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The Aspiring Stylist Podcast is where to begin, grow and aspire to become the best stylist you can be. Whether you’re thinking about becoming a stylist, opening a salon, or developing your skill as an experienced stylist, the next step of your beauty career starts here. Each week we’ll discuss strategic ways to design, plan and execute on becoming a stylist that excels behind the chair and above the bottom line.
Morgan Franklin: Welcome to the
Aspiring Stylists Podcast with
Tracey Franklin. Where to begin,
grow and aspire to become the
best stylist you can be. Whether
you're thinking about becoming a
stylist opening a salon, or
developing your skills as an
experienced stylist the next
step of your beauty career
starts here. Each week we'll
discuss strategic ways to
design, plan and execute on
becoming a stylist that excels
behind the chair and above the
bottom line. Here's your host,
Tracey Franklin.
Tracey Franklin: have you ever
really given yourself permission
to succeed? Is that even a
question you've asked yourself?
There are so many common signs
of self doubt that I see in
stylists. I see stylists looking
at all these success stories on
social media, and it just feels
so far away for them. They're
scared that they'll never be
that good. They can't imagine
charging 50 or $100 for a
haircut now, or maybe ever. So
we've heard the term impostor
syndrome. But what does it
really mean? It means you don't
believe that your work is
worthy, or that your success is
earned. stylist who experience
impostor syndrome struggle, big
time, if you don't feel
responsible for your success, if
you're not giving yourself any
credit, then you're probably
also not taking any
accountability for it. Right? So
the same stylist who feels not
good enough, doesn't think their
effort really matters anyway. So
why even try, they oftentimes
blame themselves or the industry
for their lack of success. I'm
sure you've also heard the term
fake it till you make it. I
think that has become so deeply
ingrained in who we are as even
people, right? having a bad day.
Oh, don't let it show, show up,
smile, put positive thought
work, put good vibes into the
universe. There's so many things
that we tell ourselves instead
of just feeling our feelings.
Fake it till you make it from a
professional standpoint can mean
something completely different.
It's incredibly important that
we show up as a competent
stylist. So that means we can't
let our clients smell fear. And
in the beginning, that's really
hard. But we have to have a
belief in ourselves that says,
hey, I'm still learning and
growing. But I'm showing up,
lean into that and let that give
you the competence that you
need. I've felt the same way.
I've had to overcome feelings of
inadequacy, just like everyone
else. I've built my confidence.
But not everyone's born with it.
I feel like I was born with
some, but I've definitely
enhanced it. You know,
Confidence comes more naturally,
when you get better at
something. Practice makes
better. Practice makes faster.
You have to work on your
mindset. You can't always be
hard on yourself, you can't
always not be good enough. You
have to look for the good and
your work. And you have to
celebrate yourself, celebrate
your progress. So how do you
build confidence in your skills
and in your services,
repetition, practice it, do it
over and over and over again. No
practice does not make perfect,
okay? Perfect is unattainable,
but it can make you so much
better. And then ask for
feedback. Ask your peers how
you're doing. Ask your clients
how you're doing. Being able to
pinpoint areas that you need to
grow is super valuable. Again,
mindset is everything. How can I
use this information to become
better? A good mentorship is
worth more than gold. Especially
if you're combating self doubt,
working beside someone that has
been where you are is very
comforting. And a mentorship is
going to be amazing for your
technical skills. And that's
valuable enough. But you also
learn how a successful stylist
talks to their clients. How do
they consult? How do they
recommend products, these are
likely things that you didn't
get a lot of exposure to in
school, you get to see them
firsthand, winning every day and
overcoming their challenges and
you get to see them as a human
being. And then you begin to
understand that you are human
too. I think we all compare
ourselves a little bit to other
hairstylist, how could we not
right? But comparison is a
thief. So try not to compare
yourself with anyone. If you're
going to compare compare
yourself with older versions of
you. Look how you've grown look
how far you've come. If
anything, tried to be inspired
by what other people are doing.
Can you level up? Can you offer
something new? They're doing it
you can do it too. So we're
going to turn these negative
thoughts into positive
affirmations. Okay, We're gonna
go Oh hoo hoo for a minute. I
like to speak the future into
the present. What I mean by
that, here's an example. I am a
highly sought after hair
extension artist. So that is
something I used to say before I
was this person. Or I would say
something like, I'm excited
about the stylist I'm becoming
or all my hard work is paying
off. Do you see how validating
that feels, never speak
negatively about yourself,
especially when you're showing
up and putting in the work. Talk
about yourself like you would
your sister or your best friend,
you're gonna have to learn to
manage pressure from your
clients, from your co workers
and a healthy way. Okay, we
can't be flying off the cuff all
the time, we have to stay calm,
and we have to be kind. I
personally am a very direct
person. And sometimes people
mistake that for rude. So I've
tried harder to be softer with
my words, I'm not changing
myself, I'm not any less direct
than I used to be. I'm just
adding a little extra kindness
so that my energy is well
received. If you truly want to
grow, you have to be open to
constructive criticism or
feedback, like I like to say,
and anything else that someone
is willing to share with you
that can help you be better. We
are very one dimensional with
our experience. Remember that we
are the giver of the experience.
So when you can get feedback
from a receiver of it, it's
really important to listen.
Others see us through a
different lens. And that is
always worth taking into
consideration. Let's talk about
mistakes. Every mistake holds a
lesson of something to do or not
to do. And losing has taught me
more than winning ever could. If
you're determined to grow, if
you're using your setbacks as
set ups, then your mistakes and
how you handle them is what
builds you. You have to own your
mistakes. What role did you play
in this mishap? Whatever it was,
own your part. And then ask
yourself, How am I going to do
things different next time. So
networking helps us move in the
path of growth that helps us in
our success. And as far as
networking goes, I think word of
mouth is still king. The more
networking we do, the more we
talk to people, the more people
are gonna know who we are and
what we do. And that betters our
chances and converting new
clients. People have no idea who
you are, if you don't share
yourself with them. Even if they
don't need your services, they
probably know someone that does.
I mean, I've had clients that
were Pixies, but they have
daughters that want hair
extensions, you need to be your
biggest advocate your biggest
hype girl. I've had to develop a
mindset that embraces
challenges, right? I like to
look at the trail behind me. I
like to look to see how far I've
come. I know that every one and
every loss has been a stepping
stone to the beautiful career
that I have today. So when I
look at the track record of my
life, I see the upward
trajectory, I see that it's all
been for my good. So how, how
can I regret any of it? I don't,
I choose to embrace it. We're
going to face setbacks, and our
mindset can take a huge hit
during a setback. But me, I'm a
scrappy little devil and I never
backed down from a challenge. I
have the ability to see the
future I'm striving to create,
and I let that inspire me. I let
it drive me. Even though some
days I can't find the keys.
Quitting isn't an option. It
never has been. I am called to
elevate this industry alongside
all the other people making big
moves with me. I see the
difference I'm making and I
don't let little challenges or
setbacks knock me down. You've
probably heard me mention
education a time or two if
you've listened to any of my
podcast. And that's because it
is so important. In this ever
changing industry. Education
isn't even a choice. It's a must
to be at the top of your game,
to make the kind of money you
want to make and work on the
type of clients you want to work
on. You always need to be
learning, knowing more builds
your competence and so just
practicing these skills and
getting good at him. There's a
difference in having a positive
mindset and having a success
orientated mindset. So I have to
set clear intentions right for
my success. And I do that by
setting goals. You have to see a
target to hit it. So I have my
smart goals in place for
everything I try to accomplish.
specific measurable, attainable,
relevant, timely, you've heard
these terms before. It's the
best way to set a goal you can't
Just be a dreamer, you have to
be a doer as well. So how do you
sneak in these little positive
self talks? little reminders
every day about what a badass
you are is a great place to
start, speak success and joy and
life into every day. Are you
able to visualize your future?
Or are you actually able to see
it? Visualization is everything
to me. I spend hours looking
into the future and imagining my
life as if it were exactly how I
want it to be. I meditate on
that I lean into that I let
myself feel it. The places I go,
the smile on my face, the things
I'm experiencing. visualization
can take you to your ideal life.
And once you see it, you can
create it, your success is going
to lie within your daily habits.
So make sure you have structure,
make sure there's order to the
way you're doing things. It's
easy to forget to respond to
messages or to put that
appointment in your book if you
don't have any order in your
life. Create time and space for
the things that matter most to
you, both professionally and
personally. Many of my friends
or clients and many of my
clients are friends and I like
it that way. Remember, in order
to be a successful person, you
have to think and act like a
successful person. Do you ever
take time to celebrate yourself?
Big victories small victories?
Do you ever just take time to
celebrate yourself? Well, if you
want others to support you and
cheer for you, you have to start
with cheering for yourself. You
need to be singing your own
praises. What are you proud of?
Start by posting it on social
media be authentic. Let everyone
know how hard you worked on a
particular outcome and how proud
of yourself you are people
resignate with that, be someone
they can relate to. And maybe
you're reminding them to cheer
for their selves to in the
process. My good friend and
colleague share told me that she
doesn't strive for work life
balance. She strives for work
life integration. I love that my
clients are more than just a
business transaction. They are
what makes my career what it is.
And I love the art I create. And
I love the people I created on.
With that being said, there's
more to all of us than what we
do behind the chair. So make
sure you're nourishing your
personal life, the relationships
that matter to you most and any
other things that you might be
working on. You have to give
yourself permission to pivot and
adapt when things don't go as
planned. Or maybe your interests
just change. Forcing yourself to
do something that no longer
brings you joy is so punishing.
There are too many aspects of
this beautiful industry to ever
stay stuck. If I haven't
entertained being an educator, I
wouldn't be making the impact I
am today on the future stylist
of our industry. You have to
listen to your inner dreamer and
give yourself permission to move
past something, to cherish it,
to be thankful for it, but to
move past it. So what's the most
important lesson I've ever
learned? That I'm worth at all,
every dream I've brought to
life. All the success I've been
blessed with. I worked for it. I
earned it. And I deserve it. And
so do you.
Morgan Franklin: Thank you for
joining us on this episode of
anytime soon. The Aspiring
Stylist Podcast with Tracey
Franklin. If you enjoyed
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The Aspiring Stylist Podcast
with Tracey Franklin is a Morgan
Franklin Production. Today's
episode was written and produced
by Morgan Franklin editing and
post-production by Mike
Franklin. Want to find out more
about Tracey and the Aspiring
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