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Join MaryRuth and special guests as they dive deep into the world of health, wellness, and purposeful living. Each episode is a fresh, inspiring conversation with thought leaders, health experts, and everyday changemakers who share practical tips and empowering stories to help you take meaningful steps toward your best self. Whether you're seeking motivation, holistic guidance, or just a little joy in your wellness journey—this podcast is here to help you move forward every day.
Doing
this no phone zone thing.
I'm going to do it
like you already got me.
I will, I promise you.
I do not say the slightly.
That's why I actually started
to cry twice in the podcast,
because you said it
and I was like,
oh, that's genius.
And it's so genius.
It's no, no, it's
going to change everything
for me
and for everyone, honestly.
Because listen to the Move
Forward Every Day podcast.
We all get 24 hours in a day
to have freedom,
to experience joy.
What is important to you?
Who are you
and what makes you happy?
Hi everyone!
I'm MaryRuth
Ghiyam, the founder
and CEO of MaryRuth Organics,
and this is the Move Forward
Everyday podcast.
Today.
I am so thrilled
as we're wrapping up
the end of the year
to have one of my best,
best friends on the podcast.
For those of you
who do not know,
I have four best friends
that are female
and I'm going to name them
here.
My mother is my closest
confidante and dearest
best friend, Colleen
and my good friend Erin.
We've known each other
about the same length
as Daphne,
who we have here today.
My good friend Christina
and my very,
very good friend Daphne.
So best best friend
in the whole world
is here with us today.
And so thrilled
to take a moment
to introduce you to Daphne.
She has an incredible company
that she's had
for a very long time
that is in service
to other people through
health and wellness,
mental health and everything
that you would want to know
about
the body nutrition.
It is called doing well.
So if you would like to
follow her on Instagram,
it's @doingwell.
And Daphne is also a wife
and an incredible mother
to two beautiful,
beautiful boys.
She not only is in charge
of Doing Well Instagram,
but it also has two
really incredible features
that I have personally known.
Many people who have gone
through her program
and have really found so much
health and wellness.
Through your health, education
and your information,
there are it's
a subscription,
so it's a community
subscription, which Daphne
will tell you about.
That's the Doing
Well subscription
and her one on one coaching,
which is incredible.
A lot of you know,
before we hear from Daphne,
a lot of you know
that I also had
a private practice
in New York City on 47th
and 3rd long
before I had liquid vitamins.
And through that practice,
it was really one of the most
rewarding things
that I've ever done.
Daphne is really
the only person that I know
who shares and teaches
in a very, very similar way
because not only are
we best friends, but
the way that we live
through mental health, through
health and wellness,
what we do in our 24
hour morning and nighttime
routines
and just in service to people.
It's very similar.
So I am happy.
If you are listening
to this podcast
and you have been looking
for someone to work with,
people
always ask me, Marybeth, like,
who should I work with?
Do you see people any more?
Mary Ruth?
And I always say Daphne.
So without further ado, please
Daphne, we would love to
hear from you.
Would like to hear anything
you want to share
about yourself,
your family and doing well.
And then we will go through
your morning and nighttime
routines.
So welcome.
Thank you for having me.
I've been wanting
to sit with you.
I consider this a date
just to talk to you.
I love it
and thank you for such
a beautiful introduction.
You really changed
the direction of my life
when I worked with you
as my health coach.
And now I'm a health coach.
And like you said,
my work is so inspired
by what
you taught me and the work
we moved through together
and still inspired by you.
Because really what I do
is I help busy people
build lasting routines.
And I think
we all know
sort of what to do.
We have a lot of information
that's available to us,
but most of us who are
parents, professionals,
partners,
we are struggling
to understand how to get it in
and how to do it
alongside our jobs,
our relationships are,
you know, real lives, right?
So I would say my specialty
is helping
people who are leading
real busy lives
build these routines.
And that's, you know,
founded in nutrition
but also lifestyle.
So sleep,
stress management, time
and space management.
Exercise, how to
do it when we don't want to.
All of those things.
So I work with people
one on one.
I lead group
programs about twice a year.
And I also have a membership,
which is the most accessible
way to work with me,
where I release content
every week.
That is rooted
in these principles
of doable health.
Also, Daphne's
Instagram is very,
very beautiful.
She chooses images
that are like from art
and fashion.
I mean, what would you say
about your imagery?
I just think it's so unique.
It's so beautiful and clever.
It's really clever. Thank you.
I wanted to have, an account
that appealed to people
beyond sort
of smoothies
and salads, and I use
a lot of archival imagery
and try to draw people in
who might not relate
to such a kind
of specific version of health.
Right?
So I use images that I think
are beautiful
and inspiring,
and also because
I have a history in fashion
and and I love art.
So I wanted to maintain
some sense of creativity
while I did this work.
So really every
podcast that we've done,
it's the same format
and we just like to hear
from real people
about their morning
and nighttime routines
and maybe also
how they've changed.
Or sometimes if you skip
part of your routine,
depending
on how you're feeling.
We always start
with the morning routine,
so please
feel free to share with us
what you do.
And also it's helpful.
You kind of say like
what time you get up,
what like really?
Maybe the weekend versus when
your kids are going to school
or any thoughts you have
on morning routine.
So many people want to have
a morning routine,
I think, as you know,
and then they don't really.
And so this is kind of
hopefully sparking
inspiration for people
to say like, okay,
I can do, I can do this too.
This is my favorite thing
is to ask people,
what is your routine?
So, okay,
I have two young
children, so I have
my younger
son is turning five tomorrow
and I have a seven year old,
so my morning
routine is my early
morning
routine is focused on them.
My sort of early mid-morning,
not mid morning,
but still early.
I'm going to break it down
time wise
and then I go to work. So
the biggest,
most impactful change
that I have made
on my health
in the last two years
is I create
something that I call a no
phone zone.
So I wake up every day
at 6:40 before my children,
who I wake up at seven
because right now
we live close to our school.
Amazing. Yeah.
And I have a no phone zone,
so I do not look at my phone
until my children
leave for school.
I used to wake up
and look at my phone
right away
and even if I left my phone
in my bedroom or behind,
I would still be
kind of ignited
to start my workday.
Or even if my sister or
a friend texted me
my mind was elsewhere
and it left me feeling
really scattered
and thin as a parent.
And so now,
even though it's
not that long, it's from 6:40
until my children leave,
which is around
7:58 a.m..
No phone zone.
I do not look at my phone, so
I wake up a little bit early.
I begin to prepare
my children's breakfast.
I prepare their lunch
to take to school.
Then I get my children
up at seven
and we have family time
and it's not that much time.
But because I'm not divided,
I'm not looking elsewhere.
It's quality with my children
and they have my full
attention.
And I have to say,
creating the no phone
zone has made me feel
so much more confident
as a mom, because
parenting is really hard
when you're trying
to do anything else
so powerful.
I'm always going to cry
and, and
and I almost said like, wow,
this is.
At first I was like, it's
kind of pathetic
that it's only two hours
or an hour and a half
without my phone,
but it has such an impact
and small humans
actually don't know
what time is.
So they're experiencing
the present moment, you know?
So that's a powerful part
of my morning routine.
Then I get my children off
to school
and I oh,
at that,
sometime in the morning I'm
drinking my water
and I make a delicious coffee
with homemade almond milk.
I just like to,
since I
remember since the
first beginning
of our friendship.
You love coffee,
I love coffee.
I'm not taking that away
from that
special moment.
So, have
and it's
such a beautiful ritual.
And then my children
are off to school
and I exercise,
so I live very fortunate
next to a reservoir.
So I can run that loop
or walk that loop
or find some stairs.
And I do that every morning
before I sit down at my desk
to sit with clients.
And I always say mood
follows action,
which I've heard you talk
about recently on podcasts,
which is you
actually have to do the thing
to be in the mood to do it.
You can't wait to be
in the mood to do
this, to get started.
And then there's
two other things that I do,
throughout my morning,
typically, once
I'm at my desk,
I'll have a green juice.
I try to drink one
liter of water by noon, and,
and then
the other two things that I do
at my desk are
I write down
at some point
over the course of the morning
because my morning
is quite tight
because of that exercise
chunk.
So I sit down
and I'm seeing my clients,
but I have little buffers
in between each session,
and I just make a very brief
list, like bullet
points of four things
that I'm grateful for.
Note form, not
elaborate journal entry,
just for bullet points.
And then I write
for best case scenarios.
So I am an anxious person,
and I tend to imagine
the worse.
Or I get worried or anticipate
things happening
that are out of my control,
and I have found
it really helpful
to write down
the four best case scenario.
So, for example,
we lost my children's
school to that,
eating fire
in California last year.
And so for a long time,
the best case scenario
was that my children would
their school would find
a great location, you know,
so I just write for best case
scenarios and it helps me,
attach to
what's possible
instead of what's probable.
Also like
when you were first talking,
I, I like I said,
I started crying because
and I'm still like
getting emotional.
I think,
like my nighttime
routine I had this year, like,
in the last six months,
I stopped,
I turned my phone off at 7:00
So I was like
a really big deal for me.
But it hasn't
really occurred to me till you
have said what you just said,
which is I do think
also my children
leave for school at 7:30,
so I'm up with them at 5:45,
but I think
because there's four of them,
it's just like a little bit,
a little bit longer
with the backpacks,
the lunchboxes, the breakfast,
whatever the dressing.
But I was getting emotional
because, like,
I felt like I realized
just right
now that I should probably,
do the same exact thing,
like, I think
I think I lose 15
or 20 minutes
within that 5:45 a.m.
to 7:30 window,
at least 20 minutes.
I'm losing
because like you said,
someone might be asking
for something
or need something.
And it's is again,
it's so wild
because I really did it
for the first time ever
this year.
My phone is off at seven
and it's my life
got so much better.
Like my life
got crazy, so much better
because I felt like
my body can calm down
before I need to sleep.
Like I'm still
cleaning the table,
doing chores, vacuuming,
you know, cleaning up
the kitchen at that time,
making tea.
But like, there's no phone.
So I actually feel
like I had like a free time.
And then
so when you were saying
that your kids probably
also feel like
they really have
this quality moment with you,
I think I could
totally do that too,
because I feel like
whoever needs me, my kids
go go to school at 7:30,
it can wait till. Yeah.
And so that really touched
my heart.
I wasn't expecting
it when you said that.
And then
I haven't heard.
I've heard, like,
journaling what
I'm grateful for,
but I haven't heard someone
say maybe, like, best case
scenario, write
down, like, things that could,
I call it going in
in your favor. Yes.
So that's very
inspiring as well.
And I think
that I'm not saying
that your anxiety is trauma,
but I want to say it
for all the other parents
who also have anxiety.
I read something recently
that said people who,
lean towards anxiety
or run anxious, it's kind of
sometimes like stored trauma
in the body
and it's kind of resurfacing,
coming out.
You could even be like
detoxing it out,
you know, as you're growing.
So I think that people
will resonate with you
where if they're already
doing a gratitude journal,
they could write down
three things that would go
in their favor.
Like, I can think of
three things right now.
I have like a small
physical injury that causes me
a lot of muscle pain
and like,
it would really feel good
if I wrote down that, like,
I'm already healing it
and it's going to be better
by next week.
Oh, you know, like
I think that
that is very powerful
because I worry,
oh, what if my like, pain
gets worse
or my muscle of course.
Yeah.
That's of course
that's so natural.
I even was thinking
because first
I just want to acknowledge
that for
children
is not just a little bit
more hectic
in the morning, it's
way more hectic than
the morning that I'm facing.
But I do really
want to emphasize that
doing this
no phone zone thing.
I just I'm going to do it
like you already got me.
I will, I promise you.
I do not say this lightly.
That's why I actually started
to cry twice in the podcast,
because you said it.
And I was like,
oh, that's genius.
And it's so genius.
It's no, no, it's
going to change everything
for me
and for everyone, honestly.
Because, listen, the truth is,
is that we live in a day
and age
where if I picked up my phone
at three,
someone's accessing you,
I could be working.
There's work to do, right?
And that means that this level
of time and space management
and this level of self-care,
because what we're describing
is a regulated nervous system
where
we're not constantly in demand
and being pulled in directions
that are not tactful, like,
you know, this is all
this is an amazing thing.
I mean, this level of
self-care is a discipline.
It's not a luxury.
It's not an indulgence.
It's about
resourcing ourselves.
So this small pocket of it's
very old fashioned time
where literally
you could sweep your kitchen
but still be regulating
your nervous system
and feeling grounded.
It's so powerful.
I recommend that this is,
you know,
you and I,
we've been working
in health for so long.
I have a lot of information
and all of us now
with social media
and and the interest
in health and wellness
have a lot of information.
This is one of the most
powerful, impactful things
anyone can do beyond salad,
beyond water, beyond exercise.
This is super powerful.
So Joel is the incredible team
member
who is always filming
our podcast.
Have I cried on
any of the podcast yet?
No, I have not.
So that is, incredible.
Thank you.
Well, also,
we are hoping to also
hear your nighttime
routine. Yes.
So I try in the evening
to do another no phone zone.
And that starts around
5:30 or 6:00
and we do a family dinner
at 6:00.
So I have a couple hacks
that I really believe in.
If you have young children,
which is a lot of people
do dinner and then a bath,
but I have found that
having my children take a bath
and then have dinner, can
we can we love?
We are really the same person
because in our house
we do the bath.
All for starting at 5:30. Yes.
5:15, 5:30.
And everybody
sits down at 6:00.
Yes. So I back you.
It's so amazing.
For dinner.
Bath before dinner.
Yeah. Riot.
It'll change your life also,
because if you're working
parent and you can't get back
like someone might be,
I have a, I have a babysitter
who helps me
give my kids a bath.
And then we do
a family dinner,
which I also recommend.
It's chaotic,
but I used to, you know, Polly
and I, when
we had really little children,
we would give them dinner
and then we would
make our dinner.
And then you're just.
I feel like it's midnight
and the truth is,
we have a chaotic,
great family dinner together.
We're done eating by 6:45 ish.
Start the bedtime negotiation
process at seven.
That goes on
probably longer in my house
than yours with four kids.
Because they're
very good negotiators.
And then, honestly,
I just want to get into bed
at, like, 8:30.
I have a tea.
Read connect with Polly.
Maybe we like to watch a show
and just sort of unwind.
And Polly
and I also do something
now once a week, which is.
We go once a week.
We take an evening
where we go to yoga
together for an hour,
and then we get a cup of soup
and air one,
you know, that's amazing.
I feel like you probably sleep
really well that night.
I only did
yoga like three times.
Like last September
in my whole life.
But I distinctly
remember sleeping
very, very well because I.
Yeah, I think that's
also the nervous system
calms down.
Yeah. That's so fun.
Yeah. It's really no good.
And the air one soup
because we
wanted to have a date night,
but we honestly didn't
want it to cost $300.
And we both are getting
kind of stiff.
Yeah.
So we're like
let's do something together.
That's.
And it's kind of cute to take,
you know,
go with your partner.
Do you guys hold
hands at the end?
Sometimes.
Like,
sometimes we touch each other
gently throughout the class.
Yeah, yeah.
Okay.
So would you also say,
before
we move on to kind of like you
sharing more about your doing
well subscription
and your annual or biannual.
Yeah. No.
What would it be
called by yearly?
I always get these wrong
every twice a year.
Yeah, twice a year.
Sounds great.
Good twice a year. Groups.
And also you're one on ones
are the subscription
when people come,
wouldn't you agree
that a lot of people
really don't
have,
a, a consistent
morning routine like they,
they sort of know what it is,
but they're not doing it
every day.
And when you're helping them.
Yeah,
just speak a little bit about
like something
that you've found
through people working
through their routines.
And then anything you would
like us to know about doing.
Well. Yeah. Well,
I think what happens is
what I love
about your approach
in your work
and in your way of life
is how you break the day down,
how you break the hours
down, how you look at a year,
how you look at a month,
how you look at a week,
how you look at a day
and how you look at a moment.
And I find that people are,
easily discouraged
when they can't
get a whole day right,
or they can't get a whole week
right, or they can't
get a diet,
you know, quote
unquote, right.
And what I really emphasize
is small actions
and small actions
that over time,
have a big impact.
And and if you think about
your morning,
it's a third of your day.
So if you can get a few
things locked into the morning
that has such an impact
over time.
Right. And so,
I work with people
really to take a look
at what their day looks like
and how can we
make these small adjustments
so that they feel
more capable
and more accomplished?
And then really help people,
understand that we're hard
wired for novelty.
And so it's very difficult
to not want
to purchase something or
do something drastic
or intense for their health.
It's way more boring
to drink your water,
go to bed and wake up
at the same time every day.
Oh my goodness.
Get a little bit of sunshine
directly into your eyeballs.
You know,
all the little things
that I work pair
one meal a day with leafy
greens like this,
these kinds of actions.
So I really help people build
these doable actions
into their life.
But when I'm working
with someone one on one,
we're really refining
and customizing,
our routine
to support their lifestyle,
their circumstances,
their preferences,
their health history.
So it's very custom.
And then,
the membership is a little bit
more broad
but interesting topics too.
Yeah.
And the membership,
one of my favorite things
about it is once a month
and I do a cooking demo,
and we really show people
the food that we cook
and eat at home.
And it's all less
than ten minutes
and so beautiful.
Mostly
three ingredients, usually so,
and I think that's kind of
what I'm all about with doing
well is just making
this more approachable and
really,
I'm really
I believe that health
is living with ease,
you know, feeling
more ease in our experience.
And so it really does help
to have routines in place,
because I know
you speak to the
so often
people get confused
and think a
that a routine is like
from when you wake up
until when you go to bed.
It can be a few things
throughout the day.
Because having those things
in place really illuminate
and allow us to be more fluid
and more spontaneous
where we have
the space to do so, right?
Yeah.
It's like this structure
creates freedom, right?
Everyone wants freedom
to do
all the things that they love,
but they have to have a couple
anchors, couple structures.
Like,
I like that you highlighted.
It doesn't have to be from
the mommy wake
up to the mommy,
your kids go to school, or
the moment kids are at school,
to the mommy you go to work.
It can just be things
throughout the 24 hour period.
And I really want
to highlight what you said
about successful things
that can compound. Yes.
If people were
just able
to focus on their sleep
patterns,
they might not need, you know,
x, x amount of beauty
creams, you know, so
I'm not saying anything bad
about the beauty creams.
I'm just saying, like,
there are things
that we can do that are easier
and to blur
that will really help
our blood work, help our body,
help our mental health.
And then from there
we can build extra extras
that usually
you have to go to go
to get a service done
or you have to pay for it.
It might not be
in your budget.
Yeah, I think that
that's something
the whole Meredith Organics
team always talks
about is and again,
there is nothing wrong
with Elite Wellness.
But I always say to like mer
with organics, look,
I want to help
people have health
education, have tools
that are accessible
within their home unit
that they're not, you know,
might not fit the budget,
might not have time to go
do those things,
kind of figure out
what do I have the budget for?
What do I have the time for
that it creates
less stress, not more.
And first start there.
Yeah,
get all of those things right.
Get all of those things
buttoned up
and then,
branch out
to other more exciting
potentially,
like you said.
Yeah.
And everything builds. Right.
And and these things,
like, I feel like you've
said this to me,
brick by brick,
you know,
one decision at a time.
And that's another thing
I would love to say, which is,
you know,
an advanced
practitioner is not perfect
all the time
and doesn't get the routine
right every day.
But an advanced practitioner
is able to return
to the routine
and return gently,
returns swiftly, and,
I hope, return
with a little bit
of a sense of humor
or like a game mentality.
And a morning
routine is so beautiful
because it's something
that's quite easy
to return to,
because each morning
is a new beginning.
And so we can think,
okay, well,
the day might have,
you know, unraveled
a little bit.
We all get a little less
focused,
a little more tired,
maybe irritable towards
the end of the day.
But we have tomorrow
to return to the routine.
And I think that beautiful
well, having a routine,
you have to have one
to return, right.
So these little things,
makes such a difference.
I also because that was very
beautiful, what you just said.
So I wanted to say that
I also found
that when people are going
through really
tough, challenging times
where they feel like
they're not going to make it,
that is like also an anchor,
like, okay, like I feel like
potentially,
again, different challenges
that everyone goes through.
They can go back to
the routine, okay, whatever.
I don't want to do all five
things, but can I do 1 or 2
and make sure my kids
get to school safely
or I get to work, whatever,
at on time?
But yeah, to return,
I think that's very beautiful.
Very important
to have a morning,
a nighttime routine
that you can return to
and you have free will to do,
you know, whatever you want
within that,
that list that you've created
for yourself.
I was hoping
before we end the podcast
for a minute or two,
you could share with us just
about your beautiful boys.
And like any words
of encouragement
for not just parents
who are listening,
but we also have single
dads, single moms,
we have foster foster mothers,
we have teachers,
mentors, we have caregivers.
So some people
don't have children,
but they are taking care
of their elderly parents.
They're responsible
for their pets.
So like anything
you want to say,
just send an encouragement
wave for people
so they feel they
are not alone. Yes.
That you would like to share
throughout your own journey
or the journey of
being the mom to two
beautiful boys?
Well,
I'll share
perhaps something
that I'm working on, which is,
because I'm quite,
you know,
I'm routine oriented,
and I also am very punctual.
And I have a little bit of,
good.
Well, my husband would say I'm
a little bit of a goody goody.
And so something
I'm working on with
my children
is not rushing them,
and I'm not great at it
because I'm always like,
we got to go, we got to go.
We got to be on time,
you know? And,
and just being aware
of rushing and,
and allowing my intention
to not rush them as much
to also help me slow down
and be in the moment
more and notice
this goes back a little bit
to what we were talking about
before.
Best case scenario.
It's really
easy for us to notice
what's uncomfortable
or discomfort
or not going our way, and
I actually have to ask myself
to notice what feels good.
And so sometimes when I'm
sitting with my child,
I have to remind myself,
oh, this feels so good.
I'm just going to stay
in this moment extra
and not rush
to get to the playdate,
or not rush
to get the dinner on the table
and just be in this moment,
with my child,
who's so good at that, right?
Who's so good at
being in the present moment.
So I don't know if that's
encouraging to anyone.
I think that was probably
one of the best things
you can say
because, stress
or rushing creates
just like so much havoc
on the nervous system
and the cortisol.
And people don't feel good
when they're rushing
and we're all rushing.
Feels good like
no one feels good even around.
Like we're all rushing. Yeah.
And we're also coming out
less.
Yeah. Incredible.
I think that that was
the most perfect thing that
probably a lot of people would
say, like, that is so true.
Like, let me drop
into the present moment.
Let me see. Okay.
This feels really good.
And kind of just like slowing
slow down slowing down. Yeah.
Slowing down.
And it's it's it's
so counterintuitive
and it's so radical.
It's so radical in this day
and age to even to slow down
how much our children
are exposed to or rushing them
to out of childhood, you know.
So any opportunity
I feel
like to move more slowly.
It's very radical.
Yeah.
I love it so much.
So thank you so much
for coming on the podcast.
Daphne and again,
everyone, please
check out Doing Well
and Doing Well subscription
or the one on one programs
with you personally
or the twice a year group.
The group. Yeah.
So thank you so much Daphne.
Oh my gosh.
Love you a pleasure
I love you.
Thank you for having me. Yay!