Ep. 102 - How to Pray with Authority So You Actually Get ANSWERS

If the atmosphere in your home feels heavy, cold, disconnected, or spiritually attacked — today’s teaching is your turning point.

Most Christian husbands were taught to pray as beggars, not sons. To hope instead of command. To plead instead of decree. To wait on God’s will instead of standing in the authority Jesus already handed them.

But Jesus didn’t tell you to beg the mountain.
He told you to speak to it.

In this episode, I walk you step-by-step through breakthrough praying — the kind that actually moves in the real world. The kind that pushes back darkness, restores connection, ignites atmosphere, and awakens the king inside you. This is the shift from victim-prayer to kingdom-prayer.

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If you are fighting for your marriage right now and you feel like the atmosphere in your home is heavy, it's cold, it's disconnected under spiritual attack, then this episode is for you.

Too many of us husbands do not have any clue how to pray with authority. We have no idea how to pray and even see answers. This is why we get teaching that says, God sometimes says yes, but otherwise he'll say no or not yet. And God will always say yes to your needs. He'll give you your needs, but he won't necessarily always give you your desires. We get these teachings made up about prayer that you can't find in scripture.

but they come because we don't know how to pray and actually get answers. So we have to come up with some kind of explanation.

So most of us have no clue how to pray in a way that actually gets answers. We pray like beggars, not like sons.

We pray like victims and not like men who actually carry the kingdom, men who are victorious.

So today I want to walk you through breakthrough praying that actually changes the atmosphere of your life. That actually pushes back darkness.

and seize answers in your real world, in your real circumstances. And not only that, but it helps you come alive as the man, the warrior, the king that you were made to be.

Good afternoon. Welcome to another episode of the Man Warrior King podcast. I am your host, Matt Hallett, the author of the book, The DNA of a Man. I'm the founder of the Man Warrior King movement and the creator of the Masculine Husband Transformation Program. Today, I want to talk with you about how to pray in a way that will actually get answers to your praying.

We have a pandemic in our church world of non-answered prayers. It's a real big problem.

And what makes it even more of a problem is that this phenomenon of prayers going unanswered has actually become more more institutionalized over the years. And we have begun having teachings put out there that say things like, God will always answer your prayers. And His answer will either be yes, no, or not yet.

Or we have other teaching that talks about how God always gives you what you need, but not necessarily what you want. And I understand somewhat the heart behind these things, but I will tell you, we have doctrine and theology that's getting created that's not actually in the scripture. It's not part of what God has actually said about prayer. And both of those things are actually completely contrary to what Jesus has said.

And this is a really big problem for men who are looking to up level their lives because very often they don't have the other keys that it takes to actually see transformation. And so they are often told to pray and ask God and trust God with his timing and trust that God knows what he's doing and God's got this and yeah, just keep giving it to him, brother.

So you get men who are praying, particularly for their marriages, and they're praying in these ways that don't actually do jack. And so they feel like God doesn't care about what it is that they're praying, it makes them get more discouraged and depressed. It's not helpful.

So for you, how do you pray? This could be about your marriage. This could be about anything, honestly. It could be about your health, about your finances, about your kids, about your job, your business, your church, your ministry that you lead, your neighborhood, anything. How do you pray in a way that actually gets answers to prayer?

So.

Most of the time we pray in a way that feels right, but clearly based on how often you and I have seen prayers answered, it doesn't actually work. And it goes something like this, God, would you please fix my marriage? God, would you please change my wife? God, would you please help us to see each other more clearly?

God, would you please heal me if it's your will?

We pray prayers that are asking God, you please do this or that or the other thing?

And this exposes a deeply flawed underlying paradigm that Christianity is currently operating in. And that paradigm is that it's only God who can do anything of value and we can do nothing. And so if I want to see anything change, it comes because God has decided at my request

to do a new thing that he wasn't doing before.

And so we end up seeing prayer as this exercise where ⁓ I am asking as hard as I can, as much as I can. So hopefully God will eventually change his mind and do the thing. So it becomes an act of begging and pleading if I have to go on long enough to try to convince who is supposed to be a really loving father.

to move himself to action on my behalf.

and what is missing from this version of praying.

is the completely instrumental and foundational idea that you actually carry authority, not only God. ⁓ boy, I can hear the religious attacks come in my way at any moment. How dare...

How dare I? I'm just reading scripture.

Jesus himself literally said he gave us authority. The Gospels tell us that he gave us authority over all infirmities and unclean spirits.

Romans tells us that we are to reign in life through him. You have authority whether that makes you uncomfortable or not is irrelevant. It's what he said.

You are designed to walk this earth as a king and your wife as a queen.

and you are designed, you know, kind of to live as like what I say goes. You are meant to subdue this earth, to take dominion over it and to bring it into obedience to the kingdom.

But we don't understand this and so we pray that God would you please. And we end up in our praying, we end up taking on a posture of weakness, of fear and timidity. And so we wonder why I'm unattractive to my wife. It's because my very, the thing that is the most central to who I am, my faith.

I've been trained to engage in my faith in a way that is passive and weak.

And so if my faith is producing this in me, then it's going to start to seep out to all kinds of areas of my life. And of course, my wife isn't going to be attracted. She was never wired to be attracted to a weak, passive, begging man. was attracted, wired to be attracted to a confident, conquering, assertive man, confident in, in his identity and position in his father's kingdom.

So when a husband prays as a victim, the marriage, the home becomes shaped by victim.

When you pray from fear, fear becomes the atmosphere around you.

But when you pray from authority...

Now you begin to radiate and also usher in the atmosphere of heaven.

And I don't care who doesn't like it or does like it. The truth of the matter is you husband, you are the head of your home. You are the leader of your home. You're the leader of your wife. That does not mean that you are the domineering dominator. It does not mean that I am not an egalitarian or complementarian anything. I think both are wrong, but you are a leader of your home.

You are the tone setter. You are the headwaters. So what comes out of you is going to flavor everybody else in your house.

So if you're praying in angst and begging...

It's going to affect your wife, whether she even sees you bring her.

So we've got to get our praying right.

So we're gonna look at two places of scripture.

for Well, maybe three. Well, no, two, because I'm not going to force you to flip around all over the place.

The Book of James, Chapter 5.

Verse 16 says, confess your sins one to another, pray for one another that you may be healed. Okay, talking about physical healing right there. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. Notice it does not say God has so much power as he answers your prayers. It says that the prayer of a righteous person itself is powerful. Your prayers are powerful. Right there, that's important.

And you have to get rid of the lies that say that your prayers are not powerful on their own. They are. Because you're a son, your words mean something. And the word says it.

Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed fervently that it might not rain. And for three years and six months, it did not rain on the earth. Then he prayed again, and heaven gave rain, and the earth bore its fruit. It says, like, we look at scripture and we think, man, they were cool. Like, God chose to do great things through them so he could put it in his book. But I'll tell you what, it says that Elijah was a man with a nature like ours. What's the point of that? He was just like you and me.

Meaning you can do the same. You're no different than he was. Don't think that he was better than you because he was in the Bible. He wasn't.

If you believe that his life is off limits to you, then it will be. But if you believe that you can do the same stuff he did, then you can. It's that simple. And it says, so he's a man with a nature just like yours. And he prayed fervently that it might not rain, and it didn't for three and a half years. If you look in the Book of Kings about this drought, you'll find you won't find Elijah really

It says he fervently prayed. That's at least not what's written in the book of Kings. What we see is Elijah speaking, declaring that it was going to not rain. And then we find him speaking that it will again.

So what the word is doing for us, this treasure that's hidden for us, God is showing us that fervent prayer.

can be you talking and prophesying an outcome. It can be you speaking to a situation. That is what God calls fervent prayer. You and I think fervent prayer is, God, please, God, please, God, please. And I'm gonna just try really, really hard. God, I want this so bad. Maybe if I cry enough.

as always see Elijah doing.

And it worked Mighty Mirror.

And then I want you to look with me, this is the second place, we're only doing two places, Mark chapter 11.

So Jesus, spoke to a fig tree, said, hey, may nobody eat from you ever again. And the disciples a couple of days later, they're like, holy crap, Jesus, the fig tree you spoke to, look, it's withered up, it's dead, it worked.

Jesus answered them, Hey, have faith in God.

you what I think that Jesus did it because he's God. But he's saying, guys, believe God.

What does that mean? He says, truly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain...

be taken up and thrown into the sea and doesn't doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will come to pass, it'll be done for him. Look at what Jesus is telling us. He's saying, guys, there's a type of praying that does not involve you talking to God. And yet it still, it is operating in your faith in God to pray this way. It is being faithful to the way God has designed you to

pray this way. It is believing Him and obeying Him to pray this way.

talk to the mountain and tell it what to do. That very form of praying requires some form of authority, right?

If I tell you what to do...

You only obey me if there's any kind of authority in me.

So Jesus is saying even something as impossible as this mountain moving into the ocean, it can happen because that's the kind of authority that you have.

You cannot doubt in your heart, and you have to believe that what you say will come to pass. Not that, if God decides to do it, it'll come to pass. No, you have to believe that the thing that you are saying will actually happen.

This is not about whether God decides to do it or not. It's about whether you decide to grow in your faith and to grow in an awareness of your authority and to slay doubt so that the things you are praying for, you can actually finally see them begin to happen. That's what this is about.

And he says, therefore, I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it and it will be yours.

So he's saying anything that is that you're asking.

or telling, right?

I bless my home to experience connection and joy.

My house will be filled with joy in the name of Jesus. He says, believe that you already past tense have received it.

And then it'll be yours. You have to believe you have it.

This is backwards, right? We don't believe we have it until it's here. That's presumptuous because what if God doesn't want me to have it? The only way I can know he wants me to have it is if he finally gives it to me. No. Jesus says. Whatever you ask. He doesn't put qualifiers on it. It's religion that has done that my friend. I don't know if God wants us to have a thriving sex life. Maybe he's trying to, you know, maybe that's selfish and he cares about other things. No.

That's not what the word says about marriage and passion

Is that something that you desire in your marriage? Okay. Then believe you have it when you start to pray it out of authority, not begging. I bless my marriage to thrive in sex. I bless my wife to connect with me and to soften towards me. I declare that we are going closer to each other, not further away. We are getting more connected and more passionate, not less. Do you see?

Jesus is saying to speak to the issue. Our normal praying is speaking to God, facing Him about this issue that I'm coming to Him on behalf of. What Jesus is saying is you're praying in the wrong direction. You've got to turn around and face the issue and speak to it on behalf of God. Declare to it what God wants because you have promises for this.

You know what God wants. You just gotta look in His Word. You already know what's good.

So what gets in the way of us praying this way? There's several things. First thing is fear. Fear gets in the way. If you have fear of losing your wife, fear of conflict, fear of never getting healed, fear will never help you. Fear is putting your faith in hell's future rather than heaven. Second thing is self-pity.

Self-pity is hell's counterfeit comfort. It feels good to feel bad for yourself. poor me, this always happens. And it will absolutely suck the life out of you and it will stop the effectiveness of your prayers. It won't work. So many of our prayers are out of self-pity and you wonder why they don't get answered. Third thing that will get in the way of answers to your prayers is a victim mentality.

It tells you that you are powerless.

But a powerless man cannot prophesy change into his life.

Fourth thing that'll stop your prayers from being effective is your agreement with lies. I'm not enough. I'm always the problem. She'll never want me. I'll never get well. We'll never have more than enough. We'll never stop living paycheck to paycheck.

This will never change.

And the fifth thing that'll stop your prayers from being effective is resentment. Resentment towards God, resentment towards yourself, resentment towards your wife, towards your parents, towards your boss, whatever it may be. Resentment will not work.

So we got to get rid of these things. And then you have to step into praying with authority. And I'm going to give you several pieces of this. But before I do, I want to remind you to click the link in the show notes or in the description and go pick up the DNA of a man and the tactical guide that goes with it. These books have changed many men's lives, thousands of men's lives. I get so many emails and reviews from guys that are

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So what do I need to step into to pray in authority, to pray in a way that gets answers? First, I need to know my identity. I'm a son of God. am royalty. carry authority and power. Second,

we can actually speak authority. I take authority over the disconnect and the tension in my home. I take authority over my body that's been dealing with disease. I take authority over the sickness that's attacking.

Third thing, resisting the devil's work. So I command the demons of strife and depression to get out of my home. I command the demons of coldness and lies to stop attacking my wife and my children.

You just gotta start actually believing that you are given authority to trample serpents and scorpions.

But not only do you resist darkness, you unleash blessing. So I bless my home with peace, with rest. I bless my home with joy and happiness. I bless my bank account with abundance and more than enough. I bless my business to thrive and with an inflow of customers. I bless my own self with strength and courage. I bless my body with healing.

You gotta actually believe that what you bless matters.

and speak the good future. You're always tending to speak the bad one anyway. It sounds like sometimes hocus pocus, it sounds cheesy, it sounds it's not gonna work, it's new agey, whatever, when we talk about speaking a good future. But why is it more okay to speak a bad one?

Somebody answer this for me, please.

So start speaking a good future. I declare that sickness has no hold on my body. I thank you God that I'm getting healthier every day and that I have no dependence on medications of any kind. I declare that my marriage is becoming even more passionate than it's ever been and that our honeymoon has ⁓ nothing compared to the level of desire and heat and passion that we're about to step into.

This is how you pray with authority. This is how you see answers to prayer. You've got to see yourself as a king making a decree. And because you decree it, it'll be done. You've got to see yourself as a prophet. And that whatever you speak over your family and over your marriage and everything over your whole life, you are planting seeds of what's going to come.

Gentlemen, if you begin to pray in this way, it will change your life. You'll see answers to prayer that you've never seen before. I promise you.

You'll see bodies start to be healed miraculously. You'll see your marriage begin to be healed miraculously. You'll see your wife respond to you differently because you're now taking on this mantle of confident authority. And you know that power is coursing through you. And of course, it's not from you. It's not your own. It's from God. It's from Jesus. Okay, so everybody can calm down.

But it's still, it's running through you. And it's up to you to unleash it on the world. That changes your demeanor.

When you make a habit of praying this way, it starts to seep out into every other part of your life and you carry yourself more confidently. Your tone is grounded and present and calm and strong. And you have hope and you have resolute vision for the future.

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