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You’re tired.
Not just physically; though yeah, that too.
You’re tired in your bones. In your soul.
Trying to be a steady husband, an intentional dad, a man of God… but deep down, you feel like you’re falling short. Like you’re carrying more than you know how to hold.
Dad Tired is a podcast for men who are ready to stop pretending and start healing.
Not with self-help tips or religious platitudes, but by anchoring their lives in something (and Someone) stronger.
Hosted by Jerrad Lopes, a husband, dad of four, and fellow struggler, this show is a weekly invitation to find rest for your soul, clarity for your calling, and the courage to lead your family well.
Through honest stories, biblical truth, and deep conversations you’ll be reminded:
You’re not alone. You’re not too far gone. And the man you want to be is only found in Jesus.
This isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about coming home.
Hey guys. Welcome back to the Dad Tire podcast. As always, this episode is made possible by you guys. Um, we're a nonprofit and we are sustained by your donations, and so if you want to help Chip in to help us keep going. You can do that by going to dad tire.com/donate. Also, wanna thank my friends over at back gate prayers for sponsoring today's episode.
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It's super thoughtful and it's just really, uh, it's just really, really nice touch. So they come in this little, if you're looking on the screen, if they come in this little wooden block that displays these cards and these. Cards are written custom for your family. So you can see here that I've got a picture of my family that I uploaded to their website, and then they've got all, each of these cards are different, um, front and back prayers that are again, custom to.
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And then they give the scripture references from that Second Thessalonians. Three, three, Isaiah 43, 1, and two in Psalm four, um, eight. So again, multiple prayers. If you just feel like you're stuck on praying, you want to pray over your family daily, you want a daily reminder that you should be praying for your family.
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And I'm so grateful that we've been able to partner with them for the years Plus, it helps that, again, these are a super thoughtful gift for the women in your life, or anyone in your life, but you know, especially the women when you're thinking about Mother's Day. All that being said, let's dive into today's episode.
I haven't told a lie in 156 days. And yes, I'm counting, um, not even the, like, the smallest lie. I'm, I'm trying to be a guy who just tells the truth all the time. Actually, when I was at, um, my two week intensive counseling, uh, the first time I sat down with the counselor, um, he said, how are you doing? And I just started to cry.
I was in a really like emotional, I. Hard spot. So I just started, I kind of broke down like immediately just on the first question, how are you doing? And um, and he said, what, you know, what, what's coming up for you? Why are you, what's, what's bringing all those emotions? And I told him that I had, I hadn't done a lot of counseling before that, but I had done a little bit of counseling, maybe a couple times marital stuff and just like some personal stuff, maybe 10 years prior.
And, um, it was very, very little. But I knew that every time I went into a counselor's office before that, before this most recent time, that I had stuff that I was gonna hide that I wasn't willing to share. Um, and, and so I told him like, I am just committed to, well, I told him, I said, I'm nervous, like my body is reacting in the same way that it had.
In previous times that I've sat in a counselor's office, because before I would be scared that I would be exposed, and I told them right now I'm feeling those same feelings, but I'm committed to being a truth teller. I'm going to be a truth teller. I am a truth teller. And, uh, those words coming outta my mouth, um, made me really emotional 'cause that I never, um, how do I say this?
Like I never had integrity or I never felt like I could say that with integrity, that I'm a truth teller. That I always tell the truth no matter what. And so those were the first time, that was the first time I had said that out loud. Like, I am committed. I'm setting this day is the day that marks from here on out.
I'm gonna be a truth teller no matter what the cost. And uh, so since then I've been committed to like telling the truth no matter what at all cost. To the point where I was mentally, I was like, if it, if it costs me my marriage, if it costs me. I think I told you guys this last week or a couple weeks ago, you know, if it costs me everything, I'm, I'm still willing to tell the truth and I just have to trust that I'm going to tell the truth, the full truth.
Um, and then just let God handle the rest. Like, I'm just going to be faithful to what he's calling me to do. And then I'll just, you know, not to be like cliche or bumper stickery, but just like, you know, I trust I'll have to trust God with the rest. I have no other control, but I'm not going to be a liar anymore, or I'm not, I don't want to exaggerate anymore.
Um, or omit truths and things like that. So anyway, where are you going with all this, Jared? Well, I'm going, I want to say that starting this, I tried to record this episode. This is my fourth time trying to record this episode. And the three other times that I was recording, um, I was trying to like. I'm just in a weird spot.
I, the reason I'm telling you all this is 'cause I'm trying to tell you the truth and I'm in a weird spot because I feel like I'm coming back after four or five months. I've gone through some major intensive counseling and some life changing stuff and in some ways I feel like old Jared wants to come out and like, I think there's a part of me that's called a performer and the performer was developed at a early age for me.
And that performer recognized that if I can impress you with some performance, then I might be loved. And if I can impress you and whether that was like, you know, if I was a young kid, I, I didn't mind being on a stage or being the funny kid, or in sports being the best. If I could perform in some way.
Then I realize, okay, I'm safe. People like me, I'm accepted here. And so that little performer, you know, 6-year-old little Jared, um, recognizes that at an early age and then starts to say, okay, this is how we are going to survive in a world that feels chaotic or dangerous or lonely or whatever. You just perform and you will be loved.
And so I think a lot of dads tired. Um, for better or worse, even with good intentions, sometimes I would move into a performer role. Where I was just like, okay, if I perform well on this podcast or this stage or whatever, then I'll be loved here and I'll be, I'll be valuable here. And so I, the, the last three times I've tried to record this episode coming back, I'm so.
Focused on not being a performer of not being like a, I have to do something in order to impress you. But how do you do that when you have a microphone in your face and uh, and people are listening and then they're like, okay, tell us something. Like, I know that the reason you're listening to this podcast.
Is because you want something out of it for your own life. That's the reason we all listen to everything. We watch shows and we listen to things, and we do, like, if you're gonna give time to something, it's um, for lack of better word, like it's kind of a selfish thing for you. Like, and the, and not, that's, not, that sounded bad, but like we all do, we all consume things selfishly.
Like, if it doesn't make sense for my life, I'm not gonna watch it or listen to it. And so there's, I know there's a part of you. I, I, that doesn't real, I mean, you care about me and my story, um, but you really care about you and your story more as you should, you know? And so you're listening and, and knowing that about you.
I wanna like, give you something worth chewing on or something that's entertaining or valuable or helpful. And then I'm like, okay, well what can I give them? And dude, I'm like four or five months into my own journey here. Um, and so I don't really know like. I feel the pressure of having to perform, I feel the pressure of having to say something meaningful.
And so I just wanna say that out loud. I just need to like toss it out there. 'cause I don't wanna fall into performer mode that doesn't feel authentic or real. Um, so I just wanted to say that, um. When I was at this intensive training, they had us do like eight hours. I think it was eight hours. I'm, I wanna be a truth teller.
Uh, let's see. It was, I think it was eight hours. Don't quote me on that. I don't know for sure. Somewhere around eight hours to be accurate of meditation training. And I've never done any kind of meditation, you know, that all kind of sounds like woo woo. And just a little too, Aaron Rogers. I'm kidding. Um.
Sorry, lemme turn off my notifications here. I'm getting blown up. Of course I should have done that. And by the way, I'm watching my kids at the same time. Layla's at work. My kids are out playing on a slip and slide and I'll probably get interrupted here. This is all real life anyway. I told them, here are some nuggets and can I daddy have like 20 minutes?
I just wanted to, I was feeling lots of things as I was eating, so I was like, I just need to get on the, on the microphone and process this stuff. Honestly. So anyway, I had never done any kind of meditation stuff. And, and at first I was like, dude, this is not my thing. I don't want to do this. And, um, but I, I was committed to the process.
I'm, I told the guys that I was with the nine other guys, um, whatever they put in front of me, I'm gonna do it with a hundred percent. Like, I will give my all because clearly when I was doing stuff my own way in my own life, um, things fell apart. So I will just do whatever they tell us to do here with a hundred percent effort.
And so with the meditation stuff, I'm like, all right, I'm gonna give this a hundred percent. I will say in full honesty, uh, there was one time I like completely fell asleep. Like it was, uh, we did multiple, like kind variations of different ways that you can meditate and try to like stay focused and present.
And um, and we were doing one where this guy, like the leader, the trainer guy, was like trying to get us like right on that edge of like, sleep, uh, like unconsciousness conscious. And um, yeah, I was fully unconscious like. I woke up to his little bell, like ding, and that was the sign that the meditation was over.
And I don't remember one single thing 'cause I was hard asleep. So I will be honest about that. But for the other stuff that I was awake, um, here's what I basically learned, which is, I'm gonna be honest, like I'm not that great at meditating. I try to like be present with the Lord. Pray, get focused, but dude, my brain's going in a million different directions.
Yeah, we get it. Jared, you do the same thing on the podcast. I know. Um, one of the things I noticed about meditation and that I found to be helpful was to stay focused in the moment. I think that's what meditation is about. I don't fully know, but I think it's getting you to be fully present in the moment.
Why that's so important is for anyone who struggles with habitual sin, which I'm gonna guess is most of us guys who are listening to this episode, if you've had sin in your life that you're like, I can't stop doing this, or I can't get over this. Or, why am I struggling with the same sin that I've had since I was 10?
Or whatever. Which by the way. Jared, you're getting a DDI understand. Um, so many of you have been reaching out and sharing that you've got your own stuff and I really appreciate it. Um. It's crazy this last couple episodes, how it has sparked something in the dad tired community. I had a feeling that was gonna happen, but I'm seeing it already anyway.
So if you struggle with any kind of habitual sin, something that you just, you find yourself repeating these patterns over and over and over again. I was thinking about this in line with the meditation stuff that I was learning at this counseling. I think all of habitual sin is essentially a form of escapism.
It's, it's your way of soothing or escaping or trying to numb out whatever stress you might be feeling in the moment. And so it doesn't really matter, um, if you're like, you know, maybe you got a drinking issue, you know, you feel stressed by being a dad, a husband, work. Your own sin. And so you get home and you just kind of numb it out with little alcohol.
Alcohol's never been a thing for me. Like I don't handle my alcohol. Well, I always feel, I feel like kind of gross after one beer. Uh, I'm a lightweight, so alcohol was never kind of my, my numbing tool of choice. But I know a lot of dudes that's like, I, you know, I've got a lot of friends who've, you know.
Probably would admit to struggling with drinking too much alcohol and it's, it's, we kind of live in a weird culture where alcohol, I think we got a lot of secret alcoholics in our culture, especially our generation, kind of the late twenties to early forties. We kind of have this. Culture where it's just like, I've seen it in women a lot.
Not to like, you know, this is a podcast for men, but I've seen it's just like, okay, I, I'm gonna pull up, polish off a bottle of wine and I ha ha ha, the kids were so stressful. I'm like, that doesn't feel healthy. I don't think you should do that. That's like numbing. But dudes do it too. Like, yeah, I'm gonna hit this six pack on, you know, before I go to sleep.
That's for sure. Like, that's not how we should be handling our. Emotions and our stress. And so anyway, that, you know, whether it's alcohol, like I said, alcohol's never been the thing for me, but I know it's a thing for a lot of guys, and I've got my own stuff that I've, that I've used to kind of numb out.
And, uh, some, some of you guys, it might be just like you're working hard and again, this one's kind of socially acceptable. You're just grinding, grinding, grinding. And we all kind of, you do it under the guise of like, I'm just trying to provide for my family, trying to give my kids what I never had. And maybe that's true and that might be true and that's awesome.
Good for you. Um, but. I think a lot of guys are using overworking as a way to numb for sure. Porn and sex. Um, maybe pills like you, prescription pills. But anyway, that's not the point. Like the point is a lot of guys are going back to these habitual things to kind of numb out and all of the habitual sins, all of the stuff, the habits that you're just stuck in, isn't it all a form of escapism, like.
Getting your brain out of reality or stressed out about the future of your life. And dude, I, I'm feeling that this very day, um, literally just had to do a little counseling session on myself today because, and again, I'm committed to being honest with you guys. There's a part of me that feels stressed about dad tired.
Um, I'm super excited to be back. So many of you guys have reached out and been like, dude, I'm struggling. I'm ready to get the healing you were talking about. And now I'm like, I don't really know what to do. Like, what, how do I, I'm brand new into this, like, new season of my life, so what do I, I can't act like an expert, but there's a part of me, there's a performer in me that wants to be an expert.
And try to tell you, I've got some hidden secrets and I've got some tools that are really helping for me, but I don't have all the tools. I'm not a counselor. I'm not licensed. I didn't go to any schooling for this. So I have, I literally don't know really how to walk guys through this other than just sharing my own stuff.
Um. I'm gonna be totally honest with you guys. Like we, when I was gone, we lost some podcast sponsors. Not anyone that was like mad or anything, but just because I was gone and there was not consistency. We paused on podcast sponsorships. I've paused on speaking, which is a big, um, financial way that we've sustained the ministry and that's gone.
So there's some financial stuff. I'm just like, can we sustain this organization? Um, that's a part of it. There's also part of it's just like, what does the future look like for us as a ministry? How do I actually, this is the thing that I'm like losing sleep over. I've had so many of you guys reaching out saying, Jared, I want this kind of healing that you're describing and I'm just losing sleep.
'cause I'm like, okay, I've got a podcast and you're listening to this, but how do I actually help you Like one-on-one. You listening your life, your marriage. How do I actually help you? And maybe that, maybe that's not even the right question. I don't know. So that's stuff that me and my board are working through and trying to figure out, but it's just kind of causing some stress.
And I'm, I don't, I think maybe some insecurity in there, by the way, men who are healed are really good at asking yourself what's going on underneath the surface, um, instead of numbing out. And you'll find that when you stop numbing out, you're forced to ask yourself what's happening underneath the surface.
And so for me, dude, I've, I've, all my numbing mechanisms have been exposed. I've come face to face with all the things that I've used for decades to numb out, whether that be socially acceptable things and sinful things. I've looked at all of them in the, the face over the last couple months, and now they're, they're gone.
And so if you have the same, if you've always gone to these numbing agents. To escape the stress of the present or the future, and then all of a sudden they're gone. It is a little bit panicky, which is why most people don't want to address this. 'cause it's like, dude, you're gonna take away the thing that I'm, that's all I got, you know?
Um, and by the way, can I just be real for a second? Um, a lot of guys, you know, they, they talk about. Their addiction. Like, dude, um, I don't, I'm, I feel weird saying if you're listening with your kids, stop listening with your kids. Like put your headphones on or something, you know? Um, if you're listening in public place at the coffee shop, put your headphones on.
Um, but dude, this is like for, for a lot of guys, this, when you think about porn and masturbation, these are soothing mechanisms. And I'm walking with a lot of guy, I shouldn't say that. I'm walking with some friends right now. Um, who are trying to take all of these tools out of their toolbox, these unhealthy, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and they're just trying to feel whatever it is they're feeling.
And dude, it's super, super hard, super hard, especially if you've had these, um, soothing mechanisms and escapisms escape tools for decades. And now all of a sudden you don't. And now you have to feel the weight of what you're feeling. Fully. And so a man who's healed is a man I'm learning is a man who can sit with whatever he's feeling.
Name it. I feel this, which for a lot of dudes that's really hard to do. And then the next question is, why do I feel this? And what am I gonna do to soothe this pain without these, uh, without these unhealthy, soothing mechanisms? It just gets you back to the present moment. That's Jared. That was a really long way of saying that.
I get it. Um, that's kind of meditation. I guess. This is not a meditation podcast. I'm certainly not qualified to do that. I do not know how to meditate. I'm the dude that falls asleep, but I do know. What I'm feeling lately is I feel stressed about the future. I feel stress in the moment. Some days I wake up and I'm like, is my marriage okay?
Am I okay? Am I gonna do okay in life? And sustaining and sustaining my family and all the things that all of us stress about as men and providers of our family and husbands and and dads and all this stuff. Um, when I feel that instead of having to. Any tools to, to soothe? I just have to sit and be fully present in the moment.
I was feeling stressed, I was feeling anxious even as I was watching the kids and having lunch. And then I was just like, dude, stay fully present in this moment. Do not escape. Uh, don't escape by scrolling your phone. Don't escape by looking at the news. Don't escape. And this is where I talked about this a couple weeks ago.
Um, you, you have to name all the ways that you escape. So don't escape by. Like, for me, sometimes I, I mentioned Oreos. That's so dumb. You're like, Jared, okay. Wow. This is your big sin. No, my sins are much bigger, but Oreos tell me that my, I'm trying to escape. Uh, Zillow for me is knows that I'm trying to escape.
If I start scrolling Zillow, I don't have social media anymore. I'm not watching the news. So if I start scrolling. Zillow, just looking at houses. Dude, I'm, I'm numbing out. I'm escaping. Why? Because I know I have a perfectly fine life right now. We have awesome neighbors. We have a great neighborhood. We have a, we love where we live.
If I'm starting to look at houses elsewhere, I am escaping 100%. And so I'm just trying to sit and be fully present in the moment. So I'm sitting there, I'm enjoying the bite of food that I was eating. I'm a reheated pasta that I made the night before. And I'm like, this is really good. I really like this.
And I'm enjoying the actual bite in my mouth. And then I'm watching my kids play with their $10 slip and slide and running through the little sprinklers that it comes with. And they're just screaming, you know, my kids are sick. I, I have four kids, but these two that I'm talking about are six and four and they're just running and they're laughing.
And my dog is sitting at the, the door just like hitting the door 'cause she wants to play. And I'm just like absorbing all the little details of that moment and being fully present in that moment and just saying, God, thank you for today. Thank you for this moment. Thank you that your grace is sufficient for me today, right now, that your goodness is enough for me today, that your salvation is enough for me right now, right in this moment, and that there's no need to escape.
I'm safe right now. I'm loved right now. I'm honest right now. I'm a man finding, healing and a man of integrity right now, and there's no reason to escape and, um, I that, that I'm learning, that I guess is what I'm trying to say here. I'm learning that. Just how to sit in those moments. And I think about the verse, um, Matthew 6 33, seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added to you.
He was, when he says all these things, he was actually talking right before that. Jesus was about very practical stuff. Like, what am I going? He says, you're stressing about what are you going to eat and what are you gonna drink and what are you gonna wear? And he says, don't stress about those things.
Instead, seek first my kingdom and my righteousness, and all these things, all these practical things will be added to you. And so I'm trying to just sit in that and rest in that. So, yeah, I just wanted to be honest with you, man. If you, if you wouldn't mind like just hanging with me and stumbling with me as I'm, as I'm trying to figure this out, I don't want to get on here and try to be some expert.
'cause I'm not, I'm not an expert. Um, I'm a broken dude and I'm trying my best to stumble and, but I'm committed to honesty and integrity and being a truth teller. And, uh, and it's hard man. There. I was looking at pictures. I don't remember what something came up today. I was looking at pictures and there was some posts.
I was trying to add the dad tired logo to something. And um, so I searched dad tired in my photos and it pulled up all these old dad tired post pictures. And there was part of me, I was looking at pictures from like five years ago and there was part of me that kind of missed that, um, that season of life.
And, and yet. What am I trying to say? I'm trying to say that like there was a part of me that was performing and hiding, and yet I felt kind of more respected, if I'm totally honest. Um, nobody's said that. Nobody's like, actually made me feel that. But there was a part of me that came up that said you were more respected before you admitted that you were broken.
And that little guy that's coming up. It's trying to ride the bus of my life and my emotions like, dude, if you just look like you got it all together and you have all your emotions together and you have some wise things to say, people will respect you more. There'll be more opportunity opportunities.
You wouldn't be in this position, you'd be fine. And um, so there I'm feeling that a little bit and just being like, this is, this is hard to admit that I don't really know what I'm talking about. I wish there's, I wish I could be a guru. Do I really wish that, I'm trying to be honest. Do I really think that, I don't know.
I think there is a part of me that thinks I wish I could be a guru. I, I think that there, that feels like it would have more security, if I'm honest. But there's another part of me that doesn't really actually want to be a guru at all. Like, I'd rather just be honest and I'd rather, like I said the last few podcasts, I'd rather have like 10 guys listen to this podcast and be like that.
That's me too, man. Then a million guys think I'm some, think I'm someone that I'm not. So anyway, thanks for letting me process out loud. Um, I do wanna leave you like, just as a broken dude to another broken guy listening. I just wanna challenge you gently with this, like, try to ask yourself,
are there areas of your life that you're trying to escape? Um, and you might not be know, you might not know that you're doing it in the moment. So maybe as you're doing something that you normally do throughout the day, I'm trying to think like maybe you scroll social media bunch or maybe you look at the stock market obsessively, or maybe you're on, like me, you're on Zillow, or you know you got harder stuff that you're working through addictions.
Maybe you're addicted to porn and you want to go back to looking at porn today. And you think like, this is just, I'm bored. I just, I need to numb out for a minute or whatever. Um, just try to, I guess, catch yourself. Like, what do you, are you escaping today? And then just ask yourself, when you're in one of those behaviors that you would normally be in, just ask yourself like, what am I, what am I trying to escape from right now?
Um, what am I, what am, what is it that I'm trying to escape from? Do I feel stressed about the future? I think that's when we're talking about becoming healed men, this is, this is kind of early on, step one, step two kind of thing. Like what are you trying to escape from just learning your behaviors, not getting mad at yourself, shaming yourself, beating yourself up, but just like recognizing, okay, it seems like I do this a lot and I'm probably, if I'm honest, trying to escape and then just ask like, what am I escaping from right now?
Is my marriage stressed? Is my, are my finances stressful? Does the world feel stressful? And yeah, so just those would be the two questions. What are you trying to escape from? And then what are you using to escape bonus points? If you want to go deep, just turn off that soothing mechanism and then just try to sit in it.
And that's the hard work. This is where like real healing comes and it, it starts getting harder. 'cause now you have to feel all the things that you don't want to feel. So that would be kind of down the road stuff. We can talk through that in the episodes to come. But anyway, um, yeah man, I'm just gonna try to keep being honest on here and walking through stuff with you and, um, I like hearing from you guys.
I really do. So sometimes it's hard to respond to all the emails and comments and stuff, but, um, you know. I really do like hearing from you. It's helpful for me just to, I'm talking to my computer, like I'm looking at my own face right now as I'm, as I'm recording this. And it always feels super weird. So, um, I'm pausing 'cause I'm like, am I looking for affirmation right now?
Let me be honest with that. Trying to always check in with myself. What am I really wanting? Do I want your affirmation? Do I feel like I need it? Uh, um.
If I'm honest, there's probably part of me that wants affirmation, but I think there's also part of me that wants to do stuff in community. I like doing stuff with other guys. It's way easier to find healing when you've got a group of people with you. Like, no, we're journeying through this together. So I'll be honest, there's a part of me that's got some, uh, longing for validation.
You don't need to do that with me or for me. Um, I don't need that. I wanna find that in Christ, in Christ alone. Um, but there's also part of me that just wants to do this with other guys, and so I don't know, take that for whatever you will. I love you guys and um, I'll see you next week. Bye.
Hey guys, just wanted to say one more thing here before we wrap up. Um, every December we do our annual fundraising. And, um, that usually gets us through for the, the upcoming year. Um, as you know, and as I've mentioned, I was gone all of December doing my own healing stuff and dealing with my own stuff. Uh, and so we didn't do any fundraising and we're trying to catch up.
I'm just, again, trying to be honest with you guys. We are in a tough spot because we didn't do any fundraising last year or at the end of last year. And um, I'm, as I've started to talk about all the healing stuff again, that this is stuff I've just talked to you about, but we're getting guys every day reaching out, saying, I literally just got one like an hour ago if this guy said like, please tell me you've got something coming quickly.
'cause. I am in desperate need of this healing that you're talking about. Um, I just got that email like an hour ago, and so we're, as a board and as a team, I'm praying about and thinking about all the ways that we can be of help. I'm trying to think of like free ways that we can do online groups, um, what we're gonna call garage groups, that you can find these garage groups online daily.
So if you're just like, dude, I need a place to meet guys, to confess in, to check in when I'm feeling super tempted. Um, some of you guys are going through like real hard stuff. You just got discovered. Um, meaning like you, you had some sin that you were hiding, that you didn't plan on getting discovered, uh, come out and now you're in the middle of crisis and so your, your wife's freaking out and you feel panicked, and so you don't really know what to do.
I've talked to some of you this week who've been in that situation. Um, so anyway, we're just trying to figure out like how do we help? All of you guys? Um, all of us. It's not you guys, it's all of us. Like how do we create resources where a guy can come in at any level and doesn't have to stress about like money?
'cause certainly, um, you know, the nobody like who has tens of thousands of dollars to spend on healing. Um, most people don't have that luxury. And so we're just trying to use this platform as a way to push guys toward healing without having to like. Sell their kidneys to do it. All that to say we're working hard on that.
We feel super clear about the mission God's called us to, but we are short on resources, especially because we did not fundraise while I was gone. And so if this ministry is helpful for you, you want to see more guys get healing, you need those resources yourself. Maybe God's put you in a position where you can give, um, I'm just humbly asking you if you'd partner with us to do that.
So you can go to dad tire.com. I'll put a, um, link in the show notes here that you can click on that. But I just wanted to say that I always hate I'm, I suck at fundraising. I'm really, really bad at it. But I, as I'm getting these emails every day from guys that are like, dude, please, I really need help. Um, it's motivating me to be like, all right, let's figure this out so that we can help.
Um, all the guys who I expected would be reaching out anyway. All right, I'm rambling, but I, I love you guys. If you, if you're able to chip in da tire.com/donate, you can click the donate button there. But, um, we'll talk soon. See you.