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Hello and welcome to another episode of Moni Talks Tech. And today is a bit of a funny one because we are kind of talking about motivation today, but at the same time we are talking about driving force behind motivation. A lot of people have different things that drive them. Some people are driven by money, so they want to make a lot of money, and therefore they're motivated by that other people, they want to help people and support people, and they're motivated by being of service. And there are loads and loads and loads of other motivations and motivators out there for people to get shit done basically.
And especially motivation is a soft spot and a soft topic for a lot of people because for a lot of things you just can't motivate yourself. I can't motivate myself to work out five times a day because fuck all of that. I can totally motivate myself to eat five times a day , because that's great. But at the same time, I know that motivation often is a really interesting topic. But I do think that there are some forms of motivation and motivators that are highly underrated and that people also judge a bit because they are not as pure. They're not as pure as helping somebody out of the sheer goodness of your heart. They don't sound social media-esque enough, , because people always want to show their best side, and especially on social media or the internet, nobody wants to admit that they can be really resentful and a bitch proper at times. Raising my hand here, , or you just really, especially when you do business, you need to do it all the right ways.
You need to wake up at 5:00 AM and you need to journal and meditate and do all of that before you are even like, this is the parameter of having a successful business for a lot of people. And if you don't do it like that, then you're doing it wrong. But at the same time, I think we all work differently. And if all of that works for you, if you love to be in the 5:00 AM Club and you enjoy journaling and all the meditation that it is that you do, good for you. I'm glad that it works, and I'm glad you feel better about it. I'm glad that puts you in a really high vibrational state and I'm really glad that's how you run your business. But have you ever created something out of sheer spite ? Because if you haven't, then you're missing out. I need to say that my longest project that in quite frankly nobody thought I would stick to, I started out of sheer spite because I was annoyed, I was pissed.
That was reason enough for me to be like, I can do this. everyone, I can do this myself. So let me give you a bit of behind the scenes story about this. You probably don't know that I already have, or I did mention it at the first couple of episodes of this podcast. But for those who haven't listened to those, and if you haven't, go back and listen. If you want to obviously, and you have the time and you can be asked, but this podcast is not my first rodeo . I am a podcaster since 2018, way before the pandemic. I don't know if anybody actually remembers those times, but since 2018, I am co-hosting a podcast together with my friend Amanda, , from Thankful Cow Solutions. And we talk about all things geeky and feminism and queer stuff and and empowering people and how media empowers women and stories and minority groups and minority genders and all of that.
And that all sounds really great and as if we had the higher purpose behind this, and I do think we have a higher purpose behind this because of what we talk about and how important it is and how necessary it is to see all of these things also from a feminist's perspective, right? And I wish it would've been my real like pure idea, but it wasn't . And if I'm really honest, it started out because I was being an absolute asshole to Amanda's now fiance because Amanda's fiance Thom, who is also a very good friend of mine, he started a podcast with four of his friends and it was all about geeky things. And they released the first episode, I listened to the first episode and instead of saying "Thom, I really love what you did, what you've, what you've all done there", my first comment was, "why are there no women with you?"
"Why are there no women talking?" "Why is it all five dudes talking about geeky things?" Women also have opinions on this. And in hindsight, I see that this wasn't the nicest move , I could have been "Thom, I've really loved this episode" because I did, because I loved the banter, I loved everything about it. I loved the intro that they made. I loved it all, but instead of being nice about it as you would be if you were a polite person, which I am sometimes not, I'm just really blunt and direct and whatever. So I just walzed into his place basically and told him how shit it all is because there were no women in it. And Amanda, his now fiance, agreed with me and was like, we can do this. You know what? We can do this. We just do this ourselves. fuck all of that.
We do it ourselves. And that was in October, 2018 and that's when our podcast Geek Herring was born. And we've been doing it ever since. We have had incredible interviews with incredible people. We've talked about some really serious stuff and we really grew our audience over the last five years. And this is just one of many examples in my life where people told me I can't do something, which is all it really takes to get me to a point of, you tell me I can't do this. I will fucking show you what I can and cannot do. You are not the one to decide over me. I am my own person and I make my own decisions. And if you tell me I can't do something, I will prove you wrong so hard. I am not competitive in the slightest, like I am not motivated by trying to be better than somebody else at all.
Like there's nothing that phases me less than being inferior, like being worse than other people. We all have our place in our world sometimes and I don't need to be the best I have other qualities, and they have some areas that I'm great at, things in some areas I'm not great at. And if somebody wants to win so desperately, I am not even gonna try. I just let them win because I don't, I don't want to entertain this mindset in the slightest, but tell me I can't do something and this is where you really gonna tick me off. And a lot of people think, I guess that this is not valid or this is not. You need to have a pure version of what motivates you and you need to be more selfless. And that's not even the case that I'm not, that I really enjoy it like helping people.
My love language is acts of service. So I'm, I am showing my friends, my family, my clients in the things that I do, how much I appreciate them and how I get things done and that I get them done on time. So everything, everybody has the least amount of issues with it. That's all how I work and that's how I function. But at the same time, a massive, massive driver. And one that's the most powerful one for me is spite and sheer stubbornness . And I think that's great too because it also brings out something else in me, something more, let's call it primal . I don't know. That is really sometimes just a bit short lift, but sometimes, like with my longest running project with Geek Herring now, it's actually created something incredible that we both love and a lot of people love and enjoy now.
And just because we wanted to prove ourselves in a different way and just because, because we wanted to show that there's a place for us as well and there's always a place for you as well. And if it needs a little bit of spite in your life to get the juices flowing and to, to power up and turn on that fire, then this is what it is. And that's totally fine. So yeah, this was this week's episode. I hope you enjoyed my, insight into my brain as questionable as it is. But I am fine for you to know that because nobody's perfect and we all have our flaws and our weird quirks, and I'm fine with being weird. So have a good rest of your day and we'll see you again next week to another amazing less spiteful episode. See you then.