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Welcome to The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide, where we explore the challenges and strategies of navigating life caught between work demands and supporting our loved ones while maintaining our own well-being. Join us in this dynamic podcast series as we uncover the complexities individuals face balancing multiple roles in the modern world. Our host, Candace Dellacona, shares personal experiences and professional insights to guide listeners through this complex journey.
Candace Dellacona: Welcome to the
Sandwich Generation Survival Guide.
I am your host, Candace Dellacona,
and I am really excited to welcome
our guest today, Rachel Welch,
who is here as a mother, as a
daughter, as a woman's health expert.
Rachel is known far and wide as a pre
and postnatal fitness pioneer, and Rachel
is the founder of Revolution Motherhood.
So welcome Rachel.
Rachel Welch: Thank you, Candace.
It's really a joy to be here.
Candace Dellacona: I'm so excited
to have you and to talk to you about
women's health and all of the struggles
we have as mothers, as daughters, as
members of the sandwich generation.
One of our favorite topics here
is to talk about self-care, and
that's really why you're here.
Rachel Welch: Yeah.
I'm excited to talk about self care and
to unpack what that term really means.
It's thrown around a lot.
Candace Dellacona: It is.
And that's a really good place to start.
And maybe you can fill us in on your
journey and what led you to find
and establish Revolution Motherhood.
Rachel Welch: At its inception revolution,
motherhood really was born when I became
a mom and it was born to become a body
and health education platform for women.
When I became a mom, my
oldest just turned 14.
The black hole of women's health
information was much more vacant
and vast than it is today.
And I would even say even while
it's a lot more filled right now,
the information isn't necessarily.
Better or more easy to understand today.
But when I became a mom and discovered
firsthand the real failings of
the industries I was a part of
with regard to women and more
specifically than failing women had
never even really considered women.
And the different bodies we live in and
the changes that our bodies transcend year
over year and decade over decade, and no
conversation, no language, and certainly
no roadmap to navigating those many
changes so that women could thrive and.
I speak of those industries, their
fitness, their eastern medicine, their
health their, all the movement modalities.
There's yoga, Pilates.
I was in all of it.
And that really fired me up because
because the disregard for the
quality of our physical health is
actually a disregard for our lives.
Your physical health colors,
everything about your reality, and
in particular, once you become a mom.
Those demands are amplified and
that amplification is occurring
on a compromised physicality.
Let alone a compromised hormone and
emotional and everything else system.
And so I really set out to answer
those questions, not just for
myself, but for women everywhere,
because we deserve to be valued.
Our bodies are valuable.
And the assumption that from childbirth
onward, even if you don't have a baby,
you've crossed the threshold of forties
and fifties, that there's an assumption
that women's bodies just decline.
And that's totally unacceptable.
Candace Dellacona: So
first of all, amen to that.
And I think you bring up a really
important point that here you are,
you're immersed in this world of fitness.
You have education around the physicality,
the body, and really have surrounded
yourself probably with the people that
should be able to have provided you
with the answers and the data, and you
as someone who had the education and
the resources to find the additional
resources, you couldn't find them.
So it sounds like you just created
the resource, and I love what you're
saying about we, part of the deficit
of that information is a statement on
the fact that it wasn't considered.
That women's health is dismissed, and
so you're bringing it to the forefront
to make sure that we're not dismissed.
Rachel Welch: Absolutely.
We've never been studied.
And as much as that is now coming out
in the menopause conversation and the
menopause movement, when I started
Revolution Motherhood, I would say
the movement then was diastasis recti.
These conversations that are so important
to be having out loud in the open as
women, we process by talking it out.
We need to know that we're seen and heard.
The research is still not there.
And as much as I give our physicians
the benefit of the doubt and credit
for working in a very broken system
they're working an uphill battle trying
to answer questions based on research
that hasn't been done and experience
they don't have, and frankly, topics
that are way outside their scope.
And so as women, it's like.
As always, we're left to figure
it out by ourselves and to
self-educate and then self-advocate.
And so to have a place like Revolution
Motherhood where there's reliable
information, it's science backed.
I researched women's bodies.
I researched the changes.
I created a cross training method
that actually meets you through each
change so that every life change
becomes an opportunity for growth.
And a deeper connection, I would say,
to your humanity and to your essence.
You just get better with age.
You don't decline with age.
And to have an outlook like that and a
resource like that is it's a lifeline
to a lot of women who have shown up in
my office and who I know you interact
with all the time, who are just
like, they've given up and shuttered
themselves out of living in their bodies.
Candace Dellacona: That's a great segue
to talk about the importance of self-care
and making sure that in the midst of
trying to raise good humans and advocate
for the older generation in our lives.
That we are not sort
of lost in the middle.
And that's a big part of the sandwich
generation and the moniker and the
origination of the moniker, which
is feeling squeezed in between.
And I think society dismisses us and
we dismiss ourselves because we're
so busy looking to other people.
So can you talk a little bit about
why self care is so important and
what that means for our listeners?
Rachel Welch: Yeah.
Absolutely self care in my
world means having a living
relationship with yourself.
And that means through your body.
It means listening to your emotions.
It means, investing time and energy
in knowing yourself the same way you
invest time and energy in a relationship
with your children and with your
partner, and with your parents, and
with all the people you're taking care
of, and you're sandwiched in between.
Investing that energy in yourself is
what gives you your personal ability to
process and align your decisions that
you're making in your life for these
people in your caretaking efforts, but
also for yourself to navigate not just
physiological changes, but the changes
that come with living decade over decade.
And the sooner you establish that habit,
and I will say self-care is a habit, not a
motivational sort of if you feel like it.
Right.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
Yeah.
Rachel Welch: because one of the
things that really happens for us.
In that sandwiched, overtaxed, overwhelmed
reality as caretakers of so many others,
is you never are gonna feel like it.
As soon as you open this can of worms,
like you're gonna feel things, you're
gonna face things, your thoughts are
gonna be like loud, all those things that
come up, pressing it down and ignoring
it, we all know is not going to work.
Candace Dellacona: It doesn't work.
I can attest if anybody needs proof.
Yeah, no, I love that.
The fact that you're bringing it
up and framing it as a routine.
And an exercise is so important
because self-care doesn't
just mean going for a walk.
It means prioritizing who you are.
And to your point, thinking about
the body that you embody as the
pathway, I guess to the outside world.
And one of the things that I loved that
you brought up in a past conversation that
we had is honoring your body at every age.
We have listeners who have young
children and maybe they're in their
thirties, and people who have moved on.
I myself am in my fifth decade.
What does that mean and why do
you think that we as a society
don't honor our body at every age?
What is it that prevents
us from doing that?
Rachel Welch: I'll share
like an in imagine.
Okay.
You have an experience in your body,
whether you're 10, whether you're 20,
whether you're 50, whether you're 80,
you have something going on in your
body that doesn't quite feel right.
Maybe it's pain, maybe
it's something going on.
We know whether you've experienced
it directly or you've just heard
it from the women around you.
You know that the most likely response
you're gonna get if you take this
to a healthcare provider is a shrug.
Well, I don't know.
You're getting older.
You had a baby.
What do you expect?
Your body's just gonna be like this now.
We get dismissed.
And so starting to bring things up
and pay attention to your body as you
age is just scary because if you have
something wrong with you or you are
feeling something going on and there is
no path to change it or recover or fix
it, I'd rather not know about it too.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
Yeah.
Rachel Welch: right?
It's like, well, we better just get
on with it because this is gonna take
time and energy I don't have already.
So why am I gonna take the time to
go see somebody who's gonna tell
me that I'm just broken forever?
Candace Dellacona: You're so right.
You're so right.
There's like almost, it's an easy way
out because you look at having to expend
more time than you already do not have.
But it does go back to
devaluing ourselves, right?
Because if we had value, then we would
say this is necessary time to spend.
I mean, I think what is really
important to think about too.
And, I try to think about is
I'm advocating for my children,
for example, or my dad.
And one of the ways that I'm a great
advocate is because I know them well.
And so it sounds to me like you're talking
about the same thing for our own bodies.
Like the better you know your
body, the better you can articulate
and advocate for yourself.
Rachel Welch: absolutely.
So flip that what if that I just described
and what if you had had a multi-decade
relationship with yourself, and that
was really the story that I came into
motherhood with and having this, all of
a sudden life change occur in my body.
I had a template against which to test
and recover and experiment on myself
and understand, this is working.
This isn't working.
Take that and apply it to you have
a general understanding, a good base
knowledge of how your neuromuscular
system works, when it feels like you're
connected, when it feels like you're not.
You have a general understanding of
what occurs to your body when you're
entering perimenopause and menopause
and you're well-educated and versed.
And then you can go to your
medical providers and you
can one, vet them better.
If you can know the questions to ask.
You can really choose a better,
more skilled provider who's already
doing their own research in women's
health and ready to meet you there.
But you can also have better language
that they're going to hear better.
And you can, and this is unfortunate,
but it's what we all have to do in this
day and age is you're gonna maybe have
to go through several physicians, right?
Test one out and you don't
get the answers you want.
Go get a second and third opinion.
And it's like, Nope, that one wasn't it.
Take hormone replacement therapy, take a
blown out knee, take a hip replacement,
like these are major life moments for
women in particular, and having the
right medical guide as you go through it.
The medical guide is gonna meet you at
one level and then having the knowledge
that you have about your body and your
relationship with yourself is what's
gonna take you to a full recovery.
And that's true for every single
life event, whether it's pregnancy,
childbirth, a hurt back a skiing injury,
or you're 70 and just trying to maintain
really strong muscle and bone mass.
Candace Dellacona: And with that being
said, and going to the various care
providers and trying out the doctors and
figuring out if that is an individual that
you can communicate with and that they
hear you in a way you need to be heard.
Or open to the, data you're
essentially giving them by telling
them what ails you let's say.
Why do you think the healthcare
space is so far behind?
Why has the healthcare
space not caught up?
I shared with you that, it took me
over a year to get into a physician
that's specialized in perimenopause and
menopause, and I'm here in New York City.
I have great health insurance,
so why is it that the healthcare
system hasn't caught up to help us?
Rachel Welch: There are a
lot of facets to that answer.
I would say zoom out away from
women's health and look at
healthcare as a general umbrella.
And I think we can all agree it's a
crumbling, antiquated, broken system.
It has been dismantled like systemically
by a lot of different forces,
political and nonpolitical, but
certainly by financial forces, right?
So that, increasingly it's for profit,
decreasingly, it's for genuine health.
So that's the condition under
which we're dealing with medicine.
Then zoom in on women's health.
Women's health historically has not been
researched, has not been prioritized.
Physicians are not
routinely trained in it.
Same situation as fitness instructors.
They're not trained in women's fitness.
That's changing a little bit now,
there's just no education around it.
And so for a physician to be trained
in perimenopause, in even in obstetrics
and gynecology, like that's a field.
But then in women's health related to
obstetrics and gynecology, that has to
be the physician going out and educating
themselves and wanting to learn it.
And then take the
position of the physician.
I work a lot with practitioners,
both, from obs, midwives, PTs,
like across the whole spectrum.
These people are burnt out.
They are doing the very best they can.
They're very limited in time.
They're also really restrained by scope.
They are physically not allowed
to go outside their scope, so
they're allowed to refer out.
But if you ask them a question
that is not within their training
they're not allowed to answer.
And so there's a, an enormous amount
of restriction and gagging on the
medical providers themselves in a
system that's just crushing them,
Candace Dellacona: So.
When you think of that though,
and so we're on the other
side as the novice, right?
As the non-medical person.
And let's say that we've done
a great job at knowing who we
are and understanding our body.
How do we find the right practitioner?
What is your sort of best advice
for somebody who really needs to
connect with the right care provider?
Where do they start?
Rachel Welch: Google is not a bad place.
I will tell you, I would go to
Google before I went to social media.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
Rachel Welch: Social media is
just so invasive and divisive.
Put that to the side.
Go to Google and I would put in the
terms that you, for instance, let's
take, we'll take perimenopause.
Okay.
So if I were gonna Google a practitioner
and perimenopause, I would put in
perimenopause general practitioner, or if
I wanted like women's health specialist,
something like that I would put a general
geographical area around it, so I would
put some parameters like that around it.
See what comes up.
Then generally you do get a
list or a link to like Zocdoc or
some, list of practitioners where
they've been reviewed by patients.
And then you've gotta do your research.
You've gotta like pull out
a few of the physicians.
I will tell you this is
a place for AI as well.
I'll go into Claude and I will
plug in some doctor's names.
I'll plug into my health insurance
and I'll be like, line this up.
And Claude's pretty good.
They, he they'll help
define things for you.
Candace Dellacona: That's a
great suggestion actually.
Another great example
of how AI can help you.
Rachel Welch: It can, yeah.
It can cut through the
noise a little bit for you.
And so that'll then start with
like, all right, I've narrowed it
down to a handful of physicians.
And then, then you can like
Google the actual name and just
start reading about that person.
Read their bio, read the bio they
wrote about themselves, and figure out
what they're saying about themselves.
That's where I would start.
And then honestly, I've had a couple
physicians where I thought they
were, I thought they were gonna be
great, and I called the office to
try to make an appointment and that
experience was so weird and off-putting.
I was like, I don't think
that's the one actually.
And then I would go to somebody else.
Don't be afraid to change doctors.
All of this takes time, which is
why it becomes it's easy to get
self-defeating about it, right?
So it does take a little
bit of diligence and time.
But this is time that's well spent.
Candace Dellacona: It is and making
right, and making it a priority.
And you just use the word noise,
which I think is really illustrative,
because as someone who is now in
her fifties and searching for the
data to help me find my way through,
how do we cut through the noise?
There's this vast vacancy
that we talked about, right?
And there was like the wide
open space where, you realize
that there was no information.
And then I feel like it's two extremes
because then there's also so much
information and we're being told
to take this supplement and don't
do hormone replacement therapy, and
then this could, don't have soy.
And so how do you cut through the
noise with all of the information
that's floating out there in the ether?
Rachel Welch: it's really hard
and we'll just start there.
You have to be really an adult with
yourself and discipline the information
you're allowing in your brain.
And I would say this across all
information, not just your health.
Know, I would, this is how I relate to it.
I choose my sources.
I don't allow every source into my
brain, but I also choose sources
that are science backed or based
in research, based in data.
For instance, someone just in our
community the other day was asking
about a perimenopause supplement.
And they're just like jumping into the
group and they're like, what do I do?
I respond to all those inquiries
and I went in and I found an NIH
study National Institutes of Health.
I found an NIH study and I linked her to
that and I said, this is from NIH, it's
science backed, it's research backed.
They're even at the front, like
in the abstract saying women
need more study in this area.
However, from what we have
seen in the data we've
collected, here are the results.
So it's not telling you a
should, it's not advice.
It's here is the data.
You can weigh it for yourself.
And then I said at the bottom of
that, here's my opinion, right?
In my experience, supplements
should be just that.
A supplement to your whole nutrition
and active lifestyle, and you have
gotta run supplements like this by your
doctor because your blood work matters.
So supplements just 'cause they're
vitamins doesn't mean they don't
have anything in them, or they can't
have any negative impact on you.
I was like, you need to know if
you're deficient in anything or
what if this is gonna contradict
anything that you're already taking.
Like you definitely need to
run this stuff by your doctor.
So that's a, that's one of the ways
we cut through the noise, right?
Like she came to a trusted closed
community, asked her a question,
and the response is, here's science.
Definitely run it by your doctor,
but also litmus check this
with your holistic lifestyle.
And the other piece I would say is
once you do wanna try something, if
you've tested it out, you like think
it looks great, you have five friends
who've taken it and tried it, try it
like, if it seems safe, go for it.
And then listen to the results
you're having in your body.
Don't override it.
'cause as women, we're just
trained to doubt ourselves,
Candace Dellacona: That's true.
The, the inner voice Is a real thing.
Rachel Welch: It's it just must be me.
I'm crazy.
It is no, you are not crazy.
Your body's talking to you.
So maybe it worked for
those five other women.
Maybe you're having a negative response.
Stop.
See if the negative response stops, and
if it does, that's not the thing for you.
And I would say that from fitness
to nutrition, to diets, to
supplements to like all of it.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah, and you
brought up technology before and your
answer went back to technology, right?
We have access to a lot of
information, which can be, on the
one hand, confusing because we have
a lot of information coming at us.
But on the other hand, you're talking
about vetting resources and making sure
that you know the website, for example,
and the link that you provided was to NIH.
So that is a reputable resource.
And then always going back to that
physician that you've identified,
who you can have that sort of
dialogue with, and really knowing
the source of your information.
Rachel Welch: Yeah.
And I would say, my daughters are 14 and
nine, and as they are entering the vast
spaces of the internet and all the things
we are teaching them very carefully,
methodically to be safe, to doubt things,
to vet their sources, like to really think
before they allow things into their brain.
I feel like our generation,
we didn't have it.
We didn't have smartphones.
I was just telling them what
microfiche was the other day.
Candace Dellacona: Did they?
Did they get it or not really?
Rachel Welch: They thought
it was fascinating.
And my 9-year-old asked if we
could get a microfiche machine.
Candace Dellacona: Actually,
you probably could and you
could probably get a bargain.
Rachel Welch: Probably gonna, I
was like, let's go to the library.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
Rachel Welch: It's like we have
this really unique experience in our
lifetime of pre-technology and using
microfiche and doing good research
all the way to this really crazy noisy
overflowing world of information, getting
assaulted all the time by opinion.
And for us, we're learning
this later in life.
It's newer to us than it is to these
kids who've never known anything else.
And so we've got a learning
curve to catch up to.
At the beginning when social
media was coming out, like
it wasn't that big of a deal.
We, I don't, I didn't like, put
parameters around it for myself, I
was like, oh, I'll go check Facebook.
Now I am like, I'm diligent.
I'm diligent about who I follow, what I
allow on my feed, and I'm diligent about
what I look at and when I look at it.
Candace Dellacona: And so even talking
about those parameters and being
diligent and finding the right resources.
While you were talking, I was thinking
those are also examples of self-care.
You're making sure that the information
you're allowing to seep into you
to help make decisions is good
information because you're worth it.
And so putting the value on that and
making sure that the data and that
the medical people that you choose
to be in your orbit are worthy to
be in your orbit and making sure
that those things are a priority.
I think, one of the things that I love
so much about Revolution Motherhood,
and if we could talk a little bit about
that amazing endeavor that you started.
First of all, I love the title.
Rachel Welch: Thank you.
Candace Dellacona: It's just really
indicative of, about what the program is.
And so when you found, this wide
open space where, this information
was really lacking, what was the
most important thing for you when
you started Revolution Motherhood?
Rachel Welch: I would say it was the
desire to help women who had lost all hope
that they could really live vital lives.
And I can't even describe or count how
many women have showed up in my office.
And I sit down and I look at
them and I ask them how their
bodies are and they fall apart.
They just sob hysterically, it's
like someone's finally asked, and
the end of that sobbing is almost
always I just, I don't think
there's anything that can be done.
I'm just in pain all the time.
And, over the course of 60 or
90 minutes, we take our time.
I listen to them, I
listen to their bodies.
I watch their bodies move.
We find what does turn
on and what does work.
We chart a course to making the positive
changes they didn't think were possible.
And it's so much more than just
getting strong and doing fitness.
Fitness is a word, like self-care, right?
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
Rachel Welch: so much more than that.
It's about intentional living.
And for me.
This is my personal story, but my
body's always been, I've been an
athlete my whole life and it's how I've
known myself, how I process myself.
And for a woman, for other women who
live like that, to have that, that
like oasis taken away from them or
threatened, it's so much more than,
oh, my butt isn't tight anymore.
I don't have a six pack anymore.
And we're talking about
a real loss of self.
And so for me that was the real impetus
was this isn't just about fitness, this
is about teaching you how your body works,
so you don't need to fear it anymore.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
Rachel Welch: And then from that,
discovering the incredible joy that
can be found and empowerment truly
that can be discovered and accessed
in making positive changes in your
physical health and getting strong.
Candace Dellacona: Yeah.
I love that.
The fact that, to your point, whether
you're an athlete your whole life or you
were someone who was in shape and you were
more able bodied maybe than you are at
the current time, there's so much identity
and self-worth entangled into your
physicality, especially in our society.
For you to have created this platform,
which is a soft place for people
to land and creating a community
from that, which is a big part
of what Revolution Motherhood is.
And I encourage people to check out
the website because it really is a
place where like-minded people look
for vetted information, evidence-based
information, and a sense of belonging
and not being alone in their struggle.
Rachel Welch: Yeah.
Totally.
I'll say like I, as a founder, I had
an idea, I had a passion flash, I had a
vision of what it was gonna be, right?
And you never know what it's
actually gonna become once it's
put out into the organic world.
This inner, we call it the inner circle.
It blows me away.
We've been on it all.
We had a summer sweat club, so it was just
like one of the groups they could join it
if they wanted to, have accountability.
And the women that come in there are
like, I don't know, like how did you,
like someone like posted that they worked
out at 5:00 AM and someone else gets in.
They're like, all right, tell me
how you're getting up at 5:00 AM
because I don't think I can do that.
And blah.
It's just like this
constant community of Yes.
Encouragement and hands on each other's
back, like it's where we've removed.
It's blown me away.
It removes competition, it
removes the judgment, it removes
everything that kind of, we get
the social media dusty bus, right?
Like pits us against is each other,
is like, it is such a safe and loving
space where what unites us as women and
mothers is what is strongest and loudest.
And it is, I've said that actually for
a long time is that what unites us as
women is so much stronger than any of
the distractions that would divide us.
And when we come together in that group,
we just like, we achieve mountains, right?
So I'm, it's just it's been the
best and it continues to grow.
It continue, like obviously it's this
growing community, but it continues to
be this place where women are able to
imagine for themselves something that
could suddenly become possible that up
until that point they had just written
off as impossible for themselves.
Whether that is getting in the best
shape of their lives and getting
a six pack for the first time.
Or, running a marathon after
you've had four kids because your
pelvic floor has been blown out.
Or literally just being able, getting
out of such chronic pelvic pain
that you can go to the playground
and have fun with your kids.
Candace Dellacona: That's
the thing too, right?
It's at every stage, and one of the great
sort of guidance that you provide is that
your body, you should expect your body to
be different every single year, and that
is okay and it should happen and that,
every stage of life has its thing and
that is just part of the aging process.
Rachel Welch: A hundred percent.
And I think two things I'd say to
that is that one normalizing, just
me saying out loud and normalizing
a woman's internal experience really
helps us off take a breath and relax.
oh, okay.
I'm not unique or alone or
isolated or different or falling
apart the way other women aren't.
Your body will change every single year.
Our bodies, this is one of the
foundational principles of our
fitness method is that it just
over the course of one month.
Your cycle, your abdominal wall, and the
muscles that hold your abdominal wall
from the front sides and back change
shape, they relax, they don't respond as
well, and then over the course of your
cycle ending, they start to wake back up.
So the layers of our tissues and
the qualities of our tissues and
our mind muscle connection, how our
muscles respond or don't when we ask
for strength, it changes just over
the course of one menstrual cycle
and not take that kind of circular
experience and apply that over a decade.
Apply that over menopause.
Apply that over multiple childbirths
and recoveries, and what you're getting
is opportunities to continue to know
yourself, to activate, to listen to, to
find the muscles that have turned off.
Not judge yourself about it.
'cause it just is the nature of the beast.
Activating them.
And once we have a good strong activated
muscle group, we can strength train them.
And that's how we stay strong and
vital through every life phase.
Whether you're going into the changes
of menopause and really needing to
focus more on some weightlifting and
strengthening and maintaining bone density
and muscle mass, which is RM revive.
Versus postnatal recovery and
you gave birth five days ago and
you're like, I just would like to
be able to sit down without pain,
we got you through all of it.
And that's really where, it's that change
that like we can just count on the body
going through this cycle where I started
to research well, what gets our tissues
vital and that's fascial hydration.
If I'm gonna get into some science,
like we use this big soft foam ruler
and we really tend to hydration
and muscle tissue movement, meaning
muscles have full range of motion.
They're not stuck like this.
Take that to your pelvic floor, your back,
or anywhere else in your body, right?
We get full functional ranges of
motion, then we activate, then
we strength train and integrate,
and then we cross train you.
Candace Dellacona: Right.
Rachel Welch: And that is the magic
sauce that just travels with you
over a lifetime, that you're not just
prenatal and then now you're postpartum.
So you have to learn
something all brand new.
And now you're perimenopausal.
You're just gotta learn something all
brand new and go lift some weights, right.
Candace Dellacona: And also, to your
point is it's a journey and it's a
journey that we are all, we are all worthy
of going on and putting the time in.
And so when you think of being in
the sandwich generation and stuck
in between and we've said this
before that you are so much better.
A better parent, a better daughter,
a better sister, a better advocate.
When you yourself have put the time in
to know yourself and finding people like
you, Rachel, who have done such a great
job at creating a community and a place
for resources that have been vetted.
I think it's so important that our
listeners think about community and
find the community that helps them in
the way that you're trying to, do that
for us with Revolution Motherhood.
'Cause it really is a revolution.
We're demanding time and attention and
medical expertise and we're, we should
demand it for ourselves and we should
demand it from the rest of the world.
Rachel Welch: Yeah, it's
a brand new narrative.
And that narrative is being challenged
constantly by the internal scripts, right?
And so to have a community around you
that, we've all done this for women,
you get with your girlfriends and you're
like, F me, I think I'm just drowning.
I can't do this anymore.
And your girls are like, no, you got this.
You're gonna go get a
massage, go like, you know,
Candace Dellacona: Or take a nap, whatever
works.
Rachel Welch: What is the self-care
moment that is needed right now?
You're worth it.
And to have those like mirrors of
support just pouring back on you all
the time and to know you're safe, to
be vulnerable there and to reveal that
truth because that truth is ubiquitous.
We are all experiencing it.
I, I teach group experiences all the time.
And I'll walk into a group cold.
They don't know each other.
They don't know me.
And the second I open space for
women to start to talk about
themselves, it's immediate.
It's just wait.
You go through that?
I go through that too.
Wait, you did that too.
I did that too.
It's just oh my God, what a relief.
I'm not alone.
Candace Dellacona: I love that.
And that is really, the purpose of this
podcast is to really highlight for others
the universality of this experience and
sharing with each other the resources
that help get us through so that maybe
the people that follow behind us have
a little bit of an easier path than we
did, and really putting good into the
world, which is exactly what you have done
with Revolution Motherhood, and it was
really a pleasure to have you, Rachel,
Rachel Welch: Thank you.
Candace Dellacona: I encourage our
listeners to check it out and thank you
for all that you have done to try to
bring the narrative to the forefront
and make sure that we are valued.
Rachel Welch: Oh God, it's my
privilege truly, besides having
my daughters, it's my privilege.
And thank you for creating and generating
this platform because this is how,
it's by sharing our stories and sharing
these resources that we imagine.
And are allowed to imagine a different
reality and a different narrative.
So the more we fill the space with good
noise and good information, the better.
So thank much.
Candace Dellacona: Cheers to that.
Yes.
Thanks again.