Morning Cereal

Start your day with an inspirational quote, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Chapter 2, Part 4, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Chapter 2, Part 4 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Pull up a stool, grab your favorite cereal, and let’s kick-start your day with a spoonful of inspiration, nostalgia and personal growth. Join your host, Shaen Inglis, as he highlights the music, movies, and moments that made the 80s, 90s, and 2000s unforgettable—kind of like digging for toy at the bottom of the cereal box. Each episode, Shaen also reviews a chapter or so from top wellness books, offering practical insights to help you set a positive tone for your day. Start your mornings right—no cartoons required!

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Good morning.

And welcome to your morning cereal.

Alright, good morning and welcome to

Thursday, January 2nd.

Hopefully you're catching back up on some

of that sleepy loss

from staying up late on

New Year's.

Alright, well I have to tell you, every

day I look to see what

National Day today is and

on any given day there are 30 plus

national days of some sort.

And I try to pick one or two to share if

it feels like they make sense.

And many of them I just kind of share

just to poke fun at them.

So that said, today's national days I'm

going to highlight

are Happy New Year's for

Cats Day.

No comment on that one.

Well these next two seem to go together.

Happy National Cream Puff Day and Happy

National Personal Trainer Day.

And lastly, one that applies to me more

than the first couple

for sure, Happy National

Introverts Day.

It seems like it should also be National

Stay Inside, Don't Talk

to Anybody, and Watch a

Movie Day as well.

Sounds like a really great day to me.

Okay, well let's go ahead and jump into

today's episode and today's quotes.

One fun nostalgic quote and then a second

quote to tease our

book review later in the

episode.

And as usual, I'm hoping one of these

quotes will speak to you

and jump start your day

in a positive direction.

Alright, the first quote

is, "Even darkness must pass.

A new day will come, and when the sun

shines, it will shine out the clear."

That was Samwise Gamgee from The Lord of

the Rings giving us a

little bit of sunshine this

morning and being a rock for Frodo.

Alright, and today's teaser quote from

the book review is,

"There is nothing I need so

much as nourishment for my self-esteem."

And as usual, we'll unpack that here in a

minute during the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic

facts from this day in

history.

Today's news facts are for January 2nd.

Alright we're going to start in 1890 when

a record 19.2 foot

alligator was shot in Louisiana

by American businessman

Edward Every Mecklehaney.

I have a good buddy that lives down in

that area and we've eaten

a bit of Gator down there

in Louisiana.

Tastes like chicken.

In 1942, World War II, the 28 nations at

war with the Axis Powers

pledged to make no separate

peace deals.

Then in 1965, Joe Namis spurns the NFL to

sign a deal with the AFL's New York Jets.

Then in 1974, President Nixon signs the

national speed limit into

law at 55 miles per hour.

Up to that point, the speed limits

nationally ranged from 40

miles to 80 miles an hour.

Honestly, I'd say the national average on

highways today is still similar to that.

Probably 40 miles an hour in the fast

lane and 85 miles an hour

passing them in the center

lane.

I don't know, maybe those people who

think they have a

birthright to be in the fast lane

at all times, they still have that orange

55 on their speedometer.

Move over.

In 1967, American Republican politician

Ronald Reagan, who

previously worked as an actor,

was sworn in as governor of California.

And lastly, in 2004, NASA spacecraft

Stardust collected dust

grains from the comet Wild

2.

And the cometary material was later

revealed to contain the

amino acid gysine, which is

an essential building block of life.

You know, I've kind of figured out I'm a

bit of a nerd about these space facts.

It's really incredible.

Okay, moving on to birthdays.

Happy birthday if today is your birthday.

You share a birthday

with a very short list.

Cuba Gooding Jr. is 57 years old.

And Kristy Turlington, she's 55.

So happy birthday to

everybody if today's your birthday.

Now a quick highlight of the music from

the 80s, the 90s, and 2000s.

The number one song on this date in 2002

was "Lose Yourself" by Eminem.

"Lose Yourself" became the longest

running single at number

one for a rap song at 23

weeks and also won the Academy Award for

the best original song in 2003.

That made it the first hip

hop song to win the award.

This was my go-to pump

up song back in the day.

And in fact, we downloaded the clean

version of this song for

our kiddos as one of their

pump up songs too.

I would say this song

definitely passes the test of time.

23 years ago, almost a quarter of a

century ago, that song came out.

All right, well, the number one movie in

the same year of 2002 was

"The Lord of the Rings,"

the two towers.

This was the second movie of the

trilogies and it won two

Academy Awards and made about

$938 million in gross box office, which

places it at number 71

on the top lifetime gross

movie list.

All right, well, let's go ahead and move

into some personal

growth in the book review

segment of "The Morning Serial."

This is where we take a few moments to

reflect on lessons learned

from the current book we're

reading.

And currently we are reading through Dale

Carnegie's "How to Win

Friends and Influence

People."

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must read

lists and it's packed

with rock solid advice and actions for

all of us to use and

build healthy foundational

concepts to live by.

Okay, we're still in chapter two, which

is the big secret of dealing with people.

Where Carnegie started the chapter out by

contemplating our most

basic human needs and

desires and specifically

the desire to be important.

Yesterday, we began discussing our

craving for appreciation

and were given examples of

leaders like Charles Schwab and Andrew

Carnegie who chose to

lead not by criticizing, but

through appreciation and

praise of those around them.

So as we pick it up in chapter two,

Carnegie turns a bit from

discussing appreciation and

praise in the workplace to the importance

of appreciation and

praise in the house, to

our spouses and our family.

Carnegie suggests that one of the primary

reasons for strain in

a marriage or the end

of a marriage is the lack of

appreciation for our spouses.

Carnegie says, "We often take our spouses

so much for granted

that we never let them

know we appreciate them."

Now I'm a generation Xer and I did not

grow up in the timeframe

that Carnegie wrote this

book, but I think it's safe to say that

life has only become more hectic.

It moves faster.

We accomplish more and less time, which

means we have even fewer

moments to slow down or

unplug for just a moment enough to tell

our spouses that we

love them, let alone just

that we appreciate them.

Carnegie gives an example of a wife

asking her husband to

list out six things that the

husband believed would

help her become a better wife.

And as a side note, I'm sure the husband

asked for twice as

many pointers on how he

could become a better husband, but

Carnegie did not cover that one.

Anyways, the husband thinks about it

overnight and the next day

he sends his wife six red

roses with a note reading, "I can't think

of six things I would

like to change about

you.

I love you the way you are.

Very sweet, right?"

Well, the wife thought so.

She greeted her husband with tears, glad

that he had not chosen

to criticize her, and the

wife's friends had said it was the most

considerate thing

that they had ever heard.

Again, Carnegie illustrating the power of

appreciation over criticism.

Now, remember, Carnegie began this

chapter talking about

the basic needs and desires

we as humans crave with feeling important

and appreciated as the

most important of all.

It's the one desire we can't

really work harder to achieve.

It has to be freely given or earned.

To this point, Carnegie makes a

comparison here

suggesting, "People would think they

committed a crime if they let their

families or employees go

six days without food."

One of the basic needs of ours, right?

But people take no issue in potentially

letting their families or

employees go for "six days,

for six weeks, and sometimes 60 years

without giving them the hearty

appreciation that they

crave almost as much as they crave food."

Carnegie quotes an actor of his time,

Alfred Lunt, who said,

"There is nothing I need

so much as

nourishment for my self-esteem."

You know, it's interesting, I tried to

find a quote from a

contemporary actor saying something

similar and I couldn't find anyone

outright being quoted as

saying they needed praise

for self-esteem.

And I think this is because we have

evolved a bit from Carnegie's point here.

We still believe in nourishing the body

and even more nowadays

society has accepted working

on mental wellbeing and mental health.

So much so that most actors have some

sort of quote saying their

self-esteem or self-confidence

comes from within them, not from others,

which is probably true

for all of us, even if we

are just simply subscribing to the "fake

it till you make it" policy.

But this still does not mean we don't

want to hear and feel

that we are appreciated and

praised and hearing that helps to build

or reinforce our self-image.

And there are a lot of contemporary

quotes to that point.

Now, Carnegie's point here is still as

important today as it was

in 1936 when he wrote the

book.

And that is, we should make a real effort

to nourish the

self-esteem of our families,

of our friends, our coworkers.

We make every effort to nourish their

health, to make sure they

have food, make sure they

get sleep and all the other needs.

But we often seem to neglect to give them

what is so easily given and freely given.

And that's the appreciation and praise

that can give them a

feeling of importance.

Okay, nice work today.

I guess the homework for today would be

to go out there and

tell someone or tell a lot

of people that they are appreciated.

Come on back tomorrow when we'll finish

up Chapter 2, and we'll

get Carnegie's Principle

Number 2.

Okay, get out there and have a great day.

You're on day 2 of the new year, and

you're on day 2 of

accomplishing or keeping your

New Year's resolution.

At least I hope you are.

I appreciate you joining us today, and

we'll be back here

the same time tomorrow.

Have a fantastic day.

And don't forget to follow and subscribe

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can also follow our other

podcasts that are coming

in January.

That's when our first Mr. and Mrs.

English podcast and The

Life Happens podcast will

air.

So join us on those

other podcasts as well.

Thanks again for listening.

Have a fantastic day.

We'll see you tomorrow.