Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 10, Part 1, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 10, Part 1 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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What is Morning Cereal?

Good morning, and welcome to Morning Cereal!
Pull up a stool, grab your favorite cereal, and let’s kick-start your day with a spoonful of inspiration, nostalgia and personal growth. Join your host, Shaen Inglis, as he highlights the music, movies, and moments that made the 80s, 90s, and 2000s unforgettable—kind of like digging for toy at the bottom of the cereal box. Each episode, Shaen also reviews a chapter or so from top wellness books, offering practical insights to help you set a positive tone for your day. Start your mornings right—no cartoons required!

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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and

welcome to Wednesday.

And happy Cinco de Marcho.

I know you've all been looking

forward to this all year long.

And that was not a misstatement.

I did say Cinco de Marcho.

It is actually a made up holiday playing

on the actual Cinco de Mayo holiday.

But Cinco de Marcho is specifically made

up just to be a

drinking day to prepare us for

St. Patrick's Day, which is

coming in just 12 short days.

And of course, I know many people aren't

waiting for that given

Mardi Gras is already underway.

And if you're someone celebrating and

participating in the

libations and you find yourself in

a long line for the restroom, then you

hit the jackpot because

today is also National

Potty Dance Day.

So you got a lot going for you today.

And if we just take a real hard right

turn, it's also the

beginning of Lent, which is

observed today through

April 22nd this year.

All right, let's jump

into today's quotes.

One fun nostalgic quote and then a second

quote to tease our

book review later in the

episode.

Hopefully one of these quotes will speak

to you and jumpstart your

day in a positive direction.

The first quote is from Janet Jackson.

And she said, "In complete

darkness, we are all the same.

It is only our knowledge

and wisdom that separates us.

Don't let your eyes deceive you."

And that's nasty, Ms. Jackson.

I agree.

Our true value is not

determined by how others perceive us.

And today's teaser quote for the book

review is, "A person

usually has two reasons for

doing a thing.

One, that sounds good and a real one."

And as usual, we'll unpack that here in

just a few minutes during

the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic

facts from this day in

history.

And today's news facts and

birthdays are for March 5th.

We're going to start

all the way back in 1770.

This is the day that the

Boston Massacre happened.

And the events on that day eventually

galvanized the

anti-British feelings and it led up to

the American Revolution.

Then in 1853 on this day, the piano

company Steinway and Sons was founded.

And skipping up to 1946 on this date,

British Prime Minister

Winston Churchill, he popularized

the term "Iron Curtain," describing the

separation of the

Soviet Union and its Eastern

and Central European

allies from Western nations.

Then on this day in 1963,

the hula hoop was patented.

Then on this day in 1971, the song

"Stairway to Heaven" was

first played by Led Zeppelin

in Belfast.

Then in 1979, the US space probe Voyager

1, it flew by the

innermost of Jupiter's satellite

moons, and it observed nine active

volcanoes on the smallest of them.

Then in 2002, the reality TV show "The

Osborns" featuring Ozzy Osbourne's

family, it premiered

on MTV.

Well, happy birthday.

Today is your birthday.

You share a birthday

with actress Eva Menendez.

She turns 51 today.

Actor Kevin Connolly,

he turns 51 as well.

And Pin Gillette of "Pin and

Teller," he turns 70 today.

And the number one movie on this date

back in 1990 was "The

Hunt for Red October."

This movie was based on the best-selling

Tom Clancy novel

starring Sean Connery, and you

may remember that Alec

Baldwin was also in the movie.

And Baldwin says it's the role that

effectively launched his

career to the next level.

You might also remember that the Russians

start talking in the

movie speaking Russian.

And interestingly, at one point, they

used the word Armageddon.

And the word Armageddon is the exact same

in both Russian and English.

And from that point forward in the movie,

the Russians then

speak English for the rest

of the movie.

Well, the number one song on this date in

the same year of 1990

was "Escapade" by Janet

Jackson.

This was a great song with such a

feel-good vibe to it.

This was Janet Jackson's third number one

single on the Rhythm

Nation 1814 album that

also featured three other number one

songs, "Miss You Much,"

"Love Will Never Do Without

You," and "Black Cat."

And the album had seven top five singles,

which were actually more top five singles

off of that one album than even her

brother Michael had

on the Thriller album.

That's not too shabby

for the nasty Miss Jackson.

Okay.

Well, let's move on to some personal

growth in the book review

segment of Morning Serial.

This is where we take a few moments to

reflect on lessons learned

from the current book we're

reading.

And currently, we're reading through Dale

Carnegie's "How to Win

Friends and Influence

People."

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must-read

lists and is packed with

rock-solid advice and actions for us all

to use and build

healthy foundational concepts

to live by.

Yesterday, we finished up chapter nine of

part three with that

chapter entitled "What

Carnegie Wants."

And Carnegie's principle number nine is,

"Be sympathetic with

the other person ideas

and desires."

Carnegie believes that the vast majority

of people out there are

just thirsting for some

sympathy and that we

should give it to them.

Carnegie gave us a magic phrase to disarm

any conversation,

which was, "I don't blame

you one iota for feeling as you do.

If I were you, I would

undoubtedly feel just as you do."

So look to sympathize with people if you

want to win them to your way of thinking.

And today, we start chapter 10 of part

three with that chapter

entitled, "An Appeal that

Everybody Likes."

Now, Carnegie grew up in Missouri near

the Jesse James family

farm and he literally knew

the son of the famous outlaw Jesse James.

And Carnegie would hear stories of how

Jesse James viewed

himself as a bit of a Robin Hood

type figure, giving money that he robbed

to other farmers to pay off their farms.

And Carnegie says this is no different

than many other

high-profile criminals throughout

the years, like Al Capone, who also

viewed himself as almost

noble for what they were

doing.

They were idealists.

And Carnegie says, "The fact is that all

people you meet have a

high regard for themselves,"

and like to think of themselves as

unselfish and noble.

Here Carnegie cites an observation from

J. Pierpont Morgan,

who noted that, "A person

usually has two reasons for doing a

thing, one that sounds

good and a real one."

And we generally know inside of ourselves

what the real reason

we are doing something

is.

But more than likely, most of us, "being

idealists at heart," like to

think of motives that sound

good to other people.

So Carnegie says that when we are trying

to appeal to other

people, we should try and

appeal to these secondary reasons.

Appeal to their nobler motives.

Here is a Carnegie example.

A man that was leasing out a part of his

home to another family

had received notice from

the other family that they intended to

break their lease and

vacate immediately, without

proper notice or

proper payment of the lease.

Well, generally the man leasing the rooms

would have laid into them about the legal

ramifications, etc., if

they followed through.

Instead, he decided to appeal

to their more noble motives.

The man said this to the father, that he

believed the father was a man of his word

when he let the rooms

to him and his family.

And he still believed he was a man of his

word, and that is why

he believed that they

would not break their lease.

He said, "I'll give it a few days for you

to think it over, and if I'm wrong about

you, then I'll know my judgment was off,

and I'll take your

decision to leave as final."

But I believe you're a man of your word,

and we'll live up to it, for, quote, "We

are either men or monkeys, and the choice

usually lies within ourselves."

The family did not break their rent after

having talked it out,

noting that it was the

right thing to do.

So the man had appealed to their more

noble side, believing

that they were good people

and that they would stick to their word.

Here's another quick story to illustrate.

A man's picture was used in the

newspaper, and he

didn't like the picture.

So he wrote to the newspaper editor, not

just simply asking him

not to use the picture

because he didn't like it, but he wrote,

quote, "Please do not

publish that picture

of me anymore.

My mother doesn't like it."

End quote.

He appealed to the nobler motive of the

love and respect that we

all have for motherhood.

So Carnegie, again, brings this around to

the real world for a

moment, noting that some

of the more skeptic among us may say that

this is great for some

of these softies, but

may not work in the real

world, in real tough situations.

And to this, Carnegie

says, quote, "You may be right.

Nothing will work in all cases, and

nothing will work with all people.

But if you are satisfied with the results

you are getting now, then why change?

If you are not satisfied,

then why not experiment?"

End quote.

Tomorrow we'll finish up chapter 10, an

appeal that everybody

likes, and learn Carnegie's

principle number 10 of part three, which

is how to win people

to your way of thinking.

So come back for that and a classic

Carnegie story of credit

collections gone wrong.

Great news.

As we mentioned yesterday, the sun did in

fact come up today, just as we suspected.

And if you're facing a big project, a

personal goal, or just

another day on the grind, know

that you've got this.

Have the courage to just keep moving

forward in a positive way.

And remember, life is what happens when

you're busy making other plans.

So make those moments in between matter.

Thanks for joining us today.

We'll see you back here tomorrow, and

have a fantastic day.

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Thanks again for listening.

Have a fantastic day.

And we'll see you tomorrow.