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Well, October is just chugging
right along as we went past the
halfway point, and now we are, um,
we're j- we're just still doing it.
Here we are doing October.
So today's topic is when no one
appreciates how hard you work,
and this is one of those areas
where we can become discontent as
wives and mothers and homemakers.
Um, the work is, um, all-consuming.
There is so much work to do, and
we can think of a lot of ways that
people could support us or help us
feel better or pitch in and help, and
we don't see those things happening.
And so we start a little internal
pity party for ourselves instead of
maybe asking for help in a cheerful,
you know, non- argumentative or, you
know, harsh way or an accusatory way,
but, you know, maybe just asking.
Um, we-- When, when we get these
kind of self-pity stories in our
systems, we, we do derive a, a kind
of comfort and coping from them.
Like, we're getting something out of it.
And so we have to recognize, um, what's
really going on, and notice when we
can tell a different kind of story.
Notice different sets of facts, and
recognize maybe when we are spinning
an interpretation of the facts in such
a way that we're allowed to feel sorry
for ourselves, especially in today's
culture where it is just the default
to assume the status of a victim,
where, well, the situation and the
other people are making it difficult.
It's not me, it's the circumstances.
It's the other people, and then that means
that there's nothing I can do about it.
But there is always
something that you can do.
There is always a path of faithfulness,
and sometimes the interpretation
that we spin with certain
circumstances and people isn't true.
It isn't charitable.
It isn't, uh, an interpretation
of the events in keeping with how
God wants His people to think and
relate to other people Um Yes.
So we, we do derive comfort from
feeling sorry for ourselves.
And that's not a healthy kind of comfort.
That's not a comfort that brings
connection with other people.
In fact, it's, it is a turning into
self kind of comfort that cuts us
off from better connection with those
people who we can get support from, our
husbands, our kids, friends, family.
Um, no one can read our minds.
Although it gets easier to read
our minds when, um, it buil- when a
discontent builds and builds and makes us
increasingly irritated and dissatisfied.
That becomes evident on our
face and in our demeanor.
But then that's actually
off-putting, right?
So the results from self-pity and the
kind of, um, internal self-centered
comfort that that brings cuts
us off from the people who we
say we would like support from.
And we're more likely to become that
dripping faucet or the nagging wife
because the internal spin and the
self-centered spin that we've put on
our circumstances and other people's
actions is not godly is not in keeping
with how God wants us to think about
others or relate to our circumstances
or his providence in our lives.
Like, are we praying about this?
Are we being charitable and putting the
best spin on other people's choices?
Or are we looking for more ways to
make a case for our own self-pity?
And that kind of comfort that we
derive from the self-pity story is
not lasting, is not beneficial, is not
gonna take us good places And so we
need to recognize it and confess it.
We need to confess feeling sorry for
ourselves and ask God to give us humility
and grace and the comfort of His Holy
Spirit and not-- so that we don't look
for our own little self-pity comfort, but
we get real comfort from the Holy Spirit,
which will then turn us outward and help
us joyfully serve And then we will be
living in light of scripture, which is,
"He who waters will himself be watered."
Right?
If we're looking for other people
to appreciate us or do something
w- we're-- say, "I just need my cup
filled," or, "I just need this, I
need that," we are noticing that we,
we do have needs, and that's true.
But God has given ways for th- our
own neediness to be filled, and so
we need to not be looking for how
we think it ought to be filled or
what other people ought to be doing.
Are we doing what we ought to, to
be doing and accepting the living
water that is available to us?
Are we reading the Bible every day?
Are we praying every day?
Are we serving others in love in the
normal, mundane work that doesn't
feel rewarding in the moment?
These are actually ways
that the Lord feeds us.
Going to church on Sunday.
God has provided ways for us to be filled,
and He has told us about them in His Word.
Are we filling our minds with scripture,
meditating on God's Word, or are we
meditating on how things are not the
way that we would like them to be?
And we will be happy, we will be content,
we will be joyful after, you know, this,
that, and the other thing fall into place.
Like, well, that's not the way
God says it's going to work.
We have to confess discontent and
disgruntlement and complaining
hearts, which are usually underneath
the veneer of self-pity, right?
The, the cover of self-pity, feeling
sorry for ourselves allows us to see
ourselves as the victim who can't help
but feel a certain way And so we're-- So
it's a protection around discontent and
complaining, and it allows us to call
it by another name that makes it seem
inevitable and definitely less offensive.
But the cover is just a veneer,
and the heart of discontent is
always going to produce more sin,
more ugliness, more brokenness.
And we have to confess that and
practice contentment in our current
circumstance, not, "I will be content
after this person does this thing
they ought to be doing," or, you know,
we set up our little requirements
that we think we need to be happy.
But if we have Christ, we have
all we need for joy And so, and
then we wanna work with joy.
And the joy of the Lord is our strength.
The joy of the Lord is ours in the Holy
Spirit And if we aren't feeling it, it's
because our sin is cutting us off from it.
And so we need to ask the Holy Spirit
to convict us of our sin and then
repent of it so that we can rejoice.
And a part of rejoicing is going forth
and doing the good work that God has
created a- and has set before us to walk
in, and we just keep doing that on repeat.
This is the life of sanctification
that God has given us.
And sometimes the good work is just
doing the laundry and making dinner,
and we would like something grander than
that, but that's what the day is about.
And so can we contentedly do
that And then can we humbly,
you know, let our husbands know?
Like, I will sometimes
just point out what I did.
'Cause like I'm not expecting my
husband to just notice on his own.
It's actually, isn't, isn't it
better if he doesn't notice?
Because that means it's like normal,
and so he doesn't notice or remark
upon it 'cause it's actually normal.
So, you know, I'll just be kind of
childlike sometimes and say, "Ta-da,"
and be silly and, you know, invite
that recognition that I was hoping for.
But you know, it is kind of a
childlike, silly need and, but if
I would like some, I can ask for it
in the spirit that it really is in.
And but that takes humility, you know,
not being self-serious or feeling
self-pity and, and acknowledging like,
"Yeah, this is, you know, what I feel
I need right now, and I'm just going to
ask for, I'm just gonna ask for a hug."
I'm not gonna pout my way into
hoping he recognizes I need a hug.
I can just ask for one.
And if I ask, he's gonna give me one.
I, you know?
But I could get all in my head and
do a little pouty face or whatever
hoping to make it clear what I
need and have him give it to me.
And then when he doesn't, I start
spinning an interpretation story
about what that must mean that
is completely false And unkind.
And really, it's in my own head and
heart, slander against my husband
or my children or whatever, because
I'm, I'm fishing for something, not
getting it, and making that mean
something that it doesn't mean at all.
And all of this can just
be spinning in our heads.
You know, the more
hormonal, the more it spins.
And we just have to recognize that
and cut to the chase and be willing
to be honest with ourselves, and
then with the people around us.
And ask for the hug and take it.
Or ask for a pat on the back and take it.
And, um, and not spin things up into
meaning more than they really mean
Sarah says, "When I was a child,
I saw this martyr from others, and
then as a young wife, I had to tell
myself that it was not allowed.
I could do the job or not, but
I couldn't blame someone else
for not noticing and doing it."
Right?
It's like, why didn't so and so, you
know, clear the table or whatever?
And it's like, sure,
maybe they should have.
But if you noticed, you could take
care of it or you could bring it up.
Um, you know?
We don't need to make things mean
something that they might not
Yes.
Juliana says, "If I'm setting up
requirements, I find I never end up
content because no one is perfect enough.
It's a dangerous trap."
Yes Singing.
Singing is a huge help for our
attitudes and our mindset and
walking in that joy of the Lord.
Yes.
Constantly telling my kids to just ask
because I'm not a mind reader, and it's a
good reminder that I need to just ask too.
Yes
So when you feel like you're doing a lot
for other people and no one's appreciating
the work that you do, try asking what
other people are doing for you that you're
not appreciating, and turn it around.
Like, if you want the thanks and
the appreciation, the notice of
someone else, flip it around and give
appreciation and notice and gratitude
to God and to the people around you.
He who waters will himself be watered.
And usually what we are wanting
from other people is actually what
we ourselves need to be giving
And it will totally, it will get you
out of yourself to notice and appreciate
other people And, um It changes our
perspective, it gets us out of ourselves,
and can really lift our attitude
That's right.
Megan says, "I have to remind
myself, love and serve like Jesus.
He probably didn't get
recognition either."
Right?
The more he did, the more people wanted
So we're gonna keep
organizing our attitudes.
I hope that you've made some alignment
cards and you're reviewing those, and
you're noticing these sad pity party
stories that you're telling yourself.
And we're gonna practice flipping the
script, replacing it with truth, replacing
it with living out the gratitude,
and it makes all the difference.
So thank you for joining me today.
We will keep repenting,
rejoicing, repeating.
We have one more Monday live like
this, and, uh, we'll continue to have
content, new episodes coming out Tuesday
through Friday for the next two weeks.
And, um, I would really appreciate
it if you would share those episodes.
You can share the links through
YouTube or whatever podcast
app you're listening through.
Um, and we'll keep organizing
our attitudes this October.
So thanks for joining me, everyone.