Beek on being

Comic relief has arrived. This monthly Shere sisters session has been interrupted to bring you the newest social media sensation, our mother Ruthi. Unsolicited opinions and unedited advice is what she dispenses in droves. Today she responds to viewers questions! As per the usual there is laughter, crying and obviously something inappropriate! This is Beek on being and WRITE TO RUTHI RESPONSES.

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What is Beek on being?

A podcast on shared humanity; discussing personal and professional perspectives. From serious to silly to sublime, coming from kindness and curiosity, it is all about connections.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Hi, I hope you are well. This podcast is a place for people to share personal and professional perspectives, talk openly and ask questions. From serious to silly to sublime, it's all about communication and connection. Always coming from a place of kindness and curiosity, we talk about shared humanity, discuss ideas, and highlight people creating a better world. We've got to keep learning, keep growing, keep being.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm Melissa Beek, and this is Beek on being. Today's episode is Beek on being with WRITE RUTHI RESPONSES. For new viewers who aren't aware, our mother is here today as she has become a social media superstar with her quick comments, oodles of opinions, and unedited, sometimes unsolicited advice on everything. Ma, get such amazing responses every time you go on an episode. So you have super fans out there.

Melissa Shere Beek:

People love your hot takes. So we decided to share the wealth of your advice and opinions with our viewers, and they wrote in questions for you to answer. We won't use names though. Viewers, you know who you are. So here goes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Can I tell you something very funny?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Go ahead.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I was at Meyers basketball game. Mhmm. And the man leaned over on me, and he said, my number one rule.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Which is? You can say it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. No. No. He whispered it in my ear.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, I know what he's talking about. Was He scared

Ruth Garber Shere:

whispered it in my ear.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What did you tell them?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Fuck ’em and feed ’em.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Fuck ’em and feed ’em your philosophy on men.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Who is this man? Is he married?

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. I will tell

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you after.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Wait. Bring the microphone to your mouth, so you don't have to keep leaning in. There you go. Yeah. All the way to your mouth.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, no. Don't

Jessica Shere Coggins:

tell me. Hi.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Can you bring the microphone to your mouth? Thank you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's good. That's dirty.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You know they think

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

dirty, mom.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I always think dirty.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Could you just bring it closer so you don't have to keep leaning in that way our viewers can hear you? Okay. Yay. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So are you ready? What's wrong with you today?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She snorted. She just snorted.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh my god.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Stop touching my

Melissa Shere Beek:

mic. Bring it closer to your mouth, not further away. There we go. She's like No. No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We we need to hear you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay. So let me tell you, I don't need a microphone to be heard.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Steven, can you hear her? Mhmm. Okay. Great.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Steven's my Buddy. you ready? Yeah. But if I can't answer, can I plead?

Melissa Shere Beek:

The Fifth? This is not That you've Andy Cohen show. Okay.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Ready? That's a good one.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I like Andy Cohen.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I love him. He's great. But that's not the show we're doing today. Alright. So we're gonna start with an easy one from a very, very anonymous viewer.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Ready? Who's your favorite grandchild?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, seriously?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Seriously. Who's your favorite grandchild?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, Bria was the one who asked that question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. I did it. Okay. Grandpa, I'll

Ruth Garber Shere:

tell you something. I get a medal. When I die, put a medal over my tombstone.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Think we get the medal. I was gonna say.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. I think I get the fucking medal.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I have fucking I get the get the medal. Who's my youngest?

Ruth Garber Shere:

I get the medal. Who's my favorite?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Bring the mic closer to your mouth.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Why do you think Bria asked that question? Because she did. But I don't

Melissa Shere Beek:

She did ask that question.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She did ask that question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's our anonymous did viewer. You know that?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because she asked me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Are you gonna answer the question?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Asked her out before. She she she asked me.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So who's your favorite grandchild?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She can't answer.

Ruth Garber Shere:

These are cute.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It depends on the day.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I see. It depends on the day.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It depends on who's with me and who loves me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Or who's listening. Alright. I guess that's fair. I agree.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I agree.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. It depends on who's

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

with me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. So Steven so not such an anonymous question. Steven had a question for you. A

Ruth Garber Shere:

follow-up Yeah. On that

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, you better be my buddy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Who's your favorite? Not after this. Who's your favorite daughter?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, no. I love all of you so much. True. I think I'm so blessed having the three of you. When I watched that episode last week, I cried.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm gonna say on any given day. Also depends.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, you feel the same way about me, I'm sure.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. True. True. True to that. True.

Melissa Shere Beek:

True to that. Okay. Great.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Alright. The only one you always liked was daddy.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Well, daddy was funny.

Melissa Shere Beek:

He was easy. He was so easy. I mean, yeah. Sorry.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Made me feel bad. You got

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

us now. Oh, that's true.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We got her.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Put the truth. Put truth.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Up the truth. True. For our viewers who are listening and not watching We have on YouTube bullshit and and truth paddles that Samantha made. They're so good. Every time she says something, we're voting on if we think it's true or bullshit.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Did you see them in I have somebody's bag?

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. No. We've been switching bags the

Ruth Garber Shere:

whole You talked. You said I'm gonna make something that says bullshit.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Next anonymous question. If I don't like my date, is it rude to leave early?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. Absolutely not. I just did that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I know. What excuse would you use?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, I said I had a financial adviser calling me at 08:00 at night, and I left him at the table. I said, I gotta go. Did. I know. I know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Did

Melissa Shere Beek:

it. I just don't know how I feel about that one.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. You should leave.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You can leave if you don't

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

like I could her have.

Ruth Garber Shere:

We did dinner, and then we're talking. And then he did dessert. And then he wanted to sit and talk more.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Because he wants to get to know you. I One way street. She didn't wanna get to know you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I wanna get I to know couldn't I could not sit any longer. So I went, oh.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Just like that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh. It's my fine he goes, I'll walk you out. I said, no. You don't need to. And I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Have you heard from him since?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. He texted me before I got to the car. They can't wait to and then he called me twice.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's so sad.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But I got And I told

Melissa Shere Beek:

him I said

Ruth Garber Shere:

to him, said, you know

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You don't

Melissa Shere Beek:

feel it though. You don't feel it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Poor guy. Okay. Next.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Next question. Do you have any regrets in life?

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's a good one. Oh, that's a really good one.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And then that person had a follow-up. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Have a couple of I have a couple of regrets.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Tell us your regrets.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Quite frankly, my mother handed me the the letter from saying, you got a full ride Mhmm. Dorm, everything. For college? For college. And I said, well, I'd like to apply to others because I knew I could get into anywhere I wanted, quite frankly.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Right. You're a great student.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And she said and then I did my senior year at Mhmm.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I had Didn't you have high school?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Yeah. And I had cleft all these, you know, credits, So I would have gone into my sophomore year somewhere. And she said, no.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So you regret that you didn't push back and follow-up

Ruth Garber Shere:

with Well, was no pushing back. There was pushing back. That was

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But you Yeah. You could've applied with behind her back. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Never. You wouldn't? No. No. But you had a full ride.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I would've had a full ride anywhere. Oh. Okay. I mean, I really had, you know, it was my resume was stellar.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm sure. No. I know it is. Yeah. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So that's a bigger question. That that person has She had

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

another regret. What was your you have a few of them. Any other?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Regrets?

Ruth Garber Shere:

That you wanna say? I did not. Say all of them. Sing the song.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I just did. They didn't get it. It's too old. What about anything you would have done differently in life besides that? Or something you wish you had done?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I would have continued the construction after daddy got sick and brought you three in instead of dissolving We

Melissa Shere Beek:

talked about too.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Instead of dissolving the construction No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We could start over again. We could start over.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'll be an empty nester in a year.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'll be. Seriously. We've talked about doing duplexes all over Pinecrest. I was

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

on a phone with a friend of mine who's gonna be an empty nester, and she's like, I need to do something. I'm like, I'm in the same boat.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, you'll do it with us. Okay. We've looked at places

Melissa Shere Beek:

We've done a collection. We won't let you answer the phones, Jess. No. We've No. Already discussed But something else I remember because

Ruth Garber Shere:

this person You have to text her.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, yeah. She responded to text text.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I do. But she calls

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

at 07:00 in the morning.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, she butt dialed me at like 06:45 this respond morning.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Last night. I was like, is she coming today? Did she text me? She texted in the group. Oh.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She hasn't seen off group texting. You have like a group chat.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I'm glad

Melissa Shere Beek:

that he's not me yet.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. Because I but

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I just flew back yesterday.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So there was a lot going on.

Melissa Shere Beek:

There's always Next question.

Ruth Garber Shere:

There's always I feel like there is. There will.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

We all have something.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Next question. He's a bad kisser. What do I do?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Ew. Get rid of him.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Ew. God.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Bye bye.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't think you

Melissa Shere Beek:

You're can really change answering. Thanks, Ruth, Jessica. What's your answer, Ruth?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't think you can change that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Cut the line and

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Stop dating him.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Right. I mean,

Ruth Garber Shere:

you can

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

change him from being a better I

Jessica Shere Coggins:

mean If

Ruth Garber Shere:

a guy can't kiss? Ciao. Ciao. Into the pasta. But you said I had another regret.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You didn't say it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, okay. I know this regret. That you wanted to be an archaeologist. And you can pursue that. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's true.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. That's that I know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That is a huge, huge regret. Yeah. But I had no opportunity there either. You have to understand. I didn't get credit card until after Samantha was born.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Women didn't have credit cards.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, I was laughing because when she said senior year and she was thinking college, I was like, that's when I was born. Your senior year of college. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's my junior year. Really?

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Pregnant your junior year.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You gave Well, birth I to me. Had to wait six months to get the to graduate. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

To graduate and then make pregnant with you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And then my next

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But that's what

Melissa Shere Beek:

you did back then.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I was 19.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It was the sixties when I

Ruth Garber Shere:

graduated. I entered college at Yeah. I was 19 when I graduated.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Another question.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But there there was no choice. The dean of the school said the dean of the school said, lady, you're gonna get married and have children. You can't go on a dig. I'm not signing off on your degree in archaeology.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, tell them what they really wanted you to be and what you did for a hot second.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, they wanted me to be a teacher.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But you were for a little. For a half a day. Oh, is it just half

Ruth Garber Shere:

a a day? No. It was a little longer than that. And I I Yeah. First of all, I don't You

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

had the patience.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But it's not only that. Don't say that I'm not gonna say it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She doesn't like little kids. She doesn't like little kids. Yeah. I know some other stuff, but Okay. Next question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Doesn't eat Don't eat the mic. Just bring it close to you. Who's your style icon? Oh.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Elizabeth Taylor.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh. I didn't think you were gonna say that. I What love happened to these? Oh, yeah. True.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We agree with True. True. True. True. Back to our past.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I liked her I liked her jewelry also.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I was just gonna say that's why you liked her, because you like her jewelry collection.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. But today's world.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And today Yeah. Who's who's like fashion wise, not jewelry wise, who's your style icon fashion wise? This today

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, it's not Anna Winter. She wears too many colors. True. Not Anna Winter. She wears too many colors.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Mom would never do a floral or a color.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. But

Melissa Shere Beek:

wouldn't either, though. So I'm I'm saying I'm the same. I understand.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I am too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So who's your style icon? Contemporary now.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I like Anne Hathaway. I think Oh,

Melissa Shere Beek:

she's Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I like Anne Hathaway. You're right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. That's a

Jessica Shere Coggins:

He's good been

Melissa Shere Beek:

good lately. That's a good one.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And she has this layout in Vogue this month with all these black leather jackets that are awesome.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She's so To me, she's just gorgeous.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Alright. Alright. Next question from an anonymous viewer. What do you never leave home without?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh my god.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Mascara. No. Her planner. And mascara.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Your daily planner.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Guys, you're not even letting Her answer.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Okay. Need to

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, first of all, I don't leave that without my eye makeup.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Right. A 100%. I don't think that makeup's come off since the seventies. You just add to it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. It needs to be

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's a little dark. I like it dark. I was like, don't Listen, Anne Hathaway is all dark eye makeup now.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Think if you did a little bit like lighter green, it's like a black.

Ruth Garber Shere:

There's a lighter green right here. Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. I think you

Melissa Shere Beek:

need be

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the there. You see that? Underneath my

Melissa Shere Beek:

underneath the deep aubergine.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It needs to be a little bit lighter. It's going too dark, ma.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's a dark lady. It's a

Ruth Garber Shere:

new style.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You go, girl.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Thank you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You're welcome. Okay. So without eye makeup,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

what else?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Get some brown on your nose, Jess.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, I thought you meant I had brown

Jessica Shere Coggins:

on my

Ruth Garber Shere:

nose. I'm going, oh, shit.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Clearly, oh, shit.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What else? You don't leave home without?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Without money, phone, and file effects.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, the planner.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. There's one other thing that you do. Even you come to exercise Well, with yeah, water, but you always Attitude.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I thought you do this.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Always. But that was good.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That was good.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Truth. Attitude. Mine cannot be pissed off. What about earrings? You never leave

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

a Oh,

Ruth Garber Shere:

I never go without my earrings. Never. I'm never without earrings. I

Melissa Shere Beek:

know that. Got it. Diamond hoops usually. That's good. No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Because she comes to dance, and we're spinning and turning, and I'm thinking this woman's gonna get herself a black eye. She's got these huge diamond hoops that every time she turns, they're smacking her face. I was like, Ma, why do you dance in hoops? She goes, oh, I I never go anywhere without my hoops. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And she has them in different sizes. So I'm like, the bigger the hoop, the bigger the bitch. Oh my god.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And the eye makeup.

Melissa Shere Beek:

The eye makeup. But that's pretty without makeup too. That's true.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I always said that about you, Ma.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Next question. Is sex on the first date okay? And what's your opinion on a one night stand?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Wait. Wait. Wait.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, yeah. For her? Yes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And yes. Yes. For me.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Wait. What was the second question? I got the sex on the first night. What was the second I was

Ruth Garber Shere:

gonna say truth to that one.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I can't see mine. Truth.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Put

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it There by your face,

Ruth Garber Shere:

you go. We go.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What was the The second first question is sex on the first date. Yeah. And the section the the second one was what's your opinion on a one night stand? And Ma said, yes and yes.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yes. And

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it's definitely us.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yes. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Why not?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why not? Yeah. Okay. Everybody wants a companion.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I feel like we're, like, the twenty plus year marriage. And they're like, The newbies. The single, like Oh,

Melissa Shere Beek:

hot and single on that end of the room.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Think of either of those questions.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Jess and Ma, hot and single.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

So I'm Not single.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But you're not single anymore. But yeah. You were for a little bit. Hot and single. You're still hot, but you're not single anymore.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Thank you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And I'm not hot.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Hot single. You're not single. Sam and I are the old married women over here.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. But I would want you to have sex on

Melissa Shere Beek:

the first date. Except that's what that's what I was gonna say.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Okay. But is

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it okay for my daughter to her?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. Absolutely not. Would you let your daughter have sex on the

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

first If we're saying it's okay for us. Why is not for them? Exactly. Not okay for you. It's for her and not for us.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, it's totally okay for me. I'm an old lady. I do whatever I want.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But why

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

not do it? 21 year old. Almost 21 year old.

Ruth Garber Shere:

On the first date?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Wait. Yeah. Why are you allowed?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I just said that. But I die

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm sure

Jessica Shere Coggins:

What was that?

Melissa Shere Beek:

That when you were single, you did.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. Bullshit. I was going bullshit. I did. I did.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I

Melissa Shere Beek:

did.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Bullshit. I was

Melissa Shere Beek:

Big time bullshit.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I made daddy wait six weeks. You also

Melissa Shere Beek:

plan Well, I'm your not going there. Okay.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But in today's age

Ruth Garber Shere:

We're not going there.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

In today's age

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm glad I had them. I have you girls from that,

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

but But it's interesting because I don't know if I would yeah. I mean, I I think it happens.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Of course, it happens. Every generation. Don't care what your time is. It happens. Especially when you're on Premarital sex, one night But

Ruth Garber Shere:

my day, you didn't have sex. Oh, I could have three dates. I You could have three dates on one night. You didn't you didn't have sex with them.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, I've I've had several dates and nothing's happened to any of them. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't have three on one night.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, you're a hottie. But I'm just saying. But Yeah. I used to have like six And and eight and it's okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Was so confused.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You're why are you so confused?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. Because I'm one one time. And I don't know exactly. I would get the guys confused. Wait.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Did you tell me that? No. Didn't tell you that. No. I remember Larry Who's Larry Eisner?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She doesn't answer the phone.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Larry Eisner says, thought we're gonna have a whole night and go to a movie. I said, no. No. You're dinner.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We’re not giving names.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, he's probably dead by now.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Shit. Steven. You gotta get her on more often. Oh. I don't know.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm afraid.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Alright, Union. I'm sorry

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

if you're still sip of champagne.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, we have Prosecco for you. Want Prosecco?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. Do not. Go have her carry

Jessica Shere Coggins:

her out.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Not happening. Okay.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Look at her. She's like Next right now of a Prosecco.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. She's thinking about it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'll drive her. She's like my epic midnight snack.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Alright. Next question.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I like champagne better than Prosecco.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I don't I don't drink. So I don't know. Isn't Prosecco champagne?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Italian, but it's not really French.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's the same.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Cava is Spanish, Prosecco is Italian, champagne is French.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. And what would you like for the next time we do this podcast

Ruth Garber Shere:

with you?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

What brand too? Cookies.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I have cookies. You like those cookies. Did not like These are good cookies. We have other cookies over there.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't like chocolate. Thank you. I'm vanilla.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Alright. Alright. Next question. This I'm

Jessica Shere Coggins:

so glad

Ruth Garber Shere:

you brought those paddles. I thought you didn't do them.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We thought we forgot about you. It's all about Ruthie. Viewer. No. I can't.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm getting married next year and my mother-in-law to be said we need a prenup. Is that a deal breaker? Yeah. So what do you do? What do you tell you what do you tell this viewer to do?

Ruth Garber Shere:

You got a choice. Listen to your mother or marry me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mother-in-law. It's her mother-in-law.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm telling the guy. Listen to your mother or marry me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Got it. Repeat the question. I wanna hear this one. The question was

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why? You feel

Melissa Shere Beek:

different? I am and said, I'm getting married next year, and my mother-in-law to be said, we need a prenup. Is that a deal breaker? So Ma said, tell your husband to be. It's either your mother or me.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I did that to daddy. I don't agree with that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You don't agree with that? I just Depends on the situation. It depends on the person. It just it there's so many things that go into this.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy's parents wanted me to sign a prenup.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And then When they didn't show to your elopement.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, no. Daddy just invited them to the wedding, so we eloped.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't know. But I said to daddy, I'm not.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Now that's their issue.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Not I think it depends on why there's

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

a prenup. I mean, if it's

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's usually money.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Well, but is it money that he's made or is it money that's family? It it they can get

Ruth Garber Shere:

And is it

Melissa Shere Beek:

an early marriage? Is it a later on I don't know. There's a lot of that go in there, think. A lot.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So would you have a prenup now?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm pleading the fifth. I'm not discussing it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, how do you feel, sissy?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think it depends on the situation. I mean, like they said, if you're inheriting money or the family has money or properties or different things and they want to protect their assets and things.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah, I guess if you guys were getting married now, I'd want you to do a prenup. I never did it. But I think now,

Melissa Shere Beek:

Like in times today.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I see. I'm looking at a perspective of being with Doug for

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. I'm talking about a few You were

Melissa Shere Beek:

getting married today. Can't What on is his opinion because more

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

than me. So it would be me signing his, not

Melissa Shere Beek:

Not necessarily both of yourselves.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You protect both of

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

happening. So next question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Next question. Ma, I wanna be you when I grow up. How can I stay young while I age? Oh, shit.

Ruth Garber Shere:

How can you stay young?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You have any numbers in your file effects?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. Know. Keep going. Hit the ground running. Water dancing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Water dancing people. Shut up. Yeah. No. You're good.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You got me. Yeah. Just hit the ground running. Don't lay in that bed. Don't do nothing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Just Whoops. Books.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Books. Well,

Melissa Shere Beek:

no. She said, whoops.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It can help.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's what she does, not books. Yeah. So I got I see you like

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to go

Melissa Shere Beek:

out. You like to

Ruth Garber Shere:

do Lectures.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You go into Education. Your

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm constantly Engaging. Engaged in classes and courses and

Melissa Shere Beek:

You keep social. Home alone. You keep being so but even even when we were home as kids or even when dad was around and everything like that, she was always out and about doing going going going going.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Well, I founded the JCC and then I was on the board of Beth David, and then we started Beth Shara. You did the book fair? I did the book fair, federation board. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Everything. I just Travel.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But you were home when we got home.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Home when you got home. That was it. Always.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Try to

Ruth Garber Shere:

make myself home for No. I am was always home when you girls got home. We did homework. We had dinner.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Looked at our

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

homework passes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Looked at your homework passes, made sure they were checked off. And then after dinner

Melissa Shere Beek:

Couldn't sit on the bed.

Ruth Garber Shere:

If we had an appointment, daddy and I, then I wouldn't go until 07:30 or eight till you were wound down.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think the rules for you were a little different.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I think she was for us, she was home.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I was home for you, sissy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. But I don't remember like so

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. But your memory is different than anybody's.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Because I didn't remember her. I've been so No. You were hardcore about like homework and all that shit. But I got my shit done, and I went right from the front door. I got my shit done and went right out the back door and went on my bike.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right. But

Melissa Shere Beek:

all the kids did that. Right. Exactly. And we were out until Yeah. The sun went riding the bike in the neighborhood.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But I was still home when you got home, but I picked you up.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. But also but also No. Because Maddie picked us up too. We always Yeah. Carpool.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But also, I had Nanny and Poppy and Nannala and well, Nana Rose and all the other great grandparents that were around and Aunt Sue. I had like a tremendous amount of family that was like always at the house because nobody was around and nobody else had kids. So it was like, there was always something going on and if you were busy, nanny and poppy were there or nana rose was there or like it was always. Always

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

felt like she was always home.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I was always there.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. There was always dinner on the table And

Melissa Shere Beek:

And we had dinner on the table.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Quizzing on homework.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Wasn't always a good dinner.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Always. Quizzing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

There was dinner though.

Melissa Shere Beek:

There was dinner

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

on the table.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She had a liver and onions kick. I will not not get over. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It was important that we were together for vegetarian.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Remember that. What about the peas? The hard boiled eggs that were

Melissa Shere Beek:

exploding in the kitchen.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, because I wish I

Jessica Shere Coggins:

forgot about them all the time.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's right, Samantha.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

The I still don't. Eggs exploding.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. She forgot

Jessica Shere Coggins:

about that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think I'm a vegetarian because of her liver liver and onion episode. Like, I was just like

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy liked that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That was We

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

had different stuff.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I No. She made like pork chops. Then she's like suck on the bones.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Pork chops?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Not pork chops. I'm sorry. Lamb chops. Chops.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Lamb chops. I just remember her like sucking on the bone and I was like so broke. I hate chops now. I'm telling you this is why I'm a vegetarian.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, she

Melissa Shere Beek:

bought She so

Ruth Garber Shere:

used to make them. They were quick. Oh

Melissa Shere Beek:

god. She loved those.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. But you guys like them. No.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. I think I did then.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Not now. No. I like the crepela. I like the potato.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I like the pasta. I like like that the Italian.

Ruth Garber Shere:

There was always a side dish of pasta.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. There was. And a

Ruth Garber Shere:

vegetable. And

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

a vegetable. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's why I'm a I was always

Ruth Garber Shere:

eating There was always and carbs.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Always asparagus.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Know. I know. What that is.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I never like hand. She always made the fresh. I like hand vegetables. I don't know.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Because they were

Ruth Garber Shere:

so I

Melissa Shere Beek:

like them because they were soft.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy liked it. Yeah. I never ate a vegetable.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You were good to him.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I was so good to him. Sometimes. I was always good to him. You were both good to each other. Except when he pissed me off.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Next question.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

All one of the time.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm in my twenties. What should I not miss out on before I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

have I was gonna say it's gotta be a Molly or

Melissa Shere Beek:

Remy question, but they're not in their twenties anymore. Well, they shit my daughter. My baby will be 29 next month. But Dixie's 31. But, okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It says, I'm in my twenties.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't miss out on your family.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Before I Before have

Ruth Garber Shere:

you have kids, don't miss out on your family, your parents, your siblings. Mhmm. Bring them close to you. Mhmm. That's your foundation.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Good one. Good.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That's a like good one.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That one. Okay. What are your top three beauty tips?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh.

Ruth Garber Shere:

A hot bath. Oh. Moisturizer.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Ching ching. I got those. I don't.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Brush your teeth?

Melissa Shere Beek:

She's always second. That's hot tip.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Brush your You got a hard I mean, you've passed this bad teeth genetics,

Ruth Garber Shere:

like Uh-uh. Not me. Oh, I got it. Oh, no.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Got it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You got it too.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Okay. Stella's got it too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. I am. Blossin' and brushin' 10 times a day. No. My kids do too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

My kids do too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You all scared me. No. No. No. The fact that her tooth fell out on the way to an episode a couple

Ruth Garber Shere:

We're weeks

Melissa Shere Beek:

editing that out, aren't we? Well, I thought we already exposed that. No? No.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Who cares? It's fixed.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay. My tooth fell out a couple years ago. I just shoved it back in. Oh, shit.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Mine wasn't getting shoved back in

Jessica Shere Coggins:

though.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I had

Melissa Shere Beek:

And he sent pictures.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. Your daughter wanted the

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

picture and I refused to send it to

Jessica Shere Coggins:

her Yeah. Because I used to it against

Melissa Shere Beek:

just sent don't wanna wear that your kids have like hidden pictures of you all? Oh, it's terrible.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, my my kids kids Yesterday, I noticed taking pictures

Melissa Shere Beek:

of me.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Know they have back I'm pictures of like, oh my god.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I know our kids all have

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the secrets Snapchat. Snapchat. Snapchat filters. I was pissing in my pants.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Some of the faces. They're that

Ruth Garber Shere:

some of the faces that Stella and Meyer do. Who's that?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Who is that? Is that?

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's Bria. Oh, that's terrible, guys. That's terrible. But that's Bria. I can't answer.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She looks like a pear.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Ma, next She got

Jessica Shere Coggins:

stumped by a bead. No. She looks like a pear

Ruth Garber Shere:

with a face going on there.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

It's just the fire. I was peeking my pants. You have to see some

Ruth Garber Shere:

of them as we were filming. Okay. Other role Wait. Other role is don't

Melissa Shere Beek:

Don't anybody take bad pictures of you?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't look poo.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Don't ever look But those

Ruth Garber Shere:

are the pictures that you look back on in Not your me. I mean, I shouldn't talk.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm always like, don't take a picture.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't take a picture.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I asked you a pic a question about a picture posting, and you negated every single one. So I'm like, yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Alright. Next question, mom. You're like, you are your own worst critic.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. That's what

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

almost Shirley used to tell someone.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I have to say, some people

Ruth Garber Shere:

are more photogenic

Jessica Shere Coggins:

than others.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I am not a photogenic person. I'm terrible.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I look at myself and I leave the house

Melissa Shere Beek:

do. And I think I'm Samantha does. I the picture.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And I think I look great. And then something like this and I see me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I know. A 100%. I agree with that.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I walk out of the house.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm like, I got this. Okay.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. Then

Melissa Shere Beek:

I your interview. I'm like, what the fuck?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

It. Fuck my ass. Like,

Ruth Garber Shere:

who let

Melissa Shere Beek:

me out with this? Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

There are some people like on like on Instagram who like pose the same picture, and it's so annoying to me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, they have a pose with their head or their hip and

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the same way too? Really? Oh my god.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm tired. I don't yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Don't have

Melissa Shere Beek:

time It's like, to figure say, all that

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the foot up by the No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. No. Your cousin and the hand on the hip. You know who I'm talking about.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I don't

Ruth Garber Shere:

know who Your I'm cousin's wife.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I I I don't know who you're talking about, but we're not gonna expose you on this podcast because I don't know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'll tell you after.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Great. Thank you. Next question. I have a lot of friends getting married, which means bachelorette parties and destination weddings, hotels, bridesmaids gowns, and it's really becoming expensive.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Can I say no? What do I do? RUTHI Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Have to call the people. Call the people. Call. Call. C U L L.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Eliminate the ones that are not Necessary or important

Melissa Shere Beek:

to you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Or important to you. The ones that are important to you, you show up and you buy the gown And and you go to the

Melissa Shere Beek:

so what does this viewer tell the person that they can't do it to?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Depends on who the person is. Does she love the person or not?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I mean, you love the person she's going, but what if it's like she loves him but just can't afford to do it? What does she say I to think honesty is the best policy.

Ruth Garber Shere:

If she can't afford to do it? Say, look, I can come, but I can't spring for the gown. Mhmm. But I'll be there for you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. That's a good solution. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You know, you you pick and choose if she loves the person.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But, you know, get get your tuchus there and then, you know, I'll be supportive, but I can't participate as a bridesmaid.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Got it. That's a good idea. That's a good idea. Let me think about that. Alright.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Here's the next viewer question. I like my coworker. How do I get them to notice me?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, you have to flirt.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. What if oh. Oh, is this a boy or girl?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I guess it doesn't matter. Doesn't matter.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It depends on where you go. Yeah. Which way you bend. Yeah. You flirt.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You flirt.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I mean

Melissa Shere Beek:

Do you have a do you have good I flirt up all the time, I

Ruth Garber Shere:

still flirt.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Tell me

Melissa Shere Beek:

what's like your go to No. Flirting

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. No. Should be

Melissa Shere Beek:

saying that. I'll walk up to someone and go,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

tits up. She hope you'll love

Melissa Shere Beek:

us. She says that to us.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Tits up, girls.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Tits up.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Tits up, girls.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Have you ever flirted with a man before? Like,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

not She once flirts constantly. I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

still flirt. She's That's the sitting in one that you wanna go out with. You Yeah. You where have you seen him?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Where is Well, now they're all gone. But before, yeah, we'd go over to them

Melissa Shere Beek:

and start Didn't you pick one one up at a at a basketball game once?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Recently? No. At a Bethan basketball?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Look at her face. Not I know what you did. I wanna know. After Was

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it at a Beth Ambeast? Because I can figure No. Out

Melissa Shere Beek:

It was a heat It was a heat game. Oh, I think I But we can't say that on TV, but I know you flirt. So what's your go to, like, thing to do when you when you see

Ruth Garber Shere:

a hot a I suck up royally.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Thought. I bet you're gonna say something I think I know you from somewhere.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. What do you know?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. I don't

Melissa Shere Beek:

say You

Jessica Shere Coggins:

look familiar. No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She first thinks she does it. She puts on lipstick. She turns her back and puts on lipstick.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. I'm on a higher intellectual level than I know you from somewhere. I figure out what's good.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What what do you say?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Say it. Do you wanna fuck?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. I thought that's

Ruth Garber Shere:

what she was gonna say. I'm like, what? I'm not to the first date yet.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Go. No. But you said you can't It let say

Ruth Garber Shere:

would be something that would be relevant to the situation where

Melissa Shere Beek:

we were. She would say I don't know if I can say it. Go ahead. Do you wanna move to Israel with me?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

That's what she would say.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'll buy the house and never said

Jessica Shere Coggins:

that you come. Just come

Melissa Shere Beek:

by anyway. I just need to come by

Ruth Garber Shere:

depends on where I am. If I'm at taking a course Right. Or if I'm at an event Right. Or if I'm at a game, I would just

Melissa Shere Beek:

Something relevant to the situation you're in. Yeah. Got it. Totally. How often does it work for you?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Always? Always.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I don't think she has problems.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. She's never had

Ruth Garber Shere:

problems. But I'm old and ugly, so I won't.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I still think people that's your opinion of That's being

Ruth Garber Shere:

my opinion of men.

Melissa Shere Beek:

There are still men. You still flirt, and there are still men that are after you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Like, the one from the restaurant.

Melissa Shere Beek:

All the ones that The after

Jessica Shere Coggins:

one I left.

Melissa Shere Beek:

The one that she left at the table.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. It's you. It's me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I delete a lot.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She's a real time deleter.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. A real time deleter.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. She's not talking about on the phone. She's like a real time deleter.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I'm a big time real time deleter.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. I've seen that in action. Because then I have to be the sweeper and the cleaner. You guys have such good names for this. It's just a

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

matter Like tag team.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, we kind of are a tag I usually have to pick up What she leaves? The destruction.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You know you do that?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes, does. Look at me.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Of course

Ruth Garber Shere:

I do.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

How did you how was dance on Saturday? No. We gotta go with these questions.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why? What did I do?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Again, off camera. Alright. Next question from a viewer.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Saturday, who did I offend?

Melissa Shere Beek:

How do I We're not talking about that. How do I stop being a people pleaser and ask for what I want?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Never be a people pleaser. Never. Never be you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And then how does that person who's so like used to being people How do they get out of their shit? What do got?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Get over it. Stop that shit. Seriously. Put your shoulders back and keep on trucking and get your own worth. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Never be a people pleasing. I'm wondering if I'm really your daughter.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What? I'm wondering if I'm really

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, you talk to a wall. Leaving a place Oh god. We have to go back with them. Hour and a half before the it's over? We're still talking.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think I'm her daughter, but I do I do these things diplomatically, I think. Like, I am not as curt as her delivery.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh. I think I would say that. So what did

Ruth Garber Shere:

I do Saturday?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

We're not talking about Obviously,

Ruth Garber Shere:

you told your sisters.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Obviously. Habits should I start now to be successful later? That's our next viewer question.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Learn. Educate. I I wish I was yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Agree with that. Good. Learn everything.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's a foundation for everything.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I agree with that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And be resilient and be aggressive. And you're gonna get lots of no's in your life, and that doesn't matter. You're gonna go for the long shot, not the short haul.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Got it. Good one. Aggressive or assertive?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Aggressive and resilient.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Aggressive and she doubled down on aggressive. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Aggressive Aggressive and and resilient. And you're gonna get no's.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But keep pushing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Keep going. Yeah. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. I think you've lived your life that way.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But you haven't liked no's.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She doesn't accept it as an answer.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. You don't.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Of course not.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But you don't people to take the no's.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But the no's make Yeah. You The nose the nose make you stronger.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. I agree with

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't cry, Jesse.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm fine.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Every time you cry, you go What

Jessica Shere Coggins:

crying about?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm fine. What happened?

Ruth Garber Shere:

What happened? Don't know. I'm fine.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, bullshit. Oh, bullshit. Bullshit.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. I'm fine. I think she it's she's right on that. Yeah. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I mean, that's what happens. We all get them. Yeah. You just keep going.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. We're all different. I mean, if anything we've

Ruth Garber Shere:

All three of you are extremely resilient and extremely aggressive.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But we've

Melissa Shere Beek:

all taken different

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And all taken different paths.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. But you're all aggressive in your own way.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think We're fierce in our own

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

way. I love it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Fierce a 100%. That's the one thing I love. Assertive, not aggressive.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm not

Melissa Shere Beek:

so Like I'm not full of shit. You are so

Ruth Garber Shere:

aggressive when something you don't like.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Very assertive.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. I don't care. You're assertive. You're assertive.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You could be

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

aggressive too. Yes.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I'm not.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. You if you cross someone I love,

Ruth Garber Shere:

now it's not No. It's more than being a mama bear. Yeah. Are Like it's your assertiveness, your empathy turns to aggression. You'll

Jessica Shere Coggins:

be funny.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But I'm not assertive.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But I'll say that to you all. I won't

Ruth Garber Shere:

say that to the person. Have to catch my words with you half the time when I talk. I'm so I'm

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

not assertive in terms of like I don't.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Is Steven laughing again? I I don't don't find myself. But I'm never gonna I'm say

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

strong in my opinions.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Very good. Yes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We all are.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I think we

Jessica Shere Coggins:

all are.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I've learned

Ruth Garber Shere:

So that is assertiveness. I've

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

learned that I have to, like, not go with my first instinct.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why? Because I could

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

get my Yeah. Hands

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right. I'm

Melissa Shere Beek:

never gonna say something. Jessica says this very different.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's

Melissa Shere Beek:

She main She does jump. Yeah. You jump immediately without listening. Without thinking. Yes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But but you haven't heard everything and you jump midway. I This one Yeah. You do. This one goes down the rabbit hole. Oh, she does.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, Yes. She would. But

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm never gonna say fuck you bitch to a person's face. I will call No. No. She said to me that I can get really assertive and be like, fuck you bitch. Oh, then

Jessica Shere Coggins:

you walk.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And oh, I will walk.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. And the internal dialogue will be fuck that bitch. And I will turn and say, thank you very much. And walk away. And then I'll call one of you and go, this bitch just Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

When somebody opened

Jessica Shere Coggins:

the door for

Melissa Shere Beek:

something they don't say thank you, that's because you

Ruth Garber Shere:

are a

Melissa Shere Beek:

part that. Do that. No. You're taking that from the podcast she just watched

Jessica Shere Coggins:

from a couple weeks I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

did do that. I agree.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You just watched the podcast of us discussing that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Probably. Oh, I probably missed that one.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She's always has this five second delay, I always say.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. It is.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's a five second delay. Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I do. Well, because

Ruth Garber Shere:

I process what I say because otherwise You know, it's what

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

we say and then you repeat it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because I don't wanna bite your heads off.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. She's saying No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I No. I don't. I don't wanna come at you

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. That's not saying. Saying, we'll say something, and then, like, five seconds later, you'll see the same exact thing as if it's your idea No. And you came up with

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't say as if it's my idea. I'm I'm reinforcing what you said. Next question please. Next question It's the truth.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. I

Ruth Garber Shere:

know. I don't take it from me.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Alright. I'm so proud of you. Would give you all kudos for everything.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

My back. Mhmm. Kudos. Viewer.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Not the shirt. Not the shirt.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

The shirt. It's a good one. It's a good one. You

Ruth Garber Shere:

can hop.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Our next viewer said, what was your first big time purchase? Oh. Oh, god. Oh, god. The wheels are turning.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Look at that face.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. She knows the answer.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She's just debating whether giving Yeah. I don't wanna give it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Art, jewelry. Let's go with the biggest I don't wanna

Ruth Garber Shere:

talk about that.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Next question. You can think

Jessica Shere Coggins:

of it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'll give a good example

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Of a big time purchase. Okay. But I won't tell you my other big time purchases. Daddy

Melissa Shere Beek:

and I first one. First one. Not all of them.

Ruth Garber Shere:

First But I wouldn't say my first one.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because I don't want people to know. You don't have to.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You don't have to.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So daddy wanted to get me an engagement ring.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Mhmm.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And then where Pine Vista is and across the street, there were 22 acres of land for sale.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, I know the story.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And he came to me and he said You do too. We're gonna go look for a ring. I said, well, what about the land? He said, can't do both. And I said, fuck the ring.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Let's buy the land. It's for our future. So that was like, it was our future too. It was your fur and and that was the first big purchase. Right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's a great purchase. The purchase that she's talking about is land where he developed all these single family homes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

22 acres.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

By the way, we went down 93rd Avenue the other day. That's where we walking and I thought that they were the owners.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Of our house.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

They were not. I was so disappointed,

Ruth Garber Shere:

but We should go there.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Let me tell you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Just go knock.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I mean, you can't I passed it at the dance studio. I'm waiting to

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

see The house looks the same.

Ruth Garber Shere:

They're sealed. Yeah. But they took off the roof. We had that cedar shake roof But and we had all the wood paneling.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

The weirdest thing is still there.

Ruth Garber Shere:

My basketball. My

Jessica Shere Coggins:

basketball. No. The

Ruth Garber Shere:

hoop's been there forever on

Jessica Shere Coggins:

the back.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Has been there since I've lived there.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because it's cemented to

Jessica Shere Coggins:

the No. Top

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's not. It's in Ransom.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's not.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's When she used to play basketball. And run.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You all are a bunch of bitches. That was track and field.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Track and field. I could not. I run-in run-in track and

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

field. Field. Did.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You kinda did.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You lost Roger. You have to bounce the ball. So Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

That's how

Melissa Shere Beek:

you But you had both hands bouncing.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. But the basketball hoop is still there, and it's still painful.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I wonder if they still have the barbecue gazebo.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. And I wanna see the backyard too. But what I was saying about the

Ruth Garber Shere:

dinner river that daddy built me under the boardwalk.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh. So the tadpoles. Did not I did not speak into that. But

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I was there in the front. Reminiscing with this lovely couple that was walking. Said, I used to ride my big wheel down this hill Yeah. And this street would flood, and we go down in our barbershop. Did they believe

Jessica Shere Coggins:

you? Oh, yeah. Oh, okay. Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

They were Why don't

Ruth Garber Shere:

we go there from here? I know. No, please don't, because I have a pickup and I really wanna go.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Get someone to pick up your kids. I can't. What get Bailin to pick up your kids? No. No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Can't. What I was saying about the land, it was a very good decision.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. But I have

Ruth Garber Shere:

to but I wanna go.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So can we do it another day? Okay. It was a very good decision to buy the land because you're curated our lives and our futures and and three generations because we are still very, very close with the I did your father in

Ruth Garber Shere:

the Yeah. Right direction

Melissa Shere Beek:

a lot. And the children of the neighbors. Wait. So three generations have connections.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That's the that's the definition of marriage. I'm sorry.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Is Giving.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's come it's I've always said Yeah. Communication and compromise.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Compromise. Nobody comes in in perfect condition. You got them in We

Ruth Garber Shere:

all have garbage. We all have baggage on But that our

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

person has to be willing to take whatever you're, like, saying to them and either change it, manipulate it without being offended.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And it goes both ways.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think you have to love all the idiosyncratic that Nobody's perfect.

Ruth Garber Shere:

We all do.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And that the person Your person has to get you. That's the most important thing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy got me. Yeah. I'm hard to take. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We know.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I mean, I'm a lot. Yeah. But he got me.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. But you also are very different, which was a beautiful thing.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, they were they balanced. They balanced.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. I don't want

Ruth Garber Shere:

you did.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You went this was very weird because I find, like, you and Doug are the same people.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We're very similar.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't know how you guys like communicate and get along, but you do beautifully. Yeah. And me and Mason are complete opposites. Mom and dad are complete opposites.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But I feel like I need an opposite in my life. But maybe you need it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I needed an opposite. I needed daddy to ground me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I feel needed someone to give me that of you.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I have enough of the what's

Melissa Shere Beek:

in my life. So I needed someone That is mean. I needed someone

Ruth Garber Shere:

who What matched say him is

Melissa Shere Beek:

that we're all opposite. I have a lot of opposites in my life, so I kinda needed someone who was like in my groove.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Think the three of you are so similar.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. I

Melissa Shere Beek:

think the

Ruth Garber Shere:

three of you are so We're

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

similar. But I'm saying we married I married an opposite. Yeah. She did not. I did married opposite.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I did You didn't. And it's a very healthy I think John is a fit. He can't bite his hands off It's of like I like his hands.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I think

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

He grabbed your tits in the middle of Passover dinner. Sorry. Not editing.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, I don't know what to say. I stopped her mid sentence. She's like frozen.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, I was gonna say something, but I should

Melissa Shere Beek:

stop years and I still like it. So that's good for me. Yay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why shouldn't you? I would love somebody grabbing my tits.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Not

Ruth Garber Shere:

at the

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Passover dinner.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Think a little too much information my children

Ruth Garber Shere:

eating Every you can get it, honey.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, I didn't think she thought everybody was looking. Guys. Well, I wanted to have r three guys on because I Okay. Definitely want I'm

Jessica Shere Coggins:

gonna say this. Patience is dying to get on. Because every time he hears me He saying calls me

Melissa Shere Beek:

with opinions.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Every time he hears me say his

Jessica Shere Coggins:

name on the podcast, you talked about me. Oh my god. You talked. I'm like, you're Is he excited or not? Samantha, she's right.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Is he excited? No. This is wonderful. Oh, he has that. He

Ruth Garber Shere:

does. He has Fomo his whole life.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

So listen. Wait. Wait. I just really quickly. Bria's reading the book.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Bria's reading

Ruth Garber Shere:

the book.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Mason will come on. We'd have get a cut out of Doug because I don't

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

think Doug would wanna

Jessica Shere Coggins:

be honest. For AT Lange on AT

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Lange, Bria's reading the book Great Gatsby. It's like one of my favorite books.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, yeah. She told me.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I'm gonna watch the movie

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

this weekend. I'm like, oh my god. Can I come watch the movie with you? Mason goes, can I watch the movie too? He's so cute.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

This is a girly moment. This is not for you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. But Doug is all in to the girly moments with our girls. And I'm telling you, every time they come to him with something, he quotes like Legally Blonde. Okay.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But Doug is like Friday.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

He would come in a pink tutu Yeah. To go That's true. Mason would not wear the pink tutu.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. My guy doesn't

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Watching The Great Gatsby.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy would.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Doug and daddy didn't.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. He would not sleep like halfway

Jessica Shere Coggins:

through If

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Bria asked No.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Daddy Doug, he was

Melissa Shere Beek:

a girl. Doug did all the dressing. He was a girlie girl. Said, took

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Mason a very long time.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Still plays Jesse's dress up. Oh, because he comes as Moses to pass over.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. It took Mason a very

Melissa Shere Beek:

long Oh, Elijah, I mean. Elijah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

He took Mason a very long time to adapt to a girl. But, yes, I definitely Well, think he had

Melissa Shere Beek:

a brother. Doug had an older sister and a younger brother.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. That's true.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Back to Ruthie's stuff. Sorry. We got okay. Side track.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I like the side I

Melissa Shere Beek:

do too. I know. But Jessica just gave me a she's got a carpool. What beauty trends are okay to follow, Ruthie's here? Or don't.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I like the face you just gave. So I

Ruth Garber Shere:

don't follow any beauty trends. They tell you to eat healthy. I eat carbs and cake and candy and pizza and bread all day long. I eat no vegetables. I eat no fish.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She's allergic to fruit. Allergic. Except apples. Except apples. Never had No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't like them anymore.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I don't like apples anymore.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, well. Allergic to all fruit now. Peaches are gonna be And vegetables.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Never had a peach. Watch face. How about strawberries, ma? That's what

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I just said. She's never

Ruth Garber Shere:

had a strawberry.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Never had because the neighbor forced her.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, when I was five years old. Banana. Either k made me have when I choked to death. But that's why never liked it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mom, what about a banana?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Never had one.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. I'm a tell you when you had a banana.

Ruth Garber Shere:

We were in Japan. I was sick as a dog and

Melissa Shere Beek:

and then reme bananas.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Remy made it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Had to wrap peanut butter around the banana. You it was like this much of banana and this much of peanut butter.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I can still taste it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I could taste it. I can still taste taste it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, I man. It was so

Jessica Shere Coggins:

What about cherries? But it's

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the Cherries, remember daddy used to pop the cherry, the pits.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Thought he had it

Melissa Shere Beek:

with enough. Used to tie it with me. Used to tie

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it I think with it to the be long. Never had a cherry.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

That means she can't.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I've never had a cherry. Winky winky. I wanna know what a good Saturday.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Said What

Melissa Shere Beek:

happened? I can't find mine. Wherever mine is.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Wait. What are you what are you chewing about?

Melissa Shere Beek:

She said when we said that the cherry stems have to. We could tie the cherry stems in a knot with

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Says a

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

lot about

Melissa Shere Beek:

us. And Right. And Jessica says, yes, but they have to be long. I said that, oh, it's have to be long.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I said,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

for sure.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh my god, you girls.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And she went, winky winky.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, I'm I'm so happy my dirty mind has gone to the next generation.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Dirty single side. What now?

Melissa Shere Beek:

We are the single side. No.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I know. But you got a touchy husband. So it's okay. I think what?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Just touching It's helping out.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Just touching me. Course.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think we're all

Ruth Garber Shere:

honestly think Mason is

Melissa Shere Beek:

We are a little hungry.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Gaga over you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. He is Gaga

Jessica Shere Coggins:

over I don't

Melissa Shere Beek:

think And Jonathan's Gaga over you. And daddy was Gaga over you. But I think we're like My kids say we are who we are. Low downhill. Like, with your guy

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, I am so not Low downhill.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, there's You're not, like, with your guy? Oh, wow. Okay. Leave the fifth again.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You're right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Next question. My kids are definitely embarrassed by this episode. Alright. Ma I don't

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

want people to, like, be, like, thinking of, like, I'm not celibate. I'm not celibate at all.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. But I'm saying with my husband Oh,

Ruth Garber Shere:

my god. I couldn't wait till daddy came home.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Next question. I don't wanna hear this. I Ma. Our next viewer says Did she a couple of questions?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Plastic surgeries are do's and don'ts?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Do it all.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. What about eyes, though?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Do whatever makes you feel good. Yeah. But don't overdo it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Don't overdo it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Don't be like that. Don't be like that person.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Don't tuck your cheeks into your earphones.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Go ahead, my

Jessica Shere Coggins:

So got

Ruth Garber Shere:

They're probably self.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think this next one's the last question from a viewer. How do I become a hot grandma like you?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Aw. That's so funny.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't think I'm hot anymore.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I didn't even think

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you were, but

Jessica Shere Coggins:

you are.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

What grandchild did that from? What grandchild did

Ruth Garber Shere:

that show I don't think I'm hot anymore, but it

Jessica Shere Coggins:

was came from your favorite grandchild.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. It didn't. It came from a kid's it came from a kid's friend.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I was hot when I was younger. I really was.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You know, are beautiful. You're No. I'm still not. But I thank you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. But you are. Because you I'm your mother and you

Melissa Shere Beek:

love No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm not. I do really need.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I wouldn't would just say

Ruth Garber Shere:

you're But you're And it's okay. I had my time.

Melissa Shere Beek:

They wanna know how to become a

Ruth Garber Shere:

happy grandma.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Great. Do you tell them?

Ruth Garber Shere:

You're cool. Be there for them. Just be involved in their lives.

Melissa Shere Beek:

By them means That makes you hot?

Ruth Garber Shere:

The grandchildren.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Had question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Wait. What?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't even like God. Here's my question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

What have you enjoyed more? Being a mom or grandma?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh. I love it all.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. No. Seriously.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I mean, no. Seriously?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Is it different? Is it better? Is it worse? Love grows.

Ruth Garber Shere:

The love grows. It just expands.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But you find it easier to be on the

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. I like being a mother was easier because you were mine.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. She can control it. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I had you. Where the grand No. I had you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's not

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

a re thing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. I had you.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Wait. Is her headphone, like, turned to my head?

Melissa Shere Beek:

She tucked it in again. No.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yes. It's turned on the outside. Turn your head.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think I'm gonna pee on my pants.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Flip it. Flip it.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. That

Melissa Shere Beek:

soft part has to be in on your brain. I gonna do it

Ruth Garber Shere:

don't know. My hair was pulling on that side.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I mean, now they're Put both

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

them on. No. No. Now they're right. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Alright. Yay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

At the end of the episode, She's got a moment.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

It was

Melissa Shere Beek:

better being a mother

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

because I hate Let her I wanna know which one. Was it better, easier, or harder?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Easier. I gotta chase the eight kids. I have to chase them to see them and be with them because they have a life. And that's the way it's supposed to be. That's harder being in the It's harder being in the brain.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What she's

Ruth Garber Shere:

saying. It's not control.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. No. It's not

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's being in

Jessica Shere Coggins:

being brain.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Them. Like with them. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I could be with you. Right. I could pick you up from school. Could go to her. Her go basketball game.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right. I could do all the ransom and go over

Jessica Shere Coggins:

possibility things.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Being the mom than it is

Melissa Shere Beek:

Right. Being the

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I I

Ruth Garber Shere:

So I was there.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You were in the thick.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And then we had dinner every night.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Right.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Now I've got eight kids and

Melissa Shere Beek:

eight directions. They've got cities.

Ruth Garber Shere:

They've got sports. They've got friends. Right. They've got tutoring. They've got whatever.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But

Melissa Shere Beek:

it's a lot harder than some

Ruth Garber Shere:

of too when they were younger, I could come over.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Two in New York, two in Arizona, two in in one in Pennsylvania.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. It's so that it's all over the place.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's like Yeah. I kinda try and grasp every second I can have with them.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Think it's harder? Like, you're watching your grandchildren

Ruth Garber Shere:

with Oh, I I hate the world they're

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

can that but it's the social media or like Yeah. For example, everything is, you know, contactless in a sense. Like, everything is digital.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I feel bad for them.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

To how we grew

Ruth Garber Shere:

up. Yeah. I feel bad for them.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But they don't know it all

Jessica Shere Coggins:

for It's

Ruth Garber Shere:

all this.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I know. All

Melissa Shere Beek:

my kids.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Well, it's interesting. So Bria is in the magazine is in the newspaper, and she had asked me to go newspaper. And I had found it digitally the other day.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But to hold No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I the asked her to get me one.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Right. No. But she wanted one. So she was like, to have it physically in my hand was such like I missed Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Because it wasn't listed. Didn't get the newspaper delivered.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I have all your articles that you ever wrote

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, rhythm. I have old.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. But I miss that. Like, we were like, I miss that I know when times are too quick.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What about how you used to cut all my coupons on Sunday morning from the newspaper?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But I went I was in a meeting prior to

Melissa Shere Beek:

this meeting.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And she

Ruth Garber Shere:

used to lick the SNH stamps.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Steven, our engagement picture was in the Herald.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Like, this link would open. Wait. Wait. Just has to go ahead.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Your proposal was

Melissa Shere Beek:

But you can continue. I wanted to do a quickie question. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Her proposal was in the newspaper. Sam. Yeah. Your proposal was in the newspaper. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I remember. Wanted.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Real quick because Jessica has to leave. I have to pick up three kids. She's got we've got two minutes. You can go on my outro.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Here's the quick I'm questions so sorry. For I love it, Yaron. It's like, really quick. What's what still surprises you? This is for all of you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What surprises us about her

Ruth Garber Shere:

and her?

Melissa Shere Beek:

About anything in life. What still surprises you?

Ruth Garber Shere:

People.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Mom. The lack of kindness.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Uh-huh.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Sam? Empathy. Nobody Yeah. That's yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Quickie question.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Nobody looks out for the other person. You know, whether somebody falls on the street, they walk past them.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No. They video it now. And laugh.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You're right. Samantha's right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

They video it. Alright. Who do you go to for advice?

Ruth Garber Shere:

You three.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I go to her and you two. Uh-huh.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Sam? I, well, I Her friends. I go no. One one specific friend.

Melissa Shere Beek:

One specific friend. And I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

actually was talking to her in the car right before this. And we were both

Melissa Shere Beek:

crying about

Ruth Garber Shere:

We know who it is.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

We know who

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it is. And like, I honestly

Melissa Shere Beek:

I like that she's a good friend

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

to you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think

Ruth Garber Shere:

it's that. She really is. You don't know how lucky you are to have a friend like that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You are super lucky I to

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

have a friend like have two aside from my family, but this one in specific, like, is un Yeah. I'm the lucky, like,

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's right nice to be

Ruth Garber Shere:

able to go to someone and have that, and not let them judge you and give you their

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She does not judge me. She does not judge my kids. Yeah. She does not look at me funny.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She have a good friend when does Maya not was in kindergarten that

Speaker 5:

I'm still friendly with, and I adore and love her. If I had something, I would call her in a heartbeat.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I go to my kids.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. I go to I do go to

Melissa Shere Beek:

my girlfriend. I go to

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

recently, it's been Bria.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

A

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

little. I go to her for advice too. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. What gives you the ick? Rude people.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Mhmm. Rude people. Mhmm.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Like, in general. Hoping not not saying thank you. Yeah. Like I said

Ruth Garber Shere:

I do this.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Go away. I just find it like it takes no value to just say thank I

Ruth Garber Shere:

think she does

Melissa Shere Beek:

a little more than that.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Or please.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She screams. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Them. Most influential person you've ever met?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Shimon Perez because I had her.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Shimon Perez, you said?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because I had her. He told me you can't just replicate yourselves. You have to increase the Jewish population. And daddy and I left Israel and came home and had her. Hey, Jessica.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Mine is her and the both of you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Aw. That's No.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But it's

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

true because you don't know what you do every day.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Like, you just try and get

Melissa Shere Beek:

by and try and live. And I think I learned from her, and I think I've learned from you too too. Aw. We love you, little Jess.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I love you guys a lot too. Aw.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You're fine.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm fine.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You're fine.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Sam, most influential That means,

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

obviously, I

Jessica Shere Coggins:

have to

Ruth Garber Shere:

say mom

Jessica Shere Coggins:

because she's sitting here. No.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You could be honest. No. I can be honest. I I do take a lot of what our upbringing was Yeah. In in, you know, certain things that

Ruth Garber Shere:

We were very blessed.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I but I start to look at, like, will my will my kids implement the same kind of tradition traditions?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Butter shop.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That I You know? Like, I wake up every morning at 06:30 and make sure she's getting up.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Right. Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Will she be that kind of like, will I

Ruth Garber Shere:

make Yes.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Have I made that impression on her Yes. To have breakfast or her water ready every morning? Yes. Absolutely. Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But That's important. Inspirate what was the inspiration?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Most influential person you've met.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I mean, daddy was too, obviously. Yes. The power of him. And I think you combined of not taking no for an answer.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mom, when

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you came to dad and being sick, you never took no for an answer. And and dad's just resilience and, you know, a little bit of like never knowing that you have a issue, but just still climbing,

Melissa Shere Beek:

like Right.

Ruth Garber Shere:

We all have Like, good people. Yeah. Like, I think we mean well and we're good.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Just think about

Ruth Garber Shere:

That was very important to me, bringing you girls up. Mhmm. Was that you were good and kind

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Outside

Ruth Garber Shere:

the and caring. What's important is the three of you together having each other.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I know. Very lucky with

Jessica Shere Coggins:

yours. Very nice.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

With mine? Yes.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Who is yours?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It might show your Your children? But they're at an age now.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. From the minute I had those two girls, they just opened my world and changed my perspective on everything. They did. And they just influenced my life, how I wanted to live my life, and yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But that's nice. Can see that. All of our girls

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mhmm. Children. All of our children.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. I'm talking girls. What's wrong with my boys?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. What's wrong my boys?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because I'm going to say what I have to say. Oh. Go ahead, Are like the four of us. They're all fierce and big mouth and do it Right. That's kind of women.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Genetically ingrained in the matriarchy here.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

The boys are two.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Yes. Aiden is too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Hayden speaks up for what he wants when he wants to.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

A 100%. Aiden is dad. There's no doubt about it That he has Right. He speaks up when he wants to. And he doesn't No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

He silently watches everything.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And then when he

Ruth Garber Shere:

has something to say,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

he says it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And it's pretty profound.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Yeah. He's silent but deadly.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But I think all the girls Mhmm. The eight girls Mhmm. Are really awesome.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Thank you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

They're powerful powerful women.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, we come from a long line of powerful Yes. Powerful women. Thank you, RUTHI RESPONSES for being here today.

Ruth Garber Shere:

RUTHI thank you

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to our viewers

Melissa Shere Beek:

for writing in. RUTHIES always got unsolicited advice. So if you want more opinions, write to us. Yay. Ma, you did great.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Thank you

Ruth Garber Shere:

so much. Thank you, mom.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Bye. I ain't gonna go.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm gonna cry now because I'm so blessed with you three.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's a deal. I'm gonna cry too. A crying while I do the outro so Jessica can pick up carpal.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

To our listeners, thank you so much. So grateful you're here. Keep listening. Keep learning. Keep laughing.

Melissa Shere Beek:

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Ruth Garber Shere:

I need a pizza.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm hungry. Oh, I want pizza too.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, let's get a pizza.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, Steven, you want pizza? You're

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

okay? Listen, I I didn't realize that there was a film. So one of them I took the film off, but this one still has a film.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I love you. Let me know.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I don't know if mine does. Thank you for making these. These are fabulous. We need to have them for another over dinner? Bye.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Drive safely. Can you get this off

Ruth Garber Shere:

my phone, please?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She can't right now.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Go. Samantha will fix her phone. Okay. To get annoyed about the Go. All right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Love you. Thank you. Did you have fun, Ma? Whoopsie. Well, I can't help you technologically.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Did you have fun? Yes? You had fun?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yes. Yes. Yes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Thank you.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I just

Ruth Garber Shere:

wanna know how I look.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You look gorgeous. You're gorgeous.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm not, but thank you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Thank you.