How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Financial Abuse, Credit Card Debt, and Rebuilding Finances Post-Divorce
In this informative episode, Seth and Pete dive into the heavy topic of financial abuse with expert guest, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Financial Counselor Leah Hadley. They discuss the various forms of financial abuse, the mindsets and behaviors that enable it, and most importantly, how to recover and rebuild your financial life after divorce when financial abuse was present.

Leah shares her wisdom and experience in helping clients heal from financial abuse and become empowered, intentional money managers. Key themes include reframing your relationship with money, budgeting with intention, reducing credit card debt strategically, and planning for your financial future.

A Few Questions we answer in this episode:
  • What does financial abuse look like in a marriage?
  • How do you rebuild financial confidence after divorce?
  • What are strategies for getting credit card balances down?
Key Takeaways:
  • Financial abuse stems from an imbalance of power related to money access and control.
  • Reframe budgeting as intentional spending aligned with your values, not limitation.
  • Consolidate high-interest debt and close credit card accounts to change behaviors.
  • Be deliberate with beneficiaries, inheritance, and asset distribution in divorce.
Seth, Pete, and Leah Hadley deliver an insightful look at financial abuse and provide helpful strategies for listeners rebuilding their financial lives after divorce. Tune in to gain knowledge that can lead to financial confidence and empowerment.

More About Leah
Leah Hadley, host of Intentional Divorce Insights, is an experienced mediator, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Financial Counselor. She is committed to providing compassionate financial guidance through life transitions. Leah will tell you she’s had many challenging financial times in her adult life–adopting a sibling group of three, getting divorced, and building a business from the ground up to name a few. These have been times when her ability to hunt down appropriate resources and careful financial planning was critical to her peace of mind.

A former investment analyst and sought-after speaker, Leah is the founder of Intentional Divorce Solutions and Great Lakes Investment Management. Leah uses her knowledge and more than 15 years of experience to help her clients make intentional financial decisions.

Links & Notes
  • (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
  • (01:19) - Meet Leah Hadley
  • (02:21) - Financial Abuse
  • (04:12) - Power Imbalance
  • (09:17) - Figuring Out Your Relationship With Money
  • (13:46) - Money Identity Foundations
  • (14:54) - Rebuilding Financial Confidence
  • (17:02) - Juggling Lifestyle Elements
  • (19:59) - Learned Skill
  • (20:25) - Not Restriction but Intention
  • (23:44) - Deal With Fear Head-On
  • (25:49) - Credit Cards and Debt
  • (32:35) - Making It Harder
  • (33:45) - Behavior and Reframing
  • (38:54) - Building Awareness
  • (39:20) - Taxes Etc.
  • (40:42) - Beneficiaries and Contingent Beneficiaries
  • (46:48) - Tools to Help
  • (49:26) - Finding Leah
  • (50:58) - Leave Us a Review and Rating
  • (52:22) - Wrap Up

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Creators & Guests

Host
Pete Wright
Podcaster and co-host, Pete Wright brings years of marriage and a spirit of curiosity to the divorce process. He's spent the last two decades interviewing experts and thinkers in emotional healing and brings that with him to the law, divorce, and saving relationships in the process.
Host
Seth R. Nelson
Seth Nelson is the founding attorney and managing partner at NLG Divorce & Family Law. He is a Tampa-based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems.
Producer
Andy Nelson
Hailing from nearly 25 years in the world of film, television, and commercial production, Andy has always had a passion for storytelling, no matter the size of the package.

What is How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships?

Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.