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Flip the Script with Vic is a sacred space for real conversations with real women 🩷 Hosted by Victoria Nielsen—intuitive healer, mama, and space-holder for the divine feminine—this podcast amplifies women’s voices through raw interviews, intimate solocasts, and unfiltered conversations on motherhood, mysticism, psychedelics, ancestral healing, spirituality, identity, and more.
What began as a personal exploration is now a communal prayer: a gathering place for cycle-breakers, mothers, mystics, creatives, witches, and wild ones redefining what it means to be a woman in today’s world.
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Hello, hello, hello.Welcome back to the Flip the Script with Vic Podcast.It's your host, Victoria Nielson.As always, I am so excited to be here to hype up another amazing woman that I have had the honor and pleasure of getting to know, Miss Mary Ellen Valverde.She's a yoga teacher, a sound healer, an astrologer, and really, we met, gosh, was that 3 years ago now?On a women's retreat, and I will never forget how you made me feel because we were doing this really beautiful exercise helping one another, um, see what our strengths are and, and how we support people, and you just were like, "You make me feel seen.You make me feel safe.You make me feel comfortable," and I had never had another woman look into my eyes and express that to me in that way.So, thank you because I hold onto that moment a lot and it reminds me why I'm here.So thank you for being here with me.Thank you so much.I'm so excited to be here.I don't know that you've ever told me thatUm, but yeah, it was like 3 years ago and that's so nice.YouI went on that retreat, it was just an all women's retreat.We went on that and it was my first retreat like by myself, um, out of the country, things like that, and I was so scared and you made me feel so comfortable and you were just so authentically you.And I was like, "Wow, she's like a little light that makes people feel like comfortable and warm."And I was like, I gravitated towards you, so yeah.Well, thank you.I- I have to remember to keep some of that light for myself.But when we came back you did this amazing Nourished by the Moon session for me.So I would, I would love of course for you to share like your story and your journey, but I definitely wanna make sure we talk about those sessions too because I think you have such a unique perspective on astrology and the body, um, and that you look at it from such a unique lens with the moon, and you showed me a, a new side of myself, you know?I think a lot of people can look at astrology very black and white or a certain way, um, and you were showing me how my habits and how I nourish myself and how I feed myself needs to be different based on my astrological moon sign, and so much of it made sense that I still implement, like needing to slow down when I eat.Like I find when I'm running around with the kids and if I'm standing up, I'm like, "Oh, no.Oh, no.Mary Ellen won't like this.I have to go sit down-" "and I have to like enjoy the meal."Um, and it's, it's things that you think don't make a difference, but they really do because then my body was actually absorbing the nutrients.And actually absorbing, um, that time, so yeah, maybe, maybe take us back to, to that retreat space and how you were feeling then and kind of how you're feeling now.Okay.The, the retreat was scary.Like I said, it was scary for me 'cause it was like so new.And, yeah, I was going into it, I knew I wanted to help people.I always know, have known that I've wanted to help women in some shape or form, and it just, I guess growing up like through my 20s, some, my 30s, some of them, um, I was just confused.I was like, "I should be doing this."There were so many shoulds, like, "I should be doing this," and I felt a lot of pressure, like, "IIs this, is this r- my right path?"So I took so many different paths.I mean, um, uh, I still have a full time job as a librarian, which I don't even know if I ever told you that, but I'm a librarian, but also, um, I got into health coaching, and then like I went back and got my master's in nutrition, and then I'm like, "Is this really for me?"Because it, like sometimes that, the nutrition part could be so like strict and like this is how, you know, umI just was so confused for like a long, long time.And I didn't know how to express myself.I think you saw even at the, at our retreat, I was a little more shy.I didn'tUh, I don't know if, uh, it's, I didn't know how to use my voice or was scared to use my voice, so I did a lot of work on that, about being seen and being heard, and so for a while, I just wanted to kind of be.So instead ofI, I was doing nutrition with doctors and things like that, a lot of online things, and I was like, "You know what?"I took a step back and I was like, "Who am I?""And what," "do I need for myself so that I can help other people?"And so for a few years I was kind of just doing that.So the retreat really kicked that off and yeah, so that was great.And then I really found astrology.I knew what, I, I was into it before but then I really got into astrology and human design and like knowing myself and accepting myself, my little flaws, um, but like my gifts too 'cause I was always like, "Well, what am I good at?Do I have any gifts?"Like, I'm like, "Does anybody see me?"Those kinds of things.And it was hard for years, um, but yeah.Like, getting into he- astrology and human design first helped and I think a lot of women get lost.Yeah.I myself don't have kids.I know you do like, especially you hit your like mid-30s or early 30s and like, "What just happened?"Uh, "Now I have some kids," and like, m- m- your life is their life and vice versa- Yeah.and of, of course, definitely, but you wanna get back to yourself too and I've, you know, I've talked to a lot of women and moms who want to be like, "Okay.I've helped my kids.I've put them on the right path.Now how can I like get back to myself?"So, umThat's so relatable- Yes.because I think, and even your story of- of trying to find all these different paths, because I do think there is this through line in the spiritual space of, like, "Find your path and everything's gonna fall into place, and you have this one purpose or an one dharma."And, you know, I think I personally also have done a lot of unlearning about that, that, like, there are so many different paths we can take, and we have free will.And actually, we're so multi-dimensional that we're doing ourselves a disservice by saying, "Oh, this one thing is the only thing that we can do because we're good at it," um, you know?And I think women do get in that, like, analysis paralysis a little bit.I know I did where I just wanted to keep learning, and it was almost like that imposter syndrome where you felt- I felt like an imposter.Um, so I'm wondering if, you know, that was the feeling too, right?Of like, "I don't know enough yet.Like, I need to be an expert, quote-unquote, before I can help others.Like, I have to be healed first," which is, like, such bullshit.Yeah.But it's such a story that we've all learned, you know?my god.It'sYou're- you're, like, speaking everything, the- the truth.I, for so long, have thought I wasn't smart enough, not good enough, not able to help other people, because either I was going through something or I don't know.You seeSometimes you see these people, and it's like this comparison and imposter thing.Oh.I see other people, and I'm like, "Wow, look at them.They're doing all of these things, and they put themselves out there and stuff."And I'm like, "Well, if I have one more course, if I just get another degree, like, if I just keep learning, some- at some point, like, I'll be good enough."And, you know, that's not what it is.We're always learnI mean, I love learning anyway, but the learning for learning because you don't think that you're smart enough or worthy enough is different than, like, "I'm curious.I wanna learn because I love life, and I'm curious."So, it's different for me now 'cause I still wanna learn but, like, in a different way.Do you think there was, like, a specific moment or feeling that helped you kind of flip that perspective?Or, was there just a time when you're like, "Okay, I'm tired of my own bullshit.Like, it's time to put myself out there"?Um, yeah.I think I just got tired of it.Like, I- I, you know, I- wha- I- I had 2 pups who were my fur babies for my- the loves of my life.The first one passed right before Costa Rica, and that was the turning point for me.And then, um, my other pup passed this past summer, which I'm still grieving.But I- I think after, like, so the first pup was, like, getting into my spirituality and really focusing on myself a bit.And this last time, after all of his, you knowAll of the things that I, like, was worried about with him, and after he passed, I'm like, "Okay, I have to do something for myself.I have to put myself out there now."'Cause I kept saying, "Well, you know, he's too sick.I can't do it right now.I don't have the time.I don't have the space."Um, so after a while, I was like, "You know what?What- what am I doing?"Like, I have time for myself now, um, which took me a while to say, "That's okay."Like, you know, like, uh, not feel guilty.Like, "Okay, now I could move on," kind of.I'm still working on it.You'll never move on, and that's okay.No, no.Like- like, I could do something.Um, I was just like, "That's it."You know you can do this.You know you can teach.You know you can guide.Um, that's what I'm here for, and I'm just owning it now.Which-took a lot for me to even say this out loud right now.I'm like, yes."And we're always alchemizing and working through it, right?That next level of- of visibility, of- of wanting to be seen, because if you- you have to be able to hold both, right?Of being seen but then maybe being disliked, you know?I know for me, that was a- a deep wound, you know, of- of that likeability, of wanting people to like me, and I think a lot of women do.And, you know, it comes from a place of- of love but also, I think of that- that not enoughness.Like, I think so many of us feel that and I don't know if it's because of the way society is now, that we're trying to do too many things or- or because you're seeing the people on Instagram that aren't showing their real lives, that are putting only the- the glamour shots up.And then you think, like, "Oh, it was so easy for her to do that," or, you know, whatever, whereas, like, behind the scenes, her marriage is crumbling and, like, life is falling apart, you know?Um, but I really love that you gave yourself the space and the time and that you didn't rush because I think I personally sometimes have that internal clock of, like, there's not enough time.And I think it's really beautiful that you allowed yourself to actually do it in your own time because the way that I have watched you start to blossom online, when you started teaching your, you know, in-person yoga classes and the sound healing, was really organic, and I- I just wanted to commend you for that because I feel like in this world of over-processed stuff, of over-curatedness, like, it took courage to do it your own way.And so, I hope you recognize that because that's really important too.Thank you.It's nice to be seen, so I appreciate you.Um, yeah.I think just putting, like, putting myself out there is hard.I- I am very a people pleaser.Um, I had to work on my boundaries so much because I was so worried what other people would think versus what I know I need to do.You know, friends, family, no, like, I felt pressure and maybe I didn't even, n-, like, no one was pressuring me.You know?I- I don't know.Isn't it crazy?It's- it's us.It's us.Yeah.Oh, it's totally in my head, like, a lot of times.But, you know, I still feel that, like, oh, good girl, el- eldest daughter kind of thing, like, you know, don't let people- That responsibility.Yes.Like, take care of other people kind of thing, and it's like, you know, finally I took care of myself and now I'm doing what I need to do from the heart.But being vulnerable has always been hard forI have a Capricorn moon, so it- I have a little problem with that.Mm, my son does too.So it's a little hard for u- like, for us just to maybe put ourselves out there a little bit and not, um, you know, work ourselves a lot.Like, these, the Capricorn moon, one of the things for that is, like, you- you strive.Like, I work hard, I work hard, and I work hard when I- I work hard but it's never good enough, like, I'm never good enough.And so I- I've been switching that a little bit, or a lot, I've been trying to switch it a lot.And it's like, no, no, you can work hard but, you know, you could play too.Like, that's the other thing.Like, I'm a Leo sun, I should be playing, and my Capricorn moon just took over and it was like, "Keep working.You gotta do, you know, you gotta do more, so, like, play," and- and that has been coming up a lot too.Like, enjoy the ride instead of like, go, go, go, go, go constantly.Yeah.Do you see that a lot in- in your classes and in the women that you're working with that- that inner child piece or that play is missing?I think- it's so interesting you talk about, you know, the eldest daughter.I was an only child but, well, only a child for 20 years, um, but kind of same.Like, you- I don't know what it is about, you know, and being from a Cuban American family, like, I don't know if it's just, like, the culture or just part of this societal pressure that gets put on us and then we grow up too fast and then play is hard.And it's like, wait, what?But that's not supposed to be hard.Like, you know?Like, do you, you know, either personally or even in some of your clients, like, uh, do you find that to be kind of a theme?Yes.We forget play.Like, we just forget about being happy.And so I help- I try to help whoever I can with it, just even people on the street.I'm like, look," you know, like, "I love your shirt," or whatever.Anyway, just to get, like, a little more, like, joy.But yeah, I see that with people, with my clients.There's like, well, you have to look great.You have to be on top of everything.You have to, uh, work and then have a side hustle and then take care of the kids.Like, it's so much, um, and I've got a- last year I had a lot of, um, I've been working with my guides a lot more and I've just been asking for a lot of support and help with, like, what do I need?And- and it- my oracle cards and, like, my messengers were like, "Play.Enjoy the ride."Things like that.And so I- I've been trying to help with other people.Like, even with my yoga classes, they've changed a bit.Like, I was taught in some Iyengar style and, uh, if no one knows what that is, it's like a very, like, you know, this is- this is the pose, it's- I wouldn't say strict but, like, you know, um, foundational and things like that.And in- I reali- and I love that kind of stuff, like I love rules, I love I love that kind of thing.Capricorn moon again, yeah.My Capricorn moon likes a rule.And so, um, I wanted to be a little more flow, like my classes but also, like, everything.So I've gotten- I now have a class with, um, meditation and sound and, um, somatics, and it's like, well, how do you feel in your body?How is your breath making you feel?Like, let's just take a moment of silence and then sound, and things like that just to see becausesee how you feel, and then how can you feel a little bit better?Mm-hmm.And then I'm like, "Now- now after that, um, how can we bring in creativity and play?"Because in, I'm sure we'll talk about it a little bit, but in my Nourished by the Moon sessions, one of my pillars is creativity and play because we don't have enough of it.It's just, you know, something that's missing.And life can be fun.You know, it's hard, but it also, it can be fun sometimes.No.We need that fun, and even the healing and the spirituality, like, doesn't have to be so serious, you know?It could be shaking your booty in front of the mirror.It could be, you know, going to, um, a deeper sound healing.It could be just laughing with your girlfriends.Like, that's also so, so healing, and I would love for you to share more about the Nourished by the Moon sessions, because I- I thought your pillars were so unique but so relatable and so easy for me to then implement and understand the ways that I was maybe nourishing myself in one pillar, but then this other pillar was like, "Oh, girl.That, like, check engine light's on."I'm like, "You need some help there."Um, so please share more 'cause I know you're starting to do these sessions again.I'm- I'm so excited about them, and I'm ready, like, I feel even better now, like, getting into them.So, I just, I feel like, you know, people know about their sun sign, um, even their rising sign sometimes, but, like, your moon is so important.Like, I love talking about the moon.It represents a lot of things.So, it represents your emotions.Um, a lot of people see that.Like, "Okay.That's- your moon's your emotional side."It is, but it's also, like, your needs, again, emotionally but also physically.It's like what you need emotionally and physically, your daily needs almost.It's- it- the moon tells us what we need and then how we need it kind of.So, yeah.Um, what I do is look at a person's natal moon sign in their birth chart, and then we go through our- my 5 pillars, which is, uh, which are, like, aligned eating, um, movement, nervous system care, and rest.Um, we do mindfulness and spirituality, that little piece, and then the last thing that I love to talk about is creativity and play.And so those are the things that I, when I was struggling mentally and physically and everything, those are the things I just kept going back to.And so, yeah.I love to talk about that with your moon sign.Um, and then you can look at your sun sign too and look at some of these things or whatever, but your moon with- with what your needs and your body is really nourishing, so that, like, nourish, like, fully.Mind, body, and soul is kinda what I love to help people with.Yeah, 'cause my cancer moon, I always, to your point, associated that with like, "Okay.You're just a little e- emotional," you know?Like, "You're, you know, really emotional with that watery cancer."But I've come to realize that actually means that, like, my home is so important to me and my home environment, and I, like, I- now that I'm no longer working a full-time job, and I, you know, work for myself, how I care for my home, like, matters and affects me.Um, and I've really noticed that, like, my cancer moon doesn't wanna get any work done until the house feels cozy- Mm-hmm.until, like, my space feels like I have space, you know?And it wasn't until I finally created my office space up here and, like, made myself my own little cozy cancer nook that I was like, "Oh.I can exhale now."Yeah.You know?Like, I- I want to do the work now.Um, and it's funny 'cause it- I feel like it drives my husband crazy sometimes because I'm like, "The house is a wreck.I can't do anything," and he's like, "We have 2 small boys.Of course the house is a wreck," and I'm like, "But no."Like, "I cannot work this way."Um, and even in the way that, like, I nourish myself as a cancer moon, you know, and the- the foods that I'm choosing to eat and, like, why am I choosing them, and, like, I- I think I remember you telling me that, like, I really need those warm nourishing foods, you know, probably more so than other people.Yes.Um, and that was, like, a revelation for me 'cause I think at the time I was eating nothing but, like, salads and smoothies.And you were like, "Girlfriend."Like- No.no, no."Yeah.That, your cancer moon is very, um, needs comfort.All about the home.Like the- the crab, I- I always say is, um, carries its home on its back.It- it's- it- that's where you are, so your home is very important to you, comfort is very important to you, eating the foods that are comforting are so important to you.And it's not like you can never have a smoothie again, but, like, you'reYou know?'Cause again I- I'm s- trying to release all this, like, toxic wellness, like this is how you have to be.But for your nourishment, those comforting foods are fabulous for you.And to go back to- Yeah, and I've found wh- when I- when I do nourish myself, I actually want to nourish everyone else around me.You know?I've come back to like this idea, like, I love cooking for my family, and I didn't for a while 'cause it was like, "Oh, I don't have time for that," likethis is another thing on the list, blah, blah, blah.But it was like, oh, when I'm actually nourishing my emotional needs, my emotional body, my physical body, okay, I want to cook and nourish everyone else around me.And that was such a, like, I don't know, like light bulb moment for me of likeAnd I preach this to everyone else, right?I'm always like, "Take care of yourself first."But it's like, oh, when you do then you actually have the capacity to do all these other things and- and nourish everyone around you as the, like, matriarch of your family.You know, whether or not you have kids but- but still.Yeah, that is a huge reve- w- like you said, nourishing yourself can then allow you to help other people too.That's, you knowthat.What are some common things or maybe, um, some moon signs or things that maybe people don't always know or think about, like, you know, you were talking about your Capricorn moon and, of course, my Cancer moon.Um, but I don't know, are there any that come to mind that you're just like, "I don't think people realize that this type of moon really means this," versus like maybe what they have been taught in traditional astrology or what kind of gets regurgitated all the time?Hmm.Let's see.The Cancer moon is- is big.I mean, not that it isn't an emotional sign.It is.But, like, you know, also, like, your nourishment.Let's see.What else?Um, I- I guess I could talk about, like, the, um, the element, like, as an element.Like to kind of- Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.re- would that be cool?'Cause, yeah.I just feel likeSo- so we can start with, um, earth signs.So that's Taurus, uh, Virgo, and Capricorn.And they're- they are very connected to the earth.It's this physical realm.And, um, material and physical comforts are big for them, f- especially for their moon.Um, maybe to build something or see some sort of tangible result.Like, it's earth.It- it's physical.So whether that's a Taurus moon that needs a little extra sleep, um, or, like, a Virgo moon who needs to be organized in their own way because it's a mutable sign- Yeah.so it's not gonna be like, y- whatever.Or a Capricorn moon always striving for something.You have to let yourself feel that.Like, it's okay.Like, I tell myself, "Okay, is that why I'm like this?Look, why do I keep striving for something big, big, big, big, big?"Um, it's okay.I'm- we're built this way.So, like, the earth signs should really think about their physical body and their physical, like just physical realm.And then with, like, air signs, so that's Gemini moons, Libra moons, Aquarius moons, um, more of, like, the mental realm and your communication, things like that.Um, so connection, conversations like I said, intellectual stimulation is gonna be very comforting for them.Um, yeah.Yeah, I love an air sign moon.Um- I know.I was thinking.I'm like, wait what are myWill's an Aquarius moon.Rocky is a, oh, he's an Aries moon.Oh, okay.And Sebastian's a Capricorn.Sorry, I laugh because he's- he's my Cancer sun, so he's, like, so sweet, but then that Aries moon comes out and it's like, "Oh, shit."But it's quick, it's quick- Yeah, you get like-that he gets pissed and then he, you knowYeah.Yeah.Well, if he gets those needs met too it'll be quicker too to kind of get back to just, like, neutral or whatever.Yeah.Um, yeah, so those fire moons, so like Aries, Sag, um, Leo, that's our drive and our, like, spiritual realm kind of.It's what drives us, what makes us passionate, um, so things like action, adventure, um, passions, anything that you have that drive and passion for is very important to think about, like daily, and what- what maybe spiritual practices you do daily or anything that connects you back to your- your core self.Um, so that's important.And was the last one?Oh, water moons.I'm like, "What did I forget?"Oh, those nice water moons.Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces is our, like, emotional realm and those moons need emotional nourishment plus, like, your physical nourishment like we talked about.Um, usually they're able to, like, feel, cry, create really great emotional connections with people which is great, um, but yeah.Daily those are the kind of things, like, that you need to just come back to as- with those elements.Um-but I was trying to think of other ones like, oh, this, a lot of like pi- it's- it seems like people are like, "Oh, with an Aries moon, they're so fiery and they're like"you know, like- like the typical kind of things.And yeah, it is, it is kind of true but it's also like that's what you need and it's okay.So that's the main thing I want to get at, through, like whatever stereotypes are there, maybe there's a little truth to it, but also like, yeah.Yeah, that's who you are and embrace it 'cause sometimes we don't and we're like, "That's terrible," but no.Exactly, no, 'cause I truly, my Gemini rising, I feel like I didn't really embrace for a long time because you always hear, you know, Gemini are 2faced and blah, blah, blah, but really it means that I need that intellectual stimulation.I'm always gonna be kind of jumping to different things, and that doesn't make me anything.It's just who I am.Mm-hmm.And that's okay.Like, and what a- what a beautiful message to share in.I love that you mentioned, by the way, that you have been connecting with your guides a lot more because I feel like that's, I mean, just so important.No matter your moon sign, no matter who you are, what- how has that relationship changed and- and I guess maybe is there anything that you feel called to share, um, to maybe inspire other women to connect with their guides more?'Cause it can be intimidating, right?Like at first you're a little bit like, "Who the hell am I connecting to?"Like, "Am I just talking to myself?"Like, "What's happening here," you know?Yeah.first I was like, "What do you mean, connect to your guides?What guides?What are we- what are we even talking about?"And I, like, I'm probably always gonna bring the moon signs back but, like, my Capricorn moon is like very practical.I love practical things and I also, that's why I wanna help people with practical stuff too.But like, there, my Capricorn moon was like, "No.No."No.What- what are we talking about?But, um, what helped me is allowing my intuition, like I have to, you have to get quiet.You really have to get quiet, and that's very hard for me to get quiet because then you have to like be with yourself.So it was a long time coming.And that's scary.Yeah.It's totally scary.But I just, you know, something that helped me was, um, I, um, connect with cacao.Like I use cacao a lot, but you can do, use whatever you want so I'll- I'll have my cacao, connect with my guides and my ancestors too, which helps.Um, but getting quiet and listening, and it might not seem like they're talking to you.A lot of times it- it sounds like my voice- Mm-hmm.and I'm like, "Shut up.Stop talk"like so I'm telling myself to shut up but I'm like, "Uh, uh-oh, I was probably telling my guides to shut up."So yeah.I don't, I, uh, did I answer the question or did I just start rambling?Yeah, no, but I- I think that it, it's that, right?It's realizing that it's not this like, I don't know, weird disembodied voice that you're gonna hear.Right.Like it's gonna probably sound like you and that actually, you know, using something like an oracle deck or a tarot deck I think is a wonderful tool for women.I mean, hell, I have my Spirit Mama's Oracle because that's how I started.I started pulling a card a day because I didn't trust myself.Yeah.So it was like, okay, I need this- this tangible thing outside of myself to confirm the thing that I'm telling myself.You know?I, you're exactly right.I started with oracle decks and tarot and stuff, and I still use them, I love them, um, but I can just now sit with myself.But- but however you wanna get into it, yes.Your, uh, your oracle deck is gorgeous, by the way.Everyone get it.Thank you.But, um, yes.Because I didn't trust myself, I didn't trust that I had a connection with my guides.Like, I'm like, "Everybody else has a connection with their guides.Oh"You know, it just seems like I heard other people talking about it and I'm like, "No, you have to sit there and listen to them and you have to be aware."Mm-hmm."You have to be mindful."Like, I now get confirmation daily.You- you actually have to talk to your guides and you have to ask them questions.I didn't, like, I didn't know that.But like, there's so many things that I asked for and I was like, "Oh my god.This is- this isn't gonna tr- this isn't gonna come true, this isn't gonna come true."And then it, they showed me that they were there.They showed me that they were there to support me.So yeah, last year I had a number of, like, confirmations and I was like, "Oh."And isn't it so nice?Like, "Here you are."I know.Or sometimes you're like, "I need a sign here, sign please.I don't believe you."But likeI asked for a number of sign- last year that how, one of the reasons that I am so more connected is 'cause I asked for signs and they gave them to me, and then I was like, "Uh-oh, the sign isn't gonna co- isn't gonna come," and then it did.And it's like no, it's there.You have to look though.You have to be mindful, like I said.Like actually stop, listen, look around, be present, because they could be showing you signs all the time and you just don't see them, so yeah.Exactly, exactly.In an Instagram post, in a song lyric, in, you know, like, uh, the things that I think we tell ourselves is a coincidence and it's like, "Mm," you know?Likeyes but no, no, you know?And it's a muscle, it's a muscle.You know, I tell my clients that all the time.Like, you have to form that relationship with them and you have to build that trust muscle, because A, they want the relationship with you, but, like, you have to put in the effort.You have to tell them what you want help with, because they technically can't interfere until we ask.Mm-hmm.You know?And I think people sit back and maybe, like, say like, "Oh, I'm praying, I'm sending it up to the universe," but, like, are you actually, like, interacting and asking, or are you just kind of putting your hands up and being like, "Help!"You know?Like, that's kind of 2 very different energies.No, that's totally right.That's when I started asking is when I saw.And I, um, I did this, uh, new year, like, I guess it was the, um, the winter solstice.I put, likeI don't know if you've done this.I just saw it this year and I'm like, "I'm doing this."So you write down, um, like, 13 intentions that you're gonna- Oh, yeah, yeah.It was like 12 wishes, 13 wishes or something?12, yeah, or something like that.Yeah, yeah, yeah.I did it and the one that I put down, 'cause I knew I wanted it, I was like, "I wonder if it's gonna be this?"Yeah, connect more with my guides came out as, like, my thing, like, th- my intention for the year and that I'm gonna really, really work on to even connect more with my guides.But that's the one I, I kn- I knew it was gonna be that one and it came true, so yeah.<|agent|><|en|> How freaking cool- I know.Right?to see how connected you are.Like, it's, ugh, I'm justIt's an honor, um, to get to watch you blossom andI don't know if there's any last words that you feel called to share from your guides or from your heart for anyone listening, and then of course, please share how women can get in touch with you, how they can do the Nourished by the Moon sessions, um, and all that good stuff.I would just, um, yeah, I would just like toI really wanna help women understand themselves so that they can go and justI'm really into sparkle so, like, go and be a sparkly version of yourself, you know?So yeah.Uh, just, I would say how, like, every day, how can you just add a little more sparkle?Mm-hmm.Just ask yourself in the morning, like, "What can I do today?"And just be like, "How can I be, like, just a tiny bit more sparkly, a little more play every day?"So, um, yeah.Thank you for that.And then, um, I have a new website.I redid my website.I'm claiming my- It's gorgeous, by the way.Thank you.Um, I reclaimed my name.So it's just maryellenvalerde.com, um, and I could, you know, link to that.Oh yeah, that'll be in the show notes, guys.Don't worry.Yeah.And then, um, my Instagram is maryellen.wellness.And I just, like, I really want wellness to not be this toxic wellness whatever.It's like wellness is how you feel good and everything so personalized.Like, we should personalize everything, and I want people to remember that.You don't have to listen to this, like, guru online that's telling you to do it this way.You know, find what works for you.So yeah.And then my Nourished by the Moon sessions are on my website, um, but if you have any questions, I'm around.I love talking about it.Even if you don't wanna book a session with me, tell me your sun, moon, and rising.I love it.Ah.Well, thank you so much for this conversation, Mary Ellen.And thank you to all of the women listening.If you have been enjoying this, please like, rate, subscribe, review.Send this conversation to a woman who needs it, and let's continue to spread the love and raise one another up.Thanks for being here, guys.Thanks for being here, Mary Ellen.Let's be good to one another.I love you all.