 --> 00:33:18,492 So I think that's a huge problem. 636 00:33:18,492 --> 00:33:21,932 Like when I first started competing, we didn't have social media. 637 00:33:21,932 --> 00:33:23,552 We didn't have great coverage of shows. 638 00:33:23,552 --> 00:33:28,312 You used to have to wait like six months for that NPC magazine to come to your 639 00:33:28,312 --> 00:33:29,242 house. 640 00:33:29,242 --> 00:33:29,772 Mm -hmm. 641 00:33:29,772 --> 00:33:34,032 to see your show and like if you were in the top five, you would be in a picture, 642 00:33:34,032 --> 00:33:35,932 but if you weren't, your name was there. 643 00:33:35,932 --> 00:33:38,772 Like we didn't have all the resources that we have now. 644 00:33:38,772 --> 00:33:44,532 So it was kind of nice because you just kind of, I don't know, you were like, mm 645 00:33:44,532 --> 00:33:44,962 -hmm. 646 00:33:44,962 --> 00:33:51,602 the amount of pictures, like all the pictures that you see on social media, 647 00:33:51,602 --> 00:33:52,042 it's nuts. 648 00:33:52,042 --> 00:33:55,422 Cause you even look at like, I'll even use myself for example, like the way that I 649 00:33:55,422 --> 00:33:58,402 look on social media, the way my pictures look, you never know anybody's backstory 650 00:33:58,402 --> 00:33:59,142 for one. 651 00:33:59,142 --> 00:34:00,712 You don't know how long have they been training? 652 00:34:00,712 --> 00:34:01,792 How long have they been weightlifting? 653 00:34:01,792 --> 00:34:04,698 How long have, you know, what have they gone through? 654 00:34:04,698 --> 00:34:06,668 Also, you don't know if their photos are edited. 655 00:34:06,668 --> 00:34:08,318 You don't know if the lighting is perfect. 656 00:34:08,318 --> 00:34:11,758 And that's just if you're on Instagram and you see somebody has abs that's competing 657 00:34:11,758 --> 00:34:15,738 at the same show you're competing at and you don't have abs. 658 00:34:15,738 --> 00:34:18,838 And like you said, you wig out, like that's not real. 659 00:34:18,838 --> 00:34:20,878 Like you can't do that. 660 00:34:20,878 --> 00:34:26,898 And I remember when I was coming up, the only, we had Instagram, we could see 661 00:34:26,898 --> 00:34:28,698 pictures, but. 662 00:34:28,698 --> 00:34:30,918 There was no live, there was no videos. 663 00:34:30,918 --> 00:34:31,968 There was no live coverage like that. 664 00:34:31,968 --> 00:34:36,178 The only person that had videos was Dana Lynn Bailey and like she was just 665 00:34:36,178 --> 00:34:37,278 incredible. 666 00:34:37,418 --> 00:34:38,728 But she did a lot of that herself. 667 00:34:38,728 --> 00:34:40,268 There wasn't like coverage of shows. 668 00:34:40,268 --> 00:34:42,728 And then obviously it came later. 669 00:34:42,728 --> 00:34:50,298 But when you look at pros and when I do posing with a lot of girls, we talk about 670 00:34:50,298 --> 00:34:53,478 this because they will flail their arms. 671 00:34:53,478 --> 00:34:57,188 They will do a lot of more foot movement than they need to. 672 00:34:57,188 --> 00:34:58,610 And it's like, no. 673 00:34:58,841 --> 00:34:59,691 Don't do that. 674 00:34:59,691 --> 00:35:04,501 And it's what they see online because that's what the pros are doing and the 675 00:35:04,501 --> 00:35:08,021 pros are taking that long and the pros are maybe it's like, you will get there. 676 00:35:08,021 --> 00:35:09,141 It will come in time. 677 00:35:09,141 --> 00:35:10,171 You will stay diligent. 678 00:35:10,171 --> 00:35:12,591 You will keep going on your journey. 679 00:35:12,591 --> 00:35:17,341 But right now, what you need to do is hit your front pose really good, hit your back 680 00:35:17,341 --> 00:35:21,781 pose really good, go back to your front pose and walk away. 681 00:35:21,781 --> 00:35:24,361 And that's as good as it needs to be. 682 00:35:24,361 --> 00:35:27,027 And do not let, eat them. 683 00:35:27,027 --> 00:35:28,607 and listen to your coach. 684 00:35:28,607 --> 00:35:31,403 Because the worst thing you can do is just, you know. 685 00:35:31,403 --> 00:35:36,783 look too much into photos and videos and then psych yourself out and make yourself 686 00:35:36,783 --> 00:35:38,203 so nervous. 687 00:35:38,263 --> 00:35:41,863 Everybody starts somewhere, so you got to start, right? 688 00:35:41,863 --> 00:35:45,523 So you've got to get out there, but you just don't know until you get out there. 689 00:35:45,523 --> 00:35:50,603 And you could miss out on a great opportunity because you just decided that 690 00:35:50,603 --> 00:35:53,063 you thought that you weren't ready. 691 00:35:53,063 --> 00:35:56,743 I think it's different if you have competed before and you can assess your 692 00:35:56,743 --> 00:35:58,643 physique and go, I'm not where I need to be. 693 00:35:58,643 --> 00:36:01,546 But it's very different if you 694 00:36:01,546 --> 00:36:05,726 You know, if you're being overly critical as an experienced competitor or body 695 00:36:05,726 --> 00:36:10,626 dysmorphia, because that happens to all of us that can play a role as well. 696 00:36:10,626 --> 00:36:12,026 You want to feel comfortable. 697 00:36:12,026 --> 00:36:15,186 So like I have had where somebody is like, I just don't feel comfortable and there's 698 00:36:15,186 --> 00:36:19,356 just nothing I can say or do to help them to see how good they look. 699 00:36:19,356 --> 00:36:23,586 And I do realize that they just might need more time mentally, even though I know 700 00:36:23,586 --> 00:36:27,846 physically we're there, like we're ready, but they're just like, there's just no 701 00:36:27,846 --> 00:36:28,186 way. 702 00:36:28,186 --> 00:36:29,386 Like I don't feel ready. 703 00:36:29,386 --> 00:36:31,500 And for whatever reason in their mind and other 704 00:36:31,500 --> 00:36:35,120 four to six weeks of prep will make them feel more prepared and more comfortable 705 00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:38,620 because you can see it all over somebody's body language when they aren't 706 00:36:38,620 --> 00:36:39,160 comfortable. 707 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:40,630 Like their posing looks awkward. 708 00:36:40,630 --> 00:36:42,460 They just want to get the hell out of there. 709 00:36:42,460 --> 00:36:46,060 They don't look comfortable on stage and it just doesn't showcase the most 710 00:36:46,060 --> 00:36:47,940 beautiful physique when you're posing like that. 711 00:36:47,940 --> 00:36:50,460 So you've got to feel comfortable and ready. 712 00:36:50,460 --> 00:36:53,390 But you know, I don't know that anybody ever feels ready. 713 00:36:53,390 --> 00:36:57,830 I think even, you know, I think when you get there, you go, okay, I'm ready. 714 00:36:57,830 --> 00:36:59,530 But like, you know, 715 00:36:59,530 --> 00:37:04,210 I mean, even at this point, I'm two and a half weeks out and I'm just like, yeah, 716 00:37:04,210 --> 00:37:05,890 you know, like I feel ready. 717 00:37:05,890 --> 00:37:08,710 But but, you know, I I'm just. 718 00:37:08,710 --> 00:37:11,500 how many shows you've done, look how many years you've done it. 719 00:37:11,500 --> 00:37:13,560 It's the same thing with me last week. 720 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:17,150 It's like, you know, I felt horrible. 721 00:37:17,150 --> 00:37:19,400 Like you feel not great today. 722 00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:23,530 And it's like, we have to step on stage in a bikini in two and a half weeks. 723 00:37:23,530 --> 00:37:27,930 And it's like, you know, you just always gotta remember that you're not like alone 724 00:37:27,930 --> 00:37:28,740 in your thoughts. 725 00:37:28,740 --> 00:37:33,690 You know, like that's another big one is like, if you're on this journey and you're 726 00:37:33,690 --> 00:37:34,874 getting ready for a show, 727 00:37:34,874 --> 00:37:38,793 and you start like, I don't look good, I don't feel good, I don't feel comfortable. 728 00:37:38,793 --> 00:37:43,034 It's like the one thing social media is good for is you aren't alone. 729 00:37:43,034 --> 00:37:49,714 Like send some DMs, like reach out, like communicate, make a community, you know, 730 00:37:49,714 --> 00:37:52,414 reach out into your gym and like find other girls. 731 00:37:52,414 --> 00:37:56,114 Like I love my gym in the morning so much because of that. 732 00:37:56,114 --> 00:38:01,074 Like it's, you know, you have this camaraderie, whether they're prepping or 733 00:38:01,074 --> 00:38:04,122 not, but like you aren't alone. 734 00:38:04,122 --> 00:38:07,642 and you aren't the only one that's tired and you're not the only one that may have 735 00:38:07,642 --> 00:38:10,942 digestion issues or be really scared and really nervous. 736 00:38:10,942 --> 00:38:16,322 Send some DMs and get to talking to some people and realize it will be okay. 737 00:38:16,322 --> 00:38:16,952 It will be okay. 738 00:38:16,952 --> 00:38:19,817 We're all gonna go on stage and it will be okay. 739 00:38:19,817 --> 00:38:24,537 Yeah, and I think if you can take anything away from this podcast today, just like 740 00:38:24,537 --> 00:38:29,737 know that like emotions are like, you know, they're all over the place in prep. 741 00:38:29,737 --> 00:38:31,437 So you could be feeling amazing. 742 00:38:31,437 --> 00:38:34,517 And then five minutes later, you feel like a bag of shit. 743 00:38:34,517 --> 00:38:37,157 And then like the next hour, you feel great. 744 00:38:37,157 --> 00:38:39,996 I mean, and that's just part of it, you know, so. 745 00:38:39,996 --> 00:38:41,316 It's like, I'm alive, I'm dead. 746 00:38:41,316 --> 00:38:41,726 I'm alive. 747 00:38:41,726 --> 00:38:43,226 What is that from? 748 00:38:43,346 --> 00:38:44,466 What is that? 749 00:38:44,466 --> 00:38:45,506 my gosh. 750 00:38:46,086 --> 00:38:46,810 It is. 751 00:38:46,810 --> 00:38:50,270 it, which you wouldn't know if you've never done this before, but yeah. 752 00:38:50,270 --> 00:38:50,760 somewhere. 753 00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:52,530 And there's a bunch of reels that use it. 754 00:38:52,530 --> 00:38:53,860 It's like, I'm alive, I'm dead. 755 00:38:53,860 --> 00:38:55,130 I'm alive, I'm dead. 756 00:38:55,130 --> 00:38:56,745 It's like... 757 00:38:56,745 --> 00:39:00,345 minute these days, which is like all part of it, which I mean, if you talk to your 758 00:39:00,345 --> 00:39:03,125 coach, they're going to tell you like, this is normal, you know. 759 00:39:03,125 --> 00:39:07,785 But, you know, I think journaling is great, too, because I've kept so many 760 00:39:07,785 --> 00:39:11,245 journals like I had to even look back today and be like, when did I get my 761 00:39:11,245 --> 00:39:13,185 period in my prep in 2021? 762 00:39:13,185 --> 00:39:17,125 And I'm going through the archives in my phone and I'm like, OK, I actually weighed 763 00:39:17,125 --> 00:39:19,085 more than OK, I'm good. 764 00:39:19,085 --> 00:39:21,155 Like, fricking it. 765 00:39:21,155 --> 00:39:24,505 You have to just kind of make yourself feel better. 766 00:39:24,530 --> 00:39:28,770 I set goals like all the time and I'll write them down and I have books like you 767 00:39:28,770 --> 00:39:29,030 do. 768 00:39:29,030 --> 00:39:30,330 I don't journal. 769 00:39:30,330 --> 00:39:32,830 It's not for me, but goal setting is for me. 770 00:39:32,830 --> 00:39:35,090 Like writing my numbers down, tracking stuff. 771 00:39:35,090 --> 00:39:35,890 I love that. 772 00:39:35,890 --> 00:39:40,790 And when I accepted my sponsorship with Toxic Angel... 773 00:39:40,790 --> 00:39:41,820 what year was it? 774 00:39:41,820 --> 00:39:42,350 I had... 775 00:39:42,350 --> 00:39:44,450 It was like 2019. 776 00:39:44,450 --> 00:39:47,350 I had wrote down become a sponsored athlete. 777 00:39:47,550 --> 00:39:49,210 And now, yeah. 778 00:39:49,210 --> 00:39:52,690 I had like, you know how you divide your goals, like financial goals, fitness 779 00:39:52,690 --> 00:39:54,090 goals, stuff like that. 780 00:39:54,090 --> 00:39:58,070 And that was like, it was, I can't, of course it's in one of my notebooks, but it 781 00:39:58,070 --> 00:40:00,260 was like, it was 2019 or 2020. 782 00:40:00,260 --> 00:40:04,970 It was probably 2020 because I remember I started a prep and stopped because of 783 00:40:04,970 --> 00:40:06,430 COVID and then started. 784 00:40:06,770 --> 00:40:12,126 But yeah, and I like look back at that and I'm like, it's 2024. 785 00:40:12,126 --> 00:40:17,326 Have you ever heard of Steve Harvey's 100 list? 786 00:40:18,586 --> 00:40:21,206 No, no I haven't. 787 00:40:21,306 --> 00:40:24,240 Yeah, yeah, that's why I was trying to think if I heard of him talk. 788 00:40:24,240 --> 00:40:27,678 and he's like somewhat religious, but. 789 00:40:27,678 --> 00:40:28,178 -hmm. 790 00:40:28,214 --> 00:40:35,054 it's like you can find it on YouTube, but he he says you do not receive because you 791 00:40:35,054 --> 00:40:36,234 do not ask. 792 00:40:36,234 --> 00:40:43,614 And so his whole idea is write a list of 100 things that you want to achieve, that 793 00:40:43,614 --> 00:40:48,034 you want items, just things, anything, 100 things. 794 00:40:48,034 --> 00:40:51,214 And at first it kind of starts out with like, I'd like to take my whole family to 795 00:40:51,214 --> 00:40:53,674 Paris and like, you know, all these things. 796 00:40:53,674 --> 00:40:55,974 But they can be like little tiny things. 797 00:40:55,974 --> 00:40:57,548 And the exercise 798 00:40:57,548 --> 00:41:01,748 just like helps you to be like grateful because it might be like I want to have an 799 00:41:01,748 --> 00:41:06,628 amazing Memorial Day with my family on Monday and then you get to tick it off and 800 00:41:06,628 --> 00:41:07,114 then. 801 00:41:07,114 --> 00:41:09,224 It but it is but and they could be big things. 802 00:41:09,224 --> 00:41:11,424 They can be small things like I want to be a sponsored athlete. 803 00:41:11,424 --> 00:41:14,934 I want to win a pro card, you know, whatever it might be and along the way 804 00:41:14,934 --> 00:41:18,254 while you're working towards these big things, you're ticking off little things 805 00:41:18,254 --> 00:41:24,034 like, you know, I hope my daughter makes level three senior team in two weeks, you 806 00:41:24,034 --> 00:41:25,054 know, like whatever it might be. 807 00:41:25,054 --> 00:41:27,254 And then when it does like I'm like, we did that. 808 00:41:27,254 --> 00:41:27,694 we did that. 809 00:41:27,694 --> 00:41:32,234 And it helps you to like really see all the wonderful things that are happening 810 00:41:32,234 --> 00:41:35,914 because if you just say here's my three goals, I want to be an IFB pro and I want 811 00:41:35,914 --> 00:41:36,458 to. 812 00:41:36,458 --> 00:41:40,618 you know, coach a million women to lose 100 pounds and like whatever it might be. 813 00:41:40,618 --> 00:41:41,038 Right. 814 00:41:41,038 --> 00:41:44,018 Then you missing like all the little things, you know. 815 00:41:44,018 --> 00:41:49,458 But also it's OK to like ask for some of these like things to come into your life. 816 00:41:49,458 --> 00:41:49,708 Right. 817 00:41:49,708 --> 00:41:53,538 So that just made me think about that, because I remember like in high school we 818 00:41:53,538 --> 00:41:54,228 did that. 819 00:41:54,228 --> 00:41:56,498 And I don't think it was based on Steve Harvey. 820 00:41:56,498 --> 00:41:58,498 My gym teacher made us write this list. 821 00:41:58,498 --> 00:42:00,798 And I like I think there was like 50 things on it. 822 00:42:00,798 --> 00:42:04,878 I folded it up and I stuck it in an envelope and I taped it under a drawer in 823 00:42:04,878 --> 00:42:05,458 my dresser. 824 00:42:05,458 --> 00:42:06,427 And the last time I went. 825 00:42:06,427 --> 00:42:10,287 back to Canada, I opened it and I had accomplished like half of the things on 826 00:42:10,287 --> 00:42:11,407 that list. 827 00:42:11,727 --> 00:42:16,247 And it's like in my like high school printing on like lined paper that had aged 828 00:42:16,247 --> 00:42:18,107 because I'm 100 years old. 829 00:42:18,107 --> 00:42:21,947 And this was back in the dinosaur times when we wrote with. 830 00:42:23,047 --> 00:42:25,557 We wrote on stones with sticks. 831 00:42:25,557 --> 00:42:26,647 No, I'm kidding. 832 00:42:26,667 --> 00:42:31,113 But it was like, you know, be in a magazine, be a fitness coach. 833 00:42:31,113 --> 00:42:35,093 have a boy and a girl, which I think back on high school and I don't remember 834 00:42:35,093 --> 00:42:36,513 thinking that, but I did. 835 00:42:36,513 --> 00:42:39,613 And I'm like, my God, tick, tick, tick, like all these things. 836 00:42:39,613 --> 00:42:42,063 So I think that's such a powerful exercise. 837 00:42:42,063 --> 00:42:45,933 So sometimes like some of that, like, you know, hippie, dippy stuff helps you get 838 00:42:45,933 --> 00:42:49,353 through prep when you're like in this place of just like, I'm a hot fricking 839 00:42:49,353 --> 00:42:53,113 mess and I'm so tired and I don't, I felt really skinny this morning and now I feel 840 00:42:53,113 --> 00:42:54,313 like a busted can of biscuits. 841 00:42:54,313 --> 00:42:55,533 Like, can I get it? 842 00:42:55,533 --> 00:42:56,463 Can I get on stage? 843 00:42:56,463 --> 00:42:58,193 You know, where you're a hot freaking mess. 844 00:42:58,193 --> 00:43:00,297 I think the sport sort of draws. 845 00:43:00,297 --> 00:43:03,237 people that have these big crazy goals anyways. 846 00:43:03,237 --> 00:43:05,217 So, you know, it's going to be a journey. 847 00:43:05,217 --> 00:43:11,557 But I also think if you don't do big scary things in life, like, are you living like 848 00:43:11,557 --> 00:43:14,057 if your life is so comfy? 849 00:43:14,057 --> 00:43:16,907 But some people are good with that. 850 00:43:16,907 --> 00:43:19,897 Some people are great with the sort of the day to day. 851 00:43:19,897 --> 00:43:23,837 And, you know, they they live in the same neighborhood that they grew up in and 852 00:43:23,837 --> 00:43:26,217 they're super happy and content. 853 00:43:26,217 --> 00:43:26,474 But. 854 00:43:26,474 --> 00:43:29,494 You know, a lot of people, they're they're always unsettled unless they're doing 855 00:43:29,494 --> 00:43:31,254 something and they're working towards something. 856 00:43:31,254 --> 00:43:35,414 So just understand that like this is a big goal and it's going to have its 857 00:43:35,414 --> 00:43:37,324 challenges, but it's going to be so worth it. 858 00:43:37,324 --> 00:43:42,114 You know, and you might think there's just not even a snowflakes chance in hell that 859 00:43:42,114 --> 00:43:43,254 I'm going to be ready in four weeks. 860 00:43:43,254 --> 00:43:46,554 And you get up there and you do it and you're like, I don't to think I almost 861 00:43:46,554 --> 00:43:50,770 didn't do this because I didn't think that I was ready, you know, so just go for it. 862 00:43:50,770 --> 00:43:56,510 you walk away from it too, is you get on that stage and you're scared, you're 863 00:43:56,510 --> 00:43:59,190 nervous, you feel like you weren't ready, you feel all these things, but when you're 864 00:43:59,190 --> 00:44:02,460 there, man, it's just amazing. 865 00:44:02,460 --> 00:44:04,170 And you'll never forget those moments too. 866 00:44:04,170 --> 00:44:07,860 That's why people will always ask me how incredible it is to expedite. 867 00:44:07,860 --> 00:44:11,950 And I'm like, yeah, it's a lot of work, it's really hard, but being such a 868 00:44:11,950 --> 00:44:18,150 positive influence at a moment in time that every athlete is gonna remember, you 869 00:44:18,150 --> 00:44:19,066 know, is... 870 00:44:19,066 --> 00:44:23,506 It's so meaningful to me, because I'm like, I can help you through this moment 871 00:44:23,506 --> 00:44:28,826 in your life that you will always remember and I can make sure, or at least like try 872 00:44:28,826 --> 00:44:34,246 to make sure to do the best I can for it to be the best for you, you know? 873 00:44:34,386 --> 00:44:34,837 So. 874 00:44:34,837 --> 00:44:37,257 a part of those experiences for sure. 875 00:44:37,257 --> 00:44:40,137 You know, you're the last smiling face they see at the top of the stairs before 876 00:44:40,137 --> 00:44:41,997 they go out there for the very first time. 877 00:44:41,997 --> 00:44:45,137 Like, you know, for like how many people have you been that person? 878 00:44:45,137 --> 00:44:46,487 Like, that's like so cool. 879 00:44:46,487 --> 00:44:49,437 And so, you know, it's it is so rewarding. 880 00:44:49,437 --> 00:44:53,337 You know, this whole experience, obviously, we've made a whole a whole 881 00:44:53,337 --> 00:44:56,247 business and a whole podcast out of the thing, you know, and they're, you know, 882 00:44:56,247 --> 00:44:57,117 and it's wonderful. 883 00:44:57,117 --> 00:45:00,266 So I think like, you know, if anything, hopefully. 884 00:45:00,266 --> 00:45:04,126 listening to our stories and listening to this advice today will give you some 885 00:45:04,126 --> 00:45:06,486 reassurance about how you're feeling that it's normal. 886 00:45:06,486 --> 00:45:09,326 And then if you're not ready, just take more time. 887 00:45:09,326 --> 00:45:11,056 But again, you might be ready. 888 00:45:11,056 --> 00:45:14,126 You might just be in your head about the whole thing and not really know what 889 00:45:14,126 --> 00:45:15,354 you're looking at, right? 890 00:45:15,354 --> 00:45:18,494 Yeah, and always remember that it's not, it doesn't need to take a year or two. 891 00:45:18,494 --> 00:45:21,094 It does not need to take this astronomical amount of time. 892 00:45:21,094 --> 00:45:23,054 It just takes it. 893 00:45:23,054 --> 00:45:23,441 Yep. 894 00:45:23,441 --> 00:45:24,091 it a go. 895 00:45:24,091 --> 00:45:27,121 See what you're looking like, you know, and just, and who knows? 896 00:45:27,121 --> 00:45:31,121 Like you could be way closer than you think, but again, you don't know what the 897 00:45:31,121 --> 00:45:33,991 judges are looking for because you know, you're just getting started. 898 00:45:33,991 --> 00:45:35,541 So get out there and see what they say. 899 00:45:35,541 --> 00:45:37,311 And then you've got some to work towards in the gym. 900 00:45:37,311 --> 00:45:40,781 Like, okay, I'm going to take, you know, I did, I did two shows and now I'm going to 901 00:45:40,781 --> 00:45:42,061 take a year and grow my glutes. 902 00:45:42,061 --> 00:45:45,241 And you know, and you learn so much and then you come back and you could be doing 903 00:45:45,241 --> 00:45:47,921 it for 97 years like me. 904 00:45:47,921 --> 00:45:48,489 And, 905 00:45:48,489 --> 00:45:49,978 Heheheheh 906 00:45:49,978 --> 00:45:53,718 With that as we wrap up this episode guys also like we mentioned if you need 907 00:45:53,718 --> 00:45:56,578 somebody to talk to or if you have questions about anything if you're looking 908 00:45:56,578 --> 00:46:02,138 for a coach If you have posing questions, you know, you can con we are here for you 909 00:46:02,138 --> 00:46:06,088 Of course, this is our podcast is on youtube spotify apple 910 00:46:06,257 --> 00:46:08,047 we're not gonna steal you from that coach. 911 00:46:08,047 --> 00:46:09,257 We just wanna help. 912 00:46:09,257 --> 00:46:13,397 So, if you've got questions, don't feel like you can't ask us if you've got 913 00:46:13,397 --> 00:46:13,997 another coach. 914 00:46:13,997 --> 00:46:15,997 We 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