Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 1, Part 1, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 1, Part 1 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday.

As far away as this Friday

may have seemed on Monday,

you finally made it. And it's a Super

Bowl weekend Friday, so

that makes it even better.

And perhaps you're lucky enough to be

working from home today, and I'm sure

your employer knows and

respects the fact that today is National

Work Naked Day. And it's

not what you think. It sounds

suggestive, but it's actually just about

working from home. The

naked part is totally optional.

It's also National Bubblegum Day. Give

kids a smile day. Hug an

addict or an alcoholic day.

And my personal favorite, wave all your

fingers at your neighbor day. Like we'd

wave anything different, right? Alright,

well, it's time for

today's quote. As usual,

it's one fun, one nostalgic quote. And

then a second quote to

tease our book review later

in the episode. Hopefully one of these

quotes will speak to you

and jumpstart your Friday in

a positive direction. Alright, the first

quote is from comedian

Chris Rock. And he said, quote,

"You're probably not going to get hit by

a bus, and you're going to

have to live with the choices

you make for the next 50 years." End

quote. This is actually very insightful.

Along with the saying,

make sure you're living for the day in

case we get hit by a bus. We

actually should probably be

planning for the future as well. So well

done, Chris. And today's

teaser quote from the book

review is, quote, "A man convinced

against his will is of the same opinion

still." And as usual,

we'll unpack that here in just a few

minutes during the book

review segment. But first,

let's jump into our usual dose of fun and

historic facts from this day

in history. Today's news facts

and birthdays are for February 7. Charles

Dickens was born on this

date in 1812. And in 1927,

the Harlem Globetrotters, they played

their very first game. Then

in 1940, the animated film,

Pinocchio, had its world premiere, and it

became one of Disney's most beloved

classics. The British

Invasion launched when the Beatles landed

in New York City on this

day in 1964. And two nights

later, as you might recall, as

Beatlemania was storming America, their

performance on the Ed

Sullivan show was watched by 73 million

viewers. Then in 1974, Mel

Brooks Western spoof film,

Blazing Saddles, starring Cleveland

Little and Gene Wilder. Well, it

premiered at the Pickwick

Drive-In in Burbank, California. And

apparently, all the moviegoers watched

from horseback rather

than from cars. Then in 1984, NASA

astronauts took their first untethered

spacewalk. They were

hovering freely in space, and these

pictures from the spacewalk

became some of the most iconic

images of the 1980s. In 1985, the song

New York, New York became

the official anthem of New York

City. And finally, in 1990, you might

remember when Billy Idol

suffered serious injuries when

he crashed his Harley Davidson motorcycle

into a car. Well, happy

birthday. If today's your

birthday, you share a birthday with NFL

quarterback Matthew

Stafford. He turns 37 today.

Actor Ashton Kutcher, he's 47. And

Canadian basketball

player slash coach Steve Nash,

he's 51 today. Comedian Chris Rock, he's

60 today. And country music legend Garth

Brooks, he turns 63.

And the number one song on this date back

in 1992 was Don't Let the

Sun Go Down on Me. That was by

George Michael and Elton John. The song

was actually written

originally in 1974. And it was

released by Elton on his eighth album in

1974. And it had some success, but it

only peaked at number

16 on the charts back then. However,

George Michael used to cover the song on

his tour in 1991. And

for his final show at Wembley Stadium, he

surprised the crowd and

brought out Elton to sing as a duet.

It was the recording of that live version

of the song that went to

number one. And lastly,

for our Gen X Music Knowledge catalog,

the music video that we all

remember of George Michael

wearing that bright blue blazer with

let's say aggressive shoulder

pads was shot at a different

concert in Chicago. The more you know.

And the number one movie on

this date in 1999 was She's

All That. This movie is a classic 1990s

teen rom-com starring

Freddie Prinze Jr. and Rachel

Leah Cook. That was made for just $6

million and it grossed over

$100 million at the box office.

It also featured the song Kiss Me by Six

Pints None the Richer,

which hit number two on the

Billboard Top 100. Okay, it's time to

move on to some personal

growth in the book review segment

of Morning Serial. This is where we take

a few moments to reflect

on lessons learned from the

current book of reading. And currently

we're still reading

through Dale Carnegie's How to

Win Friends and Influence People. As you

all know, it's a timeless

book that is consistently in all

the must read lists and it's packed with

rock solid advice and

actions for all of us to use

and build healthy foundational concepts

to live by. Yesterday we finished up

chapter six of part two,

which was entitled How to Make People

Like You Instantly. And

Carnegie reminded us throughout

part two that by taking real sincere and

genuine interest in other

people that will in turn make

them interested in you. Carnegie reminds

us that "the desire to be

important is the deepest urge in

human nature" and the effect it can have

on someone else's sense

of importance. So using

people's names, being a good listener,

talking about their

interests, and even smiling at other

people and doing it genuinely, that's the

secret sauce to making

and keeping true friends.

Carnegie even threw in the old philosophy

of the golden rule and

treating others as we would like

to be treated. Okay, so today we begin

part three of How to Win

Friends and Influence People,

which is entitled How to Win People to

Your Way of Thinking. And

Carnegie throws us straight into

the deep end with chapter one, which is

entitled You Can't Win an Argument. And

to open this chapter,

Carnegie tells a story about himself in a

lesson that he learned early

in life when he was attending

a swanky banquet honoring his client.

Carnegie at that time was

managing a man, Sir Ross Smith,

who for a while was the most famous

person in Europe for having

flown halfway around the world

in a plane, a feat not yet accomplished

at that point. So this was no

run-of-the-mill banquet. It

was filled with the who's who of the

time. Well, Carnegie was having a

conversation with a man who

is telling a raucous story whose

punchline ended with the quote, "There's

a divinity that shapes

our ends. Rough hue them how we will."

And the man telling the story had

mentioned the quote was

from the Bible. And Carnegie says that

he, Carnegie, knew through and through

that that was wrong.

The quote was not from the Bible, but it

was from Shakespeare. He

had zero doubt about it.

And Carnegie says this of himself, "So to

get a feeling of importance and to

display my superiority,

I appointed myself as an unsolicited and

unwelcome committee

of one to correct him."

Well, the two men argued back and forth,

both knowing for sure

that the other man was wrong,

and they finally agreed to let Carnegie's

friend who was sitting

next to them and observing the

fiasco, they would let him decide who was

right. Carnegie says that

his friend kicked him under

the table and then said, "Dale, you were

wrong. The gentleman is

right. It is from the Bible."

End quote. And on their way home that

night, Carnegie asked his

friend why he said Carnegie

was wrong because Carnegie knew that his

friend knew the answer

because his friend had spent years

studying Shakespeare. Carnegie's friend

did indeed know the quote was from

Shakespeare. In fact,

he knew it was from Hamlet, Act 5, Scene

2. But he said this to

Carnegie, quote, "But we were guests

at the festive occasion, my dear Dale.

Why prove to a man he is

wrong? Is that going to make him

like you? Why not let him save face? He

didn't ask for your

opinion. He didn't want it. So why

argue with him? Always avoid the acute

angle." End quote. Our author

learned a lesson that night.

He said he never forgot. Not only had he

made the storyteller

uncomfortable, he also embarrassed

his friend and the whole situation would

have been better had

Carnegie just held his tongue.

And Carnegie's realization was a life

changer for him, a lesson he said he

needed because up to

that point in Carnegie's life, he had

been, as he put it, quote,

"An inveterate arguer." Okay,

quick time out here. Vocab word lesson of

the day. Inveterate means

having a particular habit

or activity that is long established and

unlikely to change. And

Carnegie says he was an inveterate

arguer. He argued with his brother about

everything in his youth. He

argued and debated in college.

Later, Carnegie even taught debating

classes and, shamefully,

he says, considered writing

books on the subject. With that

background and ever since Carnegie's

lesson learned that night,

he says he's witnessed and has been

engaged and watched the effects of

thousands of arguments.

And Carnegie has, quote, "come to the

conclusion that there is only one way

under high heaven to

get the best of an argument, and that is

to avoid it. Avoid it as you

would avoid rattlesnakes and

earthquakes." End quote. Closing out this

Friday's book review, take

this into the rest of your day

and into the weekend with you. Carnegie

says you can't win an

argument. Nine times out of ten,

both parties still believe they're right

as they walk away. If you

lose the argument, you lose.

And Carnegie says if you win, you still

lose because, although

you feel fine, how did you

leave the counterparty feeling? Inferior?

Possibly hurt their pride? Likely

resenting you? The final

Carnegie quote of the week is this,

quote, "A man convinced against his will

is of the same opinion

still." End quote. And you know that's

got to be true because it

rhymes. Okay, more great argument

stories to come next week in this

chapter. So be sure to come

back for that as we make our way

through part three of How to Win Friends

and Influence People.

It's Friday. We've looked

forward to this day all week, so enjoy

it. Give your neighbors the

five fingered hello, and before

you cross the street, look both ways for

those buses. A lot of

wisdom in that, Chris Rock.

Enjoy the Super Bowl. Hopefully it's a

good game, and there are some great

commercials to entertain us. We'll see

you back here on

Monday. Have a fantastic day.

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