Intro To the Dating Apps

The Premiere Episode - all about the dating Apps.  You'll want to head to our YouTube channel for this one - it's VERY visual!!

What is CatChing Feelings?

Cat's newly single!! Stick around for all the things about being 50 and single. We'll talk about divorce, motherhood, dating and relationships and of course fitness!

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one catching feelings with

cat I'm so excited all

right so I've never done

this by myself before I'm

used to having all my

friends to uh bounce ideas

off and things like that so

we'll see how it goes I

have no idea how this is

going to evolve um episode

one intro to dating apps I

figured I pulled a whole

bunch of pictures to share

with you guys of people

that are supposedly

exact matches for me.

And you'll see how

entertaining that's going

to be as we get to those.

But just wanted to start off

with just a little intro,

a little bit about my past, my history,

all that good stuff.

I am a mother of two.

I was married for twenty years,

got divorced,

got into a relationship

pretty quickly after my divorce.

and have recently gotten out

of that relationship.

So I'm about two months officially,

two months single.

It's really hard.

I'm, I'm fifty-two years old,

so really kind of hard to

organically meet people.

I'm trying really hard to meet people,

what I say, like in the wild,

because I think dating apps

are sort of crappy.

And I found that to be the

case the first time I was single.

Did some dabbling in the apps,

and I actually met my

boyfriend on the app.

So I guess it wasn't all that bad,

but it didn't turn out so

great in the end.

So that's kind of what we're dealing with.

Love to see the ladies in the chat here.

Hi, Holly.

Hey, Lynn.

Jody, Meredith, thanks for joining.

I appreciate it.

I'm going to take questions

and comments and things,

so feel free to get up in the chat.

I will tell you that Scott's

mom's probably watching, Cheryl,

and I'm sure my dad's watching.

So if we could keep this PG,

or at least maybe R, NC-seventeen maybe,

but nothing else.

I will take people out of

the chat if we start to get too raunchy.

um but as you guys know from

roundtables and things like

that I'm an open book I'm

tmi my mom will tell me all

the time I share way too

much um but that's just

kind of my personality and

who I am and how I sort of

uh I guess deal or function

with whatever it is I'm

going through so um yeah

when when you live by

yourself and you're an empty nester

those thoughts of I'm going

to die alone absolutely

creep in sometimes.

I have some really good

girlfriends that I spend a

lot of time with that I try to keep busy,

but I work from home.

And I do go to the gym in

the morning and have a very

small community of friends there.

But, you know,

things get a little bit

lonely and you want to sort

of have things

do scott's joined the show

here he said that uh he

banned his mom for

listening I think she

should listen that's going

to keep things safe uh the

more family members that

listen the better if I were

telling you guys that like

my twenty-year-old son was

listening you might might

be a little uh tamer then

uh then if not so um but

yeah so the dating apps

let's talk about them uh there's a bunch

since I've been single the

second time facebook dating

has become a thing

apparently it's a free

service um they all have

the same concept you sort

of put a profile out there

you stick your bio things

you like things you don't

like you can talk about

your pronouns you can talk

about what you're looking

for men or women your

religion your political views uh

There's all sorts of things

you can put out there to

attract the person that you

think you might be looking for.

So I did get onto Facebook dating.

That was actually the first

app that I got onto and

very quickly found that

there was only like three or four matches,

if you will, like in my neighborhood.

And then all of a sudden I'm

getting all these guys that

are like three hundred miles away,

two hundred miles away.

and just not really viable options.

When I was single before,

I was on Bumble and Hinge.

So I decided to go on both

of those and to check those

out and to see what they're about.

I did meet a couple of people on Bumble.

I didn't really meet anybody on Hinge.

And then because your girl

is so heavily influenced by social media,

I saw a TikTok video about

tinder and how tinder is not

the hookup place anymore

it's actually like legit

for dating so of course I

went on to tinder also um

to see how that would work

um yeah um I think I've

mentioned this before I've

been on five first dates um

I went on one second date

um that was with the young

guy we talked about him

with the forty year old um

great kid uh but I think uh

I think I want to be his

life coach and maybe his

friend and maybe his

trainer at some point.

And I'd like to find him a

nice young girl who can

have babies for him,

but not a romantic match at this point.

So let me see if I can do this.

I want to clip up this.

okay you can't see me now

you can see me okay so here

we go buckle up people this

was my first um you'll note

here exact match this

person met all my

preferences this is this

looks like bumble I'm not

sure um but he's a truck

driver and um that's his

profile picture I will

snatch your soul but laid

back enjoy cooking in baking

so that gives you an idea of

the caliber of folks that

we're talking about here in

these dating apps so let's

move on um we've got this

guy oh you know what I

think this is the same guy

he's into rodents seafood

tennis women's pro tennis

visual arts and desserts so

how he became um a perfect

match for me I'm not sure

this actually looks like facebook dating

I don't know.

Anyway, yeah, so that was a no.

All of these that I'm

showing you were people that I swiped.

Yeah, exactly, Lynn, that I swiped.

What is it?

Left on.

That's the other thing.

Sometimes when you're

scrolling on these apps,

you're scrolling down and

then maybe you're trying to

scroll up again.

And if you scroll up in an angle,

you accidentally swipe right.

I can't tell you how many

times I've swiped right on

people that I didn't mean

to swipe right on.

Um,

and then what happens is if you swipe

right on them,

they'll get a notification

that you like them,

and then they'll have a

chance to go through the

likes and see if they like you too.

And then that's how you become a match.

So like both parties have to

sort of mutually agree that

they're attracted anyway.

Um, okay.

How do I do this?

Trying to get to the next one.

Oh, preview.

Okay.

Here's number three.

This is on Bumble.

I blacked out locations, names,

and eyeballs just in case.

But this guy has a great mustache.

And I think,

I'm not sure if that's a wig or not.

But again, slim pickings.

I've heard that some of these dating apps,

what they do is they try to get you,

not match because right like

you're gonna keep paying

the subscription if you pay

for a month and you find

your true love then you're

not gonna actually give

them any more money so

that's kind of how that

works that did look like

the tiger king jody it may

have been this um special

guy um does not have kids

thank god he's six one

which you know fits the

bill but that picture I'm

just not sure what we're

what we're getting out

there the gloves um and

then that other person sort of

down there doing whatever.

Not really sure about that.

So that was a big no also.

And yeah, so Lynn's asking,

have I upgraded my

subscription to Bumble?

Yes, I have.

I'm in like the paid version.

This one, I don't,

this doesn't look like Bumble.

This looks like Facebook dating.

But again, an exact match,

like as you would say, right?

Okay.

This guy, single father of three.

He's a modern day Viking.

So that's good.

likes to cook, three-D designer.

He likes cosplay.

I'm not into cosplay at all.

So that's kind of a red flag right there,

but I mean,

not that I would be scrolling

with that photo,

but this is the actual

picture that this guy chose

for his profile picture.

Here we go.

This guy.

Okay.

You got to read the description.

I'll read it for you guys.

So I'm looking for someone

to have fun with.

I'm an atheist.

So please know religious people.

I'm a vegetarian.

So if you're looking for a

relationship understood,

understand if you eat meat,

you'll need to make

yourself a separate meat

meal all the time or become one yourself.

Let me read that again.

You'll need to make yourself

a separate meal all the

time or become one yourself,

which makes no sense

because he's a vegetarian.

But he said,

I'm being blunt because I'm

too old for game.

and have absolutely no

desire to waste any more of

my life on doomed relationships.

I don't know if those are

his kids in the picture or what,

but I should have blocked out those.

those things so anyway okay

here we go this guy you

know not bad looking uh

it's the fingernail for me

I don't know if you guys

see the long ring pinky

fingernail um that's just

creepy so we will not be

swiping on that um this guy

oh so precious I don't the

picture wasn't worth

showing but can we read the

bio here it says I'm the

guy proving shiver shiveries

Not dead.

Not chivalry is not dead, but chivalries,

S-H-I-E-V-E-R-I-E-S, is not dead.

I jumped to open door for

you and everyone else at

Wawa because that's just me.

Wawa is a convenience store

in the Northeast.

I missed her fix it.

If it don't run, I can fix it.

Small engine specialist.

Total home maintenance is me too.

Just saying, if you got something broke,

I can fix it.

Except my heart,

so trying to get it broke.

So yeah,

so that's my buddy who thinks

chivalries is not dead.

Did I mention I'm looking

for someone that's kind of

intelligent too?

This guy, he's six, seven,

which piqued my interest of course,

because my best friend is

married to a guy who's six,

seven and she always says,

I need to find myself a jungle gym.

which would be a six, seven man probably,

or actually I'm only five, two.

So probably a five, eight or five,

nine would be a jungle gym for me.

But this picture,

I don't know what's happening here.

I don't know if he's one of

the police officers there,

but that is the picture

that he choose to show as

his first photo.

Moving on.

Okay.

Here's somebody I matched with.

This is Bumble.

Ask me where I live.

I said, I live in North Wilmington.

Are you here for work?

He said, indeed,

I'm currently stationed

here as I've been assigned

to complete some important tasks.

How long have you been

living in Wilmington?

I guess you're busy and

probably getting ready for

a night's rest.

I said, I'm in for the night.

Yes, I've lived here all my life.

Wow.

The nature here must be very

appealing to you.

And then he immediately says,

can we talk outside here?

I don't really feel

comfortable talking much on

unsecured platform.

My work doesn't allow much of that.

I blocked him immediately.

I'm not sure why his work is

allowing him to be on

Bumble and what that all was,

but he was probably going

to ask for my credit card

number shortly thereafter.

Something that guys do is try to get you,

and I do this too,

if I'm interested in somebody,

I'll ask them for their

phone number so that I can

get off the app and just

start texting them like a normal person.

But yeah, Lynn,

this is probably a scammer.

So I thought that was kind of funny.

um here's a guy he matches

three of my preference my

preferences of distance age

and height great he looks

close he's uh you know

taller than five eight or

five nine and uh I don't

know maybe he's in my age

range but uh he's a giant

cup of I'm the fucking boss

and this is the picture he

decides to show again I'm

not sure what's happening

here okay this guy I had to

leave his eyes because his

eyes were kind of cool but

um that beard and that top hat are just

not anything I'm really

looking for right okay

again the purple goatee not

for me oh and he's a pr

geeky dad who is a social

blood reply and polyamorous

okay so I'm really looking

for a guy that's just kind

of like a one-time uh one gal

girl um this one you know I

don't know what this is but

some anime also an exact

match meets all my

preferences so I'm doing

really well um no this guy

um looks like english is

not his first language

which I don't have a

problem with I would love

to learn spanish um but

this whole mask situation

is just kind of not doing

it for me and again

Yeah, I mean, Holly, you're right.

How are these guys looking

at these things and saying, yes,

I look amazing?

I don't know.

I mean, listen, I'm no prize,

but like this is next level for sure.

Here's another like wizard, weird,

you know, Dungeons and Dragons guy.

Not my thing.

OK, what's happening here?

He's got paper towels or

tissues or dryer sheets

coming out of his ears and

out of his shirt.

solid by the way guys um I

found all these like one

day last week on like a

tuesday within the course

of like a half an hour this

is not a compilation of

things that I found over

the course of you know

weeks or months this is

like half a day um okay I'm

not sure you'd be surprised

at how many guys have

pictures like this where

half their face is covered

by their phone and they've

got this like crazy hairdo happening

So that was a no.

This was also a no.

I think this next picture is also him.

Yeah, this was his bio.

So not completely hideous, agreed,

nice little, nice physique,

educated in decent shape, enjoys the gym,

seeking NSA friends to play, explore,

and attend lifestyle parties and events.

NSA,

tell me what NSA means because I don't

know.

I have to Google so much of this.

Yeah, good stuff, right?

Okay, let's see.

This one, not a photo,

a little cartoon here.

Sorry for spending over an

hour talking about how sick fish is.

Do you still want to have sex?

This was Hinge.

Hinge is a waste of my time, by the way.

Okay, this guy has kids, six, four.

I can't date someone that

has better hair than me.

So this is impressive, this French braid.

It's like a Dutch braid.

Looks really good,

but I can't be competing

with my man here.

So Lynn wants to know if

I've tried plenty of fish.

I have not tried plenty of fish.

And yes, eHarmony is still around,

and so is Match.

I have not looked into either of those.

I'm probably getting off these.

I actually haven't matched

with anyone in probably

over a week on these things.

Just my choice.

Like I'm not swiping right on anyone.

And I'm more just doing it for the show,

like for entertainment value.

So I still have a whole bunch to show.

But this guy just has a boatload of money.

So that's always great.

um this guy I thought it was

interesting hit me up if

you want to hang out or

better yet snap me

something to catch my

attention I haven't had

snapchat in years and then

he gives his snapchat name

and favorite activity

fellatio I'm assuming that

means he likes to receive

but maybe not you never

know um so he was a no

This guy was probably good looking.

I'm laid back and a broad sense of humor,

award-winning smile.

I'm open to friendship and

everything else.

Let's get a drink.

Go base jumping off the Eiffel Tower.

Cool.

Love adventure.

I'm in an open marriage and into kink.

Okay, never mind.

I am not into either of those things.

So that is a thing.

Jason,

his job is jobby McJob job at

McJobby the Hut.

To cut right to it,

I need a partner to share

driving duties with.

I want to drive across the

country to Disney.

If you guys know me,

you know that's a red flag.

Quick trips, et cetera.

I'm not driving those miles solo.

I need a co-pilot to cover a few hours.

I guess we could be in a

loving relationship if that

makes this request more conducive.

I'm not sure if he's trying

to be funny or not.

But yeah, no.

No, thank you.

This guy.

I mean, enough said.

Yep.

Also this guy, gardening guy.

Looking good.

I love how there's all ladies in the chat.

It makes me feel good.

This guy can touch his nose

with his tongue,

which is a popular part of technique.

Again.

Thank you, sir.

We're not doing that.

This one cracks me up, guys.

What the heck is going on?

This is like a glamor shot

with some woman like all up in his neck.

And when I read his bio,

he was not polyamorous or

married or anything else.

Like he was genuinely looking for someone.

So I don't know if he's one

of those guys that needs to

show that he could be with

somebody beautiful.

You know,

the guys that show pictures of

them and their exes to prove that,

you know,

they're capable of having an ex.

I don't know.

Anyway, this is bagel guy.

I think the next one's going

to give us a little, that's a sister.

Oh no, I didn't post that.

This one, surprisingly enough,

attractive guy,

shorter than I would have chosen,

but he's a transgendered male,

transitioned over a decade ago,

seeking female for casual,

serious relationship.

And I was just, I was surprised.

It kind of took me off guard.

Wasn't sure what to make of that.

I, you know,

I wasn't curious enough to swipe right,

but,

Just food for thought.

This is great.

I'm looking for someone who

wants to eat me alive the

way I want to eat them.

The caliber, my friend.

Aaron thinks I should give

the transgender guy a shot.

This guy's a proud member of

the eight inch club.

That's good.

He's a Phillies fan.

We like the Phillies here in Philadelphia.

This one.

All right.

I need help.

This says into golden dot, dot, dot,

looking for a partner inquire.

What is that?

Is that golden showers?

Is that what the dot, dot, dot means?

I don't know.

He was actually kind of cute, but

That is not what you lead with guys.

I mean, maybe it is if that's,

if there are people that

are responding to that, but yeah, not me.

Okay.

Yes.

Golden showers.

Great.

This one.

Oh dear God.

So,

so many people post pictures with their

kids or nieces or whatever.

I couldn't block out her eyes.

Cause this is like the main

point of pulling this one out,

but what is going on here?

oh good goodness gracious

yep yep okay so this guy

Super hot,

beautiful blue eyes under there.

I was like, finally,

like you get to the point

where you're like swiping,

you get like a cramp in your hand.

You're just swiping, swiping, swiping.

You finally get to someone

that's like halfway decent looking.

And at this point,

the bar is not that high, right?

You're just kind of like,

do they have like all their teeth?

Great smile,

love the little salt and pepper beard,

right?

I think, let's see the next one.

This is his thing.

Of course,

poly and happily partnered hierarchical.

Wonderful, amazing girlfriend.

Why?

I think I mentioned that

before to like the CrossFit

guys that I found on here.

They're all like polyamorous

or have girlfriends or want

like a second.

Here we go.

Lynn said I should change my

distance filters.

I will tell you that I'm up

to like almost fifty miles

from where I live, which

ridiculous I'm no one's

driving fifty miles to dean

anybody although my

ex-husband met his

girlfriend on bumble and

they lived like two hours

apart and now they're

getting married so maybe

that doesn't matter there's

benny sign me up this is

joey kinky and exciting and

expert in analization

If you are the same, swipe right.

I'll give you eight strong

and deep reasons why you

made the right choice.

Women are the same as men

when it comes to this department,

only very few admit it.

You only live once,

so let's enjoy some fun.

Oh, Joey.

Good luck out there, buddy.

Good luck out there.

Oh, and then this thing too, this thing,

what I'm looking for,

intimacy without commitment, fun,

casual dates.

So yeah, not what I'm looking for.

This one's great.

I'm forty-two.

I have a nineteen-year-old

daughter that just went away to college.

Four-twenty friendly.

That's the smoke spot.

I'm looking for someone fun

and outgoing that can laugh

at life with me.

I'm a very open person.

Sexually no missionary Marys.

I just thought that was so funny.

I've never heard that before.

Maybe I'm sheltered.

yeah I thought that was

funny all right aaron

explain yourself one and a

half hours for my wife we

met on hinge see I don't I

don't even know what one

and a half hours looks like

how many miles is that is

that like a hundred miles

that's less than a hundred

miles so the filters are

usually like twenty five

miles fifty miles or a hundred miles

So I don't know how that works,

but most of it, like I've,

I've had like three or four

long distance matches.

Um, well, one was a guy who was traveling,

he's from Iowa and he was in town for the,

uh, NCAA wrestling tournament.

He was a referee and he kept saying like,

oh,

meet me for a nightcap at twelve at

night.

And I was like, no,

I'm not going to do that.

I did tell him that I would

meet him for breakfast one day.

Um.

But I didn't because I figured,

you know what,

the guy traveling that far

away and like on Bumble and

putting his location as, you know,

on travel mode, which means I'm not home,

but I'm traveling and I'm

like looking for something.

Um, it was kind of a red flag for me,

but it's funny thing was we

ended up exchanging phone

numbers and he still texts

me like every couple of days,

he'll like keep in touch.

And I told him, I was like, listen,

you're like a huge red flag.

You have to either be

married or have a girlfriend.

And he's like swears up and

down that he doesn't.

Um, and we're just kind of like very,

very casually chatting because I'm not,

you know, I'm not moving to Iowa.

Um, he's not moving here.

All right.

So Aaron says,

so miles is about an hour

and a half away.

Okay.

I'll, I'll figure that out.

Holly makes a great point.

And this is something that I

will attest to it.

I suppose it's good.

They put their red flags out

there for the world, right?

Some of these guys are good

looking and then they have

these crazy bios.

And if they didn't do that, you know,

I might not know.

Here's a fun fact.

I, um,

my last date was with a guy I met on

Tinder and he only had one

picture and like no information, none, um,

just like his age and where he lived or,

or whatever.

I swiped right, matched.

We had great conversation,

really good chemistry.

And we went out on Sunday

night and it wasn't terrible.

And he jokes with me because

he knows I'm doing this podcast.

And he jokes and he's like, yeah,

he's like, you know, less is more.

The less information you put on there,

the better.

So I thought that was interesting.

All right.

Let's go back to I have more of these guys,

believe it or not.

Um, this guy wants to be in a real,

one thing I'll never do again.

These are prompts on hinge,

be in a relationship with a

closet crackhead.

Okay.

Good job, buddy.

This one, Dan, he is, looks like Obi-Wan.

He's got Yoda in the background there.

And he says,

looking for still figured it out.

So there's that.

Okay, here's another guy.

Howdy.

First,

I'm a monogamish E&M poly gentleman

married and my wife identifies as ace.

Looking for a consistent

partner in Bumbleland to

see on a regular basis.

I'm your doing fun stuff

around town together guy.

I had to look up ace.

Ace apparently is like an

asexual type of person that

like is not interested in sex.

So they're basically like

they love each other.

They're married,

but they don't have a

physical relationship.

And I guess she's okay with him.

having a physical

relationship with someone else.

I don't know.

I'm not into that drama at all.

But yeah, that's that.

Okay, this guy.

Listen to this.

Listen to this.

Please, no fat ladies and fake bitches.

Looking for a sexual active

partner for a long-term relationship.

No games.

Just be a hundred percent

real and sweet and juicy

and moist and wet.

No smelly allowed to chat with me.

Looking for a tiny petite ladies.

I'm a sexual active guy.

looking for friends just

someone to chat with ever

now and then I like camping

hiking outdoors fishing

country music cooking

cuddling motorcycle riding

please be serious about

being my soulmate if you

are serious to say hello so

he is looking for a sexual

partner he is looking for

long term but then he says

he's just looking for

friends someone to chat

with and then he's also

looking for a soulmate so

this guy's very confused um

And I didn't bother sharing picture,

but like, again, distance age and dating,

dating intent were, were a match.

Whatever the hell that means.

Okay.

This guy, uh, I forget why I posted him.

Cause I think the next

picture is about him too.

Normal, normal looking dude, right?

He's like a research analyst,

pretty regular guy.

Oh, yeah.

And then we get this picture.

What is this?

It looks like a costume.

But again, like,

I don't need a bathroom

selfie of your Halloween costume,

especially if I don't

really know what you are.

Maybe you're like a caveman or something.

I just sneeze.

Excuse me.

Yeah, so that's fine.

That was a big no.

This guy was really

interested in his simple pleasures.

He was currently watching

videos of failed seafood boils.

Failed seafood boils.

I don't even know what that is.

But that's the thing.

All right.

Last picture, guys, for tonight.

This is Brian.

He's forty nine.

And these are his knees and calves.

That is what is happening in

the dating world, if you can believe it.

Sorry, navigating my mouse here.

We're good.

OK, I'm back.

Hi.

Yeah.

So that's the deal.

This is what I'm having to choose from.

I want to try to do live swiping,

but I'm a little nervous to do it.

Not because I care what you

guys see in terms of who likes me,

but just from a privacy perspective,

I'm not sure how to do that.

The other thing is I can't

figure out how to share my

Bumble screen without you

seeing all my messages on Bumble.

And I don't really want you

to see that either.

Not that I have a ton,

but I have talked to a

couple of guys on Bumble.

Um,

so I'm going to figure that out maybe

for next week.

Um, yeah, Aaron,

I don't have a knee fetish,

although it's funny.

The picture from the

thumbnail is me with my knees up.

Cause I,

this is where I work and I'm

always putting my knees up

cause it's just more comfortable for me.

Um,

So, yeah, Meredith,

you met your husband on in

March of twenty thirteen.

And I feel like it wasn't

quite as painful back then.

Yeah, I think it's just a little different,

too.

It's interesting.

Like my daughter's in

college and in college,

the way people meet is they

usually meet and hook up

first and then sort of

determine if they like each

other enough to hook up again.

And then you sort of become a thing or,

you know,

Everybody on campus pretty

much generally is eligible.

Not many people are married.

People are dating.

There aren't many serious relationships,

I wouldn't think.

So you've got this whole

host of people to choose from,

interact with, and there's plenty to do.

You're going to classes.

You're going out to eat.

You're just around people in

dorms and on campus and everything else.

I think for me,

especially because I work from home,

You know, I don't get out.

There's only so many happy

hours I can go to.

There's only so many dinners

I can go out with my friends.

Yes, Aaron, my Christmas tree is still up.

It's going to be my Easter tree soon.

But yeah,

it's I live in a tiny apartment

and I don't have anywhere

really to store it.

It would take up just as

much room in the box that I

bought it in my laundry room.

So I figured I'd just leave it out.

So, yes,

next time I'll turn the lights on

for you.

It's quite cute.

But this is where I work.

So like all my coworkers are

seeing this background too.

And everybody asks about the

Christmas tree,

but I forget what I was saying.

Oh, talking about like,

there's only so many things I can go to.

But I did meet someone out

in real life last week and

we've been chatting and I

think we're going out

tomorrow maybe or the next day.

I can't remember.

Why is the Christmas tree a red flag?

want to know um anyway so

that's exciting because you

know I really I I'm losing

faith in the dating apps um

and I just think you know

like I said I went on like

five first dates one of the

first dates I would have

liked to turn in a second

date that didn't all the

other ones didn't turn into

second dates because of me

the one that did turn into

a second date isn't turning

into a third date um

You know,

and there's still some promising

stuff out there,

but I've really slowed down,

slowed my role a little bit

on the apps only because, um,

I have a hard time juggling

people that I'm talking to.

Um,

I had like a notebook last week where I

was like writing down, look,

I was at work and I was

writing down like all the people,

like the things and like

where I met them and like

little things about them.

So I could remember when we're talking.

Um, it's just super overwhelming.

So I think what I'm going to

do is just keep going to the gym.

Hanging out, going out with my friends,

you know,

being open to meeting people in

real life.

I joined this like social

club out of Philly.

That's Philadelphia.

And they do like three

events a week where

everyone that's a part of the club,

there's like three hundred members.

Everyone is single and

there's no pressure.

You know, it's not like a dating thing.

It's just a hey, go and do something.

I want to meet some new

friends like I'll meet some

new single girlfriends and

things they do like escape

rooms they do brunches on

sundays they do um outside

activities and things like

that so um I'm gonna give

that a shot and see how

that works um I think I

signed up for like a couple

months so I'm gonna try to

get one of my girlfriends

to sign up too because

that's a little bit easier

when you've got somebody to

go with you um what else

can I tell you oh um I

don't know if I mentioned this but

Back when I was dating Mike,

my friend Tony reached out to me.

He is the husband of one of

my girlfriends who I've

known since college.

We used to work together.

He has a band,

and they are looking for a lead singer,

a female lead singer for their band.

not many people know this

about me but I love to sing

and I've never actually

sung in front of people I

did like a demo tape I sang

backup vocals for a local

band on their demo

recording back in college

and that's like the last

time I did anything like

semi-professionally um but

anyway tony's looking for

lead singer I was super

excited about doing it

super nervous but really

excited to maybe give it a

chat and um I talked to my

ex-boyfriend about it he

was not cool with it he

just thought that um

That's not something he

wanted his girlfriend to be doing at bars,

being drunk with guys that

are drunk and me singing, whatever.

I don't know.

I was disappointed.

Anyway,

I don't have that boyfriend anymore.

And I reached out to Tony or

he reached out to me and was like, hey,

we still need somebody.

So next week I'm auditioning

for this band.

They gave me a playlist.

They're like an eighties band.

And where's my phone?

Let me see if I'll tell you what some,

what the,

what the playlist is for my audition.

It's going to be really fun.

Um, sorry, this is annoying.

Where is it?

Tony, Tony, Tony.

Okay.

Um, so some of the songs, so fresh by,

I don't know who we got the

beat by the go-go's and boogie shoes.

Um, and then Billy Joel, uh,

Billy Joel's You May Be Right.

And what's the last one?

Stay, I Missed You by Lisa Loeb.

That's kind of like my go-to karaoke song.

So I picked a couple, he picked a couple.

I'm going to practice those

and we're going to see what happens.

We're going to jam with his band and see.

I think that'll be really fun.

I'm still kind of like lukewarm about it.

I'm not sure if I want to

spend all that time like

rehearsing and doing it, but yeah.

I'm going to give it a shot at least.

And I might not be good enough for them.

But yes, Fresh is by Kool and the Gang.

I know, Scott.

I mean, I know you know that.

We shall see how that goes.

But let me bring this up

real quick because Jodi

Lynn had a quote here.

I met my husband in the kitchen world,

my line of work after years

of these dating apps.

So lucky.

You'll find someone cat just

when you suspect it.

Yeah, I think so.

I mean, I told you guys,

I sent text messages to

some friends of mine who

are in like established

marriages that I would look up to,

like have really good

relationships with their

husbands or wives.

And I texted both the

husband and wife together

and on like three or four

different occasions and

just told them that, you know,

I was single and that, you know,

I was looking for people to

hang out with and, you know,

if they had stuff going on,

could they invite me?

And

know keep me in mind if they

knew any single friends and

this is how I met this guy

in real life he um he like

had just broken up with his

boyfriend he had just

broken up with his

girlfriend a couple months

ago and we had a mutual

friend that I hadn't seen

in a very long time and he

was like oh you know how

how are you and your

boyfriend and I was like oh

we broke up and he's like

no way you know I've got

the perfect guy for you

when he's here and I had

already seen that guy there

and thought he was cute so

it'll all work out I think it'll be cool

so um yeah I appreciate you

guys in the chat I'm so

glad that um we kept it

Oh, Caleb, you're so late.

I'm so glad we kept it PG.

I will continue to figure

out how to either live

scroll or just pull off

some of these pictures and

show them to you just how

terrible some of these matches are.

I think maybe what I'll do

next time is I'll pull the

people that match.

I think on Tinder I have

like over a hundred and

fifty matches and these

guys are like probably like

one or two of them I might

consider talking to.

So

Maybe I'll go through all

those next time and we can see.

I think that'll be fun.

So if there's anything else

that you guys want to talk about or,

you know, hit me up on Instagram.

Keep coming to the chat.

We're having a really good time.

And, you know, we'll see you next time.

I'm going to head out.

I got stuff to do.

See you guys.