Whys & Finds

Pick a unicorn she can take with her, sized for a three-year-old and matched to what she can already do. How to choose one that gets used.

Show Notes

What is a good unicorn gift for a three-year-old girl?

Pick a unicorn she can take with her, sized for a three-year-old. The American Academy of Pediatrics, in its report on choosing toys for young children, says to match the toy to what the child can already do, with a little room to grow. The AAP also says to avoid toys with button batteries or high-powered magnets, and to be careful with toys and apps that promise to teach.

Ellie and Ben talk about why buying from a photo and the age on the box can miss, and what to check instead: the size in inches and what the child does every day. They look at a small backpack with a removable plush unicorn, and Ben's better first question for the parents: what will she carry in it? A snack and a treasure, or a small lunch box?

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Whys & Finds is made by Naturally KIDS.
This episode uses AI-generated voices for both hosts.

What is Whys & Finds?

The whys parents and gift-givers ask about little kids, and the finds that actually get used. On Whys & Finds, two hosts, Ellie and Ben, take one question per episode, answer it up front, and are honest about when something else would suit a child better. Both hosts are AI-generated voices. Made by Naturally KIDS.

Ben: A three-year-old girl, a birthday coming up, and she loves unicorns. Easy, right? Then you start looking, and there are unicorns on everything. Which one is she still using a month later?

Ellie: Welcome to Whys & Finds. I'm Ellie.

Ben: And I'm Ben.

Ellie: Today: what's a good unicorn gift for a three-year-old girl?

Ellie: I'd look for a unicorn she can take with her. Not one that sits on a shelf and looks pretty. Something she can hold, carry and use most days. Sized for a three-year-old, and simple enough for what she can already do.

Ben: So the unicorn is the easy part. The hard part is everything around it.

Ellie: Pretty much. Let me explain.

Ellie: Start with the American Academy of Pediatrics. They have a report on choosing toys for young children. The main idea: match the toy to what the child can already do, with a little room to grow.

Ben: What does that mean for a unicorn? It's a unicorn. It doesn't do anything.

Ellie: That's partly the point. The report lists a few classic kinds of toys. One of them is pretend play, with toy characters like dolls, animals and action figures. A plush unicorn sits right in that group.

Ben: So a plain stuffed unicorn already counts.

Ellie: It does. A soft unicorn she can hold is already on that list.

Ben: Then what about the unicorn that lights up, sings and flaps its wings? That's half the shelf.

Ellie: Check what's inside before you buy. The AAP says: "Avoid toys with button batteries or high-powered magnets."

Ben: So I turn the box over and read what powers it.

Ellie: Exactly. And if the box promises the unicorn will teach her letters and numbers, be careful there too. The AAP says to be careful with that kind of label. Most tablets, computer games and apps advertised that way, in their words, "really aren't."

Ben: A talking unicorn with a lesson plan. I can see the box already.

Ellie: One more line from that report: "A certain toy is not necessary for your child to reach his or her next developmental milestone."

Ben: So there's no one unicorn she has to have.

Ellie: No. Which is good news if you're the one choosing.

Ben: Here's my real problem, though. Say I'm a grandparent who sees her a few times a year. I'm picking from a photo, and the photo makes everything look the same size.

Ellie: That's how a gift can miss. You buy from a picture and the age on the box. Then it's too big for her, or it looks too young for her, and it can end up in a closet.

Ben: So what do I do instead?

Ellie: Three things. Read the size in inches, not just the age. Hold your hands apart to that size and picture her holding it. And ask the parents one question: what does she do every day? Preschool, the park, a weekly visit somewhere?

Ben: Why does that matter for a unicorn?

Ellie: Because a gift that goes where she goes gets used. A unicorn that stays home waits for her. A unicorn that comes along is part of her day.

Ben: Do three-year-olds even want to carry their own things?

Ellie: Some do, some don't. That's another good question for the parents.

Ellie: Here's one option that fits all of that. Naturally KIDS makes small backpacks with a removable plush animal on the front, and the unicorn is one of them. She can take it out for a hug and put it back. So it's a soft unicorn and a bag she can wear, in one gift.

Ben: Two gifts in one box.

Ellie: That's how the listing puts it. The small one has room for a snack and a treasure. Padded, adjustable straps, and an easy zipper small hands open on their own.

Ben: And for the grandparent who's shipping it across the country?

Ellie: It arrives gift-ready in a kraft box. Some versions have a label for personalization inside. So you can write her name in it before you send it.

Ben: And for the parents, who'll be the ones cleaning it?

Ellie: You can machine wash the backpack in cold water on a gentle cycle.

Ben: The parents will like that line more than the unicorn.

Ellie: Probably. The unicorn comes in a few colors, pink, purple and white among them.

Ben: Ask before you pick. She's three. She has opinions.

Ellie: She does. And if you can't ask, white is an easy choice.

Ben: Can I push back on the size, though? You went straight to the small one. But nobody asked what she'll carry. A snack and a treasure is one thing. A long preschool day with a lunch box and a water bottle is another.

Ellie: That's fair.

Ben: So I wouldn't stop at her age. I'd ask what goes inside.

Ellie: You're right. That's a better first question than mine. If her days are long and she carries more, look at the medium. It's a bigger size, with room to pack a small lunch box and side pockets that fit a water bottle. If it's a snack and a treasure, the small one does the job.

Ben: So, ask the parents what she'll carry. Then pick the size.

Ellie: Exactly. What goes in the bag picks the size.

Ellie: Now, who should skip a unicorn backpack? First, a girl who isn't into unicorns right now. Start from the animal she does love. The same kind of backpack comes with a dinosaur, a pink triceratops, a dog, a giraffe and more.

Ben: Not every three-year-old is a unicorn kid.

Ellie: Second, a family that has asked for no more stuff. Respect that. Coloring books, crayons and stickers are on the AAP's list too, and they get used up instead of piling up.

Ben: And if she already has a backpack she won't put down?

Ellie: Then skip the backpack. A simple plush unicorn, with no batteries, still fits everything we said.

Ben: Okay, let me see if I've got it. One: pick a unicorn she can take with her. Two: match it to what she can already do, with a little room to grow. That's the American Academy of Pediatrics. Three: skip anything with button batteries or high-powered magnets, and be careful with toys that promise to teach. Four: read the size in inches, not just the age on the box. Five: ask the parents what she'll carry, then pick the size.

Ellie: You've got it.

Ellie: That's it for today. A reminder: the voices in this episode are AI-generated. Whys & Finds is made by Naturally KIDS.

Ellie: That's today's why. See you at the next find.