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What I Learned in Therapy is a profound exploration of trauma healing through the art of storytelling, philosophical inquiry, and transformative practices. Hosted by Jamie Lange, a licensed clinical professional counselor with a master's in communication and gender and a 500-Hour Registered Yoga Teacher, this podcast delves into the lived experiences that shape our understanding of healing. Drawing inspiration from a diverse range of philosophers—from Jesus and Buddha to Plato, Nietzsche, Maya Angelou, bell hooks, and Audre Lorde—each episode invites listeners to witness and narrate their own stories as a path to embodied healing and spiritual surrender.
In addition to insightful discussions on somatic therapy, post-traumatic growth, and the intricate relationship between identity, ego, and attachment, the podcast offers guided meditations designed for those seeking extra support or a gentle introduction to therapy. With a focus on yoga philosophy, particularly the principles of non-attachment, these grounding practices aim to enhance your healing journey.
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K66-4: hey, welcome back to what
I learned in therapy with me.
Jamie Lang.
First off happy holidays.
Happy Hanukkah, happy Kwanza, Merry
Christmas, all those wonderful things.
And if you're not celebrating anything
in particular, I hope you are resting.
And I hope you are honoring the
work that you're dead in 2024.
We're almost, we're
almost out of here 20, 24.
And preemptively happy new year.
What I learned in therapy is a podcast
about the intersectionality of healing.
In my professional and personal practice,
this means blending storytelling.
Mindful wisdom.
Uh, psychotherapy, yoga
philosophy and deep.
Profound.
Listening to the body.
And of course, I try to sprinkle in a
little Buddhist philosophy in there.
I'm not a Buddhist, I'm not holy at all.
But I love Buddhism and
what it has to teach us.
K66-13: For those of
you new to the podcast.
I am a licensed clinical
professional counselor.
I am a 500 hour registered yoga teacher.
I have an additional master's
degree in communication.
And in my psychotherapy
practice, I specialize in trauma.
And I am EMDR trained.
I also own a healing
center called the vault..
K66-4: It's a special place.
Very unique where my
psychotherapy practice.
And yoga studio are connected.
They co-exist allowing
for holistic healing.
We bring the mind we bring the body.
We bring the breath.
Bringing the spirit.
All into one place.
It's really great.
In addition to the work I do
with individuals at the vault.
I also do a lot of group work.
In fact, I have two groups right now.
Finishing a curriculum I've been
creating for the last 10 years.
It's been incredible.
Every person that has been
through it has reported profound,
transformative change, deep.
Deep change.
What's so exciting is in 2025.
I'm launching.
My curriculum as a digital course, which
means it's there for everyone and anyone.
It's called integrative healing,
the synergy of psychotherapy,
yoga therapy and mindful wisdom.
So who is this for?
Well it's for anyone.
But especially if you are looking for
deeper healing, Maybe you're in therapy
and you're not getting what you need
and you want to drop more into the body.
More into the wisdom
that your body carries.
Maybe you're a yoga teacher who
wants to bring more mental health
components to their teaching?
Maybe you're a therapist and you
don't know about yoga philosophy
or Eastern philosophy and how
deeply impactful that can be to the
already impactful work you're doing.
Maybe you don't have a therapist.
Maybe going to therapy is scary.
My digital course.
Is going to give you
a lifetime of healing.
Here's what you get when
you sign up for my course.
You get 10 modules where we study.
10 of the foundational
principles of yoga philosophy.
Each of those modules.
We'll be recorded.
Via zoom.
In which you will have an
opportunity to ask questions.
Meet a community of like-minded
folks who are also interested.
And diving deeper into their healing.
Those modules will be recorded and
they are yours to keep forever.
Which is really amazing
because as you change.
This curriculum is timeless.
So as much as you continue to heal, it
will always be there to teach you more.
In addition to the modules,
you will also receive 10.
Yoga classes.
And each yoga class will be based
on the theme that we are studying.
And you will get to keep those forever.
In addition to the modules,
which we've fed the mind.
And.
The yoga classes, which we've fed
the body, you're going to get.
10 meditation's based.
On what we're studying.
And now we've fed the spirit.
My digital course.
Covers.
The mind.
The body and the spirit.
If you'd like to know more
about the digital course.
I head over to the website.
It's in the show notes and
you can shoot me an email.
I'm also going to be doing a
Facebook live tomorrow, Monday,
December 30th at 6:00 PM.
Mountain standard time.
You can join me over there.
Ask some questions, learn more
about what we'll be up to and
you also get to know me a bit.
K66-5: Because I'm launching
integrative healing, the synergy
of psychotherapy, yoga therapy and
mindful wisdom in January, I thought.
It would be helpful if I spoke to you
about one of the founding principles
on which my curriculum is based.
In fact, I think it's
the most important one.
And that is.
Nonviolence.
There's a Sanskrit word called a Henzer.
A H I S M a, it translates to nonviolence.
And while that seems lovely, you
know, practicing nonviolence,
peacefulness, et cetera.
It's actually more than that.
Practicing a Hanza is an active.
Creation.
Cultivation.
And participation.
In nonviolence.
It is being aware.
Of the violence that lives inside of you.
And it is being aware of the
violence that is around you.
Through that awareness.
We build tools.
To understand where
that violence came from.
And tools.
To help you integrate.
The violence into wisdom.
So it doesn't harm you
or anyone around you.
It is also about learning.
That the violence you see in others.
It belongs to them.
It is not yours to pick up.
It is not yours to fix.
It is theirs.
And only through feeling their own
violence, will they find their own wisdom?
So how do we practice Anza?
All that gets a little tricky.
Especially during the holidays.
I thought I'd walk you through.
Ways to think about integrating
a headset or practicing.
Enza.
The practice of a Hamza is understanding
things like how do you talk to yourself?
How patient are you with yourself?
How patient are you with others?
Do you get enough sleep?
What happens when you look in the mirror?
Do you pay attention to your body?
How do you talk to your body?
Who taught you how to talk?
To your body.
The truth is I think we all have violence
inside of us, and it's not the traditional
way of thinking about violence.
It's looking at it through
a psychotherapy lens.
We can be quite violent to
ourselves by ignoring ourselves.
We can be quite violent to ourselves by.
Putting ourselves in positions
that we know are not good for us.
K66-14: We can be quite violent
to ourselves when we are not.
Honest with ourselves.
K66-5: Another way to practice a Hamza.
The creation, cultivation and
participation in nonviolence.
I think begins by
understanding how we listen.
When you listen.
To someone else speaking.
Are you listening to the
way that you're reacting?
Or.
Are you getting still enough?
To remember.
Who is speaking.
Practicing.
I mean, zooming out.
And remembering that the
speaker has a whole lifetime of
experiences that you know, nothing
K66-16: Practicing a
hands-on means zooming out.
And remembering that the speaker
has a whole lifetime of experiences.
That you know, nothing about.
K66-5: Practicing a himsa.
As you remembering that
the speaker has pain.
You would never even dream.
Practicing a Hamza.
Is to listen to each word.
As they fold out of the speaker's mouth.
And remember that they are
exactly as they should be.
Given where they've come from.
This is called empathy.
K66-17: Empathy and compassion are often.
Antidotes.
To violence.
K66-5: Practicing a Hamza
is having the awareness.
Of your wounds.
Your wounds are yours to tend to.
It is violent to ask someone.
To fix your wounds.
And is violent for you to blame
someone for not fixing your wounds.
It takes away your power.
It takes away your wisdom.
K66-18: You are the only
one who knows your wounds.
And you're the only one who
knows how to love you best.
I truly believe this.
K66-5: But in order to practice a hymns
that we have to understand from where.
That violence inside of us has come.
In my digital course and
the workshops that I do.
We compassionately investigate what
has happened to us in order to know
why we don't pay attention to our wounds.
And that's a good thing.
It's an honor to meet our pain.
I always say that.
It is an honor to me, your pain.
There was a time in my life when I
wasn't very honored to meet my pain.
In fact, I was was running from it.
Um,
I was in my early twenties and I moved
in with a friend of mine and her husband.
In fact, I've known her husband
since I was nine years old.
He was one of my brothers.
Best friends when he was in
junior high and I was about nine.
And Scott.
Stood out amongst his other friends, which
I'm sure isn't hard to do in a pack of.
Junior high and boys who.
Are doing nothing but swearing
and spitting and wrestling
each other to the ground.
Scott stood out.
He was kind, he was sweet.
He asked things about me.
How's school.
How is dance?
How are your sports?
And call me by my name.
He told my brother to lay off.
.
K66-19: And it was really good for me.
At that time to know an older boy.
That was kind.
Because my only frame of reference was
my brother and not, wasn't a good one.
I'm not sure our siblings
are supposed to give us that
representation, but to be sure.
He wasn't the frame of reference.
I wanted.
Scott was.
K66-5: As we all grew up together, I
got to go to Scott's first wedding.
He came to my wedding.
K66-20: And then I got to be a
witness at his second wedding.
Where he married.
A fantastic woman named Sheena.
I fell in love with Sheena to.
And she's one of the most
special women in my life.
I am so lucky.
To be loved by her.
K66-5: So I was living
with Scott and Gina.
Filled with the violence of.
My father's death, the trauma
of my childhood and I had
not yet turned toward it.
I hadn't touched it yet.
I wrote a lot of poems and I cried
a lot at music, but I don't think
I had turned toward it fully.
And of course I was 21 years old.
Missing my dad.
I think Scott asked me to move in
because he wanted to look after me.
Scott knew my dad, which
is really, really amazing.
I'm running out of people
in my life that knew my dad.
Scott lost his mom when
he was in high school.
And he has spent time at
our home and my dad and him
developed a special relationship.
When my father died, Scott showed up.
He was there.
He was quiet.
He was gentle.
K66-21: I always knew that.
Scott cared about us.
And from that moment on when my dad died.
I knew Scott was a
place I could fold into.
A place where it was non-violent.
A place that he would make safe.
Because he was safe.
K66-5: Scott died.
This year on Thanksgiving.
K66-7: He died in the most
nonviolent way I can think of.
He went to sleep.
And his heart.
Quit.
Even in his death.
He was participating in nonviolence.
K66-5: I believe that
Scott practiced a Hamza.
And here's why I think that.
After a couple of months living there.
He left me a note asking me to leave.
He told me I wasn't taking good
care of myself and he was right.
He didn't shame me though.
He was kind.
He was honest.
He loved me enough to say, girl,
you got to get your shit together.
I can't.
Support you.
Not supporting yourself.
He's the only man, I think.
Outside of my partner now.
That could receive.
My chaos.
Without judgment.
K66-8: And that was
really important to me.
And really healing as I look back
now, I don't think I had experienced.
Anyone.
Like that.
Especially a man.
K66-5: Scott left a tremendous amount
of love, a tremendous amount of joy.
And a tremendous amount of
nonviolence in the world.
I'll never forget that day.
I cleaned up my stuff I got out of there.
I was so embarrassed.
Filled with more violence.
And then not too long after that.
Scott Sheena.
And I.
Sat down.
And topped.
They were kind.
They were warm and they loved on me.
And they watched me over the years.
Get my shit together.
K66-22: Almost two weeks after he died at.
At Scott's celebration of life.
Folks kept pouring in.
We weren't sure how many to expect.
But what happened, I believe
is a demonstration of how
far nonviolence can reach.
When we love without violence,
we can impact the whole world.
It felt like hundreds of people came.
All celebrating.
Scott.
And his very unique and precious way.
Of loving us all.
K66-5: Sheena, very bravely got up
on one of the chairs and the venue.
And.
K66-24: Thanks everyone for coming.
And thanked everyone for loving him.
It was so easy to love Scott.
She didn't need to thank us.
In fact, I wanted to thank her.
For sharing him with us.
I believe it's easier to love.
When we are surrounded by nonviolence.
And it is easier to
love when we understand.
And tend to the violence inside of us.
It is a reciprocity.
That creates the most
important change in our lives.
Healing.
K66-5: So I invite you to join me.
As we walk into 2025.
To practice.
Uh, Hamza.
The creation cultivation in
participation in nonviolence.
Listen to yourself.
How do you speak to yourself?
How do you speak to your kids,
to your family, to your friends?
Be real with yourself.
And tend to the sharpness,
the sharp edges.
K66-25: And the wounds.
K66-5: That create violence in you.
We're going to have a
year of a lot of change.
And starting from a place of non-violence.
We'll help us get through.
Of this.
I am certain.
So happy new year, happy Kwanzaa.
Happy Hanukkah.
Merry Christmas.
All the things.
K66-9: When you feel the violence
inside of you start to spike.
It's okay.
Take a very big, deep breath.
And look down at your hands.
And remember from where you have come.
Given where you have been, you
are exactly as you should be.
And that is.
The creation cultivation.
And participation of nonviolence
from which we all need to begin.
K66-10: For healing to endure.
K66-26: As always.
It's an honor to be with you.
Thank you for listening
now, please, please.
Go spray paint that big old
world out there with all of your
love and all of your integrity.