Mr. & Mrs. Inglis

All aboard the chaos express! If you’ve got a ticket for this ride, you already know it. It’s the one where there’s never enough time in the day—kids’ schedules outpace yours, work demands keep piling up, and oh yeah, the laundry, dishes, mowing the lawn, and bills aren’t going to handle themselves. Let’s not forget staying connected with friends and family, even though you planned to be in bed by 9 pm…but it’s now 11 pm, and tomorrow starts before the sun does. Sound familiar?

We’re right there with you. Welcome to The Mr. & Mrs. Inglis Podcast, hosted by Shaen and Meghan Inglis—a weekly show where we dive into real and honest conversations about the wild ride of raising kids, growing careers, and managing family and friendships in the middle of life’s beautiful chaos. So grab your ticket and join us for a weekly dose of camaraderie, connection, and a reminder that you’re never in this alone.

Follow and subscribe to the Mr. & Mrs. Inglis podcast and visit our channel and our website at shaeninglis.com to check out and follow our other podcasts. You can also follow Shaen and Meghan @ShaenInglis on Instagram, YouTube, or at shaeninglis.com. Feel free to share the Mr. & Mrs. Inglis podcast with someone who would enjoy and benefit from our weekly discussions.

What is Mr. & Mrs. Inglis?

We’re right there with you. Welcome to The Mr. & Mrs. Inglis Podcast, hosted by Shaen and Meghan Inglis—a weekly show where we dive into real and honest conversations about the wild ride of raising kids, growing careers, and managing family and friendships in the middle of life’s beautiful chaos. So grab your ticket and join us for a weekly dose of camaraderie, connection, and a reminder that you’re never in this alone.

Follow and subscribe to the Mr. & Mrs. Inglis podcast and visit our channel and our website at shaeninglis.com to check out and follow our other podcasts. You can also follow Shaen and Meghan @ShaenInglis on Instagram, YouTube, etc. Feel free to share the Mr. & Mrs. Inglis podcast with someone who would enjoy and benefit from our weekly discussions.

(upbeat music)

It's all techy stuff, I

tell you all about it.

Because I'm having a cow.

I'm gonna go eat the cow that I just had.

It's a metaphorical cow.

Oh, okay.

So you're metaphorically having the cow,

but you're actually going to eat the cow

the metaphorically had.

Thanks for joining us, guys.

Have a good one.

We told you we'd keep it short this time.

People are like, "Oh,

shoot, put the remote down."

It's been intense.

Emotional in dealing with, you know,

formula novella kind of

stuff all the time, like.

Man up, it's allergies.

Yeah.

I don't know, I guess

when she looked up my nose,

I looked stuffy.

Just come on and vent.

That's gotta be a separate

podcast, that would just be so.

Oh, cathartic.

It's like, really, I

just didn't need that.

Right.

I'll grab a short pour of bourbon.

There's mice in it.

I'll go sit in the backyard for a moment.

Just decom--

I try to be super

positive, but every now and again,

I just need a moment.

You're probably the most positive person

on a consistent basis that I've ever met.

Really cute.

You're welcome.

All right.

I mean, the only other

people I can think of

are Disney characters.

I'm a teenager, and I told you,

I got a really bad

haircut, and it was bad, people.

Not that hair in the 90s was good anyway.

It would end the world to me.

Yeah.

Just something about

laughter, you know what I mean?

One of two people who can call me that,

just for the record.

Different kind of humor, for sure,

but it's not for everybody.

Taking a deep breath, and

there it is, mystery solved.

Mystery solved, this is why--

And they said, I think it was

the second fastest all time.

Yeah, just a seve, get some

of the gang back together.

Yeah, and that's where

the positivity stops, folks.

No, but he's going for 100

hours, just to make sure.

I come from an ice cream family, I mean.

It's the classic, one

wins it for the rest.

Yes.

There's one time I

knew it, how about that?

I love it.

Yeah.

She fell out of the back of the bus.

You fell out of the back of the bus.

Just go with us, people.

What is going on in the bus?

With two fists, boom, boom, boom.

Diving on top of the

goalkeeper, like swinging,

we're like--

Clocks the goalie, and

someone starts throwing

a punch on the parents' side.

We're professionals during the day,

we don't see this happen.

No, I've actually never seen a fight.

Craziness.

Cops got called, hiding.

Yep.

Cowardly, selfish.

Yep.

And it makes me mad.

Yep, that's a trigger, well,

that's a trigger for both of us.

You know what, it feels

really, really freaking good

to get it out.

It does, it peeps me.

It peeps me.

Ooh.

Ah.

Yeah, yeah.

I'm just hangry is what it is for me.

Probably.

Well, let's end this on a positive note.

We are positive people.

Hibachi and screaming, I'll put--

Like I promise I'm not a predator.

Bum, bum, bum.

Shoes and April Fool's kind of a gal.

Yeah.

Girl, he's behind the front door.

Yes, no more soccer drama.

Biden in our $12 eggs.

Don't get me started.

I'm starting to, bird flu, okay?

Biden's starting bird flu.

All right, bye, Petal.

Bye, single.

What would you say?

Well, odd, but we'll cut it off here.

(Megan laughs)

Welcome to the Mr. and

Mrs. English podcast.

I'm Megan.

And I'm Sean.

We're here to talk about the wild ride

of raising kids and growing careers,

keeping life together in

the middle of all the chaos.

So buckle up,

because we're all in

this crazy journey together.

Bop, bop, bop.

Bop.

(Megan laughs)

I kinda got, we got a

slow bop on that one.

Yeah.

It's all right, it's late.

It's all techy stuff, I

tell you all about it.

It's way over my head.

It's way over your head, yeah.

Sound board, engineering, it's a science.

I mean, I've spent...

You've become an expert pretty quickly.

It is all over my head.

Like, I don't know what I'm gonna be doing.

I'm kidding, I'm

obviously joking around here.

Like I'm sitting way down

here in this deep seat here.

I know.

Well, welcome.

Welcome to another

edition of Mr. and Mrs.

Date night, yeah, that's right.

I know.

Add that on like our

tagline or something.

We could, we could.

We actually delayed

the filming of this one

for several reasons.

Several reasons.

Yeah, and now we're kind

of backed into a corner,

we gotta get it done.

And I would say emotions

are just as high as they were

this weekend when we...

Yeah, I agree.

Like we delayed the filming of this

because it was a very

emotional, really four days.

Busy four days too.

Like, so in addition

to just being emotional

and dealing with, you know,

Taylor Novella kind

of stuff all the time,

like, it's just like,

we're gonna wait until Monday

when things, and the dust has settled.

And no, it's still just as crazy.

Yeah, still blowing dust.

Yeah.

Still settling, can't see the path.

I know, kind of like that

big dust storm from West Texas

that blew, you know, 12

inches of dirt into our pool.

Yeah, not quite 12 inches, but we're

still clearing it out.

That was something last week.

And it's pollen season, so.

Yeah, it's pollen season.

It's the great yellowing,

as we refer to it here to some degree.

Yeah, and you know, our

oldest son looking like

he's either been crying constantly or...

Allergies are so bad.

I always tell everybody, like,

I never had allergies growing up.

And ever since, I mean, I

guess we moved to Chicago

and I developed

allergies there in my 30s.

And they're terrible,

like, when they hit you hard,

like, you can't tell if

you're dying, like, sick,

or if it's just like,

man up, it's allergies.

But, you know, then I

got a bunch of, like,

head colds, they turn

into sinus infections.

Not much anymore,

because I figured it out.

You know, as in life, you

kind of figure stuff out,

how to avoid good and

bad, or the bad, I guess.

But then when I would

go back to Colorado,

I'd have allergies there then too,

which I never had them growing up.

Remember when we moved

back there, I got them.

So I don't know if it's

this pollen or what it is,

but once it gets you,

it gets you, the bug.

It really does.

And I've heard that,

I've heard that in

Texas they're really bad.

Like, almost everyone in Texas

is on some type of allergy pill.

Did you have it?

I mean...

No, not really.

Growing up, no.

I didn't really start getting allergies

until I was pregnant.

And there is such a thing as

pregnancy induced allergies.

So it wasn't until then that I had them,

and ever since then I've had them.

Mine aren't usually horrible though.

Unlike our oldest who,

I truly asked him if he had been crying.

Yeah, no, he did look bad.

Are you okay?

He did look bad.

Allergy season, where

everybody's at, taking allergies.

I keep talking about,

I don't know if I should be

taking those allergy pills.

I take them year round

for like 10 years now.

My doctor actually told me that I should.

Oh, so that you can do that?

She wants me doing that because it,

in theory would help with my migraines.

Cause she's like, you're really stuffy.

And I was like, I don't feel stuffy.

But I don't know.

I guess when she looked up

my nose, I looked stuffy.

Wonder what your voice sounds like

without all your stuffiness then.

I don't know.

I wouldn't know the difference because...

Either would I.

You don't sound stuffy to me, but...

Although do you

remember when we first met

and we got off the cruise

and you and I had just started talking,

do you remember for

that first like two weeks,

I was sick as a dog and

I basically had no voice.

I was super, super stuffy.

Do you remember that?

Yeah, I do.

You got sick afterwards.

I do remember that.

So like for the first two

weeks of our entire relationship

as we're getting to know each other,

you didn't even know what

my normal voice sounds like.

Talked a lot on the phone.

A lot on the phone, yeah.

Yeah.

So anyway.

I always think about that.

It's like, I was really sick.

Well, we can at least

talk about the good things

that happened this week.

At least start there.

Because I'm sure we'll get into,

I keep talking about we

need to have a segment on here

that's, you know...

A complaining corner.

A complaining quarter

or, you know, I'm peeved.

I'm peeved.

That's a good one.

Something like that, just to complain.

But then it'll just be,

we're trying to shorten.

Yeah, well we've been

trying to shorten it.

The show.

If we had that, I mean,

it could get really long.

Yes, and do people

really just want to hear us

complain and moan for,

you know, 30 minutes?

That's gotta be a separate podcast.

That would just be so...

Oh, cathartic.

Oh, that would feel really good.

Not uplifting, but...

No.

Yeah.

That's what, we could just start one.

That's one that guests

would love to come on, right?

Like, hey, just come on and vent.

Just...

Get all the poison out.

All your grievances, yeah.

It's like those places you can go to

that you can just throw

plates against the wall.

You can break plates because you're mad.

Scream, yell, and break plates.

Just not sure that would

put that much positivity out.

Right, I don't know.

I think that just

might feed the negativity

that's already

everywhere right now, I feel like.

Yeah.

We were just talking

about that, weren't we?

I just feel like I'm on a downhill roll

of negativity right now.

Yes, and how

sometimes it's just like that.

And I don't know why.

It feels like it gets in

spur, it comes in spurts.

Yep.

Just like I think good things,

even when you're on a high, you're like,

"Oh, this is great, it

can last a little while."

And then, yeah, that valley comes.

It's just like...

It's like deaths, right?

I would say deaths come in threes or

something like that.

And it's like tough

times or stressful times

or these emotionally distressing times.

Yeah.

They come, sometimes

they come in multiples.

I feel like it's like palinons sometimes.

Yeah, yeah.

It's like, really, I

just didn't need that.

Right.

You're like, I was dealing with whatever,

the initial few things that hit you,

and you're like, I was

really trying to stay positive

and upbeat and really then

this last thing happened.

Like, I just didn't need it.

Yeah.

I think we try, we do

try to stay positive

as much as we possibly

can, especially publicly.

I don't know what that percentage is.

5% of the time, behind our closed doors,

we can air out and just be mad,

whatever we're mad at to some degree.

But man, sometimes it's

just like, you know what?

I don't wanna be in a good mood anymore.

I'm mad about how this is happening.

I'm mad about this or that.

Right.

And it's the things that you have no

control over, right?

And it's easier to get

mad at those kind of things.

Yeah.

And I'm like, I can't fix it.

I can't do anything about it.

So just give me a minute to like stew

and be super peeved.

Yeah.

Like, I don't know.

Sometimes you need that.

Yeah, I do that sometimes.

I'm like, just, I need time.

Give me a moment.

I'll get through it, but

I'm working through something

right now.

Yeah.

You know, I'm gonna go

sit in the back and--

Just gonna sit.

Watch a show, you can, I don't know.

I don't have that long to do it.

Yeah, you usually don't.

I wish I did.

I'm gonna go watch Netflix for 10 hours.

(laughing)

It's never been 10 hours.

You might get one show.

For me, it's usually, you know,

I'll grab a short pour of

bourbon, some ice in it.

I'll go sit in the backyard for a moment.

Just decompress a little bit.

Here's some birds.

Yeah, that really does help.

It does.

Look at the spring is here.

Like that, there's something about,

regardless of how tired I am,

like walking out first

thing to take the dog out

and you hear the birds,

it really does kind of

set that mood for the day.

But man, I know what you mean though.

Cause sometimes you're

like, just let me be pissed.

Yeah, that's right.

I know that sounds bad, but like,

I try to be super positive,

but every now and

again, I just need a moment.

You're probably the most positive person

on a consistent basis that I've ever met.

Really?

Well, thank you.

That actually, thank you.

You're welcome.

I mean, the only other

people I can think of

are Disney characters.

Probably so.

I mean, you just have

a really light outlook.

One of the things I say,

and I think you've

heard me say it to you,

you take it as a compliment,

but you laugh easily.

You're lighthearted.

Yeah.

You know, which as intelligent as you are

and as sometimes as hard as your job is

and the stuff that

you're dealing with there

and pushing through there,

you so easily can turn from that

and be lighthearted

and laugh at something.

And I think that's special.

Well, thank you.

That means a lot.

Yeah.

I think I've told you this story.

I saw my grandparents

live to be very old.

I know I've talked

about it on the podcast.

And I know that my

grandmothers in particular,

they laughed all the time.

And I remember being a sullen teenager

and I told you, I got

a really bad haircut.

And it was bad, people.

Not that hair in the 90s was good anyway,

but this was bad.

And I was, you know, 15, 16 years old.

So this was the end of the world to me.

Yeah.

And my grandmother laughed.

She's like, "Meggy,"

one of two people who can call me that

just for the record,

"Meggy, it's okay.

It'll grow out.

It's fine.

It's just a haircut.

That's fine."

And I remember being so mad at the time,

but looking back on

that moment and being like,

"Wow, she had perspective."

To be like, "Your hair is gonna grow out.

It doesn't look as bad

as you think it does."

And ever since then, I'm like,

"Be that person to

laugh at the right times."

You know?

Yeah.

Just try.

Because I know that my

grandparents were people

that everyone wanted to be around.

Yeah, they were great.

They made an impact in this world.

You know, and people's a

positive impact in this world.

We still talk about them.

Yeah.

You know?

I've been here for a couple of years.

They're special.

Yeah.

But I try, but there are

times, and you know this,

I can go down that hole pretty quickly.

You've also seen me unravel quickly, so.

It's just something about laughter.

You know what I mean?

I mean, you talk about family.

I know, you know, we

spent more time in my family

around probably my

mother's side of the family

because we lived in the same

city as most of them growing up.

And, man, going to their

house and playing games,

to late at night, that

place was filled with laughter

all the time.

My uncles, my grandfather,

you know, I mean, the aunts,

I mean, my uncles in

particular, I mean, they just laughed.

You know, and I can hear

my aunts now too, you know,

now that I say that, but I mean, it was

filled with laughter.

That's just something special to that.

And these times that we live in,

and even just specific

to this weekend, you know,

taking a deep breath, and you know,

I don't know, I don't

know how to find levity

in these tough situations,

but being able to at some point

find a lighter, a lightness in life.

Yep, yep.

Because you can't laugh through

what we're going through right now.

No, no, I mean, you can

find little pockets of like,

okay, whatever just

happened was really funny.

I can't remember now, whatever.

I missed it too, on that text.

There's a text chain

going on and I was like,

oh, should I say this?

I had texted it out.

I'm like, it's probably

too early for this joke.

Because then someone else took the joke.

And everybody's like, that was hilarious.

And I was like, mm.

Blast.

Yeah.

You should've taken the joke.

No.

Because you're so funny.

You're so good at

lightening that situation

with the right sense of humor

and bringing a little levity that way.

Yeah, I don't know.

I don't know.

You can't do that well.

Different kind of humor for sure,

but it's not for everybody.

I think it's hilarious.

I think it's primarily for you.

And we just said you laugh so easily.

So there it is, mystery solved.

Mystery solved.

This is why we are a

good couple together, right?

Because we complete each other's.

Oh, sentences?

Here we go.

Yeah, we'll go with it.

I don't know when that one.

Thanks for joining us guys.

Have a good one.

We told you we'd keep it short this time.

(laughing)

13 minutes.

Okay, we'll keep going

for a little bit longer.

A little longer.

People are like, oh

shoot, put the remote down.

Get a hold.

So we are trying to keep it shorter.

Every time we do it, we

almost go longer though.

I know.

Well, and we--

We're targeting 30 minutes.

13 minutes into it.

And we haven't even talked

about what we're so pissed off

about.

I know.

We're just like dangling it out there.

It's funny.

We can't get in too many details on it.

It's part of the problem right now.

No, I know.

And it's just, it's one of those things.

What we did when we

were prepping, you know,

we always write out just a

couple topics for us to cover.

Clearly we kind of meander

through these conversations,

as you all could tell

if you've been listening.

And you're like, so

what should we talk about?

Obviously, you know,

some of the bigger things.

I was like, but we're

gonna need structure tonight

because we will just go off on a tangent.

Yeah, we could have a lot

to say about what's happened.

And we'll get into it a

little bit here, but again,

let's talk about the good things.

We'll backtrack to last Wednesday.

It was city track meet

finals, actually district.

So it was bigger than just the city.

Yup, yup.

So our daughter, she competed hard.

Yeah, so everybody's,

hopefully you've seen

the Instagrams of her.

She's blessed athletically

and she was in the finals

of the 100 meter dash, the

finals of the four by one

and the finals of the four by two.

And it was interesting because we were

nervous for it, right?

It's her first time doing it.

They only had two track meets before this

because a couple were canceled.

So they never really

even got into true form.

Her club hasn't had a track meet yet.

Hopefully that's coming up soon here.

But she, it was interesting.

She met her first kind

of trial and tribulations,

immediately.

So in the four by one, I mean,

I don't wanna talk too much here,

but there's another team, another school

that they've been back

and forth on fastest times

for the year.

Long story short, four by one,

our daughter runs the

second leg on that one.

Unfortunately the poor

girl who runs very fast

in the initial leg, the first person off,

she dropped the baton

like halfway down the track.

It hit her leg or something like that.

So she had to go back.

I'm filming and I'm like

expecting them to come out

because it was kind of

behind a building of some sort

or a sign.

She came out at fast start too.

And I was like, where's our daughter at?

Where are they at?

Where's our team at?

Yeah, yeah.

And they weren't there.

They came out basically last and then.

They ended up getting

second to last, I think.

Second to last

because I think someone else

dropped the baton, but

I mean, I just felt so.

Just kidding.

How did they do that?

Anyway, so she comes out of that.

Sad, mad, everybody's frustrated

because they were supposed to win.

So anyways, they're upset on that.

I think she's super nervous

because it's really her

first time in any finals

and stuff like that.

Her stomach's hurting.

Yeah, I think she was a little nervous

which caused some stomach issues.

Yeah, and she's mad about the other one.

So she's going down to do

her one individual event,

the 100, which is everybody

who's watched the Olympics.

I mean, that's kind

of one of the big ones

because it's the fast people

and everybody enjoys watching that one.

So she's in there right next to the girl

who she's never ran head to head.

Their times have been

neck and neck all year.

In fact, somebody goes

to school with that girl,

with that other girl,

but the other girl was

nervous to race our daughter

because the times were so close.

So I'm sure neither one of these girls

had really lost all year.

Correct, because they

never raced against each other.

But Ayla did get second to her

in the very first track meet

because they only did heats.

They didn't have a final.

They never raced against

each other in the same heat.

Right, so there was no final.

They just took the top times

and that was who won that one.

And that girl beat our daughter

by a few hundredths of a second.

But that girl has seen since then,

our daughters bested those times.

Yup, yup.

And so she was nervous

to race our daughter.

Our daughter was nervous to race her.

Yup, yup.

Needless to say.

Yeah, needless to say, go ahead.

Our daughter, she did stumble,

quickly out of the starting blocks.

She made up a ton, she made

up and came in neck and neck.

She did take second, which,

but she got her personal

best, which was awesome.

She set her up on PR.

And that's so much about, I

think track in general is,

measure your individual performance.

Metals and ribbons are awesome.

We do, everybody likes those.

But she had a personal record

and I truly think that

had she not stumbled,

she would have won.

Yeah, well maybe, yeah,

I was so happy for her.

And she stumbled, I

put it up on Instagram

and you can kind of see

it, you can't see it as well,

but you can kind of see her dip.

But she's like, I stumbled twice.

Not trying to throw excuses at her.

The other girl won.

She did.

Our daughter had a

great chance to come back,

but she really showed a

lot of heart coming back

because she came back

from like sixth place.

Yeah, yeah.

To finish in second,

against the girl with the

third fastest time of the year.

Exactly.

She tracked her down.

She tracked her down in

100 meters, it's not--

No, 20 more feet, our daughter I think

would have tracked down

the girl in first place too.

Anyways, and then they came back

and smashed in the four by two.

Four by two.

Same team, same four girls

that were in the four by one

and the other team.

Yeah.

Same four girls on our team

and they beat them by like 20 seconds.

Yeah, it was good to end on a high note.

And they said, I think it

was the second fastest all time

in that they'd missed the record

or it was the second

fastest time of all time, I think.

At the district. At the district, yeah.

With the district's--

District level for them, so.

So cool.

Yeah, so really cool.

Yeah, and they showed, I mean,

it just showed a lot of

heart and it's not easy.

And I think one of the

things that's challenging

is our daughter's

events are all pretty much

back to back to back to back.

And, you know, she got up.

I think she was bummed that, you know,

that second place I

think really stung her,

but I'm excited to see

these two girls race each other

over the next, I mean, they're gonna race

against each other

for the next six years.

Yep.

And it'll be fun to watch them.

Yeah.

They'll push each other.

Yeah.

So.

I think it's fun,

because since our daughter

doesn't play soccer this year,

this is the only time we get

to see her compete kind of.

Yeah.

Thus far in a whole year.

So it's been intense to

watch her do this, you know,

and track being mostly

individual on some of those events.

There's just more at

stake than the boys, you know,

playing team sports and individually

trying to, you know,

play well within their team structure.

Yeah.

So.

Although we did, she

will be playing soccer here

for the school, cause

we found out tonight.

Yeah.

She made the soccer

team, which was great.

Yeah, it's only one

team for the whole school.

Eighth graders and

seventh graders, she's a Seve.

Yeah, yeah.

As they're so kindly referred to.

She's a Seve, yeah.

So good for her, very proud.

Yeah.

As we are, I know we probably

talk too much about our kids

and don't want to come

across too braggy on this,

but everybody's proud of their kids.

Yeah, and it's cool.

I'm excited because

she'll be with a lot of,

or not a whole lot, but a

few of her actual teammates

that used to be on her

team when she played,

or when she was playing club soccer.

So it'll be fun to get some

of the gang back together.

Yeah.

Some of her besties, which is awesome.

Yeah, yeah.

It'll be fun, but.

And that's where the

positivity stops, folks.

(laughs) I know.

I'll mention I'm on a fast one more time.

Yes.

So not that anybody really

cares, but go ahead, and.

Well, and I feel a little bit guilty here

because here I made dinner tonight

and we're all eating

directly in front of him.

The last time you were on a fast,

you weren't even home that night.

Yeah.

So you didn't have the

temptation of the smell of food,

people truly eating in front of you.

Yeah, there's some

self-discipline in this,

and it's hard because I love eating,

but one thing is, so

I decided to do this,

but then I told you on the last show,

I think my cousin does this too.

Yeah.

So he actually started

Sunday night as well.

Okay.

I started Sunday night maybe

a little bit later than him,

but he's going for 100 hours.

He hasn't made it yet, but

he's trying, which is crazy.

That's incredible.

But he's like, "I can

do 48 without blinking."

He's like, "48's easy."

And I'm like, "48?"

Well, I don't know,

I've only done it once.

Right.

So anyways, we already talked about

fasting on this show

once before, so, but I think

I might do it every Monday.

If you could fast, I was told you,

I did the quick math on it, you know?

It's like 50,000 less calories a year.

52 days a year you don't eat

when I overeat the other 300

and, you know, 12, you know?

Whatever it is.

The, you know, that would help probably.

Yeah.

I mean, the ice cream

bowl I had last night

was just stupid.

That's partially why I did it.

I'm like, "Why did I

take that much ice cream?"

I didn't even realize

that you had a whole lot.

I guess I was watching our youngest

overfill the cup that he

was making a shake out of.

I had the rest of our daughters,

somebody's ice cream birthday cake.

Oh yeah, yeah, mm-hmm.

And then I threw like three more scoops

of cookies and cream

ice cream on top of it.

Okay, well.

Just to make sure.

I mean, I come from an

ice cream family, I mean.

You do.

And you're not, you love cake.

I'll do, yeah, I like ice

cream every now and again,

but it's not my go-to dessert.

Yeah. Yeah.

You love ice cream, chocolate,

see, I do know that, you know,

when you are on your deathbed,

just give you chocolate milkshakes.

Chocolate milkshakes and

Celine Dion and you and the kids.

That's all I need.

That's all you need.

It actually sounds pretty darn good.

Yeah, I'm not looking

forward to it, I don't wanna say.

No, no, no, don't wish

time away, but in that moment.

But 50 years from, or

55 years from now or so,

that'll be about right.

Yeah, 55.

I don't know.

We've got long jeans, I

don't know if I've got

that long of jeans,

but we'll give it a go.

Yeah.

Well, especially if, you know,

the stress of the last

five days or whatever.

I'll let you get into it,

because I don't know how to get into it

without being so many emotional.

It's not the end of the world,

but it's super frustrating,

and just other people being selfish

in making decisions for our family

that are our family's decisions to make.

Yeah.

Horcing the hand.

Yeah, and then it, and

part of it is, you know,

with this type of drama,

I try, you and I both try,

are really trying to have perspective,

because there are people in this world,

and even problems in our own lives,

that are actually much bigger

than some of the soccer drama

that's happened.

That's a good point.

You know, and we try to

keep it in perspective.

But what's frustrating

is we spend so much time,

and you know, our life

revolves around the sports

that our kids play a lot,

and really, kids, period.

And when something disrupts that,

that, you know,

wasn't within our control,

that I think is--

Or expected or planned for.

Or expected or planned for, you know,

and then it negatively affects your kid,

and you're just, you

kind of, in our case,

it's like, we're

counting on an 11 year old

to be more adult than a whole

bunch of adults in the room.

Yeah.

And for the record, he's

doing an awesome job doing that.

He is doing a really good job doing that.

But, no 11 year old should

have to be in that position,

where they're like, oh,

I'm the one who's gonna,

this happened to me.

And I didn't have a say,

and now I just have to be okay with it.

And--

And it's gonna present you with a choice

that you never wanted to

make in the first place.

Yeah, yeah.

So, it's a little

frustrating, to say the least.

And so, it's really

consumed so much of our time,

which irritates me, because I don't,

I love to vent to you, but

I like the venting to you,

where I can just say it and get it out,

and then we go about,

and we can talk about

all the great things in

life, and talk about fun stuff.

And I feel like for five days,

all we've done is just

unpack the soccer drama.

Yeah, yeah.

You know?

Yeah.

And I don't know how else to say that,

but it's been a lot.

It has, I mean,

constant texts and emails,

during the day, during the work day,

and this and that, and yeah.

I know it's tough for

us to talk about it,

because we can't say too much,

because it's still happening.

Things are still fluid right now,

even when this comes out.

And I know there's people

on our team that watch this.

And we have to be careful of what we say,

and what we do, and

what knowledge we have,

and don't have, and things that we think.

Right, well, and because the last thing

that we would ever want to do,

is impact someone else's child,

or someone else's family by our words,

which is exactly what happened to us.

Which is exactly, exactly.

That's what we're

trying to avoid right now.

Right.

Is exactly what somebody else did to us,

and put all of us.

20 some other kids and

families in a position.

Because one person,

decided to take it upon

themselves to be selfish.

Drives me insane.

It's the classic, one

ruins it for the rest.

Yes, one bad apple ruins the whole bunch.

Is that how the saying goes?

Bushel.

Bushel, oh, see.

There's one time I knew it.

How about that?

I love it.

Yeah, that's good.

It's gotta feel good for you, right?

I see you didn't know.

I finished your sentence in that case.

Yeah, yeah, twice.

Metaphor even.

You could've gone with

all kinds of things there.

I could have, but sentence actually

was the most appropriate.

I cannot believe we're

already at 30 minutes here.

That's insane.

So what do you wanna do?

I don't know.

Do we wanna talk just really

quickly about the insanity?

So what ensued after the track meet?

For 20 more minutes?

Oh yeah, so we leave, gosh, yeah.

All right, buckle up, I

forgot about that part.

Yeah, yeah, so.

This is what started off the soccer.

What started off, so

after the track meet,

oh, by the way, the track

meet starts with our daughter

jumping off the bus

and landing on her knees,

so that was the other thing

that she was dealing with.

She has like a bruised and scraped knee

because she fell

climbing off the bus, which.

She fell out of the back of the bus.

Yes, she's 13.

Yes, we've been touting

her as super athletic,

but yes, she also fell

out of the back of the bus.

Just go with us people.

Anyway, so then, you know, she's mad.

We then have to drive to the

other side of the Metroplex

to get to a soccer game, and not joking,

a fight breaks out at that game.

Well, I mean, back up just slightly.

This is a contentious, I

mean, how do you say this?

I mean, like, these top

five teams in the Metroplex,

we've talked about it before, right?

There's just a lot of

ego, a lot of pride,

a lot of talent, a lot of

all that mixed into this,

just this constant emotional, you know,

head-to-head meetings,

because we play them

constantly in these leagues,

because certain leagues and

certain, it's leagues, yeah,

these top teams play,

and so we'll play them

two or three times, and

we play each one of them,

you know, next night, and

then the next one the next night.

And, you know, we know we're familiar

with some of the players and the coaches

and the other teams' parents.

I mean, like-- Oh, yeah,

it's a very small community.

Small community, so

you know the bad apples

and all that kind of

stuff. You know the bad apples,

yeah, you don't actually

know all the good ones.

Anyways, this was

another one of those teams,

and we got down early,

and the refs, by the way,

are terrible, and I hate, do I hate,

but refs and parents

ruin everything, they do.

They do? We just wanna watch kids play.

I just wanna watch the kids play.

And refs, anyways.

And the parents ruin it.

So we're down, it's

contentious, people are yelling.

Well, our youngest is going after a ball,

and he beats the keeper

and two other players to it,

grabs it, goes down,

scores, empty net, basically,

because he was able to,

so he got the tying goal,

and everybody's like, yeah, he's running,

grabbing it out of the goal,

as you do in these situations,

we wanna get back and score again.

We should be beating this team.

Well, as we look back

to what else is going on,

whistles start blowing.

Like, and we've missed, at this point,

we've missed what all started.

The first thing I see is one of our kids

like diving on top of the

goalkeeper and like swinging,

we're like, what is going on?

Yeah, fully pounding

the keeper with two fists,

boom, boom, boom.

So, I mean, the long

and the short of it was,

after our youngest took

the ball from that keeper,

he fell on the ground, it

was kind of like a collision

between our son, the

keeper, and two other defenders,

but our son came out with the ball,

and the other ones kind of fell.

So one of our players goes up to the

goalie, who knows him?

He spent the night at this guy's house.

They're apparently friends.

To make sure he's

okay, kind of picks him up,

it's like, are you all right?

As he starts to turn away,

the goalie grabs him in

a headlock from behind

as he's walking away,

slams him into the ground,

and proceeds to start

slamming his head into the ground.

Our team's player.

Yes, yes, the goalie

is doing this to our--

The other team's goalie is

doing this to our team's player.

So we got another player from our team,

running across the field,

who now we all have

seen the video of this,

because the video's

been made its way out.

I actually have not

seen this video, but--

Some of us have seen it then.

His other player on our

team comes, clocks the goalie,

to stop him beating our

other, giving him a concussion,

banging his head into the ground.

And we're playing on turf,

so it's not like soft ground.

Yeah, no, this is like

cement with turf over the top.

Right, and then that's

when the other player

came over and jumped on the goalie

and started defending our kids.

Defending both of our players were

defending our player,

who was completely getting accosted.

Right, right.

So then, you know, the

refs don't handle it well,

they don't break it up well,

they're trying to give out

red cards to the wrong people.

And because they're

doing the wrong people

and talking to the wrong kids,

the parents are now yelling at it,

like, "It was that kid, it was that kid,"

at the refs.

Yeah.

And then this is when, I mean,

luckily this doesn't happen that often.

This is the first I've seen this.

Yeah, but the parents sometimes

are just so out of control.

And I don't wanna always say it's the

other team's parents,

because we have parents

that can get rambunctious too,

but never to this level.

So the parents got together

at midfield on the sideline

and yelling at each

other and this and that,

and then someone starts throwing a punch

on the parents' side.

And like, you know, we all are

professionals during the day,

we don't see this happen.

This isn't real life, generally speaking.

I've actually never seen a fight.

It's like YouTube type stuff, right?

Yeah, yeah.

It was craziness.

Cops got called, cops showed

up, they canceled the game.

I mean, it was just

insane, it was insanity.

And then the next day is

when all this other stuff

that was unrelated to that happened.

So I mean, literally,

since our daughter fell out

of the back of the bus,

our emotions have been high.

Yes, yes.

And so we've been in this valley of like,

oh my gosh, the stress.

Because I think we said

it, our pastor says this,

like there's no pain like kid pain.

He said it last week, totally true.

It's so true.

And like when something is

negatively impacting our kid,

just feel it in such a way

that you never thought you could.

And then the adults on the side,

like after the fight, different issue,

the adults that are

supposedly handling this are like,

oh, this isn't the

best interest of the kids.

And it's not, it just simply isn't.

And we've had parent

meetings and all this kind of stuff.

And I point blank asked,

can you walk me through

how this is better for the kids?

Because nothing you're

saying indicates that.

And that's what your

whole argument is based on,

this is what's best for the kids.

But you're not telling us

any things about the kids.

It's all about your ego.

And this one other parent,

maybe there's two or three,

I don't know, but we all

know it's one other parent

who decided to be

selfless, misrepresent something

and caused an avalanche of issues.

And decisions now.

And just blew this team up.

That's the second best team in Texas.

Probably in any given

day, the best team in Texas.

Yep, yep.

And then we got wiped out

this weekend in our games

because the kids are emotional wrecks.

They don't have their

regular coach anymore.

And like I said, when I walked off,

same thing that he

said when he walked off,

like this is what we

think is better for our kids.

Yeah, it's been tough.

It's adults not being adults.

And that frustrates me beyond belief

because I'm a rule follower at heart.

You absolutely are.

And I am too.

You are for sure.

I think we've established that, right?

But you absolutely are.

And when people don't play by the rules,

that's a trigger for both of us.

People don't play by

the rules and then it--

And they're cowards by not

coming out and saying like,

hey, it was me, this is the way I feel.

I did this.

They're cowardly

hiding behind this decision

that they made for all of us.

Yeah.

Hiding.

Yep.

Cowardly.

Mm-hmm.

Selfish.

Yep.

And it makes me mad.

Yep.

It does.

And I know I'll have to cut

probably some of this, but--

Probably, but you know what?

It feels really, really

freaking good to get it out.

It does.

It peeves me.

(laughing) I don't even know

where's that word come from?

Peeve?

I think peoed.

You said it earlier, peoed.

Yeah.

He is peeved is short for peed.

I know.

Anyways.

Yeah.

That's kind of where

we're at a little bit on that,

but hopefully next week we'll have some,

maybe more closure to it,

but things have been changing.

I mean, even just tonight,

like, you know, we got

accepted into this large tournament.

That's by invitation only.

It's very well respected.

Yep.

And the roster for that changed tonight.

Again, affecting other children.

Mm-hmm.

That had their, these kids are 11.

They're 11.

And--

And their hearts are set.

When they get into a

big tournament like this,

I mean, they've worked so hard for this.

This is a hallmark

moment in these kids' lives.

They'll remember--

And some kids aren't,

they got yanked out of it.

They're not gonna be in

the tournament anymore.

Yeah.

And that's sad,

because it's not their fault.

And it's this other parent.

Yep.

Whoever they may be.

Yep.

It's really--

Let's done this.

It's sad.

Like, you said it.

They're 11.

11 years old.

Like, they're just kids.

And it's parents' egos.

That's what frustrates me, is that

when I say play by the rules,

I play by the rules, I play by the rules

such that most decisions I make

are for the betterment of society.

Yes.

Right?

Mm-hmm.

That's when you've

reached a level of maturity

that you know you can't do selfish things

that affect other people,

because it's not right to do.

It's not the right thing to do.

Yep.

If you had that

problem, the right thing to do

is just quit the team.

Yep.

Not do what this person did.

Yep.

You know, it just,

it's a level of

immaturity and selfishness.

That I simply can't understand.

That unfortunately is, I think,

prevalent in our society.

And when it hits close like this,

and again, to your point,

this is not the end of the world.

There's much bigger

problems in this world.

Yeah.

At heart, this type of action

is the seed for a lot of

the issues in our world.

Yeah, yeah.

And quite frankly, it's our kids' world.

That we're handing off to them, yeah.

And these 11-year-olds are

crying for five days straight

because of an adult

who can't be an adult.

Yep.

And then hides behind anonymity.

Yep.

Anyways.

Ooh.

Ah.

Bed session.

Yeah, yeah.

I'm just hangry is what it is for me.

You probably are.

I would be if I were you.

I don't know how.

I don't really stress eat, but I mean,

it does make me

irritated when I don't eat, so.

I did say today, it's a

good thing I'm fasting

because I would be

emotionally eating right now.

Yeah.

I'm starving.

I'm not starving.

I'm actually not starving yet.

If I can just get to bed

tonight, I'll be all right.

Yeah, you'll be good.

Yeah.

Well, let's end this on a positive note.

We are positive people.

And it is getting close

to bedtime, so I mean, hey.

It is, yeah.

We gotta squeeze this one in.

Because we got soccer

practices, track practices,

there's no time.

Yeah, the rest of the

week will be a little busy,

but I mean, we don't really have.

I mean, this week is a very

normal week, I think, coming up.

Yeah.

Maybe we can unpack the

13-year-old birthday party

that we had at our house.

That was fun.

Oh, next week, yeah.

Yeah.

We'll do that next week.

We will.

Yeah.

Too long now.

Yeah.

Especially since, you know, I don't know

that we have a whole lot going on.

Hibachi and screaming.

I'll put an Instagram post up for it,

but I haven't done it yet.

Because we took way too

many pictures, honestly.

I'm a little overwhelmed

with having to edit it.

(laughing) Like, I enjoy doing those things,

but I don't want to

take three hours doing it.

That's my fault.

No, you did a great job because--

I never take pictures.

You never take pictures.

And I asked you to do it that night

because I just, girls and

girls and all that kind of stuff.

It was just--

I agree.

It felt more natural.

Like, I'm in there like--

I totally agree.

Like, hey girls.

Let's take pictures, girls.

Smile.

You're like, I

promise I'm not a predator.

Like, it just--

Well, I wasn't thinking that.

Well, but--

I mean, that is true,

but I mean, that's--

It's true.

Maybe that's the way, yeah.

But you're right.

It's more natural for a

mom to take those pictures

of 13-year-old girls.

I think so.

It's just way more natural.

I think so.

In the back, everybody's

doing fun posing pictures

and stuff like that.

Yes.

Yeah.

It was fun.

Yeah.

Anyway.

I'm not that kind of a

girl, dad, I guess, but.

All right, well, we are gonna let you go

eight minutes earlier

this time, which is good.

We're making positive trends

here on a little bit shorter.

More bite size.

See, we are moving things

in a positive direction.

Is that the positivity we're

leaving the world with today?

I don't know, there's gotta

be a lot of positivity, right?

There is, there is.

There's so many good things.

I mean, tomorrow starts April?

April Fool's Day, though.

So maybe there's not

anything positive after all.

We should've unpacked April Fool's jokes.

I've never really done a good one.

We'll talk about that next week.

Maybe there'll be a good

one played on you tomorrow.

Bum, bum, bum.

(laughing)

I was just letting it sit there.

You know who will be good at that?

It's our daughter.

Yeah, oh, she will be.

She's an April Fool's kind of a gal.

Yeah, yeah.

And she'll just make her brothers mad.

Girl, he's behind the front door.

(laughing)

Oh, that's funny.

All right.

What's our new ending?

We haven't thought of a new ending

because we were tasked

with that and we didn't do it.

I don't know.

I do like our regular one.

No.

We've gotten really good

at finishing each other's.

Sand gases.

What more can you say?

A lot, but we'll cut it off here.

(laughing)

For everybody's wellbeing.

Yes, no more soccer drama.

Yeah.

All right, I'm gonna go eat a cow.

Thank you guys.

See ya.

(laughing)

You're gonna eat a cow?

I don't know.

I thought of something better.

What's something else I

could eat that would be better?

You're gonna eat a cow?

Well, I'm starving.

That was with the fasting.

I'm starving.

I'm gonna go eat a cow.

(laughing)

Because I'm having a cow.

I'm gonna go eat the cow that I just had.

Well, now you're just a cannibal.

Not really, it's a cow.

It's a metaphorical cow.

Oh, okay.

But I'm going to--

Is this like metaphorical

food that you're gonna eat?

(laughing)

No, no, no.

I'm not gonna metaphorically eat it.

I'm going to actually eat it.

Oh, so you're

metaphorically having the cow,

but you're actually going to eat the cow

that you metaphorically had.

Yeah, but there's a

better word for actually.

What's the word?

Truly?

Physically.

Physically?

No, I don't know.

Oh, we could--

Well, we got a lot of

cow in the refrigerator.

So I'm saying we got some steak in there.

We got some ground beef in there.

Dude.

Yeah, that's kind of

just what I'm talking about.

Better boil it down to it.

That's something we can

talk about, grocery prices.

It's crazy.

Crazy?

Yeah.

Biden and our $12 eggs.

Don't get me started.

Don't get me started?

Bird flu, man.

Biden started bird flu.

That's why it starts

with a B, you know that.

Yeah, it's his, yeah.

(laughing)

All right, we gotta go.

I like bluebonic plague.

Well, you should just

say kind of like bluebonic

and then I would've said.

Like bluebonic?

Plague, and then we

could've ended it like that.

(laughing)

It would've been like a

real finish of the sentence.

That's what would make

it better, like naturally.

Yeah, it could.

But that would be tough

to come up with every week.

All right, bipedal.

Bipenal.

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