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How do you magnify your attraction and sex appeal, whether you’re single or in a relationship?
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So today, I'm very excited to talk about something that every man and woman quietly wrestles with, but rarely admits out loud or is even aware of. Guys, that's how important this is. It's lurking in the shadows. Not anymore. So what I'm talking about is polarity.
Ryan:Think about that as what electricity is. You've got like two different poles, negative positive poles. You've got a north pole and a south pole. You've got hot and cold. You've got all sorts of opposites that occur naturally in nature and human beings are no different.
Ryan:So this is a very important topic, especially in today's world where people are getting confused about literally the laws of nature and of the universe. Hey there. My name is Ryan, aka the soul mechanic. I am a neurodivergent friendly holistic dating relationship and intimacy coach working to bridge the gap and turn up the heat between the sexes. I aim to empower women and men using an accessible conscious and personalized approach dissecting topics through different lenses such as relationship psychology, human behavior, self development, spirituality and energy modalities.
Ryan:So let's get back to what I'm talking about today, attraction. Attraction that fades, polarity that fizzles out, and relationships that slip into the flat battery mode over time. So this is exactly why I've created a course that's coming this October called Hot Connection. It's our four week online experience and it'll basically take place over four separate calls, one a week throughout the month of October. So why did I call it hard connection and why am I looking at it through this lens?
Ryan:Because we're talking about relationships, and this is one of the most important things that's missing from any relationship that's struggling out there. Usually, it's the connection piece. You can be doing things, can be living together, there's that roommate housemate energy people talk about, you just kind of go through your paces and you're just kind of doing things but the connection is gone. And if you ask yourself this, if you're struggling, I bet you you'll realize that that's what's missing. Do you connect?
Ryan:And I'm not talking about being in the same room. I'm talking about do you see each other, not just physically and on the surface, but underneath the surface, the unconscious, the energy, the intimacy, the depth. That is what we're going to be working on in October and bringing it back to the surface. So let me give you, a quick diagnostic so you can get an idea if this is something that's relevant to you or someone you know. So ask yourself the following questions, right, whether you're single or in a relationship.
Ryan:Do you have conversations with your partner that feel more like logistics than play and fun, where conversations go more like this. Who's cooking today? Did you pay the bill? Don't forget to take the trash out tomorrow. And that's pretty much what it looks like.
Ryan:And it's just a constant energy in this spectrum. Or maybe you catch yourself feeling irritated, resentful, or just flat around your partner. Maybe you're single, and every time you meet someone new, the spark dies before it even gets going. Or maybe you feel like you're not even attractive because there's been no interest from anyone for ages and it looks like others around you are actually swimming in all sorts of options. Right?
Ryan:So these are just some ideas. And if any of these sound familiar, your polarity is probably the culprit. So think of it like two magnets, right? When you've got polarity that's really high, there's a spark and there's a strong pull towards each other and there's this chemistry. When polarity slips, it's like the magnets flip in polarity and suddenly you repel instead of attract, except it doesn't happen so suddenly.
Ryan:Usually, it's a gradual effect which is why you normally do not notice. So when the polarity is off, resentment starts to creep in, you know the feeling, that constant snapping, the friction, the little arguments over seemingly nothing and it's like this static in the air. You may love each other, but the charge is all wrong like the magnets that are not in the right order. So now here's the thing. People actually joke about it as well.
Ryan:Right? But it's true though. You've seen it. When someone has had great sex, you can feel it. Right?
Ryan:They're lighter, they're softer, more playful, there's a glow. Right? You normally hear people say that. There's a swagger. Well, even yoga teachers say this.
Ryan:Friends say it. Co workers notice it. Because polarity isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. It actually radiates out into how you show up in your life. So your partner obviously feels it the most of all because they live with you, they're in a relationship with you, and when you ignite that energy in yourself, they notice the shift instantly, even if it's not conscious.
Ryan:And it changes how they look at you, how they want to be around you, how safe or excited they feel in your presence. That's the magic at work. So now imagine walking to a room and your partner literally lights up, right? And imagine the funny banter, the playful teasing, and the sexual tension coming back into your relationship. Imagine intimacy feeling exciting again, not like a chore.
Ryan:That's what restored polarity feels like and what it can actually restore in your relationship. That's the shift that this new course called Heart Connection is designed to give you this October. Now the exciting thing is that it doesn't just stop there. Because when polarity is dialed incorrectly, the possibilities take you to places you haven't even experienced yet with your partner. And really listen up to this section because this happens and it's amazing to hear people speak when they say, what were we doing all this time?
Ryan:Because things like, did you know that it it's actually possible to climax in different ways, especially for a woman? And that it's sometimes just a certain look that you give her or the vocal frequency that can make the steam rise in the moment, even to the point where your partner can simply step up behind you and you feel that sizzle start to boil in your body and in your energetics. And this course is your first step in that direction. We'll go deeper in all of this, within the course itself, but it's real and a lot of people are not even aware it's possible. I mean, we live in a world where a lot of women in particular don't even have orgasms, never mind that there are different types.
Ryan:And so it's a very exciting space to work in. So this course isn't just about me revealing the ancient but powerful secrets of polarity to you, because in every session, there will also be a Q and A and a collaborative element. So that means you bring your actual situation, your relationship, friction, the intimacy, dry spell, your dating frustration, and I'll help you pinpoint exactly where the energy's gone flat. It's like having a mechanics diagnostic for your love life. And once you see what's out of alignment, the shift can happen fast.
Ryan:Plus, you will get tools that will specifically help you realign your natural attraction energies. And it's important to mention here that because this is a group course, everyone is welcome to share as much as they feel. There's no pressure to get into the details or to reveal anything that's not comfortable. However, group energy is very powerful because you will also see just how common the things that you are experiencing are actually for people around you. That's also part of the healing, by the way.
Ryan:So let's look at a few examples of where people struggle and how we shift them into a different gear. So for example, say a man comes in and says, my partner just doesn't respect me anymore. And after just a few minutes, right, I can find out maybe that he's been avoiding setting boundaries by softening himself to keep the peace. Very common, very common. That's one of the most common forms of depolarization, right, where the polarities go off because he's now slid as a man out of his masculine presence usually because that's what the movies and culture generally program us to do, right, to change who we were when the person first fell in love with us in the first place and then play this role that has been assigned to us.
Ryan:And the key here is especially if you're a man it happens both ways but as a man if you find that your woman or your female partner is really trying to sort of tame you you feel like oh yeah I should do that because that's what she wants and she thinks that's what she wants as well And then unfortunately, when it goes wrong, you don't even realize that's why. So it's a very interesting nuance because obviously not everything needs to stay the same. That's also not healthy. But what are the things that make you a man? What are the things that make you a woman on an energetic level and a psychological level?
Ryan:That's the part that we need to diagnose and make sure that we realign basically. So we, in this case, maybe with this man, we would maybe reframe his stance, right? Body language says a lot and it even changes how you feel, changes the chemicals you actually release and hormones within your own body. And then we may teach him how to own his energy and suddenly she's feeling him again, you know, and she's respecting him more even though respect wasn't the issue, it was actually polarity. Right?
Ryan:And the feminine actually is designed to naturally test the masculine in subtle and unconscious ways. So she wants to make sure that he's not losing himself or his edge. She also wants to make sure that he's still a safe bet for everything that life has in store for the future, including the tough times, which are inevitable, right? Having to raise kids or to protect her when the home is fully vulnerable because she's not around or can't do what she's meant to be doing and he's got to hold all of that. For example, when she's in the transformational phase of childbirth.
Ryan:So men tend to have no idea that these tests are occurring. And ironically, most women don't either, right? Because it's unconscious and it's all hardwired into our evolutionary biology. And when these tests fail, which by the way, they do all the time, that that's what goes wrong. That's what we like to show men what's really happening here.
Ryan:Well, when these tests fail, all sorts of problems start to arise like the ones I've already mentioned before. Right? So let's look at another common scenario. Let's say a woman comes in and says, I can't seem to attract the right men. I just get ghosted.
Ryan:So a quick chat again and maybe a diagnostic will show that she's leading with a more masculine energy because she's used to it, right? She's used to running her own life solo. She's accustomed to the behaviors that high quality men are just not attracted to, and she may not even realize that. So same thing again, it's like, where's the polarity? What's the energy like?
Ryan:Because that's working a lot more than what you say and what you do. Right? So we will in this case maybe practice her softening, practice how, she can reconnect to her feminine radiance. And suddenly the men who used to ghost now lean in, right? It's not magic.
Ryan:It's just the mechanics of energy. And that's what the hot connection course is built on. It's so exciting. I'm looking forward to really showing people how this works. It's really life changing.
Ryan:Okay. So let's look at a few things that often come up as questions when considering joining such a transformational journey as the Hot Connection course. So first of all, someone may say, well, do I have to share personal details in the group? And as I said earlier, that's not the case at all. Participation is always at your comfort level.
Ryan:You're free to engage as much or as little as feels right, and the space is guided to keep everything respectful, safe, and judgment free. So it's got to be very safe in there. That's the key. And actually, will learn that's a big part of polarity and energy. It's like for someone to feel safe enough to play the part that's naturally theirs.
Ryan:Next question. Is hot connection for singles or couples? So definitely both. Singles will strengthen their awareness and magnetism, while couples will gain the tools to reignite polarity, improve communication, and bring more depth and excitement into their relationship. And the tools apply whether you're dating, whether you're in a partnership, or just focusing on your personal growth.
Ryan:And also remember that if you join without your partner, this will still be a positive move towards spicing up your relationship with them. So next question was, what if I'd prefer private coaching instead? So if you feel like group energy isn't something you're called into and you would like to work one on one, that's absolutely fine. I work one on one with people, you can just contact me directly. And I offer bespoke private coaching for individuals and couples who prefer a tailored, fully private approach.
Ryan:And actually, I have VIP clients who sometimes also fly me in to work with them in their homes or retreats as you know are usually places where people fly to or travel to and then we spend a few days together in a beautiful location. So there are different ways to work with me and if you're interested just email me on the email in the show notes and otherwise it is ryan@attractionplayhouse.com and attraction is spelled a t t r a x I o n. Right. Next question. I am in a same sex relationship.
Ryan:Is this for me? Yes it is. This work is open to all sexual orientations. Men join the men's group and then women will join the women's group and the principles of polarity and attraction apply no matter your orientation. Again this is energetics, is metaphysics, this is quantum mechanics, it's very interesting stuff.
Ryan:And once you learn it, you will see it everywhere. It's like the matrix almost, and it's very exciting work. So all of the socializations of like the genders and the roles that are supposed to be played, all that stuff is welcome because when you learn this, it's designed to help you be your authentic self, whatever that is. You're going to just feel more confident and be more attractive. And being more attractive means you have more options.
Ryan:And when you have more options, that means you just have a lot more value in your life, and that's really, really good. So next question. What if I miss a session? So all sessions are recorded, live on Zoom, so you'll be able to watch the replay, and that's only available for private catch up during the course. So you can stay on track even between the weeks as you live your exciting and busy life, which is about to get more exciting after this course.
Ryan:Next question. I'm in a couple. Will my partner see what I share? So your partner won't see what you share because if your partner, if you're in a heterosexual partnership, if you're in the men's group, obviously your partner won't have access to the men's group, she'll be in the women's group. So for the first weeks, one to three, you're going to have men and women in separate groups meeting with me each week and so you can explore and practice and embody the work in a focused space and focusing on that polarity.
Ryan:Then the thing about that is this is not about hiding things from your partner and in fact healthy, lasting connection is built on trust, openness, and the kind of presence that makes secrets unnecessary. So what that means is when you get to a space where you can unapologetically be yourself and you can actually show each other who you really are, the polarity increases, like, exponentially. It's a very powerful authenticity, super, super important, and trust. So you will be guided into all of these things, so don't worry about that. If you need to lean into more of these more, we'll be there with you.
Ryan:And then what'll happen in week four is that we will bring both of these groups together in a full connection session where it's going to be all about integration and sharing the different energies because now you'll be able to just kinda think of it this way. We're gonna spend, you know, three weeks playing with fire and getting to know how fire works. And then on the other group, they're gonna be playing with water and how water works. And then when you bring them together, what happens? So very interesting to see the response because it's really sort of heightened that you can really feel it, and that's the embodiment.
Ryan:So it's really cool. So that's what week four will bring both groups together. And integration is more about sharing the energy, not spilling private details. It's all about the energy. And it's a space to experience your partner and others in a new, more magnetic presence and to play with the polarity that you've both been cultivating in separate groups.
Ryan:Next question is, what if I feel awkward talking about intimacy on Zoom? So you're not alone in this. Many participants feel this way at first. And the sessions are structured, as I said, in a very safe way with respect and comfort. So you choose how much to share and you'll never be put on the spot.
Ryan:Plus powerful insights occur when you hear other people share and you may realize just how common your situation may be. Such a relief, right? And it can even be a fun experience through collective learning. And you'll be surprised how when you feel safe, how you just share, you know, I hear it a lot, you know, these phrases are like, oh, you know, I don't know why I'm sharing this, but actually, and oh, you know, because that person said this, what came to mind is I would like to say that I feel the same. And actually, I didn't realize that what you said would actually affect me that way because I didn't know I was wasn't alone.
Ryan:You know, these are the kinds of conversations that happen. So it's a very powerful and healing space to be in. So I wouldn't worry about it. I'd be more actually excited about what it's going to unlock within you. Next question is, is this too advanced for me?
Ryan:Not at all. The program is designed for all experience levels, whether you're brand new to these concepts or are already very deep in personal growth. The structure meets you where you are. Again, we're talking about basic human abilities here. So it's just stuff we weren't taught when we were young, which it's about time.
Ryan:It's about time. So let's look at the next topic with regards to the hot connection course, and that's the pricing. So I know some of you have done retreats and coaching before, so you know what kind of prices can occur. And a weekend intimacy retreat, for example, in person can easily cost 1,000, 2,000 upwards, like 6,000 even up to 10,000 plus the flights and hotels and the time away. And the private coaching with me or anyone at this level can run into the thousands as well.
Ryan:So even a one hour session with a relationship coach is often around €200 or more. Right? So with Hot Connection, it's online and right now there are early bird prices until this Sunday. All right? So the price for this course for the four weeks all inclusive, right, online is going to be €147 for an individual.
Ryan:If you want to pay as a couple then it's going to be €247 for couples to both have access to your group sessions, on one side or the other side, and then the integration session and week four. And so that's four weeks of guided transformation with live online sessions with me, plus Q and As, which is in itself valuable to be able to ask specific questions of where you're struggling with someone who's, got experience and the knowledge to help guide you to transformation that's going to free you in that space. Okay. Then there's the integration where we come together as well. And that's all for the price, that's less than a night out at a hotel and a dinner.
Ryan:And I'm doing this, by the way, just so you know, because I want to see how people respond to this offering as I'm not going to be offering things at this low price in the future because my own world is shifting very quickly and I'm also more focused on VIP clients. And so the bigger projects that as they sort of come online, I will have less sort of capacity to be able to do such deep work with this level of price and I'm going to have to sort of focus on my VIP clients. So this is your chance to be in the room while the price is still accessible. So I'd say check out the link read through it and if it's a yes definitely hop in, get in touch if you've got more questions and certainly don't take the course if it's not for you. We definitely want people who feel resonant and are being called to improve their love life and their general life by just becoming more confident and more radiant within themselves.
Ryan:And then seeing just how that works. And what's also important, by the way, is to mention is that when you are in a space and you see what other human beings are capable of, something activates inside of you. And that's exactly what happened to me. Like a few years ago when I was like I need to get more into this. Know there's more in me.
Ryan:I could feel it. Right? I just ended the relationship. We had parted ways amicably. And I just remember thinking, I know I can fly higher.
Ryan:There's something in me that I wasn't getting. And so I started to do research. I started to talk to people. I started to watch things. And then I started to find out what's possible.
Ryan:And I was like, what? Really? No way! My jaw was dropped, right? And I'm talking specifically about how people were able to have orgasms without even touching themselves and how this energy moves around your body and these things like full body orgasms are possible.
Ryan:It's so mind blowing. And I promise you, like, it was literally a couple of months after that experience that I started to experience it myself. And because I was on the journey and I was learning and I was opening up to my own body's potential. So all I can say to you is when you're in a group and you get to see what's possible and what other people around you are achieving, it unlocks something within the collective and within yourself. And that's why they say, you know, the people that you spend the most time around are really sort of like a mirror of your future.
Ryan:If they're really winners, you're probably going to win in life. But if people are pulling you down and they're complaining and they're stuck, then you're probably going to stay the same. So choose the path that is going to empower you and this is what we're doing with hot connection. Alright so if you're listening and you're thinking maybe later, later usually turns into never so just so you know this is your moment to dry the wet matches, right, that you've been trying to ignite and then really light that fire again. And the fire within you and within your relationship, that's what we're talking about.
Ryan:So the early bird offers end this Sunday at midnight central European time and so you should secure your spot before then and let's make this October the month where attraction, intimacy and polarity come back alive in your life. So the link is in the show notes and thanks for stopping by. As I said, if you've got any questions or you'd like to do some one on one work with me or even collaborate on projects, if you're also a facilitator, then feel free to contact me and otherwise stay sexy. Ciao.