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So I wanted to hop on here for a little bonus episode because I have been so interested in and inspired by this whole nineties Butter Mom trend that's been going around the last few months. If you don't know what it is, nineties butter mom is is this aesthetic that's popular on Instagram right now. It's being described as a mom who celebrates a slower, simpler lifestyle with home cooked meals and a cozy, effortless fashion. So you're seeing a lot of nineties music with moms and plaids and denims and chickens and kids and cookbooks. And it's all very romanticized, and nostalgic for us.
Carrie:I think it reminds us of our childhood, frankly. But I think there's definitely more than a viral trend happening here. And there's a reason that so many moms online are being deeply drawn to and inspired by this nostalgic lifestyle. And I really don't think it's about the butter or the denim clothing, though I am here for both of those things. Love denim.
Carrie:Love me some butter. But I think it's deeper. It is stirring up a hunger in our souls for simpler times. When moms could enjoy raising their babies without the pressures of the world watching them online or the comparison of what a million other moms are doing with their kids at any given moment. I have talked to my mom about this a lot and she has shared with me the beauty that was in just being in your own home and not knowing what your friends were doing with their kids, let alone what the world was doing and the freedom in that.
Carrie:So I don't know. It makes me ask what can we learn from this trending moment in time like the Butter Mom? Doesn't have to just be a trend. You know? There are themes that are speaking to our heart that I think can become a lifestyle or a part of our lifestyle if we fight for it.
Carrie:There's four themes that come to mind that I'm going to try to implement that I'm inspired by with The Butter Mom. The first is simplicity. Like we said, making our days as simple as possible instead of cramming in everything we possibly can to the calendar. So saying no to more so you can say yes to your family. Dinners at home, board games, walks with your kids, slow mornings in the playroom with your cup of coffee.
Carrie:These things are enough, and nineties moms knew that. The second is presence. We have lost the ability to be present due to our phones, due to technology, due to emails. But the butter mom represents a time where we were where we were and that was it. And we only knew what was going on in our lives at that moment.
Carrie:Nothing was trying to rob us desperately of our time and our kids. And our generation, unfortunately, we don't get to live in that reality, but we can implement strong boundaries with our devices and we can fight for presence because it's a gift. It's a gift to our kids. It's a gift to our spouses. It's a gift to us to be present.
Carrie:And I will say our kids know when we're present. They know. My son is 11 old and he can tell when I'm tuned out and when I'm checked out and when my brain is split. And he can tell when I am locked in on him, fixed on him, focused on him. Let's be present.
Carrie:Butter moms, they're representing presence. The third is self forgetfulness. And that is the ability not to think less of ourselves, but to live in humility and just think of ourselves less, to focus on our family. This is the part of the butter mom, I think, that wears the biker shorts and a t shirt and a baggy denim top, minimal makeup. It's not really about the wardrobe, it's about the heart.
Carrie:It's about what that wardrobe represents, which is focusing on serving and loving our family and not on loving and glorifying ourselves. And this is hard for us because we were taught to focus on self in our me culture. But I think we're all drawn to the otherness and the selflessness of the butter mom. Her simple clothing and her simple meals and unplugged nature is there so she can focus on others. And it's not about how she's perceived, but about how much her family is feeling loved.
Carrie:There's something that's deeply admirable about that and inspiring. Lastly, I wanna touch on contentment. Look, we could talk for days about the comparison problem with social media. It is pretty hard to be a content and confident mom running a household when all you're thinking about is what everyone else has in that given moment that you don't. The new house, the upgraded car, the push present, the spontaneous family trip to Europe, the best sourdough recipe you ever will try.
Carrie:You get it. But what if we just embraced what we did have? What if we just decided that our home was enough, that our home was beautiful, that our closet was enough, that the toys that our kids have are are good enough? And what if we just thanked God for what we do have today? So we don't have an opportunity to live a life free from the noise, not fully, but we do have the opportunity to fight back.
Carrie:To thank the Lord for our sweet home, our car that works, our dishes that are chipped but not broken, and not to mention our babies, our husbands. Let's live in the gratitude of what each one of us has today because it's a gift. I truly believe that's where the joy is in motherhood. So, honestly, whether or not you were down to wear denim and cook with butter, I think that nineties butter mom is for you. I think there's a little bit of nineties butter mom that is good for all of us.