Morning Cereal

Start your day with an inspirational quote, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Chapter 2, Part 2, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Chapter 2, Part 2 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Okay, good morning and welcome to

December 31st, the last day of 2024.

What's the line? The days go by slow but

the years go by fast?

This was definitely another fast year.

But I hope you have some time to reflect

on another year past and all the

potential of another year to come.

If it helps, today is National Unlucky

Day so you can unload all the bad juju

from this last year and it's also

National Makeup Your Mind Day.

So you can make up your mind just how

great you want 2025 to be.

Okay, well let's go ahead and jump into

today's episode with today's quotes.

One fun nostalgic quote

from the 80s, 90s, or 2000s.

And then a second quote to tease our book

review later in the episode.

Hopefully one of the quotes will speak to

you and jump start your

day in a positive direction.

Okay, the first quote is from the movie

when Harry met Sally.

And Harry, Billy Crystal's character,

tells Sally, who's Meg Ryan's character,

"It's not because I'm lonely and it's not

because it's New Year's Eve.

I came here tonight because when you

realize you want to spend the rest of

your life with somebody,

you want the rest of your life to start

as soon as possible."

Yeah, I think that still holds up.

And today's teaser quote

from the book review is,

"If you tell me how you get your feeling

of importance, I'll

tell you what you are."

And as usual, we'll unpack that here in a

minute during the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic facts

from this day in history.

Today's news facts

are from December 31st.

And all the way back in 1879, Thomas

Edison demonstrated

incandescent light for the first time.

That's the design of the

traditional light bulb.

In 1907, the first annual New Year's Eve

ball drop at Times Square happened.

In 1970, Paul McCartney made the move to

dissolve the Beatles.

In 1984, Def Leppard's drummer Rick

Allen, he famously lost

his arm in a car accident

outside of Sheffield, England.

In 1988, you may

remember watching the fog bowl.

It was a heavy dense fog that rolled into

Soldier Field in Chicago

during the second quarters

of the Bears-Eagles game.

That was during a

divisional playoff game.

Good news, the Bears won.

In 1999, the Panama Canal

was turned over to Panama.

Also in 1999, Vladimir Putin became the

acting president of Russia

following Yeltsin's resignation.

And lastly, in 2019, the World Health

Organization first learned of viral

pneumonia cases in Wuhan,

China. That disease was later determined

to be the cause of COVID-19,

which obviously became a global pandemic

in the following year.

Okay, well, let's move on to birthdays.

Happy birthday. If today is your

birthday, you share a birthday with a

somewhat short list today.

Young Joey McIntyre of the New Kids on

the Block turns 52 today.

South Korean singer-songwriter, Psy, only

known to me for his song Gangnam Style,

he's 47. The great Sir

Anthony Hopkins is 86.

And finally, the Iceman

himself, Val Kilmore, he's 65.

So happy birthday to everyone.

Okay, and then moving to one of my

favorite segments of the morning serial,

the music of the 80s, 90s, and 2000s.

The number one song

from this date in 1986.

It's "Walk Like an

Egyptian" from the Bangles.

Interestingly, the song's inspiration

came from watching people

try to keep their balance on a

rocking ferry boat, which make the

songwriter think they look like ancient

Egyptians trying to walk.

And finally, the number one

movie in 1996 was Jerry McGuire.

So many great lines from that movie.

You had me at Hello, Show Me the Money,

and Who's Coming With Me?

You Complete Me? Man,

great movie. Great lines.

Okay, well, let's go ahead and move into

some inspiration here in the book review

segment of morning serial. This is where

we take a few moments to reflect on

lessons learned from

the current book we're reading. And

currently, we're reading

through Dale Carnegie's How to

Win Friends and Influence People. Again,

it's a timeless book that

is consistently on all the

must read lists, and it's packed with

rock solid advice and

actions for all of us to

use and build healthy foundational

concepts to live by.

Okay, we began chapter two yesterday, the

big secret of dealing with people.

And Carnegie has us contemplating basic

human needs and

desires. We'll pick it up after

discussing Carnegie's eight basic needs,

humans will stop at

nothing to get. And for review,

those were number one, health and the

preservation of life, two food, three

sleep, four, money and

the things money will buy, five, life and

the hereafter, six,

sexual gratification, seven,

the well being of our children and eight,

a feeling of

importance. We left off yesterday

with Carnegie saying, quote, almost all

of these wants are usually

gratified except for one,

end quote. And that is the desire to be

important. And note that Carnegie is

making a distinction

here between needs and desires. We need

food, we need sleep. But Carnegie is

saying that only the

eighth item on this list, a feeling of

importance is something we desire.

Moreover, we crave it.

This would suggest that actually

achieving a real sense of importance is

not easily obtained.

Carnegie says, quote, the rare individual

who honestly satisfies this heart hunger,

and he's speaking of feeling appreciated

or important, who

honestly satisfies this heart

hunger will hold people in the palm of

his or her hand. This

desire for importance is

likely innate in us. From the time we

were little, we innately

gravitate to those instances

where we felt important. From the time we

were little, we innately

gravitate to those instances

where we felt important. We kept colored

ribbons from track meets and

trophies from sports teams,

or our parents put up our artwork or test

grades on the refrigerator.

And we felt proud of these

moments. Even to this day, if we're

honest, I think we can

still find some pride in those

accomplishments. And we naturally carry

this desire to feel

important into adulthood. Carnegie

gives several examples of notable people

in history that this desire

for a feeling of importance

pushed them to huge success. And Carnegie

also says, quote, this

desire makes us want to wear

the latest styles, drive the latest cars

and talk about our

brilliant children, end quote.

And it's the same desire that can lead us

astray at times too, luring

people into joining gangs or

into criminal activities. Here, Carnegie

points out that one time New

York City police commissioner

says criminals are filled with ego. And

their first request after

being arrested is what the

newspaper said about them on the pages

where they are happy to see themselves

that they're sharing

space with sports figures, TV stars and

politicians. And that's not

changed much from today when you

consider our own era of social media and

full TV coverage. People

want their 15 seconds of fame

because it makes them feel important. So

to bring this back around

to those of us not looking to

join a gang, Carnegie asks the reader,

quote, if you tell me how you get your

feeling of importance,

I'll tell you what you are. That

determines your character. That is the

most significant thing

about you, end quote. Carnegie contrast

John D. Rockefeller getting

his feelings of importance

by using his money to help others, many

of whom he would never meet

versus a bank robber and a

murderer named Dillinger who was proud of

the fact he was public

enemy number one. There was

a significant difference between how

these two men, Rockefeller and Dillinger,

got their feeling of

importance. Now Carnegie gives some great

and funny examples of famous people

throughout history that

struggled for a feeling of importance.

George Washington wanted

to be called his mightiness,

the president of the United States.

Christopher Columbus,

he pleaded for the title,

Admiral of the Ocean and Viceroy of

India. And ladies, this

isn't just a testosterone thing.

Catherine the Great refused to open

letters that weren't

addressed to her imperial majesty,

among other examples. The point is we all

go about finding this feeling of

importance in different

ways, some more healthy than others. Some

people can find a feeling of

importance based on sympathy

and attention. Has anyone felt important

because someone stayed by

your side when you weren't

feeling well or someone skipped an event

to stay with you? It does

feel good, but the strategy

could be taken too far and can become

unhealthy quickly. Here

Carnegie points out over a few

paragraphs to make the point that people

will go to extremely

unhealthy lengths to feel important.

Now relating this to how to win friends

and influence people,

imagine what a miracle we

could each perform by simply giving

people honest

appreciation in order to give them a

feeling of importance. That feeling of

importance is something we

covet and desire, and imagine

giving that feeling away freely to

others. I hope you can see

the connection there, how we can

freely give something to someone else

that is often the most

difficult thing to obtain

of the eight needs and desires we have as

humans. Okay, well I feel

like we need to get up and

stretch after that one. Tomorrow,

Carnegie tells us a story

about why a man paid another man a

million dollars per year salary in 1921

when $50 per week was

considered well off.

Okay, get out there, have a great day,

celebrate another year and the

possibilities of the year to

come. Thanks again for joining us today

and we'll be back next

year. Well, actually it'll be

tomorrow. So have a

fantastic day and happy new year's.