Manxiety Podcast

It was 2019 when I realized something had to change.

I’d nailed success in almost every area of my life—
except one: intimate relationships.

Every relationship ended up in a mess,
and I couldn’t figure out why my last one was such a disaster.

Then I discovered the concept of enmeshment—and everything clicked.
It was the root of the trauma bond, the codependency,
and the endless push-pull that kept me stuck in toxic cycles.

I was shocked.
Here I was—smart, successful—
yet always falling into this same, self-destructive dance.
Highs that started strong and fizzled out,
leading to me becoming the "bad guy" in someone else's story.

That last relationship?

It was my wake-up call.
 I was committed to NEVER repeating that again.
So I dug deep, and I uncovered 3 hidden forces that kept me stuck in these patterns.

Now I’m married and there’s ZERO drama.

What were the blind spots I had to uncover to get there?

I share them in my latest Manxiety Podcast episode.

If you relate to #3, there’s good news—
you CAN break free if you’re willing to practice the skill I discuss.

If you want:

        • Deep connection without falling into the same toxic cycles,
        • To break the generational patterns of struggle in relationships,
        • To be in control of your moods,
        • And to honor your boundaries, rather than bulldozing over red flags…

It starts with understanding and healing these 3 forces.

If you’re ready to get uncomfortable and do something radically different,
this episode is for you. It’s about owning your freedom and creating the safety you deserve.

You’ve got this.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

P.S. If you’ve tried therapy, read the books,
done the work, have achieved success in your career,
but keep falling into the same anxious avoidant dance,
maybe it’s time to get to the root.

I’m offering a limited number of Trigger-Proof Blind Spot sessions
to help you uncover how enmeshment may still be running your relationships.
If you’re ready to take a real deep look in the mirror, and receive honest feedback
that’s intended to uncover what you may not be able to see,
and you’re humble enough to want to grow and committed to do the work,
hit reply with your back story and what work you’ve done,
how it’s impacting your career, and end it with:

"Nima, I’m ready to break free. Send me your private calendar link.”

If you’re good at following instructions, and I can spot a potential snag,
and I think I can help you, I’ll send you my link and we can talk.
No obligation.

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What is Manxiety Podcast?

A conversation about what challenges men— in love, in sex, and in money.

Repetition compulsion is a compulsion

within all of us

to seek out partners

that repeat those patterns of

enmeshment and codependency

just like when we were children.

Why would that happen?

Why would there be such a

cruel twist of fate?

Well, I'm glad you asked.

I had asked myself that question

after I healed from my

last relationship trauma bond

And now I've created a secure relationship.

And I realized through the journey

because it's a path to healing those things.

It can't happen overnight.

But there is an unconscious desire

for younger parts of you

to seek healing

for you to stop looking

outside of you for validation

and for you to heal those missing pieces.

And until you do, if you don't

you are forever seeking

resolution outside of you.

Going from one narcissist to the other

from one rescue operation to another

from one damsel in distress to another

to validate your self worth as a man.

That was me.

Until you fully do the work

and become trigger proof

and then heal from enmeshment trauma

dismantle the codependency

and break free from the pattern of

the repetition compulsion

you experience a sense of freedom

you stop fawning and people pleasing.

All the feminine communication is

actually becomes embodied

and the relationships outside of you

start to mirror the relationship

that you're building within yourself.