Coworking Values Podcast

Why your coworking space needs a Story before it can practise hospitality
"Marketing makes these promises and service delivers that. So for us, StoryBrand and unreasonable hospitality, you know, really work together kind of hand in glove. And StoryBrand is, you know, really about thinking about how you communicate that you care to your customers. And the unreasonable hospitality side of things is how you prove it."— Sonya Whittam
Sonya Whittam and Julie Firth run Story22, a customer-centric marketing agency based in the UK. They're also two of the handful of certified Unreasonable Hospitality facilitators in the country, trained directly by Will Guidara.
Bernie met them in Nashville in February 2020, just before COVID lockdown, when they were all training to become StoryBrand guides with Donald Miller and Dr. JJ Peterson.
Since then, Unreasonable Hospitality has become the book of choice for the UK coworking industry. Operators read it, love it, and then struggle to implement it.
The problem? Most people jump straight into implementation without first figuring out what their business actually stands for.
This conversation unpacks the disconnect between reading the book and actually implementing it. Sonya and Julie explain why you need a clear Story first before your team can deliver hospitality. Without that "golden thread," random wow moments don't reinforce anything.
They're blunt about the traps: generic positioning ("quality, service, and value"), rigid scripts that kill personalisation, and the hotelification obsession.
The conversation covers the Honest Greens experience in Barcelona, the George Hotel flat white story from Scotland, why finance and compliance teams should attend hospitality workshops, and the critical difference between gimmicks and genuine care.
For operators trying to figure out how to make their space feel hospitable without burning out or going broke, this episode is the operating manual.
Timeline Highlights
00:00 – Bernie intro: "Unreasonable Hospitality has become the book du jour of the coworking industry... I worked in hospitality for about 3,000 years and I really, really rate that book."
01:42 – Sonya introduces Story22: "Marketing makes these promises and service delivers that... StoryBrand is really about thinking about how you communicate that you care to your customers. And the unreasonable hospitality side of things is how you prove it."
02:43 – Julie on why the two frameworks work together: "StoryBrand helps you understand who you are. And then Unreasonable Hospitality helps you then deliver what you stand for."
03:40 – Bernie, Sonya, and Julie met in Nashville in February 2020 doing StoryBrand guide training together, just before COVID lockdown.
04:52 – Julie on the biggest implementation problem: "Unless you have this kind of golden thread running through everything that you do about what you stand for, who you are as a business, what you want to be known for... people are at risk of going into a million different directions."
06:33 – Bernie asks: "Working out who you are, is that like a little bit at a time over a year, or is that writing it on a napkin in a cafe?"
07:04 – Sonya: "Positioning, understanding what you stand for needs to come before you even start getting into your messaging and should come before you get into thinking about the service elements."
09:00 – Bernie calls out the "quality, service, and value" trap: "That's like Marks & Spencer's in 1994. What do you actually believe in?"
10:18 – Julie on customer-first values: "You could have one [space] that is trying to be a home from home and they want this to feel cosy... That could have a very different personality to one that was very tech-focused where people needed efficiency."
11:56 – Sonya on team culture and non-negotiables: "Your culture internally, your team have to want to deliver those things for your customers. The non-negotiable that you agree with your team, they have to be brought onto that."
12:03 – Honest Greens example in Barcelona: "We had 4 or 5 different touchpoints... every single touchpoint was exceptional... they were brought into, we value our customers here."
14:31 – Julie on hiring for culture: "It's not about hiring someone that can be well organised and manage the bookings. It's how do they fit into that culture."
18:32 – Sonya on team empowerment: "If your team aren't free to act, they can't deliver the promises that you make."
19:34 – Will Guidara's "one size fits one" philosophy: "You're creating an experience that is for individuals... you want to empower your team to be able to solve those problems individually for customers."
21:36 – Julie on gimmicks vs genuine hospitality: "The Storys that we've shared are probably of things that have happened to us that have either cost nothing at all, or, you know, a couple of quid... someone has kind of gone out of their way to help you or to greet you or to remember something."
24:16 – Sonya introduces the June workshop: "We're running a 2-day event in central London, just outside of Holborn on the 10th and 11th of June... Dr JJ Peterson coming over to run the 2-day workshop with us."
26:43 – Julie on who should attend: "Anyone that has customer touch is the answer... I think the more of a mix of different perspectives you have in there, the more valuable it is."
Lesson 1: Marketing Makes Promises, Service Delivers Them
The UK coworking industry loves Unreasonable Hospitality.
Operators read the book, get inspired by the New York hot dog story and the bottle of cognac at 11 Madison Park, and then try to replicate those moments in their own spaces.
The results are often gimmicky. Cupcakes at the front desk. Branded tote bags. Free coffee upgrades.
The problem isn't the gestures themselves. The problem is they're disconnected from any coherent Story about what the business stands for.
Sonya and Julie's insight cuts through this: "Marketing makes these promises and service delivers that. So for us, StoryBrand and unreasonable hospitality really work together kind of hand in glove."
Here's what that means in practice:
StoryBrand is the framework for figuring out what you communicate to your customers. It clarifies your message, your positioning, and what you're promising to solve for people.
Unreasonable Hospitality is how you prove those promises through the actual experience people have in your space.
One without the other creates a disconnect.
If you promise "home from home" but your team are rigid and scripted, people feel the gap between the marketing and the reality.
If you create amazing hospitality moments but your website says "quality, service, and value" (the Marks & Spencer 1994 trap), no one knows what those moments are supposed to mean.
Julie put it this way: "StoryBrand helps you understand who you are. And then Unreasonable Hospitality helps you then deliver what you stand for and how you want to project that onto your clients so that your customers, your members, have the best possible experience."
The hand-in-glove relationship works because you need clarity before you can deliver consistency.
For coworking operators, the lesson is this: before you buy fancy coffee beans or install a slide in your office, sit down and answer the question: what do we stand for, and who are we saying that for?
If you can't answer that, the cupcakes won't save you.
Lesson 2: The Golden Thread (Know Your Story First)
Julie calls it the "golden thread."
It's the coherent Story that runs through everything you do—your messaging, your service, your hiring, your non-negotiables.
Without it, your team scatters in a million directions.
Here's the trap: you read Unreasonable Hospitality, get excited about empowering your team to create wow moments, and suddenly everyone's doing different things for different reasons. None of it connects. It's just noise.
"Unless you have this kind of golden thread running through everything that you do about what you stand for, who you are as a business, what you want to be known for, without really drilling down into that first, people are at risk of going into a million different directions," Julie said.
The golden thread is your positioning. Your non-negotiables. The thing you're willing to be unpopular for.
Bernie pushed on this: "People will say something like, oh yeah, we're a coworking space. We stand for quality, service, and value. That's like Marks & Spencer's in 1994. What do you actually believe in?"
Sonya's answer: "That positioning of understanding what you stand for needs to come before you even start getting into your messaging and should come before you get into thinking about the service elements."
Here's how you figure it out:
Start with your customers, not yourself.
Julie: "You don't have to sell because you naturally become the right solution for what they're looking for."
If your ideal members are small businesses that need to appear professional when pitching to investors, your values will be different from a space targeting freelancers who want "home from home" vibes.
You can't be both. You have to choose.
Get external help.
Sonya: "I do think it's difficult to do it for yourselves... you're so close to it, you can't see the wood for the trees."
The curse of knowledge means you know everything about your business. Your customers don't. You need someone to hold up a mirror and ask: why is that relevant? Why does that matter?
Make it specific, not generic.
Julie gave the example of a coworking space whose members needed to appear "larger than they actually were, but definitely impressive" when pitching to their own clients.
That's specific. That's a positioning you can build service around.
"Home from home" for that same space would be a mismatch.
The golden thread only works if it's deliberate. Once you've defined it, every decision—from hiring to hospitality gestures—gets filtered through it.
Does this action reinforce what we stand for? Or does it scatter us?
If you can't answer that, you don't have a golden thread yet.
Lesson 3: Team Culture Is the Foundation
Sonya and Julie were in Barcelona recently. They ate at a place called Honest Greens.
Fast-casual healthy food. You stand at the till to order. Not fancy. Not expensive.
But every single touchpoint—the greeting when they walked in, the menu explanation, the food delivery, the follow-up cheque-in—was exceptional.
Why? "The team culture, the non-negotiables were that customers had to feel valued in there."
Compare that to every bad restaurant or coworking space you've ever been to. The service is poor at every touchpoint because the team culture internally doesn't align with delivering great service.
Sonya: "Your culture internally, your team have to want to deliver those things for your customers. The non-negotiable that you agree with your team, they have to be brought onto that."
This is where most operators get stuck.
They read Unreasonable Hospitality, get inspired by Will Guidara's team at 11 Madison Park creating personalised experiences, and then try to roll it out without first aligning their team on the non-negotiables.
The result? Rigid scripts. Overcontrol. Teams that can't make on-the-spot decisions because they don't know what the business stands for.
Sonya made the economic point explicit: "If your team aren't free to act, they can't deliver the promises that you make."
If your team doesn't know what your space stands for, they can't make judgment calls. They'll either do nothing (because they're scared of getting it wrong) or they'll do random acts of hospitality that don't connect to anything.
Julie's point about hiring lands here: "It's not about hiring someone that can be well organised and manage the bookings. It's how do they fit into that culture."
You're not hiring a receptionist. You're hiring someone who embodies your non-negotiables.
At the Mayfair Intercontinental in the 90s, Bernie worked with people who'd been there for years. "They were just committed to the whole thing and each other. All these little things happened every day that were wow moments... It wasn't gimmicky."
Compare that to transactional service: "I'm giving you this little thing and you have to smile because it's in the social contract that when I give you a mint, when you leave the happy eater, you got to be happy."
The difference is internal culture. Honest Greens had it. The happy eater didn't.
For coworking operators, the lesson is this: you can't script hospitality. You can only create the conditions where your team feels empowered to deliver it.
And that starts with bringing them into the non-negotiables.
Lesson 4: Gimmicks vs Genuine Hospitality
Bernie asked the question every operator's thinking: "Where's the line between gimmicks and genuine special moments?"
Julie's answer: "The Storys that we've shared are probably of things that have happened to us that have either cost nothing at all, or, you know, a couple of quid... someone has kind of gone out of their way to help you or to greet you or to remember something, to note your situation that you are in."
Here's the George Hotel story from Scotland:
Sonya ordered a coffee at breakfast. The server brought the wrong one. She said it was fine, drank it anyway, and went upstairs to her meeting.
The server took it so personally that he brought a flat white up to her room.
"I tell everyone about that experience because it made me feel really valued. It made me feel that he took personally that the coffee I ordered wasn't the coffee I got."
That moment cost maybe £3. But it created a Story Sonya's been telling for years.
Compare that to the slide-in-the-office gimmick. Sonya referenced it: "That could have been gimmicky unless it was really linked to the experience of the people working there."
The difference between a gimmick and genuine hospitality is intent.
Julie: "It's almost never about the stuff that we sit on... If you don't have the experience of, you don't have that hospitality that matches that, then it's just gonna be a shell. It's just gonna be things that people sit on."
You can have Herman Miller chairs and a fancy espresso machine. But if your team aren't empowered to notice when someone's drenched from the rain and bring them a hot chocolate, the fancy stuff is just set dressing.
Will Guidara's book is full of examples that cost nothing: switching place settings for left-handed guests, noticing someone's birthday, remembering a regular's drink order.
The coworking industry's obsession with Unreasonable Hospitality makes sense. Operators are competing on experience, not amenities.
But there's a dangerous version of this playing out: the hotelification of coworking.
Bernie's seen it. Operators trying to mimic luxury hotels—concierge service, bespoke room service, catering to every whim.
Here's the economic reality: hotels spend 30-35% of their revenue on staffing. Independent coworking spaces operate on 9-11%.
If a local operator tries to run a 5-star hotel service model on a micro-business budget, they'll go bankrupt.
As Ian Minor pointed out in an earlier podcast, hospitality in coworking is about the art of being hospitable, not about being a servant.
The true product isn't the physical workspace. It's the experience and the human connection.
Hospitality in a coworking space means:
  • Remembering someone's name
  • Noticing when they're struggling and offering help
  • Creating moments where members feel seen
  • Empowering your team to respond in the moment without scripts
It doesn't mean hiring a concierge, installing a cocktail bar, or trying to compete with the Soho House.
You can't afford that. And your members don't need it.
They need to feel like they belong. That costs nothing.
Lesson 5: One Size Fits One (Personalisation Over Scripts)
Will Guidara's philosophy at 11 Madison Park was "one size fits one."
Some guests love it when you hang out at the table and chat. Others want you to take their order and disappear.
Your job is to read the guest and serve them how they want to be served.
The same applies to coworking.
Sonya: "You're creating an experience that is for individuals. So you're not trying to create an experience that you can replicate... you want to empower your team to be able to solve those problems individually for customers."
This is where rigid scripts and overcontrol kill hospitality.
If your team has a checklist of "hospitality gestures" they're supposed to perform, they're not reading the room. They're ticking boxes.
Julie made the point about team freedom: "If your team aren't free to act, they can't deliver the promises that you make."
Bernie's restaurant story lands here. He worked at a place in the City of London where the goal was to turn tables as fast as possible. "Most people came down from their offices, they ate, they shot, and they left. But other people didn't want to be rushed, but we were more intent on getting them in and out as quickly as possible."
That's service without hospitality. Efficient. Transactional. Black and white.
Compare that to Bernie's other story: remembering a couple's drink order (Corona and a margarita with no salt) from a different restaurant, then putting their drinks in front of them without asking when they showed up somewhere new.
"The guy went like, How the fuck did you know that?"
That's hospitality. It's colour.
And it only works if you're paying attention to individuals, not executing a script.
Sonya and Julie run Unreasonable Hospitality workshops where they map customer journeys and identify touchpoints. One client's survey feedback highlighted that the toilet area mattered to their members.
Not sexy. Not Instagram-worthy. But it was a touchpoint that needed attention.
"Some of the work that we do is about overlooked touch points. They're about things that we do in the everyday, and they don't have to cost a lot of money."
For coworking operators, the lesson is this: don't chase the audacious Beyoncé-at-your-Christmas-party moments.
Focus on the basics first. The arrival experience. The greeting. The way your team responds when someone's stressed.
Then empower your team to personalise those moments based on what they notice about individual members.
Scripts kill personalisation. Freedom creates it.
But freedom only works if your team knows the golden thread well enough to improvise within it.
Links & Resources
Sonya & Julie's Work
Story22 – Customer-centric marketing agency specialising in StoryBrand and Unreasonable Hospitality
StoryBrand & Unreasonable Hospitality Workshop, June 10-11, 2026 – Two-day intensive at De Vere Grand Connaught Rooms, Holborn, London
Discount code: coworkingvalues (all one word) for the mates rate
Sonya Whittam on LinkedIn
Julie Firth on LinkedIn
Books & Frameworks Mentioned
Unreasonable Hospitality – Will Guidara
Building a StoryBrand – Donald Miller
Marketing Made Simple – Donald Miller & Dr. JJ Peterson
Examples Referenced
Honest Greens – Barcelona (fast-casual restaurant with exceptional team culture)
The George Hotel – Scotland (flat white story)
11 Madison Park – New York (Will Guidara's restaurant)
Related Events & Communities
European Coworking Day – 6th May 2026
Flexa Conference – 12th May 2026, London
Unreasonable Connection LIVE! – 19th May 2026, Space4, Finsbury Park
LinkedIn Coworking Group
Bernie's Projects
London Coworking Assembly 5-Day AI Crash Course for Coworking Spaces
Connect with Bernie on LinkedIn
One More Thing
I've read Unreasonable Hospitality probably 15 times now.
I love that book. I worked in catering for years—5-star hotels, casual dining, everything in between. The George Hotel flat white story Sonya told resonates because I've been that server. The one who took it personally when something wasn't right.
But I've also watched coworking operators read that book and then try to turn their space into a luxury hotel.
They can't afford it. The staffing ratios don't work. The economics break.
Ian Minor said it best: "Hospitality in coworking is about the art of being hospitable. Not about being a servant."
The coworking industry's obsession with hotelification misses the point. Hospitality goes deeper than amenities.
It's noticing when someone's having a rough day and asking if they're okay. It's remembering their name. It's creating the conditions where your team can respond to individuals without needing permission.
Most operators will read the book, try a few things, get overwhelmed, and give up.
The ones who figure out their Story first—the golden thread that holds everything together—will build spaces where hospitality feels natural instead of performed.
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What is Coworking Values Podcast?

Welcome to Coworking Values the podcast of the European Coworking Assembly.

Each week we deep dive into one of the values of accessibility, community, openness, collaboration and sustainability. Listen in to learn how these values can make or break Coworking culture.

Speaker 9: Hello Coworking
Community Builders.

This is the Coworking Values Podcast.

So today in the studio is Sonya and Julie.

I met them just before lockdown in
COVID in Nashville when we were doing

the StoryBrand Guide training together.

And then since then, unreasonable
Hospital h Brutality has become the, the

book du Jo of the Coworking Industry.

And it's a really important book.

It, I've worked in hospitality
for about 3000 years.

And I really, really write that book.

So in here we dig into hospitality,
customer service, what it

means, how it's positioned.

And the best news is sometime in
June, June the 11th, I think it is.

I should know that.

Doing an intro to my own podcast, Dr.

JJ Peterson from StoryBrand, who wrote
the Guide and everything with Will Guera

about Unreasonable Hospitality and.

Julie and Sonya are running a story
brand workshop and an unreasonable

hospitality workshop in Holburn in
Central London, and I know you're

supposed to be called and leave this
to the end, but if you click the link

in the show notes and type in the code.

Coworking values, all one word that will
get you the mate's rate to the workshop.

It is gonna be amazing.

I will be there and I know people
that are doing things like that

always say amazing, but I cannot wait.

I'm flying in for my luxury layer
in Galicia to be at that event.

So that's enough for me.

Let's get into them.

Speaker: I am Over the moon again.

I mean, I know I say that nearly
every episode, but Sonya and Julia are

back in the luxury studio, and we're
gonna be talking about StoryBrand

and Unreasonable Hospitality I'm
gonna let them introduce themselves.

So, who, which of you
two wants to go first?

Do you wanna go first?

Sonya?

Like, what would you like to be known for?

And then batter over to Julie.

Speaker 2: Thank you.

So I'm Sonya Whitten.

I co-own story 22 with Julie Firth
and we run a full service marketing

agency that specialises in StoryBrand.

But also over the last couple of years
we've been delivering unreasonable

hospitality workshops across the uk.

And it's something that we've.

Feel really passionately about our agency
has been running for six years and as

we've kind of gone through that time,
it is become very obvious to us that you

know, marketing and, and service the.

So closely linked.

And you know, the way we kind of think
about it is that marketing makes these

promises and service delivers that.

So for us, StoryBrand and Unreasonable
Hospitality, you know, really work

together kind of hand in glove and
StoryBrand is, you know, really about

thinking about how you communicate
that you care to your customers and.

The unreasonable hospitality side
of things is how you prove it.

And we are going to be running
a workshop in London in June

that kind of covers this.

Julie, do you wanna take
over and say a bit more?

Speaker 3: Yeah, sure.

So I'm Julie Sonya's business partner.

And in the last couple of years, I,
I think as, as sort of AI's come in

we are leaning more and more into
delivering training and workshops

for, clients that are trying to,
trying to stand out, I suppose.

And one of the things we love about
Unreasonable Hospitality is it is

really does give people a, a very
clear competitive advantage when

it's delivered in the right way.

And just to kind of reiterate what so
was saying about how StoryBrand and.

Unreasonable hospitality
fit really well together.

So obviously StoryBrand helps you
understand who you are, and then

Unreasonable Hospitality helps you then
deliver what you stand for and how you

wanna project that onto your clients so
that your customers, your members, so that

they have the best possible experience.

So that's that's it in a nutshell.

Speaker: Let's set, set
this up a little bit.

'cause like we met in, oh my God, is it
like six years ago or five years ago?

Speaker 3: Yes.

Yes.

In Nashville.

Speaker: Nashville doing StoryBrand
guide training and, you know, we just

like followed each other ever since.

And I, I, when I'm Reasonable
hospitality came out I love that book.

I think everyone should read.

I dunno.

I just think everyone should read it.

I haven't got a why they should read
it, but you know, I'm reasonable.

Hospitality and Kitchen Confidential by
Anthony Bourdain and I always like to

tell the, I grew up in five star hotels
and served Roger Moore, but actually I

spent most of my careers in middle of the
road casual dining restaurants serving

mediocre for heaters and cheeseburgers
to people drinking too much tequila.

But there was always this like, human
interaction, and I think those two

books are like, as, as someone who
worked in catering, we used to call

it, they're, they're like, really?

They're really enjoyable to read
and you feel like you are at that.

That is something I wish I'd read in the
last century when I worked in catering.

And there's this matching of,
like you said just now, Julie,

of the story and the delivery.

And that's what I want to kind
of unpick for people here.

And that Unreasonable hospitality book
is all over the coworking industry.

And I feel that people.

I know someone who owns a, owns
a coworking space goes, I've

read this book, let's do this.

And there's a massive disconnect.

Which I hope you have the
answer to the disconnect 'cause

I dunno where I'm going now.

But yeah.

What do you think?

What do you think happens?

Speaker 3: Well, I, I think one of the,
the challenges there is if you think

about if you're familiar with Unreasonable
Hospitality, you'll, you'll know that some

of the work that Bill Gadara did was to
really, he had, he worked with his team.

He knew he couldn't get them on his own.

He had to bring the
team on board with that.

And, part of the process was to empower
them to be able to react in the moment

to create these incredible experiences.

Now, the challenge with that is unless
you have this kind of golden thread

running through everything that you
do about what you stand for, who you

are as a business, what you want to
be known for, without really drilling

down into that first, people are at
risk of going into a million different

directions is one of the things we see
from the workshops we deliver, is that.

You get a group of people around the
table and you get 'em to start thinking

in a different way about, about
the experience they could deliver.

And the the great thing is, is
they are full of excitement.

They're full of 1,000,001 different ideas.

All of a sudden they're really fired up.

But without something that.

Kind of gives you the not control,
but the guardrails, I suppose,

to kind of, stick within that
gives you a, what's your purpose?

What's the purpose of doing this
amazing thing for that person?

Does it fit with our values and
what we stand for and how we

wanna project ourselves to our,
to our customers or our members?

Without that in place first, then I.

Think that is one of the areas
where unreasonable hospitality

can quickly trip you up.

There are others, and I think
we'll go into those when we start

to talk about process as well.

But that, that for me, I think you have to
know what your story is first to then be

able to deliver on that story through the
unreasonable hospitality side of things.

Speaker: So with that story thing,
Sonya, like, I mean ideally everyone

would sit down and do a story brand,
whatever it is, brand script, but

like it is working out who you are.

Is that like a little bit at a
time over a year or is that like.

Right on a napkin and a cafe.

Like how does, because I hear and I say
things like that too, you really need

to find out your, what you're about.

But what is that in reality?

How do, how do you do that?

Especially if you're like a, you know,
a one, one or two person business in

Rochester running a coworking space.

Like how, what is the process
and time to get that done?

Speaker 2: Yeah, I, I, and actually,
it's a really interesting question that

you say, 'cause it's something that we
you know, we work with our customers

quite a lot on, and, you know, one
of the big, I thought you're gonna

say that's something we struggle with
ourselves, but actually I do, I do think

it's difficult to do it for yourself.

And I think the, you know, the, you go
back to, you know, don Miller saying

that, you know, that you are so close to
it, you can't see the wood for the tree.

So it's def, you know, definitely
it's, it's far more difficult

to do it for yourself because
you get that curse of knowledge.

You know, you know everything.

So it's difficult for you
to be able to work that out.

And I think that's, you know,
one of the reasons why, you know,

people do go to guides, to, to help
with that, to kind of work out.

Y you know, that.

Ability to be able to see as your
customer sees you not as you know,

everything, you know, you know
the ins and outs of your business.

It's difficult to think about how
your customer might see you there.

But I do think that position, and we'd
call it positioning, so you know, that

positioning of understanding what you
stand for needs to come before you even

start getting into your messaging and
should come before you get into, you

know, kind of thinking about the service.

You know, elements of that and
getting into, you know, where

your touch points might be.

So they, you know, it very much is
cyclical, but it, you, you have to be

thinking about what you stand for, who
you are, what experience you want your

customers to have before you can even
get into that marketing of the message.

So, you know, they kind of
fit really well hand in glove.

Speaker: Can I jump in there?

'cause I see I, and I've
been in these sessions.

People say like what you said
what triggered my excitement there

was when you said, stand for, and
people will say something like

oh yeah, we're a coworking space.

We, we stand for quality,
service and value.

And that's like Marks
and Spencer's in 1994.

Like, what do you actually believe in?

Like, you know, and how do you
get that bit out of, if, if

you can't go to a workshop?

Like how, how do you find that bit?

Because I think.

People, we've all done it.

You know, we've all like looked
at everyone else's website

and copied the best bits.

And I think that works less
than it ever has nowadays.

But how do you work out who you are?

That's a big question, isn't it?

Sorry,

Speaker 2: Julie, do
you wanna pick that up?

Speaker 3: Yeah.

Well, I, I, I think actually
this comes back to who your

customers are first and foremost.

So, when we were chatting before
earlier Bernie, we were, we

were talking about the different
personalities that different coworking

faces might have and the different
people they're trying to attract.

And you could have one that
is trying to be a home.

From home and they want this to feel cosy
and that people are feel looked after.

And that could have a very different
personality to one that was very tech

focused where people needed efficiency.

And once you know, once you understand
who your customers are and what they

value, then that's how you understand.

How to prioritise your values.

So you could have you could
have a set of values internally,

personally if you are the founder.

And then it's how you how you refine
those values to be, understood by your

customers and, and be relatable to your,
your ideal customer profile, I suppose.

So there's there's no point in having say.

Say efficiency was one
of your your values.

If efficiency wasn't something that
chimed with your people that liked that

home from home co-working space, then
that's, it's, there's a disconnect.

There you are, you are not aligning
yourself with your customers.

So I, I think it, it always
goes back to the customers.

What is it your customers need?

And one of the coworker spaces we
worked with, they recognise that

actually who their target audience was.

Businesses that weren't quite big
enough to have their own premises,

or perhaps it wasn't cost efficient
for them to have their own premises,

but they were pitching to customers
themselves that they needed to appear.

Sometimes perhaps larger than they
actually were, but definitely impressive.

And be able to kind of sit
comfortably in that market space.

Now, they wouldn't be the right
customers for the home from home.

Coworking space so it can see suddenly
how the values then need to kind of shift

and adapt according to who the customers
are and what they're looking for.

Does that make sense?

Speaker: How, how can
I say no at that point?

But it does make sense.

Hopefully awkward as you were talking.

'cause I, I, you know, I've read
that book like 50,000 times now,

and the way he, instead of going
into, he just, does he say something

about non-negotiables in the book?

That it, it's like operating
like with intentionality and

knowing what you're trying to do.

And I'm, and the thing is nearly coming
into my head as I'm thinking, and then he

goes, what are your non, non-negotiables?

And it's about somewhere along
where he is just taken over 11

Madison Park and he's saying, this
is what, this is what we stand for.

And he, he's, it's in the book.

It's when he's talking about.

The speech he gives to the team and
he doesn't give the speech to the team

like he wants to first off, but then
months later he gives the speech to

the team, but he's like worked out with
the team what the non-negotiables are.

That was like a book review.

Sorry.

I like the way he said that
is what I'm trying to say.

Certainly.

What do you think?

Speaker 2: What's the, what do I think
to want, what about the non-negotiables?

Speaker: Yes, let's go with that.

Because

Speaker 2: pay for the question.

I actually, I, I think.

You know that that is right.

And actually one of the things that,
you know, we kind of talked about

before we came on here, which I think
is linked to what you've said there

is about your culture internally.

Your, your team has to want to deliver
those things for your customers.

The non-negotiables that you agree with,
your, you know, with, with your team.

They have to be brought onto that.

And, you know, very often.

You know, when we go to places that we
have a poor, you know, poor customer

service, we have a poor customer
poor customer service at every

touch point, it's because the team
culture internally and not brought

in to delivering that great service.

And you know, on the flip side of
that, we were, you know, we went to

Barcelona recently and we had some
food at a place called olive Greens.

And you could tell the team culture.

The, the non-negotiables were that, that
customers had to feel valued in there.

And we, you know, we had sort
of four or five different

touch points as we walked in.

They gave us a menu, you
know, as we ordered the food.

When they brought the food over to us,
when they came over to check the food.

Every single touch point was exceptional.

And it's because they're brought into
where we value our customers here.

We want 'em to have a good experience.

And, you know, we'd never been
to this restaurant before.

It's kind of a fast food, healthy place.

But you go and stand at the till and
order and the, you know, the lady,

the Maury at the front, if you like,
kind of, you know, walked us up to the

counter to explain how to order the
type of different food that we could

have, you know, what was best to have.

And it was that, you know,
she took time you know, to

really go through that with us.

And I think when you talk about those
kind of non-negotiables, they do start

with the culture internally at the team.

Speaker: There's there's a taco place
here in Vigo, which is 20 minutes walk

from our house, and there are more taco
places nearer and which are nice too.

But when you go in there, they,
there's like three people working

in there and they cook all the
food nearly in front of you.

And it is the real deal and it's real.

It's like real Mexican food, not
like Taco Bell kind of stuff.

And it's further to walk.

It's mayhem in there.

The food is amazing.

The two, the three people running it
like know what everybody's doing and

it's very small and I just love it.

You know, there's something about,
it's not like they, what, where

I'm going with this is, it's not
like they design the experience.

I don't think they sit down
and have a crew meeting.

Yeah.

Let's go rah, rah, rah.

Yeah.

Today we're focused on
ultimate guest service.

They're just like, really,
really love what they do, and.

They just managed to drop in.

Like as you leave they kind of throw you
a little Mexican suite and it, it's the,

it's the, oh god, dunno what to say.

They just, they just love it.

They love it.

So, you love it?

Speaker 2: Yes.

Speaker 3: They might have non-negotiables
that are almost un unspoken.

That is just a given
that this is who we are.

This is, maybe that is around the food,
around the energy that's in there.

That just brings that to life.

But I think, I think going back to
those values and the what your story

is and what your non-negotiables
are, that goes back to hiring the

people that you are hiring as well.

It's not about just.

Hiring someone that can be well
organised and manage the bookings.

It's how do they fit into that?

To that culture, like Sun was saying,
that you, you have to have that all

aligned for that, to get that buy-in
for people to really understand

that you're on a journey together.

This isn't just about
coming into work every day.

It's so much more than that.

And that's what we see in the workshops
is we've so lucky to be, have worked

with groups of people that clearly.

Get, get the non-negotiables.

That's not even really discussed.

It's kind of very it's
hinted at at the beginning.

Yes, that's what we do.

Of course, we're always trying
to deliver the very best.

How do we take it one step further?

And that's where it really then
starts to get super exciting.

Speaker: So with it, with both these
frameworks or these book, I'm gonna

say books 'cause it's, you know,
that's what most people will know.

It's like, you know, I've, I've
done StoryBrand everywhere.

And, I worked in hospitality and I
really loved the book and appreciate it.

And I, and in both books I see I've met
people in real life putting them into

into action, like practically applying
them rather than just sitting around

doing a podcast like this about them.

How do you.

When?

When you see, when you meet people,
all those, I'm gonna say like micro

businesses, 'cause most people
that listen to this are one or two

person businesses with two or 3,
1, 2 or three coworking spaces.

Like where do people get in their
own way as they try to tell their own

story and then apply their hospitality?

In their business.

Is it, is there like a, a few reoccurring
things that people do and like, no, just,

just skip that bit and get to this bit?

Or you don't need to meditate
for three years on it.

Just like, write a blog
post and get going.

Like, are there, there things
that come up that stop people

adopting these simple philosophies?

Speaker 3: Shall I pick up the story side?

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 3: So on.

I think one of the biggest pitfalls is
in, in trying to work out what your story

is and how to implement that is, is not
thinking about who your customer is first.

And.

And how, and not re and thinking
about this as a marketing tool

rather than a mindset shift
in, in everything that you do.

We are really lucky that like, I think.

99% of our clients have already
been familiar with StoryBrand

before they come to us.

But the ones that perhaps have
not been so aware, I think there

is an, a natural tendency because
of like marketing gone by.

There's a natural tendency to think
that we have to talk about our business

and we have to put the business first.

And actually when you
put your customer first.

So long as you understand why you are
doing those things and how you are

making yourself relevant, everything
else just falls into place anyway.

You don't have to sell because you
naturally become the right solution

for what they're looking for.

So I think doing your own messaging
is really tough because you're

too close to it and you have.

Put blood, sweat, and
tears into it yourself.

And you, it's almost impossible for
you to stand in your customer's shoes.

Having somebody else kind of hold a
mirror up to why is that relevant?

Why are you saying that?

Why does that matter is priceless.

And then.

Then how you deliver that, that
should be across everything in, you

know, from the, from a marketing
perspective, you should be able to

detect that message across everything.

And, and often people forget, they stop
talking about the problem that they solve.

They it just kind of.

Sometimes it, people don't
understand how to implement that.

I think that's the biggest challenge is
the how to, what does that look like in

the day to day and in the communication
in the emails that we send out, how

do we continue that on from there?

Sonya, do you want to pick up what
that looks like and challenges with

implementing unreasonable hospitality?

Speaker 2: Yeah, and, well, I think one
you know, one of the biggest challenges

that I think people, and typically
it's leaders of businesses, right, who

read this book and then are like, oh,
great, we're gonna implement that in.

But you know, one of, and you
kind of alluded to this earlier,

Bernie, that you have to empower
your team to be able to make.

On the spot decisions because you
know, will Guara says, you know, it

is, it's, you are, you are creating
an experience that is for individuals.

So you're not trying to create
an experience that you can.

Yes, you want that experience to
be, you know, to be able to be

replicated, but you want to empower
your team to be able to solve those.

Problems individually for customers or,
or, or see something that customer's

going through and tailor it for them.

So, you know, he kind of talks about one
size fits one, and I, I think, you know,

goes back to that culture thing we were
talking about earlier, but also, you know,

your ability for your team to be able to.

View each customer and each experience
that they have as kind of this new thing,

not something that they've done a hundred
times, you know, that day or that week.

And, you know, if you think about the
book, you know, Wil talks about these

kind of touch points that you go through
and how you can elevate each of those.

And you know, one of them is.

You know, if you notice someone lefthand,
they'll change the play settings and

you know, that really makes people
feel something, you know, that there.

These experiences are designed
and not left to chance.

So everything's intentionally
done, and you know, each touch

point is thought through, but it is
thought through in a way that c you

know, your team are empowered to
personalise it for those customers.

So, you know, they're, they're
trusted to make decisions and there's

no rigid structure or scripts.

It's not over controlled.

You know, if you are.

If your team aren't free to act,
they can't deliver the promises

that you make, if that makes sense.

Of course it makes sense.

Sonya, well

Speaker: done.

That was

Speaker 2: a lovely

Speaker: explanation.

See that, that, that's really true.

I've, I've worked in horrible places
where no one knew what they were doing,

and I worked in places with there was
one restaurant I worked in, in London

and we pulled the tips and the manager.

The power hungry manager would be
like, if you guys don't speed up

I'm gonna employ someone else and
everyone would like work a bit harder.

And it, that might make it sound like
the boiler room or something, but

everybody just like had their shit
together so much and it moved so fast.

And sometimes at lunchtime we'd turn the
restaurant three times and the just the.

This and, and every, it was
up to everybody on the floor.

Like the manager would run food and
like write our paychecks, but it was

like kind of up to us to self organise.

I didn't know what self organising was
in those days, but that's what we did.

It was an amazing experience.

One thing before we go, is there, I think
there's, and you can push back on this,

but I, I think people sometimes do things
to, in the hope that it looks like, i'm

gonna give you a cupcake to say thank you.

And it's not really a spontaneous actor.

It's not like that thing with moving the
place, setting for a left-handed person.

It's like a, it's like a gimmick
versus like genuine, you know,

observation and connection.

And how do you make sure
you are not pretending to be

hospitable, that you actually are.

Speaker 3: I, I think that there
is a misunderstanding between.

The staff and the, the behaviour that
matters personally, I think thinking that

Sonya and I are very lucky to travel a
lot and we see lots of different examples

of service can genuinely say the ones
where that we have talked to about.

To other people and that's what we want.

So what we want from Unreasonable
Hospitality is these magical stories

that we will share with other people
that inspire them, that they remember.

' cause we remember stories.

And we want them to refer back to us.

That again, the stories that we've shared
are probably of things that have happened

to us that have either cost nothing
at all, or you know, a couple of quid.

You know, like a coffee or something
like that's happened where someone has

kind of, gone outta their way to help
you or to greet you or to remember

something or to note your situation
that you are in or something like that.

It's almost never about the
stuff that we sit on and, and

I know I think that there is.

Within the coworking industry that there
can be like an a, an emphasis or an

imbalance perhaps on the environment.

Focus on the environment.

And I've got a great coffee machine, I've
got great sofas, I've got, you know, cool

lighting or you know, the, whatever it is.

And.

If you don't have the experience of, you
don't have that hospitality that matches

that, then it's, it's, I think you used
the expression earlier, Bernie, being

soulless that you can have this fantastic
space, but it's not gonna be fantastic.

It's just gonna be a shell.

It's just gonna be things that people
sit on and they will remember the.

Experience that they had perhaps somewhere
else where someone remembered their name,

they remembered their birthday, they
saw that they were drenched that morning

in the rain and like brought them a hot
chocolate or something to warm them up,

or, you know, whatever that is, that's,
they're the moments that get remembered.

Not the fact that there's a, a cool
saver in the corner or whatever it is.

Speaker: Yeah, there's a guy called,
there's a guy called James who in

Manchester who runs Clockwise and he is
on Substack and he, I, I don't know if he

actually does, but I, I would do this too.

He, like, I know you're not supposed
to make people do things, but he

makes all his staff watch at Bear
and reads Anthony Bourdain and

Practise Unreasonable Hospitality.

And I feel if I went in there
which is just a coworking space,

like it would all, all that.

All the real deal will be happening.

Whereas if I go somewhere else, there'd be
the same things happening, but it would be

like a probably ticking off on a clipboard
somewhere to remember they had to do them.

Do you wanna, is there anything you wanna
add before we head for the Hills, Sonya?

Speaker 5: Thanks Bernie.

Yeah, I do actually.

We are running, a two day event
in Central London just outside of

Holburn on the 10th and 11th of June.

And we've got our friend Dr.

JJ Peterson coming over to run
the two day workshop with us.

Day one is around StoryBrand, so we
are gonna be working on brand scripts.

For the attendees and they're gonna leave
with a Brown script at the end of day one.

And then day two we've got an
unreasonable hospitality day.

And you know, Bernie, you've been along
from one of those training sessions.

We delivered at Urban MBA last year
and it was a taster session there.

We've got a full day session, so we
are working through each of those touch

points, looking for some audacious ideas
for people to be able to put into their

business as well as kind of focusing on
the low hanging fruit and ways that they

can elevate each of those experiences.

And both workshops are brilliant
for us to deliver the Unreasonable

Hospitality Day is really exciting.

As far as I'm know, this is the first
one to be delivered in the uk and

certainly the first one with JJ who wrote
the training course with Wil Guera.

And we are really super
excited about delivering this.

It's a fantastic two day experience.

And I think that coworking spaces
are gonna be able to get a lot out

of both days or one of the days.

You know, they could come to
the story brand day or they

could come to the Unreasonable
Hospitality Day gonna be snacks.

Julie, are there gonna be snacks?

Speaker 6: Definitely.

Definitely.

It's about unreasonable
hospitality, isn't it?

Yeah.

There's snacks, there's teas, there's
coffees, there's even a hot lunch.

And I thi I think
actually one you think I,

Speaker 4: A hot lunch could be a
whole variety of like, you know,

like, is that a Greg sausage roll or a

Speaker 6: Oh no, no, this

Speaker 5: come and see.

Speaker 6: Sit down Hot lunch.

Full sit, land hot lunch in
the DeVere restaurant on site.

One of the most valuable things about
doing these workshops is so you get

to sit around the table with half
a dozen other people in your small

group and bounce ideas off of them.

And that's the beauty of, of being in the
room, networking with other people coming

out with, what do you think to this?

Do you think this will work?

And you've got your own little kind of.

Focus group ready made there.

And that's, that's where you see the real.

Kind of magic happen that by the end
of the day end of day one, you leave

with a really clear message about
what you're doing for your business.

And by day the end of day two, you
know how to put that message into

action through what you're delivering
through your customer experience.

So, can't wait to welcome you with that.

Speaker 4: Who, if I run a
business, who are the best people?

Who are the best people from my
business to send to this event?

Is it the finance controller or is it
the, I've run out words, but like who's,

Speaker 6: who's, it's a good question.

Yeah.

I think anyone that has
customer touchpoint.

Is the answer.

And that's, you know, can't all down,
down tools and shut up shop for the day.

But I think it really does help to
have a variety of different people.

We've worked with one business
before where they had a

barista, they had the founder.

They had the ops manager, they
had their HR manager and a couple

of other people in there as well.

So it was quite big coworking
business with multiple sites, so

they had that at their disposal.

But I think if the more of a mix of
different perspectives you have in

there that the more valuable it is

Speaker 5: and actually.

I was gonna say Ben you mentioned,
you know, the financial controller

and I thinking that was a little
bit tongue in cheek, but genuinely

we have had a, we've delivered this
workshop to a team of people where

if you know someone from finance and
someone from Com compliance was there.

And actually it was so fascinating
'cause the experience that they had.

You know, was a very different
experience to the people who were

on the, on the front end of things.

But actually when we went through the
kind of customer journey mapping and

looking at all the touch points for the
customers, the finance side of things

tended to be very you know, kind of a
negative experience for the customer.

And so actually in some ways, having
someone from your finance department.

You know, is absolutely a good place
to start because you can elevate those

negative touch points really well by ha
by including those people from the team.

So I, you know, I think definitely
front of house people, definitely

management, but actually there is
value in having as Julie said, anybody

who has a point with the customer
could add value to the experience

that you have in in your business.

Speaker 4: I agree.

And there's, there's other times
where I've been to events or

workshops and I've come back.

There's like me and one other person and
we've had to like sell the whole idea

of the workshop to 50 people who don't
really know what we're talking about.

They just know we were not
in the building for the day.

So, the more people in there, the better.

Okay.

Where we can put a link in
the show notes to all of that.

Where can we find you folks online?

Speaker 5: You can find us on our
website at www dot story 20 co do uk.

Speaker 4: So folks there's a link in the
show notes to the workshop and we'll also

put that in the London Coworking Assembly
Newsletter and the Coworking Values

podcast newsletter and we'll keep updating
the details there and wherever we are in

the world, folks, be careful out there.

It is a jungle.

Thanks for your time and attention today.

Say goodbye.

Speaker 5: Goodbye.

Speaker 14: And we're back in the room.

So as ever, go to the show notes
and there's links to everything

we spoke about in this podcast and
even more so, there's a link to the

workshop with Sonya, Julie and Dr.

JJ Peterson, which is in June in London.

And if you put in the Code
Coworking values you'll get a mate

rate for attending that workshop.

Honestly, StoryBrand is one of
the best in-person workshops

I've ever done in my life.

And also a lot of you reading
this will know how important that

Unreasonable Hospitality book is to
any business, but especially people

trying to figure out how to make their
co-working space more hospitable.

So also, I'm reading through my list
here and I've really lost my thread.

There is European Coworking Day,
which is on May the sixth, and it's

an annual event this year, 2026.

It's May the sixth.

And that's the opportunity for
you to invite people from your

neighbourhood into the building.

There's a link in the show notes to
a post that says the six things you

can Do, which are really, really easy.

People always overthink it.

But as an industry, we need to
articulate the value of our co-working

spaces or our neighbourhood spaces
or our work clubs, whatever you wanna

call them, to our neighbourhood.

It's a really, really important part
of the role we play in a neighbourhood.

And we'll be talking about that at
the Flexor conference the 12th of May,

which is in London, where there's a
panel which will explore that very same

thing with podcast guests from here.

Last of all, there is the LinkedIn
Coworking group and a lot of stuff we

talk about in here, the link to the
event I just spoke about is in there.

And also people are always posting threads
and other people post their podcasts in

there and it's a great place to connect.

So the more people that take part in
that, as you know, community builders,

the more people that take part in a
community, the more valuable it is.

I'm gonna leave you there.

Wherever you're in the
world, be careful out there.

It is a jungle.