How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Apologies and Relationships: How to Say Sorry and Mean It
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the art of apologizing effectively with special guest Susan McCarthy, co-author of Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies. Together, they explore the anatomy of a sincere apology, discuss common pitfalls, and share insights on how mastering the apology can improve your relationships, especially during a divorce – and we’re not just talking about with your spouse or ex but your kids as well!
Susan, a renowned author who has written about animal behavior and humor, brings her expertise on crafting effective apologies to the conversation. Seth and Pete engage her in a thought-provoking discussion on why people struggle with apologizing, the importance of teaching children how to apologize correctly, and how a well-executed apology can make a significant difference in the divorce process.
Questions we answer in this episode:
  • What are the key components of a sincere apology?
  • How can a genuine apology impact divorce proceedings?
  • Why is it crucial to teach children the art of apologizing?
Key Takeaways:
  • A proper apology consists of six essential steps, including expressing remorse, acknowledging the specific wrongdoing, and demonstrating an understanding of the impact.
  • Apologies can be powerful tools in mediation and can help couples reach agreements during a divorce.
  • Mastering the art of apologizing can lead to healthier relationships and emotional well-being.
This episode offers valuable insights for anyone looking to improve their communication skills and strengthen their relationships. Whether you're going through a divorce or simply want to learn how to apologize effectively, Seth, Pete, and Susan provide practical advice and real-life examples to help you navigate the complexities of saying "I'm sorry" and meaning it.
Links & Notes
  • (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
  • (00:26) - Meet Susan McCarthy
  • (03:07) - Analyzing Apologies
  • (03:30) - The 'Saving Your Pride' Problem
  • (04:04) - Apologies in the Divorce Process
  • (05:26) - Divorce and Apology Backstory
  • (08:42) - Six Parts of a Good Apology
  • (11:10) - Between Spouses
  • (12:45) - In Mediation
  • (14:19) - Not Making It Worse
  • (16:41) - Getting Past Grudges
  • (21:55) - Dissecting Apologies
  • (24:27) - The Media Matters
  • (27:03) - Positive Example
  • (29:25) - Receiving an Apology
  • (30:23) - Sorry Not Sorry
  • (30:45) - Changes to Apologies in Modern Culture
  • (33:29) - Apologies to Your Kids
  • (37:30) - Over-Apologizing?
  • (39:37) - Apologies with Gifts?
  • (41:01) - Practicing
  • (44:18) - Susan’s Book
  • (45:46) - Wrap Up

Creators & Guests

Host
Pete Wright
Podcaster and co-host, Pete Wright brings years of marriage and a spirit of curiosity to the divorce process. He's spent the last two decades interviewing experts and thinkers in emotional healing and brings that with him to the law, divorce, and saving relationships in the process.
Host
Seth R. Nelson
Seth Nelson is the founding attorney and managing partner at NLG Divorce & Family Law. He is a Tampa-based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems.
Producer
Andy Nelson
Hailing from nearly 25 years in the world of film, television, and commercial production, Andy has always had a passion for storytelling, no matter the size of the package.

What is How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships?

Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.