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We live in a world that teaches us to look outside ourselves for answers. But what if the clarity we’re seeking has been within us all along?
On Wise, Sharon Hoffman explores what it means to re-orient to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the nature of life — living from wisdom rather than fear, conditioning, or old patterns. Through real conversations drawn from live sessions with a global audience, listeners discover how clarity emerges when we reconnect with our inner truth.
Each episode explores the questions that shape our lives — relationships, purpose, uncertainty, fulfillment, identity, and the deeper patterns beneath them.
Wise is about remembering what we already know.
What is our human potential? Our capacity to evolve and grow. I've asked big questions my entire life, and over time, I discovered something simple and profound. Each of us is the foremost expert on our own life when we turn inward for the answers. I developed a way of guiding people back to their wisdom beneath fear and conditioning.
Speaker 1:Each week on Wise, we explore how clarity emerges and how to act in coherence with our inner truth. Because when you live from wisdom, you don't just change your own life, you change the world. I'm Sharon Hoffman. Welcome to Wise. These are excerpts from sessions I host each week on Clubhouse with a live global audience.
Speaker 2:I could do a follow-up because, I heard myself saying something to someone the other day, which isn't true anymore because I did, from Great. Maybe some of you remember I had a jerk boss who I couldn't get rid of and didn't know how to figure out. It was a relationship of over twenty five years of old programming where I couldn't get myself out. And so this was the part I wanted to highlight again is I didn't know how to solve it, and it just got me back into doing what I love doing, and that's scuba diving. After getting back into it and spending about twenty five hours underwater that year, I got the confidence to go to the Galapagos, and I and I dove with whale sharks, and it was mind blowing.
Speaker 2:Literally, I came back, and I was not normal or my same person for a couple months. I couldn't sleep because it was so mind boggling. Every time I put my head down on the pillow, I kept going back to being at 85 feet underwater looking up at a 40 foot whale shark, and I was so close to it, my bubbles were under its tail. It just was just mind shifting, and I really was not the same person. It took a while.
Speaker 2:It was weird.
Speaker 1:Like, you had to integrate the experience because you are forever changed by it? Yeah. It just I didn't have a place to kind
Speaker 2:of put it, and I still don't. It just now has settled, if that makes any sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah. It does. Can I interject for a second?
Speaker 2:Yeah. Sure.
Speaker 1:Sometimes we have peak experiences in our lives. It it expands us in some way, and we have to really live with a new version of reality because it changes us so much. The astronaut Edgar Mitchell experienced that the first time he went into outer space. He was looking back on planet Earth and it just blew his mind. Having that experience forever changed him.
Speaker 1:He came back full of curiosity and he founded the Institute of Noetic Sciences, which by the way is a phenomenal organization. If you want to plug more into the nitty gritty of how do we know these things that seem unknowable, those are the questions that serious researchers have been working on ever since for decades now. That was the fallout in a good way from him coming back to Earth forever changed, and it sounds like you came back from being under the tail of a whale shark forever change, and you're still integrating that incredible experience.
Speaker 2:Yeah. I wish I could say I've done something really amazing since. I've just kind of gotten back into my work routine, which isn't a horrible thing.
Speaker 1:But maybe it may be still to come, or it may simply be that your being has shifted in a way that maybe others will be mirroring back to you that you don't even realize yet.
Speaker 2:Well, that could be because I I sort of feel like now you can really do anything you wanna do. Because, a, I don't like to travel. I hate flying. And so that was part of my hang up with just getting on board with doing this. But once I committed to this is what I'm gonna do, that was really my my worst fear of getting ready.
Speaker 2:For six months, my palms were sweaty just thinking about the flights. It wasn't about the diving, but it was just getting there.
Speaker 1:What got you to overcome those fears? What was so great about your desire to do this? Because you hadn't done it before. You'd gone diving before, but you hadn't done this kind of diving before with whale sharks. What got you over your fear to actually do everything you did to get yourself there?
Speaker 2:I think I wanted to have a different thought process. I wanted new eyes on everything I was doing because back to this boss guy, I just was so annoyed with how I had been stuck for so long just getting by with this negative thing in my life. It was And how
Speaker 1:did you feel inside dealing with this guy for all those years? Your predominant feeling stayed inside. How would you describe it with him?
Speaker 2:Oh, just the total ick factor of feeling stuck. Yep. And then doing things trying to be separate and autonomous, but then realizing that he would always have a thumb on you. It just never felt right. There were certain times points where I could control it better than others, but it got to the point where he could see that, and he was trying to be even more controlling.
Speaker 2:And I just saw that his ship was sinking.
Speaker 1:So maybe a futility? It sounds like there was a hopelessness, futility in it that Yeah.
Speaker 2:The ship thinks. I had a partner who was saying, what else are you gonna do? You gotta do something. And so my time spent being proactive and being productive, I was gonna have to start over doing something else. So there was part of that.
Speaker 2:But then once I thought thought to myself, you know what? I'm okay now. I can do whatever I'm gonna do. I don't need this. But it it wasn't easy.
Speaker 2:That came after getting back into the diving and then realizing how incredible it felt to just dive again.
Speaker 1:So describe your inner state of being when you started diving again, and then what it was like to swim with the whale sharks. Describe your inner state of being or your emotional state, both.
Speaker 2:I started diving when I was 16, and my sixteenth year was my best year.
Speaker 1:So what was your feeling state?
Speaker 2:Just freedom and And this is something I could do forever. And way back then, I thought, oh, I'll be a marine photojournalist for my life. Then my mom told me I wouldn't get through the organic chemistry in college, that I would never be able to do it. So
Speaker 1:Old programming fear right there. Right? Yeah. When you dove with the whale sharks, now what was your inner state of being then?
Speaker 2:Like a child at Christmas morning, excited. And you can't sleep. You can't wait to get into the water. There's no fear. I have a video, and people have been like, oh my god.
Speaker 2:Weren't you scared? No. There was no fear. There was nothing else to the world. It was just me and these friends.
Speaker 2:These friends that I did this with, because we were all on the same dive, I tell them I love them. It was an experience that we all shared that was so unique. We're now bonded. It's a very special thing that we all can look at each other's eyes, and we can see behind our eyes that excitement of what we did. It's our little secret.
Speaker 2:Nobody else knows, but we have it together. It just held space. It held time still while we were there. It was seven minutes and forty seconds with three whale sharks. It was one dive, and it was the most profound thing I've ever done.
Speaker 2:Getting back to who I think I am now, I was telling a friend because we're planning a little trip, and I'm like, I don't really like to plan all that, and I don't like to fly. So can you do all that? And she's like, sure. Sure. But then I'm realizing, you know what?
Speaker 2:That's not me anymore. I do plan trips. I do plan flights. I do travel, and it's not scary. And I did make another plan, so I'm going to The Philippines to go diving.
Speaker 2:I am this person now. I am this world traveler that I can be. That's old programming, and that was what I wanted to bring up through all of that. I'm not that person anymore. I'm this person who tackles and takes charge and can get my scuba gear from one country to another country to another country, and I can do this off the back of a zodiac.
Speaker 2:I don't look back, and I got rid of that guy too, who was who was always in my life. And it wasn't a a clear path that I got rid of him. I just realized I couldn't do it anymore. I got to the point where I just stepped in and asked for help above me, another boss, and he took care of it. I had then the strength to ask for help and it just worked out.
Speaker 2:And and they saw it clear as day, how this was toxic. Once they saw how clear it was, this person just stepped right in and was like, you don't have to deal with that anymore.
Speaker 1:Well, I want to point out some things that you're talking about that I think are really important about your story, and thank you for sharing the arc of the ick factor to the awe factor, really. The way you're showing up now, you say I'm not that person anymore. It sounds like the pivot is that instead of leading from fear and old programming, you've put that in the back seat. Another driver's seat is to be led by your inspiration that's coming from within. The things that really inspire you, the unique you.
Speaker 1:You're you're not letting fear lead, which would be a fear of flying, a fear of making travel, whatever it might be. You're not letting that lead. The they they can have a that's human to have some fears, but when we let that define how we lead our lives, it's very different, and you've shifted to now let your wisdom lead is what it sounds like to me.
Speaker 2:Yeah. And and I won't have those sleepless nights the couple months before I go to The Philippines because it's just not even a factor anymore of flying to get there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm just so excited. Now I can't wait to get on that plane, which is really that Beautiful. Is a complete one eighty for
Speaker 1:me. The more the more you do that for yourself, the more you're in this new habit of living in alignment with your core essence, which feels really good, really life affirming. A lot of the words you used, exciting. Right? We we get to be our own source of awe and inspiration when we let that part of ourselves lead, the the part that inspires us.
Speaker 1:In your case, I'm gonna say something you've said before, but not today, that I think is also really interesting about the unfolding here of getting the ick factor out of your life is you you didn't figure out what to do next career wise. Instead, you figured out what you really love, which was diving, and it had nothing to do with your career. And you stepped into that, and because you got so inspired and lined up with yourself through diving, it made the ick factor no longer acceptable to keep living with the habit of having that feeling in your life. These are the turning points that we all can experience that could be so important. I love that you didn't just go from point A to point B to point C, like we might think life needs to work.
Speaker 1:If things aren't working in my work life, I need to find a a different work life. No. You knew that wasn't working. You weren't sure how to shift it. Instead, you shifted your energy toward what inspired you, going back to diving, and that opened your world up because your reference point now with the contrast of feeling really good got you to show up differently in the other environment that wasn't serving you, and all you did was ask for help and you got it.
Speaker 1:Right? The shift was really simple. That's why I wanted to
Speaker 2:bring it up too because it's so not a straight line. I really just threw up my hands with that and realized I I had this ick factor. I'm I'm I'm putting it off. I can't face it. I had faced it.
Speaker 2:I had confronted it. Didn't really work. So at this point, I was just gonna do this other thing. I needed to focus somewhere else. And then the way that it came back to me in spades of having the strength.
Speaker 2:And then and then since then too, my my work life has changed. I'm so, grateful to that other boss and our relationship has deepened. I've done a lot of work with other advisers. I'm a financial adviser. So other advisers on a mentoring.
Speaker 2:It helped our relationship, and I'm I'm I've always been pretty solid in my agency, but I'm even more looked towards as a mentor. And it all became stronger because of these multifactor problem solving relationship building situations.
Speaker 1:I I love that you're saying this part because this is how we need to redefine power. By you stepping into and leading from the wisest part of yourself, you claimed your power in the world, and that shows up to everybody. It's not about being in competition with others. It's not being about comparing ourselves and being better than others. It's not about strong arming people to do what we want to bend to our will.
Speaker 1:That's not true power. This is when you show up inspired in life because you're living in accordance with who you really are at a deeper level. That in and of itself is very inspiring to people. You are claiming your leadership in that way, and people want more of that. That's what I suspect has been going on.
Speaker 1:You've been showing up in this way where you're more lined up with yourself, and people are like, woah. Yeah. Yes.
Speaker 2:Right? It's true. We've had a women's group, and I shared my whale shark video. I it's crazy because I wanna show everybody even at the grocery store as I'm checking out.
Speaker 1:I'm getting blow their mind if you did.
Speaker 2:I'm getting more in control of that. They do look at me as someone who has this this bucket of life. She's gotten to this point. Now she's focused on this bucket. She's a mother too.
Speaker 2:So they're looking at me at some of these these younger kids, I call them, are starting their careers, and they're like, you can have all these multi pieces to your life and be a whole person. I'm sort of levitating as I walk around, or I was when I came back because I just was so happy. And so it is a draw, and I can feel that. They wanna hang out. They wanna pick my brain for work stuff.
Speaker 2:It feels great on that level too. I can be, you know, very receptive to being that coach. I I enjoy that aspect of where I am at this point. I just wanted to share. Thank you.
Speaker 1:Shifting old programs is a common theme in this conversation. Buying into her mom's belief that she couldn't be a marine biologist, settling for a toxic boss, and fearing plane travel. We get to hear the animated energy and enthusiasm in her voice that has resulted from her following her joy even though initially she has no clear resolution for her toxic boss situation. Following her joy frees something inside of her. Our lives aren't lived in compartments, although it may feel that way.
Speaker 1:Following joy in one area of life can have unexpectedly good consequences in all areas of life. People seek her out more at work, and she understands this is not a coincidence, but a marker of her newfound joy. We are naturally drawn to people who are joyful in the world, who are lined up with themselves, who are living in accordance with their truth. The next conversation reveals another way to break old patterns.
Speaker 3:I'm in this point of transition in my life right now where I have left what was my previous career and doing something totally different and moving toward doing meditation work with people. It's something that has really brought a lot of joy to me, but I'm right on the cusp of getting the courage to put myself out there as, doing it as a business, not just as a hobby, that I have been doing for friends and people that I'm in meditation groups. I just have been standing at the edge waiting to take the leap, and I feel a bit paralyzed.
Speaker 1:What is your fear about doing this?
Speaker 3:Even though I feel confident when I'm doing it just by myself, it's it's that kind of who do I think I am that I can do this for people and and more so ask them to pay for such a service. It feels a little bit like impostor syndrome, I guess. The other part of me knows that this is not true at all.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I feel like I'm stuck in the old mindset and the new one.
Speaker 1:You know, that's exactly what I was thinking when you were talking impostor syndrome. I pinned at the top of this room just now a link. This is my free gift to you or to anybody, really, who doesn't already have this. It's a ten minute guided visualization I created where it makes it easier to drop into your authentic self and really hear your own wisdom. You just pop in your email address and it will come to you.
Speaker 1:It's a downloadable m p three. It can be a guided visualization type of meditation if that's helpful to you. I think this is this is a matter of quelling the voice of fear, which is coming through as the impostor. Who am I? To really turn up the volume on the wise you who knows, I've got this.
Speaker 1:I love doing this work. I have this offering to give. I am not only worthy of doing it, but I do it really well. That's why I have people who attend. Why wouldn't they pay?
Speaker 1:This is a real service I'm providing that improves humanity. So when the wise you comes through and you can let that voice be the one you follow, that you turn up the volume on that voice and actively turn down the volume on the impostor syndrome voice. It's just simply fear. We all have it. You can even hug your fear and say, I understand.
Speaker 1:Yes. It is scary to move into new territory, into a new career path, and yet the wise me knows I've got this. Let me put you in the back seat now. You don't get to drive. You don't get to be in the driver's seat.
Speaker 1:You can literally make friends with that fear and put it in its proper place in your life. That's all you're doing. It's just a reordering of things. You don't have to heal something. You are whole and perfect just the way you are.
Speaker 1:It's just a matter of tuning into that voice of your wisest self, and I'm just wondering if any of my words are resonating with you as a path forward to move through the the buster syndrome from free to pay.
Speaker 3:Yeah. It does. The thing that's frustrated me the most is that anyone else who I'd be having a discussion with and they would be saying what I'm saying, I would completely, like, be like, no. That's not true. Yet for myself, it's that old habit of still putting myself last at the trough, so to speak.
Speaker 3:You know? Yeah. Sure. And, yeah, it's it's a hard habit to break, I guess.
Speaker 1:Well, here's this here's something that you can do right here and right now to help yourself. We can all do that. And in fact, I'm gonna invite everybody to focus on something you're wanting to shift right now in yourself or in your life. For you, it's moving from this offering that is a beautiful expression of who you are in the planet from free to paid work. Choose to take the easy path.
Speaker 1:Choose for the unfolding of this to be easy, to step out of impostor syndrome, to step into this as a business. Choose the easy path, for everyone else who's here, whatever thing it is you're wanting to shift, you may not have a clue how you're gonna shift it. That's okay. Just make the first decision, which is you get to choose whether it's gonna be easy or hard. Oftentimes in our mind, we say, oh, this is gonna be hard.
Speaker 1:It's gonna be drudgery. It's gonna be painful. And so guess what it is? The first step we can really take to help ourselves is to decide right here now for it to be easy. Does that feel like something you can step into, a choice for it to be easy, this unfolding?
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:Yes? Okay.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 1:Great. And so it is. You have you have just decided that. And in case you're tempted to think, well, those are just words, it is so powerful for every one of us. Anytime we decide, I choose ease in my life.
Speaker 1:I choose for this to be easy. This thing I've never done before. This thing that impostor syndrome is rearing its ugly head about. I choose for this to be easy. That's an easy choice.
Speaker 1:Who wants to choose the hard way? We only ever do that on a subconscious level, but we do it. So now on a very conscious, purposeful level, you've just chosen for this pathway to be easy, stepping from volunteer into paid work, into a business. And I love that you made that choice. Now you can just let it go because, you you know, we don't have to keep repeating these things over and over again.
Speaker 1:You can just get great clarity in the moment. Make that decision as your first step. I choose for this to be easy, and then see what unfolds next. I'm I'm kind of excited for you because I would love to hear back whether it worked or didn't for you. I think anytime we choose the easy way, I've had what felt like a miracle come in my own life multiple times from simply starting by choosing for this to be easy.
Speaker 1:And it can be about a big thing, a medium thing, or a small thing. It doesn't really matter. So try that on all day long. All of us. Let's do that.
Speaker 1:I I love when things come up in this room that are a great reminder for me as well as for you Because this is this is this process of being conscious in our lives, which is what meditation helps us to do. What powerful work you're moving into. I just wanna acknowledge that in you.
Speaker 3:Thank you. I I really appreciate that. I've been, for years, doing this work on my own, and it just became very clear to me that this is something that I wanna be able to share with others, and I have. And the feedback I've gotten has been really good. It has been helpful.
Speaker 3:I feel this is how I can be of service because that's been the driver. How can I be of service? This is how it's unfolded for me. Well, I still have to live my life and and, you know, meet my obligations, but it just never felt like I could be somebody who could be in business for myself. I was always like, I'm a follower.
Speaker 3:Tell me what to do, and I'll do it.
Speaker 1:So I see.
Speaker 3:Step Yeah. Going from being a little workhorse follower to taking the lead outside of my comfort zone.
Speaker 1:Right. Right. Well, you get to ask for all the support that you can use. You don't have to go this alone. You can call in just support I don't know if you've ever done this before, but you can really call in support from the ethereal realm, just from the universe to say, wanna feel incredibly supported so you're not alone.
Speaker 1:And then you might get an inspired idea, like, maybe so and so can help me with the social media posting or the marketing or whatever it might be so that you can simply follow those breadcrumbs of getting support. Really, this is in service of choosing the easy way. This gets to be easy. You don't have to do it alone even though it's your business. You get to have all the support surrounding you to help you step in with ease.
Speaker 1:And just like you got great clarity that this was your path. Beautiful. And you got great feedback from people you've provided this for. Beautiful. You're getting all these breadcrumbs saying, yes.
Speaker 1:Yes. You're on the right track. So I'm figuring that you also got that inspiration to move this into a business that this is calling out to you also. It's not just a matter of putting food on the table, that this is your next step that feels like the right inspired step. Am I right about that?
Speaker 3:Yes. It's been clear to me, especially with the type of work I did before. I was always a 100% committed to that. It was all in and all encompassing. I don't see a way to do this type of work and really be able to do it the right way to be totally invested in it and create the environment I wanna create for the people who would do this work with me.
Speaker 3:If I was constantly distracted with doing the type of work I used to do before, I used to work in law. They always have to feed the beast Yeah. In that type of work. And when I was able to step away, it was great. It was finally that last thing I needed to really shift, do this huge shift, and be fully committed to this work and change and go in deeper, learn more, and feel that confidence in myself and the authenticity in that type of work as well.
Speaker 3:I do feel like I've have reached out to, like, my guides, and it's all there. It's just I think there's still this very childlike part of myself that is hanging on waiting for somebody to push me off, you know, or start it. But the other larger part of me knows that's there's nobody who can do that except me. Nobody.
Speaker 1:That part of yourself when she shows up. Mhmm. Give her a big hug. Embrace her. Thank her for trying to look out for you, and then put her in the back seat with love, with the seat belt on.
Speaker 1:You know? You get to firmly stay in the back seat. My driver's seat is my clarity that this is my path, and I choose for the unfolding to be easy, to be fully supported by everyone in the ethereal and the physical realm. That's it. Just keep reaffirming your choice to step into your clarity.
Speaker 1:And when that voice rears its head, recognize it, befriend it, make sure it's in the back seat, and get reoriented with your wisdom and keep keep on keeping on. You don't have to know how to do it when it's brand new. Just keep following those breadcrumbs, and you'll get inspiration. Just look out for the inspired ideas that pop into your head. I haven't spoken to so and so in a really long time, or I don't know why this person keeps coming up in my mind, and then they're gonna call you, and then they're gonna tell you about something that's gonna further your business.
Speaker 1:That's that's how following the breadcrumbs can look for you. They can be that easy. And it's it's a very different process than what the law requires. The law requires being in a heightened expertise around logic. This is using the other side of your mind, which you clearly know how to do because you have a calling to be doing this meditative work, and you know the clarity when it comes your way.
Speaker 1:This is engaging with yourself in a different way. You've you've got this. It's really clear to me listening to you. It's just a matter of keeping on every day and recognizing that voice when she comes in that's not serving you at this juncture in your life and just knowing that's okay. We all have those voices.
Speaker 1:Michelle Obama in her most recent memoir talked about that voice in her. Can you imagine? Her impostor syndrome voice. She has it too. We all get to experience our humanity.
Speaker 1:It's just a matter of what do you do when that happens. Right? You get to pivot just like the winged creature you helped get out the the open door. You get to help yourself do that by staying in your clarity, putting the fear in the back seat. It's it's shifting into your observer self and making it a different choice, reaffirming your choice to move with ease.
Speaker 1:Follow your clarity for this get this gets to be easy. That's my wish for you to keep with that unfolding every day.
Speaker 3:Thank you. I really appreciate everything that you've said. It's given me a lot to, you know, focus on and step out of this space of being paralyzed with the doubt, the creeping doubt.
Speaker 1:That's okay when that happens. It it it doesn't have to be a justification to keep you there. This is for all of us. Doesn't have to be our justification to stay in that mode. It's to recognize, oh, aren't you familiar?
Speaker 1:Yes. I I'm gonna love on you for trying to protect me. I'm gonna now put you in a different place in my life where you're not in the driver's seat. That's how the ease come in. I'm wondering if for now if you're feeling complete.
Speaker 3:I am. Thank you. Just everything that you were talking about today, this is this is awesome. Thank you very much, and I will be back.
Speaker 1:Oh, great. That's great. And you're very welcome. I I want to respond to that by saying that anything that keeps you coming here, anything you hold on to, this is for everybody, is a remembrance of what you already know, that you have this great wisdom within you, this access. And when you touch have a touch point of accessing your own wisdom, doesn't it feel amazing?
Speaker 1:It's amazing. So thank you for being here, each and every one of you today. Like the previous person, she also speaks about breaking an old habit that doesn't serve her, knowing she would advise anyone else to listen to their truth. At the same time, her fearful voice has her ear. She only needs to remember what she already knows, that listening to her truth is the life affirming choice for her.
Speaker 1:The complimentary guided visualization I offer to her is also available to you at sharonhoffmanliving.com. In the next conversation, we witness yet another way to break free from what constrains us. How are you today?
Speaker 4:Just about hanging on in there, if I'm honest, at the moment. But, yeah, still grateful to be alive and stuff. But, yeah, it's been a bit rough recently.
Speaker 1:I see. Okay. Yeah. Part of part of the human experience, the not feeling good part. Yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Do you have a question?
Speaker 4:How can I shift into more action? I've been stagnant for, like, a couple of months now. And, yeah, I really need to get myself back into action mode. Any tips on how to do
Speaker 1:that? Okay. What has stagnant looked like for you? What does that what does that mean exactly?
Speaker 4:Not doing a lot with my time at all, staying still most of the day.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 1:Have you needed have you needed that for yourself?
Speaker 4:Yeah. I have. Okay. But it's got to a point where, yeah, I I need to tidy up and I need to start organizing things. Okay.
Speaker 4:Yeah. I need I just need to get back on top of things. I've let things slide a bit too far, I think.
Speaker 1:Okay. You you gave yourself what you needed, and now what you need is to rebalance instead of just being to have there being some doing.
Speaker 4:Yeah. Okay. Yeah.
Speaker 1:You said there's some things that have been sliding. Mhmm. So you may have a laundry list of things that need to happen. The way to getting into that kind of action, one one pathway is to not try and do those things first, but instead to ask yourself, get get into a quiet place, Take a couple of full deep breaths and ask yourself, what would bring me joy in this moment? Can we all do that together?
Speaker 1:Are you with me if we do that for a minute?
Speaker 4:Yeah. Of course.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. Let's do that all, and everybody in the room is invited. Let's all ask ourselves that question. We all get to have our experience. Join me in dropping in for a moment to your breath, and simply focus on on your breath.
Speaker 1:Let everything else fall away, the the future, the past. Just be right here, now in your belly. Bring your energy down from your head space through your heart and down into your belly and just noticing your breath. And now you may notice that as you follow your breath, you start to naturally slow and deepen your breathing. It just happens without even trying.
Speaker 1:Are you noticing that happening?
Speaker 4:Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay. So just stay with that rhythm of your breath. And now I want you to ask yourself, and everybody in this room, ask yourself, in this moment, what would bring me joy? In this moment, what would bring me joy? And I want you to just notice the very first thing that pops into your mind, Heather.
Speaker 4:Yeah. It was to cook myself something healthy, actually.
Speaker 1:Okay. What healthy something sounds really, really good to you right now?
Speaker 4:I've got a butternut squash that's been sitting around I need to use up, so I'm gonna roast that and make myself a good soup, I think.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Sounds delicious. This is a beautiful way to start to move into inspired action. You've gotten into a quiet place where you could really be focused in the present, And you've asked yourself this question, what would bring you joy? The most immediate thing that came in was this healthy nourishing meal, which sounds wonderful.
Speaker 1:Now you can go make that for yourself. Now you're just moved into action. Do that every hour. If you want you play around with what feels right for you, you can set a timer for yourself.
Speaker 4:Mhmm.
Speaker 1:This is my joy timer. And do that same practice over and over again every hour. What will bring me joy? Dropping into your breath first. Three full deep breaths ought to do it.
Speaker 1:Then ask that question. When you got that answer, did you feel the rightness of it for you? Like, was you were really tapping into what was true for you?
Speaker 4:Yeah. It was instinctive. It just
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 4:Popped out on me. So yeah.
Speaker 1:Beautiful. Instinctive. Yes. So just notice, and this is for everybody here right now, notice the quality that came with the clarity. Okay?
Speaker 1:You ask the question. You drop into your breath. You ask yourself the question. You get the immediate answer. It registers as your truth.
Speaker 1:Right? And there there's a there's a feeling from within that it it just feels right. And hold on to what that feeling state is because that is your knowing of how that feels when you drop into your wisdom. That's your wisdom coming through. Don't worry about those looming things you know have to get done.
Speaker 1:The more you step into your joy and you set this timer if that rings true to you, and if it doesn't, don't do it. Do whatever feels easy, light, playful, doable, desired for you. Yeah. React if you try that on once an hour, you will be taking an action once an hour that moves you into your joy. And when you get into a more joyful place because you're doing this every hour, those other things that need to get done, you're gonna have the the state of mind to just do them without even reminding yourself.
Speaker 1:It'll just start to happen. But I wouldn't begin there because sometimes those things can feel arduous. You know? Like, I I don't really wanna do it, but I know I have to do it. Right?
Speaker 1:It can have that energy to it. You you know you don't wanna leave those things too much longer. And yet sometimes the the fastest path isn't a straight line. You know what I mean?
Speaker 4:Yeah. You've gotta play with it a bit and yeah. So get get my fun up. Get my
Speaker 1:Get your fun up. Yes. Yeah. That's it.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 4:Get back into that mode, and then everything else will slowly follow on from that. Yeah. It does make sense. Thank you.
Speaker 1:And in this in the sense that it's making to you, does it also register within as a good pathway for you? If you if it reminds you of something that you think would be better for you, that's your truth.
Speaker 4:Mhmm.
Speaker 1:You'd it's not about taking on my suggestion. These are just suggestions. I give plenty of suggestions and ideas, but it's really about each of us getting clear for ourselves what feels like our right path. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4:Yeah. I've been stuck for quite a while now. I was just looking for another hack, another tool. So, yeah, I'm gonna try and use that, incorporate that. So I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1:The joy timer? The the breath. Yeah. And
Speaker 4:stepping back into my fun and my joy and
Speaker 3:trying to
Speaker 4:enjoy the mundane things a bit more. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. I
Speaker 1:Yeah. That's that's right. That that's all it is.
Speaker 4:My perspective a little bit. That's all.
Speaker 1:Yes. This gets to be this gets to be easy. It gets to be immediate, and you get to have fun. How is that for a recipe? Yeah.
Speaker 1:Just getting back. It doesn't have to be hard. It doesn't have to take a lot of effort. It doesn't have to take any effort. Doesn't it feel like something you wanna reach out for to to bring more joy in?
Speaker 4:Oh, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Yeah. For any of us. Right? Oh, goody.
Speaker 1:I get to have dessert first? Yes. You do. Yes. You do.
Speaker 1:Yes. Let's all have dessert first, which is what's gonna bring me joy in this moment. Yes. And then the rest will follow. It's just stepping into our joy first.
Speaker 1:The easiest way I know that is to drop in our breath for a few full deep breaths. Another part of that play is holding all of this lightly, trying on different things. And the things that feel right and good, keep them going. And the things that don't have any juice for you, leave them behind. You know?
Speaker 1:Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you so much for your question. Deep appreciation, yeah, for you.
Speaker 1:Do you feel complete?
Speaker 4:Oh, yeah. Yeah. Thank you very much.
Speaker 1:How many times have you encountered that kind of stuckness, the inability to move forward in your own life? I can relate to it wholeheartedly. When I was a graduate student and it came time to write my dissertation, I developed a severe case of writer's block. It lasted for a very long time. Nothing I tried worked.
Speaker 1:Finally, I threw my hands up in despair and asked myself, what would make it fun? The answer that immediately arose surprised me. It was to blast music I loved. This seemed at odds with the deep concentration needed to undertake scholarly writing, and yet that is exactly what worked. Writing required prolonged periods of solitude, and I needed to bring a party into the room.
Speaker 1:Music did that for me. I have never experienced writer's block since. Here, he's looking for a hack to bring him back into action. The hack any of us can use over and over again is to attune to the joyful place inside of us, whether it's making a healthy meal, playing great music, or something else entirely. It's not the thing itself.
Speaker 1:It's what it stirs inside of us. These are a few of my thoughts about today's episode. That's all for this time. Thank you for listening. If you'd like to ask a question that may be featured on Wise, you can join me live on Clubhouse.
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