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The more you control your food, the more it will control you.

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The more you control your food, the more it will control you. Whether you feel guilt after eating sweets or stressed about being around them or feel compelled to "burn off" what you ate the day before to get "back on track", the struggle is real and it can make the holiday season a hard time to navigate.

Our featured wisdom-sharing for this episode comes from Team Recovery Warriors. Each member has a personal experience of battling an eating disorder and unique skills that match their passion for helping others find recovery. 

Learn different ways to take back your power from candy and desserts.

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What is The Recovery Warrior Shows?

Real talk. Real insights. Real stories of recovery helping people stop fighting food and their body since 2012.

Welcome to Recovery Warriors podcast channel. Where many voices come together to share the one great journey to full eating disorder recovery.

With a unique lineup of shows, your food, body, and self-esteem struggles are covered from every angle. Balancing science and soul, we tell stories and share evidence-based research behind what it takes to recover from restriction, anorexia, bulimia, over-exercising, binge eating, chronic dieting and disordered eating. Not only that, we also cover the underlying trauma, limiting beliefs, and painful emotions that keep you trapped in cycles of feeling powerless and stuck.

It’s exhausting constantly thinking about food and worrying about your weight. You, dear warrior, don’t have to live like this. Together, let’s march forward into a future where you’re living, breathing proof that recovery is possible.

Jessica Flint 0:02
Welcome to recover strong a podcast I will transform your recovery from an eating disorder by helping you go from theory to practice to mastery. This is your special time to learn new skills, tools and get the inspiration you need to recover strong. Let's get started. Good. Time to start today. Keep your head up. Don't understand your way. Hello, my warrior friends. How are you all doing? My name is Jessica Flint. I'm the founder and CEO of recovery warriors, a multimedia resource hub for all things related to eating disorder recovery. I personally recovered from an eating disorder and I'm here to inspire you to do the same. I believe recovery is not only possible, but it's worth it. That is why recovery strong exists to help you see and connect to the potential that lies within you to find freedom from an eating disorder. Today is a five things feature where you get more recovery wisdom in less time. Each week we talk about five things related to recovery. Whether that is five steps to improve your body image five insecurities that are holding you back or today's topic of five ways to take back your power from candy and desserts. Our featured wisdom sharing for this episode comes from Team recovery warriors, and I'm just so proud of our talented team of warriors here. Each person has a personal experience of battling an eating disorder and unique skills that match their passion for helping others find recovery. It's that time of year when sweets like candy and desserts come out in full force whether it's up parties and family gatherings and social gatherings. It's just it's a very common thing during this time of year to be faced with a lot of different food options, primarily sweets, and candy and desserts. When you're struggling with eating disorder are stuck in the diet cycle, this can be an extra stressful time. Whether you feel guilty after eating sweets or just stressed about being around them or feel like you have to burn off what you ate the day before just to get back on track. All of this really does tie into the eating disorder in the struggle is real, and it can make the holiday season a hard time to navigate. And that is why we're here to offer up some support and encouragement and lessons learned so you can do things differently this holiday season. After listening to this show, I encourage you to read more about this topic at recovery warriors.com every podcast has an in depth article with other suggested reading, you can access that down below in the show description box. Now let's explore five ways you can take back the power from candy and desserts this holiday season and beyond.

Number one, ditch the good versus bad food mindset. To talk more about this, I first want to introduce you to Madeline.

Unknown Speaker 3:15
So I'm Madeline and I'm in charge of sort of Media and Design for recovery warrior. So I guess for anyone who doesn't really know what that means, that's anything that involves sort of branding colors, creating editorial artworks, thumbnails, anything that's sort of a creative representation of the company, I struggled with myself for over 10 years with anorexic bulimia. And obviously, that really impacted my life, first quite negatively for that time. And then at the same time quite positively after I went through recovery. And now that I'm fully recovered, it really feels it feels pretty perfect. It feels really special that in a way I can on the one hand, use my creative skills, which is something that I really enjoy. And that's really fun for me, that that I sort of have this feeling that at the end of that in an indirect way, I'm actually helping other people that might be on this journey that is quite challenging. And if I can sort of be even a tiny part of helping anybody recover, then that's so meaningful and special to me.

Jessica Flint 4:15
Y'all it has been so cool to have Madeline be a part of our team. If you haven't checked out recovery warriors website lately. Get your booty over there. Check it out right now while you're listening to this recovery warriors.com I have felt like our brand has literally been like chilling in a bathrobe and curlers getting ready for a party for like the past decade. Like that's kind of been my inner feeling. It's like nuts. It's not there. It's it's, it's not fully ready yet. And it's been such a pleasure to work with Madeline over the past few months because the brand has totally transformed and it's like finally come into its true colors. You know it's out of the curlers out of the bathrobe and is now the belle of the ball and I am just Oh. And as you know, I love to say we don't become our best selves by ourselves. And so together, we've been able to fully embody the bold, authentic and creative brand that I always have known recovery warriors been at our core. And now with our brand more established, we're really able to radiate our essence of growth, depth, optimism and freedom. Now, speaking of freedom, let's hear how ditching the good food versus bad food mindset was able to liberate Madeline, from her eating disorder.

Unknown Speaker 5:30
For me, definitely, you know, sort of moral evaluation, I guess a food was definitely a huge thing when I was really struggling with food. So anything that in my mind was considered a bad food or a wrong foods or anything that had a lot of sugar or a lot of fat or whatever, that was kind of like a no go. So for me, what was often hard is that, you know, if I was in a public setting, then that was like, No, I would try and stay away from that, mainly also, because I felt like there wasn't really a place for me to purge, I would just kind of have to live with it, I would just have excuses, always ready to go, I don't like that. I'm not in the mood, whatever it was, which of course, is really sad, because there's a lot of moments in life where whatever, that's just part of it, whether it's a birthday cake, or the family coming together to go for ice cream or anything like that. And then when I was alone, it was kind of like, you know, obviously, when we forbid ourselves certain things, then they kind of become that much more tempting. So then when I was alone, it was kind of like, all these foods that I would never allow myself to eat, I would, I would just want all of it. And then of course, I would go overboard, and then you don't feel good, either. So that was that was always kind of a horrible, horrible struggle. It was just awful. Like, it's it's awful to exclude an entire food group just because in your mind, you can't live with having it in your body. Like, it's, it's crazy how when you look at it, in retrospect, you know, it's it's so much easier to sort of spy that I guess, or to like, see it and to be like, Wow, that's so crazy. But then, when you're in really in it, it just feels so impossible. So that's really I just felt impossible, I felt hopeless, a lot of the time, I felt like I would never get out of it. I really often questioned if I would, I felt like I would always feel this way about food. And now I mean, I some days, I truly can't believe the extent to which I feel recovered, I really feel so free around food, and it just doesn't have a hold over me anymore. Like I don't attach the same moral meaning to it anymore. Ice cream is just ice cream cake is just cake. And if I feel like it, I will have a piece if I want a second piece, I have a second piece rolling a fifth piece, I'll have a fifth piece. If I don't want a piece, I won't have a piece and it doesn't have to mean anything. And that like liberty is just so amazing that I get to feel that I feel like I really do want to say when it comes to this is that recovery is possible. Like I really want anyone listening to this to hear that from somebody who did truly recover from a 10 year eating disorder because I experienced even health professionals that sort of implied that for a lot of people full recovery is impossible. And you might always, you know slipped back into these habits. And I know when I heard that it just it was so hard because you you don't want to think of the rest of your life thinking you know, when I'm 50 I'm going to be at someone's wedding and not want to eat the cake. That's just sad. So it is possible with the right team and the right support and if you want it then you can 100% do it.

Jessica Flint 8:43
Yes, recovery is 100% possible. This reminds me of one of our company core values that recovery warriors and that is everything is figure out trouble. If at first you don't succeed, try try try again and be open to new ways of finding solutions. The mindset that got you into the eating disorder is not the mindset that will get you out of the eating disorder. Now let's move along to the next way to take back your power from candy and desserts.

Number two, fuel your body regularly. To talk more about this I first want to introduce you to Minaya.

Unknown Speaker 9:35
My name is Meena Yagura and I'm originally from Madrid in Spain, where I'm currently living. I've been living abroad for quite a few years actually and I came back to my hometown which is about health on our way from Madrid in really close to the mountains. And I love it here. I've been working for recovery warriors for about Oh, two and a half years now. And I'm in charge of online marketing and web design. And I'm so happy to be part of this of this team. And I get to work with really inspiring women. And I get to contribute with my work to help others to heal the relationship to food and money. And it's just really fulfilling for me to be part of this mission. And this team.

Jessica Flint 10:29
Minaya is always down to learn new things, and I absolutely love it. I've literally thrown everything her way over the years, and she embraces that everything is figured out double mindset and quickly learns new software's and skills, she also embodies another one of our company core values, and that is growth happens in phases. Not only has been I have grown professionally, but she has also shed away the thinking that kept her trapped in an eating disorder, and has been able to restore her health. Let's hear what Menai has to say about sweets and fueling her body regularly.

Unknown Speaker 11:02
So my relationship with sweets and candy has been somewhat of a complicated one. More especially with cars in general and sweets in particular, I've never really been someone who really enjoys sweets. But coming from a history of restrictive dieting, and compensatory behaviors, I came to a point I was desperate when I was in the depths of my eating disorders, I was desperate to find a way out. And I came across this blog post where it said that or regulating your blood sugar levels and your eating habits, it was really helpful to quit sugar. So I thought it was a good idea at the moment. He wasn't. And I went cold turkey with it, I remove sugar completely from my life. And the funny thing is I as I said before, I wasn't someone who used to have sweets that much. But the moment I removed it from my diet, and I didn't allow myself to have it. It was as if I Yes, couldn't stop thinking about it. And sweets was the only thing that I wanted to have. And I would like look at photos and it was completely crazy and suddenly sweet had this this power over me, which they had never had before. So it actually took me some time to realize how unhealthy this was, and how it was not helping me at all he was actually disconnecting me even more with with my hunger cues. And this can aid and regulate in my blood sugar levels. So I had to give it up and I had to start allowing Sugar and Carbs back into my life. And it wasn't until I started a low in them that I had some power back in that I felt that I could have it if I wanted, I could not have it if I didn't want it. And I lost in control of it not in controlling compulsive unhealthy way. But in control. As seen, I was in touch again with my hunger cues. And I could decide whether I wanted it or not. My piece of advice is actually two things that I think that come hand in hand. The first one is to I'm sure you have heard this a million times because you hear those in recovery over and over again. But I can't say it enough. It regularly you know it nutrient dense food regularly so that your your body has enough fuel and enough power to function properly. Because otherwise is normal that you're gonna have all these cravings and you're gonna be like looking for sugar and fast energy because your body is not functioning well. So first, regulate your meals and then start allowing more read up into your routine with foods. So the more you control your food, the more is going to control you. So if you really want to have some power over your eating habits, then you have to you have to allow freedom and to let your body tell you what it wants and what it needs and listen to it.

Jessica Flint 14:49
The more you control your food, the more it will control you. That phrase is worth repeating again and writing down and jotting down the more To control your food, the more it will control you. When you fuel your body regularly meaning you keep your body biologically fed with adequate energy and carbohydrates, you are way less likely to trigger a primal drive to overeat. The more you deny your true hunger and fight your natural biology, the stronger and more intense food cravings and obsessions become. Now let's move on to our next way to take back your power from candy and desserts.

Number three, let go of guilt. To talk more about this, I first want to introduce you to Miriam.

Mirjam Mainland 15:43
Hi, everyone. My name is Marissa mainlands. And I'm the chief editor at recovery warriors. So I've personally struggled with anorexia nervosa during my 20s. And there were a lot of moments at which I thought I would never recover. So when I was able to find my way through and recover, I was determined to do something with this experienced and so I decided to move away from working in the financial services industry. And it became my main goal to continue to encourage other people who are struggling, that recovery is possible and more importantly, that is worth it. So that's when I started my work at recovery warriors back in 2014.

Jessica Flint 16:19
Miriam is on path to being our Chief Operating Officer. And it's amazing to have a woman like her on the team, we balanced each other's strengths and weaknesses very well. One strength of Miriam's is her commitment to completing a task well, and on time, she holds herself to high standards, and she loves to see our numbers improve. So it's like our web traffic or podcast listeners, whatever stat there is, she loves to see it grow and improve. Now all of these are super skills professionally. But when turned towards an eating disorder, they can lead to a downward spiral of rigidly enforced rules and hyper focus on numbers. Let's hear how Miriam was able to lighten up on her rules, let go of guilt, and in doing so no longer feeling stressed out around food.

Mirjam Mainland 17:08
Okay, so when I was struggling with anorexia, situations that involved a lot of candy and desserts were just very stressful for me, and especially if it were types of candy or desserts that I loved, for example, things with chocolate, because I really liked that stuff. And it's such strict rules for myself. And so being exposed to those things that I desperately wanted, but didn't allow myself created this huge, like internal conflict in my mind. And I always knew that ultimately, I would just want to eat the dessert. And usually I would even end up doing it. But then I already knew that the next day, I was going to feel so guilty. And this is where just a lot of the destructive eating disorder behaviors would come in for me. So like restricting the over exercising thoughts and to shame and compensations. And it was this complicated, vicious cycle. And you know, this is the start of the holiday season. And I always reflect back on those years, in which this time was nothing but stressful for me. And I grew up in the Netherlands. And between Thanksgiving and Christmas, we celebrate this holiday called Sinterklaas, which has always been and still is my favorite holiday, especially now that I have my own kids. And my mom used to always bake these special cookies, they're sort of like, I guess gingerbread cookies in the US. But traditionally, you have these really big molds that create gigantic doll shaped cookies. I know it sounds a little bit weird. But if you see it, it's not that weird. So she would make those and we would typically eat them the day that you could see the arrival of sinter class on television. And it was just our tradition. But when I had an eating disorder, things were so black and white for me. So the whole week prior to this, I would feel nervous and stressed. And again, it was just that internal conflict in my mind. And I always felt like on those days, I would just have to let myself quote unquote go and then make up for it later and obviously was a very harmful way of of looking at food and it would just cause stress and anxiety and it just took away a lot of the joy and especially on those moments that should be fun. And that should be a time to be with your family. In recovery. I learned so much about what was underneath my eating disorder and why I used food as a way of coping and dealing with you know, insecurities and my lack of self worth and and working through all those things really took away all that power that food once had over me like all that power that it had over me for like eight years. And so things over time, like shifted and I would notice that in situations that used to cause a lot of stress before I no longer had the same reaction and holidays just became fun and enjoyable again, and I'm now at this point where I just can't imagine food having that power over me which to me is great and it also shows that recovery really is possible. If you really can't get through an eating disorder and recovery really is possible, even when you truly believe it's not and you just feel really, really low, there is a way out to the other sides,

Jessica Flint 20:12
you can break on through to the other side. Breakdowns always lead to breakthroughs, if you're willing to stay committed to the process. Now let's move on to our next way to take back your power from candy and desserts.

Number four, you embrace intuitive eating. To talk more about this, I first want to introduce you to Andrea.

Andrea Wells 20:44
My name is Andrea. I'm the Podcast Producer at recovery warriors. So I work on things like audio editing, script, writing, and a few different tasks behind the scenes to help the show's run. This work is important to me, because I'm in recovery myself. So I know all the things that an eating disorder takes from you. I know what the hell it is. And I know all the things that you get back in the better life you can live during recovery. So being able to have my job be something where I help people with this stuff is very special. And it's very important work that I do not to take lightly.

Jessica Flint 21:18
Andrea initially applied for an executive assistant position. And when I was reviewing her resume, I literally spit my coffee out on the paper. Because I was so shocked to see her extensive background in radio and broadcasting. It was a dream come true to have her resume, get on to my radar and have her apply. Because just at that moment, the vision for the recovery warrior shows was beginning to take form. Andrea plays a pivotal role in helping us make our motto of many voices, one journey come to life through our podcasts and our editorial, Andrea also brings a unique perspective of being in recovery while managing a health condition. Let's listen her story and lessons learned. So I'm

Andrea Wells 22:03
about five years into recovery in like I've embraced intuitive eating. And it was going really well until I hit a bump in the road, which was about two years ago. And that was because I was diagnosed with type two diabetes. So that was really triggering, because I had gotten like comfortable with the idea that food is not the devil and it's not going to kill me or harm me. And it's finally making peace with that. But then suddenly, I'm facing a situation where that's changed. And you know, I had doctors prescribing weight loss and all the usual diet culture stuff, and starting to have my blood sugar measured, which to me was very reminiscent of, you know, like counting calories and weighing yourself. And then suddenly, sweets and Candy had become like, a forbidden fruit once again, is there there wasn't a ton of information out there about how to practice intuitive eating when you have diabetes, but I sought out what was there. I just wanna make it really clear like I'm not a doctor, this is not medical advice. I'm just sharing things that I have done that have worked for me in my situation. So one thing that I knew right away after diagnosis was that I was not going to pursue intentional weight loss as a diabetes treatment. I knew that but not work. But I was struggling with feeling like my unconditional permission to eat was taken away from me, particularly when it came to sugar and sweets, Candy carbs. But one day it dawned on me that like, No, I still do have unconditional permission to eat these things. I can eat all the carbs and sugar I want. And yes, because of this disease, it will raise my blood sugar. And that can cause symptoms. And that has an impact on my physical health like and all these things are true. But ultimately, there's no law saying I can't go ahead and do all of that and eat all the sugar in the world. But I do value my physical health and diabetes is one of those exceptions to the notion that food will not harm your health. But that doesn't mean that I have to live by eating disorder rules either. I didn't realize those things right away. For the first few months, I was terrified of eating sweets. Like I didn't eat any candy or dessert or anything for months. But I wanted to work on that. And my birthday was coming up. So I was planning to have a birthday cake and I was scared. I was convinced that I'd eat that cupcake and my blood sugar would be sky high and it would be dangerous. But it was actually the lowest had been since I was diagnosed because I had like panic ate a bunch of Turkey before I eat the cupcake and protein reduces blood sugar spikes, was just kind of shocked by that. That no I didn't go blind or have a heart attack because my blood sugar was so high it was actually it was okay. And it really showed me that I can have diabetes and sweets and be okay. So I decided kind of from that point out that I would no longer be restricting myself from sugar. Instead, I just told myself that I'm going to embrace sugar and fiber and protein all at the same time. There was room for all of it and and this was kind of leaning into like the gentle nutrition aspect of intuitive eating, because that does come into play in recovery, whether you have diabetes or not, but I, yeah, I continue to eat sweets and candy and I still enjoy them regularly. We're just over two years later now, and for the most part, I feel much better about eating candy and sweets. And my diabetes is quite well managed, I want to refrain from using like numbers. I don't want to trigger anyone, but I do remain symptom free, and my situation with diabetes is still mild. And that is without restriction from sweets without weight loss. Anyway, I'm, I'm proud of the work that I've done with reconciling intuitive eating and diabetes. It is not perfect, of course. And the thing is, I do have days still where I feel terrified about sugar and sweets again, and I'm feeling triggered. But that's maybe five or 10% of the time now, and the other 90 to 95%. Like I'm feeling good about my relationship with food overall. And I love that whether you have a health condition like diabetes or celiac disease, that actually does affect your health with food. Or if you don't, or if you're just in regular recovery, you can still make peace with sweets and candy and out fit into your life and not have sugar be the boogeyman when you have diabetes.

Jessica Flint 26:14
What a powerful story. I remember when I was diagnosed with PCOS, which is stands for polycystic ovarian syndrome. And all of the medical literature I read said Do not eat sugar and avoid carbohydrates. And I was at the time still actively in recovery when I got this diagnosis. And man, it threw me for a loop here I was trying to step forward in my recovery and you know, reject diet mentality and really start to honor my hunger signals and embrace intuitive eating. And then at the same time, I'm being told to eat a restrictive diet. Like Andrea with time, I was able to find the balance. What's important to remember here is that intuitive eating is possible while managing a health condition. When you drop the all or nothing mentality, you make room for more possibilities to take care of your overall well being. Now let's move on to our last way to take back your power from candy and desserts.

Number five, come out of hiding. I'll bring us home with this last way to take your power back. When I reflect back on the years that I lived with an eating disorder, I found that there was a pattern or a theme that would come up a lot. And that is that I often ate secretly or in hiding. Or if I did eat around people, it'd be like just a little bit like I would have a little tiny bit. But when I was by myself, I would have much bigger portions. And this would often lead me to then Bingi. And at certain points of mania disorder history, I would also engage in purging behaviors. And the foods that are often turned towards were very sweet like brownies and ice cream and cake and pretty much anything to do with pastries I absolutely loved. And I remember one time I was living in this beach house in San Diego, and I was living with four other girls. This was five of us total. And my Hawaiian roommate Mahina she made this amazing dish called Pumpkin crumble. And it was so good. And it was this family tradition of hers like this recipe really like I kind of wish I could have it now because it was the bomb. And she made this huge pan and pumpkin crumble a massive pan a pumping crumble at the time I was you know on I was struggling with my eating disorder. I was on this low calorie diet totally deprived sugar and carbohydrates. And there was this huge dish a pumpkin crumble and it was so tempting to me. And my room was the closest to the kitchen. And it's all I could think about it was just like sitting there like Hello Jessica home your pumpkin grumble meet me. Every ounce of me was just trying to resist not having this and I ended up going to bed that night still in the state of resistance and like no and I want some and that pumpkin crumble was on my mind big time and I ended up waking up and in this kind of pseudo state of slumber I just devoured the whole pan of the pumpkin crumble I ended up eating the whole frickin ban except for this like tiny little sliver you know I just laugh at like the absurdity of this like massive pan and then I'm just like just leave a little tiny bit in case they once when I woke up I had these crumbles in my sheets and I was just totally like hungover from eating a whole massive pan of this dessert. I mean I went from like, I'm not going to have a single serving to I'm gonna have like 35 servings of this and Oh man, I was so ashamed. Because, I mean, it was kind of obvious that like, somebody ate the pumpkin crumble, I mean, it was there the night before. And then in the morning, all of it was there the night before. And I was just once again, just so ashamed to say that it was me. And I tried to laugh it off, like and say, like, oh, I had the drunk cheese, which is like when you're drunk, and you overeat, you know, the munchies. But when you're drunk, and I mean, that wasn't the case, I was totally sober. When I went to bed, I was just biologically starving. And you know, this experience sticks out as a story I can share. But this was not an isolated event. I mean, this was actually a common occurrence for me to wake up in the middle of the night and eat, it was a huge cause of concern for me, because I felt really out of control. Like, I was not really fully conscious, I was in a somewhat of like, a dream state, you know, I felt like I didn't have my full decision making faculties. And but I have hundreds and hundreds of more times that I was fully conscious, and I still would secretly sneak the food, the more people I lived with, the easier it was for me to sneak foods and kind of go on notice. And I would, you know, I would often just like take a little sliver here and a little sliver there. And I would go to such great lengths to hide this behavior, I would take the wrappers and I would go put them in another trash can somewhere else, or just really plunge them deep into the trash, so they'd be covered. Or I would go to the store, and I'd refill what I ate, and like restocking and trying to get it to the same level it was and sometimes they wouldn't have what I needed at the store. And I'd freak out and have to go in another store. I mean, the amount of energy and time that I placed in like covering up my tracks was exhausting. And in a huge shift happened for me. And this was a big part of my recovery was when I started to come out of hiding, and not eat sweet secretly. So this meant that I had to vocalize my intentions for the food. So if I wanted something, I had to ask for it. If it wasn't mine, I would have to ask for it. Or if it was mine, or if something that was communal, and everybody could have it, I would let it be known that I'm having it. In some ways, I was vocalizing my permission to eat the food.

So for example, if someone someone had a dessert that I wanted, I would ask permission instead of sneaking it. So let's say my roommate made a pan of brownies, I would ask him, I'd say hey, Brandon, these look amazing. Can I have one, instead of just tiptoeing around at night, you know, having a little sliver of the brownie and like shaving off like a little corner. So it goes unnoticed. With this, I also had to confront the inner food police who sirens would start to be like, you can't eat that. But I recognize that I would be in some ways like the thief at night, who's trying to hide from the food police. And so when I just sat there, and I acknowledged that I'm going to eat this, I was directly saying to the food, please, I'm going to eat this even though you're telling me I'm breaking a rule. And the CIF who wants to go do this behind the back and not get caught by the food police when it's secret. It was challenging. I had to really say, Hey, I'm gonna have a piece of pie now. I'm gonna have this cookie. I wouldn't be afraid that people be like, Why is she talking about that? Really? I didn't have any awkward situations with that people will be like, okay, cool. That looks good. But it was a huge thing for me to publicly state what I wanted what I was going to do with that food and not eat it behind closed doors in hiding. And so I started to be able to eat these sweets in public and change the way I interact with them in private. And in doing so I was able to work through a lot of the shame scripts that I'm not trustworthy around food. So to review, the five ways you can take back your power from candy and desserts are to ditch the good food versus bad food mindset. fuel your body regularly. Let go of guilt, embrace intuitive eating, and come out of hiding. Ultimately, when you give yourself permission to eat, including candy and desserts, and all those things that you convince yourself are off limits, they suddenly lose their power over you. And when those foods no longer have power over you. You create mental space to live a life that isn't dependent on what you can or cannot eat. So really, this holiday season and beyond enjoy the treats allow yourself to eat the Halloween candy, Thanksgiving pies and Christmas cakes and cookies. Take back that power that all the eating disorder rules and beliefs and chronic dieting took away from you all these years. Make a commitment to start walking on a new path, one that doesn't end in guilt and beating yourself up a path of full permission. Well, my warrior friend thank you for having the discipline to listen in. If you found this episode helpful and know somebody in recovery who could benefit from its inspiring message, please share this show with them. It would mean the world to us a recovery warrior If we can get our cause out to more people struggling with an eating disorder, so if what you heard today was helpful, share the show with another warrior or anyone on your treatment team. You can do this directly from your podcast player or send them over to recovery warriors.com We have a goldmine of free resources there for all stages of recovery. And until the next episode, may compassion, like the path you were on, and courage keep you on it. You totally got this warrior. We're going

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