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Information you need to live your best-recovered life. Join host Damon Frank as he brings you addiction recovery stories, news, expert perspectives, and features about life in sobriety and addiction recovery.
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You're listening to The Recovered Life Show,
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the show that helps people in recovery live their best recovered lives.
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And here is your host, Damon Frank.
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And welcome back to The Recovered Life Show.
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I'm thrilled to have on Jordan Wilson with us today.
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Jordan has made an incredible journey from drug addiction to becoming the recovery
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director at Friends of Sinners,
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a men's faith-based recovery program in Owensboro,
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Kentucky.
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Today,
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he'll share some insights about his personal story,
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and also we're gonna talk about what makes sobriety stick for men.
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Welcome to the show, Jordan.
Jordon Wilson (00:00:44):
Hey, thanks so much for having me on.
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I'm excited.
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I'm so thrilled to have you on.
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You know,
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I came across a news article talking about you and talking about your basic
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transformation from somebody who was in and out of jail,
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drug addict,
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notorious for using drugs,
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and now running this very successful religious and faith-based organization
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recovery center.
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I thought this was so interesting.
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I think so many men are trying to figure out in sobriety how to do what you've done,
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how to really make sobriety stick.
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Welcome to the show.
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Can you tell us a little bit about your journey and about how you got here?
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Yeah.
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I'm from a
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a small town in Western Kentucky.
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Um, and I was raised in a God-fearing household.
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I had great parents.
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They stayed married up until I was an adult.
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And,
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um,
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I started partying as a teenager,
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you know,
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I,
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um,
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kind of stopped wanting to do the church thing that my parents had me doing and,
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uh,
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wanted to just chase women and popularity and drinking and smoking weed and things
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like that.
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But, uh,
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I became, during this process, I became addicted to narcotic pain pills.
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I kind of, I was, I don't want to say sheltered, but I was raised ignorant of drugs.
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I didn't know anything about them.
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And I thought, you know, as becoming a young man, I was very athletic.
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I lifted weights.
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People knew me and my family.
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I never thought that I could become addicted to drugs.
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But it was happening right before me.
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It was happening to me.
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And I didn't even know.
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I thought,
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I could quit anytime I want.
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I just don't want to.
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I'm having fun until it wasn't fun anymore.
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Right.
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And once I realized I was physically addicted to painkillers, my life really took a turn.
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The party was basically over.
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It wasn't fun anymore.
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Started getting very criminal.
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And before long, you know,
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I'm finished with high school and college and trying to live life and pay my bills
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while addicted to painkillers.
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I lose my job because of my addiction and resort to full-time drug dealing because
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it's like a slow,
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steady fail.
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And that's what was happening to me.
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Yeah, I became a full-time drug dealer, manufacturer of other drugs.
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Because when you're in that world, you meet other people who do other things.
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And so my life is just consumed with narcotics.
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And eventually what started my road to recovery is me getting busted 10 years ago, March of 2014.
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That's what started the process for me.
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You know,
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it's interesting that you talk about getting into the drug business,
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because I think right now a lot of people are seeing the homeless situation.
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They're seeing addicts on the streets of major cities, even in suburbs that were never there before.
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They know somebody who's gotten sucked up into this,
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and they think it's literally a moral and crime issue.
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And although there is some morality in that, obviously, and we'll talk about that later,
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But a lot of it is just a physical dependency on trying to be able to kind of fuel this.
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So let's go to this time when you're busted.
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You're in handcuffs.
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You're probably in lockup awaiting your fate.
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What was the thing that really turned it around for you, Jordan?
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What was the aha moment where you said, you know what?
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Maybe there is a possibility that I could get sober.
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So, you know, detoxing was just horrific.
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You know, I was detoxing from, uh, 20 painkillers a day.
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I was detoxing from crystal meth, from spice, from benzodiazepine, alcohol.
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I mean, you name it.
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Like I was a mess, so sick.
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And, um, it was my first time being sober and I thought, you know, I was just so naive.
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I thought that it was over.
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Right.
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I thought, Hey, I'm, I'm detox now.
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I'm good.
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But I didn't know that, um, I was basically right in that pink cloud that they talk about.
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Um,
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And I fell through the pink cloud after I was incarcerated.
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After I went to rehab, I made it a few months into the program that I was in before I had relapsed.
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And so I didn't realize the mental obsession that I had with drugs, you know, and really
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You know, it was an underlying issue, right?
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Typically people use drugs as a bandaid for a bigger issue.
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And so that's what I was doing.
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You know,
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I had some traumas that I hadn't dealt with and some insecurities I hadn't dealt with,
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which I was using narcotics as a way to take away that pain and take away the
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stress of life.
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Uh, but honestly, I was kicked out of rehab.
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I went back to jail because I wanted to get sober, but I wasn't all in.
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Right.
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Um,
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you know,
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I was raised to believe in God and I kind of walked away from that faith and was
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doubting if there was a God and all these things until March 27th,
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2016,
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my dad asked me to come to church.
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And, uh, you know, at this point I'm homeless.
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I was just kicked out of where I was living.
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Uh, I was a mess.
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It was horrible.
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And I told him, no, I said, don't want to go.
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you know it's easter will you come for easter and you know of course us as
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americans we celebrate the resurrection of christ on easter sunday and i said no
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i'm sick and then my dad said well son it's my birthday will you go to church with
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me on easter sunday for my birthday and so finally i said okay i'll go i'll be sick
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because i was detoxing didn't have any more drugs i was sick as a dog and i went to
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church with my dad and apparently the pastor said something that day um
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that I needed to hear.
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He said,
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if you have been living without purpose,
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you can come to this altar,
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give your life to Jesus,
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and you'll have purpose.
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And that was something,
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man,
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that I had needed to hear for a decade because I was trying to fill my life with
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anything to make me feel satisfied,
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right?
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I thought that going to the gym and being able to bench press and squat a certain
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amount of weight would make me happy,
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and I did that,
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and it didn't make me happy.
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I had beautiful women in my life that wanted to
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date me and marry me.
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That didn't satisfy me.
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I owned a home, I had money and all of these things.
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And I was just, I felt no purpose in my life.
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And, uh, and so when he said that it was as if, um, an out of body experience.
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And so I went to the altar and I decided I was going to truly learn about Jesus for myself,
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this Jesus of the Bible.
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I was going to read it.
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I was going to discover who he was and why people still follow him 2000 years later.
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And, um,
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my life changed forever that day march 27 2016 and that's my sobriety day i gave my
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life to christ that day and i i never used drugs that was my aha you know i i i
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love what you're talking about with purpose and you know one of the things jordan
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that i talk about is that when i first got sober he was through a 12-step program
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And I have to tell you,
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like,
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when I heard the words powerlessness and unmanageability,
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I was like,
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there's no way I'm going to be able to find my purpose and be able to let go of
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powerlessness and unmanageability.
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Like, that's one of the worst things that you could tell Damon Frank.
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Like, I'll do anything but that, right?
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Like, it was bad enough that I realized that I couldn't drink anymore.
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But now you're telling me that I'm going to have zero control, basically.
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And, you know, my life is totally unmanageable.
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And I've got to admit to that.
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I did not see, you know, and I believe firmly that men need a purpose, right?
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You know,
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one of the issues,
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right,
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Jordan,
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you might agree with me,
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obviously you do,
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because you've been through this and you're working with men day to day.
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If men don't have a purpose and a goal, it's very tough for men.
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And I didn't see that link.
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How in the heck am I going to get from admitting I'm powerless and my life's unmanageable to
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to a purpose and then being able to thrive in that.
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How were you able to get past that and really let go and surrender?
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Right.
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So I started actually reading the Bible for myself as an adult and able to kind of
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make up my own mind as to why.
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what it said and i started believing what the bible said about me as an individual
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is that i was fearfully and wonderfully made and that god that god loved me and uh
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i started believing it because for so long i haven't loved me i didn't think i was
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fearfully and wonderfully made i thought that i was um a talentless you know
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I thought that I was useless.
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I didn't think that I was good for the world.
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And then I started using my outlook on myself.
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And once I did that, everything started to change for me.
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I started feeling purpose that, okay, there is a God that he loves me.
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He kept me alive, right?
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Because if you read my book,
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you'll see there are several circumstances in my life where I should have died.
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Guns pulled on me, overdoses, all kinds of things.
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He kept me alive.
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And so my work ethic changed, right?
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I went to this program, a 12-step program, you know, a program that worked 12 steps.
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And I started learning about addiction.
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And I started, you know what I learned?
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I learned that I was no match for addiction.
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I always thought that I was too tough and too bullheaded to,
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but i i'm not right like i i'm helpless to the addiction so i needed something
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divine to help me and once i realized hey you know like i'm not fighting this alone
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right like i know that god loves me and i started seeing the people that were
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really in my corner my family and the people that i had met in the recovery world
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that i wasn't finding this alone and so my mind started to change and once my mind
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started to change everything started to change my work ethic my focus my
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My drive, you name it.
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You know, I like how you put that.
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One of the things that I found was interesting,
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Jordan,
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is that when I had a hard time,
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you know,
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because somebody told me very early on in recovery,
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it's like,
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well,
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if God loves you so much,
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how come you're an alcoholic in your 20s?
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with no future, right?
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And that was a good question for me.
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And I couldn't really see God working in my life.
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But what happened to me is I started to see God working in other people's lives.
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And then the question started to arise, Jordan.
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Well, if I can identify God working in their life and I can see it, I could see that transformation.
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I could see how it's working for them.
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If I can identify that,
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then obviously it's working in my life too.
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I'll be able to start seeing it in my life.
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And that little shift was big for me
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Because I couldn't see it in my life.
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You know, I couldn't.
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You know, that's just the reality of it.
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Because I was really unable to let go.
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But when I started seeing it working with other people, that's really when it started to break through.
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You know, I got to ask you this, Jordan.
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Working with men who come in, they're not in a good place financially, spiritually, their health.
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You're seeing people who are wrecked, basically.
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What do you think is the big...
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the big thing,
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if you were to look at yourself and everyone else that you work with,
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that the big shift,
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the first big shift that people have to have to really make sobriety stick
Jordon Wilson (00:12:55):
Yeah,
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I think it's just realizing that you're not tough enough as a man,
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right,
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or as an individual to do it your own way,
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right?
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That is so huge.
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You know,
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we see people all the time and,
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you know,
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this may be their 10th time in a rehab and their answers are usually always the same.
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Like, man, I thought I had it.
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Or I thought I could do it on my own and you just can't.
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And, um, that's really hard for men to do.
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It's hard for myself, right?
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We were men.
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We,
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we want to be able to handle stuff and fight the battle and win,
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but,
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um,
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this is a different kind of war.
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Right.
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And, um,
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realizing that you are no match for the chemicals in a substance whether it's
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alcohol or narcotics you're no match once you once you realize that you need help
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like seriously that you can't do it on your own that you need divine help you need
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a army of people around you you need advice you need the steps you need all of
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these things to to get there so i think that once you a man can humble himself and
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say okay
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I surrender, right?
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Like I need help.
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That's when the process of healing, I think, really starts.
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I so agree with you.
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You know,
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one of the things,
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if I work with somebody in a 12-step program or anything,
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it's one of the things that they ask me,
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like,
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Jamie,
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how'd you stay sober 30 years?
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And I said, well, I start every day giving up.
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Understanding that that battle that I fought is not only BS, it's not one I want to fight.
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It's not one that I can win.
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It's not one that I want to win.
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That's the other thing.
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You know, it's like drinking doesn't work for me.
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I have to admit the fact that I am different in that sense.
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I'm never going to be able to drink.
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I think really understanding that you've had defeat,
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especially as a man,
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and then being able to say,
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look,
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this is a fight I lost.
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is important because I think that opens up the ability to create something new without that.
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You're stuck there trying to fight that same battle over and over.
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And I see that a lot with men.
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How did you get out of this?
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Like, I know you now you're an author, you wrote a book and you just sent me one and I'm so excited.
Damon Frank (00:15:13):
I'm going to put a link guys in the show notes.
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So everybody can order that.
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How did you, what was the journey from?
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Okay.
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I'm sober now.
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I've turned my life over to Christ.
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I'm pursuing sobriety to now really doing this day to day for people.
Jordon Wilson (00:15:32):
Yeah.
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It's kind of like you said, man, I wake up every day and I surrender, right?
Jordon Wilson (00:15:36):
My book is called Jesus greater than drugs.
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The only war won by surrender, right?
Jordon Wilson (00:15:41):
Like that's how you win this war is through surrender.
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And so I wake up every day.
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I acknowledge God.
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I acknowledge my need for him.
Jordon Wilson (00:15:48):
Um, and honestly, that's what I've done for eight years, every single day.
Jordon Wilson (00:15:52):
Um, every day I get alone time with God, right?
Jordon Wilson (00:15:55):
Uh,
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In the beginning of my recovery,
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when I was in treatment center,
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it made most sense for me to do it in the mornings.
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Well,
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now that I have a wife and two kids,
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it makes most sense for me to do it at night once my family's asleep.
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But every day,
Jordon Wilson (00:16:09):
seven days of the week,
Jordon Wilson (00:16:10):
I get private time with me and my higher power that I like to call Jesus Christ.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:15):
And so I'll pray and I'll read the word.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:17):
But then also I have stayed on a very structured schedule, my entire sobriety.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:23):
While I was in rehab, you know, I'd wake up, I'd do my chores.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:27):
I would eat breakfast.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:28):
I would spend time with the Lord.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:30):
I would do everything that I was required to at the facility.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:34):
Then I'd go to work and then I'd go back and I'd do whatever I had to do.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:38):
And honestly, having a structured schedule for myself has been so beneficial.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:42):
You know, like we have lived sporadic, impulsive lives for so long.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:47):
We just did what we wanted, when we wanted, and, you know, just kind of just skated by to survive.
Jordon Wilson (00:16:53):
But now I'm, I'm very structured, right?
Jordon Wilson (00:16:56):
I've got a routine and, um,
Jordon Wilson (00:16:59):
Yeah, man.
Jordon Wilson (00:17:00):
I stay busy in all positive ways and then I allow myself rest.
Jordon Wilson (00:17:05):
So everything that I do on a day-to-day basis is very planned out.
Damon Frank (00:17:12):
I love that.
Damon Frank (00:17:13):
I think structure is... I think when we're using...
Damon Frank (00:17:17):
we're looking at that if only I could get that structure going and still use, right?
Damon Frank (00:17:22):
Like, you know, it's that juggly back and forth.
Damon Frank (00:17:25):
And you realize when you're sober that just doing the small little things work.
Damon Frank (00:17:29):
Guys, I have to ask everybody, if you're listening on the podcast, head over to recoveredlife.tv.
Damon Frank (00:17:36):
We put a poll in there that you could vote.
Damon Frank (00:17:39):
What do you think is the most important for achieving long-term sobriety and
Damon Frank (00:17:44):
in for men definitely go ahead and uh take that vote there we'd love to hear what
Damon Frank (00:17:50):
you guys have to say about it you know jordan let's move to friends of sinners here
Damon Frank (00:17:56):
a little bit uh this is an amazing institution tell us a little bit where you're at
Damon Frank (00:18:01):
what is this all this friends of sinners about and and why are you having such
Damon Frank (00:18:04):
great success there how are you doing that so friends of sinners was established in
Jordon Wilson (00:18:09):
2009 so we're 15 years old our founder
Jordon Wilson (00:18:14):
uh is in long-term recovery himself he gave his life to christ while he was in
Jordon Wilson (00:18:17):
prison for manufacturing and distributing narcotics and when he came out of prison
Jordon Wilson (00:18:22):
he was sent to a secular program and uh you know he did well he thrived but he
Jordon Wilson (00:18:27):
thought man like people he thought people need a spiritual side of things people
Jordon Wilson (00:18:31):
need a relationship with jesus so he founded friends of sinners which is the name
Jordon Wilson (00:18:35):
is driven from the bible right like the religious leaders
Jordon Wilson (00:18:40):
called Jesus a friend of sinners to shame him,
Jordon Wilson (00:18:42):
but it was honestly to Jesus's glory because Jesus attracted sinners.
Jordon Wilson (00:18:48):
And when sinners came to Jesus, we didn't remain sinners.
Jordon Wilson (00:18:52):
So we were established as a Christ-centered residential treatment program for men.
Jordon Wilson (00:18:56):
Two years later, we added women.
Jordon Wilson (00:18:57):
So now we treat both men and women at separate locations.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:01):
Our clients will live with us for 12 months.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:03):
They'll work the steps of narcotics and or Alcoholics Anonymous.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:07):
They attend Celebrate Recovery.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:09):
learn life skills uh work ethic we allow them to work after the first month of
Jordon Wilson (00:19:14):
treatment we help them with their court appointments they have random drug testing
Jordon Wilson (00:19:18):
uh we'll help them get their ged even put them back in college they get fully
Jordon Wilson (00:19:22):
medically assessed if they need medicine to help them we understand that many
Jordon Wilson (00:19:26):
people are dual diagnosed whether it's adhd bipolar schizophrenic we understand
Jordon Wilson (00:19:30):
that that's kind of uh
Jordon Wilson (00:19:32):
just a part of the struggle.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:34):
So it's a very holistic approach to treatment.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:37):
But our goal is not just sobriety.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:40):
Our goal is to introduce our clients to Jesus.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:42):
And we believe that sobriety will be a byproduct of that.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:46):
So we've been doing well.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:47):
I've been the development director here for five years.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:50):
So my focus really is marketing, fundraising.
Jordon Wilson (00:19:54):
We don't bill insurance,
Jordon Wilson (00:19:56):
which is unheard of really when it comes to residential treatment because we know
Jordon Wilson (00:20:01):
how much money there is in it.
Jordon Wilson (00:20:02):
However,
Jordon Wilson (00:20:03):
we've seen firsthand what insurance providers can do to a Christ-centered aspect of
Jordon Wilson (00:20:08):
a program,
Jordon Wilson (00:20:08):
and they can take Christ out.
Jordon Wilson (00:20:10):
So we don't bill insurance whatsoever.
Jordon Wilson (00:20:12):
We're able to do what we do through monthly donors, grants, and fundraisers.
Damon Frank (00:20:17):
I love your approach, and there's a couple of institutions like this in Los Angeles as well.
Damon Frank (00:20:23):
And I love your approach because you're right about
Damon Frank (00:20:28):
this whole insurance-ization, I guess you would call it, of the recovery business, right?
Damon Frank (00:20:34):
And we talk about that on the Recovered Life Show.
Damon Frank (00:20:37):
What I really love about Friends of Sinners is that,
Damon Frank (00:20:40):
like,
Damon Frank (00:20:40):
our goal here in Recovered Life is not for people just to get sober.
Damon Frank (00:20:44):
It's for people to have their best recovered life, right?
Damon Frank (00:20:47):
And I think a spiritual journey,
Damon Frank (00:20:50):
and sometimes for some people that's religion,
Damon Frank (00:20:54):
you know,
Damon Frank (00:20:54):
like we were talking earlier,
Damon Frank (00:20:56):
I said,
Damon Frank (00:20:56):
you know,
Damon Frank (00:20:57):
uh a lot of the people that i've worked with over my time sober started out totally
Damon Frank (00:21:04):
as atheists or agnostics and then ended up kind of becoming very religious right
Damon Frank (00:21:09):
like so i think it's an evolution and i think that you guys are that that you guys
Damon Frank (00:21:14):
set that up for people to win at the very beginning i think is super important
Damon Frank (00:21:20):
What's the future for you?
Damon Frank (00:21:22):
What do you think the future is, especially for men's recovery, Jordan?
Damon Frank (00:21:27):
You're working in this now.
Damon Frank (00:21:29):
You're looking on the streets, I'm sure, in your town.
Damon Frank (00:21:32):
You've got fentanyl.
Damon Frank (00:21:35):
It's worse than ever, probably, right?
Damon Frank (00:21:36):
I know here in Los Angeles, that's all I hear from people in and out of recovery is it's worse than ever.
Damon Frank (00:21:43):
What do you think the future of recovery, especially for men, is going to be in the upcoming years here?
Jordon Wilson (00:21:50):
Well, I hate to say it, man, but fentanyl is wiping out an entire generation.
Jordon Wilson (00:21:55):
I keep a running list on my phone that's just growing and growing with all the
Jordon Wilson (00:22:00):
friends and acquaintances that I've had that have passed away due to drugs one
Jordon Wilson (00:22:05):
fashion or another,
Jordon Wilson (00:22:05):
whether it's liver failure,
Jordon Wilson (00:22:07):
murder,
Jordon Wilson (00:22:08):
or overdose.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:11):
It's not looking good to tell you the truth, man.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:13):
The numbers have, they're just staggering.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:16):
We've reached over 100,000 overdose deaths in the past 12 months.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:23):
But there is hope, right?
Jordon Wilson (00:22:24):
There is hope.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:25):
And I think that as long as we in the recovery world continue to stand out and tell
Jordon Wilson (00:22:30):
our stories,
Jordon Wilson (00:22:31):
that it will draw more people in.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:34):
So I'm trusting in God, man, that a great revival is going to happen.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:37):
People's going to be set free and saved in Jesus name.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:40):
But as it sets right now, the numbers are bad.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:45):
And they seem to be rising.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:47):
But I just think that that's where we have to stand up.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:49):
I tell people all the time, we have to tell our stories.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:53):
We have to share.
Jordon Wilson (00:22:54):
If you're a year sober,
Jordon Wilson (00:22:55):
10 years sober,
Jordon Wilson (00:22:56):
tell your story because it may be the next person's survival guide.
Damon Frank (00:23:01):
Absolutely.
Damon Frank (00:23:01):
You know what?
Damon Frank (00:23:03):
No, I'll be honest.
Damon Frank (00:23:04):
You're absolutely right about that.
Damon Frank (00:23:06):
One of the things that I always say is like,
Damon Frank (00:23:09):
I go around the streets of Los Angeles here,
Damon Frank (00:23:11):
even go in the store and I see this,
Damon Frank (00:23:13):
right?
Damon Frank (00:23:13):
Trank,
Damon Frank (00:23:14):
fentanyl,
Damon Frank (00:23:15):
all this new stuff that's out on the street and alcohol still the worst,
Damon Frank (00:23:19):
which was my drug of choice,
Damon Frank (00:23:21):
still killing a ton of people,
Damon Frank (00:23:22):
especially since COVID.
Damon Frank (00:23:24):
And I always have to remind myself, look at me, look at you, Jordan, look at
Damon Frank (00:23:30):
numerous friends that I have.
Damon Frank (00:23:31):
I just got a wedding invitation from somebody that I saw come in almost 10 years ago,
Damon Frank (00:23:37):
came in that could not get sober,
Damon Frank (00:23:39):
is now sober,
Damon Frank (00:23:39):
getting married,
Damon Frank (00:23:40):
all this stuff.
Damon Frank (00:23:41):
So it's possible that everyone can recover.
Damon Frank (00:23:46):
It is possible,
Damon Frank (00:23:48):
and I know it's frustrating sometimes,
Damon Frank (00:23:49):
but it is possible that we could have massive recovery when people start to wake up.
Damon Frank (00:23:57):
And I think that spiritual path, that path to God, ultimately is what people are waking up to.
Jordon Wilson (00:24:02):
yeah that's what did it for me man like i tried i tried every way to get sober man
Jordon Wilson (00:24:07):
i uh i was locked up for a long time right and and still was a slave to to the sin
Jordon Wilson (00:24:14):
i was a slave to the addiction um i did mat therapy i did in-house treatment uh uh
Jordon Wilson (00:24:20):
iop um mandatory drug screens court-ordered treatment nothing worked until i
Jordon Wilson (00:24:27):
decided
Jordon Wilson (00:24:28):
You know, I'm going to follow Jesus until I decided that there was a God that loved me.
Jordon Wilson (00:24:32):
So I think that the faith aspect is just key in someone maintaining sobriety.
Damon Frank (00:24:39):
Jordan, this has been an amazing episode.
Damon Frank (00:24:41):
I want to, you know, final thoughts here.
Damon Frank (00:24:43):
If somebody's listening to this,
Damon Frank (00:24:44):
especially a guy or so,
Damon Frank (00:24:46):
maybe,
Damon Frank (00:24:46):
you know,
Damon Frank (00:24:46):
it's a family member and they have a man in their life that's really struggling and
Damon Frank (00:24:51):
there seems no hope.
Damon Frank (00:24:53):
What would be your message to them about getting sober, about making the attempt to get sober?
Jordon Wilson (00:25:00):
Yes.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:00):
So if you have a family member that's struggling, uh, being transparent with them, right.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:05):
Telling them how it makes you feel and,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:08):
and,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:08):
and what it's truly doing to them because when someone's in addiction,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:12):
uh,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:12):
they can't see for themselves,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:14):
they can't think clearly for themselves.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:15):
So being transparent.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:17):
And then also I am the product of prayer, right?
Jordon Wilson (00:25:19):
Like my family prayed for me for a long time and they never gave up.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:24):
And so when I was finally ready, um, they were able to help me get,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:30):
into a program.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:31):
So I just think being yourself,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:32):
being available,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:33):
being transparent,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:34):
loving them in a way that's not going to harm them,
Jordon Wilson (00:25:36):
like enabling them.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:37):
You got to be very, very careful not to enable them, but there are ways to help.
Damon Frank (00:25:42):
Absolutely.
Damon Frank (00:25:43):
Jordan, you, this has been just such a great episode.
Damon Frank (00:25:45):
Thank you so much for coming on the Recovered Life Show.
Damon Frank (00:25:47):
We definitely want to have you back to talk more about you and your story.
Damon Frank (00:25:52):
Thanks so much for coming on today.
Jordon Wilson (00:25:55):
My pleasure.
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