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Light a candle and find your inner goddess with us.
Co-hosts Danielle Schleese and Briana Donaldson want to break the taboo of women’s health and wellbeing. From intimacy to parenting, women are constantly shamed for their inability to measure up to standards they never had a say in setting. On Honey Toast, these subjects find their home among incense, deep-dive conversations, and two best friends. From journal challenges to goddess calls, Briana and Danielle are always finding new ways to help you embrace your natural beauty — inside and out.
How often do you measure your self worth based off of the way that you look, your accomplishments, or what you do for others? Today, we're gonna be talking about something much deeper, and that is your inherent self worth and what it truly means to step into your power. Big one.
Briana Donaldson:Big one. Yeah. The biggest thing that I can relate to with this, it well, is my life, but is the early stages of when started dating my husband. And so I'm Canadian. My husband is American.
Briana Donaldson:And when we started dating and I moved into him, it moved into him, moved right on, man. Moved in with him, I had to move to The US. And so legally, I could not work. And so I was literally a stay at home girlfriend
Danielle Schleese:Mhmm.
Briana Donaldson:For such a long time now. And you always worked your whole life, mind you. Very hard. Multiple jobs. Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:Constantly. Like, I was most of the time I was working like two and three jobs at a time. And so it was such a massive identity shift for me and like life altering experience. And it was so challenging. I would still take on projects and I would still do courses.
Briana Donaldson:And I was still, like, trying so hard to make something and and do something for myself because of this constant feeling of, oh my gosh, I hold no value. Like, now that I'm, in quotations, just a stay at home girlfriend, I hold no value. And I think that my I didn't realize was that my identity was so linked to, like we've talked about in so many other episodes, my productivity. Mhmm. My like, what I was able to bring to the table.
Briana Donaldson:And I think that I took so much value away from what I did bring to the table, which was like managing the house, you know, doing the household duties and all of these things. But as someone who always placed my value on what I contributed in so many other ways, was it it was incredible. It felt crippling, honestly,
Danielle Schleese:for so many years. I think that's a really great way to preface into this episode and kind of what's to be expected and to really set the framework that self worth isn't something that can be earned. It's something that is really recognized. And in order to live in that truth, it requires a lot of unlearning, rewiring, and ultimately, the most radical sense of self acceptance, which is so much easier said than done. So without further ado, let's just jump right into this
Briana Donaldson:episode. So why do you feel we struggle so deeply with self worth? Just like, we're just gonna talk from a female perspective at the moment. How is it and why is it that in today's day and age, self worth is something that is so incredibly challenging to achieve? I think we've addressed this lightly in the other episodes, but to dive a little bit further into it, I really feel like it's because we we validate so much
Danielle Schleese:of our worth into external valid into external validations and external sources like Yeah. Productivity, what we do for others, how we show up in the world, what we look like, like these these type
Briana Donaldson:of things. Constant comparison. Comparison. How could you not? Like, especially based on who you follow.
Briana Donaldson:It was social media. Like, social media is just
Danielle Schleese:Yeah. Detrimental. Definitely, external validation is a big marker for self worth because you're kind of like looking to others to gain a perspective almost of yourself. Yeah. And that makes you reflect back onto your own self like, oh, they have things that I don't have.
Danielle Schleese:So maybe once I look like them, I'll get those things. And, oh, once I act like that or once I make certain money amount of money, then I can have these things and feel these types of way. And I feel like the biggest thing I see or feel or maybe even I've personally experienced in my early twenties was like, once I lose the weight, then I'll get the validation or attention, which ironically, because we've we're programmed a lot of the times like this, like, I had experienced that in myself, like, when I had an eating disorder in my early twenties getting the attention Yeah. And getting that validation and being like, oh, I'm worthy now Right. Of these guys' attention that I would've never had before.
Danielle Schleese:Right. And that felt good. So, yeah, definitely external answer your questions, external validations is one
Briana Donaldson:of them. Constant comparison. And comparison would
Danielle Schleese:be another one. Yeah. And I feel like this
Briana Donaldson:extremely innate feature within us of people pleasing. And overgiving. Overgiving. Overgiving and people pleasing. I mean, the people pleasing nature that is within us often and that feeling of having to overgive constantly in order to feel like you hold value Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:Is so detrimental to our self worth. And I really do believe that our self worth isn't and should not be tied to this constant external validation. And we really need to bring it into, like, internal like, internally. So without the people pleasing, without the social media comparison, without the, like, constant need to be productive in order to obtain value, believe that you are valuable just as you are. Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:I feel like a a really tough question because one of
Danielle Schleese:her best friends was actually telling us that she was asked this question recently. It was surprisingly hard to answer, and I was thinking about it myself. I'm like, if I was asked this question, how would I answer? And it's very difficult because without the titles, like your titles, like mother, wife, sister, entrepreneur, what whatever it
Briana Donaldson:would be. Daughter.
Danielle Schleese:Mhmm. Daughter. And without the accomplishments that you've had over the years, like, who are you?
Briana Donaldson:You know? Are you asking me that? Yeah. Or is
Danielle Schleese:that different question? Well, that was a question she was asked, but also I'm asking you. Right. It's like,
Briana Donaldson:how would you answer? I mean, I I feel like now at this age and stage in my life, I do feel like I can answer that. But if you had asked me ten years ago, I think it would have been extremely challenging. And I I probably would have given a very fluff answer. Guys, do it then and now.
Briana Donaldson:You know, like I'm a fun girl. You know? You are a
Danielle Schleese:fun girl.
Briana Donaldson:And I'm I'm nice. And I feel like who I am now Yeah. Like, outside of I'm a mom, outside of I'm a wife, outside of I'm an entrepreneur, I am an I'm an incredibly spiritual being. I am I am energy and I am light. I am the vibration that I want to see in the world.
Briana Donaldson:I am strong beyond what I ever believed could be. So I think that I've only been able to realize those things about myself and grasp the concept of who I am underneath all the titles because of all the work. Mhmm. Because of all the work that I have done and put into myself and my growth and my deep understanding of myself.
Danielle Schleese:Okay. Well, let's say you're somebody who hasn't done the work and the growth and the deep understanding, like, where would you even start? Like, what are the type of things you
Briana Donaldson:Very practical daily practices. Literally looking at yourself in the mirror and saying, who am I? What brings me joy? Does it do you
Danielle Schleese:think it even has to be like a daily thing or even just like a once in a
Briana Donaldson:while thing? Once in a while, of course. I mean, any degree of self reflection is gonna is going to change and impact the way that your brain works and the way that you see and think about yourself. Yeah.
Danielle Schleese:I was gonna say, I'm like, sometimes people have like an epiphany and that changes everything. Sometimes people put it into daily practice and
Briana Donaldson:the consistency changes things. Right. Or sometimes you go through something very big, deep, traumatic in your life and how you tune in and choose to respond to that thing is going to totally curate a part of your who you are as a person and as a soul on this planet.
Danielle Schleese:Yeah. I feel like one of the first things you can do to start cultivating a little bit more of awareness around self worth is to detox from external validation Totally. And really notice when you're kind
Briana Donaldson:of seeking that approval. Like, so are you addicted to likes? Are you addicted to likes on your post?
Danielle Schleese:Well, that's a huge thing for me because personally,
Briana Donaldson:for a few Dopamine hit. Dopamine hit.
Danielle Schleese:Dopamine A few years ago when I was like really going through this life transformation and kind of self worth Mhmm. Journey, probably like a year or two before I had my first my first baby. Mhmm. And I was kind of like in a career shift or just really trying to define what it is I wanted to do. And, you know, my past and my history has always been about makeup and tutorials and like the beauty industry in terms of like non toxic self care swaps and really just trying to offer education and solutions for women.
Danielle Schleese:And I put there's so much emphasis in my life on Beauty. Beauty. Although there still is, the industry keeps growing and growing and growing. But it was really like how I connect to the expression of myself. And every post and everything that I would put out there was very intentional.
Danielle Schleese:And a lot of it was like selfies and kinda selling the way you look and Right. And how the makeup works and giving reviews and tutorials. And I just felt very pigeonholed Yeah. In that kind of definition of like just physical Yeah. And beauty.
Danielle Schleese:Yeah. But and it's interesting because I've kinda like I've grown and veered from that focus of like that being my niche Mhmm. Even though it is a lot of time and and knowledge and interest spent in that area. Mhmm. I and now where I'm at, I find that if I'm posting something, I have to be a little bit not have to be, but I am a lot more conscious and aware of the intention behind the post.
Danielle Schleese:Right. Because if I'm, like, posting a selfie, I find myself almost looking at it more to see who's looking at it, to see the response I'm getting because it goes beyond just, making an affiliate recommendation and sale and helping somebody. But it's also like, this is the attention I'm receiving from the way I'm looking. And Right. And it just raises those questions and that consciousness around the intention behind why we're doing what we're doing.
Briana Donaldson:Mhmm.
Danielle Schleese:So for me, really acknowledging where I'm laying my worth in external validation was a huge wake up point for me. And comparison was massive because I was following competitors or following people that inspired me. But I found myself more often than not, like, feeling like I wasn't enough because I wasn't as good at the as them or making enough likes as them or as as much traffic. And that's when I really had like a social detox and really made that conscious decision to decide maybe it's in my best interest that I don't see what anybody's doing so I can allow my own creative freedom and my own mind to see what it thinks of. Right.
Danielle Schleese:Right.
Briana Donaldson:So I genuinely important to you and what you find value in. Yeah.
Danielle Schleese:Because I'm like, I'm gonna go on social media and I'm going to scroll. Right. But I have the decision too to see who I expose myself to. Right. So I remember making a vivid decision to make a social detox Mhmm.
Danielle Schleese:Where it's like, people are like, oh, I'm off social media for a week, and it was great, but I can't wait to go back on and look again and see what everybody's up to. It's But almost like if you curate who it is you look at and what you look at Yeah. Your algorithm will not only align with that, but you'll also start
Briana Donaldson:to expose your brain to those It's so funny that you say this because I was just on the phone with my aunt yesterday. And she was saying, like, her business is is booming. She's in the financial industry. She's, you know, whether we want to admit it or not, she's a woman in a man's world. Like, she's one of the very few women that's very big in her industry.
Briana Donaldson:And she was just saying to me, like, she is so inundated with work. She works so many hours a week. She is completely consumed by her business. And when she lays in bed at night and scrolls on Instagram, it's her safe space. Like, it brings me so much peace and joy because I've been able to curate content on my feed that is literally only the stuff that like soothes my soul.
Briana Donaldson:Yeah. I'm like, that's incredible. Yeah. Like It's true. How many people out there are going on social media and being like, ugh, I feel like refreshed and rejuvenated and healed in a way after scrolling for thirty minutes tonight.
Briana Donaldson:As opposed to being like, oh, I feel like I'm not enough, or I feel like I have to work harder, or I feel like I have to go to the gym more, or make better meals or, you know, get a new outfit or change my makeup and my hair.
Danielle Schleese:Think about how often that subconscious or maybe even conscious thought that people have is that I'm not enough Yeah. Because you're comparing versus how often do we, like, put ourselves in a situation to actually ask ourselves the opposite of why am I not enough or how can I look more like this person and get what they get? And look at yourself and say, like, what am I actually proud of in myself? What do I feel
Briana Donaldson:And change the script. Yeah. Change the script. Change the script from I'm not good enough and comparing yourself to others to I am inherently worthy. Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:I my soul was placed on this earth because I am worthy of this life. Period. Totally. Period.
Danielle Schleese:It's it's so it's such relate like, to me, it's relatable thought process and content because I've been on both sides of the spectrum. Like, I feel like the only reason I'm really at this point in terms of the way I'm starting to think for myself and about myself is because I've been on the depths on the deep end. And like Right. In that whole mental trap and everything. Like like I said at the beginning of this, literally being in an eating disorder because Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:Me too. Like, were in it together. Together.
Danielle Schleese:And just like having the way I look be a big part of my worth and that and being in an industry for so long all about visual beauty.
Briana Donaldson:Same. I mean, I worked in the service industry for
Danielle Schleese:Yeah. What? You get hired because of the way you watch.
Briana Donaldson:You know? Ten, twelve ten, twelve years, and all that mattered was how I looked. I remember when we worked at Moxie's. Mhmm.
Danielle Schleese:Remember? Manager? Yes. One of them? The bald guy?
Danielle Schleese:Yes. He I was but yes. I was working as a host, and people come in and, like, drop off their resumes all the time. Right? Mhmm.
Danielle Schleese:And they drop off the resume to me because I was at the front of the host. So I would have to bring them back to the manager where they're usually in the back kitchen. So I remember vividly this one time, a girl came in and gave me her resume. And I walked to the back and I was like, oh, hey, like somebody's here to drop off a resume. They are really interested working here.
Danielle Schleese:He takes the resume, he like looks at it. And he like it's kinda like looking past to see if
Briana Donaldson:he could see The girl
Danielle Schleese:at the front. And he's like, which one is she? And I was like, oh, she's a brunette. And he was like looked looked at her for a second and said, no. And then just passed me back the paper and I was like, okay.
Danielle Schleese:Yeah. Like, that was such a staple moment in Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:In my mind being like, wow. How about when we worked at Hollister? If you you when you applied to work at Hollister, they would call you a model Oh my god. If you worked in the front to where people could see you. Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:And you were called a Impact. Impact. In the back. If you worked in
Danielle Schleese:the back. You had to in stay the back.
Briana Donaldson:And you had to stay in the back. You were not allowed on the You were not allowed out of that fucking warehouse storage area. Room. And so we would go on our little walkie talkies and be like, I need a size twenty four whatever to Betty's one. So they would get it ready for you and set it on the counter in the back so you could come back as a model, in quotations, as a fucking model.
Briana Donaldson:Go back there, get this item, and then bring it out to the guests.
Danielle Schleese:You think about if you are the model perspective and you're young too, you're like, oh my god. I'm so important.
Briana Donaldson:Us. We felt like we were so special and so beautiful and so Accepted. And, like, valued because we were in the front. But how many friends did we have that applied for the same job? And they were like, yep.
Briana Donaldson:You're impact. You're gonna go in the back. We're gonna keep you in the back. Terrible. Terrible.
Briana Donaldson:Terrible. And, unfortunately, that's just the reality of so many industries. It still happens in so many areas like I would say mostly Pretty privilege. Pretty privilege. The real thing.
Danielle Schleese:It is a real thing. I love those friends on TikTok where they're like, privilege. Is pretty privilege real? And people share stories about like Yes. What they get and how they get that.
Briana Donaldson:So it's like it's almost like how do you not emphasize worth invalidation I in the way you look because you get that. Of course. But I think that you need to enter the world with a perspective that is not related to that. How? So let's just say so we live in a world that is very much, like, visually based.
Briana Donaldson:But I grew up as a funky looking kid. Like, did. I did. I was kinda chubby. I had buck teeth.
Briana Donaldson:I had, like, big frizzy hair that I didn't know what to do with. I hit puberty when I was so young, it's shocking. I was huge when I was a little kid. And I was bigger than most of the boys most of my life. And so I always felt like boys didn't like me, but I never lacked confidence.
Briana Donaldson:I I I had some probably some self probably, I definitely had some self worth issues. I ended up having an eating disorder because of all this and many other things. But I don't believe I ever lacked actual confidence because something happened along the way where my personality was so much more valuable to me Well, think we're
Danielle Schleese:in a space together. Because for those of you guys who don't know, Brie and I met through dance when we were like 10, 11 years old. And Yeah. In in that space, we had a lot of other than school, a lot of energy and attention focused into understanding your body, using creativity, using your imagination, coming up and coming up with a core group of friends that to this day, we're still a lot of us are best friends with. And finding parts of yourself that went beyond us, like, a typical culture.
Danielle Schleese:Even though dance is a very can be a very toxic environment in terms of, like, your body image and having to look a certain physique and weigh Oh my god. And perform and use your body as a tool.
Briana Donaldson:I would literally get smacked in the belly. They suck it in. Like, I am.
Danielle Schleese:I mean, to an extent, you have to, like dance is an art. Right? So you have to, like, use your core to balance your your body in certain ways. So you have to like use your body learn how to use your body as a tool and a function, but it also performs anyway, that's a whole other topic. It also performs well when it's like controlled and you have control when you connect to those body parts, and you can connect to those body parts when you're working on them.
Danielle Schleese:So that's a that's a whole long conversation.
Briana Donaldson:But okay. I feel
Danielle Schleese:like we've talked done a good job, like, kind of exploring the differences and the identities of it all, but I feel like the real challenge is is actually feeling that way. Because I feel like a lot of people, you know, myself, I'm like, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Positive thoughts, positive talk.
Danielle Schleese:I get it. But I don't actually feel that way. Mhmm. So if you're somebody, like, listening here and it's just like, okay, what do I do that actually can stick and implement as change? Mhmm.
Danielle Schleese:What are some very subtle, simple,
Briana Donaldson:effective ways you can do that, you think? I mean, first and foremost, you have to believe that your confidence does not depend on others. Your confidence does not depend on others' opinion of you, others' view of you, others' even what you think they might be thinking of you, that is not where confidence stems from. It's gotta be completely inward. So I feel like you have to go into your life every day not seeking approval.
Briana Donaldson:Like, who am I today without seeking approval? Again, much easier said than done. Mhmm.
Danielle Schleese:Like you said earlier, was almost like a fake it y make it kind of vibe. It is Which is
Briana Donaldson:why they say fake it because it feels like you're faking it. It does. Right? You're gonna feel like I cannot tell you how many times I've felt like an impostor. I cannot
Danielle Schleese:tell you. Sometimes feel like an impostor in certain areas. Right?
Briana Donaldson:Right now. In this freaking podcast world. Podcast. Yeah. Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:You're just starting a podcast. We're doing it because we you've gotta believe in yourself. Like, no one's gonna cheer for you as much as you gotta cheer for yourself. I think a big
Danielle Schleese:a big jump off of what we just said about the podcasting too for us is just like jumping into things before you're ready, like not waiting until you're in the state of perfectionism. Totally. Like thinking that you're worthy once you x y and z. Thinking that, like for us in this state, like, we'll do a podcast when this is this is this It's is like, no. We're like we said, we're new here.
Danielle Schleese:We're starting it no matter what. We're gonna say what we wanna say because we enjoy having this conversation to each other, and we wanna meet other women and other like minded individuals who are interested in
Briana Donaldson:these topics. Right. And I think that you can ask yourself, like, really start to ask yourself introspective questions. It doesn't have to be all the time, but just try. Just try it out and see what you come up with.
Briana Donaldson:Ask yourself, if I trusted my worth, what would I do differently? If Anything you do my worth, what would I do differently?
Danielle Schleese:Almost kinda that's almost kinda like saying, take away the once I lose this amount of weight, then I can wear these types of clothes. Once my face looks this way, then I can receive these benefits.
Briana Donaldson:Once I feel like this person likes me, then I'll
Danielle Schleese:Feel complete. X y z. Yeah. But there's always kind of this, I don't know, trepidation if that's, like, the right word or if it's even a English word. I was like It is an English word.
Danielle Schleese:That this is going to be the end goal. That will be the solution. And it's almost kind of like this hustle worthy vibe that we were talking about previously. And, like, this
Briana Donaldson:culture is like, it's all about the journey, man.
Danielle Schleese:All about the journey. It really is all about the journey. Because once you reach that destination Then what? Is it, like, is it on to the next journey? And do you really sit and enjoy that accomplishment that you just had or that goal?
Danielle Schleese:Because, like, for for me, finishing my BFA was like the I just finished it last year, and that was, like, fourteen years into it. Thirteen years later. Fourteen years. Reminds me of like the SpongeBob SquarePants. Thirteen years later.
Danielle Schleese:Thirteen years later. Yeah. But for me, was like, what do I need it for? I'm just I'm just enjoying my classes. The older I got, the better marks I got.
Danielle Schleese:Was like, oh, this is a game. Yeah. I was like, you actually got to choose the classes and things that you wanted to and the teachers and things like that. But I was like, oh, once I'm done school, like, then I'll feel so much weight is lifted off me. I'll feel so free, and I'll feel
Briana Donaldson:like So accomplished. Off me,
Danielle Schleese:a huge thing. And I'm just like, I don't even like I didn't even go to the graduation. I just like send it to me in the mail. And like since it's been done, I'm like, there's been no real change in my life. Like, I feel nice that it's done.
Danielle Schleese:But at the same time, I'm like, okay, what's next? Like, what do I focus on? It's always I've I've always felt like this inherent having to catch up and, like, sense of worth in what I do, who I am, where I go, what I look like. And that is it is like one of the hardest things I think to do to separate from our roles.
Briana Donaldson:For sure.
Danielle Schleese:The the roles that we play.
Briana Donaldson:I feel like and, you know, again, this is only speaking from a woman's perspective, but I feel like especially for women. Like, we place our worth so much on how we look, who we take care of, what we what we produce, and how productive we are. And so, you know, I we are there's no way we're the only ones that feel this. Yeah. I mean, we know that we're not after talking to just our own small So friend we would love to hear from you guys.
Briana Donaldson:Like, what are your stories?
Danielle Schleese:Mhmm.
Briana Donaldson:What when is a time that you felt or maybe it's right now, like you cannot seem to gain a grasp on your self worth and how can we help you with that? Or maybe when is a time that you felt like you had an epiphany or you had a moment or you had a blip in your day where you did something, said something, spoke to someone, acted a certain way that gave you insight and and like a breath of fresh air into your own value. You were like, I feel fucking great about myself right now because I did this, because I set this boundary, because I didn't feel like I needed to shrink
Danielle Schleese:myself that situation. Talk about it that much because it feels like bragging almost. Right. Don't be conceited. Of course not.
Danielle Schleese:Right. And it's it's so funny because even with your own friends, like, you almost hold back a little bit too because you wanna Right. Fit all these amazing, beautiful ideals of, like, what a woman should be.
Briana Donaldson:Don't be too
Danielle Schleese:loud. Don't be too loud. Don't be too conceited. Make sure that you're giving. Make sure that you're listening.
Danielle Schleese:And then also, it's like being afraid of, like, what people say about you behind your back too. It's like, oh my god. All she does is talk about herself. But how can it come across in a way that it's encouraging somebody else? And that's why I'm like so curious to hear what you guys here have to say.
Briana Donaldson:And I also think that that's, again, just constantly trickling back to the same point. And we're going to do this over and over every episode. The reason we created this is to create that safe space. Yes. Is to create the safe space of women encouraging women, women supporting women, and women with open arms and open ears to be here to hold you, support you, and hear you, and listen to you.
Briana Donaldson:So I think that, you know, whatever your experience is, you got a friend in me. Yeah.
Danielle Schleese:Just I think it's really good just to remember that it's a good thing to take up space. It's a good thing to be proud of yourself and to to know what your worth is. And if it's something that starts off so small, whatever that looks like for you, I'm that's why I'm so curious to hear what it is you have to say. So please connect with us on social media. We are on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, anywhere of the major platforms at the honey toast podcast.
Danielle Schleese:We would love to hear from you. We would love to connect from you and see if anything from this episode resonated with you. And any of these points that Brie and I just said tonight, we'd love to have more of a conversation.
Briana Donaldson:So And answer some of the questions for yourself. Yeah. Even if you don't wanna send it into us, even if you don't wanna touch base with us based on these things, some of the questions we have wind up. When do you feel most worthy? That's a good question.
Briana Donaldson:A good one. Have you ever felt guilty for resting or slowing down all the time? Yes. Every time. Yes.
Briana Donaldson:Every time. What's one way you've been dimming your light to make others comfortable? When was the last time you said no to protect your energy? That's a great one. I've gotten real good at that.
Briana Donaldson:Yes. You have. What would you do differently if you truly believed that you were already good enough? What would your life look like? Great questions.
Briana Donaldson:What's one small action that you can take this week to affirm your self worth? Journaling? Mirror work?
Danielle Schleese:What did you do this week?
Briana Donaldson:So what I have been doing actually already this week, Lily and I read this little book every night at bedtime, and it's called Where's the Owl? And there's these little, like, peekaboo flaps, and you're like, where's the deer? And you open it, there's the deer. And it's like, oh, they're playing hide and seek. But at the very end, the last page is like, and where are you?
Briana Donaldson:And you open it, and it's a mirror. Aw. And so every night at bedtime, I say, okay. What are we gonna say about ourselves? And then we go through things that we say about ourselves.
Briana Donaldson:For the first time tonight, Lily's like, I'm strong. I have big muscles. I'm brave. I'm amazing. I'm wonderful.
Briana Donaldson:And I'm like, yeah. And then she turned the book to me, and she go, okay. Your turn, mommy. Aw. I was like, oh my gosh.
Briana Donaldson:That's so sweet. So then I got to look in the mirror and say these cute little things about myself. I was like, yeah. Like, I get my girls to do all these, like, affirmations. Example.
Briana Donaldson:Yeah. And, you know, back at our house in Alabama, I have the affirmation cards.
Danielle Schleese:Yeah.
Briana Donaldson:And so every morning they get to pick one, and then they read it out loud, and they have to repeat it twice. So like, I am confident, whatever it is. And I'm like, yeah. I should I should be doing this doing the card myself and doing the mirror work myself. So that's gonna yes.
Briana Donaldson:So that's gonna be my goal this week is to do the mirror affirmations with Lily every night at bedtime with her little boy.
Danielle Schleese:I love that. Yeah. Mirror work is so powerful. I'm excited to get into mirror work. It's hard.
Danielle Schleese:Once we get into, like, beauty standards and stuff and those type of episodes because it is so think about how hard it is for some people just to look people in the eye when they talk to them, let alone your own eyes
Briana Donaldson:Yeah.
Danielle Schleese:In the mirror. Yeah. That's fucking hard. Yeah. It is.
Danielle Schleese:It is. So
Briana Donaldson:ladies, you've got this. Which which camera are you looking at? That one? The sun. Ladies, you've got this.
Briana Donaldson:Get out there and do something uncomfortable so that you can feel more comfortable in your own skin. Do something uncomfortable so that you can feel more comfortable in the world. Just feel more. Do something uncomfortable so that you can be your truest authentic self. Because at the end of the day, all the people and all the things and all the spaces that you've curated in your life not being your authentic self are worth nothing.
Briana Donaldson:If you can't be your authentic self. Yeah. You got this ladies.
Danielle Schleese:You got it. Thank you guys so much for joining us. We are so excited to talk to you next week, and we love you for being here. And I love you.
Briana Donaldson:And I love you.