Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Chapter 3, Part 3, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Chapter 3, Part 3 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Pull up a stool, grab your favorite cereal, and let’s kick-start your day with a spoonful of inspiration, nostalgia and personal growth. Join your host, Shaen Inglis, as he highlights the music, movies, and moments that made the 80s, 90s, and 2000s unforgettable—kind of like digging for toy at the bottom of the cereal box. Each episode, Shaen also reviews a chapter or so from top wellness books, offering practical insights to help you set a positive tone for your day. Start your mornings right—no cartoons required!

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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and

welcome to Wednesday.

It's hump day.

And I hope you got to start the day with

a bubble bath and

you're wearing your most

obnoxious Argyle.

Now why, Sean, you're asking yourself,

why would Sean say that?

Well, obviously it's because it's

National Bubble Bath

Day and Wear Argyle Day.

So I guess I just presumed.

Well it's also

National Take the Stairs Day.

So that seems like one we can all get

behind or go up, whatever.

Anyway, happy Wednesday.

Let's get into it.

Straight away to today's quotes.

One fun, nostalgic quote and then a

second quote to tease our

book review later in the

episode.

Hopefully one of these quotes will speak

to you and kickstart

your day in a positive

way.

All right.

The first quote is, "You don't need to

wear a patch on your arm to have honor."

That quote is from Lieutenant Junior

Grade Daniel A. Caffey.

He's a character from

the movie A Few Good Men.

Now I'm a huge fan of this movie and even

more so of movie quotes that can speak to

inspire us in real life.

Honor.

It's a word and an idea that our

grandfathers would fight for.

We should not ever forget

how important our honor is.

And today's teaser quote from the book

review is, "Let's get

the other person's point

of view and see things from his or her

angle, as well as from our own."

As usual, we'll unpack that here in just

a minute during the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic

facts from this day in

history.

In 1790, US President George Washington,

he delivered the first

state of the union, which

is the annual address to Congress.

In 1835, the US national debt was zero

for the first and only time in history.

For perspective here, the national debt

grew to just under $4

trillion as most Gen Xers

were making their way

through high school.

That's from $0 to $4

trillion in 150 years.

Then it only took another 30 years or so

and at the end of fiscal

2023, our national debt

was over $31 trillion.

Now that's a scary number

for any of us oddest taxpayers.

Okay, skipping up to 1968 and a nostalgic

fact here, the

hundredth episode of "I Dream

of Jeannie" aired.

Clearly, it was the reruns that I

remember watching when I was younger.

In 1992, in classic Bush form, George

H.W. Bush on this date,

he vomited on the Prime

Minister of Japan.

I do vaguely remember that, although I

wasn't following world

politics as closely during

that time.

Consequently, 10 years later on this same

date, his son George

W. Bush would sign the

No Child Left Behind Act into law.

Okay, in 1993, the GOAT, Michael Jordan,

he scored a game high

35 points in a win over

the Milwaukee Bucks, but it gave him

exactly 20,000 points in his career.

And he did it in his 620th game, which is

still the second fastest

to reach that milestone,

only after Will

Chamberlain, who did it in 499.

And by comparison, LeBron James, he

needed 106 more games

than Michael did to achieve

the 20,000.

Also in 1993, NBC offered the Tonight

Show to David Letterman

as a last-ditch effort

to keep Letterman at NBC, because

Letterman already hosted the

late-night show that followed

the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson.

Apparently, NBC had preferred Jay Leno,

who was an

up-and-coming comedian at the time,

but they didn't want to lose Letterman.

Well, I guess we all

know how that one ended up.

Alright, lots of news on this date and

lots of birthdays, too.

Happy birthday if today is your birthday.

You share a birthday with an American

icon, singer and actor Elvis Presley.

He was born on this date in 1935.

English theoretical physicist Stephen

Hawking, you remember

him, he developed a theory of

exploding black holes that drew upon both

the relativity theory

and quantum mechanics.

I'll explain that later, but he was born

on this date in 1942.

Singer David Bowie was

born on this date in 1946.

And a birthday of someone who is still

with us, to the detriment

of the world most likely,

is Kim Jong-un, North Korean leader, and

the world's flattest head.

He was born in 1984.

He'll be just 42 years old.

He's so young to be

causing so much chaos.

Well, to end on a high note for the

birthdays, literally a

high note, Cynthia Erivo, she

will be 38.

She stars as Elphaba in the newest Wicked

movie starring alongside Ariana Grande.

Okay, now to the music in the movies of

the 80s, 90s, and the 2000s.

The number one song on this date in 1982

was "Physical" by Olivia Newton-John.

This song was Olivia's breakout song in

the US despite being

the title track on her

eleventh album.

The song, with risque lyrics at the time,

spent 10 weeks at number one.

But Olivia will always be sweet and

innocent Sandy to me.

And the number one movie on this date in

1993 was "A Few Good Men."

One of the most memorable scenes in the

movie is Jack Nicholson's

character, Colonel Jessup's

"You Can't Handle the Truth" speech.

Impressively, my wife

knows every word of that scene.

She remembers everything.

But Jack Nicholson was only on the set

for 10 days and was

paid a reported $5 million

for his time.

"A Few Good Men" was number one for three

weeks and it was

nominated for four Oscars.

Okay, let's move on to some personal

growth here in the book

review segment of "Morning

Serial."

This is where we take a few moments to

reflect on lessons learned

from the current book that

we're reading.

And currently, we are reading through

Dale Carnegie's "How to

Win Friends and Influence

People."

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must-read

lists and it's packed

with rock-solid advice and actions for us

all to use and build healthy foundational

concepts to live by.

Alright, yesterday we were still making

our way through chapter

three, which is entitled,

"He Who Can Do This Has

the Whole World With Him.

He Who Cannot Walks a Lonely Path."

So far in chapter three, we're unpacking

the importance of

understanding what other people

want because everything we do in our

lives is because we want something.

Carnegie is walking us through examples

of talking and thinking

in terms of what other

people want and how to look for and see

situations from someone

else's angle and as well as from

our own.

Carnegie spends a few pages walking

through a letter that was

written by the head of a

radio department for a

national advertising agency.

And as I mentioned yesterday, we can

think of this letter as

an email that was sent to

all the local radio

stations across the country.

Carnegie provides commentary to each

section and as I read some

of this and walk us through

his comments, take a moment to

contemplate how we can learn from this

when we're communicating

at work or within your

organization or social group.

Okay, the letter starts off, "The blank

company desires to retain

its position in advertising

agency leadership in the radio field."

Now Carnegie rips into this immediately

saying, "Who cares what

your company desires?"

Remember, these other people are worried

about their own problems

in life, like paying the

bills.

The stock market is down.

The government is losing their mind.

I have to get a cavity filled.

I have a nail in my tire.

And the doctor says I

have high blood pressure.

And now I have this letter from someone

in New York yapping

about what his company wants.

Carnegie is suggesting this intro isn't

setting the right impression.

The next sentence of the letter talks

about the national

agency's scope and success having

kept the agency as the best

in business for another year.

Carnegie's response to this is, "Oh, you

are big and rich and

right at the top, are

you?

I don't give two whoops and Hades."

I say that all the time.

I don't know about you.

"I don't give two whoops and Hades how

big and important you are."

And Carnegie goes on to say, "If you were

smart," referring to

the writer of the letter,

"then you would realize that I am

interested in how big I am

and making myself important."

But instead, Carnegie writes, "All this

talk about your

enormous success makes me feel

small and unimportant."

I think you're getting the point here.

The writer of the letter is only talking

about himself and the

wants and the desires and

the accolades of his company.

Thus far with no mention or care for the

reader and completely

missing Carnegie's primary

point here in chapter three of talking in

terms of what other

people want in order to

influence them.

Carnegie continues to rip through the

form letter as the writer

again says, "They desire

and they request such and such with an

aura of expectation,"

and then ending the letter

asking for prompt acknowledgment of

receipt of the letter

with a single vague comment

on being mutually beneficial.

Carnegie makes the point here that

someone in advertising is

supposed to understand the

human psyche, human emotions.

They are supposed to be the experts in

the art of influencing people to buy.

And if they can send out such a poorly

written letter that

completely misses the boat like

this one did, then what can we expect

from those of us that

aren't experts in such a

field?

Well, Carnegie provides another letter

example, which I'll sum up

by giving a few words from

the person receiving the letter as saying

that the letter was, "Raising a spirit of

antagonism rather than cooperation."

And again, it's because the letter

started and focused on

the writer's needs instead

of focusing on what's important to the

person receiving the letter.

As you may have guessed, Carnegie

suggests rewrites of the

letters, again calling on

Henry Ford's words, "Let's get the other

person's point of

view and see things from

his or her angle, as

well as from our own."

You know, it's interesting.

I've been in finance my whole career and

I've taken courses on

how to send business

emails and I can't recall a time being

instructed on focusing on or

constructing my email around

the other person's needs.

I learned to be succinct, to put my ask

up front, among other

things, but I think what

Carnegie is getting at here is something

you learn over time,

and that's more persuasive

writing.

We can still be succinct, but doing so

taking into account the

other person's angle and

finding that right balance to influence

someone in such a way

that they want to do it.

Today's book review segment may feel a

bit more technical, but

it absolutely still applies

to our everyday lives.

I think of emails I send every day that

are outside of a business

environment, to my kids'

teachers, to the HVAC

person, to my insurance agent.

And Carnegie's points can be helpful here

to build bridges and

not burn them by simply

making sure I consider their perspective.

For example, that teacher probably has a

million other parents, or

the HVAC guy has a million

other clients calling them, wanting

something or complaining.

Now think of how much we would stand out

from the crowd by

incorporating what Carnegie

is teaching here.

And do we believe that that would help us

influence them as

being one of the few that

actually have taken a moment to care

about their perspective

and how it relates to ours?

I think it would be a

breath of fresh air to them.

Alright, nicely done.

We are still in Chapter 3 tomorrow, and

Carnegie dives deeper

into the how we get people to

want to do something.

You'll want to hear what he says.

Okay, you're nearly

halfway through the week.

One of my favorite quotes from a movie

that applies to life

very well is from Dory in

Finding Nemo.

She says, "Just keep swimming.

If life or the schedule is

tough today, just keep swimming.

You'll get through it."

Okay, have a fantastic day, and we'll see

you back here tomorrow.

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Thanks again for

listening, and have a fantastic day.

We'll see you tomorrow.