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Welcome to the 100xLife Podcast! This is the place for anyone who desires to not just hear the words of Jesus but to live them fully. Together, we’ll explore what it means to experience the abundant life He promises, a life of purpose, growth, and transformation.
Each episode is designed to inspire and challenge you to put in the work of following Jesus, equipping you with practical insights and encouragement to align your life with His teachings.
Whether you're just beginning your faith journey or looking to deepen it, the 100xLife Podcast helps activate your next step toward the life you were created to live.
Rob Dayton (00:00)
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Welcome to the 100X Life Podcast, where we activate people who desire to live the words of Jesus and experience the abundant life He promises. I'm your host, Rob Dayton, and I hope this podcast inspires you to put in the work of following Jesus.
Rob Dayton (00:38)
Hey, 100X Life, welcome back to the podcast. I hope you had a great week. Last week, we talked about forgiveness in the wake of the next season, the spring season, specifically the Z generations, they're going to seek a new morality. Did you miss that podcast last week? if you did go back because might not have even heard of generational seasons.
And really, we're just kept surfing in the wake of the Charlie Kirk moment, which is galvanizing the Z generation to actually seek that morality. Now, church attendance through the roof, pretty crazy to see so many people in church and the theme or the thing that we as as people who follow Jesus, as people who are purveyors of his word through our actions need to
Above all else, practice forgiveness. So last week was not just about seasons, but how to move in forgiveness. And I want to expand on that today. I want to talk to you about the behaviors of love. Of course, you're familiar with these. They are the words of Jesus. Every single word that Jesus asked us to put into practice is a certain facet of the behaviors of love. If you think of Jesus as like a
His love is like a diamond. Every single sparkle, every single thing that is looks so attractive are the the words of Jesus that he says. If you live this, you will be living the behaviors of love. If you live this, you will become like me. If you live this, you will have the abundant life. So we want to focus on those behaviors of love. And I want to call attention to the word that's perhaps the most important word.
There's so many I'm going to choose anyway, but this is the one that I think is really important and that is love like Jesus. That's word 49 in the 100xLife And that that came about in the that's this word comes in John 13. This is in the upper room. The disciples are with him.
And he says, a new commandment I give to you. it's kind of interesting. A new commandment I give to you. Love others as I have loved you. And why is Jesus saying that? Why is he saying to the disciples, love like I have loved you? Well, the main thing, the main reason in my view is because love your neighbor as yourself, which is truly one of the first commandments, second commandment.
Jesus references in his ministry that love the Lord your God with all your heart soul and strength and then the second is like it Love your neighbor as yourself. I believe Jesus is saying love love everyone like I've loved you Because he's defining what love looks like In other words when we love others like we love ourselves. We might be coming from a place of a Deficit of love we may not actually have love
for ourselves. We're corrupt in the way we see ourselves. We're holding ourselves accountable for things that we shouldn't. And then not only ourselves are accountable for things that we should. And we've got this view of ourselves, this story we're telling ourselves, and then we project that onto others. In other words, we do. We love others as well. We love ourselves. You can tell when someone loves themselves because they love others.
really well and They're more likely to live the words of Jesus. Okay, so if we're gonna love others as Jesus loves us, then we're going to need to extend grace. Grace is going to have to be what everyone encounters. It didn't matter what people were doing to Jesus, Jesus' response was I'm going to extend grace and love. This kind of hinges on last week.
when we talk about forgiveness, word of Jesus number eight is that if we're gonna actually forgive, we've got to extend grace. We've got to see people differently. So our objective is to transform our thinking. We've got to transform the way we see others as perfect, as brilliant right now. We can't be fooled by the actions of people. It's not.
It's not about you. You don't need to be offended. Instead of being offended, ask yourself, what is it about those persons actions that are have redemption? They have a redemptive quality. In other words, they're being deceived. Those actions are not in the words of Jesus. Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do. We've got to actually see people as perfect. Brilliant. This reminds me of a story you might have heard me told about Jim, the electrician.
Jim the electrician, many, many years ago, Nancy and I used him on our house. I'm good at electricity, but still a little dangerous. And Jim was a really good electrician. He knew his stuff. Also homeless, also extremely overweight, without a shower for weeks. So stunk. And then also this crazy volcanic eruptive behavior that would happen at the drop of a hat. And he'd start cursing and throwing things.
And, some moments he could be just a lovable teddy bear and the other moment he's gonna be like, my gosh, how am I ever gonna live with this person? You know, it would have been easier just to get a different electrician, but I feel like God taught me so much through Jim. And I started to say, Nancy, what if we call Jim Jesus? What if we saw Jim as Jesus? How would that change the way we behaved towards him?
Would that eliminate our frustration? Would that hijack our offensiveness and see love on Jim? And so funny, know, many, many years later, if Nancy saw that Jim was coming, she would yell across the house, Hey, Rob, Jesus is here. knew exactly what that meant. And that meant that I would treat him like he was Jesus. I would have patience with him.
No, he wasn't Jesus, but he had Jesus in him. And it was up to me to extend grace to him and to love him like Jesus loves him. Be consistent with that. And I got to tell you, over the years, Jim transformed in a way that I have never seen a transformation. His anger subsided. He was so much more
generous in the way he talked about people. In other words, I was giving him the fruit of grace, extending him to see him like Jesus. I kept giving that to him and he experienced how good that felt. And then he started dishing that out to other people. But how many know that required me to change the way I thought. know, every time Jim would blow up on a job, it meant that he probably was just going to leave and my electrical work was not going to be done.
I had to see a bigger picture. It wasn't about the electrical getting done. You sometimes it was the lights needed to be on, the heat needed to happen. But more likely it was about my interaction with Jim and how he saw me show up for him. That's the kind of transformed thinking that we need to have for people. we have to have a thinking that is
looking at people as though Jesus sees them or as though they're Jesus. We have such a high honor for them. This is how we're going to withhold judgment and condemnation. This is how we're going to forgive people. This is how we're going to deny ourselves. This is how we're going to give people who can't pay us back and just give to them generously, even though they might not pay us back, even when they say they're going to pay us back. We are going to have to see people much
different. Remember, word 28, regulate how you see. You've got to renew your thinking on how you're seeing others. you can make huge gains in your ability to love others simply by seeing them as Jesus sees them. That's a great question. Jesus, how do you see them? Holy Spirit, what do
Why are you so crazy? Why would you die for that person? You know, Jesus sees someone worth dying for. Jesus sees something he created. Jesus sees hope and love in others. Jesus sees how people have been deceived and destroys the deceiver, not the person. You know, Jesus sees the race of God. We're children of God. He's a part of that. He's a child of God. He is God.
We have been indoctrinated into becoming one with the Trinity. This is how he sees us. And that is such a key. but here's the problem. And this is where I'd really like to focus on how you would transform your thinking today. This is one of the things that I work on when coaching men. This is the thing I'm after almost more than anything else. want to, well, first and foremost, I want them to really have an incredible relationship.
with God the Father, that they really understand how much the Father loves them. And that requires transformation in the way you see yourself. This is going back to the second commandment, love your neighbor as yourself. We have to love ourselves. The most important word in the whole phrase is as. If I love myself and I've accepted the love Jesus has,
As for me, I am going to be able to purvey a love that is similar. So we have got to get better at this. We need to see ourselves like Jesus sees us. Do you see yourself as someone who's worth dying for? Do you see yourself as God's creation? Do you look in the mirror and have hope and love for that person? It starts with us. If we're going to love people like Jesus, we need to come into
with his radical love for us. So when you're looking at yourself in the mirror, you're actually, you how many people do that? This is what I tell my guys, like, I want you to be able to look in the mirror and get excited and come into agreement with what the Father God says about that man, about that woman. You would actually be elating a smile when you catch yourself in the mirror. Maybe you're distracted by
how much God loves you. Maybe that brings you to tears. Maybe that you laugh out loud, but it's not gonna be this, my gosh, here you are again. It's not going to be this, you blew it again. Look in the mirror. And maybe that's where it starts. It starts with what is the story you're telling about yourself? What do you say about yourself in your conscious thinking? Remember, your mind is your conscious thinking.
It's training, you're training the body, the unconscious mind. This is what we talk about in 100xLife You're training the unconscious brain to actually behave. Where do we get those behaviors of shame and doubt and defeatist and wanting to beat ourselves up? Where do we get that? We get that from the stories we're telling ourselves. And then we train our unconscious mind to automatically think those things and automatically behave in response to those thoughts.
So you've got to you've got to actually be mindful. You've got to be thinking about what you're thinking about. You've got to be thinking about the story you're telling yourself. Statistically speaking, 80 percent of the stories people tell themselves are negative. Oh, my gosh. I am so glad I am not in that place anymore. And transforming the way you think requires us to to put that statistic up on its end. Wouldn't it be great if only 20 percent?
of the things you said were negative and 80 % of what you said about yourself was not only aligned with the gospel and what the father's saying, but it was good, it was hopeful, it was powerful, it was joyful. What if the stories you're telling yourself are full of love and forgiveness for yourself and no condemnation for yourself and not judging yourself? Yes, we have to be in control of how we receive the word of God. We got to transform our thinking.
We've got to abide in the words of Jesus. That's what 100xLife is about. And we also have to have thoughts about ourselves that are congruent with what Jesus is saying, that are congruent with what God the Father is saying to us. If you want to love others like Jesus, you will need to transform your thoughts about yourself. You need to see yourself as perfected by a cross. Yeah, it was the cross.
price in the universe, which arguably is the cross, was paid for you. That makes you worth it. You need to be just as excited as Jesus at the image in your mirror. How excited is he about you? I got to tell you, he is so excited about you. He is so in love with you. And when you start catching those negative stories you're telling yourself that don't agree with God the Father and what he's saying about you,
And you start making those those conscious thoughts congruent with God the Father, congruent with love, congruent with someone who's worth dying for. That's what's going to change your automatic behavior to see others the way you're seeing yourself. It's so crazy. I see this time and time again. I'm a certified strengths coach and, in the workplace, people don't
generally celebrate strengths, they're focused on what's wrong with everyone. That's what they focus on. And then they say, you got to go get to this training because you suck at this. Send out people to training, you've got to get it. You know, this is wrong with you. You got to fix this. Typically in an evaluation again and again and again, here's what you're doing wrong, fix it. In the strengths based coaching, we're gonna actually celebrate what's right about everybody. And my strengths approach, I'm like, okay, do you
Love you. That's the first thing I'm asking. Do you see the strengths that you have? And are you excited about those strengths? Do you see yourself as unique and powerful? Do you see yourself as someone who is distinguished from other people and that has assets that no one else has? You know, your top five strengths make you one in 33 million. That's pretty
unicorn, you know, that's not that makes you very unusual. Do you look in the mirror and see yourself as this unique person? I'm, I'm saying this in the workplace. And here's what's happened a time and time again, as people that I've coached in the workplace, this is in, you know, non Christian settings or pre Christian settings is just the workplace. When people start honoring the strengths that they have in them, I see it again and again, they automatically start
the strengths of others. Huh? Love your neighbor as yourself back to actually use that in my coaching to cities. I'm like you have heard love your neighbor yourself. Did you know the most important word in that phrase is as let's appreciate the strengths that we have. So that is what it looks like. You've got to get in the mirror. To do it right after do it while you're while I'm talking to you, go look in the mirror. What do you see?
Do you see a man that's worth loving, worth dying for you? Do you see a woman that's cherished? Do you see goodness because of the cross? you were a sinner, saved by grace. Now you're saved by grace. Now you're moving in a different direction. You post-crossed. You're moving to this place where God's inviting you to follow Him. Jesus has invited you.
to follow him so that you can become more like him, so that you can have the scent of the father. We have to look in the mirror and see that man, see that woman. That is what it's gonna be. Seeing people like Jesus sees them requires work, and we've got to guard our thoughts and make them conform to seeing people as image bearers, people worth dying for. Okay.
I got some journal prompts for you and this is going to be really key because remember,
We're in this Kairos moment. A Kairos moment is different from Kronos. Kronos is time, Kairos is time. We're in this time of transformation where our nation is moving from a generation of war and division to a generation of morality. We are going to be responsible as Jesus lovers to help the nation understand what the behaviors of love. I'm not talking about proselytizing.
I'm talking about here's what morality looks like. It looks like these commandments of Jesus, these 55 words, and we don't just tell people those things. We show them those things. So today's talk about loving others as Jesus loves them is all about you transforming your mind so that you can actually live these words and give them to
society give them to the nation, means we're going to practice these things. So here's here are the prompts. Do you want to write them down? So first one,
Holy Spirit, show me a predominant thought I have about myself that is inconsistent with your word and your love for me. I have those, you know, a bad thought. It's crazy. I can spend a lot of time beating myself up. Why did you do that? What's a predominant thought that's just It's really militating against God's love for you.
Okay, next is you're gonna revise the thought, rewrite the thought as if Jesus has it for you. In other words, what would the thought translated in Jesus's terms, what would that look like? And that's gonna be the target of this week's thoughts. You're gonna capture the negative one, the predominant thought that's negative and inconsistent with God the Father and what he thinks about you. And you're gonna...
have a different thought, you're going to take the thought captive in the words of Paul in second Corinthians 10, you're going to take that thought captive, and you can have a different thought. So rewrite the thought and then moving away from us, Holy Spirit, show me a person that I don't see, like you see them show me what's the person that I just don't see like you see. And then Jesus tell me why you love this person so much actually journal from Jesus about why
He loves that person that You're not loving as an image bearer. Why does Jesus love them so much? What must I think about them to love them as you love them? Those are great questions. I hope that you spend some time journaling. Remember, it's doesn't matter if we don't put these words into practice. So funny, I was at a Bible study, you know, because Nancy and our Bend and.
We have many, we have a Christian body that we're just so tight within Santa Barbara that we cultivated over many years. And now we're going to churches looking for community here locally in Bend. And I was invited to a Bible study and I was sitting around the Bible study and we were talking, uh, you know, and doing the typical Bible Bible study. It's like, you know, people asking questions about events and timing and, and, what does this say about the old Testament? What is the
does the new covenant evolve? And they're all really wonderful questions. But I had this thought in the Bible study that, man, a Bible study is almost the way we've set it up or the way that the name Bible study is almost a little bit slippery slope because Jesus says we don't just need to know the word. In fact, when we know the word and we don't put it into practice, we're fools. And so when we're studying this thing in the Bible, I was thinking, man, we've got to demand in our Bible study.
We've got to demand in our circles that we actually call on the carpet the question, well, how does this change our lives? How does reading this word together, how is it going to actually integrate in our lives? What's the thing that we're not doing that's inconsistent with this word that we must live out in society, in our families, at work, in our callings? And so I had this thought, well, let's change.
the word Bible study to Bible living support group. It's really Bible living. Anyway, I, you know, I get kind of wrapped around the axle on these things because I just feel like our, our generation has gotten so good at knowing the word and not living it. And now is the time. Now is the Kairos moment. May it be for you in Jesus name that you would live the words of Jesus as you hear the word.
Maybe yesterday on Sunday, maybe today when you were sitting with the Father, maybe tomorrow from a friend, will you put that into action? And it begins with loving others as Jesus loved them. I hope that you've enjoyed this. Let's go out and seize the week in a powerful way of transforming our behavior so we can give love away to the next generation. Love you guys.