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Christian homemakers need encouragement and motivation to stay the course. Homemaking and homeschooling can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to be. If you’re a Christian mom longing for a well-ordered home, a peaceful homeschool, and a joyful heart—without the stress or burnout—you’re in the right place. Moms can be productive and peaceful when grounded in Scriptural truth.
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You know, I wasted years measuring my days
by how much of my written plan in my
planner I had actually accomplished.
How many boxes I checked, how much school
we finished, whether or not the laundry
was caught up, whatever that means.
Whether or not I'd
started dinner at 10:00 AM
And do you know what was
actually on my planner?
A whole bunch of wishful thinking projects
that I thought I ought to be doing
or really ought to have already done
And so whenever I looked around at
my real life, it didn't match up.
It didn't measure up
to the plan that I had made or to the life
I had really envisioned myself living.
And even on days where I was getting
a lot done, where I felt very
productive, I would look around
and there was always more to do.
There was no such thing as getting ahead
or even getting on top of anything
And so it's no wonder that I felt
overwhelmed and stressed out when I looked
at the reality that was in my life and how
far short it came from my imagined ideal
Now, then there was a point where
I decided to just forego the
ideal and do the bare minimum
and count it all as good enough.
That also didn't work very well.
It was not satisfying
It wasn't responsible
And that was not walking with
Christ in my day-to-day life
And yet, eventually I did realize
not only that my stress was a product
of the story I was telling myself in
my head, but I also realized I could
change that story to be more true
More realistic?
and therefore more encouraging.
And when I did that, my stress went away
and my productivity actually increased.
So today I wanna share three ways that
you can get rid of your stress response
by telling yourself a more true story
about your life so that you can walk in
fellowship with God and your family and
experience satisfaction at the end of
a day because of a job well done, even
if that job was not what you predicted
it would be when you made your plan.
And if this kind of practical Christian
homemaking That focuses on faithfulness
is what you're looking for,
then hit that subscribe button.
That's what I talk about here every week
Now, grab a basket of laundry
to fold, and let's talk about
getting rid of your stress
So the reality is that that stress
response grows when I compare the day that
I am actually having with an imaginary
day I thought I was supposed to be having
Often my plan for the day, my ideas
of how the day is supposed to go, do
not involve children interrupting me.
Does not involve a child who needs extra
math help or the interrupted reading
It definitely does not involve
anyone getting injured or sick,
and yet those things happened
in my real life all the time
responding faithfully and wisely
and well in the midst of a life
that goes not according to plan
is actually the whole point.
That's
That's maturity.
That's taking responsibility.
It's caretaking
And so instead of seeing myself as
a broken machine who's supposed to
be continually chugging out products
I can see that my job is to respond well
to the life that's actually unfolding
in front of me, whether or not I
predicted that that's what would happen.
And so instead of looking at
everything that was happening to me
and mentally and emotionally insisting
upon what I wanted to have happen
instead, I could just move forward
and take care of the business at hand
Now that doesn't mean that
I'm just responding…
Now that doesn't mean that I'm
just Flying by the seat of my pants
reacting to what's ever in front of me.
Responsiveness is not the same as
reactiveness, and the key difference
between the two and the difference that
makes one stressful and the other not is
your priorities, and really knowing what
your priorities are because one of our
priorities is not finishing our checklist
And I had three key priorities that
I learned to put first and foremost
in my responses so that I knew when
I needed to stay on track or when
I needed to be diverted to rep-
to respond appropriately to the people
whose needs I was supposed to be helping
Even if that meant that our homeschool
lesson didn't happen, that morning time
was truncated, that we didn't finish
the book or the lesson, that math
took twice as long as I had predicted.
That's all okay if these
three priorities are in order
The first priority is stay in fellowship
Who cares if the math lesson gets done if
we've just had an angry argument about it?
That's not a win
The visible output, the things that
get checked off do not define success.
What really matters as we are living
together as a Christian family is
repenting when we sin against one
another and restoring fellowship
Now, of course, fellowship with one
another begins with fellowship with God.
So time in the Word, time in prayer, these
are what set the foundational base for the
other relationships happening in the home.
And then with those other relationships,
it matters how we treat one another.
It matters more how we treat one
another than what gets done That
doesn't mean that we don't worry about
getting things done, but it means
we take care of first things first.
When we ask for forgiveness, when
we sin against one another, which
includes when mom sins against
the kids, because that happens,
and the kids know that it happens,
And we should not have two sets of
expectations, one for how kids behave
and one for how adults behave All of
us should ask for forgiveness when
we sin against the other party, and
then the other party receives that
apology, offers forgiveness, and then
you can move on You can get things
done now that you are back on a team
in fellowship working together instead
of being antagonists to one another.
Keeping fellowship first actually
allows you to end up getting farther
than you would if you prioritized
getting the thing done no matter what
Priority number two
is being faithful in my duties.
And oftentimes my duties are different
than what I planned on paper.
My paper tends to reflect my
idealistic hopes and dreams for
my life, but my duties and my
responsibilities are about fulfilling
the roles that I have been given
Which means taking care of milk when
it gets spilled without losing my cool.
It means helping a set of
siblings reconcile after
they've started an argument.
These are not things that I ever
plan, but they are my duty as a mother
And so my priority needs to be fulfilling
my duties that are in front of me
Which might be totally different than
the plan I actually made for the day.
The duty in front of me wins
over the wishful thinking plan.
That's my second priority.
And having that priority in place allows
me to take a deep breath, to let go of
that wishful thinking set of expectations
about my life and how I think it should
go, which allows me to step out of
overwhelm, to step out of stress, and
calmly handle the life in front of me
Wishful thinking planning is at the
bottom of most of our overwhelm and most
of our inability to switch over and just
handle the real life in front of us.
This is why I came up
with the daily card method
The daily card method is where we
pick a top three for the day, not
our full set of ideals and hopes and
dreams for the day, but a top three.
And then that list is also very flexible,
and it can go out the window and be
replaced by a new top three when the day
goes haywire, when the kid vomits, when
the call for a family emergency comes.
We're not a slave to the expectations
that we set at the beginning of the week.
We are in a daily negotiation
with identifying and working
with the, the duties that we've
actually been given each day.
The daily card method is a way to
walk in that reality without stress
and without wishful thinking.
I have a free workshop
all about how to do this.
It's called From Overwhelmed to
Organized, and you can find it
at simplyconvivial.com/organized,
and that link is also in the description.
But even disciplined self-management is
not the final goal or the be-all, end-all.
We're not trying to become efficient
machines doing important things The
third priority that we have to have in
place in order to flexibly adapt and
do well with the life that's in front
of us is that we have to recognize
that we are to abound in good works
And so we are to be busy and pouring
ourselves out and being productive,
but just not in a way that prioritizes
output, but rather prioritizes people.
And people are unmanageable
and unpredictable.
They usually don't fit into
our preconceived plans.
But our job, especially as
mothers, is to be responsive to
the needs of the people around us.
And so when you notice that moment to
have the heart-to-heart conversation
with a child, even if it means
postponing bedtime, postponing
dinner prep, not getting something
on your list done, you take that.
And then you don't beat yourself
up for dinner being late or for
not getting to sweeping the floors.
You recognize you did the more
important thing You helped mother,
parent, educate, disciple your child.
You took that opportunity and you made
the most of it That matters so much
more than having the floor mopped.
It's not that we should never
mop the floor, but we do need
to have first things first.
And when we put first things first
and we don't sweat our checklist, we
find we really do have enough time
to keep things running functionally
If I skip mopping on Tuesday because
something actually more important came
up, that doesn't mean I'm giving up
on mopping or it's never gonna happen.
It just might happen at a
different time or a different
day, and that's totally fine
There are no bonus points
or gold stars for accomplishing
your checklist exactly when you
put the tasks on particular days
But the bonus as a mom is having teens and
young adults that are productive members
of society who text you encouraging quotes
and funny things they saw in the day.
That comes after a buildup of years,
really decades, of putting in the
time mothering and discipling them as
a higher priority than accomplishing
the plan that we laid out for things
So the bottom line is that we can't
judge our day or ourselves by whether
or not the checklist that we made for
the day actually happened, or what
percentage of it happened in the day.
We need to be asking, "Did I maintain
fellowship with everyone today?
Did I prioritize their needs
and disciple my children today?"
Did I prioritize the work
that actually matters?
Or did I put off the people
in order to get things the
way I wanted them to be
A day can be well done even with
unfinished work The question
is not did I finish everything.
The question is did I stay in fellowship
with God and my husband and my children?
Did I exercise wisdom and faithfulness?
Did I attend to the people
given to me and pour into them?
When I failed, did I repent
and rejoice and repeat?
Your checklists just can't tell
that whole story of the day
And ending the stress response about how
much of that checklist happens doesn't
come when we finally figure out how
to do it all, and it doesn't even come
just by making that checklist shorter.
We get rid of that stress response
and the feeling of overwhelm when
we rightly orient ourselves to
our actual responsibilities and
pay attention to what matters
and do our duties, complete our housework
in keeping with our actual priorities and
not disordering those responsibilities
now, if you need a simple way to
practice figuring out your priorities
and what really matters, then be sure
to register for that free workshop
from Overwhelmed to Organized.
You can find that at
simplyconvivial.com/organized.
And remember, no matter what,
to repent, rejoice, repeat