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Welcome to "The Activate Change Podcast," where transformation is just a conversation away. Join Gabrielli LaChiara, renowned healer and creator of the LaChiara Method, as she guides individuals through powerful healing sessions. Alongside her, Chloë Faith Urban breaks down the frameworks and tools Gabrielli uses to bring deeper understanding to the profound process of healing. The episodes that are healing sessions offer an intimate front-row seat to authentic, raw, and real personal breakthroughs, spiritual healing, and emotional support, allowing you to see yourself in the journeys of others. Experience the power and magic of the LaChiara Method, learn practical tools for self-growth, and unlock your potential to activate change in your own life.
With the LaChiara Method’s deep commitment to collaboration and perpetual learning, some episodes will highlight conversations with other thought leaders, healers, and activists on the path to bringing healing, liberation and true equality to the world.
Whether you're seeking healing, inspiration, or a deeper understanding of yourself, this podcast is your gateway to a more rooted, resilient and radiant YOU.
To experience or learn more about the method go to: https://lachiaramethod.com
Chloë Urban (00:00)
Hello there, I'm Chloe Urban, your podcast co-host and co-director of the La Quijara Method. Before we dive into this luscious and inspiring session, I wanted to share something we created just for you. It's called the Ultimate Self-Care Bundle. We get asked all the time what we actually do each day to stay clear and grounded.
So we gathered our favorite tools and put them together for you for free. These are the exact practices Gabrielli and I use to clear our energy, restore our vitality, and come back to center when life gets intense. Go to lachiaramethod.com/selfcare for instant access. That link is also in the show notes. We hope you enjoy.
Chloë Urban (00:49)
In this episode, Gabrielli has a session with Shrifta, a mother and grandmother navigating the aftermath of one of the most challenging chapters of her life. After years of dismantling everything that no longer fit, from relationships to old identities, Shrifta finds herself on the other side of crisis, learning how to rebuild from a deeper truth. Together, she and Gabrielli explore what happens when life stops you in your tracks, literally.
and forces you to slow down, listen, and reorient to your own worth.
What does it mean to choose yourself when everything and everyone around you is used to you giving it all away? This conversation travels through the pain of losing control, the grief of being relentlessly stopped,
and the revelation that sometimes there is no reason, only the soul's fierce insistence that it's time to evolve.
Through Gabrielli's presence and energetic guidance, Shrifta begins to release the stories of urgency, survival, and self-abandonment that once defined her. What emerges is a powerful reclamation of truth. I am worthy. I am wise. Together, they anchor this knowing in the body, unwinding the old belief that worth must be earned through suffering, sacrifice, or doing more. Instead, worthiness becomes innate.
undeniable as breath. This is a session about recovery, resilience, and the sacred practice of including yourself in the circle of care you so easily extend to others. Let's dive in.
Gabrielli (02:29)
Hello?
Shrifta:
Morning.
Gabrielli:
Welcome to your podcast session and our first session together. And I know that you've had experience with the work, but we are going to dive in today and see what you need. I'm having a feeling to do that intentional landing, breathing, just getting us in this space. And then we'll see where you want to go.
Shrifta (02:55)
Yeah.
Gabrielli (02:56)
Yeah, just clearing out all the little, we were talking about it when we first jumped in of all the energies that wire up in order to be on these online platforms and together and anything that that reflects in the energy of healing that you're ready for. And so clearing our space between us, inside of us, around us, and invoking our clear intention to show up for you on this journey.
your healing, your clarity, your wisdom.
your focus and activate change and generate healing immediately.
Shrifta (03:39)
Hmm.
Gabrielli (03:41)
Let's just do a couple long exhales. So breathing in on whatever count is comfortable to you. And then exhaling a little bit longer. That's like a one, two.
Shrifta (03:54)
three.
Gabrielli (03:55)
or maybe pushing down even for one more.
and then breathing in again.
And as you're ready, going for that nice long exhale, the one.
Shrifta (04:15)
for.
Gabrielli (04:17)
Five even, and then one last one.
Rounding up as you breathe in. you want to, can just pause at the top for a little connection to receiving. Not gripping, but receiving, allowing, and then exhale. And as you exhale, just allowing yourself to find your intention in this now. For whatever reasons you said yes may or may not have changed.
you get to show up in this particular moment in time.
and ask for what you need now.
Shrifta (04:55)
Mmm. Cut.
Gabrielli (05:02)
Yeah, when you're ready, I'd love to hear how can I be helpful?
Shrifta (05:10)
Um, it's been a very interesting time in my life. Um, and actually coming through, like the other side of one of the most challenging times in my life, on a very personal level. um, I feel very grateful to be
On the other side of it, feel very grateful to be, you know, have a very rich toolbox. ⁓
I think the place where I feel the most is
I mean, what came through as we were doing it was like grounded, forward, forward, like forward powerfully and kind of like a running theme has been where's home. You come home here, you know, but like literally like been nomadic for almost four years now.
So.
Help staff one.
Gabrielli (06:43)
Yeah, just I felt the charge, know, was listening and feeling at the same time and the like, where's home just had such a like ancient rumble when you said it of like what it means. And you said the nomad and I like, ⁓ wow, I really feel I have no idea what it means, know, but I feel a lot in just the potency of what you chose in these years or maybe didn't even who knows if you meant to choose it or not choose it. I don't know the storyline, but ⁓
the nomad and then the home and then having something inside but also outside that reflects your sense of wellness and groundedness, right? Like, so there's all that I heard and then I started to hear you say something about your health and I had cut you off to acknowledge the power in those words,
Shrifta (07:31)
Yeah, yeah, it's, it's been. It's been very full. It's been full. ⁓ I yeah, like over this last three, four months, just like a lot of health stuff that I had never experienced before. ⁓ So that was really challenging. And I also had
without like story, but like had my freedom taken away, literally, like legally all that stuff for a couple of months. and ⁓ then like at the, at the close of that, all this physical health stuff, I think, I don't think I know that all the stress and all, even though I was, while I was going through it,
I was very deep in practice with meditation and movement and all the things that I do. And I think like I got stopped and then I got stopped again and broke my foot and had all this like physical stuff going on. So it was just like, I think that, you know, I feel the stress of everything that my body and being and soul and everything was holding just kind of like,
you know, and
And like I said, like coming through the other side of like, Whoa, that was really, really intense. And yeah, so
Here I am.
Gabrielli (09:24)
Let's dive in there for a minute because I heard the ⁓ shock and reverberation of being stopped and thwarted in some way, controlled, I hear, and everything you had to do to manage that, which in your toolbox, it sounds like you have skills for helping yourself and at the same time, the shock and reverberation have an impact. And then they sometimes ripple externally into like symptoms, you know, and or...
blow us out somewhere else. like, it feels to me like whatever is gripping to hold and manage and process and get through a really maybe traumatic time, you know, hadn't had a full impact on you. And then, you know, what's like almost collapsing in the other side of that. And I know that feeling of like gripping and holding and managing and feeling so good at doing it and thinking I'm doing a great job even considering and knowing that it's fucking hard, but then getting to the other side and falling apart and being like, Oh my God, I really
That was really hard. That was harder than I actually wanted to know in the time, you know. And that like falling apart, my body does that too, like reflective falling apart, know, fall over.
Shrifta (10:28)
Yeah.
Yeah, it was also the first time that like, while I was in the physical and like the break and the infections and like, it was just like, it was relentless. Like, that was the word I remember speaking with Donna was like, wow, it just feels relentless. And, and it was the first time while I was really deep in it that I was like, I couldn't see the other side.
You know, like usually I can hold a vision of and be in the embodiment of like health and my body's strong and I'm going to come through the other side. I like, and knowing like on the other side of it was a freedom that I never experienced before out of all of it, you know, out of being stopped, being stopped again, you know.
Gabrielli (11:24)
any context for that, that you could even keep that anywhere in the consciousness. It sounds like you were hit really hard.
Shrifta (11:30)
was hit really hard. And, and, you know, he used to have a friend who I would check in and I would say, Am I being dramatic? She would be like, No, this is really big or you ⁓ know, like this was fucking huge. Like this was like, crazy level of, you know, just a lot and, and had like,
validation all around my life like wow this is huge and are you okay and like how do we support you?
Gabrielli (12:04)
supposed
to be okay. And just want to take a second. I'm not knowing the details. I'm just so sorry.
Shrifta (12:11)
Yeah. And like I said that I could sit here and be smiling and be grateful and ⁓ like, wow, I'm kind of amazed and proud. And also feel like the lingering tendrils, you know, that aren't completely
out of me. ⁓
Gabrielli (12:46)
Right. there's a way in which it may be possible that some of that never goes away, you know, that we, when we get hit that hard, those traumas are lasting and there's an, is a change in us and an impact and a cost to our bodies, to our psyches, to our spirits that, I mean, we don't have to fix in order to be healthy and whole and move on and be okay, but it's real, you know, and I think I'm hearing you really process and come to terms with the, ⁓ injuries, you know, on many,
levels and in my soul I feel like on almost like a psychic level, you know, the injuries to your sense of wellbeing, to your sense of identity, to like who you thought you were, who you are and, you know, and also therefore to the body that you live in. And I just want to be with that for a moment. Like it's okay to know that there may not be a perfection. You might not go back to what you used to be. What we hope is that your soul speaks loud enough that you take
the call to use whatever you can to find those silver linings and to create who you're becoming and to show up in more resilience than you've ever had before. But it does hurt us. We do get really injured and compromised.
Shrifta (14:04)
Yeah, I hear that. I feel that. And I also
I feel that, yeah, exactly what like I get to transmute it, transform it, become it, you know, like create something really different from and get to be somebody, you know, somebody new, somebody more refined, more aware on a lot of levels and,
I had this experience that for the first time in my life while I was going through it, it wasn't like, okay, what am I not seeing? What am I not getting? What's the, what's the stuff under here that I need to be looking at? And I kept getting like, it's not about that. Like, it was really interesting for the first time. Like, there was some old stuff that it was like, clip, clip, clip, clip. Okay, that's just like ancient, you know, but
I kept like kind of feeling around and there was nothing like I couldn't find a piece that I needed to look at. And it was very interesting. This other work that I do, went to very impromptu was invited to this healing session. And they said, would you like to be, know, would you like us to like send you energy and love and healing? And I was like, yes, amen. You know, yes.
Gabrielli (15:35)
Please
get on.
Shrifta (15:36)
Yes. And, ⁓ you know, everybody was in this very deep meditative place. And I was like in the center. And I got hit like I felt it coming as soon as people put their energy on me. And I broke like, I haven't I don't think I've ever really I mean, I'm a crier. I'm a motive. I can do all that. I have no, you know. But it was like,
this wrenching, sobbing, moaning, it was like everything, everything, everything that I've been holding, carrying, walking through my spirit, my body, my being, everything. And my parents are gone a long time. My mother came into this space and she said, it's over, baby, it's over.
And I heard all these beings in this space going, it's over, it's over. And I got this very clear, I got this very clear, like, it had to be this way. You don't need to know why or how or what or anything. And it was really painful and it's over.
Yeah. So my body was like, you know, I knew that my body was like, you know, reaching arching off the floor. knew stuff was clearing and the enormity of
Gabrielli (17:02)
Yes.
Shrifta (17:19)
what this like being was carrying, you know, through this whole, whatever this soulful, spiritual, physical,
turbulence and relentless, you know, hit that I got.
And there's another part of me that I know, like, I feel more resilient than ever, even though that's not the word I'm looking for, but like...
yeah, it was just, it was really powerful when I came out the other side of that, I was like, wow, it's really it's over. So like, there's like the lingering tendrils of like the physical, the emotional, like, just stuff. And in my work, all of a sudden, I noticed this past week, because it's the first time that I've worked in
months because I had all this stuff going on in my body is that I started picking up and I don't know how to describe it other than the one thing that came to me was like, ⁓ people's emotional signature. As I'm, as I've been working. So that's been really like, ooh, ooh, yeah, you know. Thank you. Like, yeah.
Gabrielli (18:48)
Yeah, let's pause anywhere. This is so much. This is so much. It's so good. It's so good. It's so good. I want to drink it in. I want to drink you in. I am drinking you in. I'm just deeply reveling in how soul-driven your life is and how even in the muck of the muck of the muck, you're receiving and allowing yourself to receive a message like that. That's a big deal. Even letting it in, no matter what context it comes in, it's a big deal to get.
to get that deeply driven. And I kept hearing the word driven and where you're going is a very driven place. there's some, I don't know if it's ferociousness or fearlessness I hear coming in with being you. And really, what's the value of not being who you really are and you as I'm seeing you and feeling as the healer that you live this kind of empathic, soul-driven relational capacity to heal yourself and others.
feels like, you know, whether all the steps that happened were supposed to happen, whether it feels obviously something was destined in, in whatever your soul was discovering when we talk about like, not finding good reasons, it's partly because maybe it just is, right? There isn't, maybe there isn't good reasons, both because there are things in life we can't control and because sometimes things are just going to happen and, ⁓ they are part of our karmic unfurling really. And,
what I'm loving is that part of you that didn't break in this context, but if anything else got stronger, which is to really come in a conviction that says, really want to ground of myself in a soul-driven expression, and first for yourself, but then obviously you just shared how it ripples into others, and your work and your touch and your care for other people, ⁓ emotionally, physically, practically. So I just wanna celebrate
everything you're saying and honor it and grieve with you. could feel my tears coming and going and just the depth of like, whoa, it's fucking huge. I'm swearing all over the place, but a fucking huge rite of passage that you're in. It was a huge rite of passage for whatever reason. And it does feel like there was life and death. Like, am I going to live and rewrite my story and take everything I experienced and make my life, take my next incarnation and show up for it? Or am I
Am I going down? Am I in the surrender of losing everything for real? And it feels like that kind of life and death look in the eye that you just had with who you are. Yeah. And the question that percolates, just drives me is like, okay, what does it take and how can we show up to support you and being you? Fearlessly, not without fear.
healthy boundaries or like not without, what's the word when we like, I can't think of the word, when we can appropriately interpret where to go, where to put ourselves, what boundaries to have, what not to have. It's like, I want you to have all that, a really good filter for knowing when it's like, I can unfurl into all of me or when I have to pack myself into some version of a box to manage the reality of life I'm in or to protect myself or others, right? And discernment is the word I hear.
I wanna know, you what does discernment look like and who are you if you can ⁓ fearlessly be you and trust your instincts and your intuition that you will discern appropriately in real time to know who to say yes to, who to say no to, where to show up, where to let it all go and where to pack it all back in and everything in between and activate change and generate healing immediately and what.
do you need in order to know that being you is exactly what you're choosing? It's the silver lining you're making out of a life and death, tragic, traumatic.
painful existence you have lived through.
And does that even feel generative? Is that what you want?
Shrifta (23:07)
feel that...
I've been stepping into that discernment. ⁓
We've been talking a lot about this in a course that I helped create and it's like, and it's one of the questions in work that I've done in the past. It's like, what's it costing you? And, ⁓
I see the most significant is with my kids. You know, I have four children and four grandchildren. And, and learning where those places are to still be totally devoted and in love with my family and to say like,
Gabrielli (23:49)
Hmm.
Shrifta (24:06)
I've literally poured every bit of me into you and I am choosing to step back and pour into me. And as I do that, you know, it's like that old expression of like, we teach people how to treat us. ⁓ you know, witnessing my adult children showing up in a way that
I feel like this discernment, this boundary, this space creation has...
allowed them, quote unquote, force them to step towards me in a different way, even though we have deep love and intimacy in our relationships. And we've worked really hard on that. And through this particular span of time and challenge and difficulty that they've showed up in a very, different way.
you know, when I dismantled my life four years ago, like you're saying you don't know this story, and it doesn't matter. The story doesn't matter. But I dismantled I completely dismantled my life consciously. And ⁓ and there was this moment of like, I'll be damned if I betray myself again.
And, and there was just no way that I could fit. I would have to like, pull myself in and contract so tightly to be able to fit into that frame that box that that construct. It's
Gabrielli (25:56)
Just to say, like, what you're saying is so profound and it does make sense. Like when we betray a contract we made, agreements we made with ourselves and others, you know, when we live a life, create a life, choose a life, say yes to things that aren't really aligned. And then we get to that juncture where we say, I'm going to dismantle the whole thing. That's no easy, that's no easy button. You know, in the moment people feel like, that's the easy button. I'm out. Like, done. I can run away from this thing.
It's not because when you do that, there are ripples of what you betray and it's a betrayal that's required because you are stuck in an either or is either going to betray yourself for the rest of your life or you're going to have to betray something else, know, agreements, places, people, whatever those things might have been. And I'm hearing the potency and also the profundity really of undoing that and then hitting how much that was healing.
on mega levels. That feels like karmic, familial, genetic. Like what you said in emotion was, I think, even bigger than you thought, even though you knew it was a huge thing you were doing. But you set something in emotion that was going to... And you have children and grandchildren that that's affecting. And you're talking about your current impact and how you show up and how that changes or makes room. But also everything you've done and every...
Every moment that led to that moment of saying, I'm going to choose this, I'm untethering this, there's so much potency in those, in the ethos, you know, in the cellular fabric of all of that. But I feel genetic, you know, how many, all the enslavery is what I'm feeling it like, like how many millions of times and what did the woman do and who just like sucked it up and lived a life they weren't happy in on behalf of security or safety and who had to do that.
And when was that just appropriate? And how many of the witches inside of your and healers inside of your family had to hide and pretend they weren't and like eke that out somewhere else or numb it down and all that you're doing to say yes to being this person in this lifetime and this now embodied ⁓ in your nature, know, not embodied in something different. You're like uncovering the core roots of who you really are and that.
That's a brave choice. That's a brave choice on this earth.
Shrifta (28:19)
Thank you.
Chloë Urban (28:24)
Just taking a quick pause to remind you of something you probably already know deep down. You're not more lovable, more spiritual, or more good because you can hold it all together for everyone else.
Your worth isn't something you prove, it's something you are, simply because you exist.
Chloë Urban (28:42)
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Chloë Urban (29:08)
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Gabrielli (29:23)
Yeah, it
feels like you're the first of whatever in some of the language to really choose to have faith that if you align yourself with you, that the rest will prevail. That is a worthy cause. You're a worthy cause of choosing yourself.
Shrifta (29:42)
It's also it gets very interesting of who remains and who steps away and or falls away organically or choose. You know, it was like on the cusp of.
me finding a way to also say to certain people in my life, like the cost of your friendship is way too high for me. And just like those kind of things, like
Gabrielli (30:23)
It sounds like you had a lot of ⁓ maybe organically created from your life, from the stories, from the genetics, from your experience, from your own history, whatever, but you had a lot of relationships that were about you abandoning yourself for someone else ⁓ and that you were putting yourself last in, that's what it sounds like to me, that your needs were not on the table. so that when you came in to put your needs on the table,
Shrifta (30:45)
Always. Always.
Gabrielli (30:51)
some of those people, do betray the friendship and people get angry and some of those people don't want that change and they didn't sign on for that relationship and there's repercussions and then we end up taking very polarized stands like, it's too much for me, it's either me or you and that's not ever where my sense is that you wanted to go but it is what happens when we change like that and when we decide that like, no, I'm not gonna keep sacrificing myself for someone else and I have to see who's gonna show up for the.
for the middle ground, for the rainbow sherbert of a relationship that includes us both and makes sense that there was a
Shrifta (31:25)
say to very significant, significant love people in my life, like I'm, I'm sorry if my journey is causing you pain, you know, that's not my, you know, and I, it was like, really the first time of choosing, choosing myself. And, and like you said, I had no idea, I knew how gigantic it was.
Like there was a place where I'm like, okay, this is really big. And there were those, there's plenty of people who want to say, stay small, stay safe. You're okay. You have ABCDE for the first time and like you're getting older. You're having children, you money.
Gabrielli (32:18)
And
somebody that might be true for someone, those messages may be exactly what someone needs to hear, that it's okay to self-sacrifice on behalf of having other needs met. Obviously, that's not what your soul needed and wanted, and that you took the greater risk to turn your life upside down and inside out. you've suffered. You know, you've really suffered in the throes of that, it sounds like. And you're also gaining a different you.
You know, and you're gaining a connection to the parts of you that were maybe weren't gonna come out in this lifetime otherwise. It's almost like I feel like I'm either gonna birth my life this way or I'm gonna keep my life this way and the, you know, do I wanna live as long as possible and, you know, find who I really am or am I saying this is enough and I'll wait to another lifetime for the rest of that, you know. ⁓ You clearly weren't waiting. So really profound.
Shrifta (33:15)
This
time around, this time around, because this is definitely not my first rodeo. This time around, I think this, I feel that I feel that place of like, are you going to do this again? Or are you going to really roll up your sleeves and go, you know, and, and I, it's like, yes, there was the choice, but like,
Gabrielli (33:21)
Yes.
Shrifta (33:43)
I don't feel like I have a choice this time. You know, I feel like you better go, like you better go and you better keep going and you better do all these things if you want to get, I don't know, I don't even know how to describe it. I just know that this, this time around feels very significant and there's an urgency that feels like for the first
like not the first time, but this time feels like there's an urgency that has to happen in order for me to move forward. I think.
Gabrielli (34:24)
Let's dive in on that, on the urgency and whether or not that's still required. Clearly there was a need for urgency or you wouldn't have gotten this far. Let's look at the either or and make sure we're not tripping up an unconscious circuit to be in constant fight or flight, you know, at something or for something. you know, are you at a stage where there's enough self-accountability, enough external accountability that you're not going to give up? not, you know, you don't need urgency. You don't need striving for something unrealistic. You don't need to push yourself beyond your own health.
in order to stick with what you've already set into motion. So is it possible that there is enough and if not, can we create more accountability so that you don't slide into some ancient habit that would abandon yourself in any way and that you stay on this path, introductory, to choose your deepest soul level expression and healing in a way that's healthy and safest on this planet as possible, yeah?
I see you shaking your head, which people might not hear, but I'm seeing the head shake. So let's go here. Let's clear all the bullshit then that in this moment you don't need to bring forward, which would suggest you have to stay in urgency and therefore keep your primal brain and your nervous system hijacked in order to stay with it and to really recognize and honor the urgency that was required in order for you to push so hard and so big against the habits.
indoctrinations, other people's points of view against your own choices you had made and everything it took in this lifetime because as you say, this isn't the first and however many godzillions of lifetimes you tried and didn't get through this particular part of the rite of passage, you're here. And let's invoke and camper claim and pronounce that you're not turning back. You're not going backwards and you now get to move forwards into a stage of recovery. And that recovery includes learning how to create longevity.
in the you that you are and learning how to keep your pulse, because I don't think you're ever gonna just be done healing. now have thrusted yourself into being the life of your own self as healer, meaning you're gonna be willing to keep reworking and rewiring and gently nudging yourself in healthy directions, right? So for all of that, let's clear out any indoctrinations or any ⁓ energies that would block you from receiving the pulse, a generative deep,
long lasting, healthy, resilient pulse driven to be you. Activate change and generate healing immediately. ⁓
I just felt so much happening. What did you feel in all of that?
Shrifta (37:06)
I feel...
I feel the truth of that. feel the truth of like the because I spent a lot of years in survival, you know, and, and this this field of urgency and dismantling my life was really important. It was like that had to break so that I could move forward. And coming out, like I said, the other side of it, there is definitely like
a gentler, softer, slower pace emerging. ⁓ That I don't feel like I'm racing the same way. And I also feel even a couple of my kids even they're like, you literally had to be stopped. Like you literally had to be stopped, you had to be stopped this whole crazy situation I have and you had to be stopped.
again, like you, because you were gonna, you were gonna take off again, you were gonna catapult again, you were gonna spring forward again. And you literally broke your foot. Like, stopped. So they're like, you tell us all the time, like, what's going on and pay attention.
Gabrielli (38:30)
Right, and the invitation to like, furl inward as you've been unfurling outward, right? It's like, hear what they're saying to you and what you're saying. you had to go in. And I think that was also a lot going on, psychically and spiritually in the last year with people needing to turn inward before there's an outward expression. And there's like this, I see this, like you really see you in a stage of like rehab to recovery where you're really gonna have to like be curious about
I don't know you're have to. You can do whatever you want. But it could be fun to be curious about what it looks like to be in a balance of when urgency is helpful and then how to unpack it so it doesn't hit almost an addictive. I know for me, when all my traumas were up, it would be addictive. It's almost easier to just stay hijacked because otherwise I collapse and I can't get up at all. that changes as you recover and heal more. And I'm excited to feel what that looks like in the next.
three months and six months in a year for you to turn back and be like, that's what a pace that really serves me looks like, you know, where I am giving and receiving in a balanced way and where I'm, you know, sometimes in that urgent mode, but I know how to unpack it. And sometimes I collapse and let the life pass around me for a couple of days and then I get back up, you know, and, ⁓ and I hear you, you know, really in this restorative recovery phase, learning yourself in a whole new way, maybe for the first time in this lifetime, for sure.
Shrifta (39:58)
yet.
Gabrielli (39:59)
more invitations. And so let's invoke that there's a lot more to come that's beyond what you know and honoring what you have said has been required. You know, the urgency, the push, the fire, you know, the willingness, messiness in that and then even the stops and looking at like, what does it look like now to create from a place that is really sustainable? Unactivate change and generate healing immediately.
I'm really seeing all the injury recall of all the lifetimes to recognize those places, the voice that you heard it's over means also like you're here, you've done it, you've formed enough of yourself, you've hit enough of the questions you were here to answer that you now get to actually receive. And as we bring into your body the receptive self that says, ⁓ wait, that part's over, which means what, what am I receiving?
What am I listening to? What am I creating from? What parts of me get to rest? What parts of me get to be differently active and activate change and generate healing?
Immediately.
And if your body and your being and your soul and your spirit, your divine essence and earth, all of those parts of you were working in unison to create you in this lifetime, what do you know? What do you deeply know about being you right now?
Shrifta (41:43)
The two things that are coming through is that I am worthy and I am wise.
Gabrielli (41:49)
So let's them in the body. Where would you feel them? Where do you feel them awakening inside of you? I am worthy. I am wise.
Nib-worthy.
needs to dissolve so that you can experience I am worthy, I am wise.
Shrifta (42:11)
my heart and like my solar plexus.
Gabrielli (42:17)
I'm worthy of what? What are you worthy of?
Let yourself really feel what is it you're saying. I'm worthy of what? I'm worthy, I'm so worthy. In my bones I know it.
Yeah.
Shrifta (42:54)
I'm just unworthy. I don't have to do anything to be worthy.
Gabrielli (42:59)
Right, and just like the deer and the flowers, just like the mountains and the air, just like the water, the lakes, the oceans, you are worthy. You are human, you are nature, you are earth. And we can clear all the indoctrinations and lies and bullshit that say we're supposed to earn that or do something right or do it somebody's way or prove it. And are you willing to receive I am worthy on a whole new level?
I'm worthy doesn't mean I get to have everything I want. I'm worthy means I am worthy of existing. And my existence will have quirks and errors and judgments and amazingness and fail teas and all the things will happen. I am worthy. Say that out loud, I am worthy.
Shrifta (43:48)
I am worthy.
Gabrielli (43:51)
And I'm worthy just because
I exist.
Releasing all the injury recall of all the times you were told you're not worthy. You were proven that. You were fought with that, your own behaviors and others. And release injury, recall physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, energetic, genetic, past, present, future. Activate change and generate healing immediately. I am worthy as the roots of the earth.
in your body as the air that you are, the matter, the molecules, the water. Truly are you worthy of existing as you.
and all that that naturally does to restore your wisdom, your intuitive sense, even your instinctual senses on how to be safe on earth, a place that is never perfectly safe. It's never perfectly right. It's never perfectly anything. And activate change and generate healing in.
Shrifta (44:51)
You're
I'm ooh.
Gabrielli (45:12)
I'm just breathing a few more breaths of like.
Shrifta (45:15)
You
Gabrielli (45:17)
and see.
of remembering that worth is earned. Worthy as in alive is just true.
What are you noticing?
Shrifta (45:52)
how little credit I give myself when I can resettle and pour and shower on all those around me known and strangers and like.
You know, I leave the fumes and the crumbs for myself.
Gabrielli (46:21)
And are you willing to change that this year?
Maybe you'll eat a whole piece of the pie. Maybe one day you'll sit down and offer yourself the whole thing. Right? Not just the crumbs and the leftovers and the things we do as mamas. At least I know I did. It was like, wait till they're all done and eat their leftovers, you know?
Shrifta (46:32)
But. ⁓
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Gabrielli (46:50)
Not earning the pleasures, not earning the experiences, not proving that you deserve them. And let's clear anyway, which these traumas you've lived in the last number of years would set you up in some unconscious way to think, now I can feel like I earned them because I suffered so much. And like, that makes me worthy because I suffered. Can we clear that bullshit if it's in there? You don't need any more traumas and you didn't need those in order to know that you're worthy. If they get you there because that's what it took, that's what it took.
but you also get to know that with or without any tragic traumatic experiences, any suffering, any proving anything, it's innate. It's the innate intelligence you would give to me, as you have said. You are worthy because you were born and alive and conceived and breathed. And maybe you're worthy even without a body, because that's true too. But in this earth realm, we can say this body doesn't need to earn its value of being alive.
comes with what we got by being here and activate change and generate healing immediately. It's like the internalized oppression, you you're reorganizing to include yourself. And that's how we humanize one another. That's how we heal this earth, I think. One of the ways I hope we will is to rehumanize and including ourselves is kind of important. Otherwise we keep the same story, which is somebody else is always more important or better.
than another and that just creates more divides.
So all the ways in which including yourself is how you heal and how you heal others. And that the things you get to know doesn't mean you don't have self-reflections or judgments or regrets or I mean you're human. We all have those too. But that being worthy isn't defined by those. Or by the great acts of selflessness you've done and activate change and generate healing.
Shrifta (48:47)
Immediately.
Gabrielli (48:51)
Feels really full. Let me see if there's anything else you need before we begin to close up.
something you need to share or name.
Shrifta (49:17)
I just I really feel the shifts coming and that feels really I just feel incredibly grateful for that. Like I feel I feel myself coming back into flow. I feel myself coming back into breath and just room and my body and you know, just
a realignment and a reconfiguration. ⁓
I'm like a learning of who I be now in this moment and going forward with this.
with this experience, you know, propelling me forward in a beautiful way, not in, you know, but just like, ⁓ go mama. All exits are open, know, like the path that she takes with the airplanes, know, like, ⁓ go, it's, you know, the path is lit.
Gabrielli (50:33)
Mm-hmm. And I think a lot of what we're grabbing today are just the tendrils of where you could carry the old things with you, you know, and carry some of those storylines and those habits and that it's, you how we hold again in our recovery, that that's natural to have those urges and where we get to rewire and almost feel, repattern through experience, really. It's like, there's that urge, you know, what's true now? Is it still, do I still need to do that, you know, or?
Is that required for today or am I okay? Am I on my path and I can breathe? Yeah, it's really powerful. I really appreciate your life and who you are and how you've grown and how you've managed and shown up in the course of these incredibly difficult years. I'm like in awe. Thank you.
Shrifta (51:20)
Thank you. ⁓
Gabrielli (51:24)
later.
Shrifta (51:27)
Yeah, thank you for hearing me and receiving me and acknowledging me and holding space for me and moving energy with me and being the teacher, the guide, the receptor, the channel.
Gabrielli (51:47)
You're so welcome. I see you in the same. So holding all of the possibilities in this earth that we get to awaken in these ways and that you are evolving in the most profound and bountiful and interesting ways of being you as the healer and the person and the human and the mother and grandmother and
however you identify in all those ways. And so just clearing again anything that blocks you from receiving you in any given moment and activate change and generate healing immediately. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Outro Podcast (52:37)
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Gabrielli LaChiara (53:12)
saying a huge thank you to Ali Halpert, the incredible musician and songwriter behind the songs featured in this podcast. To hear more of Ali's work, visit alihalpert.com. You'll also find the link in our show notes.