about what it means to be a gentleman in 2025.

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be a gentleman in today's world - in office and at home.

The classic ideals, respect, integrity, and self-discipline haven’t gone out of style, though they’ve evolved. 

In 2025, being a gentleman is about more than tailored suits and good manners. 

It’s about emotional intelligence, purpose-driven living, and knowing when to lead and when to listen.

Whether you're refining your mindset or just getting started on your personal growth journey, this episode is for the man who believes being a gentleman isn’t old-fashioned -

it’s timeless.

What is Gentlemen Let's Talk About?

About Matters that should Matter to Men

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 00:00

Let's talk about being a gentleman in 2025. About what being a gentleman in the workplace should mean in this time and age, and more importantly, what it should not. A gentleman will never interrupt his people to circle back. He is not going to bench press his ways through his problems. He is definitely not going to ghost his emotions and then decide to call it resilience.

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 00:27

He will never reply to a two paragraph email with noted. He is not the sort of guy who can quote Marcus Aurelius verbatim and yet find it painfully challenging to apologize to his team. A gentleman will never pretend to have all the answers. If anything, he is going to have the humility to say, you know what buddy, I don't know. But let's find out together.

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 00:51

It's about knowing when to ask better questions. It's definitely not about being feared. It's about being trusted by everyone on the floor. It's not about dominating that room. It's about reading it.

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 01:03

Reading the energy, reading the silence, reading that exact moment when someone else on your team needs to speak, and then having the confidence to be able to sit down and listen intently to what he has to say. A gentleman will protect his colleague's mental bandwidth as fiercely as he would a client's deadline. He is the sort of guy who will give credit generously and would accept blame earnestly. He'll know when to listen, genuinely listen, especially in Mosul when it's extremely uncomfortable. He'll always show up for his colleagues, for his team, for his family, for his partner, perhaps most importantly for himself.

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 01:46

Now he's not going to ever demand respect. A gentleman will always earn it with empathy, with self awareness, and most certainly with humor. Being a gentleman at work in 2025 should not be about being the last one in office. It should be about making his team want to come into work tomorrow. A gentleman would know that ego does not scale, but trust does.

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 02:14

A gentleman would know that his designation billion time open doors, But it is his character and his conduct that will define whether the finest people in that room are going to follow him through that door. In 2025 real strength is quiet. It's held by those who make space at the table for everyone and after everyone is seated pull up a chair for themselves. A gentleman at work is constantly ever evolving and not explaining the jagged nuances of that old script and why it used to work. He will never use the phrase that's just how I am ever.

Arvind Vijay Mohan: 02:50

It's 2025. Empathy is a superpower. Emotional fluency is an absolute essential and vulnerability. Vulnerability isn't a weakness. To my mind, it's the most important leadership skill there is.