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Unknown: You are listening to
the limitless podcast. I'm your
host. Deanna Herron, what if you
had no limitations keeping you
from your dream life in 2016 I
had a major tug on my heart to
write a book about my story, and
in the process, I learned that I
had been operating with a very
faulty belief system for the
majority of my life. I've had a
huge transformation since then,
and my life's passion and
mission is to teach you how to
live a limitless life. Join me
on this journey. Let's get
started.
Welcome back to the final part
of this workshop series, where
I've been sharing snippets from
my last workshop unlock the keys
to a better marriage. Today,
you're going to listen to a live
coaching session from the
workshop where a very brave
woman shares what she's been
struggling with, and together we
work through the places where
she's been stuck, helping her
step into a new way of seeing
her life and her marriage
afterward, I'll share some final
thoughts to support you as you
keep moving forward on your
journey. Here's the heart of the
work.
So the resentment is that we
can't talk about money without
his panicking about what we
lack. We work hard, and he has a
fear of never having enough. So
in that situation, is that a
story that keeps popping up over
and over, yes, your marriage,
okay? And I'm assuming it gets
more and more heightened every
time, yes, okay. And then when
you walk away from the conflict,
does it seem like there's ever a
resolution? No, okay? So I want
you to think about a
circumstance that happened most
recent, and what is the story
that you're telling yourself
based on what's happening with
him? So if you think about the
situation, there's an underlying
story you feel triggered. And
where do you feel the trigger in
your body? Lately, it's been in
my stomach and sometimes like
chest, heart, my heart races,
and I just feel sick about it.
Yeah, a sick feeling, yeah. And
so when you think about the the
latest circumstance, like when
you feel that sickness in your
body, what is that? What is that
circumstance meaning about you?
What's the story of, I am not
what. I'm not enough. You know,
I'm feeling like I'm not
bringing in enough. I'm not
doing enough to give relief to
us as a family, rather than he's
taking it on himself.
Yeah. So do you recall a story
about money from your childhood,
from my childhood? Yes, lots of
them. Okay, my father was never
good with money and filed
bankruptcy like three times, and
our house was in and out of the
newspaper of getting potentially
foreclosed on. And so I think
it's definitely been a fear of
mine. So does that story of what
was happening in your childhood?
What's the story from that
particular time that your family
can break apart from money?
Okay? So do you you have a fear
that your family will break
apart because of money? Okay?
What else? What else did that
make you feel like that your
family was in the newspaper.
It's embarrassing. I guess
that's kind of an ego thing. But
you know, does it make you feel
very safe? Does it make you feel
very secure when you have those
types of things going on, not
really knowing what's next?
So the embarrassment. Can you
tell me more about about the
embarrassment? What's the story
under the embarrassment, like
I'm embarrassed because, yeah,
so my dad, I guess, in my
opinion, kind of became like the
laughing talk of the town.
It's a small town, so everybody
knows everybody, and it's
carried through in my adult
life. We actually still live in
this town. We didn't live here
for a while, and then we moved
back. And so you still bump into
all kinds of people that some my
last name has changed, and
sometimes it's better, you know,
because I'm married, but then
they figure it out, yeah, and
then I feel that they associate
me with him, which, you know,
I'm not like that. He had a
business. He, you know, wasn't a
good businessman. He owed a lot
of people money locally, and
he's a good heart. He's just not
good with money. Or that's the
way I view it anyway, yeah. So
what I heard you say is you feel
like you have to hide from that
past, yeah? Like, in some ways,
I guess,
yeah, yeah. And so that is a
fear of what, I guess I don't
even know. I don't want to
duplicate that in my own life,
with my own kids and my own
family. Yeah, what does that say
about you? I have to hide from
my past. So what does that mean
about you that I'm insecure
about with my best
Yeah? Or maybe I'm.
Not enough, yeah, yeah,
yeah. So that goes back to the
original story that you feel
during the trigger So,
and this is very normal, you
guys, I just want thank you for
doing this crystal. We're not
through we're going to heal this
story. But that goes this is
something that is just with one
resentment piece there were,
there are actually four stories,
and this is a very common thing
to happen. So with this one
piece of resentment, she has
this fear that her family is
going to fall apart because of
money. Is that? What's what
happened in her childhood? She
has a fear that she's not safe.
She has a fear that she's not
secure, and she feels like she's
not enough. She's constantly
hiding from that past
experience. Okay, so, so
profound. What can can pop up
just with one situation?
Let's look at I am not safe.
Okay, yep, yeah. How does that
one feel in your body? Not good.
I mean, definitely I could feel
I've definitely feel more
irritable, and it keeps
building. So I just feel very
jumpy and anxious around
everybody, especially my kids
and my dogs. When they start
barking and like, just my body,
I just feel my whole body is
just on edge. Yeah, yeah, your
nervous system, you're in fight
or flight. No, yeah. So when
we're looking at our belief
systems, I like to describe it
as you guys. We're all on
computers or on on our iPhone,
whatever that is, and we are
born into this world, hardwired.
So think about that with your
computer. You get your computer
and there it's already hardwired
with with different programs.
And those programs that come
hardwired onto our computer are
mainly programs that are going
to serve us. I serve us in a you
unique way. Okay, they're not
going to harm us, is what I mean
by that. So they're not programs
that are going to, you know,
kill our computer, or programs
that are going to cause us any
harm. That's your hard wire. So
we come into this world,
hardwired with beliefs of, I
mean, God has made you limitless
possibilities. You are giving
the given the power to have an
amazing life with infinite
possibilities and Crystal when
you were born into this world,
you know, if I were to open you
up and find the Made in USA tag
on you. There's nowhere on that
tag that said made in USA
crystal, by the way, she's not
safe,
yeah. So that comes into our
computer system as the software
and our software, it's just like
on our computer, our software is
something that there can be
viruses in our software, and
those viruses can be harmful,
and your beliefs are basically a
virus into your computer system.
And a lot of times, what happens
when we have our computers, and
I'm very guilty of this, our
computer will give us a little
it'll start that pin wheeling on
the computer letting us know
things are really slow right
now, Sister, you got to do
something here, like you can't
even work on your computer
because it's so slow in that
pinwheel. And then there's a
little box that pops up that
says it's time to upgrade. And
we're busy. We're doing things
we don't want. No, we don't want
any lag time in our life
whatsoever. We don't I don't
have time for that right now.
I'm busy doing my work. So we
hit the button that says, remind
me later. Remind me later. It's
the same thing that happens with
our triggers, our feelings, in
our body, those stories that we
tell ourselves. I'm too busy to
feel this right now, click later
and later becomes almost a time
bomb, like I said, because over
time when we're not actually
experiencing those emotions, it
goes into our body, and that's
what causes the this ease in our
body, changes in our physiology
and so crystal just knowing that
you're hardwired for limitless
possibilities. You're hardwired.
This is a software that's just a
virus that's not your truth.
Yes, yeah, yep. How does that
feel to you? How does that feel
really good? Yeah. Makes you
feel empowered again, yeah, so
you do have control over a lot
of it, so always remind yourself
go back to your hard wire.
Always okay in those situations.
That's going to be practice to
be able to do that is to step
away from the circumstance when
you are having the discussion.
Go, okay. I'm feeling that in my
body right now. I recognize
this. I am safe. I am safe. I'm
not hardwired not to be safe. I
am safe. But the truth is,
there's some time in your
probably in your childhood,
where you were made to not feel
safe, being who you are, and
when we are made not to feel
safe with who we are convinced a
kid in the playground that said,
you know, your tennis shoes are
dirty, or your shorts are too
big, or whatever it is, we make
the decision that we're not safe
being us,
and so then we start to wear
masks. We start to put on the
the mask of a chameleon so that
we can receive love and
acceptance in the world, because
we're obviously not safe enough
to experience it just on our
own. So the different ways that
we do that is we go into
achievement mode. We go into
seeking out, you know,
affirmation in the world,
seeking out titles, seeking out
money. So it all comes from the
external world. Does that make
sense? Yeah, until we finally
recognize this isn't working.
Like none of this is filling
that void I still don't feel.
Probably don't say this in your
mind, I still don't feel safe,
but we what we are all truly
looking for is love and
acceptance, and when we can
learn to love and accept
ourselves, we can actually learn
to be safe in our bodies as
well. So instead of the story I
am not safe, what would be a
newer story, and sometimes we
have to have a little bit of a
bridge in between. I'm not safe
to I am safe. Maybe it's like
I'm open to learning to feeling
safe in my body.
I like what you said, where you
know it's okay. I recognize that
I don't feel or I recognize
this, but I'm choosing to take
the path, taking the path of
feeling safe again. Yes, good.
And one of the ways that you can
do that is when you start
feeling that angst in your body,
you can give yourself permission
to say, You know what this is, I
love you. We're going to be
fine. But I need to take just a
step back for a moment and
gather myself, because this is
not making my body feel well,
and so learning to step away
from the situation and take a
couple of deep breaths, go out
on the front porch, take a quick
walk, just let your husband know
we're okay. I just need to go,
step out, get some fresh air,
process, a few things, and I'll
be back in 30 minutes or less.
Whatever that is
that is actually letting your
body know that you're taking
care of your body, and your
priority is to make your body
feel safe. And so you start to
trust yourself. Do you feel like
you can do that? Yeah, yep,
it'll take a lot of effort, but
yes, yeah. So what's the
scariest part of that? I don't
think it's scary. It's more just
getting myself to stop in that
moment and walk away. Yes, the
pattern I need to break because
I'm Yes, yeah, yeah, I'm the
talker, I guess. Yeah. That's
the pattern disruption, yes,
yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's the
disruption that your body needs
to know. Okay, she's taking care
of me. She's gonna I can calm
down my nervous system here.
Yeah, she's taking care of me.
The reason why I ask you that
question is, sometimes when we
decide to take a little break,
and I know you very well, and
I'm not saying this is what
you're thinking, but I know your
situation, sometimes when we
decide to take that break and
say we're fine, I just need to
process some emotions. Let me
step away. I need to take a
breather, and I'll be back in 30
minutes. Sometimes even that
thought 30 minutes, okay, what
is, what about the kids, I'm
going to feel guilty taking 30
minutes away,
right? Yep, yeah, yeah, but it's
learning to protect yourself,
yeah, and that you are worth the
break your body is worth that
break for a few minutes so that
you can come back thinking,
clear, Yep, yeah. So tell me how
your body feels now. Much more
calm. I feel like I can breathe
deep again.
It's good, yeah, it's a process.
Safety is an issue for a lot of
us. You guys. So crystal, thank
you. My love. That was Yeah, so
beautiful. That's a story I
haven't heard from you. So
that's that's how I wanted to to
work through that one. Anyone
else relate to that story? Not
feeling safe in your body? Yeah,
for sure. So with doing this
work, the next thing that I
would do with crystal is we
would do.
Some, some breath work. Do some,
some other modalities that I use
to move that stuck energy out of
our body. Okay, breath work is
is amazing for that. If you
haven't done any breath work
before, that is actually one of
my favorites to do. You can
really feel a massive release.
Journaling is awesome too.
There's some magic that happens
when you journal four pages, and
so really, by the fourth page,
the whole story dynamic starts
to come out on that fourth page.
So that releases some energy.
Going for a walk, releases
energy. Any kind of movement
will really do that. But I would
be remiss to help someone with
their mindset and not help them
move the body, the move the body
and change the heart. So
eventually we would work on the
forgiveness piece as well. Okay,
so I want to share with you guys
our story, so a little bit
deeper, so you kind of
understand what we worked
through. So what I what I shared
with you tonight, with the
breakthroughs that's, that's
actually what I do with with my
clients. And we go ahead and we,
you know, go all the way through
the process, and then we, you
know, move, move the emotion out
of the body. So it's, it's
pretty transformational. And the
more work that you do crystal,
we, you know, we uncovered four
stories, and the more work you
do, the more stories you
uncover. So it's pretty amazing
to see what happens. But our
story in our marriage, you know,
I shared with you that we're at
a place that we have never been
very happily married. Our
marriage had, had been good for
years, but it definitely wasn't
awesome. But there was a time
where we were actually 24 hours
from filing a divorce. Yeah, 24
hours and we, you know, went
from 24 hours from filing a
divorce to really feeling very
safe with each other. We
communicate well, we enjoy each
other's presence. Now, minimal
triggers, I'm not saying there
aren't any. We're both
constantly growing, but we do
have minimal triggers. We
definitely know how to work
through those. And the intimacy
is back when we first married,
my husband was a coach, and he
was gone all the time. He was
mentally gone when he was home,
but he was physically gone when
he was on the road, when he was
coaching. We were both very
emotionally immature. We did not
know how to manage our emotions.
We didn't know how to how to
communicate our emotions. Very,
very emotionally immature. And
he actually had no emotion. He
showed no emotion. And I am one
that experiences it all. I am
the emotion. I show my emotion.
I played the role of The Good
Wife, holding the responsibility
of literally all things, and
practicing medicine as a PA
while I was raising kids, doing
all of the house things, paying
the bills, it was a lot, and it
was in Year 15 where we were
just roommates, and we were
going through the motions, but
completely disconnected from
each other, 24 hours from
Filing, and we ended up in a
three day very intensive
counseling. We had two
counselors in the room with us
for eight hours, for three days.
We literally we learned a lot
about what to do, but nothing
about how to heal. Why, why we
needed to heal. Our part. We
knew nothing about that, learn
nothing about that. So our
marriage just became kind of
status quo, good, but it wasn't
awesome. We would still have
courage, we still had
resentment. We still had fights
over and over. We played the
blame game because I felt he was
responsible for my happiness. He
felt I was responsible for his
happiness, and we just were
missing the mark. It didn't
matter how many times I read
five love languages, we were
missing the mark. It just it
didn't work. And our default is
always trying to change what is
outside of us, so trying to
change each other, that is our
default mechanism. And this
really causes that never ending
struggle. And we just say, in
that victim mentality, being
being powerless over the
situation, but I want you to
know that you are not powerless.
I'm not powerless. Our spouses
aren't powerless, but we become
powerless because we're making
someone else responsible for our
happiness. You are powerful, and
it's time, really for you to
take your power back. And that's
really what I did eight years
ago when I went on my own
journey of healing. The final
straw for me was, it was the
final straw, really. And it was,
it was for me, looking at my
part in my marriage, and I want
you guys to know I really didn't
want to do it. I'm being really
honest, I didn't want to do it.
I felt extremely hurt. And truth
be told, I had one foot in and
one foot out of my marriage at
that time, because I was
constantly thinking about what
life would look like without
him. And I don't know if any of
you guys are there, but I'm here
to tell you, that's where I was,
and my breaking point was. I had
worked through a lot of
relationships in my healing a
lot of.
Relationships. I had worked
through my wounds with my
mother, my wounds with my
father. I'd worked through a lot
of that, but my breaking point
was really recognizing because I
knew that every relationship is
here to teach us where we are
not free, and life will continue
to bring people's circumstances
into your life, to show you the
areas where you're not free. I
knew that, and I knew that I was
still getting triggered in my
marriage. So that meant I was
not healed in this relationship.
And if I wasn't healed in this
relationship, what that meant is
if I ever chose to lose to leave
the relationship, that I would
take the same issues with me to
the next I knew that, and I'm
just admitting that it's it's
true. And the reason why I
started that journey is because
I was telling myself, regardless
of what happens in this
marriage, I'm not all in, I'm
one foot in, one one foot out,
but regardless of what happens
in this marriage, I need to heal
myself, because if I ever get in
another relationship, I don't
want these to play out in that
relationship, because ideally, I
will attract the same person. I
will attract the same person.
And that's why I began to do the
work. And it changed everything.
If, when I started that journey,
I started the journey, and I
still wasn't all in, then I put
both feet in, into my marriage,
and it changed everything. And
after this experience in my
life, this is when I knew that
my mission was to help women go
through the same thing, to help
you guys go through the same but
I knew that, you know, modules
and trainings weren't enough,
because I've actually done
those. I've created those and
just doing a module and just
doing a training without having
a community and my guidance
through the process, it doesn't
work. And so that's why I
created the limitless lounge.
And so the limitless Lounge is a
new program that we are just
launching, and it's actually a
Facebook community of like
minded women who are ready for a
journey of self discovery, a
journey of self discovery in
your marriage, or whatever that
is, I truly believe in shoulder
to shoulder leadership when it
comes to women and when one
heals, we all heal because it's
hearing the stories of other
women in the group. Their
breakthroughs change something
deep within us, just like you
experienced with crystal.
Probably a lot of you were like,
Yes, I Yes, I can feel that I
don't feel safe in my body. And
just hearing what she went
through, it changed something
inside you. So inside the
limitless lounge that I'm so
excited about is the free your
mind, course so to rewire
subconscious patterns Queen's
criteria, this will redefine
what you truly want in your
partnership, their abundance
codes shift your thoughts from
lack and limitation to your
innate worth. We share our real,
raw story. My husband does as
well. But here's the difference
with this, is there's ongoing
support from me. In this
community, we have hot seat
coaching once or twice a month.
There will be hot seat coaching
with whatever it is that you
want, coaching from me through.
And then we do a monthly live
breath work session to help move
the energy out of your body. And
then, of course, anytime you
have questions about anything
that you're going through, we're
going to be there to answer
those for you. All of this is
for $27 a month, and you can
cancel that at any time. But you
could also do a monthly
membership, excuse me, a yearly
membership, if you would like
to. It's cheaper. It's $297
for the year, and that's 11
months, plus one month free. And
so tonight is the first of this
program. And so that is what we
have been doing for the last
three weeks, is getting this
ready. And I wanted to create
this program because I wanted to
make this accessible to everyone
going through this I didn't want
anyone that couldn't afford
something bigger not to have
access to the change that I've
experienced and the change that
many, many, many of my clients
have, and 1000s, 1000s of women
just doing this work. I wanted
it to be accessible to everyone.
If this is something that
intrigues you, I would love to
have you in this group. I would
love to support you through your
processes. Maybe you are one
that is thinking, You know what?
I I'm not really comfortable
sharing my stuff, and that's
okay. You can sit in the
background and just pay
attention to everyone else's
stories, do the modules, and at
some point, you will feel
comfortable. You'll feel a
little more comfortable to
share, because you'll start to
see that the vulnerability of
the group is just absolutely
incredible. That's what we do on
my teams. We do create this
community of people who love and
accept each other, and it's one
of the most amazing things. One
of my programs is called
Becoming limitless.
With a group of women that we've
been together for quite some
time, and it is they just feel
like sisters. They would call
each other if they ever need
anything, and they know that
each other would have their back
100% and that's what we do. This
isn't just a course, it's
actually commitment to yourself,
and I would love again, to
support you in this. So I want
to leave you with just a couple
of thoughts, just a couple of
thoughts. I want to leave you
with a thought of remembrance,
of remembrance that you truly
are limitless. You truly are
boundless, and the only
limitations that you have are
the limitations that you have
chosen to believe, and those
beliefs can be changed. You can
live a life free of the
constraints that are holding you
back, and those constraints are
just the stories that are
playing in your mind. We are
actually holding ourselves
prisoner because of number one,
a story. And if you think about
a story, I am not important,
whatever that is, when you even
say the words, I am not
important, it's a sound, it's
words, and we are holding
ourself hostage going through a
life of suffering because of
words and sound, words and sound
that really are not your truth.
So it's time to take your power
back, my friend, and I'm here to
support you. Share it with the
women that you love, if you
enjoyed this information, and I
hope to see you in limitless
lounge. God bless everyone.
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