Now or Never: Long-Term Care Strategy with Kosta Yepifantsev

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What is Now or Never: Long-Term Care Strategy with Kosta Yepifantsev?

Now or Never: Long-Term Care Strategy is a podcast for all those seeking answers and solutions in the long-term care space. Too often we don’t fully understand the necessity of care until it’s too late. This podcast is designed to create solutions, start conversations and bring awareness to the industry that will inevitably impact all Americans.

Kyrié Carpenter: There is more
going on up there and the way we

process information changes as
we age. So normal age related

memory changes are really more
about how we're processing

information and how our brains
work well versus with dementia.

Again, depending on what type of
dementia is there's going to be

a different reason that you're
having issues with that memory.

Caroline Moore: Welcome to Now
or Never Long-Term Care Strategy

with Kosta Yepifantsev a podcast
for all those seeking answers

and solutions in the long term
care space. This podcast is

designed to create resources,
start conversations and bring

awareness to the industry that
will inevitably impact all

Americans. Here's your host
Kosta Yepifantsev.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Hey, y'all,
this is Kosta and today I'm here

with my guest Kiri, a carpenter,
co founder of the anti ageism

clearing house, author of
healing dementia and in depth

psychological look at the
phenomenon of cognitive change,

and experienced career coach
with a demonstrated history of

working in the mental healthcare
industry. Today we're talking

about the myths and
misconceptions of dementia. I

know this might seem ironic for
a podcast about dementia. But

will you briefly explain what
dementia is? And what causes it?

Kyrié Carpenter: Absolutely,
yeah. So first, I feel like it's

really helpful to understand the
words we're doing. So Adam,

logically, dementia means out of
mind. And now actually, in

diagnosis, we're not even using
dementia anymore. So in

psychology, there's a big book
called The DSM Diagnostic and

Statistical Manual, that is
where we have all of our

different psychological
diagnoses. And dementia is

currently called neurocognitive
disorder in that book, and I

think that that name is more
helpful because it actually

breaks it down. So neuro, that
just means something going on

with our brain, cognitive is a
fancy way of saying thinking,

and disorder is the opposite of
order. So effectively, things

aren't functioning the way that
they have previously, they're,

something's going on a new way.

So that's how I like to think of
dementia. And you know, roughly

it is a symptom set, which is
really interesting to know. So

some dementia is we know what
quote unquote, causes them, they

can be when we're talking about
that we're thinking of there can

be dementia related to a
vascular event. So you have some

sort of thing that happens with
your blood to blood clot in the

brain, parts of the brain, you
know, lose blood, we know that

we have dementia from that other
dementias are a little less

clear, we could talk about that
for a long time. But all of that

to say, when we're diagnosing
dementia, we're looking at that

cognition, how we think, and
we're wanting to see it changing

in at least two ways. So the DSM
again, breaks down six ways that

our brain works. And if we see
major changes, and at least two

of those, we're going to give a
diagnosis of dementia. So this

is really important to know that
dementia isn't, like COVID,

where it's a virus that we can
see, and that we can work on

fighting. That's not what we're
talking about, we're actually

talking about an experience a
phenomenon, a symptom set. And

so we're thinking about those
different ways that our brain

changes. One aspect of it is
memory. You know, other ones are

executive functioning, which is
a way of just saying like how we

work, we're looking at language,
we're looking at social cues.

And there's these different
domains of cognition that we're

looking at. And we need to again
see change in two or more of

them before even giving a
diagnosis.

Kosta Yepifantsev: But what
causes these diagnoses? Like is

it they say, it's plaque on the
brain or something like that?

But I mean, maybe there's a
better explanation. Yeah. So

Kyrié Carpenter: then it's
helpful to realize that dementia

is an umbrella term again, for
just for like saying, the way

that your thinking has changed
in at least two of these ways.

And underneath that there's lots
of types of dementia, you know,

the most famous of which is
Alzheimer's. You know, there's

also Lewy body, so we're talking
about Alzheimer's. That's where

you hear plaques and tangles,
and those are coming in. And to

be perfectly honest, emerging
research is showing us that

there's correlation. But the
causation gets a little bit

confusing with Alzheimer's.

There's an amazing study called
the nun study that's still in

process, where an entire you
know, group of nuns donated

their brains to science. And
they're able to do the first

double blind study on giving
people cognitive tests, while

they're alive to measure these
changes and give diagnosis of

dementia, but then also do the
brain biopsy looking for the

plaques and tangles and
interestingly, everyone who

everyone who had a dementia
diagnosis and I say this right,

did have the plaques and
tangles, but not everyone who

had plaques and tangles
exhibited symptoms of dementia

in their lifetime. That just
tells us the story is more

complicated. Yeah, absolutely.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Like you said
vascular event and I'm thinking

that you were for lay in
layman's terms. You meant

stroke, right?

Kyrié Carpenter: Yeah. have a
stroke or like mini strokes, as

they'll be called anything
that's disrupting blood flow to

the brain. So there's over 10
different types of dementia,

there's Lewy body dementia,
which is another, you know, a

Lewy body in the brain. There's
there's over 10 types of

dementia, which is really
important to know that

Alzheimer's and dementia are not
synonyms. Yeah. And honestly,

again, it's not a disease. You
know, it's Yeah,

Kosta Yepifantsev: right. I
mean, I hear a lot of people

make that assumption all the
time. And I have to correct them

that they're not the exact same
thing. I will ask you later on

in the show about the
prescription. It's called at a

helm. It's covered by Medicare.

I'd love to hear your, your
thoughts on that. Because, like

you were talking about in terms
of a cure, obviously, that's

what everybody wants, whether
it's dementia, cancer, AIDS,

what have you. But dementia like
it's interesting, the

distinction that you make when
you say, it's not a virus, you

can't isolate it, say, there it
is. We got to treat that. Right.

Yeah. So

Kyrié Carpenter: yeah, and
there's amazing if people are

interested in that idea, more
like, you know, sort of don't

take my word for it. There's two
amazing thinkers, Dr. Peter

Whitehouse, wrote about the
Alzheimer's method, he has a

sort of this myth that it is
this disease that we can, can

cure simply and we just don't
know enough yet. And also,

Margaret lock wrote the
Alzheimer's conundrum, which

really goes into very academic
deep detail into Yeah, why

dementia really is more of a
phenomenon than a disease is a

more accurate descriptor.

Kosta Yepifantsev: How does
dementia differ from normal

aging and memory loss? And how
do you respond to the myth that

dementia is a normal part of
aging.

Kyrié Carpenter: So changes in
memory, both short and long term

are one of those symptoms of
dementia was mentioning that you

have to have at least to have.

So that's where I guess the Venn
diagram overlaps, if you will,

that there is are changes in
short and long term memory that

can be a component of a dementia
diagnosis, and definitely a part

of the experience of living with
dementia is very frequently

changes in memory. That being
said, from the day we're born,

you know, our brain is
developing, and then 25 to 28.

We know, it's pretty much fully
matured. And then we begin, you

know, biological aging at that
point. From that point onward,

we know that we get less
skillful at doing like really

fast math and recall, this can
be replicated in studies, we

also become more skillful, which
usually gets left out of the

conversation at noticing what
could be called the gist of the

story under the story, noticing
patterns, noticing things like

that. So that's when we hear you
know, when a grandmother is

listening to her teenage
granddaughter, talking about the

boy, she went on a date with
him, the grandma just knows it's

not gonna work out. That's
because she's heard 1000 stories

exactly like that, and can find
the pattern. And so this a lot

of this normal age related
memory problems, which is

usually that recall that tip of
the tongue phenomenon, which I

don't like using senior moment,
because, you know, we didn't

call it a junior moment when we
were younger. But that tip of

the tongue phenomenon, those
things, it's actually because

there is more going on up there
and the way we process

information changes as we age.

So normal age related memory
changes are really more about

how we're processing
information, and how our brains

work well, versus with dementia.

Again, depending on what type of
dementia it is, there's going to

be a different reason that
you're having issues with that

memory.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Essentially,
that makes sense. Yeah, no, it

does. It really does. So you may
not be like as quick to like you

were saying to recall, but you.

I mean, honestly, if I could
understand how the world works,

I would much rather take that
than being able to, you know, do

long division in my head, right?

Kyrié Carpenter: Most of us
would, which is great, right?

That's really good. But do you
actually realize that? So one of

my mentors, Bill Thomas says,
the next time you had that tip

of the tongue phenomenon, just
like lay back and be like,

Alright, I have this superpower.

I'll just, I need a minute to
come up with the name of that

restaurant from three weeks ago.

But let me tell you, I can see
how the world works and move

through it with more ease most
of us will take

Kosta Yepifantsev: absolutely
100%. So in your experience,

what is the most common
misconceptions surrounding

dementia? And how does this
misinformation impact the way

society views and treats
individuals with a diagnosis?

Kyrié Carpenter: I love this
question actually had the

opportunity to talk to to do
like to focus groups with a

bunch of folks living with
dementia in Nevada and ask them

like, what's the thing that like
a noisy most? So I feel like I

can speak informed sharing the
voices of those living with

dementia about this one, which
is in the hands down. The

biggest misconception that they
report is that people think that

life especially living well, and
without dementia diagnosis, but

all of a sudden, you've gotten
handed this diagnosis and you're

no longer a person like your
personhood is sort of ripped

away from Now things are done to
you your talked at. And also

just that it's, there's, of
course extreme challenges to

living with cognitive change to
supporting someone living with

cognitive change, I never want
to deny that there also are

beautiful moments that can
happen ways to live well, ways

to live with less suffering, I
think that's the biggest

misconception is that it's, you
know, you're done. The minute

you get that diagnosis, your
life is over.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Yeah. Do you?

Do you know, the percentage of
people that are actually living

with dementia in the US? I'm
just curious, you know,

Kyrié Carpenter: off the top of
my head, I'm not gonna get it

correct. It's lower than you
would think.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Okay. It's
not like, it's not like 10% of

the population, right?

Kyrié Carpenter: No, it's
actually yeah, it's our, you

know, and not to diminish the
experience of those living with

it at all. But our chances of
the amount of fear that we have

as a culture about being
diagnosed with dementia far

outweighs the actual prevalence
of the disease.

Kosta Yepifantsev: And you're,
you were talking about kind of

how they're talked at. And, and
I do it, and a lot of times, you

know, obviously, I work in long
term care. So there's care plan

meetings and things like that.

And I remember, it doesn't
happen as often now, because

well, everyone is working
towards like, person centered

culture. But in the beginning, I
remember this was a lot more

prevalent, we would be in a
room, and I was kind of new, so

I didn't want to overstep. But I
remember, we were just having a

conversation about the
individual that we were going to

be servicing and not even
talking to them. Like literally,

it would be like, you know, if
you're, if you have like your,

you know, three year old or
something like that, you know,

that can't necessarily
understand the conversation. But

so you may or may not engage
them. But I'm just like, Wait,

she's right there. Like, why
don't we, like, let's bring her

in, you know, and so I feel
like, as you're talking about

supporting individuals with this
with this diagnosis, a lot of

times it requires, and we're
getting to a point now where

technology has come to sort of
help smooth out the transition.

But a lot of times, it does
require a 24 hour commitment,

whether it's, I mean, it may not
be consistent, it could be

intermittent, but still like,
you have to devote a lot of time

to it. So a lot. So what I ended
up finding through my through my

work is people with dementia get
placed in long term care

facilities, and they don't need
to be there. You know, so,

anyway, that's my two cents. I

Kyrié Carpenter: think it gets
into this. Again, this concept

of surplus safety of we get so
worried about something bad

happened that we yeah, we like
almost, you know, overdo it, and

a lot of folks living with
dementia will say, and a lot of

folks also in the disability
rights world, which, you know,

dementia is sort of this
beautiful intersection of

ableism, ageism, nothing about
us without us. You know, so it's

about us, like we need to be
included. And even if, you know,

language change is one of those
things we talked about in a

diagnosis of dementia. And then
language change. There's both

receptive language and
expressive language. So

receptive being, as you're
speaking right now, do I

understand you and expressive
being now I have a thought I

want to express Can I say it in
a way that you'll understand

with the experience of dementia,
those change differently in

every person and at different
rates, so someone might not be

able to verbalize their wishes,
but might be able to perfectly

understand that care plan
conversation? And so I really

challenge people to to get
creative about communicating and

about that inclusion, you know,
do we need to express it? Can we

express it using some sort of
art or expressive arts therapy,

you know, my background is in
therapy. I remember working with

a woman whose family, we're
trying to decide whether to up

some medications, those of us on
the care team, we're seeing some

negative side effects from it.

And so we were kind of at this
conundrum of, is it the risk

worth the benefit, and during a
watercolor class, she painted an

entire sheet full of pills, and
then like, dumped the water

color water on it? I felt like
that was pretty clear

communication that she Oh, wow,
medication, even though she

couldn't say that. You know, so
it's getting creative about

that. Know what people want and
figuring out how not saying

like, Oh, you don't speak the
way you once did. Now? You're

not included in the
conversation? Right? Right.

Yeah, looking for body language,
all that kind of stuff. How else

can we include?

Kosta Yepifantsev: I'm curious,
what's the relationship between

memory loss and dementia? And is
memory loss the only symptom or

are there others?

Kyrié Carpenter: Yeah, so kind
of, sort of, like I was saying

earlier, so memory loss can
exist without dementia. All of

us like I said, our brains are
changing, you know, from the

time or 20 and onward as our
brains age. They're changing up

how they work. And no, it is not
The only symptoms so it's going

to depend on the different types
of dementia. So for example,

frontal temporal dementia, which
is one that affects the

prefrontal cortex of the brain
generally has some disinhibition

that comes with it, a lot of
other dementias do as well. So

you're going to see some of
those sort of social changes,

again, the language changes I
just mentioned, also

coordination with your body. So
in some later stages, you might

see folks needing a little bit
of help eating, and that can

either come from the message of
like, that's a fork, I should

use my hand to pick it up, isn't
making it to the hand, or it can

come from not being able to
coordinate the hand sort of

depends on how that changes.

Basically, yeah, there's, again,
there's six different domains of

how our brains change. And so
that's a memory is one tiny

piece of that.

Kosta Yepifantsev: So you we
were talking about the double

blind study. And obviously the
disease's vary, or the

phenomenon is very complex. Yes.

I mean, like, how far are we in
terms of understanding dementia?

At all? We like it, the 1% we
just like it square one,

essentially. And you're that's

Kyrié Carpenter: that's me?

Yeah, exactly. You know, in my
opinion, yes, I know when to,

you know, in my private
conversations to kind of say,

like, if dementia was the rest
of the medical industry, we'd be

at the bloodletting phase, and
talking about humors. And we're

just throwing things at it that
don't work and, frankly, can

cause a lot of harm. Yeah, in a
really whelming. And this is

what breaks my heart about
dementia is we want to take care

of our loved one who's living
with dementia, and we want a

medicine to fix it, we want to
know more, but not being able to

just sit in the not knowing can
really cause a lot of harm, you

know, with overuse of
antipsychotics. Yeah,

Kosta Yepifantsev: absolutely.

And I've seen that happen
firsthand. And literally, it's

like, you had somebody that did
suffer from a cognitive

impairment. But they were still
they had their moments, but they

were still like, relatively
normal in terms of interacting,

similar to how they interacted
prior to their diagnosis. But

then they get prescribed because
a lot of times, and I don't know

what type of dementia causes
this, if it's if it's multiple

types, but they had behaviors,
you know, where they, and it

could be where their inhibitions
may have been lowered. They may

have gotten frustrated, they
cause physical injury to

themselves and to others. So
they got on anti, they were

prescribed antipsychotic
medication. And I saw them, you

know, three years later, and I
mean, completely different

person. You know,

Kyrié Carpenter: there's an
amazing I want it, you know, I'm

not a medical doctor. I want to
write I want to like, but there

is a medical doctor, Dr. Al
power talks a lot about this, he

wrote a book called The venture
beyond drugs, does a really

great job, really parsing out
when someone is using a behavior

as a form of communication, you
know, and when and that we need

to be really careful not to
treat for behaviors. And just

even, you know, the way and I
psychotics work to is, they're

basically being used as
sedatives, they don't treat

dementia, they don't make
anything better. It feels good

to get a prescription for a
pill, because we want to be

helpful, you know, but folks
would be far better off with

some other medications with less
side effects.

Kosta Yepifantsev: And I'm not
going to go down a rabbit hole,

but I do want to shine some
light on this. In the IDD

population, so individuals with
intellectual and developmental

disabilities there's an entire
culture built around behaviors

being a form of communication.

Yes. And like, how you how you
facilitate how you handle

someone that's experiencing the
behavioral episode. And I mean,

trainings and yes, programs. And
so the fact that we can't

correlate that to individuals
who are suffering from dementia

has always been rather strange
for me. So, but anyway,

Kyrié Carpenter: I would say
that that's the so in that

community, the IDD community,
you've got the ableism now

you've got this like ageism,
thrown on top of it, and we just

just care less about, I mean,
I'm just gonna be totally,

blatantly honest, we care less
about older people in our

culture than we do about younger
people, you know, in this

context, and so there just isn't
as much funding, you know,

there's amazing people
obviously, doing great work. I

was really grateful the
community I worked in, trained

us that way too. And we see, you
know, a behavioral, you know,

psychological symptom. To see
that as an expression of need,

and to get really curious about
translating that need. And

without, I mean, I can't tell
you how many times there would

be Yeah, whether it was violence
towards themselves or others,

these these really scary, you
know, things that I get people's

impulse to help. But when we dug
into and looked at the

environment looked at the
different schedule, what was

going on, we were able to
actually create shifts, that

then the behavior ceased because
we had the need.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Right.

Exactly. So before we move on,
what about add a home? You know,

it's a, it's a drug that's now
covered by Medicare, it's

supposed to help treat
Alzheimer's? What do you think

about that? Because I don't
think so either. But for some

reason Medicare thinks so. And

Kyrié Carpenter: yeah, there's
some great again, there's some

awesome medical doctors in the
field. Again, our power, Dr.

Peter Whitehouse, we're writing
really well about this from that

perspective. And but yeah, short
cliffnotes is don't do it.

moneygrab Yeah, evil, Big
Pharma. We will definitely see,

please do not put your loved
ones on it. Don't take and I'll

Kosta Yepifantsev: tell you.

It's like it's so expensive.

Yeah, like the premiums are
going up because of it. Because

I think Medicare's paying like
$57,000 a year for it. So it's

just it's crazy.

Kyrié Carpenter: Somebody
somebody who's making money?

Yeah, exactly. Yeah. No, it
doesn't, you know, we just I

would love I would love for us
to know more about dementia to

be able to understand it to be
able to work towards treatment

to be able to work towards cure,
like you said, just like with

cancer, just like with AIDS, and
that just isn't where we are.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Absolutely.

Well, let's talk about maybe,
let's talk about early

prevention. So if there even is
something like that, in the

world of dementia, so generally
speaking, how will early

diagnosis and intervention
impact the well being and lives

of those living with dementia?

Kyrié Carpenter: Yeah, so how
I'm gonna unpack this is early

intervention, super helpful in
that everyone listening to this

should be thinking about there
are things we know that we can

do that decrease our chances of
experiencing dementia. Dr. Becca

Levy out of Yale does amazing
research into ageism, one of her

studies was looking or she's
done quite a few around those

people experiencing dementia and
found that having accurate

knowledge about the aging
process, so not biased,

negative, ageist attitudes about
aging, doesn't have to go

positive, just accurate,
decreases your chances of

experiencing dementia, including
Alzheimer's, even if you have

the APO gene that says your pre
that you're more likely to get

it, which is amazing. So amazing
work on becoming less ageist,

yourself, like to work on your
own internal bias there that's

protected against dementia. We
also know a lot of studies to

that cardiovascular health. So
again, I said, we know vascular

events can cause dementia. So
the more healthy that you can

keep your heart, the better. So
this is all the stuff we all

know to do. And don't do. You
know, exercising and eating well

is also really helpful. There
have been some studies that show

mindfulness meditation can be
helpful, you know, anything

that's kind of helping, the more
nimble your brain is, the better

it's going to be able to work
around if stuff is changing. So

we'll say that on the early
intervention side, I'm talking

way before diagnosis all of us
right now, from whatever age

you're at, start thinking about
those things. As far as

diagnosis, because we know so
little about dementia. I when I

talk to folks about this, like
should we push for a diagnosis

with my loved one with myself, I
always ask them for the sake of

what diagnosis can be really
helpful in going, Oh, I thought

I was going crazy. Now I have a
name for this symptom set that

feels really good to know what
it is. Now I can also find other

people with a similar
experience, draw support from

them, that feels really good. If
that seems like something it'd

be helpful for you get that
diagnosis. That being said,

oftentimes a diagnosis comes
with a whole lot of stigma. And

since there isn't a cure, and we
know so little about it, it can

sometimes harm more than it
helps. So just being really

thoughtful about your diagnosis,
getting diagnosed.

Kosta Yepifantsev: It's it's a
double edged sword because there

are some programs and that are,
you know, government funded

programs and some government
funded compensation that you can

only access with that diagnosis.

And so you but then again, you
know, once you are diagnosed

with dementia, like that's not
something that you're going to

be able to just say, Oh, I'm
better now. You know, it'll be

there forever. And especially
like people that get diagnosed

with early onset Alzheimer's,
like in their 50s. I've

encountered some individuals
like that and have just like I

mean, their lives. Have are
going back to the to the,

towards the beginning of the
conversation how, you know,

you're kind of it's like
overkill in terms of the the the

level of independence is almost
gone. And they're so young, but

you know, they have this
diagnosis, they almost are put

with a conservator, their their
money, their rights, their

ability to make decisions are
taken away. And one of the

biggest things that that we
don't necessarily that we

haven't talked about really is
the fact that once people do

have a die of dementia, or an
Alzheimer's, diagnosis

diagnoses, a lot of times they
do have to have a

conservatorship or a power of
attorney. And that power of

attorney can be financial or
medical. So

Kyrié Carpenter: and they
frequently get, I would say

imprisoned in memory care units,
right. behind locked doors, you

get put out explosions within a
psychotic to exactly. So yeah,

it's very complicated. That
diagnosis for sure.

Kosta Yepifantsev: Do you think
that since more people are going

to be aging in the United States
than ever before in the history

of our country that this disease
may become a little bit more

prevalent? I'm sorry, this
phenomenon may become a little

bit more prevalent. I'm gonna,
I'm gonna write. And in that,

it'll start to bring more
awareness? Because I'll tell

you, I've never really heard of
ageism, to the extent that I'm

hearing it now. And maybe it's
because I'm talking to experts

like you more than I typically
haven't in the past. But this is

it's becoming a lot more
commonplace for us to have a

conversation about being a just
in the negative aspects of it.

What do you think about that?

Kyrié Carpenter: Absolutely, the
demographic shifts are helping

because there is a reality. I do
think I always like to point out

when we talk about longevity,
because there's a lot of people

that will tell you like we're
living longer, because more of

us are surviving childhood, not
because we're getting better. So

I feel like that's something I
just want to make sure people

know, I'm really good at
extending the end of life, we're

getting really good at Babies
not dying. And that's why so

people have been living to the
ages, we're all living to for

like for most of history, you
know, and then obviously having

access to hygiene. So I think
that's really important to name

to just as a general trend,
we're doing really good with

childhood illnesses. We're
making headway on, you know,

later life illnesses, but it's
slower. That being said, too, as

we're not dying of other things,
and we're living longer, that

gives us more of an opportunity
to experience dementia. So there

is sort of this aspect of it
like because other things aren't

getting us sooner, more people
are living long enough to

experience dementia. So
absolutely, we're going to see

more people living with it, not
because there's more dementia

out there. But because more
people are surviving things that

would have killed them before
they experienced dementia.

Kosta Yepifantsev: So are there
any current therapies or

treatments that are available?

And are they effective?

Kyrié Carpenter: Yeah. So in my
that I'm aware of there's no

medication that actually treats
it, it's just symptom masking,

which as we talked about, is
problematic because you're

actually masking communication.

For the most part. That being
said, you know, anti anxiety

meds early on, you know, help
with anxiety early on can be

really helpful. Because when
we're anxious, I mean, you and I

probably both know from our own
experience, when you're really

anxious, how well does your
memory work? How well are your

social skills? Good. So making
sure we treat underlying anxiety

and depression can can help
alleviate some symptoms severity

of symptoms. Again, my
background is as a therapist, so

I will say psychotherapy can be
really helpful in the early

stages of dementia, you could
still do traditional talk

therapy, you know, inside base
talk therapy can be really

helpful to process to work
through the grieving process of

these changes, you know, what
are you losing? What are you

gaining? In the middle stages of
dementia expressive arts

practices can be really great
again, to foster that

communication and that
expression, giving us place for

it to come out, you know, so
that it doesn't need to come out

in these behaviors, you know, we
were talking about earlier. And

in the very even in the very
late stages of work, there's a

field of psychotherapy called
process work. That does a lot of

work with folks in comas and
things to that can be really

helpful for connecting with
people I'm also an emerging

thing that's happening this is
pretty cutting edge that I'm

really curious about is
psychedelic assisted therapy for

the person living with dementia,
but for their care partners, to

help them have an experience of
being in a different reality.

Because so much of the
experience of dementia is

loosening

Kosta Yepifantsev: the holds on
time and space. Interesting.

Kyrié Carpenter: is working
really excited about Yeah, so it

is it's really it's personal.

It's for empathy increase. which
then can help decrease

frustration which can increase
quality of life for everyone. So

I'm really, really curious as
there's more legalization for

those. So much of this is
anecdotal now because it is

being, you know, having to be
done. Sure, obviously, not in

labs. But now that we've got
some legalization around

psychedelics, I'm super curious
about that emerging work, as

well as the empathy builders.

And then I'll also say just if
you're living with someone

dementia go to an improv class.

There's some really great work
around techniques from improv

being used to help increase well
being

Kosta Yepifantsev: interesting,
you know, when I think of,

sometimes when I think of
individuals who have a demand of

diagnosis of dementia, you ever
seen Harry Potter and the Order

of the Phoenix, when mad eye
moody is like, at the very

bottom of the chest, and there
is a Goblet of Fire? Anyway, the

one was mad eye moody, yeah. And
he's at the bottom of the chest,

and he's looking up and they're
like, there you are at the very

end of the movie. And I think to
myself, like if they're all the

way down, you know, somebody has
dementia, it's all the way down

in this chest, and they're
looking up, and no one can spy

can see them and hear them
understand them. And then you

bring into a psychedelic, like,
like psilocybin or, you know,

something like that. MDMA, and
they escape their reality. It's

almost like taking them out of
that chest and putting them

like, I'm so excited that you
brought that up, because I'm

fascinated to see if, if that
might have some, some

significant because it really,
like doesn't turn

Kyrié Carpenter: sort of all
around, right. So I'd be really

curious about it just early
stages to help people get

comfortable with the bounds of
reality check more fluid. Yeah,

and then empathy building for
care partners. And then Yeah,

who knows the treatment, that'd
be really fascinating, as well.

There's definitely some emerging
work happening there, which is

fascinating.

Kosta Yepifantsev: So cool. So
before we wrap up, I want to

talk about any resources or
strategies for caregivers that

you'd recommend in where those
living with dementia and their

loved ones can find community
and support.

Kyrié Carpenter: Absolutely, I
have some great RX for you. So

dementia Action Alliance is an
amazing organization to check

out. There's also a coalition
called reimagining dementia,

that, you know, all of these
include both people living with

dementia and their care partners
and advocates, you know, the

whole gamut. Dementia Friends is
also a great program, look up

local memory cafes, which is
just where folks can go and meet

up in restaurants with other
people living with dementia and

care partners really great. I
will say there's, you know, the

changing aging.org is a blog
that has a bunch of bullets and

links to stuff I've written for
there, which is all sort of

thinking about this more, not
focusing on what's lost, but

focusing on what's possible.

Absolutely, I would say and then
the Eden alternative is doing

some amazing work in long term
care reform. And they just

switched from, they have a
membership model where

individuals can join and really
tap into community. So all of

these that I just listed, have,
you know, regular online doing

gathering some in person stuff,
I'll give links to others that

can be included in

Kosta Yepifantsev: this.

Amazing. So we always like to
end the show with a call to

action. What can we do to start
building communities and a

society more accepting and
accessible to those with

dementia?

Kyrié Carpenter: Yeah,
absolutely. You know, in the

absence of knowledge and a cure,
the biggest thing that we can

change is our reaction to
dementia, we can we can reduce

that suffering that comes from
the culture that is so you know,

anti dementia So, and to do
that, I would just say, educate

yourself about the
misconceptions of dementia.

Educate yourself about the
stigma. And the best way to do

that is to hang out with
somebody living with dementia,

because you're gonna have all
these ideas and you're gonna

meet this person and be like,
Whoa, it's not what I thought it

was.

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