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🎙️ Welcome to Healthy Happy Wise Wealthy (HHWW)! In this thoughtful and eye-opening episode, host Mary Meyer sits down with divorce mediator Joe Dillon of Equitable Mediation to unpack the differences between mediation and litigation, the financial and emotional burdens of traditional lawyer-led divorce, and how holistic mediation can change the lives of families. Drawing on decades of mediation experience, Joe Dillon shares both personal stories and professional insights, offering listeners practical frameworks and hope for navigating divorce with dignity.

🌟 Topics Covered:
  • Joe Dillon’s background and Equitable Mediation’s resource-rich website
  • The myth that mediators have to be lawyers
  • The real cost of divorce: mediation vs. litigation
  • Emotional pitfalls of divorce and why lawyers aren’t therapists
  • How mediation fosters creative solutions for family, finances, and housing
  • Using scenario planning and “zone of agreement” for lasting outcomes
  • The rise of cohabitation and nesting arrangements post-divorce
  • Proprietary courses and resources for preparing for divorce, finance, and negotiation
Key takeaways:
  • Mediation can save you tens (or even hundreds) of thousands of dollars, prevent emotional trauma, and give families more control over outcomes than litigation.
  • The majority of divorce disputes are financial, making Joe Dillon’s finance background a key advantage in settlement and scenario planning.
  • Creative agreements—like cohabitation, nesting, and flexible buyout plans—are possible and often essential, especially in high-cost housing markets.
  • Emotional support and coaching are integral; divorce isn’t just paperwork, it’s an emotional journey that is better navigated with a holistic mediation team.
  • Planning for future “what-ifs” in your divorce agreement saves massive strife down the road—use frameworks and scenario planning to decrease future conflict.
Some questions I ask:
  • “I thought you had to be a lawyer to be a mediator. Why is your finance background so valuable in these cases?”
  • “Why does using lawyers often make emotional conflicts—and the bill—worse?”
  • “What are some of the most creative solutions you’ve put together when couples couldn’t do a traditional buyout or sale of their house?”
  • “How do you plan for the unknowns, the ‘what-ifs’ five years down the road, so couples don’t have to keep coming back to court?”
  • “How does your process handle tough emotional stalemates, and when does mediation ever fail?”
  • “Can people outside your six main states work with you or use your resources?”
  • “Tell me about your courses—who are they for and what will they learn?”
Learn more about our guest:
Resources list:
  • Equitable Mediation: equitablemediation.com
  • Courses: Divorce Financial Preparation, Divorce Negotiation, and more (link to courses)
  • Blog post: “Can Living Together After Divorce Work?” Read Here
  • Mediation/Affordable mediation directories: Search for your state’s mediation association (e.g., New York Council on Divorce Mediators)
  • Divorce mediation info for non-served states: Local court websites, mediation directories, or referrals by contacting
  • Joe Dillon for recommendations
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Hi everybody, welcome back to Healthy, Happy, Wise, Wealthy. I have with us today Al

Zdenek with Cake Club app. I'm so excited for that.

We also have our season 2 sponsor. I want to mention

they also— I'm going to say Mindiii, M-I-N-D-I-I-I,

4 I's. They are an IT company that's been in business for

about 15 years in India. They also build apps for businesses.

So kind of like Al did, he took his wisdom and built an app. They

can do that for you too. Okay, that's their little intro. So,

Al, thank you so much for coming on. Um, do you mind if

I kind of just read a little introduction about you from your LinkedIn? You have

such a good bio on there. No, please go ahead, and I will tell you

it's a pleasure to be here. Yeah, thank you so much.

So, I mean, Al, I mean, your, your LinkedIn bio says, my

mission is to strive to be a positive, powerful, successful influence in your life

and an advocate for you to live the life you want to You Want Now:

Achieve Your Financial Freedom in the Timeframe You Want and for the Future.

And you've been an entrepreneur and a leader in wealth management industry for more than

40 years. You're a personal financial specialist, a

certified public accountant, the author of the best-selling book Master Your Cash Flow:

The Key to Grow and Retain Wealth, which is in Forbes Books,

and Master Your Business Cash Flow: Grow the Company You Love, Live the Life You

Want Now, which is also Forbes Books. And you've founded many businesses.

So one of these is, is my Traust Sollus Wealth Management. Did I say that

right? Traust Sollus, but it's close. Okay,

so that was way back in 1982, uh, you did that and, um,

you sold that to— it was sold to Mercer Advisors in

2018. And so you recently co-founded

Servat. Well, it's called Servat, but, uh, basically it's

known as Cake Club. And so it's, it's the creator of the Cake Club App

at cakeclubapp.com and on the Apple

Store. That's awesome. So we're going to talk about that today,

but you also founded, uh, Tyrus Pictures, which is a feature

film production company. That's super fun. Yeah, we did that just

recently last fall, and, uh, I'm working with an LA attorney in the

entertainment field and a French, uh, screenwriter, and,

uh, we're having fun with that. So thank you. And you've been in all kinds

of publications— Forbes, Yahoo Finance, Fox Business, US World

News and Report, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, US Today.

And you've enjoyed, you've also lectured many organizations across the USA. You're on the

board of directors for the Somerset Medical Center in Somerset, New Jersey,

the board of directors of New Jersey Society of CPAs, board of trustees

of the New England Historic Genealogical Society in Boston.

And you have an, you are an elected office of

councilman, the police commissioner of your town. That's in the past, yes. Yes,

I was, and I was like on the council of Flemington, New Jersey, and I

was also a police commissioner for about 8 years. Oh my gosh,

so you have so many interests— writing, traveling, wine, cooking, reading,

genealogy, appreciation of art, supporting charitable

causes, an inner city scholarship fund for New York City,

an enthusiastic mentor, and I didn't know this, you're an

aspiring concert pianist. That's right. I

decided to take it up about 8 years ago. It's going to be a long

route for me. I'm hoping to get to Carnegie Hall, but I think I'm going

to have to rent the hall. That's awesome. And,

um, you and your wife live in Miami and Paris, both going back and

forth. So it's been, and it sounds like in a lot of ways,

a beautiful life. So I've been very fortunate.

Thank you. Yeah. So Al, you have done

wealth management planning for your career

with people, and one of the main tenets that you

use is not use a budget but use a spending

plan. So why is that? Why is that

better? Well, whenever you say budget to a person,

they sort of cringe or they, they don't like it. I mean, who

likes budget? Because it's restrictive. You're, you know, they feel

restrictive. You're about to tell me what I can't spend. So,

what we do is I say, well, let's not talk about budgeting. Let's talk about

a spending plan. Now, all I'm doing is reframing it.

But the thing is, when you reframe it, you're saying, okay, I want your input.

You can make the choices for this. I'm not going to tell you what the

budget is. You're going to make up a spending plan. And so, we get

people that eventually, you know, they get really involved in this.

And the thing is, when you do that also, there's a way to also

approach it because everyone is different. You can have what I call

a quick and dirty spending plan. Like, just look at the end of the

month— what came in, what went out, are you positive or not, you're

satisfied. Fine. If you're negative, you can go back and look at some

things and maybe have to make adjustments, but it's quick and dirty.

Because along with being told what to do and restrictive,

people think it takes too much time and it's boring. So

if you do it quick and dirty, 5, 10, 15 minutes at the end of

the month. They'd like that. But a second choice

of 3 choices is you can do something in between. Pick

maybe like, uh, 5 or 8 spending categories, like fixed

expenses— rent, car, whatever— uh,

other expenses, discretionary expenses, things that I have

choices, I have control— entertainment, travel,

whatever. And then just have it go into those 5 or 8 buckets.

And by the way, try to automate it. Like again, with the Cake Club

app, if you put in your, uh, if you give us your information, which is

very secure, uh, it'll go from your checking account or your credit cards, and

all your spending will go right into these categories.

So it's all already done for you. So you can look at it at the

end of the month or during the month and see if you're on, on spending

plan or not. And then finally, there's a third choice which very

few people choose. You get QuickBooks, you, you

record every expense, you have this big report with 30 lines in

it. The only people that like that are accountants and engineers,

and their spouses hate it. So we never do it.

So, so yes, our approach is that. Yeah, that's,

that seems so wise, um, because yeah, like, other— you don't want every

day to feel like tax day, you know. So yeah, you know,

pins in yourself. Oh my God, I have to look at this. Yeah,

yeah, that makes so much sense. So tell me how the Cake

Club app— and you can go to cakeclubapp.com

for the website, and that kind of goes through everything, and then there is an

app for your phone. How did that come about?

Well, again, I was in the business for a long time, and I sold my

firm in 2018, and

I worked for them a couple years, but then I get out of the business

and Uh, you know, my mission in the business was to

always help people make better financial decisions, live the life they

want along the way, and get to financial freedom in the time frame they wanted.

Yeah. And so I sold the company and I left the company, but my mission

didn't end. You know, I found out I still wanted people— I want to contribute

to people that way. So I started writing articles for LinkedIn,

uh, and posts or whatever, and got, you know, I, I mentor some

people. But then this, uh, this young man, his name is

Amin Boroomand. He's the CEO of Cake Club. He called me

up one day about a little less than 2 years ago, and he wanted to

meet in New York City. I, I lived in New York at the time, and,

uh, we went out for lunch. He was very enthusiastic. He's

a PhD data scientist, um, and he

said, what struck me is that by the time I got out of school— because

he went to, you know, undergrad, graduate, another graduate school

for his PhD— So, he said, by the time I got done, I get out

and he says, I don't know how to make any financial decisions. I don't know

how to even like, do I lease or buy a car? Do I

lease or buy a house or whatever? And he said, and I found out all

my other colleagues were the same way. So, he said, there's a lack of

financial education. So, he read my books, he read my

articles and he wanted to sit down. He said, Al, I want to start an

app. I want to create an app. That helps thousands, tens

of thousands, millions of people, you know, make better

financial decisions and live the life they want,

but also have financial freedom in the timeframe they want. So, I

was impressed with his passion. So, I said, "Well, why don't we do it together?"

So, we started Cake Club and we made a Cake Club because we

think that financial decisions should be as easy as a slice of

cake and maybe have to bake your spending plan. We can use a

lot of analogies and things that, that around

baking. We started that and we now have a basic

financial, we have a basic budgeting app. And part of that app is

where if you put in your credit card information, not your personal information, just the

card you have, there's GPS assigned to this so

that if you go into a store around where your phone

is, it'll tell you what card to use for the, for the

best cash rewards or miles or whatever. So it's our way of

finding cash now immediately for you, right? And, uh,

we're doing that. And in the future, what we're doing right now, we're intensely

working, is we're going to have— if you go to the website,

uh, cakeclubapp.com, you'll notice at the bottom right-hand part

of the screen, every, every screen, there's a sort of round little icon.

If you click on that, another little sub, uh, sub-sheet comes

up and it's, it's Ask Albert, and

you can type in whatever question you want. We have some sample questions, uh,

financial questions, and I'll answer you like I would have done it based on my

books, my articles, and my career. So it's not, it's not just

this chatbot out there, it's actually our

AI-owned, uh, AI intelligence that's basically,

that it's answering the questions as I would. And what we want to do is

put that on the phone because we think especially with many and generations

today, if they're out and about somewhere and they have a question, they want to

be able to have that and not have to go to their laptop. We're doing

that. We're going to add some things on taxes, some things on investment as we

go along. And, uh, so, uh, I

continue my mission. I love that. I— when I, when

I see the Cake Club app, I think of have your cake and eat it

too. Have your cake and eat it too. Great, great. Yes.

Yeah, but it also, you know, it is, it really is when you don't have

the, the, you know, we aren't, we aren't really in

our education system really taught good

financial management. But also then in life, you know, there can be

big hiccups. And I know you've, you've been very honest

and as our talks before about, you know, you had a big hiccup too.

And, and so you've, you lived through some stuff and not

when you don't have control of your money, that's when it feels

so, uh, tense and, um, like, am I going to

survive? And frightening. Yeah. And I've been

there. You're right. I mean, I know what it's like to have your last dollars

in the bank. I know what it's like to have mortgage payments that are coming

up, and I had two kids. And, you know, I, I know it's like to

almost lose your house. Uh, I was there, and, and I was

there because Even though I was a CPA and a tax person,

I would never knew finance. I knew those narrow parts of

finance. And so I made a lot of cash flow management decisions, uh, that

were poor, uh, and I almost paid the price for it. But I was

lucky. Um, I started asking people for help. This one particular

person, Darrell Cain out of Dallas, he by that time in

the '80s was probably the most successful CPA financial planning

company. Flew down to see him. I said, Darryl, I want to know everything you

know. And now, initially when I saw him, by the way, I wanted just the

process so I could sell it to my accounting firm. But he said,

Al, it doesn't work that way. Do you have a

financial plan? I said, me? Oh, I do my clients'

tax returns first. I do mine in October. I'll do my plan later. He said,

no, no, no, no. He said, for you to understand how people feel, you must

do your plan. He sat down with me to do a plan, and I was

in bad financial shape. But when he did it, I

didn't realize how really bad it was until I saw it on paper. And

I thought to myself, I'm going to have to work like this for the rest

of my life, 70s, 80s. I said, my God. He said, now you know

how people feel when they're in bad financial shape, when they're hopeless, or they don't

know what to do. He said, now I'm going to show you how to

handle it. So he showed me a different way. Way of looking at finance,

what we call cash-oriented

approach. They're basically where you looked at things to look for

cash flow all the time and not necessarily working harder.

So, like around debt, around so many other things, taxes.

So, he taught me. And so, when I saw him, I was in my early

to mid-30s. I put together a plan that I wanted to be

financially independent or financially free by age 50.. And

by using those principles, I got there by age 48.

I was so thrilled what he did. He changed my life. I

thought to myself, I had never changed a person's life with a better

tax return or a better accounting report, but I can change a person's

life with this. So I went back, redid my whole firm

to where it was a wealth management company. And that, that's how we did

this. And that's why I do the work I still do today.

That's such a beautiful story. I love that. I feel like there's so

many times, like even the one, uh, our podcast from

last week was all about, um, it

was more, it was about divorce. So of course all

these financial, uh, bombs drop on you with that. And so if you can,

if you can just get, you know, take your emotions down to the

level where you're— you can really like look at things without the shame, without the

fear, without all that stuff. It becomes a lot

more manageable. So I, I really appreciate that, like, just,

you know, that you're so forthcoming and going, I've lived

life and it wasn't working, you know, that this part wasn't working, and now I

found a way where it's going to be helpful to people. I love that. Well,

I think you, you probably heard this, people want to know who you are before

they want to know what you what you have to offer them or what

you know. I found when sitting with people over the years that

they do come in. I mean, I've sat with people who are in the verge

of bankruptcy. I've sat with people that are very wealthy, who cash flow is

out of hand. They don't know what to do. And they feel ashamed. They feel

like they should be able to handle this. They're

smart people. And there's a shame to it. And so you have to show

them you've been there. Because you know what it

feels like, you know. And, um, and I think that's, uh, I think

because of that, now they can tell you everything. They can be honest about

it and whatever, and it helps them. So, um,

so I learned that a long time ago, and I want people to know that.

I mean, I— it's my way of contributing to people, you know. I, I'm

not this know-it-all expert or whatever. Like most people, or everyone

in the world, you learn through knocks, you learn through

failures. And you want to share your failures. That's how you

learn. Yeah, for sure. We're all just people making it through this

world, for sure. Right. You know, and it worked

for you. Now, you know, it turned around and

it's worked. So, um, so for a cash flow

with the app, how does the app help people kind of figure

out where their cash is at and come to

some sense of where it's going and that kind of thing? How does that help

people? Well, keep in mind, again, basically it's a basic—

right now, basic budgeting or spending

plan app. And so we give people a choice, quick

and dirty, only a few categories, or a full

budgeting on how to like start looking at what you're spending. You know,

it all begins like if you want to make financial decisions, you have to look

at, well, where am I now? It's like planning a

trip. If you're planning a trip, you have to know where the beginning, middle, and

end is. So, so let's say— and most people don't really know, most

people are scared to know sometimes— but just by finding out quick

and dirty what came in for the month, what's there, at least it's

a start. Yeah. And then if you see that, you know, you're in the red,

well then you go back and see, well, what did I do? If it's in

the black, that's, that's great. So, that's a start. Once

you know that, then you say, "Okay, now, where do I want to

go?" So, maybe you have some short-term needs, like you want an

emergency fund. Let's say because you don't— you're cash-strapped and you want to at least

have a month or 2 or 3 expenses in case you lose your job, whatever.

Well, that's the first thing you do is you concentrate on saving for that. Make

sure you're all safe. Now, let's say you're doing that,

but now maybe a bonus comes in, a tax refund. You get

a raise, a new job, so there's more money. Then you say,

okay, now what do I really want in 5 or 10 years or more,

right? And then you can start making choices that way. Do I want a vacation

home? This is where I want to live. But then, especially if you're a little

older, like Gen Zers are looking at short-term things, 3 to 5,

10 years. You know, you spend— you take 30 years for them, they think that's,

that's forever. Um, uh, when you get to some millennials who are in

their 40s, they see 50 coming soon and 60 doesn't look

as far as it used to be.

Yeah, your Gen Xs are already around there, and then

of course your Boomers are in their, in their 70s and whatever.

But, uh, so you have to see where people are. But once— but

it all begins what's coming in and what's going out so that

you have the choices, or as you put your spending

plan or your life plan together, you know, that, you know, you start

to have, you start to make better financial choices. Yeah. And

you feel probably better because you have some sense

of control. So, um, what do you find? I know there's on the

website, there's just different things for different generations. So what are, what

are the Gen Zs like? What are they? Or should we start with

Gen X? Let's start with Gen X. I'm Gen X.

What are— we're the Xs. We're just like, we don't even have a name. It's

just like disease. You're between boomers and millennials, you know, you know, and it's

sort of— you're a mixture because you— some of you cross over to

each category. Uh, you know, the Gen Xers were people who really didn't save

a lot. They were into other things in their life. They were

helping people. There was things they weren't there. Now, now they're getting a little

more serious. Now they're saying, you know, I got to get my act

together. So, so basically, uh, so it's really neat to deal

with Gen Xers because they're malleable now. See,

sometimes when you're— when Gen Xers were younger, forget it, they weren't

going to say— you can't tell them to do that, you know. But, but,

but it's different for them now. So, uh, so, so you have to

understand that's where they are, and the period they're in is that they're

still decent amount of time to really affect their life to how they

want to retire or be financially free. And keep in mind,

freedom is different for everyone, you know, different levels of income and

wealth. So, but now, now they're more interested

in it. Millennials,

uh, basically, um, they're, they're, they're basically, uh, you know, they're in

their early 40s. And again, like I said before,

50, they're almost— they're looking at 50s. It's a little closer than it was. And

60 is not that far away. So, they're getting more serious. And millennials tend to

be a little more serious, more serious from

what I can see. When you

get to Gen Zers, Gen Zers are really

different. You know, it's really funny. Every

generation has somewhat the same issues. It's how they approach it and when

they do it. Everyone wants to have some financial

freedom. Everyone wants to have a home or something. There's something around finance they

all want. But it's how they want it and how they're looking at it and

in what time frame. From my gift from

Gen Zers,

they've seen Millennials and Gen Zers

screw up, or their parents are from that. So they are

affected somewhat. They also see a few things. Some of them were young

when they lived through the Great Recession in 2008. They lived

through COVID. There's things that have really interrupted them and

their lives. Yeah, I think they're, I think they're a little more fearful, a little

more distrustful. I think they're actually a little more saving-oriented. They're a

little more responsible. When I say that, they want to

be responsible. They want to know more things. They want to know how to make

better financial decisions. They want better education,

but But their trust level is not very

high. They wanna make sure whoever's telling them this knows what they're talking

about, is not gonna be these salespeople, like, "Give me your money, I'll

invest it." I have an awful lot of respect for Gen

Z. I mentor a few of them, and they're

really responsible people. Yeah, and they've

really seen so much— I mean, we've all seen so much change come down in

terms of, You know, when I was taught by my mother how to

do financial management, it was how to manage your checkbook, you know,

which is a really pretty straightforward coming in, going

out, coming in, going out. Nobody has a checkbook anymore. I don't have a

checkbook either. So, you know, like, so keeping

track of that coming in, going out, coming in, going

out is, can be a little bit more challenging.

Also, like when we were young— On the other hand,

they're very automated. They're very computer and whatever and

phone automated. Like we struggle with sometimes paying things. They just

pay things. I mean, they're amazing with how they

use electronics today that we're still getting used to or keeping

up with. Yeah, that too. I remember, you know, this is

probably a decade ago, but my son got a check and he just took a

picture of it and deposited in the bank and, you know, through an app on

his phone. And I had not started doing that yet. So it was like, why

is this not in there? You know, stuff like that. But, you know,

it has evolved over time for

sure. Yeah. So if a millennial, I know, you know, there's, there's

ways to like, so if there's just, if you're looking at your spending and there's

not enough money coming in, how

do you like, there's just, and maybe, you know, some

of it nowadays too, you know, the cost of living has

gone up significantly since, you know,

2019 through COVID, just housing has gone up. So

how do we, how do we bridge the gap for people who are really

struggling with bringing in enough money to kind of COVID some

of those things? Well, again, going back

to finding what's coming in and going out first, seeing if there's

like any waste in there. Do you have too many

subscriptions, cable channels you're not using, other things like that, right? And try to

get more lean there. And then maybe if you're saving but it's

still not enough to what you want to do, well, maybe you have to look

at the other side, which is income. So, where

do you work? Are you giving to

your 401(k)? Is your paycheck enough to cover everything? Let's say it's

not, or let's say it's not enough where you want to

save more. When was the last time you asked for a raise? And by the

way, some of these things can be difficult. You tell a person, they may not

want to do that. Or what's the future at your

job? Like, I have a millennial— I'm sorry, I have a Gen Zer right now.

He wants to be— he's 23. He's on his

own almost. His parents are subsidizing a little bit, and his main thing over

the next 3 years is to be completely free of his

parents because he doesn't want to bother them. He doesn't want to be a burden

to them and he wants to be free of them. So that's a

short-term plan. So I had him, I advised him, why don't you go talk to

your employer and say, well, for one thing, what does that mean? How much

is your, what's your spending plan for that? How much do you need to make

that happen? So he knows that now. He knows what he gets paid. He knows

there's a gap. I said, you might want to sit down with your employer and

say, look, I love being with your job, uh, you know, I love the

company, I want to— I'm gonna— my whole career is here, but what do I

look like in advancement or whatever over the next 2 or

3 years? And he said— and I said, that kind of conversation might give you

an idea whether that's going to be solid

for you. But even if it doesn't, maybe you'd like to— maybe you still want

to stay there and, and grow with them. So maybe look at some

side gigs, whether it's working part-time for one

of the transportation services— Lyft,

Uber, DoorDash— or maybe because a lot of Gen Zers have these talents

today with computers, start a side gig where

you help put up websites or you be a personal

assistant or, or help people. I mean, we all use, we all use

some of these people to a certain

extent.? And then maybe at your current job, what kind of

skills can you learn to get higher advancement? Or maybe you have to

leave your job. But the thing is you don't know until you know

what the gap is and what you have to do. So, it all

begins again back to your spending plan. But there are ways. It's

just not like— sometimes people get into what I

call seesaw thinking. Seesaw, right? If I

want that, I can't have that. If I do this, I

can't have that. Like, for example, I buy the car I want, I can't— I'm

not gonna be able to save. Um, if I, if I, if

I save too much, I can't— I, you know, I, I

can't have my lattes. I tell people, you

know, instead of thinking like that, think, why

can't you have both. Why can't you have your

lattes and save? Why can't you have your car and save? You know,

get into that mindset because, as we talked about a little bit

the last time, the mind's very powerful.

It'll tell you what you can and cannot do, even

if it's unreasonable. Our mind's 24/7. So, it tells

you, no, you can't have that. No, you can't spend that. You'll never have that

in your lifetime. We had these ungenerous conversations. Reframe

it like I reframed from budget to spending plan. Reframe

like, okay, instead of seesaw, have both. And then, then if you, if

you have a thought that way, then how do you do it? You may need

to get help from that. You may need to sit down with a financial planner.

You may need to sit down with someone who

has financial capabilities. But the thing is, once you know the basics, what

comes in and out, you can start to take action. If

you want to. Yeah, this is your plan, is your life. You

make the choices. Yeah. And, you know, I feel like you're touching on— it's just

kind of like when you're— there's so many— there's options

and there's possibilities. And so, you know, when we are really stuck

in fear and anxiety, that our whole

system tends to, you know, retract into— we're not, we're not

seeing the possibilities, we're not seeing the options, we're not seeing that

we have options. So I love how you're kind of— and

using the word reframing, you know, we can do this

and we can do that also. So touches

on a couple conversations I've had recently with like, what are you— what are your—

what's your— what are your— what's going through your head all the

time? What's your internal conversation you're

having with yourself? So if it is filled with the thought

of possibility, that's gonna— that's gonna like it's going to affect finances

and every other part of your life. So, but by the way, that's

a really great question when you're working with someone. I

don't care what profession, but I was in finance. Like, you, you say something

to a person and you see them thinking, you say, well, how's that

landing for you? What's going through your head? What are you thinking right now?

You know, because, you know, it'd be amazing. It's amazing to get the

feedback, but, but they like the fact you're asking it because you're interested in what

they're thinking. You're listening. But But, but, you

know, again, internal. Communications and external,

extremely important. Yeah, for sure. And it is a world, you know, especially we live

in now of, I think, of excess, that there's just always everything you can

purchase and buy and always the next thing.

I've thought, you know, in my family, the, the boomers are the

ones that were just, and they still are

today, they're so

frugal. So frugal. And I do think that's, that's just, that's a thought. I

think for Gen Zs who look, they look at boomers as being

like people who life was easy. It was easy to get a job, easy to

get a house, da da da. But

that's, I never, I never saw

them having excess. And that was without lattes, without a computer,

without a cell phone. Like all the things that weren't even in

the world yet. So, they drank black

coffee, you know, my family. I think that that was basically because they were raised

by the greatest generation who went through the Great Depression. Yeah.

I mean, you were always reminded of the Great

Depression. And so, your parents are always, "Debt is bad. Don't do

this. You know, watch your spending." You're reminded of

that. By the way, you did have part of

that generation rebel in the '60s, right? I don't want to hear it,

Dad and Mom. So you had that part too. But

I think it's like one generation keeps on

affecting the others. Again, Gen Zers today will look at

millennials and Gen Xers and say, I don't want to wind up

like them too. We're always harsher to the previous

generations for some reason. But, but I get what you mean

about the frugality. We're more practical, more, you know, you have to

have a reason for— they almost look at us like we're not

fun, we're not free, you know. I guarantee you, even though

I'm a boomer, I'm very free. But, uh,

but no, I, I can. Get where people think

that. Yeah, well, and it's just like, uh, you can't, like, you

can't hold generations right now side by side because our experience in

the world because of how it's changed with, um, you

know, technology and whatnot, is so

dramatically different, um, that we, we've just seen the world change very fast and that

it does affect money, uh, for sure.

Definitely. Yeah. So what are some of the common questions people ask?

So on the— I love this so much that that chat box

on the website or on the app has, you.

Cakenow, ask, ask Albert. Yeah, well, it's gonna be

on the phone later. We're doing it now, but it.

Is on the laptop. Okay, so on the website.

So what are some common questions.

That people ask? Well, so one, I'll give you some normal, then

I'll give you some wild ones.

Okay. Now the normal one is

like, look, I I'm X years old, I'm earning this

amount of money, I have a choice of paying down credit card

debt, my car loan, or my student debt. Which should

I do first? What's the primary— what's the priority I should

have? That's one. And or else, like, you

know, I'm barely saving enough. What kind of options do I have? Again,

that's a gig or or

income part. Or, look, I'm just beginning. I don't know

nothing about finance. What should I be reading? What can I be doing

to learn more? We'll have some questions like

that. One sort of off-the-wall question, it

was kind of actually scary and frightening, was this

one person said, I'm 20-something years old.

I see no way I can— get out of this, whatever.

I'm thinking of suicide. What should I do? So how

the— how the— how my— how I answered was that, for one

thing, if you're thinking of that, you call up suicide hotline, because

I can't do anything with you if you're not alive. But if you're alive,

I can help

you. Yeah. So, but, uh, you get questions like that. Uh, it's a

lot. You get a lot of, uh, tales of struggle

or being frightened or what do I do next. But,

and then you get again, when you tell what's like, going back to

the one where what's my priority? Should I be paying down

credit card debt, student debt, or saving? What should I do

first? You know, I'm always one to basically say, well, look,

let's start with emergency funds.

Like, you know, what can you do? Do you have any extra money to put

aside for the next month or two to where you can build up about a

month of expenses in case you get laid off, in case you have an emergency.

Because so you're reliant. So, because I think people, if they have

that, there's now there's a sense of security. There's more sense that they

have some choices. And then I always go into debt and say, well, if you

have student or credit card, let's talk about maybe there's a way

to restructure that so that you wind up with— so You

are paying less payments per month, but

you're saving more. And then keep in mind that again,

with our site, and that we have where we talk about compounding,

we talk about tax effects, because these things are

very important when you finally are saving money to understand

those. And we want people to save money as soon as possible.

We're sort of contrarian thinkers around that. I'm not

a big thing. I'm not a big person on you pay off your debt as

soon as possible. I think you restructure it or, or get to where

it's better debt. There's bad debt and good debt, but there's ways

to get there to basically— that's going to help you

possibly save more. Yeah, I love that. And I, I really

do like— I, I lived in the same town as a

very famous, uh, financial, um, it was

Dave Ramsey. Oh, Dave Ramsey. Yeah. Yeah, so

going through his stuff, it is— he's very much more, you're gonna do this and

you're gonna do this, and this is what you're gonna do. And

that does create this sense of. I don't think I like that.

Well, people like choices. Like, what do you want to do? These are

your choices. And I respect Dave Ramsey, but

I also think he— I don't agree with him around debt. He's a—

he— a lot of people like Suze Orman or Dave Ramsey are like

pay off your debt first and save. I don't agree with that. I think you

have to get emergency funds first, and then you have to

ask yourself, like, what major corporation is

debt-free? Is Warren Buffett debt-free? No. Is it—

what, what major billionaire is debt-free? No, no, they have debt,

and their companies have debt, because they know they use

debt to build wealth, to build value,

right? And, uh, And so, you know, you have to learn to

use debt smarter, right? So, for example, I'll give you an example because I'm

just— we're talking about— we're talking theory here. So, let's say you have

$10,000 in credit card debt. And let's say you

have to pay $500 a month on this. And, you

know, and so you can't save. You say you can't save. So, I

always tell people, well, first thing is that if you wanted to, you

can play the credit card game of going to zero

financing. Saving some money that way. But another way is to call the credit card

company and say, look, I'm having— I'm struggling, um, I, I

can't pay the 24% interest. Can we come to an agreement to

where maybe for like a year I pay zero interest, or you bring it down

to 5% or 6% or something? Or this is what I can only spend, that's

what I'm going to spend with you. How can we make that

work? So let's say— and let's say they're cooperative, maybe you have—

you can negotiate down to where it's $250 a month. Well, now you're saving $250

a month or $3,000 a year. Yeah. And if you

have a 401k at work and you can put that money in there, you get

a match from the employer, plus your taxes are lower. So you can end up

saving like $4,000 or $5,000 a year from that, that one

thing. But let's say the credit card says, oh, forget it. Well, there's ways

to get credit card companies, uh, attention. Uh,

stop paying them. Now again, that affects your credit rating

temporarily, but the thing is you'll get their attention. Then they'll negotiate, or

eventually you can even hire— there are attorneys or groups out there that basically

will negotiate for you. That, that's one way to do it.

Another way is, um, and again, this may be a harder thing for some people,

but, uh, go to a bank. If you have— if you have a

small business especially, or you have relationships with a bank Ask

for an interest-only loan. Say I want an interest-only loan for

the next 3 years. All right. And let's say the

interest rates are like 7%. So what,

that's what, $700 a year. So divided by 12, that's what,

$60 a month. So you were spending $500 a month. Now you're only

down to $60. So you're spending, you're saving

$440 a month or over $5,000 a year. And so you

can quickly get that emergency fund up. You can quickly give to your 401(k). You

can start building wealth. Now, yeah, you had that

$10,000 left to pay, but if you— if you're earning— if you're

saving $5,000 a year and then you're saving a 401(k) and

getting a match and saving taxes, maybe you're saving 6

or 7. In 3 years, you'll have

$18,000 of saving or $21,000. You had this debt of $10,000. But

now you have $21,000. Yeah, see, you're

getting to where you're safer. There's clarity.

You're, you know, it's safer if you have money. People have zero—

people who have zero debt and zero cash are very unsafe. They have

an emergency or something comes up, what can they do, right? If

people have some debt and cash, they always have options. Now

you can also do what I did. Um, well, there's

other options too. You may go to your parents, you may not like that,

and say, look, $10,000 and I'll give you

10% interest for like 3 years. So you think, my God,

10%, you know, you can get rates low. But the thing is, you

need to get cash flow.

So 10% of $10,000 is $1,000. That's about

what, $80 a month. So you're

saving $420 a month. It's the same thing. You have more than enough either

to pay them off to where you'll have

something net, or you can't— you say, can I keep on doing it? By the

way, I, I've done the same thing. I had a $20,000—

3— over 3 credit cards and loans. I ended up saving

about $1,000 a month, saved in taxes, saved,

uh, in a 401k. I was even saving because of that. I

was saving up to $15,000, $18,000 a year. In

3 years, I had over $50,000 for

the same $20,000. Well, I still have that note. I had

never paid that note off because if something's working for you and you

keep on earning, getting cash, and you're taking

advantage of compounding, you know, so, so you see how like now again, I

respect Dave Ramsey and Suze Orman, but But look, see,

you can really solve a short-term cash flow and emergency

fund problem for a person by showing them not necessarily

how to pay off their debt, how to have good debt, how to make

it work for you to have cash flow. So that, that's how

we think in. A more contrarian way.

I love that. That's so great. So when you get

the Cake Club app on your phone,

You're going to put in your, your bank account if you want to, any credit

cards, and that, and that will kind of basically help you just keep

track of everything a little bit easier. Is that kind of the main, one. Of

the main goals? There's two functions of our app right now. There's

the spending plan or the, or the budgeting app where you put in your credit,

actual credit card numbers and your bank accounts and

all your transactions daily. Will show up

and they'll automatically go to these, to the

budget categories you want. Okay. Now we have one where

we will actually put them into categories, but then you can, you can change that

to whatever you want. Okay. That's one way. So you can see at the end

of the month what came in total and what went

out. Okay. So that's one way. Uh, the other way is that again,

because we're cash-oriented, we're always trying to find cash. Is that

something we found very quickly to put on is what we

call cash rewards. So all you do is you don't even have to input your

actual credit card numbers, just tell us what credit cards you have. Like, do

you have a Citi, Citibank, Silver or Gold

or something? And then

our internal operations will know what that is. And what it'll do, if you have

3 or 4 cards is that when you go into

a store, you know, you go into your app and it'll tell you which one

to put in, in order, which one to use to get the

most points for, for either cash reward dollars for

cash rewards or points for

travel or, or miles. Yeah, that's

so cool. So it's just kind of like it helps you. It's kind of

like your brain, um, without having to spend so

much energy inputting everything into QuickBooks or whatever else you're going to

use. It's kind of right there on the. App is how I'm hearing that.

Well, no, it's right. It's to make it easier because again, when you come to

a spending plan or a budget, you know, people don't want to sit there

and input the stuff. So automate it. Automate as much as

you can because, you know, and but all you're doing

is getting clarity. You're getting where you are. You're getting your starting points where you

are so you can make better decisions. That's our, that's

our main thing right now. Then, of course, we're adding the AI and

we're adding eventually some things around taxes, investment as

we go along. By the way, one thing we're doing, because, you know, I've written

two books, Master Your Cash Flow. We are going to have a Master Your Cash

Flow, another book, Master Your Cash Flow. We haven't gotten the real title. It's going

to come out in June yet, but it's around Cake Club. Maybe it'll

be something like Master Your Cash Flow. Master your cash

flow via using Cake Club, or, or use Cake Club and have your cake

and eat it too. Or something like that.

Yeah, however you slice that cake, you can eat— slice it,

still have it,

still eat it. Analogies. So, you know, I

know you've counseled people over the years. When people— if someone comes to you

and they are kind of in a level of stress that, that borders

on maybe terror, or we're not going to make it. Like, what are some of

the things you do to just kind of help them through that

emotional state, to get through so they can

start looking at, you know, their situation a different way?

For one thing, you listen. You don't

make them wrong because they have their own point of view, right? There's no wrong

on how you feel, your perspective. You say, well, why do you feel

that way? They may say, I have all these credit cards, I can't

make my payments, whatever. You listen. And

when you listen, you get an idea of who they are, what kind of resources

they have, and how maybe to take the conversation. Give

you an example. I had a couple, they were in

their early 60s. They just lived through the 2008 recession.

They lost almost everything.

They were retired. She was 62, he was

63. They lost almost everything. They did have

a paid-for house. They were— they had— they thought they

have to work forever, just have to work. They had no

idea how they could possibly retire. So I listened,

and they were frightened. They were, you

know, basically in tears, but I saw how

to help them. So when I helped them, I said this,

I said, look, I can get you there to where maybe you can retire

in 5 years. Now, this is after doing work, right? But this is

what you might have to do. These are your

choices. One choice, very important choice, is you must

sell your house. And they had a decent amount of equity in that house. I

said, you must sell your house and now rent after

that because you have too much equity in there. And let's put

that to work. Yeah. So we started where that could be invested and

they would rent and they got a very nice townhouse for a very

nice rent. And then I said, and then I said,

especially the husband, I said, you're going to have to work for another 5 years.

And actually, I got him a job. I talked to another person. There was

a local hospital, the one I was on the board of. He got a job

there. So, I said, "He got a job with

his pay." And then, and they lived, you know, they didn't live an

extravagant life. And she worked part-time. They were able to save

enough over 5 years to actually retire when

he. Was 68 and she was 67. Oh, that's

beautiful. Now, there's another one too, a lot more affluent. These people were not as

affluent, but I sat with a couple. This shows you whether you're

wealthy or have affluence or not, you face the same issues.

They had some of the same issues.

His wife was 72. He was 80. They

had a beautiful penthouse apartment in New York City. He at one

time was the president of a major corporation

20 years before. But bad decisions, the market, whatever,

they were running out of money. And he was

very concerned because, you know, he saw a shorter lifespan for himself, but he was

very concerned about his wife. So,

and they had a few issues around their portfolio,

whatever. So I said, I can help you. Oh, by the way, they were at

a point in life where there was deferred maintenance on

the apartment. They couldn't do that. They quit all travel. They quit all entertainment. And

they used to be, used to entertain or belong to

a couple of societies. So, and now they were just in what

I call, they were just waiting to die. It's

terrible. So I said, I can help you with everything. I

can restore everything you had, your cash flow. And so

what it did again, what we did this time, they had their penthouse was

almost all paid off. We borrowed

heavily against it. Right. And because of the interest rates and all that, I think

we were able to give them tax deductions. They saved a lot of taxes. We

took the money, put into a very good portfolio, as well as the money

they had left. He had a small pension, and we were

able to restore their cash flow they had before, and,

and to where his wife would be, would be okay up

to age 100. Oh, wow. But by the way, he died at 90. By the

way, they became close friends and they were just

a lovely couple. But the thing is, they restored it to

where they could entertain, they could take

vacations, whatever. And she's still alive. He's passed away, but, and

she's still fine. She's still fine. See, it's

never too late. It's never too late to take some action. That does not mean

it has to be action that you might like. Like, you know,

you may not like to sell your house, or there's always some way to do

it. There's always some way to help people, I think, if

they want to be helped. But people have to understand that

it begins with— it's your life, you know. What you want is to

work with someone who gives you choices, not tells you what to do,

because, you know, I don't think— I don't believe in that. Give you choices, like,

if you did this, this could happen, you could have this. What do you

want to do? And so if

you have choices, I will tell you, I think no matter where you are in

life, I've dealt with people that had almost nothing in their

40s or 50s, and then they're, they're fine now. But you

may have to do things that you didn't do before, but

it's your choice. No one's going to care about your money and life more

than you will. Whoever you're using, the financial planner, investment advisor, you're

going to care more about your money than they do. Just

always understand that. So unless you're involved or somehow, you know, be

an advocate for yourself, um, you know, you're not—

you may not get as much out of, uh, your work

life and your assets or your. Wealth as much as

you can. Yeah, I love that. Well, I have a question for you now that

I know that you have this creative side too. I don't I

knew that before. Um, and you know, I am— before moving to Reno a couple

years ago, I was in Atlanta and pursuing acting as

a career, which if you're an actor, you know, you can't make all your

money on that. Or maybe any of your money on that. Maybe you

might just, you know, it might turn out to be you made $10 this year

from, you know, after your expenses. Uh, so

you rely on different things that aren't necessarily career-based, and

a lot of people do gig work or restaurant work or

something like that. So for people that are pursuing like something like that

where it is a creative career, have you worked with people like that? And then

they're doing the work, and is there specific like thoughts you

have. For that on— well, again, I, I

haven't worked with many, uh, actors, but there's

one in LA I've worked with her and her

husband, and, uh, and she came close a couple times to get on series, and

she has You know, she has part-time things, and you're right, and she

knows she couldn't survive on this. But,

uh, she, she turned to teaching, and

she was very successful. Yeah, she's very successful

being a teacher or having a school. So you

do that, um, you know, uh, you know,

coaching. There's a lot of acting people because I, I think they're

much more sensitive and they communicate better. Yeah, coaches

are natural for them. And, and, um, I'll tell you a

story about a coach, tell you how creative you can be with this. So I

had a coach, he was, he was actually coaching other actors

and other top executives, and, uh, he was— his

book was full, you know, uh, and, uh, and he was earning decent— he was

earning good money, but his life was just terrible. He was traveling

all the time. He said, now I can't live this way. And

I said, okay, uh, I've looked at your— I looked at what you have. I

said, uh, double your fee immediately. Now

he was charging $2,500 a day for this, and which was even cheap

at that time. Uh, and I said, charge $5,000. And he looked at me, he

says, I can't do that, everyone will leave me.

I said, are you getting referrals? I said, do you have any spare time? Are

you getting referrals? Yes. Then I said, I tell you what, let's do it

this way. Anyone who's new, you charge double. If

everyone else is saying, let's try that. So he found

that no one argued. So he eventually charged

double everyone else. So he doubled his fee, he

doubled his income, no more time working just

by doing that. Eventually I got him to like triple and get him up to

$10,000 a day. Yeah. So, so, so the thing is, keep in mind, a lot

of people— and I think actors, it's a sort of double-edged sword when they do

this— they're, they're, uh, they're, uh, I don't know

what it is. Uh, by the way, it's not them also, it's just psychologists

and other, other people in that sensitive field, or whether they use

their senses a lot. They, they don't have enough

confidence in charging. They're terrible. They're terrible in charging

fees and terrible negotiating. So you teach them that, and

just by simple that, like, and so you

help them that way. And sometimes, you know, keep in mind, you want people to

change immediately, but you can't change people. You have to take them

slowly through things. You have to listen, be patient,

give them alternatives. Like, if they can't double side, start

low, try things, right?

So I've learned that with especially people people, it's very

important to know who you're talking to,

if they're relationship-oriented, Type A personality, this or that, because, you

know, you want to, you want to have them, you want to get to where

you're listening in that way, but you're

speaking that way, you know, you're speaking that way, so, you know, they're listening, it's

going to land for them better. But I

find that, um, by knowing that, I, you can, you can deal with how to

do this and be more sensitive and/or not be sensitive if that's the case.

I mean, like engineers and

accountants are like, you give

them facts. Salespeople are all Mr. and Mrs.

Personality. So, you know, right? Then you

have professions, whether it's acting, whether it's a psychologist,

or maybe the soft professions where You've

got to be empathetic, well, more empathetic. You have to be empathetic

everywhere, but more empathy and get into their world and

listen to them and listen to their feelings and then say, well, this doesn't work

for you. Give them choices. I think the worst thing you can do to anyone,

I don't care any of those personalities, just say, no, this is what you

must do. I remember having another wealth advisor tell me one time, he just told

the person, you got to cut your spending

in half. I said, what did they do? He said, they, they didn't— they love—

they left me. I would too. You kidding? That's

not an answer, you know. Yeah, you have to work with people, get to know

them and see what works for them. But you have to let them know—

I always work— I always go through what I call the ground rules with people.

You have to let them know that I have responsibilities, but

you do too. And your responsibility is— this is your plan, it's not mine. You

got to show up. If you say you're going to do something, you do it.

If you allow me to say something you don't understand, you got to stop and

say, 'I don't understand.' You know, you've got to be responsible. You got to show

up in your plan. Again, nobody's going to care more about your life and

money than you do. Yeah, I love that.

Yeah, and even beyond, you know, acting, I know I lived in Nashville, so

I know the songwriters, and I did some of that in the— and then I

have a daughter who's a dancer, and it's like, so all these creative

professions where you're you know, you can teach some lessons, you can do some teaching,

or you have to just have something else that you're doing

that can be flexible. It's kind of, you know, so I feel

like that is, um, and, uh, it's tough. It's a tough field. So,

oh, I think, I think you're right. I think, you know, you're lucky if 1

or 2 or 3% can, can, uh, can they, they

can really earn. You can really have a career from it earning and not have

to work somewhere else. But. But again, there's always options.

Like, I, again, not me, I just know these three

from a mutual friend, three actors. They got together

and scraped a little money together and started their own little, like,

one of those, like, street, street vendors, you

know, like the sandwich shop or whatever, but on the street in New York City.

You ever seen them? Right? They started that.

And they actually eventually had two or three of them. And they were making more

money from that than anything else. But see, you

just find something else. Yeah, another creative

idea. I love that. I love that a lot. And I

do think probably creatives sometimes are underestimating their ability

to own a business and be a business

owner. And, you know, I was taught when I first worked for my—

one of my first bosses, He was a manager and

I was a regional manager. And we were talking about how to run

a region. He said, Al, always remember, there's always a

person, there's always a place, there's always a way to get

it done. Just start listing. If you don't think, if you can't think of anything,

just start listing a possibility. Just start listing them. Make them

up. Make them crazy. I can do this. I can do that. He said, you'll

find— or ask other people. I have this problem. What can I do?

You'll find a way. Yeah. And I do think, because I've, you

know, I've been the business owner too, that's like, man, I'm

this, I, the, this online store that I did, it's so, it was so out

there. I didn't know anyone who was trying to do it. And I did start

with someone, but then he left. And, um, I, the,

the key in my opinion is that you're not an

island to yourself, that you're actually going out and, and

finding the right help. And, and, you know, like, like this app can be that.

It can be the financial help. But you're reading the books, you're

looking for the people, you're, you're, you keep

searching for a community, uh, that actually. Does have the answers

for you, right? And, and you said all the right things. You said

like a good partner. If you don't have a good partner, get rid of the

person, you know, and go get another partner. I mean, I, I know

what having bad partners, it helped me— it hurt me a lot on

some of my companies. But there's, you know, but there's always a

way. There's— I can't— I'm a very positive person, and I think—

but you just have to be positive, like, I'm going to solve this. And then,

and then if you don't know, ask. Keep on asking people, I have

this problem, you know. You'll have someone come out and help.

Yeah, I agree. I've been

saying in the last year, the answer is

at hand. Because it seems like that, seems like there is no— there's just

been a, a lot of, um, gates that's hard to

get through. So, but it does help you, it does help your mind to go,

and I'm just like looking around, the answer is at hand, the answer is at

hand. And somehow it does turn your, um. Well, into a different

place. I have a thing, the universe will offer it somewhere

along the way, somewhere the answer will come if you're patient

and ask whenever. By the way, as a business owner, or just if you're

not a business owner, you're an executive or

you work for someone, always have around people that—

always have good people around you. A good

accountant, good insurance person, a good banker, whatever you need. If you have

business, you'll have more, more needs,

maybe a good attorney. I call— get yourself a

championship team of experts. By the way, not the most expensive, the ones that return

phone calls, the one that care about you, the one that gives good advice.

They're always there, they're timely, their work

is good. You know, bad, bad, uh,

poor professionals or poor team people, uh, will cost you

money all the time. You have a good set of people you can

always go to. Again, it's another resource

for you to answer questions or answer things that you're finding

problems, you're finding difficult to answer yourself.

Yeah, that's very good advice. So, uh, remind

us of the, the books that you have. So I, I think it would be

a great idea for people to just read your books, get the

app. The app is, um, $80 a year, is that right? What it

is, it's $10

a

month. You can get, um Uh, you know, the name escapes me right now, and

I apologize for this, but we have, uh, there's a—

you can input this, this password. If you do that, you'll

get 3 free months. If you go to— for your listeners, if you go to

the app right now, we'll give you a free month. Okay. All

right. So, and so you, and you can find the

app at, you know, um cakeclubapp.com on

the Apple Store, uh, or if you're not sure about that, go to the website

and we'll guide you there. But as far

as my, my books, um, and my books, by the way, are

written in very layman terms.

There's no legal things, legalese, and there's a lot of

good examples in them. But there's two of them: Master Your Cash Flow, The

Key to Grow— I'm sorry, The Key to Grow and

Retain Your Wealth, And then the second one is Master Your Business Cash

Flow: Grow the Company You Love, Live the

Life You Want Now. And then our new one coming out, we're going to come

out with one in June, and it's going to be something like Master Your

Cash Flow, maybe, uh, Have Your Cake and Eat

it Too. I love it. I love it. Well, thank

you so much, Al. And, uh, if people want to, you know, learn more,

they. Can go to

cakeclubapp.com. And then if they want to learn more about me personally, you

can go to

al@alzdenek.com also. Okay. Or you go to my LinkedIn, you know, you can find out

how to connect with me if you want to. See my post or

something. Yeah, that's awesome. Thank you, Al. I appreciate you so much, and, um, you

have such a beautiful heart for helping people and such great

advice and wisdom. So thank you for coming on and. Enjoy the rest of

your day. I appreciate it, Mary. Thank you for having me. Yeah, bye-bye.