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Grundy Eunoia Wellness Center’s podcast dedicated to empowering parents and their kids as they navigate mental health challenges. Through insightful discussions, expert advice, and engaging storytelling, we provide the tools and support needed to foster resilience, self-discovery, and emotional well-being.
Each episode features two segments:
🦸♂️ For Parents – Practical strategies, expert insights, and real conversations to help caregivers support their child’s mental and emotional growth.
🌟 For Kids – Interactive storytelling and discussions centered around unlocking their inner hero, overcoming obstacles, and building confidence.
Together, we break stigmas, encourage open dialogue, and equip families with the knowledge to thrive. Because every hero’s journey starts with a conversation.
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Welcome to Capes and Conversations, the Grundy Eunoia Wellness Center podcast. I'm Adam Kotowski, clinical director. And I'm Megan Rose McMullen, MS. This podcast is a conversation about mental health and wellness. Okay, so today we're talking about weirdness and being weird and not fitting in. So what should we tell them? If you are weird, be weird. Well, there's a famous phrase I always live by. It's be you, the world will adjust. Okay. I like that. Yeah.
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Here's the thing. Be you, the world will adjust. But I want you to go back to the first episode we had, which is rebel with the cause. Right? In order to be you and the world will adjust, you want to have a cause and purpose of the way you're about to express yourself. Because remember, you don't want to repel. You want to attract. And something I always say is the hand of gifts gathers, which means when you express yourself through your heart, mind, body, soul, then... you gather. People want, like, what is he or she doing? What is that? You know? And they want to.
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become a part of that in some way. When you don't have that, and you do it more to rebel without a cause, then you get to, like I said, defiant, which means you repel people. And you don't, in our heart of hearts, we don't want to repel anybody, right? We want to gather. Because then it's, it becomes a community effort, a community involvement. And, you know, I'll say, you always have your own gifts. You alone have the gifts that need expression. Nobody else can express them for you. You have to do it. So. Yeah. It reminds me of Bilbo Baggins from The Hobbit,
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or Lord of the Rings. Like, he was, like, kind of an outsider. Like, he lived on the outside. He was a traveler. And hobbits don't really do that, right? Hobbits are like, what are you talking about? That's so dangerous. Exactly. And he was, like, loving adventure. And he was out there, you know. But he, kind of had. that, but once he started to really be like, you know, I love traveling, I'm going to do this, and he came back, like, everyone really loved him, because he came back with fireworks and stories and all of these things, and people gathered to hear them, and then they celebrated.
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him, but they were, they also, he kind of allowed people, gave people more permission, to say, okay, well, if you are different, if you are weird, and you don't feel like you're fitting in, then you could try the thing that makes your heart sing, and people will, like, this is what happens, it kind of gives them permission. Yeah, well, and it's interesting you say that, I wrote about that long ago, when you become the absolute expressive best version of yourself, and embracing your uniqueness, I mean, people.
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call it weirdness, I say, you're giving permission to others to do the same, and what an inspirational gift that is, because you, you take the lead, and then I was like, what are they doing? And I always said, people will call you everything and say, you know, you're crazy and make fun of you and dare I even say bully you. First, they'll think you're nuts and crazy. Then they'll ask you how you did it. Yeah. Because what happens is when you're doing when you're going on that route, and we're like, that's scary. That's terrifying. Don't do that. That's crazy. But then when you come back with the results of like, being more happy and joyful and having fun and playfulness, you know what I mean? And they're like attracted to that because they want that as well for themselves. And they're like, okay, well, tell me how you did it. Because I want to I want to do it too.
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Right, right. Yeah, I want to know how, how, how I want to know more about how you did that. Right. And that's, that's talk about flattery. Yeah, that's a huge compliment. Yeah. So yes, I think there's a soccer player that said, I want to be so good at soccer that I want to get new haters because it's haters became history. I feel like when we are in our true purpose and cause, we are more in alignment and it attracts the people, our tribes, our community, because that's the thing. It feels like maybe the easiest thing to do is to try to fit in, to try to like squash your flame, to conform yourself to fit in into that mold.
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Right. But what that does is it causes more pain, loneliness. It also doesn't actually give you community because you end up with people or in places that are actually unsafe or like not good for you because you're not actually expressing the way that you're supposed to be. So when you let that go and you embrace that uniqueness, you end up with more better community, fostering better friendships, quality. You're not alone. Someone can look at you and be like, you are weird and I love that. Right. And so because we're all weird, we love that. We love this is what our community loves. You know, I think that's a really important to.
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For kids to know. It is because you and you alone, again, have your own uniqueness. You have your mission to fulfill. And I always say this, when you have a why, you can bear through anyhow. So when you know your purpose, mission, heart, mind, soul, body, rebel with the cause is all in alignment, you become something people can't figure out. But when one or a lot of those are not in alignment, then that's where the defiance steps in. And it's like you can express yourself in a way that can impact people possibly in a negative or harmful way.
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And that's where you've got to be cautious. So alignment is the key. And when you do that, you just express yourself and you inspire so many people to become the best version of yourself, of their selves too, that it becomes this uncontrollable wave, right, in a good way. And the wave just changes everything. So, you know, be you. The world will adjust, but do it with a cause. Yeah. And if you need help. finding your purpose, your cause, how to process and heal, that's what we're here for.
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Right. And, you know, so many people look at, you know, Grundy Eunoia Wellness Center, they look at it as therapy. I look at it more as a global perspective of mentoring. And I always define a mentor as a friend who shows you that's what you already know. I know deep down inside of us in our heart, we have the fulfilling mission inside of us, like that only we can fulfill. That means it's been convoluted, it's been conditioned in a different way, and that's.
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just life, right? We're going to have events, just conditioning from loved ones, from school systems, everything. There is conditioning involved. We've also had experiences, maybe traumatic experiences, and maybe it really shifts the way we trust people, we experience life. The whole purpose of why... we set up, you know, Grundy Eunoia Wellness Center, is for you to understand that we're going to help you remove those conditions, those blocks, so that you can get back on.
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track and redirect on course to who you are and why you're here, and that's a very powerful thing. And so, if someone is experiencing bullying, what are a few things that they could do right now before they got here? Well, the biggest thing, first and foremost, is to realize that you're like a ship in the water. You can only sink if water gets inside you. You have to build that displacement. Water gets displaced from a ship, that's how it stays afloat.
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You have to displace anything that is not you, but as said by others. Now, is it easy? No. Is it worth it? Yes. When you become that ship that realizes that they can't sink you, you become something they can't figure out. And then guess what? Then they move on to someone else, or they're just done with you. That's what I would say. That's what you want, right? But when you open that port, or you open that hole in the ship and the water can see, oh, it's just gonna flow in, right? And they're gonna take advantage of that. So first and foremost, realize the power of you.
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Realize that you have the ability to displace anything that anybody says to you that says to you that's not you. The second thing is don't do it alone. You know, a ship has a commander, has a, you know, someone who, the captain, right? You are the captain of your vessel, yes, but on top of that, you have people here, at Grundy Eunoia that are willing to work with you, to help you. You want to express yourself. You want to get out the things.
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that are no longer serving you, and on top of that, discover the things that are. So become the ship that displaces water, but then come and see us. You know, let's work with us together. Let's work together. We're creating a very home environment, for you to understand. that you have the possibility to to get guidance and to get through the challenges or obstacles that are in your way of thriving feeling good finding joy, getting outside of yourself and I think it's important too that if you have any.
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questions or concerns or things that you're currently going through you can always email us anonymously and we can talk about it here on the podcast and also we're here to to help if if you need to to reach out to us and stuff we we want to make sure that you have a team yeah yeah you bring up a very valid point if you ever want to I mean what you know what the one the website's going to be up soon what it is you can always just say this is an anonymous podcast idea perfect great thank you you know we'll keep it that way.
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yeah and it's something we can discuss at a level that maybe you know groups can understand yeah we'd love that, The superhero that you relate to, share that too, because we can talk about what they do and how they take their pain and transform their lives. I think that's really honestly what Capes and Conversations is all about, is really trying to make sure that you know that you have this power within you, and once cultivated, it can be wonderful.
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Well, and I've said this once, I'll say it again, the best form of healing, the last stage of healing, in my opinion, is when you never do to others what you had done to you. And that's what a hero does versus a villain. A villain will try to get others to feel their pain, and actually maybe even have the same thing happen to them or worse. Yeah, misery loves company. Correct. And, you know, it's interesting, I always said that the only person that ever shows up at a pity party is themselves. Because nobody will want to sit around and pity with you, right? So understand that the villain will try to do everything they can.
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to get up to you. Right. feel the pain. That's why the scars are there. The hero will take what's happened to them and it ends with them. They become the transition person. They are showing you how to heal through what happened to them and not doing it to you. You know what a great example of this is? The Grinch. Oh yeah. I just, I love that movie, the one with Jim Carrey. He literally, like he had this pain that happened to him and he isolated. He went out on a hill, he got, he brooded and then he came down, he was so mad and then he wanted everyone to feel his pain. So.
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that's what he did. He literally went through it. But who helped him heal? Cindy Lou Who. Who was like, I see the good in you. Right. I see that you have this, that you're misunderstood, you don't fit in, you don't look like everyone else. Right. People are bullying you for that but you know, you are, you do have a good heart and I see that and he does and in the end, you know, it becomes more about the purpose rather than the things and the actions that he did. and stuff so I think that that's like a Christmas version of yeah it really is and you know the hand.
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that gives gathers you know what happened at the end of that movie everybody was gathered around the table and he was serving right yeah and I really feel that when you choose the hero route, that you gather people because they want to be part of your tribe they want to be part of your community because look what you set up look how you did things and people just want to feel good yes so having permission to show up being you in all that uniqueness gives other people and if you feel good you're gonna gather people and they're gonna feel good because people who feel good don't.
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hurt people people who are hurting people like bullying are the people that are hurting themselves correct you know hurt people hurt people heal people heal people right so I think that's it's never personal it's always about something that they're going through and how they feel on words worthy or unlovable and they're trying to get fuel for something else, So the easier, the better that you displace that, the less likely they're going to continue that. Correct. But it's not hard. It's not easy, but it's worth it.
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Absolutely. Yeah. So is there anything else you want to say before we wrap this up? You know, I will say this to anybody listening. I'm proud of you. And I really mean that sincerely because it is not easy to go through your story and what you've experienced. Yeah. It's not. So the fact that you're listening to this, the fact that you're actually considering getting guidance or just trying to change and be that hero, I'm proud of you.
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I'm very proud of you. I'm proud of you too. I want to say that, and I know you do too, because it's so vital to hear those words from somebody else. Those are words I never really heard from people myself, but they mean the most. And I know that there's people out there right now listening, particularly. Are you? Who? have gone through things that they've just never told anybody you know or they they see things and it's very hard to discuss i'm proud of you for really wanting to have change in your life and i'm also proud of you for you choosing the hero role you don't need a cape yeah right what you.
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need to be the the hero is to confront the obstacles that are in front of you that makes you a hero right right so i'm proud of you yeah same and it i i think that it's important to say because if we've already made mistakes if we've already showed up in our grinchy form and we've shaved off someone's hair and we've done something that maybe isn't great doesn't mean you can't be redeemed like redemption isn't there for you every hero has a part when they're a fool has a part.
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when they're a villain themselves and they have a choice to feed like we said last time to feed that wolf that's in danger, inside of you and you can choose that right now and it feels like you are because, Because you're listening to the podcast and wanting to choose to change. And I think that's something definitely to be proud of. And I'll say this, and I know you're listening out there because you're choosing to listen to this podcast. Between stimulus and response, there's a gap. Now, what is a stimulus? Somebody says or does something to you.
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That stimulates a reaction from you. But when they stimulate a reaction from you, there's a gap. There's a break. There's a pause. That gives us the freedom to choose our reaction to it. That's our choice. So when everything is taken from us, we always have the freedom to choose our attitude and response towards everything. And that is where your hero capability is. You have the freedom to choose your response.
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And in that pause, that gap, that's where your growth and maturity of the freedom to choose comes from. Because you say, I don't want to act like that. Yeah, this is how my parents may have acted. how my classmates might have acted. I'm choosing a different route. This is in my heart of hearts how I'm going to handle things. That makes you the hero. Right and Grundy Inouye is here so that you can practice that pause so it's a longer pause because right now it might feel like that gap is zero. Correct. It's an instant response, an instant trigger, but the more you practice the more you.
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help feel that gap gets longer and the pause becomes longer so that you can have a better conscious choice that you're choosing. Yep absolutely. Awesome well until next time we'll we'll see you soon. Thank you for listening to Grundy Eunoia Wellness Center podcast Capes in Conversation. If you or someone you know is challenged, struggling, or need someone to talk to, you matter, you are important, and please reach out to us via our website or social media which can be found in our show notes. And if you have a topic of conversation about a favorite.
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character's heroic journey, please let us know as we would love to hear from you. Love to talk to you. about it on our show. Until next time, unlock the hero within. Your adventure awaits with us.