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Flipside Christian Church
Madera Ranchos, CA
I appreciate you being here this morning.
We're going to get into chapter 19.
In chapter 19
is it's a it's a tough chapter to read
and and to let speak.
To understand what it says and
and to get some to some deeper things
to kind of behind the initial things.
And so as we prepare for this,
this truth of chapter 19,
I just again encourage us to
just let let the Bible talk
and just kind of be
in the moment with the Scripture.
It'll have something to say
for every one of us.
But in in setting up this chapter,
I was thinking
this week
about chapter 19, and I thought,
I thought, here's what's going on.
Have any of you been around somebody
where they asked a question, but they're
really trying to get to a deeper question.
Ever been around someone who's there
asking something?
But, you know, that's not like they have
an agenda behind the first question.
Anybody.
And they're kind of leading you.
It it's pretty deceitful honestly.
Like don't be a lawyer right now.
If you got a question, just ask me.
Right.
Like, don't offend me by trying
to manipulate something out of me.
Just be honest and ask the question
anybody?
Yeah, I have people like that in my life.
I try not to be around them.
I try not to talk to them
because you just.
It's hard to try to trust them.
Like, where are you going with this?
That Jesus experienced this all the time,
specifically with the Pharisees
and the scribes.
And whenever Jesus faced them
and their questions,
he rarely ever answered them outrightly
because he knew that there was an
issue beneath the question.
And so what Jesus
did, he always got to the issue.
And so we're going to see that
in Matthew 19.
There's going to be asked two questions,
but he realizes there's
a deeper issue under the questions,
and that's where he's going to get to.
But we're going to talk
about the two questions, but we're going
to talk about what's underneath them.
That's what chapter 19 is.
And so here's the big idea
for this chapter.
Jesus confronts the hardness of heart
because his kingdom consists of commitment
and sacrifice, while our kingdom consists
of loopholes and excuses.
This is going to be our tendency
this morning
as we go through chapter 19
to explain our loopholes
and our excuses, we're going to say, yeah,
but for me.
But see, but see, maestro,
but see what I experienced, but see what I
and we're going to,
we're going to see in these two questions
that are brought up in chapter 19,
we're going to we're going to read them
for what they are, but we're going to
the first thing that's going to pop in
our head are our loopholes and excuses.
So just just suspend that tendency
for a moment.
You understand that
just that's our kingdom.
So just suspend that for a moment.
Let the Scripture do what it says
when it's taught as profitable
for rebuking, correcting and training.
Rebuking says, I'm going to confront you
with error that you're thinking right now
and the way you're living.
And then I'm going to correct you and show
you the right way,
God's way, and I'm going to train you
how to walk in that way.
So that's what the Scripture
is supposed to do.
It's supposed to rebuke us
and confront us.
Our tendency is going to happen
is to put the brakes on and say,
oh no, no, no, no, no, no,
that doesn't that my story is a little bit
different here.
Don't like let it rebuke
so that it can correct.
Because in correction is training on
the back side of that is mercy and grace.
And so I would
encourage us in this moment
just say, you know, father,
confront me and convict me and train me
all by your grace.
Just as a God increase my desire
for righteousness
and holiness and obedience.
Just put yourself in that position.
Chapter 19.
There's a lot.
I'm a I'm a I'm a priest.
I'm gonna teach fast, as fast as I can
and still get through this in a way
that's credible.
Verses one and two.
Now, when Jesus had finished
saying these things.
What things?
Well,
the things you just said in Matthew 18
all about forgiveness and how many times
I have to give somebody,
what if they can just keep on doing it?
Just keep forgiving on why?
Because you've been forgiven
a lot more than you will ever forgive.
That was all. Chapter 18.
And he finished saying those things.
He went away from Galilee, and that's up
north and into the region of Judea,
beyond the Jordan, kind of down south.
And large crowds followed him,
and he healed them there.
What surprises me
about those two little verses
is that these people
just thronged to Jesus,
and I'm sure that they did
ask him for them.
I'm sure that there were some people
who believed in him in this crowd.
But the Bible,
under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit,
only tells us a crowd followed
and he healed them. Because why?
Because he had compassion.
What amazes me about that
is there's no indication
that these people even believed in Jesus.
They just were like, look, I got a need.
You got resources.
And Jesus is like, you know, you're right,
I have resources.
You have a need.
And so let me just go ahead and heal you.
I just love that about it
because he's so full of compassion.
He's such a merciful God
and his mercies are new every morning.
His compassion kind of spills out of him
onto those of us in need,
without even asking,
without even great belief, he just says,
let me heal what's broken.
I want you to understand that.
I want you to keep
that kind of as the umbrella.
As we go through the rest of chapter 19,
do you understand?
You may not even realize.
Your need to ask for healing.
But he is so compassionate
that God wants to heal.
And I hope you find that this morning,
verse three,
and the Pharisees came up to him
and tested him by asking, is it lawful
to divorce one's wife for any cause?
Let me just kind of give you this.
The scenario that's going on here.
Jesus is leaving Galilee up in the north
and moving down towards the Jordan
in the south.
He's headed towards Jerusalem.
Well,
he'll spend the last few weeks of his life
before his crucified and resurrected.
So he's moving from the north
down to the south.
And here's, here's what's happened,
this interplay here.
When these Pharisees come and ask, is it
lawful for a man to life for any cause?
What's happening is there's these
two schools of thought within Judaism.
One was in the north,
headed by Rabbi Shammai.
Everybody say Shammai, and the other one
was in the South had run by
Rabbi Hillel.
Everybody say Hillel.
And so these two schools of thought
were the primary and predominant ones
in Jerusalem.
And all the rabbis kind of followed one of
those two schools, the one in the North.
Shammai was very strict
and very conservative,
and the understanding, teaching
and application of the law of God,
the one in the South, Hillel,
was very liberal and very loose
with the understanding, teaching
and application of the Word of God.
And so they all
they each have their different things
that they allowed and disallowed.
No nor Shammai
very strict South Hillel very liberal.
And so these these Pharisees are asking
Jesus, is it
lawful for a man to divorce his wife
for any reason? Why?
Because these two schools of thought
are coming into conflict now.
One rabbi, the circle is going to say
very limited allowance.
The one, the liberal one in the South
is going to say, oh heck yeah, anything.
And so they're putting
Jesus kind of in this, in this corner.
They want him to choose which one are you?
Are you do you follow Rabbi Chemise
teaching or Rabbi Hill's teaching?
The interesting thing is the Apostle Paul,
he grew up way down south,
actually in like in Sicily,
who would be more of the Hillel school,
which was very gracious and very little,
I don't want to say liberal,
because that's a different connotation
in our day,
but a much more allowance and grace filled
Peter was more up in the in the North,
which was very legalistic.
And so even within Jesus followers,
there were these things that they brought
to the table with them
and their understanding of God's Word
and how to be a disciple.
And so that's kind of the scenario.
And so they ask,
is it lawful for a man of for any reason?
Look at verses for
he answered, have you not read that
he who created them from the beginning
made them male and female, and said,
therefore the man shall leave his father
and mother, and hold fast to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
So they no longer they are no longer two,
but one, one flesh.
Therefore God has joined together.
Let not man separate.
And so Jesus says, listen,
you want to talk about something
to take you back to the garden.
In the beginning,
God made man and woman, male and female.
There's only two.
They don't come together and make a third
like it's.
And marriage exists
between a man and a woman.
You can't redefine that.
That's that's
God's intent from the beginning.
That's where Jesus takes them
right back to the garden.
And in the beginning, God instituted
this thing that we call marriage
between a man and a woman.
And it was intended by God
from the beginning to be a lifelong
covenant commitment that you cannot, once
you get into it, get out of everybody.
Clear.
That's where Jesus takes them back to.
They want Jesus says, listen, there's
a difference between men and women.
They were created at different times.
Man was created first and then a woman.
They were created from different
substance.
Man was created
from the dust of the earth.
Women was created from the side of a man.
They were created with different
responsibilities.
Man had the responsibility to manage
and to rule over, and woman
had the responsibility to complete the man
because the man was incomplete
and a man is not complete
without the completion of his wife,
and the two of them together
give the fullness of the image of God.
Both of them are image bearers.
Both male and female are image
bearers of God Almighty.
We each just present a different,
a different
image of who God is, both male and female,
and together in marriage is the more
of the fullness of God's image.
That's what Jesus is saying.
Do you follow?
And that union, God's purpose
from the beginning
was that that be a forever
lifetime commitment?
So Jesus says,
you want to talk about divorce.
I want to talk about the garden
and God's purpose.
You want to talk about your opinion.
I want to talk about the Bible.
That's what he says,
which is a great place to be
because everybody has their opinions,
right? Opinions like belly buttons.
Everybody's got one
but Adam and Eve, right?
Follow that.
So? So Jesus is like, look, I get it.
You have your opinions.
Whatever.
I'm gonna take you back to the Bible.
That's where we always need to land.
And so as we go through these two issues,
everybody's
going to have their opinion about it.
You're all going to have your opinion.
What we want to do
here, just go back to the Bible.
Because here's the thing.
My I have to move my position.
I can't try to move God's standard.
So even when our opinion differs,
it's my opinion that has to move,
not the standard of God.
We we good. Everybody understand.
So that's where I'm coming from
with the Scripture here.
And that's where we always have to arrive.
And Jesus says, for this reason,
this marriage reason,
a man will leave his father and mother
and cleave and be united and attached to.
So there has to be a marriage, a leaving
of all other things and all other people,
so that the two can cleave one to another
where there was once two.
Now there's one, a whole separate entity.
That's what happens in marriage,
that marriage
is a completely different entity
than what existed before.
It's not a man and woman come together
and learn how to live with each other.
It's a whole new creation.
This is God's intent.
And because God created marriage,
he has say over what it is.
And because that's the case,
Jesus is saying
man and women
do not have the right to separate it.
That's what he's saying.
And so he said,
I don't want to talk about divorce.
I want to talk about marriage.
And so then they press him as they do,
as we all do.
Verse seven, they said to him, when?
Why then did Moses command one to give a
certificate of divorce and send her away?
He said to them,
because of your hardness of heart,
Moses allowed you to divorce your wives.
But from the beginning it was not.
So I say to you,
whoever divorces his wife,
except for sexual immorality and marriage
and other commits adultery.
And so they said, listen,
if it's supposed to be forever.
Why did Moses command,
you know, men to divorce their wives?
Jesus was like, well, you're wrong.
Moses never commanded it.
Moses gave allowance for it,
but it was never the command in Scripture.
Divorce is never
the command of Scripture, ever.
There's an allowance for it.
And see, Jesus is going to get
to the issue behind the question,
because the question is ultimately
not about the issue is ultimately
not about divorce and marriage
he is going to get to.
But what they're referring to is
what's listed for us
in the Old Testament,
the book of Deuteronomy, chapter 24.
It's one of the only places in Scripture
that gives the instructions
if a divorce is to happen, and Moses
and Deuteronomy 24 tells the people,
when a man takes a wife and marries
her, if, then she finds
no favor in his eyes because he has found
some indecency in her,
and he writes her a certificate of divorce
and puts it in her hand.
And since her out of his house
and she departs out of his house,
and then he goes on
with this long explanation
of what her life is then like and what
other people's life are like around her.
And so this is what they're talking about,
Moses said.
If a man finds some indecency in his wife,
then the allowance
then would be for divorce.
And so so this
this is what they misinterpret.
And they say
he commanded us to divorce her
if she's rotten and she says, no,
not at all.
He never commanded that.
He may have allowed it.
So listen, from the beginning
he says, it was not so.
God designed a marriage
to be a lifelong commitment
and the covenant commitment
with each other.
The thing at issue here is that
divorce is a divine concession
due to man's sinfulness and weakness.
It's never a command of God.
Do you understand?
It's a divine concession, not a command.
The thing at issue is the indecency.
If one finds their spouse to be indecent.
Now here's where the North and the South
come into play.
These two schools of thought,
Shammai and Hillel.
Indecency in hell's mind.
The one down south, the Liberal one.
Indecency for him would be this.
Guys, you're married.
You come home after a hard day of work and
your wife puts some burn to your dinner.
That is indecent of her.
How dare she divorce her?
Hillel would say that
if your wife speaks disparagingly
about your parents, she's indecent.
Divorce her.
How many of you would still be married?
Hillel would
say that if your wife is so indecent
that she would raise her voice
through your neighbors,
hear her, divorce her.
Hillel would say that
it is your religious duty
to divorce a bad woman,
so it actually makes you more righteous
if you get rid of her.
Well, my dad was a sergeant
in the Marine Corps in Vietnam,
and he came home from Vietnam
and he had this jacket that I just loved.
It was all kind of dragon and Vietnamese.
And on the back it said,
when I die, I know I'm going to heaven
because I spent my time in hell.
That's exactly what School of Hillel
said about bad women,
that when I die,
I know I'm going to heaven
because I've already done my time in hell
with a bad woman.
That's later another Rabbi, Akiva,
would come in the school of Hillel and say
this, that it is indecent for a woman
to be less attractive than her neighbor.
So if a man finds a woman more attractive
than the one he married,
he should divorce her
and go get the more attractive one
because it's indecent for
her to be less attractive.
Now, listen,
they had a very high view of marriage.
Everybody had be,
but they had a very low view of women.
Do you understand?
That's this school of thought
now in the in the North,
the School of Shammai said, no, no, no,
there's only one reason.
Deuteronomy 24 if a man finds
this sexual indecency in her
and she has transgressed
the marriage covenant sexually,
that's the only reason for divorce.
And so that's what's that's, that's the
the schools that are in play here.
Now listen, Jesus size in this case
more with the like.
No, no, there's one reason you don't go
to divorce a woman for any reason at all.
That's ridiculous.
There's one reason
given by Moses, general 24, in decency.
But Jesus uses the word Pawnee,
which means any type of sexual expression
outside of the marriage.
Not just not just the intimate
act, but any type of sexual
expression outside the marriage.
It's a very broad term.
So though Jesus sides
with the more conservative
interpretation,
it's still a very, very wide application.
Honestly.
But Jesus, he says, listen,
the issue that you're asking
the issue is really not about marriage
and divorce.
There's a deeper one, and he's
going to address it in just a minute.
But because it's in the context
of of of marriage and divorce,
I have to deal with that issue here
because I know if I don't,
if I just get to
what the real heart of the issue
is, you're all going to walk out
saying he never dealt with it.
And so let me deal
with the issue of divorce.
There is no doubt
that marriage is under attack.
It always has been in every culture,
there's no doubt.
And we're seeing a great change
in our nation's attitude towards
marriage and practice of it.
So much so that the Gen Z generation now,
which would be the early 20s,
early 30s, that generation,
they are marriages and marriages.
They're marrying much later in life.
The average age now for the Gen Z
marriage is in the late 20s, early 30s.
That's that's when the that's the average.
So if you're in your later 20s, early 30s,
you're not married yet.
You're not the anomaly.
That's that's your generation.
They just don't marry early at all.
And there are fewer marriages
and later marriages
than any generation before.
And so the actually the divorce rate
in the in this new this Gen Z generation
is much lower than any generation
well than the previous 2 or 3 for sure.
But the reason is because they're married
so late in
life, are not getting married at all.
So numerically, it just seems like there's
less divorce.
It's interesting though,
the Gen Z generation
is the first generation in our country
that we,
since we've been tracking generations,
that is actually growing up worse off
than their parents.
Every generation before millennials,
Gen X, boomers, pioneers, all that stuff.
All those generations always grew up
with the understanding and expectation
and reality that their life
was going to be better than their parents.
This was the first generation
that they realized it's not,
and it's the first generation that we,
since we be tracking this,
where there are more men
who want to be married than women,
and this Gen Z
generation of women are looking
at the state of marriage and thinking,
why do I want to invite that into my life?
And they're looking at young men
their age who are addicted
to porn in video games and like,
why do I want to invite that?
Why do I want to invite into my life
this issue that
this boy has been addicted to?
Point of video games.
I don't need that hassle.
And so there's like there's none. I'm not.
And so we're seeing
this this quantum shift in our country
as far as marriage is concerned.
And the other thing we're seeing
as far as marriage is concerned
is the dramatic increase of grade divorce.
It's on a dramatic rise where older
adults represent the
much larger share of divorces
because they grew up in the older people.
The 50s and 60 year olds grew up in the
they were children
and the baby boom generation
and the baby boom generation
at the highest level,
divorce of any generation.
So they grow up in that culture.
And now as older adults,
they're starting to live that out.
In 1990, there were only 8%
of all divorces were aged 50 and older.
And today
that's nearly 40% of all divorces
are of people 50 years and older, 40%
of full, 10%
of all divorces are of married
people who are 65 and older.
And of those who are 50 and older
who are divorcing.
It's doubled more than doubled
in the last couple of decades,
like it's just grown exponentially.
The other issue that's really attacking
marriage is the issue
with the younger generation,
because they're not getting married,
they're just cohabitating.
And the couples just statistically
who cohabitate before marriage,
that cohabitation is associated
with a much larger increase in instability
that leads to divorce
by nearly 40% increase.
You want to you want to hedge your bet
that you'll get divorced, cohabitate
before you're married.
Your chances go up 40%.
And so this whole marriage
and divorce thing is,
it's though the numbers seem like they're
better now, it's they're really better
because people are living together
and just not getting married.
Marriage.
From the beginning,
God set the standard in the design
that it would be all life with no divorce.
So I tell young people before, you know,
as you're dating, you're looking for
someone to marry, look for three things
physical, fun and faith.
There's got to be the physical attraction.
There's got to be that factor.
You got to have fun with each other.
If you're not attracted physically
and there's no fun, there's no marriage.
But there's got to be the faith factor.
And most people get married
because they check the first two boxes.
Never think about the third.
The problem with the first two boxes,
they're going to die off pretty soon.
Marriage isn't always fun, right?
You might start this whole thing over.
So respond to me like married.
Don't be afraid.
Your spouse knows you're no fun.
Marriage isn't always fun, right?
Right, right.
And the physical stuff fades, right?
Don't worry. You faded.
And so.
So if those two go away,
what are you left with?
If the faith thing isn't there,
that's the only thing that lasts.
And because so many people get married,
because the first two,
pretty soon they find out those are gone,
they got nothing left.
And so this is why Jesus is saying,
look, listen,
I want you to understand the intent
and let's be wise going into this.
Don't rush into this.
The exception given here is adultery.
And I would add to that first Corinthians
715 abandonment.
When a spouse abandons their marriage
and abandons their vows,
that's an allowance
that seems that Paul gave.
Now, it's interesting
that Paul would give that,
because Paul lived down in the South
under the more gracious application
of the Word of God.
Peter lived up north,
which was very strict.
And when you look at
how they both presented
discipleship, one was very strict
and one was very gracious.
And so even within God's kingdom
and disciples, there was this how do we
how do we move this together?
And so Paul would add
this one instance of abandonment.
And it seems as God determined his word.
He didn't say, no, Paul, you're wrong.
And so, so adultery,
which is a very broad term,
any sexual expression
outside of marriage and abandonment,
there would be the allowance,
not the command.
You don't have to
just because someone does that,
but the allowance if you chose to.
Now abandonment again, this is all that's
going into this simple question.
Abandonment is certainly leaving.
But abandonment also is when one spouse
continually sins against
with chronic and repentance,
they've abandoned
the promise of that covenant.
And some rabbis would say
that's a legitimate biblical reason
for divorce,
because they've abandoned the covenant,
perpetual sin
against with perpetual and repentance.
Abandonment.
There could be sexual abandonment
outside the marriage and sexual
abandonment inside the marriage,
where it's just non-existent
abandonment.
These are all the things
that are in play here.
Certainly physical abuse
would be abandonment.
The have abandoned the protection
of the marriage covenant.
And so so the question is marriage
and divorce.
Jesus is going to get to something deeper.
But I want to explore to you
the context of biblical divorce.
If a couple runs into problems
and chooses to separate,
the biblical expectation is
because if it's not a biblical divorce,
even though they're separate, they live
as if they are married to each other
and are still pure and chaste
with other people.
They choose to live as a single purely.
Now here's how convoluted it gets
if they're separated,
and the one who initially wasn't in error
takes up intimately with someone else.
Now, technically
they've committed adultery
because in God's eyes, that couple, though
they're separate, are still married.
So now this one has no problem remarrying.
Do you see how convoluted it gets?
Do you see how confused you're like, okay,
wait wait wait wait
wait,
why all of these different scenarios?
The reason is
because we look for loopholes
when God has said, this is my standard.
And so the issue
marriage and divorce was not the issue.
The issue was hardness of heart.
And Jesus says
is because you're hardness of heart.
It's not because of indiscretion,
because that hardness of heart
applies in both ways.
It could be that the hardness of heart
is in the offending person,
who chronically offends and is completely
unrepentant, perpetually unrepentant.
That's just a hard heart.
Or in the one
who is offended against that.
My heart is so hard I refuse to forgive.
In light of Matthew 18, how many times
I have to keep forgiven you?
Well, what Matthew 18 say,
as long as you're repentant iki forgiving.
And so Jesus says, listen, I know you
wanted to talk about marriage and divorce.
I want to talk about God's design.
And the issue
of getting out of that covenant is because
hearts are hard.
It's just because hearts are hard.
It just gets so convoluted.
And here's here's why.
Because the human heart wants the benefits
of God's kingdom
without fully submitting
to the authority of the King.
If the question were really
about marriage,
the question would have been this
how do I honor marriage
when it gets difficult? The question,
what about marriage?
It would have been,
how do I keep my commitment?
The question we're really about marriage.
The question would have been,
how do I restore that relationship
that's been broken?
If the question
were really about marriage,
it would have been a different question.
So they were looking for loopholes.
And then what you and I do,
we look for loopholes,
not just in marriage, but like in every in
everything with the Bible
gives us instruction.
We look for loopholes.
Why is it different for me?
Jesus identifies the problem.
The problem is a hard heart.
And so Jesus shifts the focus from
what's permitted to what's intended.
He said it might be permitted,
but that's not the intent.
Let's get back to the intent
and listen, my dear friends,
and some of the toughest.
This was one of the toughest areas of life
to navigate, and certainly
for the church
to to have an understanding of teaching
and some of the toughest areas of life.
It calls for great, great, great,
measured biblical wisdom.
And the guiding principle
is this that legal permission
is not always,
always the same as spiritual maturity.
The general point is this
please hear me on the
some of this hits hits
you right in the face.
You've lived this. You are living this.
Here's
the here's the overall principle to this.
If there's been divorce in the past.
And there's remarriage now,
live by the biblical principle
of stay faithful in the place you are.
Stay faithful in the place you are.
If there's been this in the past
and there's stay faithful where you are
now, don't go back
and try to recreate something and try to,
you know, get back like it's done.
It's not going to be repaired
when there's repentance,
because divorce is always the result of
sin, always at some levels result of sin
because it was never God's intent.
If there's repentance and remarriage,
live in faithfulness to that covenant.
Now, do you understand that
experience, the grace of God
in repentance?
There's now therefore no condemnation.
Though it was wrong, it's been repented of
that condemnations
is leveled upon Christ on the cross.
That's how great is his mercy and
compassion than in your current marriage.
Be faithful
and experience his grace over that.
Don't make the mistake of extremes.
There's two extremes
the church can make in this.
We got to be very careful
about both of them.
One of them is being too lax regarding
marriage and divorce, like Hillel.
You know, it just didn't work out.
I'm just not happy. Listen, marriage
isn't about our self-gratification.
It's about God's glorification primarily.
The other extreme is to think
divorce is the unpardonable sin
because it's not.
It's not.
So when there is that unfortunate
reality, confess, repent,
and then live in the grace
that God has now.
And if there's biblical remarriage,
be faithful. Now
do you understand?
The great example of the great
encouragement for all of us is King David
sin greatly, and was chastised
painfully by God and repented.
And from that repentance on
was faithful to his now wife.
And out of that union came Solomon.
Incredible favor and blessing.
That's the mercy and grace of God.
So live in that.
The logical question
in verse ten is the disciples asked him
if such is the case of a man
with his wife, it's better not to marry.
I mean, like Peter is like,
look, here's the deal, man.
There's no way we can't.
This is too hard if that's the intent.
That's the purpose of marriage.
And that's the only way.
That's that's too much.
And just like, yeah, you're right,
it is a lot.
And he said, listen, here's the deal.
If you can,
if you can receive this, receive it.
It's a tough teaching.
Not everyone can receive this same,
but only those to whom it's given.
And then he says,
look, there's three reasons
why you wouldn't get married
when he talks in terms of Unix.
I don't want to
go into this whole thing, but
some people just can't
do the marriage thing
and they can't consummate and they've
they've either born that way
or they're made that way
because of kings and harems
and all this stuff and or this third case,
like they have been given
the gift of celibacy.
That's basically what Jesus is saying.
Some have been given
this gift of being single.
And instead of worrying about, please
in your spouse,
you're worried about pleasing God.
And it's a gift.
And he says,
if you can receive that gift, receive it.
But it's tough.
So here's
the thing. You young ones aren't married.
Anybody who's not married.
If you're sitting here
thinking the gift of celebration,
that thing that's sounds horrible,
like that's the gift you never use.
I would hate that. You know,
like, if that's your
feeling about being celibate,
you probably haven't been given the gift.
So don't worry about it.
So go find someone. Miriam. Right.
Have a good time.
But understand
it's for all the rest of your life.
So that's the whole point.
I love the fact that right after this,
Jesus deals with children.
Then children were brought to him that
he might lay his hands on them and pray.
And the disciples rebuked him.
But you said,
let the little children come to me,
and don't hinder,
for such belongs to the kingdom of heaven.
He laid his hands on them,
and they went away.
I love the fact that
right after marriage and divorce,
children are dealt with. Why?
Because more often than not, in divorce,
children
are forgotten about
and they're the ones who suffer most.
We forget about that.
And so Jesus says, let me highlight kids.
Here's kids are either going to be seen
as an interruption or an opportunity.
They better be
seen as an opportunity in this church.
Do you understand that?
And he puts his hands on any blessings.
I mean, he probably blessed him
with a three fold blessing on number six.
The Lord bless you and keep you.
The Lord make his face shine upon
you and be gracious to you.
And the Lord lift his countenance upon
you and give you peace.
Here's what he's saying
for God to lift up his countenance,
the person has to be above it,
because lift him up your countenance lift
you up your head.
And so think about it in terms of a daddy
with the little kid.
In any dads have a little child
and you throw them up in the air
and what do you do?
Your countenance is lifted up
towards them, your eyes are on them,
and you make sure that they are caught so
they will learn that they can trust you.
That's what he's saying here.
May the Lord lift up his count and say,
yeah, I love you.
That's the blessing.
And he follows up with children
right after divorce.
Because
because oftentimes kids are
forgotten about in this whole thing.
Yeah.
I find it interesting that Jesus
never asked children to act like adults.
You always ask adults to be childlike.
And I love the fact that he says,
let the little children come to me.
Hear me on this, please.
This ought to be great comfort
for any of you who have lost a little one,
because Jesus says, let them come to me,
their mind.
I'll receive them.
Such comfort, such compassion.
He's a good God.
I have one minute
for the rest of this chapter.
And behold,
a man came up to him saying, teacher,
what good deed must
I do to have eternal life?
And he said to him,
why do you ask him what is good?
There's only one who is good.
And if you would enter life, keep
the commandments, he said, in which ones?
And Jesus said, you shall not murder,
you shall not commit adultery.
You shall not steal your shop.
Air force
witness honor your father and mother,
and you shall love your neighbor
as yourself.
The young man said, all of these
I kept what I still lack.
Jesus said, if you would be perfect,
go sell your possessions
and give to the poor.
Then you will have treasure in heaven.
And come, follow me.
When the young man heard this,
you enter is sorrowful, for
he had great possessions.
The first question was,
what about divorce in marriage?
The second question is
what about religion and being right?
Jesus says it's not about divorce
and remarriage,
it's about the hardness of your heart
and loopholes.
And it's not about being religious
and right.
It's about the hardness of your heart
and have an excuse
to keep everything for yourself
because you're selfish and materialistic.
That's what he's saying.
Jesus says, why do you say what's good?
There's only one who's good is God.
So you're coming to me asking me
what's good.
How do you be good?
Because you know you don't have
what's good.
You know that I do.
In essence, you're saying you're dealing
with God right now when you talk to me.
So I love the fact that this guy
wants to talk about religion.
And Jesus says, no, no, no,
you deal with me.
You deal with me.
And if you want to be right with me,
you want to boil it down to religion,
obey the commands.
And then he list commands.
He goes back to the Ten Commandments,
and the first five had to do
with our relationship with people,
but it leaves one of them out.
What does he leave out?
He leaves one of the commandments out
and you catch it.
What? Covetous.
He didn't say don't covet. Why?
Because the man was filthy rich.
He bought everything he wanted.
He didn't covet anything.
And when he saw it, he bought it.
But he adds, one of the commandment wasn't
part of the Ten Commandments.
What was it?
Love your neighbor as yourself.
And Jesus says,
the way you're going to prove your love
is if you give and are generous.
Because he knew the issue
was not being religiously right,
the issue was a hard heart
that wanted to keep all of his resources
for his own selfish use.
So Jesus obeyed
the commands of those love your neighbor.
And the way you're going to show
love is by giving.
Because right to the heart,
right to the core.
See, this man came to him
saying that he wanted holiness
and righteousness,
but what he did was really love his money.
And Jesus didn't let him off the hook.
He says, listen,
you want to talk about religion.
I want to talk about your heart.
And he
went away sad, but he kept his stuff.
Here's here's how I know
that our possessions don't make us happy.
He kept all his possessions
and was still sad.
Do you understand?
Because God's
kingdom is a flip side kingdom.
The man came to
Jesus, said he wanted holiness and joy.
It's proved the fact that that this guy,
he would rather live
with less righteousness and more money
than to be generous with his resources
and gain
righteousness.
See hard hearts.
Always look for excuses not to surrender.
The opposite
Jesus and the opposite of materialism.
And I'm not asking me
in poverty,
but the opposite of materialism
in your life is surrender.
And he says, listen,
this is hard, I get it.
This is
this is all this is all very difficult.
Just says, truly,
I say to you, only with difficulty
will a rich person enter
the kingdom of heaven.
Again, I tell you, it's easier for a camel
to go through the eye of a needle
than for a rich person
to enter the kingdom of God.
So I get it. This is hard.
This is hard stuff
like this whole marriage for everything.
That's it's hard to stay married forever.
This whole, like, generous with my.
That's hard. It's hard to be generous
because I get it.
It ain't easy.
But listen, it's hard for.
He says it's hard for a rich person
to get into heaven.
Why not? Because money is bad.
God is the giver of money.
But because money gives us
a false sense of self-reliance.
And secondly, the Bible says
we can't serve both God and God.
Choose one.
One of them is going to get priority.
The best indicator
here it is the best indicator
if finances is a top priority is
can you submit to the standard of giving
which is 10%?
Or can you go beyond that to generous
giving?
It's the easiest assessment
if money is top priority.
And that's what Jesus is.
Getting your hard
heart keeps you stingy, is what he says.
John.
Jesus talks more about money and resources
than he does heaven or hell.
Every 10th verse in the Gospels
is about resources.
So on the surface,
both questions look like about marriage
and divorce, and religion and money
both sound.
Both of both of these questions
sound like they're looking
for a spiritual standard to live by,
but they're actually both looking
for a manageable standard
to live with.
And that's what makes us look
for loopholes and excuses.
What what they're really asking
is, how far can I go without being guilty?
What they're really asking
is, how minimally can I do
without surrounding everything,
what they're really asking?
Technically,
what's really required, just technically
what they're really asking is
where's the exception?
What they're really asking is
how much can I keep for myself?
And Matthew
25 and 26 he says, listen, with man
it's impossible.
Both God, all things are possible.
He said.
He says, look, it's easier for a camel
to go through the eye of a needle.
What he's doing, he's
relieving the pressure
because this is tough teaching right now.
Right, right, right.
And so he's like, look, I get it.
I've been pressing hard.
And so he tells a joke in Hebrew,
exaggeration was humor.
And so I was like, look, I know it's
hard to tell you.
Let me I got something. Watch this.
Gamble through.
Ivan. It's so funny.
He was joking.
Like, he's he's making it funny
because he knows it's hard,
but he's making a point.
He's saying with man, it's impossible.
With God, all things are possible.
Here's where he said, you can't.
You can't manufacture this obedience
by willpower.
It's too hard
forgiving someone over and over and over.
It's too hard on your own
by your own real power, right?
Right. Yeah.
Staying married forever.
It's too right? Right.
Sometimes you're like, oh,
being 10% tithe is that easy?
No, being generous beyond the tithe
is that easy.
Because, look, I know it's hard, I get it.
The demands of the kingdom are not light.
And you cannot do it by being religious.
And you cannot do it by your willpower.
You need the power of God
by the Spirit of God,
because the power of God,
by the Spirit of God will enable
you do everything
that God has commanded by God.
You can't do it on your own.
I mean, Peter asked the natural question,
well, God, we've given up everything.
What do we get for giving it all up?
I get the question
and Jesus says, listen,
anybody has given up homes and families
and relationships for the kingdom.
You'll get a hundred times back in
more than that, you'll get an eternal life
thrown in.
Man. I prayed that prayer
when we moved here to start this church.
I prayed that prayer in Matthew 19.
Over and over and over, God.
We gave up a home.
We gave up a church.
We gave up friends.
We gave up everything to come start.
I want 100 fold,
but I didn't want it all on earth.
Because who wants 100 friends?
And who wants 100 kids and wants 100
mother in law?
You know, it's just I want
I want this, I want this
eternal heritage 100 fold what I gave up.
And Jesus says, don't worry,
you'll get it.
Because everything you get give up for me.
Every investment you make in the kingdom
is noticed and repaid 100 fold.
I know I've asked a lot of you, he says.
I know my the man's.
My kingdom are astronomical.
You can't do it on your own.
Quit trying to be religious.
You're going to muster this.
Submit yourself to my word.
Let it rebuke you.
Let it correct you, let it train you,
and rely on the power of my Spirit
to enable you to do it.
That's life in the Kingdom.
And when we give ourselves
in repentance
to the mercy and grace of Almighty God,
it is a beautiful thing
to live in his mercy and grace.
Let's not look for loopholes and excuses.
Submit ourselves
to a standard by his grace.
I'm proud of you,
Matthew or Matthew 19 is tough.
Matthew 19 stuff.
We will not do this on our own.
I invite you in this moment
to ask the Spirit of God
to help you be faithful and obedient.
Father, thank you.
Thank you that you don't ask us
to just kind of muscle it up
and get through this on our own.
Think you don't ask us to follow you
with willpower and self-determination,
thinking that you've said, look,
you cannot do this apart from my spirit.
And so, father, by your spirit, clothe us
with the power of your spirit
to soften our hearts
to obedience and holiness,
and to righteousness.
I pray that your Word continues
to rebuke us, so that it can correct us,
so that we will be trained
in righteousness.
Father, thank you that though
the failures of our past
may still be painful in our present,
in repentance, all that condemnation
has been leveled against your son.
What a glorious, glorious truth.
Thank you
that your mercies are new every morning,
that even
when we fall short of your standard,
which we all do, that your mercy
and your grace are new
when we come in repentance,
and so in repentance.
Grant us all that your grace will allow.
You are a good God.
You're a good God.
Thank you for your goodness to us.
We give ourselves to you.
And your name I pray. Amen.
Listen.
Well done.
There's a lot there, right?
I want you to.
This week, I want you to go to our app
and go to the message notes.
And at the end of the message
notes, there's this four fold assessment
of our becoming Christlike
in these areas of hardness of heart.
So take advantage of that app
that we've given you.
Read through all those questions.
Follow our devotional throughout the week,
but especially today.
Do your own assessment in these areas,
those fourfold assessment at the bottom of
the message notes on the app.
Just commit to yourself
in our spiritual formation process
to becoming Christlike.
Those four assessments will help.
Do you understand?
All right, I love you. I'm proud of you.
God's mercy and grace are profound
and their brand new for us.
This morning
in ready for next week,
read through chapter 20 and let's let God
kind of walk us as we get to
the culmination of this whole Jesus story,
his life, his death as a resurrection
because of God's mercy and grace.
Stand up church. Let's sing.