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Flip the Script with Vic is a sacred space for real conversations with real women 🩷 Hosted by Victoria Nielsen—intuitive healer, mama, and space-holder for the divine feminine—this podcast amplifies women’s voices through raw interviews, intimate solocasts, and unfiltered conversations on motherhood, mysticism, psychedelics, ancestral healing, spirituality, identity, and more.
What began as a personal exploration is now a communal prayer: a gathering place for cycle-breakers, mothers, mystics, creatives, witches, and wild ones redefining what it means to be a woman in today’s world.
Every episode is an invitation to remember that your voice matters. That your truth matters. Together, we walk in beauty, become the prayer, and flip the script.
Speaker A [00:00:00]:
Hi, loves. Welcome to another episode of Flip the script with Vic. I'm your host, Victoria Nielsen. Before we jump into today's episode, I want to share about my upcoming masterclass, confidence consciousness. It's going to be on Friday, December 29 at 10:30 a.m.. EST. Confidence is an inside job, and we're going to spend our time together doing a couple of things. We're going to really connect to your wants and desires and turn on that fully expressed point in yourself, that throat chakra, so that you can express these desires with ease.
Speaker A [00:00:38]:
And then we're going to move through any perceived limitations you have around your deservingness of these things. And we're going to talk a little bit about your menstrual cycle and how during certain times of your cycle, you're a bit more confident than others. And then we're going to do a release ritual together at the end to release anything that's holding you back from being that fully expressed, confident version of you. If you would like to join this masterclass, my last of the year, please go to the show notes or visit victoriamargo.com confidence. All right, let's get into the episode, which is, of course, all about confidence. So there's been a couple things on my mind as I'm back from vacation and my husband stayed in Chile all last week to follow his passions, to go hiking in Patagonia. And I was here with the two kids all by myself. I was supposed to have help that unfortunately, my grandmother was not able to make it.
Speaker A [00:01:42]:
And so I was all on my own. And it actually was a really beautiful week. And it made me think how much I have grown in my confidence as a mother. Because when you're a first time mom, any of my first time moms listening know that you are riddled with worry. When you first bring that baby home from the hospital. You're like, who gave me the power to control a human life, to keep a baby alive, to do any of these things? And I used to check Google for every single thing. And I used to ask all of my friends, and I never trusted myself that I could be a good mom. I mean, I knew that I could be a good mom, but I just wanted to make sure I was doing it the right way.
Speaker A [00:02:30]:
Right. That I was doing all of the sleep training and I was following all of the guidelines and suggestions and all of the things. And I realized this last week how beautiful that now, as a mom of two, I've not only grown in my confidence as a mother, but I've grown in my confidence, in myself, because, of course, the first time that I was ever alone with both boys, it was terrifying, and it was pure survival mode. And I didn't know how I was going to do it until it was done. And then I was like, wow, okay. I survived a couple of hours, maybe, alone with the two of them, and this has been the longest that I've had both of them alone without help. And now I know I can do it because it's already done, and I survived it. And we survive 100% of the things that happen to us, and we can look back, and that's how we build our confidence, right, is because we try it, we do it, and we discover that we actually can.
Speaker A [00:03:28]:
And I think that's so important as you're building your confidence and you're stepping into the most bold, bright, vibrant, confident version of yourself. It's not a switch that gets flipped and turned on automatically. It's something that gets built over time, because you start to see that you can do these things, and that little by little, it becomes less scary. And you know in your bones that you can do it. But you have to take that first leap of faith, right? You have to try that first time to know that you can. And that first time is terrifying, and maybe the second time is still terrifying, and maybe the third time is still terrifying. But maybe by the fourth time, you're a little less terrified and you're a little bit more in your worthiness and in your deservingness. Because everybody deserves to feel confident and have a full and bold and vibrant life.
Speaker A [00:04:24]:
Like, that is our birthright as humans, and we are in control of our own suffering. It's always up to us whether we step into that empowered version of ourselves or we let those stories of suffering take the lead and be the thing that stays at the forefront of our minds. And it takes practice and it takes patience. And I said on my instagram this week, in 2024, let's stop using the phrase stop playing small, because I don't think people are trying to play small. I think that we have been conditioned. We have subconscious beliefs, we have perceptions of the world, and we have all of these things that are working against us. But little by little, as we step into that confidence, by doing, by being, by trying the things that are scaring us, we learn that we can do it. And it's not always this huge, big leap of faith.
Speaker A [00:05:21]:
It's little choices every single day that add up. And that's what's sustainable. If you try and take this big leap and it doesn't work in your favor or something doesn't feel right with it, you're less likely to do it again because you probably felt like you got burned perhaps and it maybe didn't live up to your expectations or what you thought it would because these big things can get really built up in our minds. Okay, so back know my kids, right? Just the thought of being alone with know previously was terrifying. It was like, oh my God, how am I going to keep these two little humans alive? Especially know Rocky was just born. And then you build it in your head and you build this expectation of how it's going to go. And expectation, as we all know, is just going to cause negativity and worry and doubt and downfall. And it's not something that we're ever going to get rid of completely because the human mind is always going to set expectations.
Speaker A [00:06:28]:
But we can do our best to come back to neutrality and come back to realistic expectations. And I think that's not talked about enough because everyone is always saying that we need to dream bigger and really go for it. And you do. But the way that you attain those things is little by little and all of the breadcrumbs and baby steps that get you there because a lot of the times that dream almost feels too big and it feels unattainable and it doesn't feel like it's even in your energetic field. And so you have to do the small things that get it closer, that make it feel not so far away. So if you want to be a mom of two, for example, you have to start surrounding yourself with people that are moms of two and show you that it's possible that they survive it, that they not only survive it, that they thrive being this mom of two. And I've been doing the manifestation challenge from to be magnetic with Lacey Phillips. And she talks about this as you know, she says you need to have these expanders in your life to show you what's possible, to show you that these dreams that you have can be attainable because you most likely didn't grow up with these know, I grew up with a lot of outwardly confident women, I would say, because I'm hispanic and we're loud and we're out there and we act perhaps like we don't care what people think.
Speaker A [00:08:03]:
But behind closed doors, I saw a lot of suffering and a lot of unworthiness and a lot of feelings of being not good enough. And that wasn't just programmed in my household growing up that was programmed from society. You see so many women that carry around this shame and this guilt, and they don't even know what they desire because they've been told that it's not okay, or that it's not good to have these desires. And we have to be the ones to rewrite those stories and tell our bodies and our nervous systems that it's okay to want these things. Because I've said before in the podcast, I believe anything that was placed as a desire within your heart is something that your soul is craving and wanting in the world. And so we have to start believing that we are deserving of these desires because we are. And we are deserving just because we are. That's it.
Speaker A [00:09:03]:
There is no catch, there is no fine print. There is no asterisk that says you are only deserving if you do x, Y and z, or if you achieve so much or whatever. No, you are deserving because you were deserving. That's it. That's truly it. And we have to stop going back to, for me, it's achieving, right? So I was a girl growing up that always wanted all the gold stars and always wanted to be liked and praised. And that has a lot to do with my abandonment issues. My parents divorced when I was little, but that carried with me into adulthood.
Speaker A [00:09:41]:
And I was seeking that external praise for a long time. And I didn't feel worthy and I didn't feel deserving, and I didn't feel beautiful unless someone outside of me said that I was. And how sad. It's only in this last couple of years that I have really stepped into my worth and my confidence and my deservingness. Because I realized that anything outside of me doesn't determine that. I determine that, because I am. Period. And that's it.
Speaker A [00:10:14]:
And it takes work to get there right? Because as a woman in today's society, you have been put down over and over and over again. I can't even tell you how many times I've been rejected in my life by boys, by job opportunities, by friends. And that hurt can get buried very deep within the body. And that's why all of the somatic practices and work that I do help get all of that up and out of the body. And when we don't feel worthy, or we don't feel deserving, or we don't feel confident, then we don't use our voices and we don't share what's on our hearts or what our truth is, when really so many people in this world need our medicine and our truth and need us to speak up and speak up louder, not just for ourselves, but for all of the people that don't have voices in the world. And of course, if you would like to be more of an advocate and an activist in the world, that's beautiful, but you don't even have to go that far. You can be an advocate and an activist for yourself and for the things that you desire and the things that you deserve and the things that you want in this life. I mean, I remember after having Sebastian, I was afraid to even ask my husband to watch him so that I could go meditate or I could go do this course that I wanted to go do.
Speaker A [00:11:31]:
It didn't even occur to me to ask him until someone was like, why don't you. Why don't you just speak up and ask him? And he was like, of course. But I was scared of his reaction. I was putting that expectation out there that he was going to say no. And really he wanted to say yes and happily. But it was up to me to ask. And I find that that's the case for a lot of women in a lot of interactions in our lives. We don't even ask because we expect a negative outcome.
Speaker A [00:12:00]:
And that is just our brains. That's how our brains function for survival, right? It's always going to scan for perceived threats and be more negative than positive, because that's just how the brain is wired. But we can choose differently, and we can practice rewiring the brain to look for the positive and to believe that the positive is out there and the things that we want are going to come to us. And the desires that we have are ours for a reason, and that we are confident and capable enough to get, achieve, do dream, be all of these things? So that's really why I say confidence is an inside job, because you have to do the inner work, because that's where your confidence resides. It's in you, it's not in anybody else. And when you're placing your confidence in something outside of yourself, then you're really giving your power away. And when we call all of our power back to ourselves and stand in our truth, we are worthy and deserving, exactly as we are of absolutely anything in this life. No matter how big that dream feels or big that desire feels, it can and will be ours, because we will it to be so.
Speaker A [00:13:09]:
We are that fucking powerful when we stand in our power and in our truth and speak that truth. I can't even tell you how much this podcast has done for me in releasing my throat chakra and being able to speak my truth because I thought I was speaking it before. But our voices are an energetic frequency and a vibration that is so healing for our bodies. And so I encourage you, even if it seems silly, like put on your voice memo and just talk to your phone and really speak your thoughts out loud. Or maybe even write down in a journal and then read it out loud afterwards. It is so powerful to hear ourselves take up space, and that resonance and that vibrancy that's in our vocal cords is unlike anyone else's. Everyone's voice is unique to them. That frequency is unique to them.
Speaker A [00:14:02]:
And how fucking cool is that? And how powerful is that, right? So I really encourage you to join me at my master class on December 29 at 10:30 a.m.. EST. It is free for members of the portal collective, my online breath work, and Kundalini membership. For those that are not part of the membership, it's just $22 to drop in and really step into that confident version of you before the new year. Even though it's not really the new year, the new year doesn't happen until March. That'll be like a whole nother episode, I'm sure. But if you're wanting to plant those seeds to really go inward and step into your confidence and your power in the coming months, I invite you to join me and thank you for being here with me. Thank you for listening.
Speaker A [00:14:51]:
I love you guys so much. You have helped me find my confidence this year and I really hope to do the same for you and pay it back to you and pay it forward. And I think that's it. I'm just grinning from ear to ear and I love you guys so much. Thank you for listening. Share like rate subscribe all of that good stuff. I'll see you next week. Be good to one another.
Speaker A [00:15:14]:
I love you. Close.