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A thirst quenching podcast for the girls, gays, theys, & astrology baes where we talk about anything & EVERYTHING through an astrological lens.
Hi, guys. Welcome to Tea from the Galaxy, a thirst quenching podcast for the Girls Gays Theys and Astrology Baes, where we talk about everything and anything through an astrological lens. So today, I have one of my good friends and fellow Scorpio rising, Giovanni here. Hello. Thank you for coming on this podcast.
Jovani:Of course. Happy to be here.
Serena:We're here today to talk about a very important transit and to give advice about this transit because we literally, as a Scorpio rising, went through a very harsh, life changing, life altering astrological transit, which is the planet Uranus transiting through your seventh house of relationships since 2018, but caused the most changes from, like, 2019 to up until recently. And we are definitely here to share our life experiences and to give advice to people who are about to enter this transit, which is Sagittarius risings. And also, Gemini rises can relate to this as well. The mutable rising signs can definitely they're about to get hit with this transit in very pivotal areas of their life, which is Gemini, Sagittarius, Pisces, Virgo risings. But mostly, Sagittarius and Gemini rises can probably relate to the stories that we're about to tell.
Serena:First things first, a couple of questions I ask everyone on this podcast. You can answer all of them, answer some of them, none of them, whatever you feel comfortable with. So whoever's listening can get a better understanding of who you are. Couple questions that I ask, your age, your pronouns, your sexual identity, and your big three.
Jovani:I'm 28. My pronouns are she, her. I'm straight, but love is love. Like, I love a person, not the gender.
Serena:Mhmm.
Jovani:And on my big three, I'm Aries sun, Aquarius moon, Scorpio rising.
Serena:Okay. Perfect. Quick intro to how we met. I met you when I first moved to Florida. Yeah.
Serena:We worked at the same bar. We were both bartenders. When I first started working, you worked with all men bartenders. Yeah. We're like the only female bartenders.
Serena:I heard that your name was Giovanni. And I was like, damn, am I the only girl?
Jovani:Girls? Yeah. Got a blog. No. Yeah.
Jovani:It was just us two girls. Yeah. I was like, Giovanni, like, who's he? I'm like, no.
Serena:Yes. That's what I thought. And then I met you. And I'm like, oh, yeah. Another girl.
Serena:Definitely, like one of the realer women that I've met since I moved down here, which I appreciate because it was definitely a good amount of trial and error of meeting people down here. Think it's not so much like a culture shock moving from Jersey to Florida because so many people from the Northeast like live down here.
Jovani:Yeah.
Serena:But I guess the lifestyle of certain people,
Jovani:a mutual friend of ours, Yaslin,
Serena:we also met. She's also from Jersey. So I feel like we would always talk about like these Florida people, these Florida people.
Jovani:And then you're just I am a Florida person.
Serena:She's born and raised Florida. And we're like, not you. Not you. I definitely appreciate that because I feel like you were always a real genuine person and like a sea of weirdos and fake people down here. Like a lot of people in South Florida, I feel like put on a facade and that's definitely something that you need to have your awareness on about.
Serena:But I never felt like any ill will, ill intentions from you
Jovani:at No. I've no idea. I appreciate that. I know I'm a judging person. I'm not a big judgy person.
Jovani:A lot of people down here, they can be greedy like just with like whether it be money or emotions or just like needy with things.
Serena:Or like prioritizing. What do you look like? What do you have? What do you wear? What are you driving?
Serena:Can you do for me? Type thing.
Jovani:But what do you provide in this relationship?
Serena:And even at work too, like, were just a nice person. Me working in restaurants and bars for over ten years of my life. There was always like an initiation. I feel like walking into a new place. But I never felt that.
Jovani:I see besides me and Randy, like everyone else were new bartender. They had never bartended before. Yeah. Boy has Gabe. Gabe was weird.
Serena:Yeah. And then he got me fired.
Jovani:That was crazy. And then he got fired.
Serena:But, like, it's everything. I I liked everyone that we worked for.
Jovani:We did have a really good bar group. Like, when I first started bartending there, the bartenders hated each other. They were so mean. Like, they would have been like, bro, they were terrible. Like, they all ended up leaving, and then, like, like, everyone else that, like, we worked with started.
Jovani:And it was great. Like, everyone was cool. Everyone was, like, nice. We worked well together. It was never like, oh, I gotta work with this person.
Jovani:Like Yeah. I was like, okay.
Serena:I never felt like that. It was always fun. It was always a good vibe. Worked really well together.
Jovani:Yeah. I think we did. Yeah. We did. It was just Management.
Jovani:Management. Management sucks.
Serena:They didn't like women.
Jovani:She they did not. They did not. After you left, they didn't hire I was the only female bartender after you left.
Serena:I left that place because I was supposed to move back to Jersey at that time. Ended up obviously not moving back to Jersey, but the reason I didn't go back was because of management. Because I was like, I'm not about to be at the bottom of the golden pole forever just because I'm a woman, and we're not the only women that felt like that. There's multiple women that left because of that feeling. It's never a good feeling when you go to your place of work.
Serena:You know that you do a good job. You kill it. You work hard, you show up on time, you do everything that you have to do. And there's like no possible way of growth because you're not seen in a light of worthy of growth because the men are favored. Yeah.
Serena:Yeah. Getting into the transit that we're talking about, the planet Uranus moved into Taurus. It dipped its toes into Taurus May 2018. It's not a quote unquote good or bad planet. You can't predict if it's going to be good or bad because it's such an unpredictable planet.
Serena:And basically, it's energy moving into your chart, because in your chart, there's twelve secondtions in a birth chart, and each section represents a different area of your life. And that's how astrologers can predict what's going to happen to you. Uranus is a planet that brings like revolution, innovation. It is freedom, it's independence and wants us to expand. It is a planet that of unconventional.
Serena:It doesn't like doing things on the normal. When we go through a Uranus transit, we are meant to kind of be young, wild and free type of energy, do things way differently, do things outside of the traditional. If you've been doing things one way, if you've been looking one way, if you've been dating one way, if you've been at one job, Uranus will come through and kind of flip your whole world upside down because it wants you to push the envelope and open up your mind and expand your mind and make you realize that there's much more out there for you. But Uranus is a slower moving planet. It affects generations of people and it affects us through a very long time period.
Serena:2018 to 2025. That's what, seven years now. And the transit actually isn't even fully done yet. I will say it's dipping its toes into Gemini now, and it will go back into tourists for a little bit. Going to like tie up loose ends for many people.
Serena:I feel like for you, your uranium story in the seventh house is kind of a little bit finished based on your birth chart. You don't have later degrees of tourists in your chart. It's more like in the middle. So you kind of like experience the climax and the, I guess, the lesson of Uranus through your seventh house already. For me, though, it's a different story.
Serena:I think there is still like a last chapter of this storyline happening for me. Once Uranus goes back into Taurus in the wintertime, Uranus is going to be fully in Gemini next year in 2026 until 02/1933. Uranus moving is like a journey of freedom. That's like the biggest way I can describe it and a journey of a huge perspective shift. That is the purpose of Uranus going through the seventh house.
Serena:Uranus through the seventh house. The seventh house is called an angular house. And basically what that means is the first house, the seventh house, the fourth house and the tenth house are angular houses and angular houses are extremely pivotal areas of our life. It is like the foundations of our life. It is who we are, our relationships, our home life and our career.
Serena:When there's planets going through the angular houses, it flips everything upside down, like from your identity to your relationships, to your home life, your family and what you do for work. So probably like who you are, who you were in 2018 is a completely different person than who you are today, from identity to your relationships, to your family and what you're doing for work or your professional goals. Another thing, Uranus brings unexpected events because it is so unconventional. And that's kind of like what I was saying before. It's not good or bad.
Serena:It's just unexpected. So perspective is everything. Like, even if Uranus comes through and flips your world upside down, extreme meetings of wonderful people and some were extreme, random heartbreaks and betrayals. It's definitely a journey of just liberation and freedom. That's what Uranus is meant to do.
Serena:And yeah, because it's such an unexpected events type of transit, I wanted to make this video to kind of talk about our experiences so people can kind of see like, Okay, maybe these are like certain things that will happen to me because it's very hard to predict what's going to happen when Uranus is in play. But with Uranus, all we know is it's supposed to free us from something, and we don't know in what way it's going to do that. Reflecting on our 2018 to 2025, Eurus is traveling through your seventh house. This is such an important house because the seventh house rules our close personal relationships. That being our romantic partner, platonic, so your best friend or slash and a business partner.
Serena:So if you're working on a project with something, have a business with someone, it rules that relationship with that person and also that person. So not only can Uranus through the seventh house transits can show relationship shifts, but it can show shifts in the person that you're in the relationship with. So this is something interesting that a lot of people don't know about astrology is you can astrologers can predict things that are happening to you, but also things that are happening to people closest to you too. So by looking at seventh house transits, I can kind of see what's happening to your partner And but it rolls like a a long term partner, not like someone that you're just dating, like, you just started dating or whatever. Sagittarius and Gemini Risings, this is definitely an advice type of video because the past seven, eight years has brought so many identity shifts, breakups, meetings.
Serena:So much has shifted in my life in terms of my perspective on relationships. Because in 2018, when this transit first started, I was with a man at that time for four years. I was on the road to a very traditional lifestyle. I was like, I'm in college, I'm going to graduate. We're going to travel for a little bit, move in together, get engaged, get married, have a kid.
Serena:You know, like that was my vision. And it was very traditional. It was very what I guess my family wanted for me to warm up what my family like always envisioned for me. I didn't see anything outside of that degree ring house, baby. Literally, like
Jovani:traditional way. Yes. Yes. And
Serena:stay in Jersey. You know, I always wanted to travel. Like, I always, like, fiend for the experience of, like, traveling other places, but I was like, Jersey is my home home grounds. Like, I'm not like, this is where I'm gonna have a family. Why wouldn't I?
Serena:My perspective on life and relationships now is so fucking different, and, bitch, I'm gay as hell. Like, the journey through with Uranus going through your seventh house, which I feel like if you're a Sagittarius rising Sagittarius or Gemini rising, and you have been questioning your sexuality or have been curious about your sexuality or just, like, have an inkling, I feel like Uranus through your first and seventh house. Like, this is the time to experiment or to act on those curiosities of your, sexuality because Uranus is such an unconventional planet, and it brings, like, things of doing things from outside of the norm, loving people that you usually wouldn't love and being more open minded. And that was definitely a, like, a literal manifestation of that. Like, I started dating women, and I started exploring my sexuality during this transit and had my first lesbian relationship.
Serena:Now I date women. It was definitely a roller coaster of my learning my sexuality. I'm finally confident in my label right now even though I don't like labels. I just call I like calling myself queer, but when people, like, need a label, I'm like, Okay, I guess I'm pansexual. I'm all about the vibe and the chemistry of the person.
Jovani:Yeah, I agree with that.
Serena:I do seek out women more. I feel like I'm more attracted to women. I feel like women can give me what I want long term. But at the end of the day, I have caught feelings for men, and I was with a man for over five years, and I loved him romantically. So, you know, I can get feelings for men, and, so I don't think I could call myself lesbian.
Serena:And that is Uranus too. Uranian energy is very much roller coaster. It's very high highs. It's very low lows, and it's being and acting very erratic and impulsive off of those high emotions. So a big piece of advice working through this transit is learning to tame that anxiety and that erraticness because that is like very important to do or else you're gonna pay for it afterwards and we were talking about that like we got caught up a lot of time periods during this transit where we were just moving too fast and doing too much and acting too impulsively and then it caught up to us and kind of bit us in the ass and we were forced to slow down.
Serena:Yeah, I mean, that was like one of the most literal and in your face type of things for me in the beginning of this transit, wanting the white picket fence and the husband and the kids to the ending of this transit and really only dating women and my wants and needs and perspective on relationships is so different because I seek out women like what I thought I always wanted. And like, I guess the gender norms, too, in a relationship like this is how a man and a husband acts, and this how a woman and a wife acts is now completely shifted upside down because there's none of that when you're in a relationship and you're building with another woman getting used to what that looks like and learning that I don't need a man in my life to to live like to survive. So I think that was a way that I was raised, like needing a man financially. Yeah, I still want kids and stuff. I still want to get married.
Serena:I value those traditions. It's not like I feel like I need a man's wallet to feel like I can get married and have kids. You decenter men from your from your life when you start dating women, I guess. And that was like a big perspective shift. And because I started dating women, I then had an identity shift.
Serena:And I will say it was because of my first, like, actual girlfriend. Because before that, was experimenting with women. And, you know, I liked women. I would hook up with women. I feel like I didn't have that identity shift.
Serena:Like, was still kind of in the closet. I didn't like was wasn't I'm proud until my first lesbian relationship. And because of her created an identity shift within me. I'm curious to know if you experience that because that's a theme with you having an identity shift and it creates different relationship dynamics and certain people walking into your life and it creating an identity shift for you.
Jovani:I do think in 2018, I turned 21 and I remember talking to my mom and my mom isn't the most accepting person. I love her, but she's a very traditional Caribbean woman. Yeah. And I remember telling her, I can see myself having a family with another woman. And if you're not okay with that, I'm okay with it.
Jovani:Like, if you don't want to be a part of it, I'm not going to change my mind. And that was something I thought because I did have, like, my best friend was such a weird relationship with her. Like, I was the first person to ever break my heart was her. Like, know, like, I really thought we would have a family or whatever. And it didn't work out.
Jovani:We had a not so we had, like, a really bad blowout, but it did, change my perspective after the blowout. I was like, well, okay, like, you know what? I just need to focus on myself, not focus on another person, not focus on being in relationship. I just need to go out and have fun myself. And I was like, then at that point, I'm like, I don't know if I want to be married.
Jovani:I don't know if I want to have kids. Like, you know, that was my big I was like, very traditional, like, at least like family wise, like, want to have a family. I want to have a kid and blah blah. And then like, she broke my heart and I was like, You know what? Like, can be myself and do whatever I want.
Jovani:And I don't have to think about somebody else. And that, like, changed, I guess, I kind of like the opposite, like
Serena:the perspective.
Jovani:Yeah. Like, I was just going out doing whatever I wanted to do. Like, I didn't really care about kids. I didn't care about relationships. Just going out, being a hoe, like, was thought it up in the streets.
Jovani:I'm telling you,
Serena:the first woman to break your heart is literally glass shattering. Like, was like, earth shaking.
Jovani:I was like, I was like, never even in a, like, serious relationship before. And I was like, if this is, my best, like, this is my best friend that I thought we could have been something, can imagine, like, you know, like, there's no point actually was. Yeah, like, there's no point to even try anything else. Like, let me just do my own thing. So it did make me just be a little bit more by myself and like, find fun by myself, like not depending on somebody else for my fun or my happiness.
Jovani:Yeah. So it like in the beginning, that's definitely what changed for me.
Serena:Yeah. So it broke your heart into liberation basically and focusing on yourself. Yeah. So that happened 2018.
Jovani:Yeah, 2018, 2019.
Serena:Oh, interesting. Okay. So, yeah, Uranus was in your tour, seventh house. I'm telling you, Sagittarius Rising's like, I feel like Uranus through your seventh house. It's going to get real gay up in here.
Serena:Like, it's always had inklings like beforehand. It's not like I was never thought I liked women, but it wasn't until that transit, you know, did all the things with another woman or other woman that definitely freed me and then also coming out, too. So that's something that I did with that transit. So that's very interesting. All my breakups also liberated me to a point of freedom, fairness through the seventh house transit that if any relationship doesn't make it past this transit, it's because they were really holding you down from growing in ways that you need to grow.
Serena:And I definitely realize that I went through three breakups during the course of this transit. And I guess the epitome of Uranus going through the seventh house, it brings unexpected breakups and I'm just romantic like friendship breakups, too, But unexpected meetings, too. Like I've met so many people throughout this transit unexpectedly from all over all different backgrounds to ages to like walks of life. And that is definitely a big thing that's going to happen for people going through this transit as well. For me, like as soon as Uranus entered Taurus in 2018, there wasn't any big shake ups.
Serena:But I will say things started to crack in the relationship with the guy that I was with. And that is like what happens when a planet dips its toes into a sign. And then before it's fully like engulfed in that sign, it starts to give you clues as to bigger themes of your life. So for you, it was probably like that heartbreak in 2018. That was like a hint to your freedom, liberation and focusing on yourself moving forward in 2019 and forward.
Serena:For me, it was showing cracks of a relationship that had very faulty foundations and wasn't meant to be. And to fast forward 2019, we broke up and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I mean, it was definitely heartbreaking and depressing. I think that if I would have stayed with this person, even though we were together for five plus years and I was very comfortable and I did love him, I loved him as a friend. I loved him as a person.
Serena:If I would have stayed with him, I would have lived such an average life. Definitely unfulfilled. I mean, it was toxic. Just I probably just would have been that woman who talks shit about her husbands and is low key fucking miserable.
Jovani:So unhappy.
Serena:Yeah. Like, you know that type of woman. There's a lot of women out there who men, too, who are just talk about their partners and you you're sitting there thinking like, do you even fucking like who you're with?
Jovani:So like,
Serena:I get stay the fuck away from me with that energy. I never want something like that. I never want to be with someone or in a relationship, and I'm constantly talking shit about my partner. That's the sign to me that you guys aren't compatible and it's not meant to be because I want someone who's going to talk very highly of me and vice versa. What happened in 2018?
Serena:So I found out that he was messaging other girls behind my back, and it was someone that we worked with. Still stayed, but that was, like, a little preview of the downfall of this guy does not wanna be with you. Sir, he doesn't take you serious. Men can get very comfortable. I feel like a lot of men can get very comfortable.
Serena:I mean, you can see this in queer relationships too, but I feel like a 100% in heterosexual relationships. I feel like when you do wifey shit for a man without a wifey raise or without a wifey ring or without a title or, like, anything like that, they can get very comfortable, and that's what was happening. Like, I would do very wifey shit for him. Oh, I would talk about things, topics like getting married, stuff like that, and he would always brush it off. You're in a mutual agreement that marriage isn't something that you want or need.
Serena:But if there's, like, a lack and there's only words coming from him and no action, I think that is a huge red flag because that's what I was seeing. And it wasn't until something happened in 2019. So this is when Uranus was fully engulfed in Taurus. And not only was it like in tourists and making its way, I reentered tours for good on 03/09/2019. And not only was it entering my tourist seventh house, but it also was touching.
Serena:I have my Saturn in Taurus, too. Not only was it entering my seventh house, but it was touching a very malefic planet like Saturn. Saturn brings very serious life events. It forces you to mature, to be responsible, crushing and destructing certain traditions because Saturn is very traditional and Uranus is very unconventional. So when Uranus is touching your natal Saturn, it's kind of like, I need you to completely destroy all traditions that you've had growing up and recreate and rebuild new for yourself.
Serena:But with that, it's not like, oh, yeah, okay, let's do that. It's because a very heartbreaking life event happens. And for me, what shattered the rose colored glasses was and I don't even think you know this, but literally reentered tourists in 2019, in March 2019. And that is when I found out I was pregnant. And then obviously, I don't have a kid now.
Serena:I'm not going get too deep into this subject because I think this is like a whole other podcast episode for a whole another thing. But it was a very heartbreaking thing that happened to me that completely shattered my rose colored glasses of the person I was with because of how he showed up during that time. And it made me realize this guy does not take me serious. He does not love me or love or maybe he loves me in a friendship way, but he doesn't love me in a way that he wants me to be his wife fighting for you so hard and you. It's not the same back.
Serena:And that was like a big thing that I was seeing in my relationships during this transit. It was like I rode so hard for people and I wasn't getting the same energy back. And whoever didn't make it and like stayed in my life now are people who weren't writing for me as hard as I was writing for them. People who stayed in my life now from the beginning to the end of the transit are people who ride equivalently as hard as like I write for them. So I don't know if you can relate to that as well.
Serena:Have a Taurus Mercury, so you have a Taurus like placement, and it's one thing to go through seventh house transits, but it's another thing to have planets in your seventh house, and it just triggers and makes things more explosive and more direct towards you. So I was going to ask you, you have a planet at three degrees in Taurus, and Uranus was hitting that point at the December 2019, beginning of like 2020, your mind was all over the place. If there was something that if you were acting impulsively at this time, something that was shifting your perspective on.
Jovani:Oh, it's okay. So 2019. Yeah. So I started at FIU. So I had like just on my associates, I started my bachelors.
Jovani:So I lived with my cousin and she has a daughter that's a year younger than me. She moved back down from her college and we were living and we fought all the time. It would be like the stupidest things. We fought all the time. It was just honestly such a negative time in my life.
Jovani:I did travel a lot too. We went to New York and we fought. Like, I went to Egypt. We fought about that. She didn't go.
Jovani:We went to Vegas for her birthday and we fought like it was just a lot of fighting with her. And she's a tourist. I don't know if that, like, matters, but she's like a a sun tourist. And I was just fighting all the time. So that was just like 2019 was a lot of fighting and a lot of like like my like, I love my family.
Jovani:But there were times I feel like they would coddle her. I'm fine being by myself. Like, I can go to the club by myself. I can be at the pool by myself. I can do whatever by myself.
Jovani:Like, I don't need to be with my family, even though I love being my family. But I don't think bad behavior should be rewarded. Yeah. And I feel like they would do that for her. So it was definitely me, like, stepping away.
Jovani:Like, I love being with my family, but stepping away from my family, for my mental health, for my peace of mind. So that was really big in 2019.
Serena:Yeah. Interesting because I feel like that was like another pattern of you need to, like, be on your own or do things on your own. So like first, it was like from the heartbreak with like your best friend and then disappointment from your family. Yeah. So that's very, very interesting because it's like completely two different scenarios, but it ended up being the same type of like goal.
Jovani:Yeah. Or outcome. Yeah. Like, yeah, the result like me just finding fun by myself. Like, I didn't invade you.
Jovani:All you have is yourself.
Serena:Yeah.
Jovani:Like, you're born by yourself. You're gonna die by yourself. Like, you need to be by yourself. Yeah. Like, you need to be okay with being by yourself.
Jovani:Yeah. And I and I found that like in that time, in the beginning of that time, like the 2018 to.
Serena:Interesting. Yeah, I definitely that was definitely a lesson for me throughout this transit to of learning to be okay by myself. It was 2020 where I was single and celibate, and I took that time off. And now I'm like, I've been redoing that from 2024 to 2025 single and celibate and just focusing on myself and just realizing I definitely needed those time periods in my life of celibacy and like just focusing on myself to realize that I don't need other people to make me happy and to help me build my own happiness. And from that, you attract who's meant to be in your life once you have, like, that confidence within yourself.
Serena:I think how I was raised, it was in a very, codependent way, even though my parents aren't together. There was much like, a codependency on a man and a woman and, like, a man for financial value and a woman The
Jovani:home, like, the home home.
Serena:Yeah. Like, the homemaking, like, very traditional and screw up and thought that that's what life is, like that codependent nature. And this transit definitely came around the corner and like crushed all of that. After that relationship ended with my ex boyfriend of five and a half years, it was so scary because when you're with someone for that long and you and you're thinking your life is going in a certain direction and to just kind of be like, I got to be on my own because I can't do this anymore. Like, I resented him so heavy.
Serena:This is how I need to, like, come save myself basically and create my own life and not expect someone to help create it for me or helps or save me. I still think my future, my dream partner is going to come and we're going to build a legacy together. But I think the perspective that I have now is I need to build it for myself first and then allow someone to come in and add to it. A big piece of advice when if you are someone going through a Uranus through the seventh house transit and you also have your Saturn there as well. So for people who have Saturn in Gemini, so this is a very niche group of people.
Serena:But if you have your Saturn in Gemini, meaning that you were probably born anywhere from 2000 to 2003 and your Sagittarius rising, this is definitely a piece of advice that when Uranus is going over your Saturn, this is really a time to balance tradition and rebellion and to not swing too far one way because you're going be called to really deconstruct old traditions in your life. And there's gonna be a sense of restlessness and a sense of anxiety and wanting to just break free. And with that restlessness, you're going to feel like you want to act impulsively. Definitely try to or, like, run away from your responsibilities. Definitely try not to make impulsive decision without a security blanket.
Serena:That is definitely like a warning because or else you can get too caught up in the rebellion and, you know, kind of bite yourself in the ass. Definitely use all that energy, that kind of that anxious energy and that restlessness energy and put it towards rebuilding what your new traditions. So for me, like from that heartbreak that happened in 2019, I took that energy and I really and I started becoming obsessed with astrology and spirituality. So I started learning about astrology, like in 2017, but it wasn't until this heartbreak that kind of cracked me into a spiritual awakening. Deleted my Twitter.
Serena:I made a new account for a new Twitter account that was strictly just astrology so I could just scroll and just see astrology stuff, really just honing in and learning more about astrology, getting into the community. I'm breaking free of old, outdated traditions, so be open to letting things fall apart. That's just Uranus to the seventh house in general. 21. It is squaring, taking tons of aspects to other things in our birth chart because not only was this a Uranus going through the seventh house transit, but being that we were born, you know, in the nineties and the late nineties in Uranus and Aquarius, which is making a tense and very aggravating aspect to we were going through a Uranus square.
Serena:So as a lot more energy and the square happened for us in 2021.
Jovani:2021 was definitely the year of the years. Yeah, that same friend that like broke my heart. We did reconnect in 2020 and then by the either the 2020 or the 2021, we like completely stopped talking to this day. We still don't talk in the 2021. Even like a couple of other friends, they stopped talking to me over like their boyfriends, like things that happen, like nothing happened with me and their boyfriends, but took it out on me and stopped talking to me.
Jovani:I got into a pretty bad car accident, and I broke my neck. February 2021, I went on my first date with my current boyfriend. Like, we didn't start dating until later in the year, but I went on our first date.
Serena:How did you guys meet? We were together.
Jovani:Oh, yeah. In 2020, we started at the same restaurant on the same time. Like, he started like maybe a month after me. Oh, yeah. And then 2021 on the first day, but I was not interested.
Jovani:He was not my type at all. Like, I guess, like, now, like, I don't have it. My type is funny. Like, that's my type. But before, like, before 2020, like, I've only ever dated black guys.
Jovani:Like, I was like, Oh, I got like, what? Like not like saying, why guys aren't cute or whatever? Like, I was like, Oh, not really.
Serena:Yeah, not really my thing.
Jovani:Yeah. He was like, he was like a tall, chunky white guy. And I'm like,
Serena:Oh, my God, stop. This is such a piece of advice for Uranus going through the seventh house because it is to be open minded to dating people that you would not normally date. So that I'm so glad that you kept an open mind to that because
Jovani:I was like, Yeah, I will say because then, you know, like like I told my, you're not interested. This is fun. Like, thought this wasn't a date. We were like, he took me to a Panthers game and he went to dinner. And I was like, that's not a date.
Jovani:But yeah, and then my accident happened the next month. And then he came to the hospital because I was living by myself. So my my coworkers didn't know who my family was. So they, like, called him and he came. And then so April's my birthday.
Jovani:I was like at home. I was like stuck home for six weeks. And then May, I finally was able to go back outside. And I was like, I remember, like single to miles. My first day out, I went back to work in June and like the people that were talking to me, my friends, they worked with us.
Jovani:So like, it was just awkward going back to work. Like, I like I was a bartender at Duffy's and then I had my accident. So there's a girl who doesn't work anymore. She's actually like a really toxic person and feeling my shifts. I went back to work.
Jovani:It was awkward. And then by August 2021, me and my boyfriend, like, made it official. 2021 was rough. Like, it was like, yeah, like, no, like, friends stopped talking to me. Got to an accident in my it was like, so in my head, like about everything, just thinking like everything I was doing wrong, like, well, like, why?
Jovani:Like, what's like, why can't I get things right? Yeah. And then like, then I finally like, then the summer came and then, you know, I started dating him. I graduated. I got a new job.
Jovani:And it was like, by the 2020, we got a lot better. But the beginning was rough.
Serena:Yeah. So you said that like your current partner, is it like or wasn't the usual type that you would go for? But has his him entering your life changed your perspective on relationships or like what you need in a relationship?
Jovani:He's like, I've never had a serious relationship before. Like, he was my first, like, very serious relationship, like my first adult relationship. And it did change my perspective. Like, I remember, like, like, one time we were arguing and I hit him and he was like, Johnny, we are not going to the couple that hits each other. And I was like, Okay, you're right.
Jovani:I feel like we don't need to do that. Like, it did. Like, we don't need to be. It doesn't need to be toxic and like angry and like explosive for it to be fun. Like we have fun because we're like, we're laughing and we enjoy each other's company.
Jovani:It doesn't need to be exciting and angry. Just be exciting and fun. My way or no way. It is like, me feel like, you know, I do have to think about somebody else and be okay. Like, am I okay?
Jovani:Like making accommodations for this person or meeting them halfway? Yeah. And it's like with him, like, we're certain things like I was was with it. Like, I was fine doing it with him. Like, it didn't make me realize, like, you know, like I was being alone, like so used to being by myself and doing whatever I want is like now.
Jovani:Like, I really like this person in the beginning relationship. And I like, You know what? I'm willing to do these little things. So he starts you like patience, compromise. He do.
Jovani:Yes, he definitely do get bored very easily. Was always my thing. Like, with like my my situationships or hookups, we're just hooking up like, Okay, I'm bored. Like, we're not doing anything more than this. Like, I'm on to the next one.
Jovani:You're. Yeah. But like with him, like, is a relationship. Like, we're building something, you know?
Serena:Yeah.
Jovani:And I feel like but also, like, my Aries Venus, like, that was, like, you know, I know, like, that's kinda more like, oh, Aries Venus.
Serena:On onto
Jovani:the next. So, like, he definitely kept me entertained. Like, he doesn't feel like he keeps me laughing. Yeah. You know, like, they're so important with Aries Venus.
Jovani:It was like, oh, like, we didn't like a like a fight. I was like, you know what? Like, we moved in together the next year and I was like, you know what? I'm selling my place. Like, we're breaking up.
Jovani:Like, well, like, it was like, was like, you know what? No. Like, I'm not just gonna end it because of this fight. Like, we can work through it. And we always we always work through it.
Jovani:Like, it's always never a big deal at the end of
Serena:the day.
Jovani:Yeah. So he did teach me that.
Serena:Yeah. No. I love that. 2021 when it was squaring my natal Uranus, but it was also I also have an 11 degree Leo Mercury. Future mutable signs, future Sagittarius and Gemini risings.
Serena:If you have placements in Pisces or Virgo as well, Uranus will eventually be squaring your natal placements, and it's gonna cause a lot of tension in your home life and your career or in place of work. For me, these points of tension were actually very positive points for me and it was points of extreme growth and an extreme identity shift but it was like one of the most confident eras of my life, which was so interesting when I was like reflecting back on it. So the first square to my natal mercury was in May 2021, and this is when I first launched an old fish astro, my my astrology business. So it was like the start of my career because what I do for work is like just my job bartending, working in restaurants and nightlife. My job, my career.
Serena:My dream career is being an astrologer. So that is what I view as my public image and my career. So it's very interesting that I launched like, you know, my my brand for the first time during that that square, that transit square. It like just completely new identity shift for and like professional identity shift for me as well and then, the second time it formed an exact square was February 2022 And I was also going through an identity shift shift at the time, and that was definitely being open minded to exploring with women. During this time, I was like, I want to not only hook up with women, but I want to date women because prior to this, I was I only thought I could have sexual relationships with women, and I thought all women felt like that.
Serena:Like you find other women very attractive. You want to hook up with them, you want to have sex with them, like whatever. I just thought it was just that. And until I realized that it wasn't just that, and now all women feel like this. And I was like, Oh, let's actually start dating women.
Serena:And I just wasn't ever emotionally able to get there. I feel like I tried with some women, but I was just like, still fighting how I grew up with the traditions and needing a man. Would say like 2021 was like that battle of my sexuality and like inner turmoil. Barely anyone knew that was happening. I don't think anyone knew that was happening inside my head.
Serena:And then I was on dating apps with women. I don't think anyone knew that. Like any of my friends knew that I kept that in the closet for a while. But it wasn't until the 2022 that I was like openly telling people I want to seriously date women. I dye my hair red at the time, so it was definitely like another identity shift.
Serena:Oh, and during this time, too. So I was making a square like what I said, was going to affect my professional and my home life. My mom and my family moved out of the house that we grew up in, and I was actually the last one to live in the house. My dad wasn't living with us for a while, but my mom, my brother, my sister moved out of the house and I was still living at the in the house during that time. But everyone else was moved out.
Serena:And so this was definitely a shift of, you know, I grew up in that house. That was definitely like a a family shift then caused, I guess, like, you know, an identity shift. So there was just a lot shifting during that time. So if you have like fourth and tenth house placements, you can definitely maybe relate to this when you're in a starts hitting those aspects. Or if you have your Midhaven and I see in your fourth and tenth house as well, You can this these are types of shifts that you might go through extreme changes surrounding your home life and extreme changes surrounding kind of your professional career as well.
Serena:May to December 2022. Do you can you recall anything? Any sudden shifts, any separations, any extreme meetings? This is when Uranus was exactly going over your descendant, which means it was opposing your Scorpio rising, and it just means that this was the crisis point of liberation for you. So like from twenty eighteen to twenty twenty two, it was like that buildup of you learning can be on my own relationship shifts, like your perspective on relationship shifting.
Serena:But then May 2022 was like that crisis time period where you were like kind of took all those lessons that you learned and started, I guess, putting it into motion December 2023 to March 2024. More big crisis time period.
Jovani:So May so the 2022 was on probation. But I do know in August, like in like July, August, I had bought my first condo. I bought my condo and I moved in with my partner. Like, we had been together for a year. So that was like a big thing.
Jovani:I didn't know if I wanted to live with him. That was a big shift, like learning to because before that, was living by myself. I also just bought my condo and it was like a fixer upper. I redid the entire kitchen, being like making like big adult decisions. Yeah.
Jovani:And I love my kitchen. My kitchen is so beautiful. Yeah. Like, don't love to cook. So was like, this is like a really big thing.
Jovani:And then we had to like move and it was a lot. It was definitely a lot like it was like a big like I felt like I became more of an adult with that. Like having to not pay my mortgage, have a homeowner's insurance, have like the HOA. So that was like a big shift for me just like in my life Mhmm. And now being like like I mean, we weren't married, but, you know, we're living together with my with my partner.
Jovani:Like Yeah.
Serena:You know? A new chapter. Yeah. Your relationship. Yeah.
Serena:And so then kind of like what I was saying earlier in the podcast about myself, the the the tense aspect, the square that I was talking about, so your tenth and fourth house that can change your career direction and your home life situation. So for you, that square was happening to your MC and your IC. So those areas, spring and summer twenty twenty four. So was there a shift in your career and your home life like around that time or your family?
Jovani:Yeah. So spring twenty twenty four, I quit my job like right before Memorial Day weekend and I went on a trip. And then the week I came back from my trip, Memorial Day weekend, I got pregnant. I was unemployed.
Serena:She's a mommy. Mama, she's a From that moment that you realized that you were pregnant, do you feel like that was an extreme sudden shift for you because it wasn't planned, right?
Jovani:It wasn't planned, not on my part. My boyfriend really wanted a baby. In my mind, I was 27 at that time when I found out I was pregnant and I thought in my mind, like my mom had me at 33 and I'm her first child. So was like in my thirties when I wanna start like having kids, if that was what happened, if it happened, it happened, if it didn't, it didn't. I really love him and he treats me so good.
Jovani:Like he would be such a great father and I like, he loves me. I wanna see what our love could be. Like, you know, I wanna see our love like in a form of something else. And I was like, you know what? Like, so it did make me kind of like, what are gonna do?
Jovani:Was like, I'm gonna keep it. What happened was, so I got the job like where I work now and I went to our old job and I like, oh, finally got a job, like let me drink. So I had some drinks and I went home and I was feeding the cats the next day and they have the smell of the dry cat food made me throw up. And it looked like like egg yolk and I googled it and I was like, what is this? They're like, pregnancy or stomach cancer.
Jovani:And I was like, oh my god. We got stomach cancer. You're like, it's stomach cancer too. I thought there's no way I'm pregnant. I got cancer.
Jovani:I know. He's like, no. Please don't get Yeah. Change your identity. Because I was like, oh my god, like thinking about like now I have life insurance, like thinking about like what's going to happen in the future.
Jovani:Like what if something happens to me, like who's gonna raise this baby like or what what's gonna happen to this baby? Like, you know, when she goes to school or like when she goes play at the park, that did change my mind.
Serena:I think it's so interesting, like, to see the roller coaster of Uranus going through your seventh house of relationships and opposing your your house of identity because you show the shift of at the beginning, you were like, kind of had, like, a certain mindset, traditional. You thought your relationship was, like, a little codependency, and then you freed yourself, was focusing on only yourself. And then the end of the transit, it's, now you're not just living for yourself. And now, like, you have your daughter thinking of not only just yourself, but
Jovani:thinking about my partner and my my dependent. Yeah. So it is. Yeah, interesting. It is.
Jovani:Yeah, crazy how, like, twenty, like thinking like seven years ago, like where I was like and seeing now, like, never thought I don't think I would be here. And like, I'm happy with it. I'm happy where I am. Not maybe not with my job, but with my life and my family and like myself. I'm happy.
Jovani:Yeah. Like, I'm very
Serena:content. Yeah. That's awesome. Uranus is the the journey of liberation. So Uranus going through the seventh house, it showed it brings unexpected events.
Serena:So definitely that unexpected events, unexpectedly getting pregnant, and then changing your relationship dynamic your partner. One, two, and doing things unconventionally in a relationship. So like what what's usually of the norm is like getting married and then having a baby, right? Like we are
Jovani:not married.
Serena:Yeah. So this is a a literal thing of doing something outside of the norm very on par for where you're just going through the seventh house and then squaring your fourth house. So created, like, a unexpected event in your relationship and then shifted your family dynamic too and how you were living and then also shifted your identity because you went from, you know, being a woman in her twenties to now, you're a mother. So shifted, like, your perspective on life of not just caring about or looking out for yourself but also looking out for your daughter.
Jovani:Yeah.
Serena:I feel like because it was an unexpected pregnancy, that's very much urine urine us in play like unexpectedly shifting things for you. For me, like it was unexpected heart betrayals and heartbreak, unexpected breakups, unexpected meetings of my partners too of, like, the two women that I dated, unexpected meetings of just friendships, but unexpected friendship breakup breakups as well. I met so many people throughout this transit and had so many different, like, friend groups. And I would say that my solid high school friend groups have stayed. Everybody else kind of you know, no beef.
Serena:We just kind of faded away but I I went through two friendship breakups throughout this time period of like people who I was very close with because you have a 17 degrees Scorpio rising. You kind of had that build up from like 2018 till 2022, 2023. Crisis that caused like that shift was I guess lines up with you getting pregnant. Yeah. For me, like I have a 27 degree Scorpio rising.
Serena:So, the buildup was like all my relationship lessons and when Uranus was at 26 degrees, something happened to me which completely shifted my perspective that I was moving to erratically and and impulsively especially with drinking and stuff like that. So, when Uranus was exactly at 27 degrees, which was exactly opposite my Scorpio rising which in opposition creates like a pull. You need to find a balance. You're either leaning too far one way or too far the other way and for me, like the pull and needing to find the balance was needing moderation in my life and that's when I decided to go sober. So, I feel like the build up for me and it gave me a sense of liberation in a way that I had to completely relearn who I was outside of escaping through like drinking and doing drugs and partying and relationships.
Serena:So, me getting sober for the past year has definitely shifted my perspective a lot on who I am as a person, what I want from life, what I want for a family, and that I need to get more serious if I want like the type of future I want, not only just the type of professional future but the type of family future I want too. So that's definitely like an interesting thing that I feel like at the end of a a Uranus transit that I'm curious to know if other Scorpio Risings or Taurus Risings have dealt with this and they're seeing this in their life lessons over the past seven years that at the end of this Uranus transit, if you find that you are just way more of a mature person, like content because like what you said, you're in a very, like, content period of your life Yeah. Right now too. There was, like, a lot of, like, buildup to that, a lot of heartbreak. And I would say, me too.
Serena:Like, I'm at a very content time period of my life too. Obviously, a lot of heartbreak led up to that but I feel the most me that I felt in a very long time and I think that is maybe the lesson of Uranus. Definitely, like two different experiences. I Uranus definitely brought me a lot of romantic breakups, but that doesn't mean that Uranus is only going to bring romantic breakups because you literally have the same partner for the past four years.
Jovani:Yeah.
Serena:So it can also mean just doing things unconventionally in a relationship, dating someone who you never would have, you know,
Jovani:dated usually. Stepping out of my comfort zone.
Serena:Yeah. Also friendships too. Now, like, not just dating people outside of your usual type, also becoming friends with people who normally you maybe wouldn't become friends with. Some people with urine is through the sunk house. They hear or the first house they hear, you know, all these identity shifts, some erratic energy surrounding relationships.
Serena:So people get scared that who they're with now, they're not gonna end up with. And that's not per se what's going to happen, but what's going to happen is your identity shifts a lot and because of that, it can bring romantic shake ups because you're changing yourself or it means like your partner is changing a lot. So, then, it changes like your relationship but I think that if, you know, your relationship, you grow together and you're accepting of each other and it makes it past this transit, then it's really solid. There's always there needs to be a 100% on both sides of a relationship and a a want and a need to grow together and Yeah. Accept transformations in your partner.
Serena:Wanting more freedom in relationships, that was definitely a theme. And for me, I don't know if that's something that you went through or had to fight through. But for me, personally, like romantic relationships, all of them didn't work out because I felt like I was being too constricted. So I think that's the theme with Uranus through the seventh house too.
Jovani:I will say, I think in my relationship now, I feel I feel like I do have good freedom. I feel like we both do. I do think we have a lot of freedom, though, because our work schedules were so opposite. Like I would work morning and he would work night or he would work morning and I would work night. So I would have like my alone time or like I went to I went to Philly by my like not by myself.
Jovani:But without him, I went to California without him. I went to El Salvador without him. Yeah. And me, I'm sure he was upset and like wanted to go to. But but I never felt like, oh, I can't do this because of my partner.
Jovani:It's never Oh, you can't go here. You can't hang out with these people. I always had my freedom. Like, if I want to hang out with these people or do this thing, if he doesn't want to do it, I would go do it myself. And he's not gonna be like, Oh, well, I feel uncomfortable with that.
Serena:It's never been like that. That's really important. So that's probably a big reason why the relationship like has stayed because any type of relationship that Sagittarius or Gemini rising that you're in right now that are that you're entering or going to enter and it's suffocating or restricting and it's not giving the freedom like that, you're definitely going to feel like restless. Like, you want to get out of that. Having people around you who support your need for freedom and independence is extremely important during this time period.
Serena:So that's probably like a good thing for your relationship that you had that that made it grow. Didn't let you do those things and didn't let you travel.
Jovani:I had to be gone. You would not be the other. Yeah. Exactly. If I felt restricted, yeah, I would not.
Serena:Meetings of people that change your life in unimaginable ways. I mean, I definitely feel like I have met a handful of people who definitely changed my perspective on life for sure. And yeah, I mean, I think we touched upon everything.
Jovani:I think, yeah, I went from from identities like, you know, being like, really depend on my friends and like being like, like, and my family and then being more about myself and then not being like a girlfriend, like a partner. And now now being a mom, like my identity has like shift like a lot. Yeah. And yeah, that's and it's so crazy. Like to think about, like, seven, eight years ago, like who would have thought like, and now here I am, like, a mom, a mom, mom, seat, which I'm not happy with.
Jovani:Like, you know, people are like, oh, people are like, when they become the mom, they lose their identity. Like, they don't know who they are. I feel like I don't feel that way. Good. I don't know if that makes me a bad mom or what, but I feel like,
Serena:No, I don't think so at all. I think the people who lose themselves and just being a mother actually end up being very like unfulfilled and depressed. I'm really grateful for that.
Jovani:So it gets good.
Serena:I love that. Yeah. Well, thank you so much for coming on this podcast. Thank you for getting vulnerable with me and talking to me about your life experiences. On my TikTok, I always get advice for people who are about to go through this transit.
Serena:So this was like the inspiration for that. So I think it's very knowledgeable information for people who are about to go through this life changing transit. So
Jovani:Yeah. I would say just give yourself grace. That
Serena:is