You don't need a weekend retreat to feel close again. You need six seconds.
In Episode 24, Scott and Brittney break down the research-backed micro-rituals that keep connected couples close — and that disconnected couples have quietly stopped doing. These aren't elaborate date nights or weekend getaways. They're small, repeatable practices that take ten minutes or less, and the science behind them is hard to argue with.
From Dr. John Gottman's famous 6-second kiss (built from 30 years of research on over 3,000 couples) to the 20-second hug that actually lowers your blood pressure, the daily appreciation practice that predicts next-day satisfaction, and the non-sexual touch reset most couples have forgotten — this episode gives you a practical toolkit you can start using tonight.
Scott and Brittney also get honest about why couples stop doing these things — and it's rarely about being too busy. They talk about how emotional distance makes small rituals feel awkward, why that's the exact moment to lean in anyway, and how consistency is what turns a simple practice into real intimacy.
In this episode:
- The science behind why small moments matter more than big gestures
- The 6-second kiss — what it is, why 6 seconds, and what it does to your brain
- The 20-second hug and its measurable effects on stress and connection
- The daily appreciation practice that boosts next-day satisfaction for both partners
- A no-phone check-in ritual and why "how was your day?" is the wrong question
- The sensory slow-down: non-sexual touch that actually rebuilds desire
- Why couples stop doing these things — and how to start again even when it feels awkward
Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.