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We are spending the, the four weeks that we have here, um, diving into Colossians chapter three specifically. Again, our goal was to originally go through all four chapters in Colossians and uh, kind of just pick out what we can to figure out how the Lord is using the Book of Colossians, each chapter to, to train us as men for righteousness.
But as I was studying, I really found there was just so much in chapter three, specifically like just chapter three alone, that really speaks to us as men, as husbands, as fathers, as disciples. And so we decided just to stick with chapter three alone. But that being said, it's always good to read all of the scripture in its proper context.
We never just wanna read like one verse. You can, you can take one verse, like just cherry pick it out of the scriptures and really make it say whatever you want it to say. And we don't wanna do that. That's essentially idolatry. Like we're making up things in our head, we're making up gods and who God is in our head.
We, we, we really wanna know who God actually is. Like what is his actual reputation? Not what we want him to be like. And to do that, you have to read the scriptures in its full context. So. Read the whole chapter when you're reading the Bible and, uh, read the whole book. If you can read through all the books I commit to just studying the word of God again.
We're really using two Timothy three 16, which just talks about how all scripture is God briefed. Every word of the Bible is intentionally put there from the mouth of God to teach us and to correct us, and to train us in righteousness. And if you're a man listening to this, you want to be more righteous.
You wanna live more rightly. For the sake of your own soul, for the sake of your wife, for the sake of your kids, your legacy. If we are a Christian man, we, we really wanna run the race well, and we wanna be more righteous, man. We just want to be guys who live right. And the word of God helps us to do that.
It trains us for righteousness. We are studying the word of God together in hopes that we're not just trying to get more theology stuffed into our brain, but as we get theology put into our brain that it sinks down into our hearts. We become shaped by the word of God, and it changes us, and it makes us into the men that God is calling us to be.
And so that's why we're doing this study and we're diving deep into the Book of Colossians, specifically chapter three. Go back and read the whole book of Colossians. It's short. It's four chapters. It will take you maybe 20 minutes to get through the whole thing. Do it on a lunch break or in the car or whatever.
And then join us here for this study. As we go into Colossians three specifically, I'm gonna read the whole chapter of Colossians three. It's not very long. I'll just read it to us. So we have the whole context of what Paul is saying to the Church of Colossae. It's a newer church. Paul had never, he had planted a lot of churches, but he didn't specifically plant this one.
He got news that this church had been planted and that things were going well. And, um, they're brand new church man. They're like, they're trying to figure out what it means to follow Jesus and what does it mean to be the people of God. And so Paul is encouraged by what he's hearing about this church in Colossae, but he is just giving them some.
Teaching, some really practical teaching on here's what it looks like to be disciples of Jesus in this new way of life. Before we jump into Colossians three, let me pray for us and then we'll dive in. Lord, we want your word to teach us and to correct us and to train us in righteousness. We really do, Lord, want to be the men that you've called us to be.
As we study the scriptures, your words. Would it pierce us? Would there, would it convict us if there's things in our life that need to be cut out or taken off, as Paul says in Colossians, uh, we want to take those things off. If there's things that we don't have on that we need to put on certain characteristics of you that we need to put on that we don't currently have, Lord, would you remind us and give us wisdom to put those on as we study today, specifically what it looks like to be husbands and wives in your kingdom.
I pray that you'd give us wisdom and, um. Conviction and grace to do it really well. We love you, Lord. In your name we pray, amen. Let me read Colossians chapter three and we will zoom into a couple verses here, verse one. If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above where Christ is seated at the right hand of God.
Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth for you have died and your life is hidden with Christ and God, when Christ who is your life appears, then you will also appear with him in glory. Put to death. Therefore, whatever is earthly in you, sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and coveted, which is idolatry.
On account of these, the wrath of God is coming in. These you two once walked when you were living in them, but now you must put them all the way. Anger, wrath, malice, slander, obscene. Talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another. Seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator Here, there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, cian, slave free.
But Christ is all an in all put on. Then as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bearing with one another. If one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other as the Lord has forgiven you. So you must also forgive. And above all these put on love which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom. Singing Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Whatever you do, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Wives submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children. Obey your parents in everything for this pleases the Lord. Fathers do not provoke your children unless they become discouraged. Bond servants, obey in everything. Those who are your earthly masters.
Not by way of I service as people pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work hardily as for the Lord and not for men. Knowing that from the Lord you'll receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done and there is no partiality.
Again, that's Colossians chapter three, the entire chapter there. Some of the stuff we hear in Christian culture for us might seem common sense. One, because we live in a country that was really founded by Judeo-Christian values. Some of, so much of our culture is permeated with Christian values and morals.
Whether or not you believe in Jesus, whether you claim that Jesus was God or not, like our culture set up, the foundations of it really is Christian. And so a lot of what we believe and the way we believe things should work. Are inherently Christian in their nature and in their foundation, but for the early believers in Colossians, the the Church of Colossae, you gotta remember, like this is pretty new.
Jesus did ministry for three and a half-ish years. I. And then he died, and then the church was started. And I mean, that's a very little time in perspective. In its context. It's not a lot of time to really get a full understanding of like who God is and who his people are and how they're supposed to live.
And so you have a. You have a group of people whose lives have been flipped on their head, man, like everything that they know or thought they knew about life has just been flipped upside down because of this guy who came, claimed to be God died on a cross rose again, and now you have these apostles.
Planting churches and teaching. This guy was real. This guy was actually Jesus. This was this Messiah. And because he's real and he didn't just stay dead, he rose again. Um, all of our lives are different and everything that we used to believe and things that we used to do are change. That's why Paul is telling him like, you used to be dead.
Here are the things you did when you were dead, but you're not dead anymore. You're alive. And so put on these new things. We talked about that over the last couple weeks. Take off these old ways and put on these new ways. And so some of what you're hearing here from Paul in Colossians three, some of it might seem like common sense to us because it's, we've been in this kind of Christian culture for thousands of years.
We've been studying the word for thousands of years as a people, but this for them is pretty new. And so you could make the argument that they're hearing these things about this new way, the way of living for Jesus. And Paul's talking about like basically you're debt. All the old things that you used to do are now, they're not anymore.
You, you don't live this way anymore. You're a new creation. You're citizens and part of a new kingdom, a new culture. And so you could make the argument that they were like, they wouldn't know what to do with family. Like, okay, does this mean that we're still. Married and what do we do with our kids? What is the marriage relationship like?
Does, is that dead? Like is we heard Jesus say that there's not gonna be marriage? Our marriage won't be like what we thought it was in heaven. Like, so what does that mean? Like, do do I not have a wife anymore? Do I not have a husband anymore? Like what do I do with my kids, you know? And so Paul is just giving them very basic instructions, like, okay, no, you're not supposed to throw that out.
And so I wanna focus specifically on just two verses today, verse 18 and 19, which is verse 18 says, wives submit to your husbands as fitting for the Lord. And husbands love your wives. And do not be harsh with them. So. Paul in these last couple verses of Colossians three is really laying out the framework of family, which is why I think this is so important for us here at that tire.
Like obviously all we're thinking about as men is like, what does it look like for us as men to be men of God and to love our wives well, and to raise our kids? And so Paul is essentially telling 'em the structure of family stays. Like you're still married, you're still a husband, you're still a wife, you're still a dad.
And under this. New Kingdom. Here's what it looks like for you to operate in these structures, these earthly structures of marriage and family. Really godly structures, but the things that you're still living out here on earth, like you don't just toss all those aside. I know I told you like you're dead and throw everything out, but you keep the family and under this structure of family and marriage, here's what it looks like to live.
And so he says, wives submit to your husbands as is fitting for the Lord, and husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Now in 2024, those words are controversial to say the least, like. Me just saying that even the fact that this is probably gonna end up on Spotify or YouTube, and you'll watch videos of this and this will be kind of sent out to the masses.
Me saying something, I'm just repeating the text here. By the way, I'm not even giving you Jared's thoughts or commentary. I'm just telling you exactly what the text says, which is why submit to your husband's as is fitting for the Lord Ians three 18. Even that could be so controversial, I could imagine that there would be a day.
Where that would be taken down, you know what I mean? Like the people would take that off the internet. And I'm kind of chuckling now, and I'm, I'm also also feeling like a little bit nervous, like how quickly could that day get here anyway, it's just the word of God and it is controversial. It cuts, it is counter-cultural.
It doesn't make sense. And I, I've grown up on the West coast. You know, so pretty not Christian environment my entire life. And having verses like this wives submit to your husbands is not super popular. Like I'm not trying to go on the street corner and just put that on a poster with a megaphone and just try to shout that one to get people to come to know Jesus.
Women you need to submit, wives submit to your husbands. That's not usually the most enticing thing to get people engaged. And so a lot of times, like if you hear that as a woman. In our day and age, you could think thoughts like, oh geez, this is so outdated. This is why the Bible doesn't make sense. This is all cultural.
It's so old fashioned, there's no reason for this. And so let me just try to paint a little bit of picture here, like a little bit of context biblically for what I think Paul is trying to teach us. And hopefully whether you have heard that argument or maybe even there's parts of you that might agree with that argument that I just laid.
Like, well, this is so old fashioned. This is outta context. This doesn't make sense. This is just so men can get more power. Women become the lesser oppressed people, if any of that you've heard that or even resonate with that. Let me just try to paint a little bit of context here in Genesis chapter two.
We get an idea of the way that God ordered things and the way that he designed things. So the very first pages of the scripture, we are learning how things were meant to be. God is creating the order of creation, the stars, the planets, the oceans, the galaxies, all of creation, the birds, everything. And then he gets to what we learn is his most prized possession humans.
He creates Adam first. So I'm just gonna read this, Genesis chapter two, verse 15. The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and keep it. So at this point, God has created all of creation and then he creates man out of dust. He's the first, the first human ever created, was actually a man like that's.
That's just biblically factual. I'm not making that up to say that men are better than women. I'm just, this is biblically factual. If you read the scriptures, man was created first, and so God then puts that man Adam into a garden and to work it and to keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man saying, you may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
You shall not eat. For in the day that you eat of it, you shall surely die. So God creates man and then he gives the man some instructions. Here's what you're supposed to do. You can eat from any tree in this beautiful garden that I've given you, but you may not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good, evil or else you will die.
Now, keep in mind, catch this. He's only talking to the man right here. Eve has not been created, and so the implication there is that man has been charged, has been given. Instructions from the Lord, here's what you're supposed to do. Now he God does not later give those same commands to Eve. And so again, the implication here is that when Eve is created, we see just in the next verses, verse 18, then the Lord God said it is not good.
That man should be alone. So this is after the instruction. God says it's not good. That man should be alone. I will make for him a helper fit for him. Now out of the ground of the Lord. God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them.
So Adam is naming all these animals and whatever the man called every living creature that was its name I. The man gave. Which by the way, I mean my brain just goes to so many funny things, but could you imagine being tasked with naming all the animals? I imagine that his creativity just had to be, there's no sin involved, there's no shame yet, there's no like sin, there's nothing destructive in the earth yet.
So his creativity just had to be awesome. 'cause dude, in this fallen world, my creativity, I would just, you'd start making up some weird names. Like, okay, little weird one with eight legs, little weird one with six legs. Big dog with horns, you know, like he's just start making stuff up. But Adam comes up with all these names of animals.
Sorry, my a DD goes to word spots. When I, when I read the scriptures and whenever the man called every living creature that was its name, the man gave names to all the livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast in the field. But for Adam, there was not found a helper fit for him. So catch this.
He's looking for some help. Apparently he needs help. God says it's not good for him to be alone, and the elephants can't do it. The monkeys can't do it. The drafts can't do it. The fish can't do it. There's no good helper for him. Verse 21. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept, took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.
And the rib that the Lord had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. And the man said this at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because it was taken out of man. So the, again, the idea here. Is that God creates man. First man has dominion.
He's naming animals. He's been given clear instructions by God. Woman was not part of that process yet. The idea would be that man was supposed to lead his wife, teach his wife. When she got there, he wasn't gonna let her ris roam around, eat from any tree. He knew the instructions and the instructions were, don't eat from that one tree that God has told us not to eat from or else we're gonna die.
And so you get a sense from the very first pages of scripture that man is meant to lead. He's meant to protect. He has been given the instruction, and he is supposed to pass that instruction off to his wife. Now, some of you could say like, okay, Jerry, that feels like a stretch. Are you just making that up?
Are you using this one verse to say that a man is supposed to be the leader over his wife? And the answer is no. From all of scripture, you from that very first creation all the way through the scriptures. Over and over and over again. You see men are supposed to lead their families, lead their wives. You get Ephesians 5 22 wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife. Even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and is himself, its Savior now as the church submits to Christ. So also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. One Peter three. One. Likewise, wives be subject to your own husband so that even if some do not obey the word, that they may be one without a word by the conduct of their wives.
So again, I know in our day and age this is not popular. You might think to yourself as a woman, like, why? You know, why? Why in the world would I want to submit to a man? There's no way I'm gonna submit to a man. Men don't deserve me to submit to them. Many men, dude, if they're honest, a lot of Christian men be like, I might agree with you.
Like, I don't know if I'm the best leader. And so a lot of women, you know, feel this. I just wanna make the point here that this is not a American thing. This is not a Middle Eastern thing. This isn't a 2024 thing, or 25 thing, or 2020 thing like this has been from the very first pages of scripture. God has made the order of creation that men would lead their wives for better or worse.
Whether you like that or you don't like that, you could say, well, I don't want the ocean to be blue. I want it to be yellow. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what you want. This is the way God ordered things. This is the order of creation. This is how he designed things. For humans to best flourish. He put this whole world together.
He created all the laws for it to work and operate best. And this is what he decided was best for human flourishing, that he would create man. First he would give men instruction and he would have that man lead, his wife, and that theme would carry out through all the scriptures that men are supposed to lead.
I wanna make the argument, if that joles you at all, I wanna make the argument that we. All submit all the time, like submission is actually a normal part of humans and human, uh, structure. We submit to the laws on the road when we drive. We submit to the police officer when he pulls us over and he tells us to give him our driver's license.
We submit to the rules. That the referee demands. When our kids are playing their soccer game, we submit to the laws at the grocery store. We don't just run outta the grocery store with whatever we want. We submit to the rules and the laws of these businesses and institutions. We submit to our employer every time that we clock in at work.
These are the rules. In order to get paid, you have to do what we tell you to do. We submit to that. We submit to. Governments and teachers and we just submit to each other all the time, like all the structures that we have are submission. And so I think what happens here if, if there's some part of you that feels kind of jostled, I think what has happened is we don't like submitting.
I. When that leader, when the person over us goes sideways or does things wrong or uses their power or their leadership in a inappropriate or just immoral or even just degrading way, we start to jostle at the thought of submitting to that kind of leadership. When a police officer does something wrong, which by the way, my best friend is a police officer, I am so pro.
Police officers. I know we have so many police officers who listen to this dad type podcast. Good men and women who are out there laying down their lives for not enough money to protect us and keep us safe. So just please hear me. I am four police officers. But when you get the bad apple as there is in every industry, and he go sideways or she goes sideways and does something wrong, like we have a hard time submitting to that man or woman.
'cause we know like you've stepped outside the bounds here. When a teacher. Steps outside the bounds of their leadership. When a, a government employee goes outside their bounds, when any leader steps outside the bounds of what they're supposed to do now we don't wanna submit to them. It doesn't feel right.
And so I would say that one of the reasons that women have such a hard time at the idea of submitting to their husbands is because us husbands, we have dropped the ball on leading well. And so as a culture, we have an entire generation. Of women who cringe at the idea of submitting to their husbands, because in general, things have gone sideways when it comes to leadership among men.
And I wanna address the men, and I will address the men in a couple minutes. But first, I just, I wanna make a couple points to women when we're thinking through submission. The first one is your submission. First to God. And so if you think, okay, so I'm just supposed to listen to my husband, whatever he says, the answer is no.
The scriptures do not command you as a wife to just listen to your husband wherever he wants to go. If your husband is leading you into sin, if he has inappropriate, IM moral sinful, things that he's trying to lead you into, God would never have you just blindly and unconditionally follow your husband wherever he goes.
Your submission first is to Christ I. You are a daughter of his. You are a child of Jesus first under the structure, and he would not have you go wherever your husband goes. Uh, I just want you to hear that loud and clear. We get that, I get that argument, or I can make that argument confidently when you think through versus like Acts 5 29 where essentially the apostles were being told, stop preaching.
Jesus, stop preaching Jesus. Or you're gonna get in some serious trouble. But Peter and the apostles answered these authorities, so again, we're supposed to submit to authority. That's biblical. That's right. But they answer this authority who they're supposed to be submitting to, and they say, we must obey God rather than men.
And that for you, wife is your first calling. You must obey God rather than your husband. If your husband is asking you to follow him into sin, you do not. So this is not a blind, unconditional. Go wherever your husband goes because he says, you know, I'm the boss here. That is not what God is calling you to do.
Your first role is submission to Jesus, and then you submit to your husband your submission. This would be my second point. Your submission is not of oppression, but it's voluntary, it's willing, and it's actually loving. You are choosing to say, husband, I submit under this new kingdom way. I submit to following your lead.
Willingly not because you are some boss and you're gonna tell me what to do. That actually the verse was never even meant to say that in the actual verse that we just read there. A wife submit to your husbands as is fitting for the Lord. The Greek word there for submit actually implies a voluntary, respectful, yielding and love rather than a forced sub ordination.
Like it was never meant to say he is your. Master and you are his slave. That was not the idea that the verse was trying to get after there. It was a willing, it was a voluntary, respectful, yielding and love, not this forced subordination. You have to do whatever I tell you to do. And so when you think through as a wife, your ability to submit to your husband, your willingness to submit to your husband, this is something that you as a Christian wife would say, I'm choosing to.
Come under his leadership. And I just wanna say, if you're a wife listening to this, I know we don't have a ton of wives who listen to this podcast, but if you're a wife listening to this, that feels hard for you. I just wanna remind you, God has never asked you to do what He did not do himself here specifically on this topic.
Jesus submitted himself to the authority of humans. Think about how crazy that is. He lowered himself. Philippians two, five says, having this in mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God, a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men and being found in human form.
He humbled himself by becoming obedient. To the point of death, even death on a cross. You just imagine Jesus who created humans is now being spit on and mocked by humans, his very creation. And, uh, it's not because he was under them. It's not because they were smarter than him, or more clever or witty or whatever, had more power than him.
At any point, Jesus could have called down the angels, but Jesus submit himself. He humbles himself. He submits to their authority, even their wrong authority, and then he tells wives like, I want you to submit to your husbands when Jesus asks you to do that, when God asks you to submit to your husbands, he knows what that's like.
He knows what it's like to submit himself. And this isn't a competence thing. You're not submitting yourself to your husband's leadership because he's smarter than you, dude. Like I know a lot of dudes, and most of us would admit our wives are way smarter than us. It's not a competence issue. My wife can do things so much more.
I. Better than I can. She's really, really good at doing stuff like she can handle our family so much better than I can, and yet my wife still chooses to submit to my leadership. It's a sacrifice that she makes, and when she does that, she gives me and she gives our kids and she gives the world a glimpse of what God did when he submitted himself.
He had more power. He was smarter. He was better at everything when it comes to humans, and yet he laid himself low. And submitted himself. And so when you think through like I, this is hard for me. I would just say, God knows exactly what you are feeling. God knows what it's like to submit himself. Your submission to your husband is for your husband's good.
Look back at that verse on first Peter three, chapter three, verse one. Likewise wives be subject to your own husbands so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be one without a word by the conduct of their wives. So many of you, if you are a wife listening to this, feel like your husband is not leading well.
And Paul would tell you that part of your submission is actually that you may win your husband over. That's been true of my own story when I've been far from God. I was not leading my wife well. She had every right to leave me. She could have hoarded over her, how smart she is, how much better she is at things over me.
She could have done all that rightly so, and yet she continued to humble herself. And serve and to love. And when she did that, it was her kindness that actually led me back to Jesus. I've told that story many times as as she was getting up and praying for me as I was in a deep season of sin. It was her kindness.
It was her gentleness. It was her willingness to stay faithful and serve. That really softened my heart and brought me back to Jesus. And this is what Paul is saying. Um, that even if they do not believe, even if they don't obey the word, if your husband is not obeying the word, that some of your husbands will be one back to Christ or to Christ, even without a word, just by your conduct.
Wives, this last week, I was, we were getting ready for church and it was just chaotic. You know how crazy Sundays can be? My kids were sleeping in, we slept in, the coffee machine wasn't working right? E everything just felt super chaotic and we were just rushing to try to get out of the door. On time. And I, my wife was like frantically, Layla was frantically getting ready in the bathroom.
And I went in there and I was like, babe, let's just go next week. Let's just have an easy Sunday. This is crazy. It's way too chaotic today. And I was looking at, we were talking to each other in the mirror, you know, when, when we're getting ready. And she said, she just kind of smiled and she said, we'll go wherever you lead us.
You're the leader. Where are we going? And those words, like she was saying it half jokingly, she kind of smiled. You know, like, you're the leader here, I'll, we'll follow you. Where do you wanna lead us? She was saying it half joking, but man, it hit hard because what she's saying is true and it's biblical and it's right, like I am for better or worse, as much as I want to, whether I, I think it's true or not, or I want the, the role of leadership or not, like the reality is.
I am called to lead my family and she put it on me like, you are called to lead us. Where are you going to lead us, Mr. Leader? And it really convicted me. And I said, all right, let's go. And I just rushed to get the kids and we got to church and we worshiped together and we studied the word together and we, we interacted with fellow believers.
But it was really at the prompting of my wife. And that's what I think Paul is saying here. It's like, dude, my wife's competent. She could have taken over leadership at that time. She could have done whatever she wanted to do to get the kids out of the door and push us. But she submitted herself. She said, I will follow you.
And it was actually for my good. She helped me become a better leader. And that's really the point here, is that when you wives submit to your husbands, when a wife, and I'm just saying this from personal experience, when a Christian wife looks at her husband and says, I believe God has designed you to lead our family, and I'm willing and I'm confident to follow you.
And when she says, I will use whatever skills, whatever wisdom, whatever gifts that God has given me to help you become the best leader that God has made you to be for us. When a wife says that to her husband, when she implies that I'm willing to trust you and follow you, and I'm gonna use all of my skills and my wisdom, every gift that God has given me to help you become the man God has called you to be, man, you are going to put, when a wife does that, you will put more wind in, hit his sails.
Than any podcast, any sermon, any conference, any coach, any boss, any friend can give him you. When God said it's not right for man to be alone, let us create for him a helper. Again, it's not this. He has more authority. He's smarter than you. He's better than you. Trust me. Wives, we know as men that you are smarter and better.
You can do things better than us. But when you submit to leadership and you say, I, I'm gonna use everything. I've got to help you become the leader God has designed you to be. I'm telling you, you are gonna put more wind in his sails than anything else can do, more than this podcast or any book, anything like you are his greatest help mate to be the man that God is calling him to be.
And so there's something just so beautiful. It's so counter-cultural. I know it joles, it's not like it, this isn't the way that. You know, in our culture that women, things that women want to hear, but when you do it, when you do it voluntarily and you, you do it with love and with sacrifice, in the same way that God laid his life down for his church, when he willingly submitted himself to authority, that really wasn't even nowhere near as good as him when he did that.
And he created that model, man, just something so beautiful and good happens, and I think you'll find. That men will rise up more. They'll become the leaders that you'd so desire them to be. Now I know if your husband listening to this, you're probably thinking to yourself like, Jared, this is probably the best podcast you've ever done.
You're probably thinking like, I need to send this to my wife. She needs to hear every word of this. I need some more submission in my household. I praise God. Thank you, Paul for writing. Colossians chapter three, verse 18. Wives submit to your husbands. Finally, somebody saying it. I wanted to tell my wife, but I didn't wanna be the one to tell her something.
So grateful that Jared is the one telling her. Now, if that's you. Uh, just hold on a second. Cowboy. Paul has some words for you too, but I've hit my time for this week, so you're gonna have to wait till next week. We are going to talk to the husbands and Paul and the rest of scripture has some heavy words for us as husbands.
I. But before we get there, we're just gonna pause. We're gonna chew on what it looks like for a wife to submit to her husband. You can send this to your wives, that's okay. Just send it to her. But just know wives and husband, I'm coming for the men next week. So make sure you hit the follow button. Make sure to subscribe to this so you can check out next week when we talk to the husband and close out our four week study on Colossians.
I love you. I hope this was helpful. There's so much to unpack here. Um, I'm praying that it was, um, somewhat clear. So that we can just step into our role as, um, husbands and wives that want to follow Jesus better. I love you guys. I'll see you next week.