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Join Nora and Alyssa, counselors in training, as they dissect the love interests of your favorite romance novels. Asking the hard hitting question: Is he hot, or is it trauma?
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I didn't know why you guys were I
I didn't know why you guys were I
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thought I said it weird. That's why I
thought I said it weird. That's why I
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was like
was like
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Yeah, you're saying
Yeah, you're saying
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you're I was like you you because it's a
you're I was like you you because it's a
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shrimp boil. It's a it's a bowl.
shrimp boil. It's a it's a bowl.
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It's a shrimp bowl.
It's a shrimp bowl.
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You know, like how you like this intro
You know, like how you like this intro
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say it's like bowl.
say it's like bowl.
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No, because I say boil.
No, because I say boil.
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You boil water, you boil shrimp.
You boil water, you boil shrimp.
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I am not from the South.
I am not from the South.
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You can't you you have
You can't you you have
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I am and I am from the Midwest. We boil
I am and I am from the Midwest. We boil
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the shrimp.
the shrimp.
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It's bowl.
It's bowl.
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And we noticed that you're from the
And we noticed that you're from the
Midwest.
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Hi everyone. Welcome to He's Just the
Hi everyone. Welcome to He's Just the
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Pot. This is a podcast where we talk
Pot. This is a podcast where we talk
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about book boyfriends and are they
about book boyfriends and are they
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healthy or are they unhealthy?
healthy or are they unhealthy?
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And my name's Alyssa. I'm one of your
And my name's Alyssa. I'm one of your
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co-hosts. Hi everyone. I'm Nora.
co-hosts. Hi everyone. I'm Nora.
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Turns out I've been saying shrimp boil
Turns out I've been saying shrimp boil
wrong.
wrong.
wrong.
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You have. It's bull. And you'll find out
You have. It's bull. And you'll find out
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Being upfront, this episode has some
Being upfront, this episode has some
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cussing in it because that's the only
cussing in it because that's the only
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way to be a real cowboy in these here
way to be a real cowboy in these here
parts.
parts.
parts.
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Yes, sir. I love me a good cowboy. Tell
Yes, sir. I love me a good cowboy. Tell
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me more.
me more.
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Tell me what happens. What's the
Tell me what happens. What's the
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What's happening in this book? Give me a
What's happening in this book? Give me a
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plot. So, Teddy is the spice to
plot. So, Teddy is the spice to
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everyone's life. She's the main
everyone's life. She's the main
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character of the book, but she feels
character of the book, but she feels
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less than spicy lately. So, she's kind
less than spicy lately. So, she's kind
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of going through a little bit of a rough
of going through a little bit of a rough
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patch. Um, while she loves her small
patch. Um, while she loves her small
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town, Meadowark in Wyoming, she doesn't
town, Meadowark in Wyoming, she doesn't
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want to move. She is feeling really
want to move. She is feeling really
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stuck. So, I think she's also feeling
stuck. So, I think she's also feeling
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this place where like a lot of her
this place where like a lot of her
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friends are starting to like move
friends are starting to like move
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forward with their lives and she
forward with their lives and she
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expected herself to be there and she's
expected herself to be there and she's
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just not there yet. And so, she's the
just not there yet. And so, she's the
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primary caregiver to her beloved aging
primary caregiver to her beloved aging
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father. Her best friend is getting
father. Her best friend is getting
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married. She just lost her job and her
married. She just lost her job and her
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sewing machine died.
sewing machine died.
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That sucks.
That sucks.
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Honestly, that that's a lot a lot of
Honestly, that that's a lot a lot of
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unfortunate events. So, girl just can't
unfortunate events. So, girl just can't
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catch a break for the summer. So,
catch a break for the summer. So,
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especially when she's convinced to do a
especially when she's convinced to do a
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part-time job for her best friend's
part-time job for her best friend's
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older brother,
older brother,
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she ends up being a nanny for his
she ends up being a nanny for his
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daughter. And the best friend's older
daughter. And the best friend's older
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brother's name is August Ryder. They
brother's name is August Ryder. They
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call him Gus is his nickname.
call him Gus is his nickname.
Hot.
Hot.
Hot.
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And he's basically her like arch
And he's basically her like arch
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nemesis. It talks like I think in the
nemesis. It talks like I think in the
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other books as well, they're like kind
other books as well, they're like kind
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of like back and forth banter. It's not
of like back and forth banter. It's not
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even banter. It's just like mean
even banter. It's just like mean
bickering.
bickering.
bickering.
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Yeah, it's like mean comments to each
Yeah, it's like mean comments to each
other.
other.
other.
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But the like undertone for anyone who
But the like undertone for anyone who
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reads romance is like, yes,
reads romance is like, yes,
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I want chemistry. Yeah,
I want chemistry. Yeah,
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they're going to end up together.
they're going to end up together.
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They're they have to end up together.
They're they have to end up together.
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So, while his cute kid Riley has taken
So, while his cute kid Riley has taken
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space in Teddy's heart, will Riley's
space in Teddy's heart, will Riley's
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father be able to find a place there as
father be able to find a place there as
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well? Find out in Lost and Lassoed.
well? Find out in Lost and Lassoed.
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Also, spoilers ahead, I'm sure.
Also, spoilers ahead, I'm sure.
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Yes, thank you. Otherwise, we forget
Yes, thank you. Otherwise, we forget
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constantly. Spoilers ahead. So, for
constantly. Spoilers ahead. So, for
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those who said, "Wow, that sounds like a
those who said, "Wow, that sounds like a
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really interesting read and I want to
really interesting read and I want to
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read it." Catch you when you finish.
read it." Catch you when you finish.
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Tune back in then. I think it took us
Tune back in then. I think it took us
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about It took me three days.
about It took me three days.
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I think it took me a week to read. You
I think it took me a week to read. You
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have a lot going on though.
have a lot going on though.
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I need distractions.
I need distractions.
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This This is what I have going on in my
This This is what I have going on in my
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life. But you had talked about his name
life. But you had talked about his name
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being hot and I literally
being hot and I literally
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put a star. I said love the names in the
put a star. I said love the names in the
book.
book.
book.
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Good names.
Good names.
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Good names.
Good names.
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I read a book recently that didn't have
I read a book recently that didn't have
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good names and cuz I was like on this
good names and cuz I was like on this
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belief that basically everyone in books
belief that basically everyone in books
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now have really good names. Like
now have really good names. Like
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um Kit was a good name.
um Kit was a good name.
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Kit was a good name. Um,
Kit was a good name. Um,
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oh, what's the
oh, what's the
Dante?
Dante?
Dante?
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Dante. Dante. Yeah, that was a good
Dante. Dante. Yeah, that was a good
name.
name.
name.
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That was a good one.
That was a good one.
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But our next episode we'll talk about
But our next episode we'll talk about
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not good names.
not good names.
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But this guy Gus. Gus is a good name.
But this guy Gus. Gus is a good name.
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August. That's a strong name. August
August. That's a strong name. August
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[ __ ] writer. And I mean that in the
[ __ ] writer. And I mean that in the
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biblical sense.
biblical sense.
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Wow. Yeah. just to give us a little more
Wow. Yeah. just to give us a little more
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about August. He is our male lead for
about August. He is our male lead for
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this book. So, he is the person that we
this book. So, he is the person that we
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are like, "Are you okay? Are you are you
are like, "Are you okay? Are you are you
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are you good? Is this a choice you're
are you good? Is this a choice you're
making?"
making?"
making?"
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He's not okay.
He's not okay.
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He's not okay. Not at the beginning. No.
He's not okay. Not at the beginning. No.
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No. He's a 36-year-old single dad and
No. He's a 36-year-old single dad and
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he's going all in for this 29year-old
he's going all in for this 29year-old
Teddy.
Teddy.
Teddy.
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While seven might be a lucky number to
While seven might be a lucky number to
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some, I don't know how I feel about that
some, I don't know how I feel about that
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age gap. My parents are six years apart,
age gap. My parents are six years apart,
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so I feel like it didn't the age gap
so I feel like it didn't the age gap
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didn't bother me.
didn't bother me.
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I mean, I think this is a more realistic
I mean, I think this is a more realistic
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age gap than what we normally talk
age gap than what we normally talk
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about, which
about, which
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500 years to like 19 years old, 500
500 years to like 19 years old, 500
327year
327year
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age gap.
age gap.
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So, seven's not not that bad. And
So, seven's not not that bad. And
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they're both old enough to be consenting
they're both old enough to be consenting
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adults. And that's something I really
adults. And that's something I really
appreciated
appreciated
appreciated
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about this book.
about this book.
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No one was like 19.
No one was like 19.
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Yeah. I think it's really funny though
Yeah. I think it's really funny though
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cuz I feel like the author made it like
cuz I feel like the author made it like
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a huge thing to make sure that he didn't
a huge thing to make sure that he didn't
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seem like he liked her when she was
seem like he liked her when she was
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underage cuz I feel like he made a
underage cuz I feel like he made a
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comment somewhere in the book of like I
comment somewhere in the book of like I
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didn't see her the way that she is now
didn't see her the way that she is now
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until she was a lot older.
until she was a lot older.
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That's true. And I do I know what
That's true. And I do I know what
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comment you're talking about. And I also
comment you're talking about. And I also
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think though,
think though,
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which brings us to one of the points
which brings us to one of the points
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that I have in this book going forward.
that I have in this book going forward.
Um,
Um,
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this is like all the way, this is like
this is like all the way, this is like
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one of my last points, like what is he
one of my last points, like what is he
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actually looking for?
actually looking for?
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Because he didn't really see her as a
Because he didn't really see her as a
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partner until he saw her as a caretaker.
partner until he saw her as a caretaker.
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Mhm. Mhm.
Mhm. Mhm.
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And that's my counseling cap came on and
And that's my counseling cap came on and
said,
said,
said,
"No,
"No,
"No,
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that's what are what are your actual
that's what are what are your actual
expectations
expectations
expectations
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on Teddy and how fair is that to Teddy?"
on Teddy and how fair is that to Teddy?"
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And so I think
And so I think
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I chose to kind of like conceptualize
I chose to kind of like conceptualize
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this from an emotion focused therapy
this from an emotion focused therapy
standpoint.
standpoint.
standpoint.
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Um, and for those who don't know,
Um, and for those who don't know,
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emotion focused therapy is an approach
emotion focused therapy is an approach
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that focuses on the role emotions play
that focuses on the role emotions play
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in our lives. Um, it's created by Sue
in our lives. Um, it's created by Sue
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Johnson. Shout out, one of the few, um,
Johnson. Shout out, one of the few, um,
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theoretical orientations that was
theoretical orientations that was
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created by a woman.
created by a woman.
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Um, and it's rooted in attachment
Um, and it's rooted in attachment
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theory. The goal of EFT is to help
theory. The goal of EFT is to help
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clients develop emotional intelligence
clients develop emotional intelligence
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and awareness so clients can recognize
and awareness so clients can recognize
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and express their emotional needs more
and express their emotional needs more
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effectively. And so I don't know how
effectively. And so I don't know how
emotionally
emotionally
emotionally
aware
aware
aware
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Gus is that he had this like change when
Gus is that he had this like change when
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he saw her taking care of his kid. He
he saw her taking care of his kid. He
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saw her taking care of her own dad. And
saw her taking care of her own dad. And
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they her dad, oh my gosh, Teddy. I was
they her dad, oh my gosh, Teddy. I was
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about to say Riley, but Teddy and her
about to say Riley, but Teddy and her
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father have a very similar relationship
father have a very similar relationship
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that I think Gus wants with Riley,
that I think Gus wants with Riley,
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his daughter,
his daughter,
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because Teddy like
because Teddy like
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the the
the the
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sun sets and the stars shine and like
sun sets and the stars shine and like
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she just loves her. She's a daddy's
she just loves her. She's a daddy's
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girl. Yes. Been there. Still there.
girl. Yes. Been there. Still there.
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Currently there for you.
Currently there for you.
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Currently there. Liz is also a big
Currently there. Liz is also a big
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daddy's girl.
daddy's girl.
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Yeah. I very much related to their
Yeah. I very much related to their
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relationship in the book and I thought
relationship in the book and I thought
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that was really cool and I was like I
that was really cool and I was like I
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think surprising like I have two
think surprising like I have two
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different relationships with my parents
different relationships with my parents
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on both sides but I was I'm still really
on both sides but I was I'm still really
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close to my dad and there's like some
close to my dad and there's like some
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things that I could relate to her that
things that I could relate to her that
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like she's able to talk to about him
like she's able to talk to about him
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that like I know friends who don't have
that like I know friends who don't have
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that type of relationship with her dad.
that type of relationship with her dad.
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So it was really cool. Yeah. No, it was
So it was really cool. Yeah. No, it was
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it seemed like a really healthy
it seemed like a really healthy
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relationship. Like they really relied on
relationship. Like they really relied on
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each other. And I like there was a point
each other. And I like there was a point
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in the book where they scale with each
in the book where they scale with each
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other. They use a counseling technique
other. They use a counseling technique
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scaling. They're like on a scale of 1 to
scaling. They're like on a scale of 1 to
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10, how are you feeling today? And he'll
10, how are you feeling today? And he'll
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be like a three. And she's like, "Oh no,
be like a three. And she's like, "Oh no,
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that's a bad day."
that's a bad day."
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Or she'll be like a seven. He's like,
Or she'll be like a seven. He's like,
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"Great, high five."
"Great, high five."
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And so I love that they can do that to
And so I love that they can do that to
conceptualize
conceptualize
conceptualize
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how they're feeling and recognize that.
how they're feeling and recognize that.
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And that's really, I think, healthy in a
And that's really, I think, healthy in a
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relationship, whether that's a parental
relationship, whether that's a parental
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relationship, a familial relationship,
relationship, a familial relationship,
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those are the same things, or a romantic
those are the same things, or a romantic
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relationship. I thought that was great.
relationship. I thought that was great.
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But for Gus, I don't think he stopped
But for Gus, I don't think he stopped
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and paused and said, "I'm having an
and paused and said, "I'm having an
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emotional response
emotional response
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to seeing Teddy interact with her father
to seeing Teddy interact with her father
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because I want to have that same
because I want to have that same
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relationship with my daughter. And so if
relationship with my daughter. And so if
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I'm with Teddy,
I'm with Teddy,
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then I can have that relationship Yeah.
then I can have that relationship Yeah.
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with my daughter." And so I think
with my daughter." And so I think
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there's some of that unconscious
there's some of that unconscious
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motivation that's happening. And so if I
motivation that's happening. And so if I
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was their couple's therapist, I would be
was their couple's therapist, I would be
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like, "Tell me more.
like, "Tell me more.
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Let's let's dive into this." So when you
Let's let's dive into this." So when you
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see Teddy interact
see Teddy interact
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with her dad, what are you feeling?
with her dad, what are you feeling?
Mhm.
Mhm.
Mhm.
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But I wouldn't say, "What are you
But I wouldn't say, "What are you
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feeling?" Cuz we don't say that. But I
feeling?" Cuz we don't say that. But I
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would be like,
would be like,
Name.
Name.
Name.
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What emotions are coming up?
What emotions are coming up?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
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Tell me more.
Tell me more.
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Ah, interesting. I thought it was really
Ah, interesting. I thought it was really
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interesting too kind of talking about
interesting too kind of talking about
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the like what is he looking for aspect.
the like what is he looking for aspect.
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I think one of the notes that you had
I think one of the notes that you had
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even put in was
even put in was
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how easy it is for Teddy to blend in
how easy it is for Teddy to blend in
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with their family and how convenient
with their family and how convenient
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that aspect of like she's already best
that aspect of like she's already best
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friends with his little sister like
friends with his little sister like
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their dad loves her
their dad loves her
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like she's already so incorporated into
like she's already so incorporated into
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the family that it I think it also just
the family that it I think it also just
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like a con to me it almost felt like
like a con to me it almost felt like
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okay this is also almost out of like
okay this is also almost out of like
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convenience for him that he's not having
convenience for him that he's not having
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to introduce someone new and like having
to introduce someone new and like having
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to, you know, hope that this
to, you know, hope that this
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relationship works out with his daughter
relationship works out with his daughter
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and his new girlfriend. And so, I
and his new girlfriend. And so, I
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thought that was really interesting. I
thought that was really interesting. I
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think that's a good point. And I think
think that's a good point. And I think
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there is a level of convenience that she
there is a level of convenience that she
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provides for him
provides for him
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because she's also stepping in when he's
because she's also stepping in when he's
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like officially a single father for the
like officially a single father for the
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summer and like has to
summer and like has to
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take care of the ranch,
take care of the ranch,
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take care of his kid.
take care of his kid.
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And like he finally comes to a breaking
And like he finally comes to a breaking
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point when he basically forgets to pick
point when he basically forgets to pick
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up his daughter at soccer practice,
up his daughter at soccer practice,
which
which
which
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is a low parenting. like that that
is a low parenting. like that that
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probably makes you feel bad.
probably makes you feel bad.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
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That then that is totally valid as
That then that is totally valid as
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someone who has been forgotten at a
someone who has been forgotten at a
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soccer practice more than once. Like as
soccer practice more than once. Like as
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a kid, that sucks, too.
a kid, that sucks, too.
Um,
Um,
Um,
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shout out, my dad has forgotten to pick
shout out, my dad has forgotten to pick
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me up at a soccer practice. And so I was
me up at a soccer practice. And so I was
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like, "Oh yeah, that that happens.
like, "Oh yeah, that that happens.
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Normal you're really beating yourself up
Normal you're really beating yourself up
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over nothing. Your kid will get over it.
over nothing. Your kid will get over it.
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They probably won't even remember. Well,
They probably won't even remember. Well,
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you did
you did
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every time.
every time.
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And your kid will bring it up repeatedly
And your kid will bring it up repeatedly
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for the rest of their life, but we'll
for the rest of their life, but we'll
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move on somehow.
move on somehow.
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There you go. Um, but that breaking
There you go. Um, but that breaking
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point really caused him to recognize
point really caused him to recognize
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that he needed
that he needed
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he needed help and support and Teddy
he needed help and support and Teddy
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really stepped up and stepped in. And so
really stepped up and stepped in. And so
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I think that goes to that convenience
I think that goes to that convenience
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aspect. And so also just some line of
aspect. And so also just some line of
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questioning of like when you feel this
questioning of like when you feel this
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sense of ease, is it because of who
sense of ease, is it because of who
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Teddy is or what Teddy's doing for you?
Teddy is or what Teddy's doing for you?
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And I think that's not discussed
And I think that's not discussed
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in books a lot.
in books a lot.
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There's very few people who are like, I
There's very few people who are like, I
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love you for you, not because what you
love you for you, not because what you
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what you bring to the table. what you
what you bring to the table. what you
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bring to the table is great, but if
bring to the table is great, but if
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Teddy hadn't
Teddy hadn't
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stepped up to
stepped up to
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be a caretaker for Riley, um, if Teddy
be a caretaker for Riley, um, if Teddy
hadn't
hadn't
hadn't
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really kind of almost comforted Gus a
really kind of almost comforted Gus a
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lot in all of this, would he still
lot in all of this, would he still
feel<00:12:51.519> the<00:12:51.760> same?
feel the same?
feel the same?
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Mhm. I think there's a level of
Mhm. I think there's a level of
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attraction and the book shows that for
attraction and the book shows that for
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sure with their first kiss that they
sure with their first kiss that they
had.
had.
had.
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With their first kiss, which I also
With their first kiss, which I also
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Counselor hat off, personal hat on. My
Counselor hat off, personal hat on. My
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honest reaction to that was
honest reaction to that was
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that's shitty, but I'm not going to hold
that's shitty, but I'm not going to hold
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it against someone for the rest. Like,
it against someone for the rest. Like,
yeah,<00:13:14.480> th<00:13:14.800> those<00:13:15.040> are<00:13:15.120> all<00:13:15.360> really<00:13:15.680> big
yeah, th those are all really big
yeah, th those are all really big
reactions.<00:13:16.959> And<00:13:17.360> Teddy's<00:13:18.000> like,
reactions. And Teddy's like,
reactions. And Teddy's like,
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I think fear of abandonment
I think fear of abandonment
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that she's like placing a lot on Gus
that she's like placing a lot on Gus
from<00:13:25.519> that
from that
from that
is<00:13:28.079> misplaced.<00:13:28.959> It's<00:13:29.200> probably<00:13:29.600> from<00:13:29.839> her
is misplaced. It's probably from her
is misplaced. It's probably from her
mother,<00:13:30.320> and<00:13:30.560> she<00:13:30.720> needs<00:13:30.959> to<00:13:31.120> deal<00:13:31.279> with<00:13:31.440> that
mother, and she needs to deal with that
mother, and she needs to deal with that
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cuz her mom, I think her aunt
cuz her mom, I think her aunt
Clementine,<00:13:36.320> his<00:13:36.560> sister,<00:13:37.920> they<00:13:38.160> talk<00:13:38.399> about
Clementine, his sister, they talk about
Clementine, his sister, they talk about
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their kind of loss of like she, you
their kind of loss of like she, you
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know, her mom passed away and then
know, her mom passed away and then
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Teddy's mom was like, "Here's your kid.
Teddy's mom was like, "Here's your kid.
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I don't want to be in her life." So,
I don't want to be in her life." So,
it's<00:13:48.000> a<00:13:48.079> little<00:13:48.240> bit<00:13:48.399> different.<00:13:48.639> And<00:13:48.880> they
it's a little bit different. And they
it's a little bit different. And they
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but they talk about it in the book. It's
but they talk about it in the book. It's
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so I feel like it's talked about like a
so I feel like it's talked about like a
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handful of times like the loss of like
handful of times like the loss of like
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or not having a mom. And it's so
or not having a mom. And it's so
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interesting because they're like, "Yeah,
interesting because they're like, "Yeah,
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like we use humor to talk about it. It's
like we use humor to talk about it. It's
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either we use humor or we cry about it."
either we use humor or we cry about it."
I'm<00:14:02.000> like,<00:14:02.560> "Girl,<00:14:03.040> cry."
I'm like, "Girl, cry."
I'm like, "Girl, cry."
Yeah,<00:14:03.839> it's<00:14:04.079> okay.<00:14:04.800> It's<00:14:05.120> okay<00:14:05.360> to<00:14:05.519> feel<00:14:05.760> those
Yeah, it's okay. It's okay to feel those
Yeah, it's okay. It's okay to feel those
emotions.
emotions.
emotions.
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Humor is great. We love humor, but
Humor is great. We love humor, but
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sometimes you need to cry. Like, a huge
sometimes you need to cry. Like, a huge
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part of emotion focused therapy and why
part of emotion focused therapy and why
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I really like it and using it with
I really like it and using it with
individuals<00:14:18.560> and<00:14:18.880> with<00:14:19.120> couples<00:14:19.760> is<00:14:20.000> because
individuals and with couples is because
individuals and with couples is because
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it doesn't shy away from the emotion.
it doesn't shy away from the emotion.
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And I think what's so interesting about
And I think what's so interesting about
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Lost and Lasso, which is part of the
Lost and Lasso, which is part of the
larger
larger
larger
Rebel<00:14:32.880> Blue<00:14:33.279> Ranch<00:14:34.079> novel<00:14:34.560> series,<00:14:35.040> which
Rebel Blue Ranch novel series, which
Rebel Blue Ranch novel series, which
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I would I do want to continue reading.
I would I do want to continue reading.
Like<00:14:38.880> it's<00:14:39.040> very<00:14:39.279> it's<00:14:39.600> interesting,
Like it's very it's interesting,
Like it's very it's interesting,
but<00:14:41.040> culturally<00:14:41.600> it's<00:14:41.839> like<00:14:42.000> a<00:14:42.160> cowboy
but culturally it's like a cowboy
but culturally it's like a cowboy
western
western
western
culture,<00:14:46.079> which<00:14:46.399> is<00:14:46.800> like<00:14:47.279> very<00:14:47.600> traditional.
culture, which is like very traditional.
culture, which is like very traditional.
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Don't cry, don't show emotions, buck up,
Don't cry, don't show emotions, buck up,
pal.<00:14:52.720> And<00:14:52.959> not<00:14:53.279> just<00:14:54.160> like<00:14:54.480> for<00:14:54.720> women<00:14:55.199> or<00:14:55.440> for
pal. And not just like for women or for
pal. And not just like for women or for
guys,<00:14:55.920> but<00:14:56.160> also<00:14:56.399> for<00:14:56.480> the<00:14:56.639> women.<00:14:56.959> Like
guys, but also for the women. Like
guys, but also for the women. Like
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they're also like I'm not going to be a
they're also like I'm not going to be a
stereotypical<00:15:00.079> overly<00:15:00.560> emotional<00:15:01.040> female.
stereotypical overly emotional female.
stereotypical overly emotional female.
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And so
And so
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emotions are not this inherently bad
emotions are not this inherently bad
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thing that I think culturally they've
thing that I think culturally they've
become.<00:15:10.560> Emotions<00:15:11.440> are<00:15:12.880> indicators<00:15:13.839> for<00:15:14.320> what
become. Emotions are indicators for what
become. Emotions are indicators for what
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actions you want to be taking
actions you want to be taking
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and they give
and they give
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which I think is really one of the most
which I think is really one of the most
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important parts of life. It gives you a
important parts of life. It gives you a
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sense of a weight of something.
sense of a weight of something.
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Like if I feel really good about doing
Like if I feel really good about doing
something,
something,
something,
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it gives me a sense of importance to it.
it gives me a sense of importance to it.
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It helps indicate that like I'm on the
It helps indicate that like I'm on the
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right path for what I need and what I
right path for what I need and what I
want<00:15:44.240> to<00:15:44.320> be<00:15:44.560> doing.
want to be doing.
want to be doing.
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Now, that's not to say emotions are
Now, that's not to say emotions are
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always 100% facts, right? They are
always 100% facts, right? They are
experiences<00:15:51.360> that<00:15:51.680> need<00:15:51.839> to<00:15:52.000> be<00:15:52.160> had
experiences that need to be had
experiences that need to be had
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and sometimes we have bad experiences.
and sometimes we have bad experiences.
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So take it with a grain of salt, but I
So take it with a grain of salt, but I
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think with all of these characters in a
think with all of these characters in a
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lot of ways and especially in in Gus,
lot of ways and especially in in Gus,
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they are very closed off to the full
they are very closed off to the full
spectrum<00:16:07.600> of<00:16:07.839> emotions.
spectrum of emotions.
spectrum of emotions.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
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And I think Gus can only show and he's
And I think Gus can only show and he's
very<00:16:12.160> stereotypical<00:16:12.880> in<00:16:13.120> this<00:16:13.279> way.
very stereotypical in this way.
very stereotypical in this way.
Anger<00:16:15.360> as<00:16:15.600> his<00:16:15.920> emotion.<00:16:16.560> Mhm.<00:16:17.360> And<00:16:17.600> so<00:16:18.880> I
Anger as his emotion. Mhm. And so I
Anger as his emotion. Mhm. And so I
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think Gus's anger at the beginning of
think Gus's anger at the beginning of
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this book and how angry he is at his at
this book and how angry he is at his at
his<00:16:24.800> situation,<00:16:25.519> at<00:16:25.759> himself,<00:16:26.399> at<00:16:26.639> his<00:16:26.880> family
his situation, at himself, at his family
his situation, at himself, at his family
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for not being able to handle absolutely
for not being able to handle absolutely
everything<00:16:29.680> that's<00:16:29.920> on<00:16:30.079> his<00:16:30.320> plate<00:16:30.959> is<00:16:31.199> a
everything that's on his plate is a
everything that's on his plate is a
secondary<00:16:31.920> emotion.<00:16:32.639> In<00:16:32.800> EFT,<00:16:33.360> you<00:16:33.519> have
secondary emotion. In EFT, you have
secondary emotion. In EFT, you have
primary<00:16:34.079> and<00:16:34.320> secondary<00:16:34.800> emotions.<00:16:35.279> So
primary and secondary emotions. So
primary and secondary emotions. So
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usually you have this initial reaction
usually you have this initial reaction
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and that initial reaction you don't want
and that initial reaction you don't want
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to be having. So you have like another
to be having. So you have like another
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reaction to it. And that's the reaction
reaction to it. And that's the reaction
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that comes out. So I think Gus is like
that comes out. So I think Gus is like
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really angry and it's and it's showing,
really angry and it's and it's showing,
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but that anger is stemming from his own
but that anger is stemming from his own
feeling<00:16:56.720> of<00:16:57.759> sadness<00:16:58.240> and<00:16:58.480> insecurity.
feeling of sadness and insecurity.
feeling of sadness and insecurity.
Especially<00:17:00.720> like<00:17:01.040> guilt,<00:17:01.839> his<00:17:02.079> own<00:17:02.320> guilt<00:17:02.720> at
Especially like guilt, his own guilt at
Especially like guilt, his own guilt at
like<00:17:03.279> I<00:17:03.440> forgot<00:17:03.839> to<00:17:04.079> pick<00:17:04.319> up<00:17:04.480> my<00:17:04.720> daughter.<00:17:05.439> I
like I forgot to pick up my daughter. I
like I forgot to pick up my daughter. I
forgot<00:17:06.160> to<00:17:07.120> get<00:17:07.280> the<00:17:07.520> payroll<00:17:08.000> out<00:17:08.240> today.<00:17:08.720> And
forgot to get the payroll out today. And
forgot to get the payroll out today. And
that<00:17:09.199> guilt<00:17:09.520> is<00:17:09.679> so<00:17:09.919> overwhelming.<00:17:10.559> And
that guilt is so overwhelming. And
that guilt is so overwhelming. And
instead<00:17:10.959> of<00:17:11.120> just<00:17:11.280> saying<00:17:11.439> like<00:17:11.679> I<00:17:11.839> feel
instead of just saying like I feel
instead of just saying like I feel
really<00:17:12.240> bad<00:17:12.559> and<00:17:12.799> guilty<00:17:13.199> about<00:17:13.360> that,
really bad and guilty about that,
really bad and guilty about that,
he's<00:17:14.319> lashing<00:17:14.720> out.<00:17:15.199> I<00:17:15.360> think<00:17:15.520> in<00:17:15.760> anger<00:17:16.000> and
he's lashing out. I think in anger and
he's lashing out. I think in anger and
that<00:17:17.360> that<00:17:17.679> for<00:17:17.919> me<00:17:18.640> was<00:17:18.799> a<00:17:19.039> bit<00:17:19.120> of<00:17:19.199> a<00:17:19.360> red<00:17:19.600> flag
that that for me was a bit of a red flag
that that for me was a bit of a red flag
because<00:17:20.720> he<00:17:21.039> never<00:17:21.360> took<00:17:21.600> the<00:17:21.919> time<00:17:22.799> to<00:17:23.120> also
because he never took the time to also
because he never took the time to also
self-reflect<00:17:24.240> on<00:17:24.400> that.
self-reflect on that.
self-reflect on that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Which<00:17:25.679> is<00:17:25.839> a<00:17:26.000> big<00:17:26.160> ask<00:17:26.480> of<00:17:26.640> anyone
Which is a big ask of anyone
Which is a big ask of anyone
self-reflecting<00:17:27.839> in<00:17:28.079> a<00:17:28.319> romance<00:17:29.039> genre.
self-reflecting in a romance genre.
self-reflecting in a romance genre.
Absolutely<00:17:30.320> not.
Absolutely not.
Absolutely not.
The<00:17:31.919> red<00:17:32.080> flags<00:17:32.400> look<00:17:32.640> like<00:17:32.799> green,<00:17:33.200> you<00:17:33.360> know,
The red flags look like green, you know,
The red flags look like green, you know,
but<00:17:34.000> that's<00:17:34.160> why<00:17:34.400> we're<00:17:34.640> here.<00:17:35.600> We're<00:17:35.840> going
but that's why we're here. We're going
but that's why we're here. We're going
to<00:17:36.160> self-reflect
to self-reflect
to self-reflect
for<00:17:38.080> these<00:17:38.320> guys.
for these guys.
for these guys.
Yes.<00:17:39.200> I<00:17:39.520> think<00:17:39.600> it<00:17:39.840> would<00:17:40.000> have<00:17:40.080> been<00:17:40.240> really
Yes. I think it would have been really
Yes. I think it would have been really
helpful<00:17:40.640> for<00:17:40.960> Gus<00:17:41.200> to<00:17:41.360> be<00:17:41.440> able<00:17:41.679> to,<00:17:42.080> I<00:17:42.240> think,
helpful for Gus to be able to, I think,
helpful for Gus to be able to, I think,
dive<00:17:42.720> deeper<00:17:44.000> into<00:17:44.400> that<00:17:44.640> guilt<00:17:45.120> and
dive deeper into that guilt and
dive deeper into that guilt and
just<00:17:47.360> kind<00:17:47.520> of<00:17:47.600> like<00:17:47.840> feel<00:17:48.080> those<00:17:48.240> emotions
just kind of like feel those emotions
just kind of like feel those emotions
and<00:17:49.679> then<00:17:49.840> like,<00:17:50.080> okay,<00:17:50.320> how<00:17:50.480> is<00:17:50.559> that<00:17:50.720> going
and then like, okay, how is that going
and then like, okay, how is that going
to<00:17:50.880> affect<00:17:51.120> your<00:17:51.280> behavior<00:17:51.760> now?<00:17:52.160> Rather<00:17:52.400> than
to affect your behavior now? Rather than
to affect your behavior now? Rather than
lashing<00:17:52.960> out<00:17:53.120> at<00:17:53.200> the<00:17:53.440> people,<00:17:53.840> what<00:17:54.000> can<00:17:54.160> you
lashing out at the people, what can you
lashing out at the people, what can you
do<00:17:55.360> other<00:17:55.679> than<00:17:55.840> that?
do other than that?
do other than that?
Mhm.<00:17:58.240> So,<00:17:58.880> I<00:17:59.280> think
Mhm. So, I think
Mhm. So, I think
something<00:18:01.840> that<00:18:02.080> would<00:18:02.240> help<00:18:02.400> with<00:18:02.559> that,
something that would help with that,
something that would help with that,
like<00:18:02.960> a<00:18:03.120> little<00:18:03.280> counseling<00:18:03.760> technique<00:18:04.160> I
like a little counseling technique I
like a little counseling technique I
would<00:18:04.559> use<00:18:04.799> with<00:18:05.039> Gus<00:18:05.440> if<00:18:05.919> if<00:18:06.320> he<00:18:06.640> came<00:18:06.799> and<00:18:07.039> he
would use with Gus if if he came and he
would use with Gus if if he came and he
was<00:18:07.360> like,<00:18:07.520> "I'm<00:18:07.840> really<00:18:08.080> angry."<00:18:09.120> I'd<00:18:09.280> be
was like, "I'm really angry." I'd be
was like, "I'm really angry." I'd be
like, "Preach,<00:18:10.160> go<00:18:10.400> off,<00:18:11.440> same<00:18:12.320> heard."<00:18:13.200> Um,
like, "Preach, go off, same heard." Um,
like, "Preach, go off, same heard." Um,
is<00:18:14.480> to<00:18:14.720> pause.<00:18:15.360> Like,<00:18:15.600> that's<00:18:15.840> that's<00:18:16.080> a<00:18:16.240> big
is to pause. Like, that's that's a big
is to pause. Like, that's that's a big
EFT<00:18:17.039> tech.
EFT tech.
EFT tech.
And<00:18:18.400> it's<00:18:18.559> so<00:18:18.720> much<00:18:18.880> easier<00:18:19.200> said<00:18:19.440> than<00:18:19.600> done.
And it's so much easier said than done.
And it's so much easier said than done.
Like,<00:18:20.000> I<00:18:20.240> know<00:18:20.640> I<00:18:20.880> feel<00:18:21.039> like<00:18:21.200> sometimes<00:18:21.520> when
Like, I know I feel like sometimes when
Like, I know I feel like sometimes when
I<00:18:21.840> say<00:18:22.000> these<00:18:22.320> things,<00:18:22.720> clients<00:18:23.120> are<00:18:23.280> like,
I say these things, clients are like,
I say these things, clients are like,
"Really?
"Really?
"Really?
All<00:18:25.280> right,<00:18:25.600> I'm<00:18:25.679> gonna<00:18:26.000> pause<00:18:26.240> this
All right, I'm gonna pause this
All right, I'm gonna pause this
conversation.<00:18:27.840> I'm<00:18:28.000> like,<00:18:28.240> I<00:18:28.400> know.<00:18:28.799> I<00:18:28.960> know.
conversation. I'm like, I know. I know.
conversation. I'm like, I know. I know.
I<00:18:29.520> hear<00:18:29.679> I<00:18:29.840> literally<00:18:30.080> I'm<00:18:30.240> like,<00:18:30.480> so<00:18:30.960> when<00:18:31.120> it
I hear I literally I'm like, so when it
I hear I literally I'm like, so when it
comes<00:18:31.440> out<00:18:31.520> of<00:18:31.600> my<00:18:31.679> mouth,<00:18:31.840> I'm<00:18:31.919> like,<00:18:32.080> I<00:18:32.240> know
comes out of my mouth, I'm like, I know
comes out of my mouth, I'm like, I know
it<00:18:32.559> sounds<00:18:32.799> stupid.<00:18:33.280> I<00:18:33.520> know<00:18:33.840> it<00:18:34.080> sounds
it sounds stupid. I know it sounds
it sounds stupid. I know it sounds
stupid<00:18:34.799> and<00:18:35.039> it<00:18:35.200> sounds<00:18:35.440> pointless.
stupid and it sounds pointless.
stupid and it sounds pointless.
I<00:18:37.200> also<00:18:37.520> hate<00:18:37.760> meditating.
I also hate meditating.
I also hate meditating.
Like<00:18:39.760> I<00:18:39.919> I<00:18:40.320> am<00:18:40.480> not<00:18:40.720> zen,<00:18:41.520> but<00:18:41.760> we<00:18:42.080> need<00:18:42.240> to<00:18:42.400> get
Like I I am not zen, but we need to get
Like I I am not zen, but we need to get
to<00:18:42.880> zen.
to zen.
to zen.
I'm<00:18:44.320> with<00:18:44.559> you<00:18:44.720> in<00:18:44.880> that<00:18:45.120> boat,
I'm with you in that boat,
I'm with you in that boat,
but<00:18:47.200> you<00:18:47.440> need<00:18:47.520> to<00:18:47.760> pause.
but you need to pause.
but you need to pause.
Gus,<00:18:48.960> you<00:18:49.120> need<00:18:49.280> to<00:18:49.919> press<00:18:50.240> pause.<00:18:51.600> And<00:18:51.760> then<00:18:52.160> I
Gus, you need to press pause. And then I
Gus, you need to press pause. And then I
would<00:18:53.200> take<00:18:53.360> a<00:18:53.520> deep<00:18:53.760> breath.<00:18:54.160> Breathing<00:18:54.559> is
would take a deep breath. Breathing is
would take a deep breath. Breathing is
always<00:18:54.960> really<00:18:55.200> important.<00:18:56.160> Pull<00:18:56.480> those
always really important. Pull those
always really important. Pull those
shoulders<00:18:57.280> away<00:18:57.600> from<00:18:57.840> your<00:18:58.080> ears.<00:18:58.559> Pull<00:18:58.799> them
shoulders away from your ears. Pull them
shoulders away from your ears. Pull them
down.<00:18:59.200> We'll<00:18:59.360> do<00:18:59.520> it<00:18:59.600> together.
down. We'll do it together.
down. We'll do it together.
Pull<00:19:02.000> them<00:19:02.240> down<00:19:02.559> and<00:19:02.880> breathe<00:19:03.200> out.<00:19:04.480> And<00:19:04.640> just
Pull them down and breathe out. And just
Pull them down and breathe out. And just
say,<00:19:05.200> "I<00:19:05.520> am<00:19:05.679> doing<00:19:06.000> my<00:19:06.240> best.
say, "I am doing my best.
say, "I am doing my best.
This<00:19:08.480> wasn't<00:19:08.720> what<00:19:08.960> I<00:19:09.120> wanted<00:19:09.360> to<00:19:09.520> happen."
This wasn't what I wanted to happen."
This wasn't what I wanted to happen."
And<00:19:10.720> I<00:19:10.960> will<00:19:11.120> use<00:19:11.280> it<00:19:11.440> as<00:19:11.679> a<00:19:11.840> learning
And I will use it as a learning
And I will use it as a learning
opportunity<00:19:13.600> and<00:19:13.840> I<00:19:14.000> am<00:19:14.240> capable<00:19:14.480> of<00:19:14.720> change
opportunity and I am capable of change
opportunity and I am capable of change
and<00:19:16.559> will<00:19:16.880> reflect<00:19:17.200> on<00:19:17.440> ways<00:19:17.679> I<00:19:18.000> can<00:19:18.160> move
and will reflect on ways I can move
and will reflect on ways I can move
forward.
forward.
forward.
Period.<00:19:21.039> and<00:19:21.280> accept<00:19:21.679> like<00:19:21.919> that<00:19:22.240> is<00:19:23.600> I<00:19:23.919> am
Period. and accept like that is I am
Period. and accept like that is I am
having<00:19:25.440> a<00:19:25.760> reaction
having a reaction
having a reaction
because<00:19:27.760> I<00:19:28.000> am<00:19:28.160> upset<00:19:28.480> with<00:19:28.640> myself<00:19:29.039> and
because I am upset with myself and
because I am upset with myself and
that's<00:19:29.520> that<00:19:29.840> pause<00:19:30.320> gives<00:19:30.559> you
that's that pause gives you
that's that pause gives you
that<00:19:31.919> time<00:19:32.080> to<00:19:32.320> self-reflect<00:19:33.520> instead<00:19:33.919> of
that time to self-reflect instead of
that time to self-reflect instead of
just<00:19:34.240> shoving<00:19:34.559> it<00:19:34.720> right<00:19:34.880> back<00:19:35.120> down
just shoving it right back down
just shoving it right back down
instead<00:19:36.400> of<00:19:36.480> just<00:19:36.640> acting<00:19:36.880> like<00:19:37.039> it's<00:19:37.280> not
instead of just acting like it's not
instead of just acting like it's not
there<00:19:38.080> cuz<00:19:38.320> it's<00:19:38.559> there.
there cuz it's there.
there cuz it's there.
It's<00:19:39.120> there.<00:19:39.440> It's<00:19:39.679> always<00:19:40.000> there.
It's there. It's always there.
It's there. It's always there.
That's<00:19:41.120> the<00:19:41.360> problem.<00:19:41.760> It<00:19:42.320> doesn't<00:19:42.559> go<00:19:42.720> away.
That's the problem. It doesn't go away.
That's the problem. It doesn't go away.
No.<00:19:44.160> And
No. And
No. And
if<00:19:44.640> you<00:19:44.720> let<00:19:44.880> it<00:19:45.039> boil,
if you let it boil,
if you let it boil,
the<00:19:46.880> water's<00:19:47.200> going<00:19:47.360> to<00:19:47.440> boil<00:19:47.679> over.<00:19:48.080> It's
the water's going to boil over. It's
the water's going to boil over. It's
gonna<00:19:48.559> boil<00:19:48.799> over<00:19:49.760> and<00:19:50.000> not<00:19:50.160> in<00:19:50.400> like<00:19:50.480> a<00:19:50.640> fun
gonna boil over and not in like a fun
gonna boil over and not in like a fun
shrimp<00:19:51.360> boil<00:19:51.760> way.
You've<00:19:55.280> never<00:19:55.440> had<00:19:55.600> a<00:19:55.760> shrimp<00:19:56.080> boil?
You've never had a shrimp boil?
You've never had a shrimp boil?
I<00:19:56.640> have,<00:19:57.360> but<00:19:57.600> just<00:19:57.919> that<00:19:58.240> that's<00:19:58.480> what<00:19:58.720> you
I have, but just that that's what you
I have, but just that that's what you
compared<00:20:00.400> it<00:20:00.640> to.
compared it to.
compared it to.
It<00:20:02.240> was<00:20:02.640> really<00:20:03.039> random.
It was really random.
It was really random.
You<00:20:05.280> know<00:20:05.280> what?<00:20:05.600> It<00:20:05.760> wasn't<00:20:06.000> that<00:20:06.240> random<00:20:06.640> cuz
You know what? It wasn't that random cuz
You know what? It wasn't that random cuz
I<00:20:07.120> was<00:20:07.200> reading<00:20:07.679> about<00:20:08.000> the<00:20:08.320> new<00:20:08.480> Red<00:20:08.720> Lobster
I was reading about the new Red Lobster
I was reading about the new Red Lobster
CEO<00:20:10.400> and<00:20:10.559> he<00:20:10.799> had<00:20:11.039> shrimp<00:20:11.440> oil<00:20:11.760> bags.
CEO and he had shrimp oil bags.
CEO and he had shrimp oil bags.
He<00:20:13.200> like<00:20:13.440> didn't<00:20:13.679> he<00:20:13.840> like<00:20:14.000> turn<00:20:14.160> like<00:20:14.400> Red
He like didn't he like turn like Red
He like didn't he like turn like Red
Lobster<00:20:15.039> around?<00:20:15.760> Yeah,<00:20:16.640> he<00:20:16.799> drew<00:20:17.039> Red
Lobster around? Yeah, he drew Red
Lobster around? Yeah, he drew Red
Lobster.
Lobster.
Lobster.
I<00:20:17.919> was<00:20:18.080> reading<00:20:18.240> that<00:20:18.400> article
I was reading that article
I was reading that article
and<00:20:19.440> he's<00:20:19.760> 35.
and he's 35.
and he's 35.
Yeah,<00:20:20.720> I<00:20:20.880> know.<00:20:21.120> He's
Yeah, I know. He's
Yeah, I know. He's
What<00:20:21.679> am<00:20:21.760> I<00:20:21.919> doing<00:20:22.160> with<00:20:22.400> my<00:20:22.559> life?
What am I doing with my life?
What am I doing with my life?
He's<00:20:23.360> not<00:20:23.679> that.
He's not that.
He's not that.
We<00:20:25.360> went<00:20:25.600> two<00:20:25.760> different<00:20:26.000> ways.
We went two different ways.
We went two different ways.
We<00:20:28.320> did.<00:20:28.880> Well,<00:20:29.840> I<00:20:30.159> said,<00:20:30.240> "I<00:20:30.559> want<00:20:30.720> to<00:20:30.880> be<00:20:31.039> that
We did. Well, I said, "I want to be that
We did. Well, I said, "I want to be that
successful."<00:20:32.159> And<00:20:32.320> you<00:20:32.559> said,<00:20:32.720> "I<00:20:33.039> want<00:20:33.120> to
successful." And you said, "I want to
successful." And you said, "I want to
date<00:20:33.520> him."<00:20:34.880> I<00:20:35.120> said,<00:20:35.200> "I<00:20:35.440> want<00:20:35.520> to<00:20:35.679> marry<00:20:35.840> a
date him." I said, "I want to marry a
date him." I said, "I want to marry a
man<00:20:36.240> that<00:20:36.480> successful."
man that successful."
man that successful."
And<00:20:38.320> that's<00:20:38.880> on<00:20:40.000> Lost<00:20:40.400> and<00:20:40.559> Last.
And that's on Lost and Last.
And that's on Lost and Last.
No.
No.
No.
Um,<00:20:44.960> yeah.<00:20:45.280> No,<00:20:45.520> I<00:20:45.679> feel<00:20:45.840> like<00:20:46.799> I<00:20:47.039> don't<00:20:47.200> know
Um, yeah. No, I feel like I don't know
Um, yeah. No, I feel like I don't know
the<00:20:47.600> Red<00:20:47.840> Lobster<00:20:48.320> CEO,<00:20:49.120> but<00:20:49.919> I<00:20:50.240> would<00:20:50.480> read
the Red Lobster CEO, but I would read
the Red Lobster CEO, but I would read
that<00:20:52.320> romantic<00:20:53.440> or<00:20:53.760> romantic<00:20:54.400> novel<00:20:54.799> that's
that romantic or romantic novel that's
that romantic or romantic novel that's
about<00:20:55.360> him<00:20:56.240> for<00:20:56.480> sure.<00:20:56.880> Like,<00:20:57.120> I<00:20:57.360> feel<00:20:57.520> like
about him for sure. Like, I feel like
about him for sure. Like, I feel like
that<00:20:57.840> would<00:20:58.000> be<00:20:58.159> a<00:20:58.400> really<00:20:58.640> good<00:20:59.039> just<00:20:59.280> like
that would be a really good just like
that would be a really good just like
young,<00:21:00.159> fresh<00:21:00.799> CEO<00:21:01.440> turning<00:21:01.840> this<00:21:02.080> old
young, fresh CEO turning this old
young, fresh CEO turning this old
restaurant<00:21:03.679> chain
restaurant chain
restaurant chain
around.
around.
around.
But<00:21:08.159> he's<00:21:08.880> a<00:21:09.200> ruthless
But he's a ruthless
But he's a ruthless
restauranteer.
restauranteer.
restauranteer.
and<00:21:14.480> needs<00:21:15.360> a<00:21:15.679> gentle<00:21:16.080> server
and needs a gentle server
and needs a gentle server
to<00:21:18.640> unthaw<00:21:19.280> his<00:21:19.600> heart.<00:21:20.559> I<00:21:20.799> don't<00:21:20.960> know.
to unthaw his heart. I don't know.
to unthaw his heart. I don't know.
A<00:21:23.120> bartender.
A bartender.
A bartender.
Oh,<00:21:24.080> a<00:21:24.240> bar.<00:21:24.400> You're<00:21:24.559> right.
Oh, a bar. You're right.
Oh, a bar. You're right.
A<00:21:24.880> bartender.
A bartender.
A bartender.
Ooh.<00:21:25.840> He's<00:21:26.080> going<00:21:26.159> to<00:21:26.320> pour<00:21:26.720> his<00:21:27.120> problems
Ooh. He's going to pour his problems
Ooh. He's going to pour his problems
out.
out.
out.
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I<00:21:34.880> don't<00:21:35.039> write<00:21:35.280> the<00:21:35.360> book.
I don't write the book.
I don't write the book.
Sounds<00:21:36.000> so<00:21:36.240> intimate<00:21:36.640> and<00:21:37.039> sexual<00:21:37.600> at<00:21:37.840> the
Sounds so intimate and sexual at the
Sounds so intimate and sexual at the
same<00:21:38.480> time.
same time.
same time.
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There was there was sex in this but and
There was there was sex in this but and
then
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I don't know if like it's a me thing.
I don't know if like it's a me thing.
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No, I see the tabs. I see the tabs,
No, I see the tabs. I see the tabs,
girl.<00:21:54.799> I<00:21:54.960> think<00:21:55.120> I<00:21:55.280> put<00:21:56.000> love<00:21:56.240> it<00:21:56.799> tab.<00:21:57.280> I<00:21:57.520> have
girl. I think I put love it tab. I have
girl. I think I put love it tab. I have
these<00:21:57.919> cute<00:21:58.159> little<00:21:58.320> tabs.<00:21:58.640> One<00:21:58.880> says<00:21:59.120> love
these cute little tabs. One says love
these cute little tabs. One says love
this.
this.
this.
You<00:22:01.840> know<00:22:01.919> what<00:22:02.240> though?
You know what though?
You know what though?
I
I
I
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I wrote Gus Ryder can [ __ ] and I wrote I
I wrote Gus Ryder can [ __ ] and I wrote I
agree.<00:22:11.440> I<00:22:11.600> think<00:22:11.679> I<00:22:11.919> put<00:22:12.240> [ __ ]
agree. I think I put [ __ ]
agree. I think I put [ __ ]
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cuz that man can [ __ ] It's I think we
cuz that man can [ __ ] It's I think we
we<00:22:18.159> both<00:22:18.559> like<00:22:18.960> assertive<00:22:19.919> assertiveness.
we both like assertive assertiveness.
we both like assertive assertiveness.
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He did such a good amount of dirty
He did such a good amount of dirty
talking<00:22:23.760> too<00:22:24.000> where<00:22:24.240> it<00:22:24.400> wasn't<00:22:24.720> like<00:22:25.039> too
talking too where it wasn't like too
talking too where it wasn't like too
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much like sometimes they go like a
much like sometimes they go like a
little<00:22:26.720> overboard<00:22:27.120> on<00:22:27.280> books,<00:22:27.520> right?<00:22:27.679> And
little overboard on books, right? And
little overboard on books, right? And
I'm<00:22:27.919> like,<00:22:28.080> "Okay,<00:22:28.480> you're<00:22:28.720> getting<00:22:28.960> cringy
I'm like, "Okay, you're getting cringy
I'm like, "Okay, you're getting cringy
now."
now."
now."
He<00:22:32.480> but<00:22:32.960> I<00:22:33.280> also<00:22:34.559> my<00:22:34.880> other<00:22:35.120> critique<00:22:36.480> he<00:22:36.799> was
He but I also my other critique he was
He but I also my other critique he was
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so good and he was so assertive and then
so good and he was so assertive and then
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was like well tell me what you want.
was like well tell me what you want.
I'm<00:22:42.799> in<00:22:42.960> the<00:22:43.120> middle<00:22:43.600> of<00:22:43.840> turning<00:22:44.159> my<00:22:44.320> brain
I'm in the middle of turning my brain
I'm in the middle of turning my brain
off.<00:22:45.919> I<00:22:46.240> want<00:22:46.400> you<00:22:46.720> to<00:22:46.880> just<00:22:47.200> know<00:22:47.360> what<00:22:47.600> I
off. I want you to just know what I
off. I want you to just know what I
want.
want.
want.
Yeah.<00:22:48.559> Like
Yeah. Like
Yeah. Like
what<00:22:50.000> what<00:22:50.080> do<00:22:50.240> you<00:22:50.320> mean?
what what do you mean?
what what do you mean?
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I agree. The entire time you've taken
I agree. The entire time you've taken
charge<00:22:53.520> and<00:22:53.679> then<00:22:53.919> it<00:22:54.080> comes<00:22:54.320> to<00:22:54.480> the<00:22:54.720> act<00:22:55.039> and
charge and then it comes to the act and
charge and then it comes to the act and
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you're like tell me exactly how you want
you're like tell me exactly how you want
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it, where you want it, exactly what you
it, where you want it, exactly what you
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want me to do with my hands. I was like,
want me to do with my hands. I was like,
bro,
bro,
bro,
that<00:23:03.120> annoyed<00:23:03.520> me.<00:23:03.679> I<00:23:03.840> was<00:23:03.919> like,<00:23:04.159> sir,<00:23:04.559> take
that annoyed me. I was like, sir, take
that annoyed me. I was like, sir, take
charge.
charge.
charge.
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This is not the time. You do what you
This is not the time. You do what you
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want with my body right now. Be the
want with my body right now. Be the
leader<00:23:09.120> you<00:23:09.360> think<00:23:09.520> you<00:23:09.760> are.<00:23:11.200> That's<00:23:11.440> all<00:23:11.679> I'm
leader you think you are. That's all I'm
leader you think you are. That's all I'm
saying.<00:23:13.039> And<00:23:13.440> lead<00:23:14.000> lead<00:23:14.240> it<00:23:14.400> to<00:23:14.559> the<00:23:14.799> finish
saying. And lead lead it to the finish
saying. And lead lead it to the finish
line.
line.
line.
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Lead it to the Agreed. Don't ask for
Lead it to the Agreed. Don't ask for
support<00:23:19.600> right<00:23:19.840> at<00:23:20.080> the<00:23:20.240> end<00:23:20.960> cuz<00:23:21.200> I<00:23:21.440> can't
support right at the end cuz I can't
support right at the end cuz I can't
give<00:23:21.760> it<00:23:22.000> then.
give it then.
give it then.
I<00:23:22.799> agree.<00:23:23.600> Teddy<00:23:24.000> can't<00:23:24.159> give<00:23:24.320> it<00:23:24.480> then.
I agree. Teddy can't give it then.
I agree. Teddy can't give it then.
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But when he was assertive, I was like,
But when he was assertive, I was like,
"Oh,
"Oh,
"Oh,
oh,<00:23:27.600> I<00:23:27.840> know.<00:23:28.559> Oh,<00:23:28.799> yeah.
oh, I know. Oh, yeah.
oh, I know. Oh, yeah.
I<00:23:29.280> ate<00:23:29.440> that<00:23:29.600> [ __ ]<00:23:29.760> up."
I ate that [ __ ] up."
I ate that [ __ ] up."
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I I was with you. I was like, and then
I I was with you. I was like, and then
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she was cracking some jokes. Cuz that's
she was cracking some jokes. Cuz that's
me<00:23:35.280> for<00:23:35.520> real.
me for real.
me for real.
just<00:23:37.840> like<00:23:38.400> anytime
just like anytime
just like anytime
someone's<00:23:40.640> trying<00:23:42.000> to<00:23:42.240> be<00:23:42.480> in<00:23:43.280> basically<00:23:44.320> I
someone's trying to be in basically I
someone's trying to be in basically I
feel<00:23:44.799> really<00:23:45.120> bad<00:23:45.280> for<00:23:45.520> my<00:23:45.760> partner
feel really bad for my partner
feel really bad for my partner
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cuz he'll try and be really intimate and
cuz he'll try and be really intimate and
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then I'll be like dab me up like oh my
then I'll be like dab me up like oh my
god
god
god
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I I shouldn't be in a relation I should
I I shouldn't be in a relation I should
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be single. He said wow but that was
be single. He said wow but that was
really<00:24:01.200> good.<00:24:01.360> High<00:24:01.600> five.<00:24:02.080> I<00:24:02.320> think<00:24:02.400> I<00:24:02.640> smack
really good. High five. I think I smack
really good. High five. I think I smack
him<00:24:03.120> on<00:24:03.280> the<00:24:03.440> butt<00:24:03.760> after.
him on the butt after.
him on the butt after.
So,<00:24:06.480> you're<00:24:06.720> the<00:24:06.880> assertive<00:24:07.520> one.
So, you're the assertive one.
So, you're the assertive one.
He's<00:24:10.000> also<00:24:10.400> very<00:24:10.720> assertive.<00:24:11.840> We're<00:24:12.080> very
He's also very assertive. We're very
He's also very assertive. We're very
happy.
He's<00:24:19.279> the<00:24:19.520> producer<00:24:19.919> of<00:24:20.080> this<00:24:20.320> podcast.
I<00:24:25.919> feel<00:24:26.080> like
I feel like
I feel like
I<00:24:27.919> didn't<00:24:28.080> need<00:24:28.159> to<00:24:28.320> know<00:24:28.480> all<00:24:28.640> that
I didn't need to know all that
I didn't need to know all that
information.
information.
information.
You<00:24:30.720> know<00:24:30.799> what<00:24:30.960> I<00:24:31.120> mean?
You know what I mean?
You know what I mean?
You<00:24:31.520> already<00:24:31.760> knew<00:24:32.000> that<00:24:32.240> information.
You already knew that information.
You already knew that information.
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I did. I feel like I know way too much
I did. I feel like I know way too much
about<00:24:34.640> my<00:24:34.799> friend's<00:24:35.039> sex<00:24:35.279> lives,<00:24:35.679> which<00:24:35.919> is<00:24:36.000> a
about my friend's sex lives, which is a
about my friend's sex lives, which is a
good<00:24:36.320> thing<00:24:36.559> though.<00:24:37.840> Actually,<00:24:38.320> feel<00:24:38.480> like
good thing though. Actually, feel like
good thing though. Actually, feel like
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Yeah, I feel like we know a normal
Yeah, I feel like we know a normal
amount<00:24:41.360> about<00:24:41.600> our<00:24:42.400> sex<00:24:42.720> lives.<00:24:44.080> Except<00:24:44.480> me.<00:24:44.640> I
amount about our sex lives. Except me. I
amount about our sex lives. Except me. I
haven't<00:24:45.039> had<00:24:45.200> sex.<00:24:46.559> Yeah.<00:24:46.799> And<00:24:47.039> I<00:24:47.200> know<00:24:47.279> that
haven't had sex. Yeah. And I know that
haven't had sex. Yeah. And I know that
because<00:24:49.200> I'm<00:24:49.440> verbal<00:24:49.840> about<00:24:50.080> it.<00:24:51.279> I<00:24:51.520> mean,<00:24:51.679> I
because I'm verbal about it. I mean, I
because I'm verbal about it. I mean, I
don't<00:24:52.159> give<00:24:52.400> you<00:24:52.559> like<00:24:52.720> intimate<00:24:53.200> details.<00:24:54.640> I
don't give you like intimate details. I
don't give you like intimate details. I
guess<00:24:54.960> I<00:24:55.679> might<00:24:55.919> have<00:24:56.159> just<00:24:56.320> said<00:24:56.960> it<00:24:57.200> was<00:24:57.360> more
guess I might have just said it was more
guess I might have just said it was more
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like an abstract. It just it more so
like an abstract. It just it more so
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like painted the outline for me. But you
like painted the outline for me. But you
know<00:25:02.480> me<00:25:02.720> and<00:25:02.960> you<00:25:03.200> were<00:25:03.360> like<00:25:03.520> that's<00:25:03.840> on
know me and you were like that's on
know me and you were like that's on
brand<00:25:04.400> for<00:25:04.720> Nora.
brand for Nora.
brand for Nora.
No,<00:25:05.360> for<00:25:05.600> sure.
No, for sure.
No, for sure.
Like<00:25:07.520> that<00:25:07.760> that<00:25:07.919> was<00:25:08.080> good,<00:25:08.240> bro.<00:25:08.480> Let's<00:25:08.720> dab
Like that that was good, bro. Let's dab
Like that that was good, bro. Let's dab
each<00:25:09.120> other<00:25:09.279> up<00:25:09.520> now.<00:25:10.559> What<00:25:10.720> are<00:25:10.799> we<00:25:10.880> having
each other up now. What are we having
each other up now. What are we having
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for dinner? Oh, he's such a good chef.
for dinner? Oh, he's such a good chef.
He<00:25:16.240> cooks<00:25:16.640> for<00:25:16.880> me.<00:25:18.000> He<00:25:18.320> cleans<00:25:18.799> for<00:25:19.120> me.<00:25:20.000> And
He cooks for me. He cleans for me. And
He cooks for me. He cleans for me. And
he<00:25:20.480> cleans<00:25:20.880> up<00:25:21.200> for<00:25:21.520> me.
he cleans up for me.
he cleans up for me.
I'm<00:25:23.600> so<00:25:23.840> lucky.<00:25:24.400> You<00:25:24.640> are.<00:25:25.360> I<00:25:25.520> have<00:25:25.679> no<00:25:25.919> man
I'm so lucky. You are. I have no man
I'm so lucky. You are. I have no man
disturbing<00:25:26.480> my<00:25:26.640> peace.<00:25:26.960> So,<00:25:27.120> I'm<00:25:27.200> also<00:25:27.520> lucky.
disturbing my peace. So, I'm also lucky.
disturbing my peace. So, I'm also lucky.
You<00:25:28.880> are.<00:25:29.679> No<00:25:30.000> man<00:25:30.240> is<00:25:30.480> disturbing<00:25:30.880> your
You are. No man is disturbing your
You are. No man is disturbing your
peace.<00:25:31.360> And<00:25:32.159> honestly,<00:25:32.799> I<00:25:33.039> think<00:25:33.360> I<00:25:33.679> was
peace. And honestly, I think I was
peace. And honestly, I think I was
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reading this book and I was like, this
reading this book and I was like, this
is<00:25:36.000> Alyssa's<00:25:36.559> type.
is Alyssa's type.
is Alyssa's type.
I<00:25:39.679> also<00:25:40.080> was<00:25:40.320> reading<00:25:40.640> this<00:25:40.880> book<00:25:41.360> and<00:25:41.600> I<00:25:41.840> was
I also was reading this book and I was
I also was reading this book and I was
like,<00:25:42.159> I<00:25:42.320> would<00:25:42.559> 100%<00:25:43.520> date<00:25:43.760> this<00:25:44.000> man<00:25:44.159> in<00:25:44.400> real
like, I would 100% date this man in real
like, I would 100% date this man in real
life.
life.
life.
Yeah.<00:25:45.840> Yeah.<00:25:46.240> He<00:25:46.559> totally<00:25:46.960> lacks
Yeah. Yeah. He totally lacks
Yeah. Yeah. He totally lacks
self-mpathy,
self-mpathy,
self-mpathy,
which<00:25:49.760> is
which is
which is
What<00:25:50.159> are<00:25:50.240> you<00:25:50.400> trying<00:25:50.480> to<00:25:50.640> say?
What are you trying to say?
What are you trying to say?
Which<00:25:51.440> is<00:25:51.600> a<00:25:51.840> skill<00:25:52.080> that<00:25:52.400> needs<00:25:52.880> that<00:25:53.200> needs
Which is a skill that needs that needs
Which is a skill that needs that needs
to<00:25:53.600> be<00:25:53.760> worked<00:25:54.000> on.
to be worked on.
to be worked on.
He<00:25:56.640> has<00:25:56.880> mommy<00:25:57.279> issues.
He has mommy issues.
He has mommy issues.
Perfect.<00:26:00.080> Um,<00:26:00.720> also
Perfect. Um, also
Perfect. Um, also
something<00:26:03.360> that<00:26:03.600> I
something that I
something that I
was<00:26:05.919> annoyed<00:26:06.320> with<00:26:06.559> him<00:26:06.720> by,
was annoyed with him by,
was annoyed with him by,
and<00:26:08.640> I<00:26:08.880> think<00:26:09.679> he<00:26:09.840> he<00:26:10.159> will<00:26:10.320> pick<00:26:10.559> his<00:26:10.799> family
and I think he he will pick his family
and I think he he will pick his family
over<00:26:13.520> Teddy.
over Teddy.
over Teddy.
Teddy,
Teddy,
Teddy,
100%.
100%.
100%.
100%.
100%.
100%.
He<00:26:15.919> did<00:26:16.080> it<00:26:16.320> basically<00:26:16.960> when<00:26:17.279> Teddy<00:26:17.760> and
He did it basically when Teddy and
He did it basically when Teddy and
Emmy<00:26:18.640> got<00:26:18.799> into<00:26:19.039> a<00:26:19.200> fight.
Emmy got into a fight.
Emmy got into a fight.
And<00:26:20.559> I<00:26:20.799> was<00:26:20.880> like,<00:26:21.039> Alyssa<00:26:21.440> would<00:26:21.600> date<00:26:21.760> this
And I was like, Alyssa would date this
And I was like, Alyssa would date this
guy.
guy.
guy.
And<00:26:24.640> I<00:26:24.880> get<00:26:25.039> it.<00:26:26.480> Like,<00:26:26.720> if<00:26:26.960> you<00:26:27.440> are
And I get it. Like, if you are
And I get it. Like, if you are
You<00:26:29.760> should<00:26:31.200> if<00:26:31.520> you<00:26:31.760> are<00:26:32.720> my<00:26:32.960> ex<00:26:33.120> did<00:26:33.360> pick.
You should if you are my ex did pick.
You should if you are my ex did pick.
He
He
He
wasn't<00:26:36.720> great.
wasn't great.
wasn't great.
He<00:26:38.559> was<00:26:38.640> mean<00:26:38.880> to<00:26:38.960> you.
He was mean to you.
He was mean to you.
My<00:26:39.440> ex<00:26:39.679> or<00:26:39.840> Gus?
My ex or Gus?
My ex or Gus?
Gus<00:26:42.080> had<00:26:42.320> some<00:26:42.480> redemption.<00:26:43.039> Like<00:26:43.360> he<00:26:43.600> did.<00:26:43.840> I
Gus had some redemption. Like he did. I
Gus had some redemption. Like he did. I
think<00:26:44.159> there<00:26:44.320> was<00:26:44.480> definitely<00:26:44.799> parts.<00:26:45.120> I
think there was definitely parts. I
think there was definitely parts. I
think<00:26:45.520> another<00:26:45.840> part<00:26:46.000> that<00:26:46.240> really<00:26:46.480> annoyed
think another part that really annoyed
think another part that really annoyed
me<00:26:47.039> is<00:26:47.520> when<00:26:48.720> they<00:26:48.960> were<00:26:49.760> had<00:26:50.000> the<00:26:50.159> vet<00:26:50.480> come
me is when they were had the vet come
me is when they were had the vet come
onto<00:26:51.200> the<00:26:51.360> ranch<00:26:51.679> and<00:26:52.159> check<00:26:52.400> all<00:26:52.559> the<00:26:52.720> horses
onto the ranch and check all the horses
onto the ranch and check all the horses
and<00:26:54.080> she<00:26:54.320> was,<00:26:54.480> you<00:26:54.640> know,<00:26:54.799> just<00:26:55.039> like<00:26:55.360> they're
and she was, you know, just like they're
and she was, you know, just like they're
not<00:26:55.760> together,<00:26:56.240> right?
not together, right?
not together, right?
They're<00:26:57.039> not<00:26:57.200> together.<00:26:58.080> They<00:26:58.240> are<00:26:58.400> not
They're not together. They are not
They're not together. They are not
together.<00:26:59.039> They<00:26:59.279> have<00:26:59.440> not<00:26:59.600> had<00:26:59.760> a<00:27:00.000> single
together. They have not had a single
together. They have not had a single
conversation<00:27:00.960> about<00:27:01.200> this.<00:27:02.000> The<00:27:02.240> closest
conversation about this. The closest
conversation about this. The closest
they've<00:27:02.880> done<00:27:03.120> is<00:27:03.440> hook<00:27:03.679> up<00:27:04.159> and<00:27:04.480> have<00:27:04.720> him
they've done is hook up and have him
they've done is hook up and have him
make<00:27:05.200> assumptions<00:27:05.679> about<00:27:06.000> that.<00:27:06.480> Yeah.<00:27:06.799> And
make assumptions about that. Yeah. And
make assumptions about that. Yeah. And
so<00:27:07.120> she<00:27:07.279> was<00:27:07.360> flirting<00:27:07.679> with<00:27:07.840> the<00:27:08.000> vet<00:27:08.320> as<00:27:08.480> she
so she was flirting with the vet as she
so she was flirting with the vet as she
should<00:27:08.799> cuz<00:27:09.039> the<00:27:09.200> vet<00:27:09.520> was<00:27:09.679> her<00:27:10.000> ex
should cuz the vet was her ex
should cuz the vet was her ex
situationship.
situationship.
situationship.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She<00:27:12.960> consummated<00:27:13.520> that<00:27:13.840> relationship.
She consummated that relationship.
She consummated that relationship.
And<00:27:16.159> my<00:27:16.480> favorite<00:27:16.720> part<00:27:16.960> was<00:27:17.279> when<00:27:18.320> Gus<00:27:18.640> was
And my favorite part was when Gus was
And my favorite part was when Gus was
like,<00:27:19.039> "Why<00:27:19.360> is<00:27:19.440> he<00:27:19.600> even<00:27:19.760> wearing<00:27:20.000> cowboy
like, "Why is he even wearing cowboy
like, "Why is he even wearing cowboy
hat?<00:27:21.120> Why<00:27:21.360> is<00:27:21.440> he<00:27:21.600> wearing<00:27:21.840> cowboy<00:27:22.159> boots?"
hat? Why is he wearing cowboy boots?"
hat? Why is he wearing cowboy boots?"
I<00:27:23.840> was<00:27:24.480> I<00:27:24.799> literally<00:27:25.200> was<00:27:25.440> laughing<00:27:25.840> out<00:27:26.080> loud
I was I literally was laughing out loud
I was I literally was laughing out loud
cuz<00:27:26.640> I<00:27:26.799> was<00:27:26.960> like<00:27:28.320> fact.
cuz I was like fact.
cuz I was like fact.
I<00:27:30.720> was<00:27:30.799> like<00:27:30.960> he's<00:27:31.200> like<00:27:31.360> he<00:27:31.520> doesn't<00:27:31.760> work<00:27:32.159> he
I was like he's like he doesn't work he
I was like he's like he doesn't work he
doesn't<00:27:32.559> work<00:27:32.720> on<00:27:32.880> a<00:27:32.960> ranch.<00:27:33.360> He<00:27:33.520> doesn't<00:27:33.679> do<00:27:33.760> a
doesn't work on a ranch. He doesn't do a
doesn't work on a ranch. He doesn't do a
working<00:27:34.240> job.<00:27:34.640> I<00:27:34.799> mean<00:27:34.960> the<00:27:35.120> man<00:27:35.279> goes<00:27:35.520> out<00:27:35.679> to
working job. I mean the man goes out to
working job. I mean the man goes out to
ranches<00:27:36.720> to
ranches to
ranches to
check<00:27:38.960> boots<00:27:39.200> are<00:27:39.440> kind<00:27:39.520> of<00:27:39.600> valid<00:27:40.000> though<00:27:40.480> in
check boots are kind of valid though in
check boots are kind of valid though in
his<00:27:40.960> line<00:27:41.120> of<00:27:41.279> work.
his line of work.
his line of work.
I<00:27:41.760> feel<00:27:41.919> like<00:27:42.080> everyone<00:27:42.480> wears<00:27:42.799> boots<00:27:43.120> now.<00:27:43.600> Me
I feel like everyone wears boots now. Me
I feel like everyone wears boots now. Me
too.<00:27:44.640> I<00:27:44.960> don't<00:27:45.279> own<00:27:45.520> a<00:27:45.760> but<00:27:46.000> like<00:27:46.159> I
too. I don't own a but like I
too. I don't own a but like I
You<00:27:46.640> should<00:27:46.799> own<00:27:46.960> a<00:27:47.120> pair.
You should own a pair.
You should own a pair.
I<00:27:49.520> have<00:27:49.679> lived<00:27:49.919> in<00:27:50.159> Texas<00:27:50.480> long<00:27:50.720> enough.<00:27:51.120> I
I have lived in Texas long enough. I
I have lived in Texas long enough. I
should<00:27:51.520> own<00:27:51.679> a<00:27:51.840> pair<00:27:52.000> of<00:27:52.320> actual<00:27:52.720> boots.
should own a pair of actual boots.
should own a pair of actual boots.
And<00:27:54.080> that's<00:27:54.320> on<00:27:54.480> my<00:27:54.559> list.<00:27:54.880> But<00:27:55.039> like<00:27:55.200> even
And that's on my list. But like even
And that's on my list. But like even
when<00:27:55.600> I<00:27:55.760> moved<00:27:55.840> to<00:27:56.080> Oklahoma,<00:27:57.039> I<00:27:57.279> didn't<00:27:57.440> get
when I moved to Oklahoma, I didn't get
when I moved to Oklahoma, I didn't get
boots<00:27:58.080> cuz<00:27:58.399> I<00:27:58.559> didn't
boots cuz I didn't
boots cuz I didn't
That's<00:27:59.039> also<00:27:59.360> crazy.
That's also crazy.
That's also crazy.
I<00:28:00.080> Well,<00:28:00.240> I<00:28:00.480> didn't<00:28:00.720> want<00:28:00.880> to<00:28:01.039> seem<00:28:01.520> like<00:28:01.840> I
I Well, I didn't want to seem like I
I Well, I didn't want to seem like I
a<00:28:02.559> poser.
a poser.
a poser.
Yeah,<00:28:04.799> cuz<00:28:05.120> I<00:28:05.440> am<00:28:05.600> a<00:28:05.760> city<00:28:06.159> person.
Yeah, cuz I am a city person.
Yeah, cuz I am a city person.
You<00:28:08.080> are.<00:28:08.720> Are<00:28:08.880> you<00:28:09.039> kidding<00:28:09.360> me?<00:28:09.600> Horses<00:28:10.000> are
You are. Are you kidding me? Horses are
You are. Are you kidding me? Horses are
terrif.
You<00:28:17.679> own<00:28:18.720> boots.<00:28:19.279> You<00:28:19.520> took<00:28:19.760> boots<00:28:20.080> to
You own boots. You took boots to
You own boots. You took boots to
Scotland.
Scotland.
Scotland.
They're<00:28:22.399> comfortable.
They're comfortable.
They're comfortable.
Mhm.<00:28:25.039> So<00:28:25.279> are<00:28:25.440> tennis<00:28:25.760> shoes.<00:28:26.640> I<00:28:26.880> brought
Mhm. So are tennis shoes. I brought
Mhm. So are tennis shoes. I brought
tennis<00:28:27.440> shoes.<00:28:28.159> That's<00:28:28.559> true.<00:28:29.200> That's<00:28:29.520> We<00:28:29.840> all
tennis shoes. That's true. That's We all
tennis shoes. That's true. That's We all
brought<00:28:30.640> footwear.<00:28:31.200> Anyways,<00:28:31.679> back<00:28:31.919> to<00:28:32.080> Gus.
brought footwear. Anyways, back to Gus.
brought footwear. Anyways, back to Gus.
He<00:28:32.799> peed<00:28:33.039> me<00:28:33.200> off<00:28:33.360> cuz<00:28:33.520> she<00:28:33.679> was<00:28:33.760> flirting<00:28:34.080> with
He peed me off cuz she was flirting with
He peed me off cuz she was flirting with
the<00:28:34.320> vet<00:28:35.039> and<00:28:35.279> then<00:28:35.840> he<00:28:36.159> got<00:28:36.320> all<00:28:37.440> pissy<00:28:37.919> about
the vet and then he got all pissy about
the vet and then he got all pissy about
it.<00:28:38.480> And<00:28:38.640> rather<00:28:38.960> than<00:28:39.279> talking<00:28:39.600> to<00:28:39.840> her<00:28:40.320> like
it. And rather than talking to her like
it. And rather than talking to her like
a<00:28:41.440> a<00:28:41.840> grown<00:28:42.320> ass<00:28:42.640> 36y<00:28:43.200> old<00:28:43.520> man<00:28:43.840> should,
a a grown ass 36y old man should,
a a grown ass 36y old man should,
communication<00:28:45.520> is<00:28:45.840> usually<00:28:46.240> key.
communication is usually key.
communication is usually key.
That's<00:28:47.440> another<00:28:47.760> big<00:28:48.000> counseling<00:28:48.399> tip.
That's another big counseling tip.
That's another big counseling tip.
shuts<00:28:49.840> her<00:28:50.080> down<00:28:50.399> and<00:28:50.720> she's<00:28:51.039> over<00:28:51.279> here<00:28:51.520> like
shuts her down and she's over here like
shuts her down and she's over here like
now<00:28:52.080> she's<00:28:52.480> in<00:28:52.640> her<00:28:52.880> head<00:28:53.120> and<00:28:53.360> overthinking
now she's in her head and overthinking
now she's in her head and overthinking
everything<00:28:54.240> cuz<00:28:54.480> she's<00:28:54.720> like,<00:28:54.799> "Well,
everything cuz she's like, "Well,
everything cuz she's like, "Well,
what<00:28:56.159> the<00:28:56.320> [ __ ]<00:28:56.640> We<00:28:56.799> had<00:28:57.039> sex<00:28:57.360> and<00:28:57.600> now<00:28:57.679> you're
what the [ __ ] We had sex and now you're
what the [ __ ] We had sex and now you're
treating<00:28:58.159> me<00:28:58.320> like<00:28:58.640> shit."<00:28:59.279> So,<00:28:59.600> this<00:28:59.760> is<00:29:00.480> such
treating me like shit." So, this is such
treating me like shit." So, this is such
a<00:29:00.960> great<00:29:01.120> point<00:29:01.279> you<00:29:01.520> brought<00:29:01.679> up<00:29:01.919> because<00:29:02.240> I'm
a great point you brought up because I'm
a great point you brought up because I'm
going<00:29:02.720> to<00:29:02.960> I'm<00:29:03.200> going<00:29:03.279> to<00:29:03.440> conceptualize<00:29:04.080> this
going to I'm going to conceptualize this
going to I'm going to conceptualize this
again<00:29:04.720> with<00:29:05.039> EFT
again with EFT
again with EFT
because<00:29:06.480> he<00:29:06.799> refuses<00:29:07.279> to<00:29:07.520> feel<00:29:07.760> his<00:29:08.000> emotions
because he refuses to feel his emotions
because he refuses to feel his emotions
about<00:29:08.640> this.<00:29:09.039> He<00:29:09.360> is<00:29:09.679> genuinely<00:29:10.399> hurt
about this. He is genuinely hurt
about this. He is genuinely hurt
and<00:29:11.440> he<00:29:11.679> is<00:29:11.840> hurt<00:29:12.159> by<00:29:12.320> Teddy<00:29:12.799> because<00:29:13.039> he<00:29:13.600> feels
and he is hurt by Teddy because he feels
and he is hurt by Teddy because he feels
rejected.<00:29:15.120> He<00:29:15.440> feels<00:29:15.600> a<00:29:15.840> sense<00:29:16.000> of<00:29:16.159> rejection
rejected. He feels a sense of rejection
rejected. He feels a sense of rejection
and<00:29:17.679> so<00:29:17.919> that<00:29:18.240> he's<00:29:18.480> like,<00:29:18.720> I'm<00:29:18.799> I'm<00:29:19.120> upset<00:29:19.520> by
and so that he's like, I'm I'm upset by
and so that he's like, I'm I'm upset by
this.<00:29:19.919> I'm<00:29:20.080> hurt<00:29:20.320> by<00:29:20.480> this.<00:29:20.799> And<00:29:20.960> instead<00:29:21.360> of
this. I'm hurt by this. And instead of
this. I'm hurt by this. And instead of
processing<00:29:22.159> it<00:29:22.320> and<00:29:22.640> feeling<00:29:22.960> it<00:29:23.520> and<00:29:24.000> having
processing it and feeling it and having
processing it and feeling it and having
a<00:29:24.720> conversation<00:29:25.360> about<00:29:25.600> it,
a conversation about it,
a conversation about it,
he<00:29:27.600> rejects<00:29:28.240> those<00:29:28.559> feelings<00:29:29.039> of<00:29:29.360> rejection,
he rejects those feelings of rejection,
he rejects those feelings of rejection,
thinking<00:29:30.720> that<00:29:31.039> this<00:29:31.360> double<00:29:31.679> negative<00:29:32.000> is
thinking that this double negative is
thinking that this double negative is
going<00:29:32.320> to<00:29:32.399> make<00:29:32.480> a<00:29:32.720> positive,<00:29:33.200> but<00:29:33.360> it
going to make a positive, but it
going to make a positive, but it
doesn't.<00:29:33.840> It<00:29:34.080> just<00:29:34.320> increases<00:29:35.039> negative
doesn't. It just increases negative
doesn't. It just increases negative
emotions.
emotions.
emotions.
And<00:29:37.039> then<00:29:37.279> he<00:29:37.679> ices<00:29:38.080> her<00:29:38.320> out<00:29:39.120> like<00:29:39.440> throws<00:29:39.840> a
And then he ices her out like throws a
And then he ices her out like throws a
little<00:29:40.240> temper<00:29:40.640> tantrum.
little temper tantrum.
little temper tantrum.
Mhm.
Mhm.
Mhm.
Doesn't<00:29:42.480> talk<00:29:42.640> to<00:29:42.799> her.<00:29:43.200> Nope.<00:29:43.919> doesn't
Doesn't talk to her. Nope. doesn't
Doesn't talk to her. Nope. doesn't
communicate.
communicate.
communicate.
Nope.
Nope.
Nope.
Shuts<00:29:46.880> the<00:29:47.039> door<00:29:47.360> on<00:29:47.679> like<00:29:48.320> physically<00:29:48.960> shuts
Shuts the door on like physically shuts
Shuts the door on like physically shuts
the<00:29:49.679> door<00:29:50.240> on.<00:29:50.559> He's<00:29:50.799> like,<00:29:50.960> "I'm<00:29:51.200> going<00:29:51.360> to<00:29:51.520> my
the door on. He's like, "I'm going to my
the door on. He's like, "I'm going to my
room."
room."
room."
He<00:29:52.640> doesn't<00:29:52.880> even<00:29:53.039> tell<00:29:53.200> her.
He doesn't even tell her.
He doesn't even tell her.
Yeah.<00:29:53.919> Just
Yeah. Just
Yeah. Just
he<00:29:54.399> just<00:29:54.559> goes
he just goes
he just goes
that<00:29:55.760> she<00:29:56.000> has<00:29:56.159> to<00:29:56.320> go<00:29:56.880> open<00:29:57.279> the<00:29:57.600> door<00:29:58.240> like
that she has to go open the door like
that she has to go open the door like
this<00:29:58.720> is<00:29:59.200> and<00:29:59.440> be<00:29:59.600> like,<00:29:59.760> "What<00:30:00.000> the<00:30:00.159> heck?<00:30:00.640> You
this is and be like, "What the heck? You
this is and be like, "What the heck? You
you<00:30:01.039> need<00:30:01.520> to
you need to
you need to
I<00:30:01.919> was<00:30:02.000> like,<00:30:02.080> "Okay,<00:30:02.480> Teddy,<00:30:02.880> pop<00:30:03.120> off."
I was like, "Okay, Teddy, pop off."
I was like, "Okay, Teddy, pop off."
Yeah.<00:30:04.080> No,<00:30:04.320> cuz<00:30:05.279> at<00:30:05.360> least<00:30:05.600> you're
Yeah. No, cuz at least you're
Yeah. No, cuz at least you're
communicating.
communicating.
communicating.
Yeah.<00:30:07.440> You<00:30:07.600> know<00:30:07.600> how<00:30:07.679> many<00:30:07.919> books<00:30:08.399> piss<00:30:08.720> me
Yeah. You know how many books piss me
Yeah. You know how many books piss me
off<00:30:09.120> though<00:30:09.279> at<00:30:09.520> the<00:30:09.760> fact<00:30:09.840> that<00:30:10.000> like<00:30:10.320> so<00:30:10.720> many
off though at the fact that like so many
off though at the fact that like so many
third<00:30:12.080> act<00:30:12.399> breakups<00:30:12.960> wouldn't<00:30:13.360> happen<00:30:14.320> if
third act breakups wouldn't happen if
third act breakups wouldn't happen if
they<00:30:14.880> just<00:30:15.200> communicated.
they just communicated.
they just communicated.
I<00:30:16.960> don't<00:30:17.120> think<00:30:17.679> the<00:30:18.000> romance<00:30:18.480> genre<00:30:19.919> would
I don't think the romance genre would
I don't think the romance genre would
exist<00:30:20.880> if<00:30:21.120> they<00:30:22.080> just<00:30:22.640> communicated.
exist if they just communicated.
exist if they just communicated.
I<00:30:23.679> know<00:30:23.840> you're<00:30:24.000> right.
I know you're right.
I know you're right.
The<00:30:24.480> book<00:30:24.640> I<00:30:24.960> just<00:30:25.200> recommended<00:30:25.679> to<00:30:25.840> you<00:30:26.640> Oh
The book I just recommended to you Oh
The book I just recommended to you Oh
god.
god.
god.
I<00:30:27.760> know<00:30:27.919> that's<00:30:28.159> that's<00:30:28.480> our<00:30:28.720> next<00:30:28.880> episode.
I know that's that's our next episode.
I know that's that's our next episode.
I'm<00:30:29.440> going<00:30:29.520> to<00:30:29.600> keep<00:30:29.760> teasing<00:30:30.080> it<00:30:30.320> cuz<00:30:31.520> if<00:30:32.559> if
I'm going to keep teasing it cuz if if
I'm going to keep teasing it cuz if if
they<00:30:33.039> just<00:30:33.279> communicated
they just communicated
they just communicated
communication<00:30:36.080> is<00:30:36.320> key.<00:30:36.720> Communication<00:30:37.279> is
communication is key. Communication is
communication is key. Communication is
key.<00:30:38.080> So,<00:30:38.320> third<00:30:38.640> act<00:30:38.960> breakups<00:30:39.440> are<00:30:39.600> okay<00:30:39.760> in
key. So, third act breakups are okay in
key. So, third act breakups are okay in
romance<00:30:40.399> book,<00:30:40.640> guys,<00:30:40.880> but<00:30:41.120> maybe<00:30:41.279> let's<00:30:41.520> not
romance book, guys, but maybe let's not
romance book, guys, but maybe let's not
have<00:30:41.760> third<00:30:42.000> act<00:30:42.240> breakups<00:30:42.559> in<00:30:42.640> our<00:30:42.880> actual
have third act breakups in our actual
have third act breakups in our actual
relationships.<00:30:44.240> Because<00:30:44.480> this<00:30:44.720> is<00:30:44.880> my<00:30:45.120> point.
relationships. Because this is my point.
relationships. Because this is my point.
If<00:30:47.039> you<00:30:48.159> are<00:30:48.480> brave<00:30:48.720> enough<00:30:48.960> to<00:30:49.200> say<00:30:49.360> you<00:30:49.679> love
If you are brave enough to say you love
If you are brave enough to say you love
someone,<00:30:51.200> then<00:30:51.440> you<00:30:51.679> need<00:30:51.840> to<00:30:52.000> be<00:30:52.159> brave
someone, then you need to be brave
someone, then you need to be brave
enough<00:30:53.360> to<00:30:53.679> be<00:30:53.840> able<00:30:54.080> to<00:30:54.399> talk<00:30:54.960> to<00:30:55.279> that
enough to be able to talk to that
enough to be able to talk to that
person.
person.
person.
Period.<00:30:57.760> You<00:30:58.000> need<00:30:58.159> to<00:30:58.320> be<00:30:58.480> able<00:30:58.720> to<00:30:59.039> face<00:30:59.360> that
Period. You need to be able to face that
Period. You need to be able to face that
fear<00:30:59.919> of<00:31:00.080> rejection,<00:31:01.120> which<00:31:01.360> is<00:31:01.600> scary.
fear of rejection, which is scary.
fear of rejection, which is scary.
Totally<00:31:02.480> scary.<00:31:02.880> And<00:31:03.120> like<00:31:03.360> they<00:31:03.679> may<00:31:03.919> leave
Totally scary. And like they may leave
Totally scary. And like they may leave
you,<00:31:04.480> but<00:31:04.720> if<00:31:04.960> you<00:31:05.279> really<00:31:05.679> love<00:31:05.919> them,<00:31:06.559> then
you, but if you really love them, then
you, but if you really love them, then
you<00:31:07.200> trust<00:31:07.919> that
you trust that
you trust that
they<00:31:09.679> are<00:31:09.919> going<00:31:10.080> to<00:31:10.320> do<00:31:10.480> what's<00:31:10.880> best<00:31:12.080> for<00:31:12.399> the
they are going to do what's best for the
they are going to do what's best for the
relationship.<00:31:13.279> And<00:31:13.520> that<00:31:13.919> genuinely<00:31:14.480> might
relationship. And that genuinely might
relationship. And that genuinely might
be,<00:31:15.279> "I'm<00:31:15.600> going<00:31:15.760> to<00:31:16.000> leave."
be, "I'm going to leave."
be, "I'm going to leave."
Mhm.
Mhm.
Mhm.
But<00:31:17.840> it<00:31:18.080> also<00:31:18.960> probably<00:31:19.360> is<00:31:19.679> going<00:31:19.760> to<00:31:19.840> be
But it also probably is going to be
But it also probably is going to be
like,<00:31:20.159> "Oh,<00:31:20.480> I<00:31:20.640> didn't<00:31:20.799> know<00:31:20.960> you<00:31:21.120> were
like, "Oh, I didn't know you were
like, "Oh, I didn't know you were
feeling<00:31:21.520> that<00:31:21.760> way."
feeling that way."
feeling that way."
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Let's<00:31:22.559> have<00:31:22.640> an<00:31:22.880> honest<00:31:23.120> and<00:31:23.360> open
Let's have an honest and open
Let's have an honest and open
conversation<00:31:24.159> about<00:31:24.480> that.
conversation about that.
conversation about that.
And<00:31:26.480> that's<00:31:26.720> just<00:31:26.960> not,<00:31:27.440> you<00:31:27.600> know,<00:31:27.919> that's
And that's just not, you know, that's
And that's just not, you know, that's
just<00:31:28.320> not<00:31:28.880> Gus.<00:31:29.840> My<00:31:30.159> low<00:31:30.399> point<00:31:30.880> for<00:31:31.120> Gus<00:31:31.440> in
just not Gus. My low point for Gus in
just not Gus. My low point for Gus in
this<00:31:31.840> whole<00:31:32.080> book<00:31:32.640> was<00:31:32.960> actually<00:31:33.279> right<00:31:33.440> at
this whole book was actually right at
this whole book was actually right at
the<00:31:33.840> beginning.
the beginning.
the beginning.
Gus<00:31:35.840> says,<00:31:36.080> and<00:31:36.320> I<00:31:36.480> quote,<00:31:37.120> "All<00:31:37.519> city<00:31:37.840> folks
Gus says, and I quote, "All city folks
Gus says, and I quote, "All city folks
are<00:31:38.320> [ __ ]<00:31:38.799> idiots.
are [ __ ] idiots.
are [ __ ] idiots.
I<00:31:41.200> actually<00:31:41.919> rolled<00:31:42.320> my<00:31:42.480> eyes,<00:31:42.880> so<00:31:43.200> don't<00:31:43.519> m<00:31:43.840> me
I actually rolled my eyes, so don't m me
I actually rolled my eyes, so don't m me
as<00:31:46.080> a<00:31:46.320> city<00:31:46.640> folk.
as a city folk.
as a city folk.
I'm<00:31:48.960> not<00:31:50.000> a<00:31:50.240> [ __ ]<00:31:50.720> idiot.<00:31:51.200> Just<00:31:51.440> an<00:31:51.760> idiot.
I'm not a [ __ ] idiot. Just an idiot.
I'm not a [ __ ] idiot. Just an idiot.
Y'all<00:31:55.039> hear<00:31:55.360> me?"
Y'all hear me?"
Y'all hear me?"
Anyway,<00:31:57.679> you're<00:31:57.919> right.<00:31:58.880> But<00:31:59.360> I<00:31:59.600> laughed<00:31:59.840> at
Anyway, you're right. But I laughed at
Anyway, you're right. But I laughed at
that<00:32:00.240> part.<00:32:00.799> I
that part. I
that part. I
I<00:32:03.279> like
I like
I like
sighed
sighed
sighed
and<00:32:06.640> just<00:32:06.880> was<00:32:07.120> like
and just was like
and just was like
I<00:32:07.760> feel<00:32:08.799> such<00:32:08.960> a<00:32:09.120> typical<00:32:09.519> though
I feel such a typical though
I feel such a typical though
like<00:32:12.720> country.
like country.
like country.
I<00:32:14.480> I've<00:32:14.720> literally<00:32:15.200> heard<00:32:15.760> a<00:32:16.240> guy<00:32:16.559> say<00:32:16.720> it.
I I've literally heard a guy say it.
I I've literally heard a guy say it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
In<00:32:18.159> Oklahoma<00:32:18.720> and<00:32:18.960> in<00:32:19.200> Texas,<00:32:19.840> I<00:32:20.080> have<00:32:20.320> heard
In Oklahoma and in Texas, I have heard
In Oklahoma and in Texas, I have heard
these<00:32:21.760> damn<00:32:22.159> city<00:32:22.480> folks.
these damn city folks.
these damn city folks.
Yeah.<00:32:23.279> Oh,<00:32:23.679> city<00:32:24.240> the<00:32:24.480> city<00:32:24.720> slickers.<00:32:25.120> I
Yeah. Oh, city the city slickers. I
Yeah. Oh, city the city slickers. I
literally<00:32:25.519> heard<00:32:25.760> someone<00:32:26.000> say<00:32:26.240> city
literally heard someone say city
literally heard someone say city
slickers<00:32:26.960> one<00:32:27.279> time<00:32:27.440> and<00:32:27.600> I<00:32:27.840> said,
slickers one time and I said,
slickers one time and I said,
"But<00:32:30.000> these<00:32:30.240> city<00:32:30.559> folk<00:32:30.880> don't<00:32:31.039> know<00:32:31.200> what<00:32:31.360> the
"But these city folk don't know what the
"But these city folk don't know what the
[ __ ]<00:32:31.760> they're<00:32:32.080> talking<00:32:32.240> about.<00:32:32.640> These<00:32:32.880> city
[ __ ] they're talking about. These city
[ __ ] they're talking about. These city
folk<00:32:33.519> coming<00:32:33.760> in."<00:32:34.159> I'm<00:32:34.320> like,
folk coming in." I'm like,
folk coming in." I'm like,
we<00:32:36.640> live<00:32:36.799> in<00:32:37.039> one<00:32:37.200> of<00:32:37.279> the<00:32:37.440> largest<00:32:37.760> cities
we live in one of the largest cities
we live in one of the largest cities
in<00:32:39.919> Texas<00:32:40.559> and<00:32:40.880> Texas<00:32:41.200> is<00:32:41.519> home<00:32:42.000> to<00:32:42.320> some<00:32:42.480> of
in Texas and Texas is home to some of
in Texas and Texas is home to some of
the<00:32:42.799> largest<00:32:43.200> cities<00:32:43.760> in<00:32:44.000> the<00:32:44.240> United<00:32:44.559> States.
the largest cities in the United States.
the largest cities in the United States.
Just<00:32:46.000> pointing<00:32:46.320> that<00:32:46.559> out.
Just pointing that out.
Just pointing that out.
Y'all<00:32:48.880> are<00:32:49.120> city<00:32:49.360> folk,<00:32:49.760> too.
Y'all are city folk, too.
Y'all are city folk, too.
Anyway,<00:32:52.399> that's<00:32:52.960> and<00:32:53.200> that's<00:32:53.440> on<00:32:53.760> my
Anyway, that's and that's on my
Anyway, that's and that's on my
frustration
frustration
frustration
with<00:32:56.480> people<00:32:56.880> who<00:32:57.200> hate<00:32:58.000> city<00:32:58.399> folk
with people who hate city folk
with people who hate city folk
because<00:33:01.120> I<00:33:01.519> feel<00:33:02.000> hurt<00:33:02.320> by<00:33:02.559> it<00:33:03.600> because<00:33:04.159> I'm<00:33:04.640> a
because I feel hurt by it because I'm a
because I feel hurt by it because I'm a
city<00:33:05.360> person.
city person.
city person.
We<00:33:08.159> can<00:33:08.320> tell<00:33:09.200> my<00:33:09.600> high<00:33:10.000> point<00:33:10.559> of<00:33:10.799> the<00:33:11.120> book
We can tell my high point of the book
We can tell my high point of the book
was<00:33:13.039> when<00:33:13.200> Teddy<00:33:13.760> called<00:33:14.000> Gus<00:33:14.399> after<00:33:14.720> her
was when Teddy called Gus after her
was when Teddy called Gus after her
fight<00:33:15.200> with<00:33:15.360> Emmy.
fight with Emmy.
fight with Emmy.
Which<00:33:17.440> low<00:33:17.840> point<00:33:18.720> Gus<00:33:19.039> was<00:33:19.279> like,<00:33:19.840> "Man,<00:33:20.320> it
Which low point Gus was like, "Man, it
Which low point Gus was like, "Man, it
sucks<00:33:20.799> that<00:33:21.120> my<00:33:21.360> girlfriend<00:33:21.840> and<00:33:22.080> my<00:33:22.320> sister
sucks that my girlfriend and my sister
sucks that my girlfriend and my sister
are<00:33:22.799> fighting.<00:33:24.080> What<00:33:24.320> a<00:33:24.480> bummer."
are fighting. What a bummer."
are fighting. What a bummer."
But<00:33:28.320> I<00:33:28.559> do<00:33:28.799> I<00:33:29.039> do<00:33:29.200> appreciate<00:33:29.679> though<00:33:29.840> that<00:33:30.080> he
But I do I do appreciate though that he
But I do I do appreciate though that he
didn't<00:33:30.559> step<00:33:30.799> in.<00:33:31.120> I<00:33:31.360> think<00:33:31.519> that<00:33:31.760> is<00:33:32.000> a
didn't step in. I think that is a
didn't step in. I think that is a
relationship
relationship
relationship
in<00:33:34.159> told<00:33:34.480> not<00:33:34.720> to<00:33:35.360> basically,
in told not to basically,
in told not to basically,
but<00:33:36.080> he<00:33:36.320> listened.<00:33:37.200> Most<00:33:37.440> men<00:33:37.679> have<00:33:37.840> selective
but he listened. Most men have selective
but he listened. Most men have selective
hearing.<00:33:38.880> So<00:33:39.919> I<00:33:40.240> appreciated<00:33:41.039> him<00:33:41.440> in<00:33:41.679> that
hearing. So I appreciated him in that
hearing. So I appreciated him in that
moment<00:33:42.320> because<00:33:42.640> he<00:33:42.880> was<00:33:43.039> so<00:33:43.360> excited<00:33:44.159> for<00:33:44.399> her
moment because he was so excited for her
moment because he was so excited for her
to<00:33:44.880> call<00:33:45.120> him.
to call him.
to call him.
And<00:33:48.320> like<00:33:48.640> I<00:33:48.799> I<00:33:49.120> wrote<00:33:49.360> down<00:33:49.840> the<00:33:50.000> the<00:33:50.320> line<00:33:50.559> she
And like I I wrote down the the line she
And like I I wrote down the the line she
said.<00:33:51.039> She<00:33:51.279> asked,<00:33:51.600> "Do<00:33:51.919> you<00:33:52.080> have<00:33:52.240> time<00:33:52.320> to
said. She asked, "Do you have time to
said. She asked, "Do you have time to
talk<00:33:52.799> something<00:33:53.120> through<00:33:53.360> with<00:33:53.519> me?"<00:33:54.480> I
talk something through with me?" I
talk something through with me?" I
grinned<00:33:55.200> because<00:33:55.440> it<00:33:55.679> felt<00:33:55.919> so<00:33:56.159> ordinary,<00:33:57.039> but
grinned because it felt so ordinary, but
grinned because it felt so ordinary, but
also<00:33:57.519> a<00:33:57.760> big<00:33:58.080> step<00:33:58.320> toward<00:33:58.640> a<00:33:58.880> relationship
also a big step toward a relationship
also a big step toward a relationship
that<00:33:59.440> felt<00:33:59.760> real,<00:34:00.320> the<00:34:00.559> type<00:34:00.720> of<00:34:00.880> relationship
that felt real, the type of relationship
that felt real, the type of relationship
that<00:34:01.600> would<00:34:01.760> last.<00:34:02.240> And<00:34:02.480> so<00:34:02.640> I<00:34:03.120> appreciated
that would last. And so I appreciated
that would last. And so I appreciated
that<00:34:03.919> he
that he
that he
really<00:34:05.919> liked<00:34:06.480> the<00:34:06.640> just<00:34:06.880> this<00:34:07.200> mundane,<00:34:08.480> hey,
really liked the just this mundane, hey,
really liked the just this mundane, hey,
I'm<00:34:08.960> having<00:34:09.119> an<00:34:09.280> issue.<00:34:09.599> Can<00:34:09.760> you<00:34:10.000> can<00:34:10.320> can<00:34:10.560> I
I'm having an issue. Can you can can I
I'm having an issue. Can you can can I
turn<00:34:10.960> to<00:34:11.200> you?<00:34:11.520> And<00:34:11.679> he<00:34:11.919> was<00:34:12.000> like,<00:34:12.320> yes,<00:34:12.879> I<00:34:13.440> I
turn to you? And he was like, yes, I I
turn to you? And he was like, yes, I I
recognize<00:34:14.320> that<00:34:14.480> that<00:34:14.800> is<00:34:15.599> good<00:34:15.839> for<00:34:16.000> our
recognize that that is good for our
recognize that that is good for our
relationship<00:34:16.639> and<00:34:16.960> good
relationship and good
relationship and good
and<00:34:18.960> that<00:34:19.119> I<00:34:19.359> can<00:34:19.520> I<00:34:19.760> can<00:34:19.839> help<00:34:20.000> you<00:34:20.079> in<00:34:20.320> this
and that I can I can help you in this
and that I can I can help you in this
time.
time.
time.
Although,<00:34:21.520> did<00:34:21.760> he?<00:34:22.000> No.<00:34:22.800> But<00:34:24.079> but<00:34:24.480> I<00:34:24.720> do<00:34:25.040> love
Although, did he? No. But but I do love
Although, did he? No. But but I do love
that<00:34:25.760> Teddy<00:34:26.079> and<00:34:26.240> Emmy<00:34:26.639> were<00:34:26.879> both<00:34:27.119> like,
that Teddy and Emmy were both like,
that Teddy and Emmy were both like,
we'll<00:34:27.679> work<00:34:27.919> this<00:34:28.079> out<00:34:28.320> ourselves.
we'll work this out ourselves.
we'll work this out ourselves.
We're<00:34:29.119> fine.<00:34:29.679> just<00:34:30.000> let<00:34:30.240> me
We're fine. just let me
We're fine. just let me
also<00:34:33.119> I<00:34:33.280> think<00:34:33.440> one<00:34:33.679> thing<00:34:33.760> that<00:34:34.000> was<00:34:34.079> really
also I think one thing that was really
also I think one thing that was really
cool<00:34:34.480> too<00:34:34.639> in<00:34:34.800> the<00:34:34.960> book<00:34:35.280> is<00:34:35.599> I<00:34:35.839> feel<00:34:36.000> like<00:34:36.159> you
cool too in the book is I feel like you
cool too in the book is I feel like you
saw<00:34:36.480> a<00:34:36.639> really<00:34:37.599> healthy<00:34:38.240> co-parenting
saw a really healthy co-parenting
saw a really healthy co-parenting
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relationship and I will say that Gus and
relationship and I will say that Gus and
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his the mother to his daughter Cam I
his the mother to his daughter Cam I
think<00:34:48.560> had<00:34:49.040> a<00:34:49.280> really<00:34:49.520> good<00:34:49.679> co-arenting
think had a really good co-arenting
think had a really good co-arenting
relationship<00:34:50.960> and<00:34:51.119> I<00:34:51.359> think<00:34:52.320> Teddy<00:34:52.720> being
relationship and I think Teddy being
relationship and I think Teddy being
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able to like openly talk about that with
able to like openly talk about that with
Gus<00:34:54.800> being<00:34:54.960> like<00:34:55.119> do<00:34:55.280> you<00:34:55.359> still<00:34:55.599> have
Gus being like do you still have
Gus being like do you still have
feelings<00:34:55.919> for<00:34:56.079> her?<00:34:56.800> Is<00:34:57.040> that<00:34:57.200> family
feelings for her? Is that family
feelings for her? Is that family
something<00:34:57.760> that<00:34:57.920> you<00:34:58.000> still<00:34:58.160> wish<00:34:58.320> you<00:34:58.480> would
something that you still wish you would
something that you still wish you would
have<00:34:58.720> had?<00:34:58.960> I<00:34:59.119> think<00:34:59.200> is<00:34:59.359> an<00:34:59.599> important
have had? I think is an important
have had? I think is an important
conversation<00:35:00.240> to<00:35:00.480> have<00:35:00.720> before<00:35:01.040> jumping<00:35:01.359> into
conversation to have before jumping into
conversation to have before jumping into
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a relationship with a single father like
a relationship with a single father like
that<00:35:04.320> because<00:35:04.480> I<00:35:04.640> think<00:35:04.720> that<00:35:04.880> is<00:35:05.040> important
that because I think that is important
that because I think that is important
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like if you do have lingering feelings
like if you do have lingering feelings
for<00:35:08.000> you<00:35:08.160> know<00:35:08.320> the<00:35:08.560> mother<00:35:08.720> of<00:35:08.800> your<00:35:08.960> children
for you know the mother of your children
for you know the mother of your children
it<00:35:09.440> makes<00:35:09.520> sense<00:35:09.760> like<00:35:10.000> that's<00:35:10.800> you<00:35:10.960> know<00:35:11.119> who
it makes sense like that's you know who
it makes sense like that's you know who
you<00:35:11.440> could<00:35:11.520> have<00:35:11.680> pictured<00:35:12.000> things<00:35:12.160> with<00:35:12.400> and
you could have pictured things with and
you could have pictured things with and
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like a family and he was like no he was
like a family and he was like no he was
like<00:35:15.280> I<00:35:15.520> like<00:35:15.680> our<00:35:16.000> situation<00:35:16.400> now<00:35:16.640> and<00:35:16.800> I
like I like our situation now and I
like I like our situation now and I
thought<00:35:17.040> it<00:35:17.200> was<00:35:17.280> really<00:35:17.359> cool<00:35:17.599> too<00:35:17.839> Cam<00:35:18.079> being
thought it was really cool too Cam being
thought it was really cool too Cam being
like
like
like
I'd<00:35:20.160> love<00:35:20.240> to<00:35:20.400> have<00:35:20.560> Teddy<00:35:20.880> as<00:35:21.200> a<00:35:21.359> bonus<00:35:21.760> parent
I'd love to have Teddy as a bonus parent
I'd love to have Teddy as a bonus parent
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and she's like I'm I love seeing you in
and she's like I'm I love seeing you in
love<00:35:25.040> and<00:35:25.200> so<00:35:25.359> she's<00:35:25.599> just<00:35:25.680> like<00:35:25.920> I'm<00:35:26.160> happy
love and so she's just like I'm happy
love and so she's just like I'm happy
that<00:35:27.119> you're<00:35:27.440> finally<00:35:27.839> like<00:35:28.160> basically
that you're finally like basically
that you're finally like basically
opening<00:35:29.119> up<00:35:29.200> your<00:35:29.359> doors<00:35:29.599> for<00:35:29.760> someone<00:35:30.000> else.
opening up your doors for someone else.
opening up your doors for someone else.
And<00:35:30.560> I<00:35:30.720> thought<00:35:30.800> that<00:35:30.960> was<00:35:31.119> really<00:35:31.359> cute.
And I thought that was really cute.
And I thought that was really cute.
I<00:35:32.480> agree.<00:35:32.880> I<00:35:33.119> I<00:35:33.440> was<00:35:33.599> like,<00:35:34.079> Cam<00:35:34.400> is<00:35:34.640> so<00:35:34.960> secure.
I agree. I I was like, Cam is so secure.
I agree. I I was like, Cam is so secure.
So<00:35:36.079> secure.
So secure.
So secure.
So<00:35:36.800> secure.<00:35:37.280> I<00:35:38.320> Which<00:35:38.560> I'm<00:35:38.720> sure<00:35:38.880> in<00:35:39.040> the<00:35:39.200> next
So secure. I Which I'm sure in the next
So secure. I Which I'm sure in the next
book,<00:35:39.839> Wild<00:35:40.240> and<00:35:40.480> Wrangled.
book, Wild and Wrangled.
book, Wild and Wrangled.
I<00:35:41.440> want<00:35:41.520> to<00:35:41.680> read<00:35:42.480> it<00:35:42.720> cuz<00:35:43.200> the<00:35:43.599> end<00:35:44.640> of<00:35:44.880> Lost
I want to read it cuz the end of Lost
I want to read it cuz the end of Lost
and<00:35:45.359> Lasso,
and Lasso,
and Lasso,
cuz<00:35:46.400> the<00:35:46.560> end<00:35:46.640> of<00:35:46.800> Lost<00:35:47.040> and<00:35:47.200> Lassid<00:35:47.680> sets<00:35:48.000> up
cuz the end of Lost and Lassid sets up
cuz the end of Lost and Lassid sets up
for<00:35:48.320> Wild<00:35:48.560> and<00:35:48.720> Wrangled,
for Wild and Wrangled,
for Wild and Wrangled,
which<00:35:50.400> coincidentally<00:35:51.440> we<00:35:51.760> got<00:35:52.160> at<00:35:52.880> a<00:35:53.440> that<00:35:53.760> we
which coincidentally we got at a that we
which coincidentally we got at a that we
went<00:35:54.079> to<00:35:54.240> a<00:35:54.480> country<00:35:54.800> themed<00:35:56.079> book<00:35:56.400> night<00:35:56.560> at<00:35:56.800> a
went to a country themed book night at a
went to a country themed book night at a
bookstore.<00:35:57.359> And<00:35:57.520> that's<00:35:58.880> a<00:35:59.119> local<00:35:59.359> bookstore.
bookstore. And that's a local bookstore.
bookstore. And that's a local bookstore.
Support<00:36:00.480> your<00:36:00.720> local<00:36:00.960> bookstores.
Support your local bookstores.
Support your local bookstores.
Support<00:36:01.839> your<00:36:02.000> local<00:36:02.320> bookstores.<00:36:03.200> And
Support your local bookstores. And
Support your local bookstores. And
that's<00:36:03.599> what<00:36:03.760> we<00:36:03.920> picked<00:36:04.160> up.<00:36:05.040> And
that's what we picked up. And
that's what we picked up. And
coincidentally,<00:36:05.839> I<00:36:06.000> also<00:36:06.240> had<00:36:06.480> I<00:36:06.640> hadn't<00:36:06.960> read
coincidentally, I also had I hadn't read
coincidentally, I also had I hadn't read
the<00:36:08.560> previous<00:36:08.880> one,<00:36:09.119> but<00:36:09.359> I<00:36:09.599> went<00:36:09.760> and<00:36:10.000> bought
the previous one, but I went and bought
the previous one, but I went and bought
the<00:36:10.560> next<00:36:10.720> one.<00:36:11.040> Anyway,<00:36:12.480> I<00:36:12.800> also<00:36:13.440> really<00:36:13.680> love
the next one. Anyway, I also really love
the next one. Anyway, I also really love
that<00:36:14.160> Cam<00:36:15.119> was<00:36:16.079> like,<00:36:16.640> Gus,<00:36:17.119> this<00:36:17.280> is<00:36:17.440> the<00:36:17.599> real
that Cam was like, Gus, this is the real
that Cam was like, Gus, this is the real
deal.<00:36:18.560> I
deal. I
deal. I
Teddy<00:36:19.920> is<00:36:20.160> so<00:36:20.400> good<00:36:20.560> with<00:36:20.880> Riley
Teddy is so good with Riley
Teddy is so good with Riley
and<00:36:22.880> so<00:36:23.119> supportive.<00:36:23.440> I<00:36:23.760> would<00:36:24.000> totally<00:36:24.560> be
and so supportive. I would totally be
and so supportive. I would totally be
happy<00:36:25.680> for<00:36:26.000> her<00:36:26.240> to<00:36:26.480> be<00:36:26.640> a<00:36:26.800> bonus<00:36:27.119> parent.<00:36:27.440> And
happy for her to be a bonus parent. And
happy for her to be a bonus parent. And
I<00:36:27.760> love<00:36:27.839> that<00:36:28.079> they<00:36:28.240> said<00:36:28.400> bonus<00:36:28.800> parents<00:36:29.119> cuz
I love that they said bonus parents cuz
I love that they said bonus parents cuz
I<00:36:30.480> think<00:36:31.200> like<00:36:31.520> I<00:36:31.760> don't<00:36:32.079> have<00:36:32.800> stepparents
I think like I don't have stepparents
I think like I don't have stepparents
and<00:36:34.160> I<00:36:34.960> haven't<00:36:35.359> had
and I haven't had
and I haven't had
personal<00:36:36.800> experience<00:36:37.280> with<00:36:37.520> that<00:36:37.760> and<00:36:38.000> I
personal experience with that and I
personal experience with that and I
would<00:36:38.400> just<00:36:38.720> imagine
would just imagine
would just imagine
that<00:36:41.200> that<00:36:41.440> would<00:36:41.599> be<00:36:41.760> really<00:36:42.000> hard.<00:36:42.320> Like<00:36:42.560> I<00:36:42.880> I
that that would be really hard. Like I I
that that would be really hard. Like I I
also<00:36:43.359> don't<00:36:43.520> have<00:36:43.680> kids,<00:36:44.000> but<00:36:44.240> if<00:36:44.400> I<00:36:44.560> did<00:36:44.720> have
also don't have kids, but if I did have
also don't have kids, but if I did have
a<00:36:44.960> kid<00:36:45.520> and<00:36:46.079> like<00:36:46.320> something<00:36:46.800> happened<00:36:47.200> where
a kid and like something happened where
a kid and like something happened where
like<00:36:47.920> someone<00:36:48.240> else<00:36:48.480> would<00:36:48.960> come<00:36:49.119> in<00:36:49.359> and
like someone else would come in and
like someone else would come in and
parent<00:36:49.920> my<00:36:50.079> kid,<00:36:50.320> like<00:36:50.560> I<00:36:50.800> could<00:36:50.960> see<00:36:51.200> myself
parent my kid, like I could see myself
parent my kid, like I could see myself
being
being
being
Yeah.<00:36:53.119> very<00:36:53.440> combative.<00:36:54.320> No,<00:36:54.560> for<00:36:54.800> sure.
Yeah. very combative. No, for sure.
Yeah. very combative. No, for sure.
And<00:36:55.680> she<00:36:56.000> was<00:36:56.240> so<00:36:56.640> open<00:36:56.880> to<00:36:57.119> it<00:36:57.680> and<00:36:58.880> like
And she was so open to it and like
And she was so open to it and like
really<00:36:59.440> respectful.<00:37:00.079> And<00:37:00.240> so<00:37:00.480> I<00:37:00.720> like<00:37:00.880> that
really respectful. And so I like that
really respectful. And so I like that
Gus<00:37:01.520> also<00:37:01.839> had<00:37:02.079> a<00:37:02.240> pause<00:37:02.640> though<00:37:02.880> about<00:37:03.119> it
Gus also had a pause though about it
Gus also had a pause though about it
like<00:37:03.520> this.<00:37:03.680> I<00:37:03.839> do<00:37:04.000> think<00:37:04.160> Gus<00:37:04.480> takes<00:37:04.720> his
like this. I do think Gus takes his
like this. I do think Gus takes his
parenting<00:37:05.359> very<00:37:05.680> seriously.<00:37:06.480> Yeah.
parenting very seriously. Yeah.
parenting very seriously. Yeah.
Which<00:37:07.200> green<00:37:07.520> flag<00:37:07.920> love<00:37:08.560> super<00:37:09.200> super<00:37:09.520> great.
Which green flag love super super great.
Which green flag love super super great.
I<00:37:10.079> think<00:37:10.160> he<00:37:10.400> really<00:37:10.560> wants<00:37:10.800> to<00:37:11.040> provide<00:37:12.480> as
I think he really wants to provide as
I think he really wants to provide as
good<00:37:13.280> of<00:37:13.839> a<00:37:15.200> life<00:37:15.520> for<00:37:15.839> his<00:37:16.160> daughter<00:37:16.480> as<00:37:16.640> he
good of a life for his daughter as he
good of a life for his daughter as he
can<00:37:17.119> and<00:37:17.359> I<00:37:17.520> I<00:37:17.920> really<00:37:18.160> love<00:37:18.320> that.
can and I I really love that.
can and I I really love that.
Um<00:37:20.720> but<00:37:21.040> I<00:37:21.359> think<00:37:21.680> it's<00:37:22.079> hard<00:37:22.560> and<00:37:22.800> they<00:37:23.040> didn't
Um but I think it's hard and they didn't
Um but I think it's hard and they didn't
touch<00:37:23.680> on<00:37:23.839> this<00:37:24.400> to<00:37:24.880> kind<00:37:25.119> of<00:37:25.200> merge
touch on this to kind of merge
touch on this to kind of merge
Yeah.<00:37:26.720> families.<00:37:27.200> And<00:37:27.440> even<00:37:27.599> though<00:37:27.760> Teddy
Yeah. families. And even though Teddy
Yeah. families. And even though Teddy
and<00:37:28.240> Riley<00:37:28.560> really<00:37:28.800> get<00:37:28.960> on,
and Riley really get on,
and Riley really get on,
like<00:37:30.800> Riley's<00:37:31.359> young<00:37:31.760> and<00:37:32.000> she<00:37:32.240> might,<00:37:32.960> you
like Riley's young and she might, you
like Riley's young and she might, you
know,<00:37:33.359> start<00:37:33.599> to<00:37:33.760> see
know, start to see
know, start to see
uh<00:37:36.560> her<00:37:36.800> dad<00:37:37.119> hanging<00:37:37.440> out<00:37:37.520> with<00:37:37.680> Teddy<00:37:38.079> more
uh her dad hanging out with Teddy more
uh her dad hanging out with Teddy more
and<00:37:38.560> that<00:37:38.800> can<00:37:38.960> threaten<00:37:40.079> their<00:37:40.400> relationship
and that can threaten their relationship
and that can threaten their relationship
and<00:37:41.920> then<00:37:42.560> she<00:37:42.800> doesn't<00:37:43.040> know<00:37:43.119> how<00:37:43.280> to<00:37:43.359> handle
and then she doesn't know how to handle
and then she doesn't know how to handle
that.<00:37:43.839> So,<00:37:44.079> just<00:37:44.320> being<00:37:44.560> able<00:37:44.720> to<00:37:44.880> have<00:37:44.960> those
that. So, just being able to have those
that. So, just being able to have those
healthy<00:37:45.520> conversations,<00:37:46.800> I<00:37:47.040> think,<00:37:47.200> with
healthy conversations, I think, with
healthy conversations, I think, with
Riley<00:37:48.640> and<00:37:48.880> set<00:37:49.040> those<00:37:49.280> boundaries<00:37:49.680> with<00:37:49.920> her
Riley and set those boundaries with her
Riley and set those boundaries with her
and<00:37:50.320> know<00:37:50.640> like<00:37:50.880> it's<00:37:51.280> not<00:37:52.079> you,<00:37:52.320> it's<00:37:52.480> just
and know like it's not you, it's just
and know like it's not you, it's just
this<00:37:52.880> is<00:37:52.960> a<00:37:53.119> new<00:37:53.280> relationship.<00:37:53.760> So<00:37:53.920> like
this is a new relationship. So like
this is a new relationship. So like
Thursday<00:37:54.400> nights<00:37:54.800> are<00:37:55.119> always<00:37:55.359> going<00:37:55.520> to<00:37:55.599> be
Thursday nights are always going to be
Thursday nights are always going to be
you<00:37:56.640> and<00:37:56.800> me.
you and me.
you and me.
Yeah.<00:37:57.520> You<00:37:57.680> and<00:37:57.920> me<00:37:58.320> because<00:37:58.720> our
Yeah. You and me because our
Yeah. You and me because our
relationship<00:37:59.599> is<00:37:59.839> still<00:38:00.079> special.
relationship is still special.
relationship is still special.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Or<00:38:02.640> I'm<00:38:03.359> And<00:38:03.599> then<00:38:03.680> he<00:38:03.920> has<00:38:04.000> to<00:38:04.160> do<00:38:04.240> the<00:38:04.400> same
Or I'm And then he has to do the same
Or I'm And then he has to do the same
thing<00:38:04.880> with<00:38:05.119> tech.<00:38:05.520> Like<00:38:05.680> he<00:38:05.920> has<00:38:06.079> to<00:38:06.320> have
thing with tech. Like he has to have
thing with tech. Like he has to have
those<00:38:06.720> boundaries<00:38:07.359> with<00:38:07.680> both<00:38:07.839> of<00:38:08.000> them<00:38:08.160> to
those boundaries with both of them to
those boundaries with both of them to
create<00:38:08.640> balance<00:38:09.359> because<00:38:09.680> also
create balance because also
create balance because also
I<00:38:11.440> don't<00:38:11.520> want<00:38:11.680> to
I don't want to
I don't want to
and<00:38:13.520> I'm<00:38:13.760> going<00:38:13.839> to<00:38:13.920> say<00:38:14.079> this<00:38:14.240> in<00:38:14.480> a<00:38:14.560> way<00:38:14.800> like
and I'm going to say this in a way like
and I'm going to say this in a way like
I<00:38:15.119> don't<00:38:15.200> know<00:38:15.359> the<00:38:15.520> best<00:38:15.680> way<00:38:15.760> to<00:38:15.839> say<00:38:16.079> but
I don't know the best way to say but
I don't know the best way to say but
like<00:38:16.400> I<00:38:16.480> don't<00:38:16.560> want<00:38:16.640> to<00:38:16.720> be<00:38:16.880> second<00:38:17.119> fiddle<00:38:17.440> to
like I don't want to be second fiddle to
like I don't want to be second fiddle to
the<00:38:17.760> kid<00:38:18.079> all<00:38:18.320> the<00:38:18.480> time.
the kid all the time.
the kid all the time.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like<00:38:19.920> I<00:38:20.160> also<00:38:20.400> want<00:38:20.480> to<00:38:20.640> be<00:38:20.720> a<00:38:20.880> priority.<00:38:21.440> Like
Like I also want to be a priority. Like
Like I also want to be a priority. Like
I<00:38:21.760> want<00:38:21.839> us<00:38:22.079> to<00:38:22.240> both<00:38:22.480> be<00:38:22.800> priorities.
I want us to both be priorities.
I want us to both be priorities.
Mhm.
Mhm.
Mhm.
I<00:38:24.560> think<00:38:24.640> it's<00:38:24.880> important<00:38:25.200> that<00:38:25.520> you<00:38:25.760> model
I think it's important that you model
I think it's important that you model
the<00:38:27.920> way<00:38:28.000> that<00:38:28.160> you<00:38:28.400> treat<00:38:28.960> a<00:38:29.200> woman<00:38:29.680> in<00:38:30.000> front
the way that you treat a woman in front
the way that you treat a woman in front
of<00:38:30.480> your<00:38:30.720> daughter<00:38:30.960> cuz<00:38:31.119> I<00:38:31.280> think<00:38:31.359> it's
of your daughter cuz I think it's
of your daughter cuz I think it's
important<00:38:31.839> for<00:38:32.079> them<00:38:32.400> then<00:38:32.720> to<00:38:32.880> grow<00:38:33.040> up<00:38:33.280> of
important for them then to grow up of
important for them then to grow up of
like,<00:38:33.839> okay,<00:38:34.160> no,<00:38:34.880> what<00:38:35.119> you're<00:38:35.280> doing<00:38:35.440> to<00:38:35.680> me
like, okay, no, what you're doing to me
like, okay, no, what you're doing to me
is<00:38:36.079> not<00:38:37.040> what<00:38:37.280> my<00:38:37.520> dad<00:38:37.680> would<00:38:37.839> have<00:38:38.000> done<00:38:38.240> for
is not what my dad would have done for
is not what my dad would have done for
my<00:38:39.920> mom<00:38:40.079> or<00:38:40.320> my<00:38:40.480> stepmom,<00:38:41.119> whatever.
my mom or my stepmom, whatever.
my mom or my stepmom, whatever.
Yeah.<00:38:43.280> And<00:38:43.520> modeling<00:38:44.000> is<00:38:44.160> huge<00:38:44.320> for<00:38:44.560> kids.
Yeah. And modeling is huge for kids.
Yeah. And modeling is huge for kids.
I<00:38:45.920> think<00:38:46.160> Gus<00:38:46.560> did<00:38:46.720> a<00:38:46.960> good<00:38:47.119> job<00:38:47.359> of<00:38:47.520> that.<00:38:47.920> So
I think Gus did a good job of that. So
I think Gus did a good job of that. So
even<00:38:48.480> at<00:38:48.720> the<00:38:48.880> beginning<00:38:49.040> when<00:38:49.359> he's<00:38:49.680> really
even at the beginning when he's really
even at the beginning when he's really
anti-<00:38:52.000> Teddy,<00:38:52.960> he<00:38:53.200> was<00:38:53.359> never<00:38:53.680> anti-Tedy<00:38:54.560> in
anti- Teddy, he was never anti-Tedy in
anti- Teddy, he was never anti-Tedy in
front<00:38:55.040> of<00:38:56.400> his<00:38:56.720> daughter.<00:38:57.680> And<00:38:58.000> even<00:38:58.240> as<00:38:58.480> they
front of his daughter. And even as they
front of his daughter. And even as they
started<00:38:58.880> to<00:38:59.119> explore<00:39:00.320> their<00:39:00.640> relationship,
started to explore their relationship,
started to explore their relationship,
he<00:39:02.079> tried<00:39:02.480> to<00:39:03.280> keep<00:39:03.520> it<00:39:04.079> and<00:39:04.320> kids<00:39:04.640> are
he tried to keep it and kids are
he tried to keep it and kids are
perceptive.<00:39:05.440> They<00:39:05.680> can<00:39:06.480> like<00:39:06.960> please<00:39:07.359> give
perceptive. They can like please give
perceptive. They can like please give
kids<00:39:07.839> more<00:39:08.000> credit.<00:39:08.480> But<00:39:08.560> at<00:39:08.640> least<00:39:08.880> he<00:39:09.119> tried.
kids more credit. But at least he tried.
kids more credit. But at least he tried.
He<00:39:10.240> tried<00:39:10.480> to<00:39:10.640> keep<00:39:10.800> it<00:39:11.200> out<00:39:11.440> of<00:39:11.920> I<00:39:12.079> thought<00:39:12.240> it
He tried to keep it out of I thought it
He tried to keep it out of I thought it
was<00:39:12.560> really<00:39:12.960> funny<00:39:13.760> that
was really funny that
was really funny that
in<00:39:16.079> the<00:39:16.320> scene<00:39:16.640> in<00:39:16.800> the<00:39:16.960> book<00:39:17.200> they<00:39:17.440> were
in the scene in the book they were
in the scene in the book they were
facetiming<00:39:18.160> or<00:39:18.400> Cam<00:39:18.640> had<00:39:18.800> facetimed<00:39:19.359> them<00:39:19.760> and
facetiming or Cam had facetimed them and
facetiming or Cam had facetimed them and
Riley<00:39:20.480> was<00:39:20.720> showing<00:39:20.880> a<00:39:21.040> picture<00:39:21.280> that<00:39:21.440> she
Riley was showing a picture that she
Riley was showing a picture that she
drew<00:39:22.400> and<00:39:22.960> Gus<00:39:23.200> and<00:39:23.440> Teddy<00:39:23.760> were<00:39:23.920> holding
drew and Gus and Teddy were holding
drew and Gus and Teddy were holding
hands
hands
hands
and<00:39:25.920> Cam<00:39:26.640> uh<00:39:26.800> her<00:39:27.040> mom<00:39:27.200> was<00:39:27.440> like,<00:39:27.520> "What<00:39:27.760> are
and Cam uh her mom was like, "What are
and Cam uh her mom was like, "What are
what<00:39:28.960> are<00:39:29.119> Gus<00:39:29.440> and<00:39:29.680> Teddy<00:39:30.079> doing?"<00:39:30.320> And<00:39:30.640> they
what are Gus and Teddy doing?" And they
what are Gus and Teddy doing?" And they
were<00:39:30.960> like<00:39:31.280> holding<00:39:31.599> hands.<00:39:32.000> They<00:39:32.240> do<00:39:32.320> that
were like holding hands. They do that
were like holding hands. They do that
sometimes.<00:39:33.599> And<00:39:33.760> they<00:39:34.000> thought<00:39:34.079> they<00:39:34.320> were
sometimes. And they thought they were
sometimes. And they thought they were
keeping<00:39:34.640> it<00:39:34.880> like<00:39:35.119> under<00:39:35.359> wraps<00:39:36.400> and<00:39:36.640> they
keeping it like under wraps and they
keeping it like under wraps and they
were<00:39:37.200> not.<00:39:38.160> And<00:39:38.320> I<00:39:38.480> thought<00:39:38.640> that<00:39:38.880> was<00:39:39.520> it<00:39:39.680> was
were not. And I thought that was it was
were not. And I thought that was it was
cute.
cute.
cute.
Yeah,
Yeah,
Yeah,
it<00:39:41.440> was<00:39:41.599> cute.<00:39:42.560> And<00:39:42.800> so<00:39:43.119> I<00:39:43.359> do<00:39:43.520> think<00:39:43.599> Gus<00:39:43.920> does
it was cute. And so I do think Gus does
it was cute. And so I do think Gus does
a<00:39:44.240> good<00:39:44.320> job<00:39:44.560> modeling<00:39:45.040> like<00:39:46.079> respecting
a good job modeling like respecting
a good job modeling like respecting
respecting<00:39:48.240> women,
respecting women,
respecting women,
but<00:39:49.599> I<00:39:49.839> also<00:39:50.079> need<00:39:50.240> him<00:39:50.480> to<00:39:50.640> do<00:39:50.800> a<00:39:50.960> good<00:39:51.119> job<00:39:51.280> of
but I also need him to do a good job of
but I also need him to do a good job of
like<00:39:51.760> respecting<00:39:52.320> himself.
like respecting himself.
like respecting himself.
I<00:39:53.119> agree.
I agree.
I agree.
And<00:39:54.240> his<00:39:54.480> own<00:39:54.640> emotions.<00:39:55.200> Like<00:39:55.520> he's<00:39:55.920> working
And his own emotions. Like he's working
And his own emotions. Like he's working
himself
himself
himself
so<00:39:58.400> hard,<00:39:58.800> putting<00:39:59.040> the<00:39:59.200> weight<00:39:59.359> of<00:39:59.520> the<00:39:59.680> world
so hard, putting the weight of the world
so hard, putting the weight of the world
on<00:40:00.000> his<00:40:00.240> shoulders
on his shoulders
on his shoulders
and<00:40:01.839> really<00:40:02.320> tamping<00:40:02.800> down<00:40:02.960> on<00:40:03.200> a<00:40:03.359> lot<00:40:03.520> of
and really tamping down on a lot of
and really tamping down on a lot of
feelings.<00:40:04.480> And<00:40:04.880> by<00:40:05.200> not<00:40:05.520> having<00:40:05.760> that<00:40:06.000> healthy
feelings. And by not having that healthy
feelings. And by not having that healthy
relationship<00:40:06.720> with<00:40:06.960> his<00:40:07.280> own<00:40:07.520> experiences
relationship with his own experiences
relationship with his own experiences
and<00:40:08.560> his<00:40:08.800> own<00:40:08.960> feelings,
and his own feelings,
and his own feelings,
he's<00:40:10.720> modeling<00:40:11.200> that<00:40:12.400> for<00:40:13.040> Riley.<00:40:14.160> And
he's modeling that for Riley. And
he's modeling that for Riley. And
I<00:40:16.160> think<00:40:16.400> as<00:40:16.640> you<00:40:16.880> watch<00:40:17.359> Gus's<00:40:17.920> character
I think as you watch Gus's character
I think as you watch Gus's character
open<00:40:20.480> up<00:40:20.720> more,<00:40:21.200> he<00:40:21.440> never<00:40:21.920> actually<00:40:22.240> pauses
open up more, he never actually pauses
open up more, he never actually pauses
and<00:40:22.800> self-reflect,<00:40:23.440> which<00:40:23.599> is<00:40:23.760> going<00:40:23.920> to<00:40:24.000> be<00:40:24.079> a
and self-reflect, which is going to be a
and self-reflect, which is going to be a
huge<00:40:24.480> thing<00:40:24.560> that<00:40:24.800> I'm<00:40:25.040> always<00:40:25.200> going<00:40:25.280> to
huge thing that I'm always going to
huge thing that I'm always going to
encourage<00:40:25.760> someone<00:40:26.000> to<00:40:26.240> do.<00:40:27.599> Take<00:40:27.839> a<00:40:28.000> beat.<00:40:28.480> I
encourage someone to do. Take a beat. I
encourage someone to do. Take a beat. I
think<00:40:28.720> the<00:40:28.960> only<00:40:29.040> time<00:40:29.200> he<00:40:29.440> really<00:40:29.839> gets<00:40:30.160> close
think the only time he really gets close
think the only time he really gets close
to<00:40:30.560> doing<00:40:30.800> it<00:40:31.040> is<00:40:31.359> when<00:40:31.760> Cam's<00:40:32.160> going<00:40:32.320> to<00:40:32.400> pick
to doing it is when Cam's going to pick
to doing it is when Cam's going to pick
up<00:40:32.720> Riley<00:40:33.040> at<00:40:33.200> the<00:40:33.280> end<00:40:33.359> of<00:40:33.440> the<00:40:33.599> book<00:40:34.160> and<00:40:34.400> she
up Riley at the end of the book and she
up Riley at the end of the book and she
like<00:40:34.800> sits<00:40:35.040> down<00:40:35.200> with<00:40:35.359> him<00:40:35.440> and<00:40:35.599> is<00:40:35.760> like<00:40:36.000> so
like sits down with him and is like so
like sits down with him and is like so
like<00:40:36.880> what's<00:40:37.200> going<00:40:37.359> on<00:40:37.520> with<00:40:37.760> you?<00:40:38.000> like
like what's going on with you? like
like what's going on with you? like
making<00:40:38.560> him<00:40:38.720> sit<00:40:38.880> there<00:40:39.040> and<00:40:39.280> explain<00:40:40.480> what
making him sit there and explain what
making him sit there and explain what
he's<00:40:40.880> feeling.
he's feeling.
he's feeling.
It's<00:40:41.200> also<00:40:41.440> like<00:40:41.599> he<00:40:41.839> needed<00:40:42.160> someone<00:40:42.480> else<00:40:42.800> to
It's also like he needed someone else to
It's also like he needed someone else to
do<00:40:43.119> that.
do that.
do that.
The<00:40:43.440> fact<00:40:43.599> that<00:40:43.760> someone<00:40:43.920> else<00:40:44.160> had<00:40:44.400> to<00:40:44.800> Mhm.
The fact that someone else had to Mhm.
The fact that someone else had to Mhm.
which<00:40:46.880> is<00:40:46.960> a<00:40:47.119> bigger<00:40:47.440> like<00:40:48.160> but<00:40:48.400> it's<00:40:48.640> good
which is a bigger like but it's good
which is a bigger like but it's good
that<00:40:48.960> he<00:40:49.119> has<00:40:49.280> those<00:40:49.520> people<00:40:49.680> in<00:40:49.839> his<00:40:50.000> life.
that he has those people in his life.
that he has those people in his life.
That's<00:40:50.640> also<00:40:50.880> so<00:40:51.200> important.<00:40:51.520> Like<00:40:51.680> he<00:40:51.920> has
That's also so important. Like he has
That's also so important. Like he has
set<00:40:52.400> up<00:40:52.640> a<00:40:52.960> lot<00:40:53.119> of<00:40:53.200> great<00:40:53.520> relationships<00:40:54.160> in
set up a lot of great relationships in
set up a lot of great relationships in
his<00:40:54.640> life
his life
his life
and<00:40:55.920> so<00:40:56.079> I<00:40:56.319> really<00:40:57.119> I<00:40:57.440> really<00:40:57.760> hope
and so I really I really hope
and so I really I really hope
and<00:40:58.880> I<00:40:59.119> think
and I think
and I think
Teddy<00:41:00.560> is<00:41:00.800> another<00:41:01.040> one<00:41:01.200> of<00:41:01.359> those
Teddy is another one of those
Teddy is another one of those
relationships.<00:41:02.079> Like<00:41:02.400> I
relationships. Like I
relationships. Like I
I<00:41:03.920> don't<00:41:04.319> I<00:41:04.560> don't<00:41:04.800> think<00:41:05.040> this<00:41:05.280> is
I don't I don't think this is
I don't I don't think this is
necessarily<00:41:06.640> a<00:41:06.960> completely<00:41:07.359> unhealthy
necessarily a completely unhealthy
necessarily a completely unhealthy
example<00:41:08.640> of<00:41:08.880> a<00:41:09.119> relationship.<00:41:09.760> Of<00:41:10.000> all<00:41:10.240> of<00:41:10.319> the
example of a relationship. Of all of the
example of a relationship. Of all of the
books<00:41:10.640> we've<00:41:10.960> read,
books we've read,
books we've read,
I'm<00:41:12.560> not<00:41:12.720> as<00:41:13.040> concerned<00:41:13.839> about<00:41:14.079> this<00:41:14.319> couple
I'm not as concerned about this couple
I'm not as concerned about this couple
as<00:41:14.880> I<00:41:15.119> have<00:41:15.280> been
as I have been
as I have been
for<00:41:16.400> some<00:41:16.640> other<00:41:16.960> couples.
for some other couples.
for some other couples.
Agreed.<00:41:18.960> Agreed.<00:41:19.440> I<00:41:19.680> will<00:41:19.839> say<00:41:20.000> though,<00:41:20.240> I
Agreed. Agreed. I will say though, I
Agreed. Agreed. I will say though, I
it's<00:41:21.599> just<00:41:21.760> my<00:41:22.000> own<00:41:22.160> preference<00:41:22.720> though.<00:41:23.040> I
it's just my own preference though. I
it's just my own preference though. I
thought<00:41:23.440> it<00:41:23.599> was<00:41:23.839> a<00:41:24.160> very<00:41:24.319> interesting
thought it was a very interesting
thought it was a very interesting
timeline<00:41:25.119> on<00:41:25.359> like<00:41:25.520> how<00:41:25.760> fast<00:41:26.000> they<00:41:26.240> got
timeline on like how fast they got
timeline on like how fast they got
engaged<00:41:26.800> and<00:41:27.040> then<00:41:27.200> how<00:41:27.359> fast<00:41:27.520> they<00:41:27.680> were
engaged and then how fast they were
engaged and then how fast they were
trying<00:41:28.000> for<00:41:28.160> a<00:41:28.319> kid.
trying for a kid.
trying for a kid.
Oh<00:41:28.960> my<00:41:29.040> gosh.<00:41:29.280> Too<00:41:29.440> fast.<00:41:29.760> She<00:41:30.000> like<00:41:31.200> got<00:41:31.440> off
Oh my gosh. Too fast. She like got off
Oh my gosh. Too fast. She like got off
birth<00:41:32.000> like<00:41:32.160> they<00:41:32.319> talked<00:41:32.480> about<00:41:32.640> her<00:41:32.800> being
birth like they talked about her being
birth like they talked about her being
off<00:41:33.119> birth<00:41:33.359> control<00:41:33.680> and<00:41:33.839> I<00:41:34.000> was<00:41:34.079> just<00:41:34.240> like
off birth control and I was just like
off birth control and I was just like
damn
damn
damn
and<00:41:36.400> I<00:41:36.480> wonder
and I wonder
and I wonder
you<00:41:36.880> going<00:41:37.040> to<00:41:37.119> breathe.
you going to breathe.
you going to breathe.
Well,<00:41:39.119> she<00:41:39.200> has<00:41:39.359> to<00:41:39.440> catch<00:41:39.599> up<00:41:39.760> to<00:41:39.839> all<00:41:40.000> of<00:41:40.079> her
Well, she has to catch up to all of her
Well, she has to catch up to all of her
friends.<00:41:40.880> Like<00:41:41.040> how<00:41:41.200> much<00:41:41.920> how<00:41:42.240> much<00:41:42.319> of<00:41:42.480> this
friends. Like how much how much of this
friends. Like how much how much of this
is<00:41:42.720> like<00:41:42.960> culturally
is like culturally
is like culturally
that<00:41:44.319> too.
that too.
that too.
I<00:41:45.440> think<00:41:45.520> it's<00:41:45.680> a<00:41:45.920> huge<00:41:46.240> like
I think it's a huge like
I think it's a huge like
all<00:41:47.920> of<00:41:48.000> her<00:41:48.160> friends<00:41:48.400> are<00:41:48.640> married<00:41:49.119> or<00:41:49.440> about
all of her friends are married or about
all of her friends are married or about
to<00:41:49.760> get<00:41:49.920> married.
to get married.
to get married.
He<00:41:51.359> already<00:41:51.520> has<00:41:51.680> a<00:41:51.839> kid.
He already has a kid.
He already has a kid.
She<00:41:53.280> her<00:41:53.599> dad<00:41:53.839> is<00:41:54.160> dying.<00:41:54.720> She<00:41:54.960> probably<00:41:55.119> wants
She her dad is dying. She probably wants
She her dad is dying. She probably wants
to<00:41:55.440> give<00:41:55.599> her<00:41:55.760> dad.<00:41:56.079> feels<00:41:56.319> like<00:41:56.560> she's<00:41:56.800> on
to give her dad. feels like she's on
to give her dad. feels like she's on
like<00:41:57.359> almost<00:41:57.599> like<00:41:57.760> a<00:41:58.000> fastpaced<00:41:58.640> timeline,
like almost like a fastpaced timeline,
like almost like a fastpaced timeline,
like<00:41:59.920> sped<00:42:00.160> up.
like sped up.
like sped up.
They<00:42:01.040> do.<00:42:01.520> They've<00:42:01.920> known<00:42:02.160> each<00:42:02.400> other.
They do. They've known each other.
They do. They've known each other.
But<00:42:03.760> I<00:42:03.920> will<00:42:04.079> say<00:42:04.319> like<00:42:04.720> my<00:42:06.079> a<00:42:06.400> point<00:42:06.640> where<00:42:06.880> I
But I will say like my a point where I
But I will say like my a point where I
think<00:42:07.440> Gus<00:42:07.920> had<00:42:08.319> actual<00:42:08.720> some<00:42:08.960> like<00:42:09.200> some
think Gus had actual some like some
think Gus had actual some like some
actual
actual
actual
reflection.<00:42:11.680> I<00:42:11.839> don't<00:42:11.920> know<00:42:11.920> if<00:42:12.000> it<00:42:12.160> was
reflection. I don't know if it was
reflection. I don't know if it was
necessarily<00:42:12.800> self-reflection,<00:42:13.440> but
necessarily self-reflection, but
necessarily self-reflection, but
reflection<00:42:14.160> that<00:42:14.400> I<00:42:14.640> appreciated
reflection that I appreciated
reflection that I appreciated
was<00:42:16.880> when<00:42:17.839> his<00:42:18.160> best<00:42:18.400> friend<00:42:18.640> opens<00:42:19.040> the<00:42:19.200> bar
was when his best friend opens the bar
was when his best friend opens the bar
and<00:42:19.760> like<00:42:20.000> Teddy's<00:42:20.560> in<00:42:20.800> her<00:42:21.040> like<00:42:21.280> silver
and like Teddy's in her like silver
and like Teddy's in her like silver
jumpsuit<00:42:23.280> and<00:42:23.520> he
jumpsuit and he
jumpsuit and he
like<00:42:25.359> for<00:42:25.599> the<00:42:25.760> first<00:42:25.920> time<00:42:26.160> like<00:42:26.400> sees<00:42:26.800> her
like for the first time like sees her
like for the first time like sees her
engaging<00:42:27.760> in<00:42:27.920> a<00:42:28.079> crowd<00:42:28.319> and<00:42:28.560> instead<00:42:28.800> of<00:42:28.960> being
engaging in a crowd and instead of being
engaging in a crowd and instead of being
like<00:42:29.359> she's<00:42:29.599> too<00:42:29.760> loud,<00:42:30.160> she's<00:42:30.319> too<00:42:30.560> annoying,
like she's too loud, she's too annoying,
like she's too loud, she's too annoying,
which<00:42:30.960> is<00:42:31.119> how<00:42:31.200> he<00:42:31.440> normally<00:42:31.760> would<00:42:31.920> think<00:42:32.079> of
which is how he normally would think of
which is how he normally would think of
her,<00:42:32.480> he<00:42:32.720> was<00:42:32.800> like,<00:42:32.960> "Wow,<00:42:33.440> she<00:42:33.680> really<00:42:33.920> works
her, he was like, "Wow, she really works
her, he was like, "Wow, she really works
the<00:42:34.400> room.<00:42:35.280> Everyone<00:42:35.680> wants<00:42:35.839> her.
the room. Everyone wants her.
the room. Everyone wants her.
Everyone<00:42:36.640> wants<00:42:36.880> her.<00:42:37.280> I<00:42:37.520> get<00:42:37.680> to<00:42:37.839> have<00:42:38.000> her."
Everyone wants her. I get to have her."
Everyone wants her. I get to have her."
Which<00:42:38.480> is
Which is
Which is
his<00:42:39.599> own<00:42:39.839> thing.<00:42:40.319> But<00:42:40.560> I<00:42:40.800> think<00:42:40.880> what<00:42:41.200> I<00:42:41.920> really
his own thing. But I think what I really
his own thing. But I think what I really
liked<00:42:42.480> is<00:42:42.720> he<00:42:43.760> said<00:42:44.079> she<00:42:45.200> this<00:42:45.520> persona<00:42:46.160> of<00:42:46.480> her
liked is he said she this persona of her
liked is he said she this persona of her
is<00:42:46.960> her<00:42:47.200> armor
is her armor
is her armor
and<00:42:48.480> she<00:42:49.040> shows<00:42:49.359> her<00:42:49.599> armor<00:42:50.000> to<00:42:50.240> the<00:42:50.400> world<00:42:50.640> but
and she shows her armor to the world but
and she shows her armor to the world but
I<00:42:51.119> get<00:42:51.200> to<00:42:51.359> see<00:42:51.520> her<00:42:51.839> heart.
I get to see her heart.
I get to see her heart.
And<00:42:53.119> I<00:42:53.359> was<00:42:53.440> like<00:42:53.760> dang
And I was like dang
And I was like dang
that<00:42:54.800> was<00:42:54.960> really<00:42:55.280> good.
that was really good.
that was really good.
A<00:42:57.440> and<00:42:57.599> then<00:42:57.760> he<00:42:57.920> kissed<00:42:58.079> her<00:42:58.240> in<00:42:58.400> front<00:42:58.480> of
A and then he kissed her in front of
A and then he kissed her in front of
everyone.
everyone.
everyone.
And<00:42:59.040> then<00:42:59.119> he<00:42:59.280> kissed<00:42:59.440> her<00:42:59.520> in<00:42:59.680> front<00:42:59.760> of
And then he kissed her in front of
And then he kissed her in front of
everyone<00:43:00.400> and<00:43:00.640> I<00:43:00.800> said<00:43:01.119> oh<00:43:01.440> you're<00:43:01.760> special.
everyone and I said oh you're special.
everyone and I said oh you're special.
He's<00:43:03.119> like<00:43:03.359> they<00:43:03.599> can<00:43:03.760> all<00:43:03.920> look<00:43:04.319> I'm<00:43:04.560> going
He's like they can all look I'm going
He's like they can all look I'm going
home<00:43:05.040> with<00:43:05.200> her<00:43:06.160> or<00:43:06.400> she's<00:43:06.640> the<00:43:06.800> one<00:43:06.960> going
home with her or she's the one going
home with her or she's the one going
home<00:43:07.359> with<00:43:07.520> me.
home with me.
home with me.
Yeah.<00:43:08.640> And<00:43:08.880> like<00:43:09.680> I<00:43:10.000> will<00:43:10.160> say<00:43:10.560> for<00:43:11.359> a<00:43:11.599> macho
Yeah. And like I will say for a macho
Yeah. And like I will say for a macho
dude<00:43:14.000> who's<00:43:14.400> like
dude who's like
dude who's like
I<00:43:16.240> think<00:43:17.280> tries<00:43:17.599> to<00:43:17.760> give<00:43:17.920> off<00:43:18.160> alpha<00:43:18.480> male
I think tries to give off alpha male
I think tries to give off alpha male
energy<00:43:19.359> as
energy as
energy as
without<00:43:21.520> sounding<00:43:22.000> like<00:43:22.319> ironic<00:43:22.880> I<00:43:23.200> or<00:43:23.520> like
without sounding like ironic I or like
without sounding like ironic I or like
insensitive.
insensitive.
insensitive.
I<00:43:25.839> think<00:43:26.000> that's<00:43:26.400> big<00:43:26.880> for<00:43:27.200> him.<00:43:27.599> I<00:43:27.760> agree.<00:43:28.480> I
I think that's big for him. I agree. I
I think that's big for him. I agree. I
think<00:43:28.800> he<00:43:29.040> was<00:43:29.359> like<00:43:29.599> I<00:43:29.839> think<00:43:30.000> too<00:43:30.160> it's<00:43:30.400> very
think he was like I think too it's very
think he was like I think too it's very
like<00:43:30.960> opposite<00:43:31.440> of<00:43:31.680> like<00:43:32.079> what<00:43:32.640> a<00:43:32.880> traditional
like opposite of like what a traditional
like opposite of like what a traditional
wife<00:43:33.599> is<00:43:33.839> supposed<00:43:34.000> to<00:43:34.160> be<00:43:34.319> like<00:43:34.720> too
wife is supposed to be like too
wife is supposed to be like too
in<00:43:35.839> a<00:43:35.920> sense<00:43:36.240> like<00:43:36.400> in<00:43:36.560> a<00:43:36.640> lot<00:43:36.720> of<00:43:36.800> these
in a sense like in a lot of these
in a sense like in a lot of these
cultures<00:43:37.520> like<00:43:37.680> you're<00:43:37.920> supposed<00:43:38.079> to<00:43:38.240> be
cultures like you're supposed to be
cultures like you're supposed to be
quiet<00:43:38.640> you're<00:43:38.800> supposed<00:43:38.880> to<00:43:38.960> be<00:43:39.119> timid<00:43:39.520> like
quiet you're supposed to be timid like
quiet you're supposed to be timid like
you're<00:43:39.839> not<00:43:40.000> supposed<00:43:40.240> to<00:43:41.280> you<00:43:41.440> know
you're not supposed to you know
you're not supposed to you know
be<00:43:43.440> yeah<00:43:43.839> loud<00:43:44.240> out<00:43:44.880> person<00:43:45.520> start<00:43:45.760> fights<00:43:46.000> in
be yeah loud out person start fights in
be yeah loud out person start fights in
bars<00:43:46.880> and
bars and
bars and
be<00:43:48.240> riding<00:43:48.480> a<00:43:48.640> bull<00:43:49.599> in<00:43:49.839> front<00:43:49.920> of<00:43:50.079> everyone
be riding a bull in front of everyone
be riding a bull in front of everyone
in<00:43:51.520> your<00:43:51.680> shiny<00:43:52.160> jumpsuit
in your shiny jumpsuit
in your shiny jumpsuit
and<00:43:53.920> your<00:43:54.160> gorgeous<00:43:54.720> hair
and your gorgeous hair
and your gorgeous hair
I<00:43:55.200> think<00:43:55.280> it's<00:43:55.440> really<00:43:55.599> cool<00:43:55.680> that<00:43:55.839> he
I think it's really cool that he
I think it's really cool that he
accepted<00:43:56.640> like<00:43:56.800> both<00:43:57.119> almost<00:43:57.440> both<00:43:57.680> sides<00:43:57.920> of
accepted like both almost both sides of
accepted like both almost both sides of
her<00:43:58.319> like<00:43:58.560> her<00:43:58.880> the<00:43:59.040> one<00:43:59.200> that<00:43:59.359> she<00:43:59.520> shows<00:43:59.680> to
her like her the one that she shows to
her like her the one that she shows to
everyone<00:44:00.079> else<00:44:00.240> and<00:44:00.480> then<00:44:00.720> the<00:44:00.960> one<00:44:01.119> that<00:44:01.280> she
everyone else and then the one that she
everyone else and then the one that she
shows<00:44:01.760> behind<00:44:02.079> closed<00:44:02.319> doors
shows behind closed doors
shows behind closed doors
and<00:44:03.040> I<00:44:03.200> think<00:44:03.280> that<00:44:03.520> reflects<00:44:03.839> the<00:44:04.079> security
and I think that reflects the security
and I think that reflects the security
he<00:44:04.720> feels<00:44:04.880> in<00:44:05.119> their<00:44:05.359> relationship<00:44:06.319> and<00:44:06.480> he's
he feels in their relationship and he's
he feels in their relationship and he's
like<00:44:07.119> I<00:44:07.359> know<00:44:07.839> Teddy<00:44:08.240> and<00:44:08.400> I<00:44:08.560> know<00:44:08.720> her<00:44:08.880> as<00:44:09.040> a
like I know Teddy and I know her as a
like I know Teddy and I know her as a
person<00:44:09.440> and<00:44:09.680> I<00:44:09.839> know<00:44:10.000> our<00:44:10.240> relationship.
person and I know our relationship.
person and I know our relationship.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And<00:44:12.319> that<00:44:12.720> I<00:44:12.960> felt<00:44:13.119> like<00:44:13.280> was<00:44:13.520> really<00:44:14.079> good
And that I felt like was really good
And that I felt like was really good
growth.
growth.
growth.
So
So
So
I<00:44:18.480> think<00:44:18.560> we<00:44:18.800> covered<00:44:19.119> a<00:44:19.280> lot<00:44:19.359> of<00:44:19.599> really<00:44:19.920> good
I think we covered a lot of really good
I think we covered a lot of really good
things<00:44:20.400> here.
things here.
things here.
I<00:44:21.119> think<00:44:21.280> so<00:44:21.520> too.
I think so too.
I think so too.
Are<00:44:23.200> we<00:44:23.359> going<00:44:23.440> to<00:44:23.599> raid<00:44:23.839> our<00:44:24.000> flags?
Are we going to raid our flags?
Are we going to raid our flags?
I<00:44:25.119> was<00:44:25.200> going<00:44:25.280> to<00:44:25.440> say<00:44:25.680> first<00:44:26.000> are<00:44:26.160> we<00:44:26.240> going<00:44:26.319> to
I was going to say first are we going to
I was going to say first are we going to
raid<00:44:26.640> him?<00:44:27.040> Is<00:44:27.200> he<00:44:27.440> hot<00:44:27.920> or<00:44:28.160> is<00:44:28.319> it<00:44:28.560> trauma?
raid him? Is he hot or is it trauma?
raid him? Is he hot or is it trauma?
He's<00:44:30.000> hot.
He's hot.
He's hot.
I<00:44:31.119> think<00:44:31.280> he's<00:44:31.520> hot.
I think he's hot.
I think he's hot.
He's<00:44:32.000> hot.
He's hot.
He's hot.
He's<00:44:32.480> hot.
He's hot.
He's hot.
He<00:44:33.040> can<00:44:33.200> [ __ ]<00:44:34.000> me<00:44:34.319> anytime.
He can [ __ ] me anytime.
He can [ __ ] me anytime.
I<00:44:36.560> think<00:44:36.800> Teddy's<00:44:37.280> going<00:44:37.359> to<00:44:37.440> fight<00:44:37.680> you<00:44:37.839> on
I think Teddy's going to fight you on
I think Teddy's going to fight you on
that.
that.
that.
And<00:44:39.119> she<00:44:39.359> will.<00:44:39.599> She'll<00:44:39.839> fight<00:44:40.079> you.
And she will. She'll fight you.
And she will. She'll fight you.
She<00:44:40.480> would.
She would.
She would.
Okay.<00:44:42.079> Flag<00:44:42.400> rating
Okay. Flag rating
Okay. Flag rating
for<00:44:44.480> me.<00:44:45.760> Would<00:44:46.160> read<00:44:46.560> three<00:44:46.960> green<00:44:47.280> flags.
for me. Would read three green flags.
for me. Would read three green flags.
Yeah,<00:44:49.680> I<00:44:49.839> think<00:44:50.079> three<00:44:50.319> green<00:44:50.560> flags.
Yeah, I think three green flags.
Yeah, I think three green flags.
Mhm.<00:44:52.079> I<00:44:52.319> almost<00:44:52.560> thought<00:44:52.720> about<00:44:52.960> four,
Mhm. I almost thought about four,
Mhm. I almost thought about four,
but<00:44:54.720> I<00:44:54.960> think<00:44:55.200> after<00:44:56.319> going<00:44:56.720> back<00:44:56.960> and<00:44:57.200> really
but I think after going back and really
but I think after going back and really
looking<00:44:57.599> at<00:44:57.760> some<00:44:57.920> of<00:44:58.000> the<00:44:58.240> stuff<00:44:58.400> and<00:44:58.640> more<00:44:58.800> so
looking at some of the stuff and more so
looking at some of the stuff and more so
putting<00:44:59.280> my<00:44:59.440> counselor<00:44:59.839> hat<00:45:00.000> on,<00:45:00.240> I'm<00:45:00.400> like,
putting my counselor hat on, I'm like,
putting my counselor hat on, I'm like,
"No,<00:45:00.720> it's<00:45:00.880> it's<00:45:01.200> a<00:45:01.280> good<00:45:01.440> three.<00:45:02.079> It's<00:45:02.319> a<00:45:02.480> good
"No, it's it's a good three. It's a good
"No, it's it's a good three. It's a good
three.<00:45:03.359> He's<00:45:03.680> made<00:45:03.920> progress.<00:45:04.960> There<00:45:05.119> could
three. He's made progress. There could
three. He's made progress. There could
be<00:45:05.440> more.
be more.
be more.
There<00:45:06.079> could<00:45:06.240> be<00:45:06.400> more.<00:45:07.040> more<00:45:07.440> pausing,<00:45:08.160> more
There could be more. more pausing, more
There could be more. more pausing, more
self-reflecting,
self-reflecting,
self-reflecting,
more<00:45:11.520> acknowledging<00:45:12.240> the<00:45:12.480> emotions<00:45:13.040> that
more acknowledging the emotions that
more acknowledging the emotions that
he's<00:45:13.760> feeling<00:45:14.800> and<00:45:15.119> being<00:45:15.359> able<00:45:15.520> to<00:45:15.760> have
he's feeling and being able to have
he's feeling and being able to have
conversations<00:45:17.440> with<00:45:18.079> the<00:45:18.400> people<00:45:18.720> who<00:45:19.040> are
conversations with the people who are
conversations with the people who are
bringing<00:45:20.000> up<00:45:20.240> those<00:45:20.480> emotions,<00:45:21.359> then<00:45:21.599> I<00:45:21.760> would
bringing up those emotions, then I would
bringing up those emotions, then I would
have<00:45:22.000> given<00:45:22.160> him<00:45:22.400> four.<00:45:22.960> Um,
have given him four. Um,
have given him four. Um,
I<00:45:23.599> agree.
I agree.
I agree.
But<00:45:24.480> no,<00:45:24.720> no<00:45:25.040> red<00:45:25.280> flags.<00:45:25.520> I<00:45:25.680> think<00:45:25.760> he<00:45:26.000> really
But no, no red flags. I think he really
But no, no red flags. I think he really
the<00:45:26.880> red<00:45:27.040> flags<00:45:27.359> we<00:45:27.599> saw<00:45:27.920> I<00:45:28.160> think<00:45:28.240> he<00:45:28.480> he
the red flags we saw I think he he
the red flags we saw I think he he
worked<00:45:29.040> on<00:45:29.280> and<00:45:29.599> recognized
worked on and recognized
worked on and recognized
was<00:45:30.960> forced<00:45:31.200> to<00:45:31.359> recognize<00:45:31.760> they<00:45:31.920> were
was forced to recognize they were
was forced to recognize they were
issues.
issues.
issues.
But<00:45:33.760> I<00:45:33.920> think<00:45:34.000> the<00:45:34.160> writing<00:45:34.480> was<00:45:34.720> really<00:45:34.880> good.
But I think the writing was really good.
But I think the writing was really good.
It<00:45:35.200> was<00:45:35.280> a<00:45:35.520> cute<00:45:35.839> story.<00:45:36.480> I<00:45:36.720> was<00:45:36.960> I<00:45:37.200> was
It was a cute story. I was I was
It was a cute story. I was I was
giggling<00:45:37.920> and<00:45:38.240> kicking<00:45:38.560> my<00:45:38.800> feet.
giggling and kicking my feet.
giggling and kicking my feet.
Kickling.
Kickling.
Kickling.
I<00:45:40.079> was<00:45:40.160> kickling.
I was kickling.
I was kickling.
Kickler.
Kickler.
Kickler.
Kickler.
Kickler.
Kickler.
It's<00:45:43.680> a<00:45:43.839> which<00:45:44.000> is<00:45:44.160> giggling<00:45:44.560> and<00:45:44.720> kickling
It's a which is giggling and kickling
It's a which is giggling and kickling
combined.<00:45:47.359> Kickling.
combined. Kickling.
combined. Kickling.
It's<00:45:48.480> cute.
It's cute.
It's cute.
So<00:45:50.160> overall,<00:45:51.520> I<00:45:51.760> would<00:45:52.000> say<00:45:52.240> yeah,<00:45:53.200> pick<00:45:53.440> it<00:45:53.599> up
So overall, I would say yeah, pick it up
So overall, I would say yeah, pick it up
and<00:45:54.720> read.
and read.
and read.
Lost<00:45:55.359> in<00:45:55.520> Lasso.
Lost in Lasso.
Lost in Lasso.
And<00:45:57.200> if<00:45:57.440> you<00:45:57.599> get<00:45:57.760> a<00:45:57.920> chance<00:45:58.079> to<00:45:58.319> read<00:45:59.040> Wild<00:45:59.280> and
And if you get a chance to read Wild and
And if you get a chance to read Wild and
Wrangled,<00:46:00.000> let<00:46:00.079> us<00:46:00.319> know<00:46:00.880> how<00:46:01.119> that<00:46:01.359> is<00:46:01.839> cuz<00:46:02.160> we
Wrangled, let us know how that is cuz we
Wrangled, let us know how that is cuz we
haven't<00:46:02.640> read<00:46:02.800> it<00:46:02.880> yet.<00:46:03.200> Send<00:46:03.359> us<00:46:03.599> your<00:46:04.880> green
haven't read it yet. Send us your green
haven't read it yet. Send us your green
flags.<00:46:05.680> Send<00:46:05.920> us<00:46:06.079> your<00:46:06.240> green<00:46:06.560> flags.<00:46:07.680> And
flags. Send us your green flags. And
flags. Send us your green flags. And
don't<00:46:08.160> forget,<00:46:08.560> stay<00:46:08.880> reading.<00:46:10.000> Stay
don't forget, stay reading. Stay
don't forget, stay reading. Stay
reading.