You're Not Ready and You Never Will Be

In this empowering episode, Kingsley challenges the notion of being 'ready.' Sharing personal stories about parenting and business, Kingsley illustrates that no one is ever truly prepared for life's major events. The key is to start now, take action, and learn along the way. He emphasizes overcoming fear and hesitation to create a fulfilling life and legacy.

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You're not ready
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Kingsley: [00:00:00] The reality is when it comes to life, you are not ready and you never will be.

You are not ready and you never will be. Were you one of those people who maybe got married or moved in together and you're like, you know what? We really want to have kids, but just not sure if we're ready to have kids. Are we in the right position to have kids at the moment? So you get yourself a dog.

And go, you know what, if we can keep this thing alive and relatively safe, then, you know, maybe we may be able to stretch ourself to where we can have a kid and look after the kid and raise that baby, okay? To where it becomes a beautiful human. And we put all these pressures on ourselves about having to be ready and practicing and doing everything like that.

But the, the reality is, when it comes to life. You are not ready and you never will be. Whatever the task, whatever's in front of us, [00:01:00] we are never ready to go to that point. I remember before I had kids, I really, really wanted to have kids and I was, it was always something I wanted to do was to become a dad.

And yet at the same time, as much as I thought maybe I was ready, I realized afterwards that I really wasn't ready and I actually had to grow with those kids. And the reality was that. As we had these beautiful babies, beautiful children who were growing and changing, and I remember going through the whole emotions of everything that comes with having a baby.

And you've got a newborn baby there, and as you're teaching them and training them and they, they can be ridiculously defiant upon what you say to do and, and how do you feed them? How do you actually get them to sleep and should you encourage 'em to walk like this or what's the best way to go about it?

And then they'd have little issues or they'd act like they were sick or tired or something's going on, or they just wouldn't stop crying, [00:02:00] just didn't stop crying for hours. And you think what is going on? And you're reading all the books. You're trying to learn as much as you possibly can. So you can be equipped and you can know what's going on, and you can know how to deal with every situation.

Now, if you've ever been there, you'll understand that every time something like that happens and you love that baby so much that you only want the very best for them. But every time something like that happens, you realize you are outta your depth. You don't know what to do, you are not sure where you're going, but we grow with them.

And I, I can honestly say, I think in raising my kids that. They taught me as much about life as what I ever taught them about anything. They taught me as much about being a dad or being a a, a leader. As much as I taught them about anything, and that's how life is, none of us are ever ready for it. We are never at a point where we've got this covered.[00:03:00]

If you are wanting to go and start a business, are you ready? No, you're not because until you've had a business, you don't realize how hard it actually really, really is. You don't realize how many hours you gotta put in and the study you gotta do, and the stresses and pressures that you don't get by being a manager, an employee, or being a, a position where you are overseeing people.

It's a completely different thing altogether. I, I know I've, coming from a real estate background, talked to a number of people who are interested in getting real estate, and they're like, yeah, I just love it. It looks like fun. And you're showing houses and you're, you know, you're sitting and you're having coffee and you're talking with people, and it's like, yeah, yeah.

That's all great. That's fun. That's sort of like 10%, maybe 15% of the job. But the amount of work that goes into actually being a really successful, happy real estate agent is huge, absolutely enormous. And if, if that's what you think it is, like [00:04:00] then you're not ready for it yet. Because the hours that go into the study that goes into the, the knock backs and kickbacks that you get constantly.

It is part of what happens, and it's like that in real estate and whatever you're going into, don't wait till you're ready because you're never gonna be ready. If there's something you are wanting to do, you are never gonna be ready for that promotion where you become a leader and you've got people around you, you're never gonna be ready because once you get to that position of leadership and you're having people with you, you realize you're probably not as good as what you think you are.

I remember the first business that I owned, first real business that I owned and having a team of staff and I thought I knew how to look after people because I'd been in roles and positions where I was looking after 40, 50 people and I, so I thought I had this pretty much down and I had my staff and in the first business, I think we only had about [00:05:00] six or seven staff at the time, and where I can remember doing some really weird things and I'm like.

Later on, I'm like looking back and going, you really had no idea what you were doing. You're a terrible boss. A terrible leader. Because when you're in that position and you've got finance issues going on and you've got customer issues going on, and you've got the, the lease that you've gotta look after and you've got this, this staff member complaining about this staff member and you don't want to, uh, you know, favor one staff member over the other one.

But this one's really, really good at what they do. But they're biding putting some negative vibes around the rest of the. The, uh, the team, and if you lose this one, you lose a lot of customers. And so where does it all fit? You're never ready for it. You're never ready for any of that. But if you've got something that you want to do, then now's the time to start.

Not tomorrow. Now's the time to start. Whatever it is that you are wanting to do, wherever you are wanting to [00:06:00] go, you can start now. Start preparing yourself. You are never gonna be at the place where you think you should be to be in the right position. 'cause it's always very different. We all know the saying about as you set out, that you want all the lights to be green before you start.

Well the reality is if you wait till all the lights are green, by the time you get to the next one, it's gonna be red anyway. 'cause lights change. That's how life is. And when it comes to us going somewhere or doing something, we are never gonna be ready. But I wanna encourage you, just start, get out, have a go.

Just start because you will. It will make a massive difference on your life. And when if you don't start, you'll look back years later in regret and go, why didn't I just give it a go? There's so many times that I've failed over the years, but I, in no way do I look back and go. Why did I do that and fail, but I would've [00:07:00] looked back and go, why didn't I at least give it a go?

Because I'd rather have a go doing what I want to do, stepping out into area that I want to step out into to try and become the person that I want to become than just let it all go past and then later on look back and go, why didn't I at least give it a go? What is it that you would really love to have a go at?

But think maybe I'm not ready, or maybe think you are ready, but you're putting it off because of fear of finance, reputation. You don't have time. Whatever it is, what is it that's there for you that you feel I'm not ready? Now's the time for you to step up and become the person that you've always wanted to be.

Create the life you want and leave a legacy you can be proud of.